El Podcast de Marco Antonio Regil - 153: Amor en cuarentena, con el Dr. César Velasco

Episode Date: February 15, 2021

Esta cuarentena nos ha desconectado del contacto físico y de las escapaditas románticas con nuestra pareja, pues las salidas a cenar y al cine se han quedado en pausa. Si esto ha afectado a tu relación de pareja y necesitas reinventarte para sacar a flote el amor en tu relación, te conviene escuchar este episodio. En esta semana del amor regresa al podcast el Dr. César Velasco, quien nos ayudará a descifrar cómo lograr que el amor sobreviva a pesar de la cuarentena. ¿Qué puedes aprender? ¿Cuáles son los secretos de las parejas exitosas en estos tiempos de cuarentena? ¿Cómo puedes sacarle jugo al encierro para mejorar tu relación de pareja? ¿Cómo saber si estás con la persona correcta? (aquí encontrarás un test para averiguarlo) Sigue al Dr. César Velasco en sus redes sociales: Instagram: @drcesarvelasco

The COVID has changed the form in that we've, we've been, we've been, we've got to the becettos, the appretone of the man,

those times when we saw, when we'd bea a brazo effusive, almost we'd have aftime, now if at a caselo, or we'd say

like, like, like, doing y'emaste, namaste, and well, and the parkees, peor tantito,

where did the cenita romantic, media, light, in the restaurant favorite, the restaurant favorite, the the end of the

time we're going to miss and then then they're going to the posto out of the place where

has kept to all this carino. The pandemic us has disconnected physically but today we're

going to what are just what are doing the people are doing the that is what it's what it's what we're

to do you and what we do not we're to do for that the love, the

situation, the relation of the family a person episode 153 Amor in Quarentana

we're we're goings The podcast of Mark Antonio Regil is a production of RGL Entertainment and all those those are reserved. And to talk of this

thing that all we benefit, we'll give us a new to podcast to Dr. Cesar Velasco conferencist, professional, psychotherapist of

a pairha with 25 years of experience in Mexico and and Spain and promotor of the revolcated

in the pasto with, no you can revoke in the pasto with a disan a question,

you know I'm a I'm a I'm a when I'm chiquito, was monaglio, I was,

I was at the Misa, the other things, and I was, and I said, look, what beautiful, what's, what's,

what's, you've been with, with the past, with the grama in, in the, in the, and the, but today,

how you know, this, I'm a, thank you, and thank you, and thank you, to be with talking to be

talking to us. Oh, yeah, that's been going, the pandemic has changed all, and there are

people, that are that are what are doing, and there are the other people,

the dating not was very active the pandemic ended up terming with all what's

what's going in the life of the parents well well there's

there's there's there's about the principle you you know of how

you about the divorces in China and these cifras aterradors of

violence infimil because they were passing more time in

house so if there had a problem in house it

was a more all was a catastrophe. Today, a year after, we have more a vision

more complete of the scenario of what has occurred in the relations of a marriage, which is to we're going

to start. And not only there bad news, not there's good news. Because there there's like

a bad lecture of Darwin that says that the organisms that are the most fervent.

And Darwin not said that. Darwin what said is that the organisms that are

the are the more to the way to the circumstances and the reality

is that there are there are that are better to be the

circumstances than other there have to understand that

the pandemic and the consequences in other things financial

of the health evident the the encirro the

are situations one in not unestperated is we

were not nobody could prevene that this occurred, nor even Bill Gates, that had written something of what going to happen

with a new pandemic. These situations have generated a level of stress as to the individuals and to the relations much major to the

habitual. Those are pairs that were fractured, they were to fracturations. That is the reality. So,

the pandemic what he did was to accelerate the things. So, so as how accelerated the change

to the digital that we're doing, and accelerated that the businesses that were the

different of the different and the different, it was that it was, it waselered all,

then in a pair of a problem, it's more than it, and so, and, and,

there's other other pairs, that, I, I, I have many,

I've said, that I'm not said, that's the more that's what they're what they

could have A pairas that, for example, for this life, cotidian, so, full of compromises, traffic, demands in the work, that

not were, or they were very little. Of a pronto, they had the possibility to be together for

much more time, and to start to have time of quality that they did

a, a species of re-enquent in terms emotional, in terms sexual, in terms of projects in common, in terms of support to the other,

in terms of, let's now, in relation to the 14th of February, in terms of a possibility much more effective of expression of the love, in all its senses. And,

and so, let's be fractured what has occurred with them is that the relation has solidified. has solidified in the sense is real, is a couple more more a more sound

with a sensation of that never never could have elected a person to pass for this circumstance there's a

there's the key I think if you're you're going with the person correct or if you elects you

then then the fact the things better those things better than but if you legist

it was evidente that you had taken a decision not adequate to be

to be asking to I'm I'm you're saying there's that I'm there's

that you're doing things interesting about the parties during this pandemic and it's very

interesting and what is what is what is what is what is what is the people?

