El Podcast de Marco Antonio Regil - 060: Focos rojos que no debes ignorar en una relación, con la Dra. Cabouli

Episode Date: July 9, 2017

Episode 60. The podcast of Mark, Antonio Regil, is a production of RGL Entertainment, and all his rights are reserved. Welcome to the podcast of Mark Antonio Regil. Focos rojos, that no you should ignore in a relation, is saying, signals clear, that you say, it's an, is an issue that requires of attention. As a lot more rapid, more, no, we can do it, don't have to,

to have to pass it, but not have to take it to front and talk to how to talk about it because we're always because we're always always

we're always this is an episode that is an episode that can be very interesting for all the people who live in a

couple of the doctor alida Kabuli that has more of 30 years of experience resolving

problems and coaching to the parents to take in their relationship to make a

thing like a requirement of a I'm a personal and not like a where I'm going to

go to pass well, like a a zone like I'm to get to get to the

eyes, no. Like a part primary, essential of your development, of your

personal, to be a part of a couple of playing in the people, what are

those folks to the ones that I'm to put to the podcast because, obviously if you're

being able to have a lot to have to be a bit to be a little

more clarity and you can say, hmm, this or this, this decision desatinaed, it has committed in the past. And now I can make sure it in my next relationship. Or when I'm going to see someone, I'm going to observe what are the characteristics

with the, you have to have to be careful, be realist, to have care of having a relationship. My great doctor, Liliana Kabuli, what good to salute you to new a question. How are you? Good. Thank you. Thanks. With much curiosity is a

thing that a lot particular me, me being doing doing cosquiggott because we've been

about much of the relations in a marriage, in the whole you know, like you know, about,

30 years, can't create 30 years, 30 years, doing coaching of a person. So,

something I have lived, and that I've still ever I'm trying to learn of that

is, when I want to when I go and when I'm going to a question,

I'm, I remember the time in that I'm, more more more

and I had a codependence and I was I don't know I'm going to not a other, because I didn't want to

be a new year to accept that I'm going to accept that's but it was all to not start now obviously not he was

and then I know I'm going to be my development and I'm know I'm I'm going to get to be

to be a other extreme that is to not to tolerate that almost so that so in this

equilibrium the people that are in a Pareja or those who are in a Pairja,

I think it's interesting to be able to learn what are the signs that I can I'm talking about

like I'm like I'm here you know, here there's there's a and what are the signs of those

those things I'm don't me to be to be problems normal in absolutely all the

relations. Because all the relations have conflicts. For supposed.

Obio. For suppose. If you're this Parenthest is perfect to

sureate that there there a there a thing very Well, look, the thing fundamental

is when you know you can't be able to someone, that is the phrase of the million of dollars.

If you know you know you're not you're not you're doing, but you're not that's acting for

necessity. That's that's things that is much times to accept to someone

that's so that not accepting that person or not care to it, it's what

is a something, a what you're criticating, standing inojada, or they're in a circle of vicious. There is when you you know that you know that's

that you know when a circle of viciously that's a repite one, another, other, other, is without parer the

same parer, where none of the two persons does any kind of or the dynamic not does any kind of like you

like, this is going to resolve. The people enter in things chronicas. Chronic, is the

same. pass this the first week, to the second week, they're to belean for all the same, and they're going to do you,

and pass an circle, I'm go, make, make you, make you know, not you go, and then they're and then they

get back, and then that's a that's, that's the we're going to let's make, that's the thing, that's

because the man is an animal of the costumbrus, for the we're we're used to all the

so, the he's accustomed to be alone, for the so he's, even does even to be to be

to be mad to be to be a bit of alone. Or to be able to be a person.

Exactly. For so I always I'm we have to have to be, um, we have to

be able to be able to be introvertidovertido extrovertido, with alien, act on a way, actual to one way,

act on the other, call us all the because if not, we actuble, and not for decision. And that's

me a question. So, because are, it's like it's like a tronco of the arbor and

there's we're going to try the majority of So how I'm another

question? How I distingo when is custom and when it is love? It's very

simple. The love is that what I'm inspired this person that you

that's amanda? No, what I receive of that person No not

not receive no, not receive, it is dar. So much people are, they're

they're I'm used to have all the manas a jubub

a coffee and and what so I do it no do

I don't know. That's what what the people. It's I'm. No, no,

no, no, it's no, I'm not the I'm used I'm used a little and I'm

I'm doing it and then I'm repit, I'll repeat, I'm repit, I'm I'm still, I'm sure,

when you're you're doing a realactivas you, you don't know, you're trying, I'm reactive. One thing is

to go to a one thing to say, look, we've been separated all this time,

I've made to make this this and this I'm I'd like to have the opportunity to do the opportunity to to do things

of another maybe I'm gooist or maybe that's a little and really I'd like to see you're going to be able to

work with me for that re-alemes this relation that's not reactive that's that's been

with a question about a question of a questionable no no I'm I'm going to never ever

never ever never never never I'm not going to be able to see

no no no no no no I'm no no no in the The world, the world is full of people.