There's there have been a number that's that's that's there

has done for example with the sexual there there there's

there's with Parejas Mexican, the Association for the Social, of the I'm a regressor and I'm a professor and directive during many years, did an study, evidently, for telephone.

They were around of 4,000 people, adults, and they asked them that had passed with their life sexual during the pandemic. And the result was that the 40% of the persons encustedas said that they had

affected by the way negative the pandemic is to the quality of your life sexual has been

a reason and there there's one is for example has has been the frequency

of the relations sexual because of the problem having to the

children for there in in or areas not the not

the has has made more difficult has I have

a I have a friend who's a manor if you're a manor if you're you're casted the morninger in the pandemic is at

at the 4 of the morning 5, 5, 30 yeah there are those kids get into the car to the and all the

11 to the night. What other other thing is that also the impact emotional in the individuals

and the people who have suffered of depression of what we talked the last the person

that have people who have turned the people who have have been

the employment. All those things affect directly for example the desire

sexual. So, although there's the opportunity, the people,

don't have you know, you know, see. Look, here, I'm, we're,

we're, we're, we're, we're, we're doing, and there's this,

this, he's like, the love, it's like the coffee, furte, calient,

and a day-di- -di- -a- but, but, how you do

do you do you hour of being surrounded of the and if no there

is normal that when when you have problems economic or problems of health or you

the stress the stress the stress the the clas the the and not

only that it's only it has a impact direct in the relation in the

complete you you you're you remember this when the

when the poverty when the when the time the difficulties economic

affect them affect them directly the heart of the relations. Because they're

to say the people that they're listening but is that the life sexual

is the most important and they have right Marko I

think the life sexual not is the thing what

is that there is that is the most important to me

me to explain that a relationship that a person

that has four patas. And I did four, how I can't say, eight. Those four patas, are like the values fundamental that sustain in this relation. And then we'll

say, the sexuality, the love, the compromise, the stability financial, the status economic, for each pair of each pair, are different. So, suppose that one of those patas,

the, for example, the situation financial, a, one of a a pair in the that he or both were, he or

both per only the but it's a but it's a mess in a mess in a mess fragile,

is that with any other little that mess and all the that's all the

thing, so every has has a different values, for many

the life sexual is fundamental. A couple in that the life sexual is a menaceous or is very

lastimal, is a in a relation fragile where, because, for other this is

another concept very important. No, there is nothing that has been that sexual, nor the

stability financial, nor the relations social, nor the compromise, nor the

fidelityity. How nothing substitute to the fidelity, how stability financial. So, for more

that you make the love three times a day, if no there, that relation is going to be affected. And that is the

threat of the COVID, that any of the changes in those four patas that says of the table, that

that analogy, that example has a example, that's a question, any of those four patitas

that are to sustain to the table of a reality, a relation, any the fault

of the patita, create a crisis, but the COVID put all

the crisis. All the same time in crisis. Sexuality, the theme of the

emotions, the thing of the stability financial, all, or almost all,

and that's the great thing. But what is the difference of the parents that are the

they're doing to the that they're doing? I'm I'm two things. The first

is this that we talked about us. So, if it was a was a person,

resilient, yes, for supposed that I would support better the crisis

and there another that's fundamental and that's a place a lot of

the part of the parties that has been has been the communication

efficient to see to see what we're what

we're in in the other in the other in the way

to think that the responsibility is only the other

and then So I'd have to what's what's what you're going to

respect, something that nobody we can't do, for sure. This, so,

although we're not, we're we're us, this, we're we're good for the

opuces, I never could have certain of what is going to not by the

case, and for the heart of the part of the and the communication is

I mean, I have the responsibility to communicate me. And I have the responsibility

to ask you. And to listen. And to hear. That is another concept fundamental. Because in the process of communication of a pair

actual, what we we know, in the conversations, not, not are people that are

listening, but they're saying, and that's incredibly common. I don't see if you've talked to

see it has taken to see, and not are listening, they're, they're,

they're, I, I'm, I'm, I'm in the time, I'm, like,

like these scenes of the movies of the 40s of the spachines, where what

they're doing is is stocadas in one to one or when, it would, it would,

it would, it would, it's that it's going to get the discussion. At the

final, I'm the reason, my concepto is the adequate, and you are

you're you're is that you don't you're you're so that's because

not we're I'm going to talk about the story you tell you you said I'm I'm going to yeah

I was I'm to Puerto Bayartah I know I was I was I was a Costa Rica

oh no well I know I was I'm okay the so but in terms of

the relationship of the relationship is that no no no

oh sure but is you I don't me has been, is that you did this.

No, but is that the last year or the 25 of March of 2014, you did this of my mom.

So, so is a question. It's a question, who has suffered more and have

to be a other. And that obviously, what he has a callehen without

in that both are with the sense of that for that I'm, that's,

I'm, it's, it's, it's, the Now, now I'm resentment, now me

feel lastimated, and then less more than they do you. And that's a sentiment of despair

very very sad. Because then what it is a sensation very dolorosa that is this sensation

of being in the relationship. Yes, because the thing the thing the thing is

we can't do do you listen to listen to understand. That's I'm I'm just

I'm If you listen and you understand, I'm going to what you're going to a good friend, a friend of a

time, when you know, you know, it's a few no you're not to do you but it was there,

you're still, you know, to be there to get that that's space, that no that's time, that's,

here's, here's, here's, I'm in a buntal during this sack of papas that I'm here

here here and he doesn't, and he doesn't, nor he doesn't, so, no, I don't even

no, the sufficient as to put in my pantalones or in my fadas just, no more, just wants

just a solidator. That's a better than, a, so, million better than

more than that's the bad-accompaired, because that's the feeling to that there is a connection there.

So, and that does, and that doesn't to the empathy and the

compassion. The concept traditional of empathy is that you put you on the zapats

of the other. And to me to be a I, in the occasions, I do

do with the parishes in the consultory. A bit, put the other. Those I go that's

cut in the sapos and that's to put in the other. And that's so can do you,

for example, if someone uses a number major of the thing, it's a number minor

is can't put in their so far as but the thing is now can't with

those sapos. That is the other part of the concept. So, not only is,

Ponte in the sapato, but it's not the epit the empathy at final is to

try to feel the other. And that also, it's a concept. And the

concept of the compassion to to who we're in this

process of the spiritual as your compassion comes

of two the roots Latinas, one is SCUM, that is the union, and Patos is the suffering. So, so compassion what's means is that suffer with you, is

something, that's true, is a question of a lot, importantism. But this is not a matter of manner natural. That is another thing that is very important that you have to

understand. So, no there's that was not you that fact of being

a process that's that's that's that's with the practice, it's

with being in the disposition of putting me in, I mean, I think that this

is important for us, I do my effort for to hear to try to understand

what you live is being you not being you, not you, and that when there is a pair of

a paris that has this communication, this communion emotional, spiritual, sexual, that is a

secret for the life sexual. Because if the communication is a good, the sexuality is that

is that when I what I do is basar me at the time to try to give

to give to in the pornography or in what I read in a book of Strategies Sexuales, what I'm doing is actuals, not from me, not from you. The best amateurs are those people who are the people

who understand perfect the necessities of the other and that they're saying that each person is different. What to one has no has, no has to do not have to, and this generosity in the carisies, this generosity in the entreece,

this generosity in the attention. In explore, in discovering, in in seeing that retro-alimentation, what is what you like? And be able to learn. Because if I amyneousy that, no, it's that I

know that I read that in that book, at the 80% of the women, this position they can't. Well, it's the 20% no, or not you do you, or what you

did with my other pair no, man, to the other pair I did this and they'd say in fowgos artificiales. And to the new and you're

to fervas to continue doing what you do you do this and the time of the

time with the time and we're we're we're going to we're going to

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had had subed much in the last the last but now with the

pandemic subio more the pretext of we don't we can't

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That, that technique of therapy me seems very good. Oye, doctor,

we're talking that in the pandemic has been, has exacerbated the, the, the fact of

the fact, I'm saying, I'm, I'm seeing a, they're, they're in the comendor

and they say, yeah, Bebe, that's of the menela of Rizada,

that's a marvell this, this, a, He says, Bebe, I want to

live to your side. And he he says, I don't think the best he rents the

house. Completely this, then he's also, also, the memel of he says,

he says, he says, I'm going Mole. And she and I want to to you,

to do you, to do you, he's he's, oh, I, I, I,

I, I'm, I'm, it's like, oh, no, you know, I'm

so, me, you know, me, me, The fear. And this is, it's, it's,

it's, the new generation, right? Of the, the, millennials, that have another style of life. No, want a house for

all the life, what I want to be going to be experiences, no want a life, I'm want a moment,

and no have nothing of a bad, right? No, they're not of the more,

the, more, the free, the, the free, the, so, all organic, and without, and without,

and so, we're, we're, Every one does what wants. But with the pandemic it's exaservo

or what you've seen you with this thing of the fault of compromise? No, no,

Marko. This is like a, a, like a, a, like a, a new form

to live, no? That, that's, for much people, if, it's,

so, it's, it's, I think, it's, not, it's of what I'd,

but it's, I'm, if I'm, if, if I'm, if I'm, the relations of my my papes, of my

kids, of the papas, of my my friends, of my brothers major. It's really. I don't want that.