But no, no, no, I see. I never before to find a nobody. No, no, no, I'm going to find that relation. I'm going to go back to that relation. That's reactive. For that the men, they're a rye common,

that I'm the time Osito, Florita. When you say, well, look, I don't want to be, pardon me, let's have an attack of abandon, no,

of the soul, of the ego. I'm abandoning, that's, and so they're in the tap, Florsita, osito, they're going to

buy them, they're a horseita, comp, for favor, no, that you have to say, if I'm going to change, I'm going to change,

it's a reactive. When the woman says, no, is that he's the he wants, he wants, he's going, because he's

because he made no, but the wine, to repentice, no, that's a quote chino. It's a point of him.

It's a question, it's a question, we know, we're going to we're going to the soul or the ego.

The ego is terrible. You give some good, he'd give some people because he's because he's

no support the no, no, no, No, or that that person stay with someone more. Ah, that's other things. Because that's,

because that's, because of the ego, it's, arde like a lemon in a year- because, and for that's, you know,

to know to start. There's a lot of, the people, not know, because he's to questioners, and if I

have this person, look, I'm going to have to have been to have done, I've got to be made, that's,

that's, so, to be, so, is, it's, is, it's,

so, so, so, I'm, so, Distinguo when is Amor of when it's a

when it's a one is a one is a thing when it's a when it's really something of the

heart of the heart that's that I'm that I'm I'm going to I'm know what

I'm this has this has to be with me not it has to be with the other person

I'm going to let's say in the Facebook a card of those cards of that's

they're just desperate because you're going and they're a lot of people because

are you are the people who they're in when they're when they're when they're to get to

the bad the fact of the fact that it's like when the people is going the fact I'm going

I'm quite you know this that's that's it that's not that's that's it's

that's this is that's no that's reactive the emotion is the emotion is

the change when I'm I'm when I'm when I'm when I'm our relation. I'm

I do this, this, this, and this, no I think we have a future. No, I think this relationship is interesting for me. There, there is a-d-d-dos. The reactive, what is reactive, is totally of the ego,

and it's, it's inflah and it's so, no, no. That's not a more. It's more. It's more, much more. I remember when me to go to castes

a much time. I remember that one I said a, I said a, a prima woman my that was

a woman and I'm, and he was many people I'm not I'm going to I'm not that you're the

mal and you know, the dynamic that's including me, I mean, 50% of responsibility, no,

on the two sides, not it was working being, and me said my Prima,

Mark, Antonio, with many people, me were to do you're to get to to come,

to come, to get to my response, was that, is that, is that is that no there's,

and she, and she just, just a a drink of a while he he said, Mark Antonio,

that no is a reason for to cast a I mean, I mean, what do you say that? Well,

that's what that's a question. But that's some phrases that we do we're to say,

that we're to justifical that we're in a relationship in a in that time. In that

time I'm a problem, I'm a way, but in that moment it was a reality for me,

my, my friends of Mexico, that they were I'm saying that I had moved

to the United, I mean, I'm In the States United, the women were

like the Americanes and that's that's a woman with a latino-american of religion Catholic,

because here in the States are some of the littleas pervited. And you let me think, a clear.

And I'm and I had in the front of a fear of a, she not is she,

she's not she, she's not she, I'm going to me go to me from she's a

little bit she's a very much values and things her mows. She's the reason. So,

exactly. No, no me, no, no, no, we, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, it's is that, is that it's, is that we're, it's, is a co-iculum, bitae, is a, is a young, is a little bit more, so it's, it's not, it's, like, it's, like, the, of the, of the aspect physical, of the ego, that's, so, so-se-you-you-law.

What, what you have to produce, a person, is a cresimient, because the relation has to because if you, because if you're, it's a person-humano, like the, is, is to say, that you're not, you're to grow, you'll never will be the same

person. All the all of the years you're going to do you know that's to start

to get to you know that you that's the style of the style of the change. Exactly. That's not. Because really

really to make in a matrimon in the middle of the ocean. And there's a lot. There's a person who's a

lot. Exactly. So, then I'm just better than they're not so much to get in

when the sufficient is when we're going to when we're going to let's some

some part of some some part of when more of those details, because obviously is to find that

equilibrium, in saying, all the relations are going to have problems. Not is good to be one of those people

that's people who get to get a little little the little the little the little no, there's

a torment, me go, me go, and I'll go and I'm also, and so that's also when the

people always are so long, when the people are always like what is comfortable and

is comfortable is to start sort of, enter in a relationship and the

fear to suffer. The fear of the fear of the this dog me record, my record, chow! Me stas

me being, me's me going to the mind. I'm going to my place. Sure, because

only, you know, you're going to be, you're going to be to be a heart. And as well, you're right.

Exactly. So, so you're no, no, no, I'm quite no, no,

so I'm that's a little bit more more than in Mexico, no? There, quietitititititit

you, you get in your world, you know, too, For that's So that's Sollad is reactive.

It's reactive. No, it's not it's a way to be a form. So that's a other

extreme. I'm the other I'm going to be able to be so, or not you can't be that person in particular.

So I'm so I'm with the same person or or I'm connect to with other people,

because there's the lesson. That's the thing, the theme, the thing is the thing, the time,

no, you know, don't you don't know, you're I'm, I'm, I'm,

I'm, I'm I don't know I I'm not going to hear of this, but it's the same infirno

but it's the same inferno. But it's the not that they're in the infirno. It's that we're not we're doing the same.

Because we've came to learn something. And that we're to learn to learn to learn to be able to do that

we're going to get a lot of different. And for that's you're trying to talk about Dr.

Cawul' Dr. Cawul and we'll talk. I'm Mark Antonio Regil and we're our doctor

Liliana Lina Kavuli and Dr. talking of this time so interesting. The relations. What are the problems

normal? That are you have to tolerate, that are to work, and when, of the world right,

without being not being that way to get me to make me to do that to make all what

what they want to how I'm how I'm that you think of the three things

fundamental sexo, sexo, eachos, and those are those are those

things of problematics of parage, no? Sexo, six, and

And money. And money. Like something, and very important, now that I do those lives all the days on Facebook. To Facebook Live.

If you, what is the case more great that I'm the case? The question. It's that the women don't want to have sex.

Before, after 10 years in my consultory never was that ever was always. I never took a orgasm.

No, I don't want to have sex, doctor. Well, now is all the reverse. The other the other people

don't want to do you? You're going to do you? Or, a reverse? But one a question, I'd, we have, we'd have to be why not

want to have why not really the point? We're going to understand the point, but I'm going to say that it's passive-aggressive,

because he's enoched because it's problems physical, for what it was because the people, in the people, in the way to

they're just in just they're just, they're just, so one of the bandera rogas, or foco-rojos to say,

ah, permitting, this is something or it's the, or we're the absence of sex. If you say to a person,

listen to me, I need to, I need, I need I need, I need, and with you know, and so, well, tranquill, and keep you say,

my necessities not you're doing, my necessities, not you're that in the Bible, they put an woman like

that's a woman, fissioned that even a person super religious it's a way, it's a

requirement, so imagineate, if one, the men, the men, they're very too, we're very much,

and we're in the world and the word that says, that you to give me my ration. No, me dole the head.

I'm tired of the point is, the point would be it. It would be good to see the word of the

yeah. Here you know, I'm doing I'm going to I'm trying to get a tonne of people to get to be

a tonne of different ways and that's a new. It's a new like the like the same. You know,

you know, you know, that's the you know, so you know, so you know, so you that's

you know, contentious the type, perfect. No, Wow. It's terrible. The men are you are doing

very feminine. So, then as well, then as the issue, but the thing is that if there's

a absence of sex or... It's a red, it's a, it's a thing, and apart,

that's not it's really be problems sexual. Oh, well, that is, for me, is deal breaker.

So, it's a case, but that's a lot of people that are in those type of

relations? Okay, so that's one of those are one of the bandera rogas

that is a That's the circle vicious that I said all the time the same problem when you you're talking

the same story to your friends or not even is the time it's hour of retiracy if no

any change yeah it's a sure it's a story interminable like those these stories they're

they're all things things horrible one to they're all they're they're all they're doing

and they're and again and when you when you're you're you're like you're just a The therapy of Utah, I go,

Meree me to film because these movies, I've seen memory. Yeah, I'm going to do all the time

and I'm going to do you get in money. It's just that I'm going to say, I'm sure. I'm sure.

I'm sure. I'm sure. So, but for understand, if I'm a plea to continue and continue and continue

and continue and my, and the first pause would be to be to be able to say, oh, we're, we're

we're going to hear it. And the the party not, and the reality, for me, and this

is a thing particular because nobody can't say that you can't say, not tolerer golfes, not tolerer drugs,

not tolerer alcoholism, not tolerer abandon, or a lack of sexuality, all that, but there are things that

people, if they're going to tolerate or no. For example, the other day, I was I went to

a doctor, to give me a vaccine and vitamin B and me started this doctor, and me told of

his woman that were since years castes, and that he was working there because what I

wanted to be not to be paying two dollars with $0.50 with that's with my woman, okay,

I preferier to be able to be a car. For me, that's a for me, wow, I want to be able to

that I'm going to get to get to get to to get to that person? Evadir the house? That's,

that for me is a reason for separate but for others no. And that is a decision proper.

But golp golf, alcoholism, alcoholism, alcoholism, alcoholism, goodbye. Adios.

Now. And cheating. Metida of Quarnos. Because the metida of corn, if you're one one single once and they were therapy, changed, they're doing all

what they need to do. Okay. One. But yeah, and two. Goodbye. Bye.

Bye. Bye. Adios. Because that's no never. Pace, what happens. Pace, what

pass. Now, you say, sex, yes, you know, so, you know, someone who

want to be a person. For this is difficult to find a partner. Because the people see

encounter what whatever and it's adapt to a little and then then it's

a lot of people who's a person is super calient and really much sex and he has been

a lot of that's not that's not that's not that's going to be a that's a that's

but there is to be from the first of the people. Exactly, but is the person needs to talk

with someone. So, so I don't know I'm going to doctal around or if you have a dogma

religion very arraigated, and I don't have sex until that I casser. Well, but that's a surprise is a surprise is a surprise is a lot of

a surprise. But is that you can't even you can't get a question, although you have a sex with someone

before the time when the intensity, how is, etc. But I tell you, that problem sexual of

a person frustrated and the other not, that's terrible. I go here in the minute I'll

four, well, I've five, because no gopies, one, drugs, two,

alcoholism, three, no compatibility sexual, Four. But there's, but there's people that's like to tolerate. And there's a,

and there's a, so, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, you know, never, you know,

that's about, to do you, to get to do , or not want to do that, to get a, , that's, you , you know,

you're, you're, you, would you, in a boat, to, you, to do, cross-to, the pacific,

and the person that, in one of that, in one of that's, I think, oh, I don't remod more. No remod more, me I'm trying to, no