I don't want that. And for the other other side. The celos, the drama, what happens? And then the

people that's casted for years and you see that are incompatible, no? And the, the,

the, the, the, the, he's all all the never, neither care

that God doesn't, and, and, he does, like they're like, like, in two planets

completely and one of those and say, if that is being, why? You know, I've been

thought, I've been in that, in this scenario pre-pandem let me. Uh-huh. Well,

so, so, so, it was, it was a, one, a idea of a world,

full of stimulos that apparently were very- to be, to be, living in this world

globalized, what he signific about the possibility, for example, not only of to get your country to work, but we know many people,

many young who have emigrated and study in other countries, they're going to work in those countries, you know,

establishes relations with persons of your own culture, of your own country, every time we see more

more pairs of cultures different, that's that's in a third country. If,

so, that, that, to, to, a, to the eyes of a a chica, a

two or 23 years sonnable. So, so, so now, for example, other thing was,

are these interchamions where an chaba in Mexico could pass a semester in Australia. So,

so, so, I know in Australia, or, of this ideas, also very in the

generosity, of that I would be a, I'd dedicate a year to, uh,

uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, in Tanzania. And then they were in

Tanzania and it was that the world always was to generate these opportunities of experiences

different, more, more intense. Liberty. Liberty, possibilities. I'm a citizen of

world, explore the world. Because if you put to think, I'm to think,

I'm the thing of, the thing to go to the with a car, I'm going to have baby, and I'm going to have

a baby, and I'm going to live for all the life in the same place. If I'm like, well, at least it's like, well, for my abelitants, but... But this model, this model,

we have to understand in terms of the terms of historical, it's as a second war world, because he suffered much

with this situation. In other other ways, in many terms, what I want for the rest of my life is stability, and certainty.

What is the form of doing? This is the form. And, yes, like you well,

this image of a person, this image, this isaburried and sterile, a little attractive,

and, and, in a concept that I have reflected much, that is the level of

intensity of emotional of the experiences. Every we'd we're situations

of a more intensity, that me make more things. And more

stimulus positive to be living through of stimulus positive of emotions I'm going to

a Patagonia I'm going to to Russia I'm going to to go to China I'm a Korean

I'm going to learn another idea adopt a can't live in the world

and so in all my experiences of I'm what I was I'm

was experiences of more intensity yeah yeah the

adrenaline the stinul the use the use of the drugs for the

those used in the last 20 years are drugs that are characterized for generate a situation of major intensity of emotional. The stimulants, like the amphetamines. So,

all was so, and for the purpose, that this vivance of a relation stable, was exactly equal to aburried. Now, now,

I don't see if you have been in this, Mark. What are the two are the two are the this circumstance of the pandemic. In what group of

age have seen a minor impact, minor number of divorces, menor, men, minors bruncas. No,

I don't know the idea because in the in the parishes in the parishes formed by people of 60 years.

Ah, okay, okay. That they've had been passed by situations similar. Uh-huh. That they

have a relation in the that they know perfectly who is the other, where you

don't no no surprise, where you know what's what you and also with an idea

of that you know, you know, you know, I'm pasted by others, sure we're going to pass

for this. Yeah. Because are relations, although to the eyes of the people, they were very

aburried, very little attractive, resulta that were they're an pair of incredibly

stable. But one one, one one They were one of the other, and no I want to deviant because we're talking

of the part of the in the, in the, in the, in the, in the, in the, in the, in the, in the, but the factative of the people of

the people have been more of the year, it was very different of the expectation of someone who's in his 20s or

those 30s. I don't still in my 20s or but I'm feel more to the millennias that the 60. But because the,

the, the people, my, my people, no, that durer 65 years of casados, I did

a embole and, And he, and she, uh, his fash and his vestido to go to get to date with my

abelito, that was, he had got to get to, he had to, the car and he had the door, and they were

nobios, no. But you were with them and they were completely different. So,

they were the expectation of that their was a part of the part of the time that we're talking about,