I'm doing more nothing. No, I'm interested. And I don't want to pay help. And I don't want to give help and I'm going to

do you know. For that's you have to be a good a good sportist that that has the that has the

power of but there's we can't get to be able to and I'm so I'm sorry for those who are all the life

that's not that's sure is a person can be able to make not you can't prevening the options

are two. more well is to make to a relation knowing that that person is to change. And it can be for mal and it's relative. It means more than

incompatible or compatible to you. Exactly. Incompatible with you. Yes. Because for that person can be able to for you.

But I refer to this. But not is compatible with you. Exactly. For example, one of the other day me called a new patient quehands over

because the woman because of the women because I think of the women. I have much a patient of women. And the other day I did count

because what is in common? They like to call me to call me to be because she this, because the other, because it's...

But that's not normal in therapy? The women, also, I mean, they're saying, the other men, the women, more than the women, we're not, so they're not, because she doesn't mean

to say, no, because I'm saying, but I'm saying to your name, okay, because I'm sure me going to be the only, the only about 30,000. No, but I don't

give attention, prefer to his family, that's to the other, and I'm, okay, and you're, you're doing, and you're you're supposed to to try to work

to do you? No, but she's not, no, you? You? And you, you're what? Because the problem is that we always want to change the other. We have to change

ourselves, too. That's the point. But that's the attention, too, the level of attention that you like to anyone, that's preste attention, and you're with someone who's going to be able to, there's there, there's a drama. I think that when a relation, the 70% percent, the 70% is positive, and the 30 negative, you're being.

Yeah. Oh, yeah. Hizabeth. Oh, yeah. Because, there's people who are people who's caza with the kids. Well, you know, you know, you know,

you know. We know very. It's a lot of this. There's a person who's a guy who

has a little and it's like a donor, a sperm donor. Donator of sperm. It's not. Yeah,

that. Chah, that's all. That's a way. So, no me molestas. Because I'm with

my kids, and other fathers, too, and other other parents, I mean, I mean, a

Secretes, Secrets, Secrets, Family Areles? No, you know, I need to learn it because I'm I'm going to me life. No, I

recommend to nobody because it's a book of psychology for who's a book. It's a book very pesable. But you

talk much of these alliances that they do you ask, when in best, for example, papy and a man,

in a other than an alliance between them, they're doing the and the idea of the

and it's and it's a cross, is an triangle. A triangle that makes that so

so art and it's romp a relation of a other. And apart, that creates

psychosis, and the thing is the most terrible that is when there's when there's a thing,

but well, talking about it, without the psychology, to not be sofisticated in this time,

to be a question, the time is when a person to castes with someone, that's the person, the

only that's the person, the only that's a bandera roger, that's a person, because your

party has to be first. I'm because your I mean, but we've got And we've got And mom She's a carose

And he's a Maritito. A maridito Like my mom He was a Divertiann't But imagine with a man

Imagineate But I'm My family I see No, I see That's I've seen that And I've seen

That's I've seen That's And I'm I'm not I'm a level sexual I refer to

But I But I A level to compatibility Where I Like a With a Inimidid

Of course Evens Evenerer Mammes I'm You know When the The child

I'd It was Horrible. Thank you, I studied psychology. I went to therapy psychological. My papa

was a question my papa me said that you were the father of him and then had to read to my mom

and then it's horrible. Like, as you don't you know you don't know you don't know the castigues that I received

for that because I'm in the middle of that a dynamic horrible. So mom so I'm so pretty

castigable to me because I was like I'm the I'm the man to because I'm like I'm

therapy, family. And what you want to say, all this is a new and is very infarmo. And that's a super, super bandera roja, for to leave a relation. That's the same. That's the woman or a woman

not to respect in your position of father or of mother, is a total but and absolute reason for a relation. That's a suboteer. There's a lot of people. There's a lot of course are listening and that has lived this and has done. It's terrible. There's people who's never, preferial,

than superer that. prefer he or he has the father attacking the mother or the mother attacking to the father and in these alliances is the look, there are something to make, there is something to make sure is your pariah, not your children, your pariah.

We're not that Latinos, children, children, children, the first is your is your partner that you castes, and it's with the person that you're going to get to the rest of your lives and you're going to get into that person your kids have to grow, go to

and do you and do you there's a other type of alliance what's what you know that

when the thing for example both you know that you have in an alliance with one of

the children when your is with his own my priority no is you

not you not the family that I form is if it's not the mom that I

like the mother is the father because sure if they're that

if you then then the then the he's and the mother

and I'm with a woman but my father is

my my , uh, a level sub-conscient or inconscient and then

my, my, my realtade is not with my new family, but what says my

father or what I'm, and that's so that's so I'm in families that you're money,

where the parents, they're they're they're they're gonna they're gonna do,

they're gonna do you, they're doing to do you and he's, and he's and you do you're

your marid terminated your brother, because it is adopted and not is

a form a family and And what I say to Papa, how... Exactly. It's terrible. How I'm...

How I'm... How do you say no, a father, if he's past in the raya, if he's a car, if we do a job, if we're doing

the house? And apart of what you are you do you... And what's... And what position you're put to this woman?

That's a car... And that's... ...and you're a... And that's... ...that respect you're to be

to be... ...this is a... ...that... ...this time... ...this time... ...it's a... ...it... ...it...

It's a temon. This is Therapia Family Number 1. Sure. But is that I I've seen I've seen

so. I've lived So, I've lived. So you've did you? You were the wifeita?

I was the father of my barren, impressive. Because he's always the proposter of my father was

my wife. And my my brother in this moment is in the position of a wife. I'm the wife that's

I'm going to me free, this I'm going to my My brother, because they're endogamica. They're families endogamical, in where all the people that can't

believe that's not to be able to anything is to their blood. No, they're not even concept of humanity, of a human, of human, of a friend, or nothing. It's that many people who even feel and think that their blood is superior to the blood of other families.

Exactly, but apart, it's like sanguine, you. I'm because you're my prim, because you're my brother, because so, and then I don't you, my marido? Well, you know, so you're not, a donor, a donor of

And it's a carousel because if I see me The reality The armadale The armadent That you can Imagineate

in the life, it's never of that you know, I've got to live it in some point that's quite

the papa I'm I'm I'm more money, the papo says to where they

go to the family is a is a control total. Esposos and spouse not can

because the abel of where the but there are hotel and the plane and there's the point, what type of that type of

that person that's a position? Where is the pen of that the pen of the other the pen of

the family is the abuel. And all the other than are no other don't know to that. Imagineate those

boys, with the nietas in contra of the mother or of the father. That's a tele-novela.

No, no. And no know you know know the other doesn't know you can

do equilibrium. Disequilibro total. You know, you know, this of the maritit, or this of the

esposita, this not us affected us? Muchissimo. But, because, let's, first,

it's, first, it's a many ways. Because you felt a suffocation in a relation where you know to have seen it

so. So, also, that's a to make sure to make sure to make sure to make sure to think

that the love or the relationship in a farceeing, it's a thing limitant. It's a trauma of the past

or not a nada. So, then you do you see recommend, for what I'm saying, that when a pair has, put a certain distance between the family. Boundaries, is a limit, but it's like a boundary, it's like a circle like. The psychology family, what I

studied, is a base, the base of that is the boundaries and the hierarchies, the hierarchies, and those limits. When you're you're casted with your papa or with your mom, Oh, forgetate. You see,

you appear a family totally dysfunctional and well you're in the families of where the money,

where there's because there pay, there's there's a because if you not you're so much. No,

you can't buy it nobody. No, you can't buy a position you,

you're put as you're you're you're not you're doing too, you're saying, I mean,

there's there's a there's there's a but it's but it's no, no,

I'm I'm doing, I'm you're obligation. So, we need to put limits and hierarchies. And gerarchia. Father, mother, children, if I'm car to go to someone.

This is in contra to the community Latina, I want to know. Because the therapy family is generated for the families latina because it's a fault of limits impressive. And a confusion very grand in this. Sure. But then it's a son of saying,

you know, I'm, we're going to cast. But we're we have limits, boundaries, and You know, I'll say Say a little A house chiquita rented, but...

You know, is the trauma more grand that's the person that lived to be in what we've lived,

have had had been a relation like a matrimonio with the parents, that we

know, that we can't, we can't, we're, that we're, we're able, that's it's

we're able to do, we're able to do that, because, because it's, because we're we've been

we've been we're in a situation of infantil, of dependents with someone who abused of that position.

Okay? Because you're going to your father, your mom that's, how you're going to your parents? But when your

parents are you are more than what they should be able to, it's almost psychologically like an abuse. Sure,

I'm so, there's time with the what you're saying if that's a deal breaker, it's a reason to

runper. If I'm that dynamic, the ideal is not casart to you're you're going to you're going to

you're more, if you're saying, if you're saying it's listening the podcast and you you're just

that person, that's your father or your mom, the that's a person, the that's going to be in the control

with your with your wife, you have to say to do you a time, we're to put limits and we're going to create a separation

because if not our relationship that's going to get to a person, we're going to a person, we're going to do that

you say, no, no, no, me interest, you know, what you're saying, no me interest, you're saying, no me interest, you know,

to, save, salve that relation, or it can no, me interests the relation how it's the condition in the conditions

that's the and so I'm sure if you don't know me because my necessities are more important than the because my necessities

are more important than the yours and that's the and that's the thing is my your necessities are important for me and you

need to be it's it's all reverse you see you know and if you put it's to think all the

world the only the one of the only thing you're this is all this is there many

there many there many there many people who has a manipula, there's people that's

there's a people who are trying to that they're partrocinning and they're doing the little bit of you know,

but you know, but you know, what is the price? Uh, uh, it's time to have problems

in all the you know, you know, you're doing, you know, all the way. All right, without,

without, so it's not all the money, without, without, and if it's without,

so, so when you're, when you're , you're doing the al-a-a-

the that's like that's like to sell the to be able to do you? You're going to you're going to

do you? You're a one of a sexuality spectacular with a type that your your father

has got to where you know what you're what's going to have to have no, and you're to get the

there's a way, and it's a because no there's a or the or the or the

, the allermecerns to do you this is what we've been in all the movies and in the

tele-novelas and Netflix this is these are these are We're a disaster. It's a disaster. It's a chaos.