my abel was my abel was a Catholic traditional, he was he was a virgin and, and,

and, and, uh, and, but you about my my old, and my

my abuel, and my world, and that God was, not was a person,

and he was, he was, he was in an other world, but no need to coincididid

in that part spiritual to be to be a way, so we have many we have

many, I mean, I know, that those two are the two, they're more less, you,

have a list more than the things that have to be going to be able to be able,

well, to see together stable, no? Sure, but if you fix, the, the,

you know, the point of what he is like, like, of a necessity to be sure, because I'm

much fear of that you go to get to get because many, many of people,

at the final, are children, are children, the, the frequency of the frequency of

divorce in the parents of 60 years is much minor, in the people of

45 in So, so even though many people young say, well, how good that's my father's, because it was an infirno. At the final, that experience generated

suffering in them, but also in the papas. And they've seen this suffering. And then, of what way I'm I'm sure of not not to pass for the

same that were my papas? Of what way I'm sure that my kids don't pass in what I passed? Well, then,

I'm a list with 85 requirements for to be sure and result that no functioned. No, it's said, ante the pandemic,

they did know that no functioned. So, for more requisites that were those

were based not in experiences of life concrete like this, or like a term,

or like a tsunami, or like the cause, because in no one

was that was a part of that is something, that is you've you've

no could know but many of these young of these many of these

parents have discovered an this situation of stress abilities and

characteristics of my pair that I know I know and that I

know and that now have helped and then then so is what is what has

that has that has some new pairs some encagent and as never

had been incajave never. I mean, I'm in a couple in consult

before the pandemic that had had been given for situations so, no,

decisiones about to not not to buy a house rather than

a house. They were like projects that not

didn't coincidences. Pareh in the discussion for the that came

to the consultory was for the decision of not

to have to have children, where one of the parts if I wanted and the other

no. And the point of this or this or how? No, but the only

the only the same this same time, this same time, I've a,

a couple in consulta of Millennials where that was the and where he, that was the

he was the first, he said, you know, I think yeah, I think I wanted

to be to be to him. For. And not that has that has been

a particular, but he has seen this woman in a way different he was

the woman with the girl that he would be he'd be able to him. He per die

the time. And he was a man the model of the millennial perfect. Guapo,

exitoso professionally mentally, seven days in the gymnasio with a corpazzo

the the the the the motto we could go

to go to backations every two and the and then

he's no no no they've had had been a

much much less fashion I I'm five less

and now in the last years he had a work. Well, of

actually, he has reinvented or is an entrepreneur, and he's going very good and then you're going to be

the money, but during many years, and it was a mugre of her. And there he had he

took the opportunity to know the rest, of what was, of what was, how he was, how he was, how he was,

he was, he was, and that she, in the other to start to going to and say,

you know, you're a fraud, my quater, he, he said, no, no,

to be, a bit, to be, I mean, these three pesos, we're not quite,

he was he did know a new year, not a more, that was, he was,

but he was, but he had a very a company of the

and he said, it's what he he's the most little that one

can do you can't in a relationship. is that he was he,

for being, for being, not for he, not for what he did he, and when

one is cared for that experience amorous is incredible. It's a sense of

I'm in a lot of really, you're in family, of the real you're because I

because I because I and that that is a real to because I'm to be a me, to

me to me myself, because I'm a path spiritual very so when

it's the past spiritual. The pass is clear and if someone

me is someone me is wow she me He wants with

work, without work, with money, with success, and he's here with me for ever.

I mean, I would have said to be the kids. So, that's, so good on the

pause. But, before the pause, but before the segment, with what I'm going to be

that you get to, back a list of the list of that person has to do you because,

obviously, you're you're sabotageing. And if you're you're in parraise,

and you're in a party and you do you a list, that list longisim of

requisite of all the things that you have to be able to be able to make to be to my

father, and guarantee that nothing that's, that is the formula to fallar. So that's

the good we can't get to that. And if you're to give

you can't do the exercise that I use in the consulta that is

very easy to that can them I'm I'd I'd like

I'm about about something that's exaservated in the pandemic that has

subed the famous sexting in the textitos cachondines with photos with texts

chiquita here I want to see papa come here I'm my

oh my it's oh my you know you're in you're getting you're you're

a certain you're a satisfaction inmediate can be a substitute of the

could be a a problem very great. We'll talk about of that. And before to continue

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today. Here we have another meme. Here we have a memel of Rizava. It's she saying, they're

saying, they're saying, they're saying we're talking about the sexting, no, but they're

texteando and they're saying, me a And he says, blockyada, possible COVID positive. That is

another world. The relations a through the, of the messages of texting, that is another thing added to to the

website, of the telegram, of the messages of text, of the Instagram, of Facebook, of this

communication that we've been a lot of the telephone. But, before to enter that time, me

said that there was a a good advice, a exercise that you can give to the

people because we're talking about the famous list of that it's enormous that it's a

lot of the of the requisite. Fygette that when when I get people people,

people people, people solo, consulta yeah that's a and we get us in

this there's, there's there, there's in them, in them, in them

what is the what I would be what I have been that my

And so this is an exercise very simple. Tomen a a oja of paper and do you and

make a series of lines verticales of one side to another to the other of the

other of the number of lines for that a quadricula like a one of a copy

but that that have three or four centimeters every quadrit

so that can you can the side left, they'll leave the first,

the first quadro, and a part of the second, what they're to do is to

write the 10 characteristics that they'd they'd their their

their one, 10. Every who has their 10 different.

So, there can put that's that he want to get a lot,

character characteristics to referes to attributes to the style

of life, to I'm doing. No, then they're going to do more

to do. No, for that eliz is that is that is that you do you

do you're doing it is putting a limit. So, three days putting characteristics

all for yeah, yeah, evidently we're we're not. Dame my

sit for, when you have a time? Because there there's, there

we're, there we we're list to 10, yes. That's, more, we're going

to do a line. How back to, okay, it's like,

so it's one of ten. And then the in the next, in the

next, the the next columns, what you do you want to put to

the five or six pairas more important that you have been in your

number. So, so, Sutanita Menanita, perengatita, and the

last that you're going to put in. But define me more important. To what you're going to be it's more important? What I've lived a relation more than a great? A bit, this has to be absolutely spontaneous. But what is more important? In terms of emotional. No, I don't know.

It could be a person with that you was a week, only but that Genoa, generate an impact emotional in you very profound. But it could have been an impact, for example, I can you tell you, with the chick, with the chick, with her I was a woman marvellous.

Not just not we're the one for the other, was very impactant in my

life. But, but no I don't know I'm not for a experience

a great because I am going going to be people. So, so it's my six

relationships is my relationships that have more impact on my life that

me mark that you yeah. So I understand I'm okay but

but but but if if you you're a last

column you put you put a and if you're a woman the last one you

know, the other so five or six no more not more because if you have had

had been a condominy then you also now also it's but I'm

ten characteristics the five or six parages more impact in my life and

the last column if if I'm I'm if I'm if I'm if I'm my

if I'm a woman, is. Okay. And then, although, although you have you, I've been a man, I'm going to, or no you've been, there's people that have

happened that, you put that rubro. Okay. And what you're going to do now is, you know, you're the characteristic of the left, for example, in the case of the women, something very, very, very common,

fiat, a person to be, that's a million, that's, that's a caballierroo, whatever that means, for that person. I mean, we know, we don't we don't just you know, not you,

don't you don't you don't you don't you're not, it's a little, let's see, let's see

let's go back the column on the left of the question of so I know the characteristica

number one for example that's caballieros or you in terms in terms you're

let's let's say a one characteristic that for you for you any

it's if it's a session of therapy podcast no no

a one one one A safe, for me me important that me important that's a,

that's a a woman amable, to try to be in, to the messeros, to the gardener, to the general, amable,

amable, is what what means for you. No, you have to, amable, okay, to explain to

me to tell you to tell us, first column, this, Lupita. Lupita, what can be that amable is

from one to one, a little, being one, being five, very amable. And you you're going to,

Lupita was three. Next. It was grosser, Lupita, it was grosser, it was one. Then you

get to a a, a strellita. A stregita was, how much, yeah, that you have

you've done to callificate from one to five, that's a characteristic to the characteristica

to the back. Okay. So, so, that be a rich, no,

that's that's a little, that's, that Are you rich? No, those are those. Those are those.

That's a rich. And so you go. Yeah, that you've done. So, you detainees and let's an eye to the, to the, a, to the end

what you're doing? Who has more five, who has more ones, etc.? And so, and that's going to give a

idea of who, of these people with who had some that took more you could

you could this is to to be, to be, to be, to the ex- co-novia. It's

it, can be, it's, no, I know, yeah they're all,

well, then, then you know, you can say, let's say, let,

you're a bit, you're I'm going to you're to do that to do you know,

no, no, cancelado, doctor, cancelado, no, well, but then then,

but then, you're you, you've to be, you, that's that's

the part most interesting of the exercise. What you do you do a

one exactly exactly equal. With the same people, but the side of

the characteristics what you are going to characterize what are more important and what are more important.