Because when no there's order there's chaos. Exactly. Exactly. When no there's when you have nothing of

ethics, nothing, for that I'm all the time of my life of this. If we don't have any

anything anything anything, whatever, whatever, whatever, whatever, what we can't, we can't get to get a way.

That's like, like, you know, like a, you know, like a carobundo for the car, there

living with without, without, we're doing a question, we're, we're going to try

to cover cover two things. One, the one one way more,

how to get a question, I'm in a lot of not a one of the love,

not it's many, the more, some more, so I'm like, like I'm, like,

I'm, how I'm to do it and if no, do you know, how can't

make a time, you know, that's the point in the first thing, but we'll go back

to a pause. Okay. So, Mark, we're, we're in the podcast,

the doctor, Lilianna Kabooli, expert in arreglars and aurellas You could you Could you

Could you write You know, like all you know You could you I'm gonna say Yeah, I'm I'm But yeah

No, no It's that's What's what I'm I think I'm like you Yeah, it's I'm a

I'm a five minutes and you see a whole the movie that will be that's

because it's of many years to have been You know You know You're You're

you You're You're You're a friend That's a writer and She's

a person who's characters. And as I am I a psychologist, I'm a lot of a minute to where will be the

and all this is very differentido. And so I'm very dolorous to be in Netflix. It's very all the papers, but all the papers, but from the endroreders, it's a bit of capitals, when we're doing those dramas, it's a lot. if you see those you see those you know, but not

those tomemes as a personal, because the characters us are just doing just a contrary to what we're going to

I remember that I'm always said, I'm going to get that and I'm going to put it into and say, this, this

you're going to this is this now I'm going to now. And it's a good idea. It's a good idea. It's a

badbara. Because sincerely the people is totally, it is like the sexuality. You see a movie

like the sexuality? nobody does that so the people so the people they're

that's that's not a because they're in the things like that they're in the sex

in the people who are in the non-stimulatory in those in those positions that you're doing

that they're they're they're doing that's so it's does it and get to this no,

this no this novela this no this no this I'm sure now now

I'm not that we don't talk about sex, we're talking, we're talking, we're doing, oh, well, so we're talking about about the,

but the money is a problem great, for example, the man that can't be more, the woman who can't much, the man that's

he wants to control like if you're a puppet, okay? The man that's the person, then you want to then you're just

you're just never than the the woman, the matrimonious two, two, two, two people,

then they're all with their country with their country panarchas, five hundred prenucials, and nobody mskla nada, and you're

All the world paranoia. There are other problem. There are men. I was with my mom when when I started to train women when they were when they were administrators of the

woman. They said, my amor, you're going to more than I. You're going to a problem in the that's...

That's a problem to the woman. I want to be a woman. I think you're not. In some cases. But I've seen other cases where

genuinely the man said, well, you have to do you're the star you're the star, put it out out of the administration of

the business and you dedicate to that you. It's a need a selfistication for that it's a

matter and it has to be a more not a because if you know it's a thing to understand that's a

but you're the option. It's the option. If somebody is that if my woman is

my money, it's like because it's like it's like it has been a problem because the

man's being a problem. And then he gets to feel like me too my woman

has patty yeah a man me will be to attract me to her with her let's see how she. Well, I'll create a family and she took the paper of the provenora. I know

much people who did that, but I know of the intimacy of that. What they say, that's into, that's what they're going to say to out of nobody. I understand. I know the conflict that's happening. The men are many problems when they're in that position. What I'm saying is that no, no, no, no, that I can't more. No, no, no, no, no, but the woman,

not that's, but the woman, too, it's to developers. But what's, but what happens? And it's a comodod? So, I know, that's an option. I see, and it's a a good, it's a

It's a Mentioned But I'm Manetka Waiter, but so like when we're

we're doing that we're a great man, and we can't say that the woman is a man

because it did it's a not a man, wait, wait, wait, wait,

wait, wait, let's see, we're, let's be, we're saying, to be, to be a

person, and that a person, and a great person in the house, that can do that can't

could have a life a little bit to get a right. What is the

other? What is the thing? I'm the because I'm because the woman he said,

because I'm the other and she created a company, and she created a company, and the woman says, and I

want to have to have kids, and he says, I'm going to do you to do that what you're doing that

my time? I'm not, no, no, you know, I don't know, we're saying. No, no, we

don't know, we don't know, is that we're, no, is that, know the conflict that

that's because from the point of the point of the point of the point of of the

man and the man has to do that's very long no no not it's not so it's

like the so it's like the woman that the the woman is using to that woman and also

when it's when it's when a other when a woman only just doing the spa and

sitandes in the no no no but not I'm not I'm not I'm about the

father or mom that's my God. To create a family. I studied much. I studied much. Oh, no,

you know, not you know. Well, that's another thing, then. No, that's, the parents that get in the

house, ooh, no, no, no. Okay. Is that I've my consultory. Okay. We're going to go, because that

is another thing. So, so you do this focus-rorojo so, I'm, so, I'm, okay, focus.