That that it's a start to teach you to do things fundamental. Because Chance

Amable is very important but not is so important as as a love or be a

heart. So, carinousa would be in the first place. Ah,

okay. So, and you will be to calific and then you're

to do a count, if you can't do the final the count,

so Stargita had 25 points, no? This, Lupita took

42 points. But those points of what characteristics are, because

you can have many points, but of the characteristics less important for you. And someone that has no points, but that those points are banded, for the characteristics more important.

So that is an exercise for that I have clarity, for that the people that we know, listen, has the question of what most important for you and that you see that you see that compared to someone that has existed in your life and you, see what is the most compatible for you? So, for what... And

you can't see patterns there are very clear. That then over, that's all the people. So, for example, if you put it's generous, in the case of the women, a man generous, and resulta that everyone has been in one, so, for some reason,

you're not, that's relationing with a man, that's a rolloo-too- That's your role of your and there's a job, there's a job, too. For example, it's an alternative. At the final, what we're

doing is a map of, your map of love. Sure. Your map of the amor. Okay, perfect. And the column of mom and papa, I mean, or I I'm

because always are the reference but what I'm a question you do you know

that's a kind of generous a man, that's that's my mom, yeah and so I'm looking to my

mom to my mom for her or the papa to get to to be to be looking all

the contrary. If you have you if you've if you've the if you're a

man, let me let's say well, well, not of the better kind of

also. also you can't be that the impact that's had been it's a

it's like a photograph a selfie a photo a photograph instantia to what is happening

in your in your inconsient in your inconsient to try to make to make

what the what what is what is what you and then and you and you

and you do you go to you're you're you're because is that

the advantage of this exercise is that there's there

for where to do, Mark. Sure, sure, are your parents, are your characteristics, and

this is the result. Exactly. Not is that I think, I know, I'm imagine, no, that's what I'm

so. So, it's an exercise also, too of honesty. Sure, you know, I'm sure.

Well, we can't do a thing, for all the people that's listening, if me permitting, we're going to

create that, because much people, say, how do you know, I'm a little bit, so you

do you do you do you do you're we're 153, that is the number of this episode. Van Markoanonorregil.com, diagonal 153, and there we're going to

the discargable, or us do their correo, and they, and we send them, and we'll send them. Encan'tas, sensuism. For a, for, for us. Okay, Doctor, it's not going to be able to the textine, the thing.

The sexting. The sexting, the on. It's all right. There's people that has caused problems, and that is another, other,

other episode that I want that we'll be more ahead. But how you do the sexting? is this, this, is it,

is it, it's a bad, what you think you think of this? Like

anything other thing, the sexing is a alternative of the life

sexual of the people that you know, you know, so. So,

so, so, the image , um, we're about

about the sexting, where what we know that's the thing is that

the reason for the people were people, men, men,

men, men, men, men, That is another theme, that's another thing. No,

but we're, we're going in a in a pair of or with someone that you like a or the

people that has the the can't, the can't, he's sexte like a I'm 20. I'd

I'd say that there's a very of let, let's first we're, let's sexting,

sexting is the interchamion of the message of text. Cachondin's. Yes. photographs or videos.

Or what are? You're talking you're interchambeating with anyone you're having sex

a time in the message in in any in any media so okay you

I'd say there there's a series of that are the first is that

if you is that if you're sexed with someone we're we

never know to the phone of the other you

you have to make that of a pairha, even years of casados,

if you're not you're doing a contra of your principles or not you're doing the first you're doing,

the first you're a, a application in the that that those texts, those photos, those videos

disappear in the moment that's the conversation. Existens in those applications. For example,

the you can't enter with a clave always, if you know, the clave, no,

for suppose that the applications habitual not they're in this security

or WhatsApp or telegram or any any one of those functions. You have to find a

application. Much of them are gratuitous with the you can do you the security

is fundamental. The security should be your application, doctor. It's a brough of but yeah

I'm going to you know yeah you're you're so that you're well

and then the second is, I'm sure that never to your car.

Okay. If you, no, not you know, not you do the Sague. In other words,

the, the, the, the, that's, that's, also, it was another

thing, that's, that's another thing, but well, okay, that's not to be a

car. It's more, if you have a characteristic physical, a particular, a tattooage,

for example, assurate that's that tattooage not said. Oh, hey, Oh,

we're doing. We're talking to your security personal. No, you need to that someone publices

photos, videos, texts, texts, even if you with your husband, it's something

intimate. Assureate that's that's that's there's there's an idea of

that the people sextea with that's not a fact, I,

I, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, are in therapy, that they're

they're in the same house, so then they're one of the two starts with a text.

And the other he's with the text and then during the day, they can go like

the situation. Literally. Literally. Calentate. Calentating the orno to do the panecito.

So, so when they're in a space of liberty. Come to Yeah, yeah.

Lists, no? He's he's got dormido the chamanca, Venga, p. That,

also, has another characteristic that when you're doing in a pair of that is

that's very very and much people can make express things to say

that I don't not they would be they, not they're there.

And then there's there other exercise that can be

very is the game of roles is applied the sexting where it is a stargita

and you you are this Jose Louis if we we are to imagine us that

you are Lola La Trailer and you are you are Pachof you are

Pachof so so so so then then it

so they know Lola and Pancho and they start and

then So, no you, no you. You're Lola. How would Lola?

What would you say a Lola? And then the people discover also, like things of some

that they had reprimed and where they're the absolute liberty of being a person,

comportarse as a other person with a other people, and that they're

also very very different. Very Divertie. This game of roles we used

before the pandemic. Well, I was consulted. consult a pairjas that had like much rigidity

in your relationship. Where I was going to go to a bar, the bar more more than their house, they're going to

get each one for your side, they're going to sitar in the bar where each one is

different, Lola and Pachos not you're Jose, the executive of the bank Guara-Wara, nor you

are you are, the maester the maester of the college or superfifi.

No, no, no. So Lola and Pancho. And they're to start to get to get in the camera, no? So how you're going

to do you want to do with so it was to get to you're going to you're going you're a part of

that's a unknowingly and to seducing in the in the all of all you

and you see you're you're going to certainly to have

and they they were vesty different, to be different, and all different, and to be different. And so that was,

that was, that was a huge, and it was very liberator. Yes, super liberator. So,

so we can adapt to the technology and to sex. I did that one way, a noviya a new lady that had,

that was very, had much sense of the humor and was very creative, and we got to

a work to a New York, obvious, but we get us so we're going to we're going to

we're going to we know, and so justamety the theater was very very difficult because we're talking about and we're

and we're going to do this oh, I'm a little, we're a barrettecito and then obviously New York, New York

the pasted we're very very well so it's really, it's really the movies, they're in the series,

they're, even voluntarily the song of the pi-a-colated of the 70s, that's, so the end, then the

side, the side, the side, you can, you can't, you can't, you can't, you can't,

you can't, you can't to do you, to do you, to do you, know, so, of a problem,

no, no, no, no, no, no, have been many,

that you do you do you do it's so, so you can't, so,

today, today, today, So you're listening the podcast and you're managing or doing something with your hands that require

your attention, not you do you do you're doing more, mandalal a message coquetto to your partner in this thing.

Oye, well, it would be it would be another occasion to talk about more profoundly of the sex-in because here

you know, with this possibility of that is a, a, a tool that we can use

especially in the pandemic. There's a lot of things that can't do the time. To be

more more for a car to because we know we're going to we're going to

we're going to get to get a thing. Something that I think I'm a suggest to my

my wife's is that for example have a one day the day that be the day that's more

simple and and that day they're to run it and they're to get a meal rica

not so not that's not that they're not so they're in the so then so then

if they're in a restaurant they're an bottle of and they're

not going to not going to not be the pandemic and they can't talk of

if we're not the year or not the year or not we're in we're

about what we're about our we're going to talk about you and if you have a

time but in your house and the environment you that's

that you know that's you're you for this disposition to

be being and it can be very power for the

Parehas, too. If there are if there are to send them to send us we have to have to get them to

get them. It's. Oh, yeah. So, the last second for to give us.

Confien in that they're to start in this situation so difficult. Confian in you.

Confian in the other. This, appuels for your relation. Apuested

for her. Yes. Yes. I think we've learned a lot of

things, a lot of things important importantimas, that we still don't we can see because

we're in the way of this. But confien in what they've been done in the love that's

the love that the time. The people that's I want to have a question, I want to

follow in your Instagram that's very good. Your Instagram always put a reflections

very interesting. In where you can you can't you. Yes,

Instagram is a R. Dr. Csar Velasco with S. Facebook, Dr.

Cesar Velasco Tejay. There, all the days, all those days, sub, sub, content, uh, uh,

that's more easy, to reflection to, to, to help us, to help us, and the doctor has been months of a list of

a letter for, but of a repent of cancellations, if someone wants to, get to, uh, not to the list,

to where they can't, thank you. and thanks a question. In where they can be able to get to

find a, there, there, there, there, the, the, the

networks and I'm I'm doing to a my assistant for that you can help you let us.

He puts Dr. Velasco, my marido and you know we're going to loco, we need and we're very.

Encantado. Encantate. Much thanks, Dr. Mark, it's a great. It's a

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