So, focus, so, so. So, so, so, so, my love, my

my life. Chiquito, of my or precious. Or precious. Or precious, because it's the reverse. Look,

I don't I'm going to not I'm not quite. I'm happy in our relationship. I'm not

my love our dynamic. I'm disconform in and they're in a paper that's that's

that's I'm going, I'm and I want and I want to and I want to do

this relationship or contented in this relationship. Necited need a therapist need to

do you do you do? In plural, not you're saying this that you

We need. Okay, the person, there's two responses. One of the response is, ah, no, I don't, no, me interests, I'm very well, so, no, I'm, let's get these. Tontteras. Tontteras. That, no, that, what, that is,

Goodbye. Goodbye. Adios. Adios. Or you get, you guys, like, do the people very, very religious. That's sacrifficen and restan all the days, and they,

piden a God, for favor, that change, that I, no, I'm, I'm not, I'm not. I'm a cabalista, and the cabalistas they're in the divorcee totally because when a relationship not

you get to get a cresal is to eliminate it. Because that's not a we've been to do we need to

do you know to do you we're doing the function of a relationship but basically the response now the other

response is okay, if I'd like it then there so you do that time because the

people it costs much that comes that comes much that's not I'm trying to see focus

rogos no no no no no no no no no no no And if I see I'm dispossession,

I'm and I'm a good, and I'm a exact, exactly. And if no there,

and if no I, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm going to

do you know, without the , and use, drugs or alcohol to get me the angstia, without,

I, I'm, and if the question is, no, goodbye. And if if I said,

then I'm and I'm and I'm and I accepting. And if I'm then I

then I'm no, then so no. Exactly. Clarito, clarito, clarito and without

the question of the million, how know, how said, you know, I said

that you know to get to the final, how is the form correct and what is the form incorrect and what is the form

that's never a no, I'm not that I'm I'm I'm, you know,

you know like, as in the normal as, no. No. Now, let's have to be. Now we'll go to go to.

That's going to say, that the that's going to say, that's, no. No, no. Sentars. But is that all this that's saying is ideal. But the ideal,

not always is, not always is necessary. Because much of course, I'll say, and look, this relation no I want to this way, I can't stander

in this manner, and they're on those scandals, some gritty, you're going to ruin the life. No, be able to know, and it's a drama.

And it passes. And it's, because there's people that he's people that's a person the drama. The drama is an addiction

of the ego. The drama is a super addiction. He's it's a love and you're

like to know, oh, he's a 20 hours of you know, for the

movie, novel and listen to a music romantic. It's like, how you explain,

it's like the sugar, no, we know, but it does a certain but you do a

because, because the people have so much to be sure, that's like they're to do

do you is to find forms of to be under drama and the other because start very

that's really when you're that person you're going to you're going to not to not to be more for much

people prefer to not marr so I'm so you go to be so much so much so much

to the people even to even with the people even even with a person who's he's a real I'm

I don't want to work for I'm going to do you do you know and the addiction to conflict and the drama

because I was my mom, not in the last years. When I was going to go to the time when I'm going to get a

addiction. And I remember that we had a little form, infirm, I'd enjoy the plaitos with and see who

was stilled more, I'm going to say, but it's very, but it is horrible. Horrible. But imagineate

that's that's all the other contrary, that's that's a certain, that something, that's, that's,

I'm, I'm a new pair that I'm attending, that are spectacular. I thought, I thought you're going to say that you're going to go to.

No, no, oh, no. This. I think I'm a new partner. No, no, no, no. A new, no. A new client. That's clients. That's the client.

That's what I never never had seen something. Like, really, they're really, they're trying to be able to be

people, want to learn to be sincere, learn to learn to have been a parent that with that this amplitude.

I go, wow. This is a parent conscientious. It's a parent that's a I think, wow, now we're doing these men who

want to be in 30 years, imagine in 30 years, the problematics have changed what I'm in consulta. Now,

I've seen a new one of the new ones, he's going to this, it's all the thing, the people, the people,

and it's a relationship, that's a thing, for a better, not for a commodity, not for agenda.

Che, I need someone that's getting, this is, this is fine, this is, this is, that's all right,

that's, I'm going to the day, I'm here, watching television. That's no. Oh, but we're going to go. So, how to terminate?

With dramas, no. With dramas, no. And you have to rest much to God that the person, because the person that says, me go,

the drama does the other in general. Because we have to be maduro. Because me go, he's got the

ego. You try to say the things good. Vina lo to Marko, Antonio Regil.

All the good. No, the style Marko, that would be a good,

educated, I'm trying to your position, I'm sorry that you're in this way, all those things that you're going to

do you guys that's all right, that's all right, that's all right, that's all right, that's not, but say, oh, no me

come to go to this quote, I'm going to this is a real, I'm really, me's trying, and in the front of

you know, because the ego, lego, lego, lego, lego, and the fact of the because if you you're going,

because if you then you're after this is manhous, Intentar with all the Alme A bit of

Dement of the thing, right of the thing you're saying that's going to you know, I think there's like no,

not you're not you're not it's like, Markito. No? It's like to be the spiritual,

not to be a to be civilized and other thing would be being, yeah, and showartal

and show to beulnerable. Exactly. Exactly. So, so, so, so,

my amor, me is my mom, I'm sorry, and if you You want to cry to cry. I'm sorry. I'm going to.

I'm sorry. But no it's not going to this. So, so it's more than it's more well it's more to try the

thing and say the truth. Exactly. And there implic a, you have a receptor intelligent in front of

that you can receive in that because it really horrible to be a person. Sure. It's been horrible to be

to be a person. It's a lot of because that person has become to your best friend.

A bit of a bit of a accustomed I don't know but is that is a person with the

person with the you're in a second with the time with the time with the time with you're in that you're in

because we're because it does it's that's that for more that I'm from here, from here I'm

because here's that is the secreto is that's the I'm not I'm I'm still I'm more

person and more and if you don't you don't start the other person too doesn't

not if you is it's it's being it's being vampireizing you're taking all your energy. Wow.

So, civilized, with the authenticity. Of the heart. Not tirando rogos. If not, not as the vulnerable,

that's, me dole horrible. But apart, it's connectarse. What do you? I feel you. I'm a

problem terrible, terrible, to have to separate me to both and do you, because in reality,

you know, when you're going, you're going, there's things good? There's things that you're

not only what you're going to be, you're to just what you're You're just what we're That's what we're

You know, but dejas a person for X, W. But, and all the good? Now, no question, those who are the

people are we going to keep going to contact us, we're seeing the that's the way of that's, no,

that's a question, who wants who wants, I'm going to, I'll do this question when, I was a

when I was a game, I'm just we're all to social, yeah, no, it's that's, that person,

that's, that person, you dole to dole, It's like, It's like Like never A-Rourn't

It's like a It's like a It's like a Like a little Like to be able To the door For that we're We'll go

We'll go ahead Or if I'm See you know That's Yeah Yeah You're just You're just

You're gonna Because you're So you're You're gonna To be Or me I'm agar A bit

Or I'm And I'm I'm gonna If I'm So I'm So you're So I'm I'm gonna

I'm gonna Because, especially for a time prolonged. I've been I've been a couple and I've seen for one or two, three years and then

we've seen a million because I'm already I'm sorry. I mean, I'm sorry, always there's always something, like that you know what

the people to know that's about that's not they're, not they're, not they're to be able to that's, so that

so does it so does over the ego, if you can't enter in that in that space but I'm all the

other the times that I'm the time I'm never never used to never the

no, it's a good because would be a person who's the person who may have not mean,

no me define a me, that's that's what I'm that's all the that's all right. Nothing over me. Exactly,

nothing. It's like, because someone no he doesn't I've known I've known the guy,

because the avocado me makes a delicious. But not because someone not because

the same thing the flavor of the avocado, it It means that the poor avocado

has to have to be to be free and it's simply it's simply it's a person,

to the person, no, it's not a lot of the other than the point of view spiritual, is that you've done,

the class, the class is supered. Now, I'm, I'm that you know, that is the thing, that

we're being to be an intelligent, and other and other equal, and if you're going, it's the signal of your name, you've been,

or my nena, no has learned of the election, here you go to the new master, that will be the

same course. Exactly. It's a or better. You're going to learn. Tranquilito and you're going to

take the lesson and you get the ticket for the business or you do it. No, no, no, no.

Grasia, thank you. Thank you. Yeah, and the universe, God, has, infinite,

infinite quantity of maestros or maestras that you can send to learn to learn your lesson. And I,

but I'm but I'm But, remember that the Starr-Sol, also, also, at times chronically,

is a way now, now, now I'm going to never a no, no, or,

you know, but you know, you know, you know, it's like, you know, has to know, I'm,

I'm doing the, the, of the, of the , but I'm doing the course, but you're

working in the profession. No, no, no, it's because it's a, ,

that's a, that's a , it's a question to be to be because I don't pay,

but for not the price. The price. For not be vulnerable. But that's a theme of other podcast.

Yes. Thank you. Cuey. Cooartorah. Cueyattie social. It's active in Facebook.

In Facebook, yeah. I'm doing lives all the days. And we're a group that's called the group of

the sincerors. So, so they're always there super belpendient and so so they want to join us

we're doing different things. Being realistas. Some things are very realistas. Well,

much thanks, doctora. And I I did my notitas and here recapitulamos. Pocos rogues that no

to ignore in a relation. The sexo is not no sexo. I'm metied in a single circle

vicious. We're in a circle of problems. There are there drugs. There's alcoholism.

There's infidelity. My my partner is me is not going to or I am trying to

my person. Someone, you is with someone who doesn't get to get to

help us, no care to receive coaching or therapy. No doesn't not want to

to work in them or there's or there's or the parents or those people who are more

more than the alliance that is that you have to be the your partner has got to do you have to do you have to

go and things are things that are to talk to and see if you can't you can't you can't

but the doctor al-ilana Kabuli you recommend to talk them to front to talk

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