El Podcast de Marco Antonio Regil - 154 - ¿Cuándo me voy o cuándo me quedo en esta relación?

Episode Date: February 17, 2021

En una relación hay mucho más allá del “y vivieron felices para siempre” y cuando se vuelve tóxica, puede ser hora de poner las cosas en una balanza y darte cuenta si vale la pena seguir adelante o es mejor decir adiós. Esta semana me acompañan dos amigas muy queridas: la Dra. Belkis Carrillo, psicoterapeuta especialista en parejas e Inger Devera, influencer y mamá, quien nos comparte parte de su proceso y su experiencia ya que en 2020 tomó la decisión de terminar su relación. ¿Qué puedes aprender? ¿Cuáles son las señales para saber si es hora de salir corriendo de una relación? ¿Cuáles son los ingredientes de una buena relación, que vale la pena mantener aún con las adversidades? Si decides irte ¿Cómo manejar el miedo y comenzar de nuevo? Sigue a la Dra. Belkis Carrilo y a Inger Devera en sus redes sociales: Dra. Belkis Carrillo: Web: psicoespacio.com Instagram: @psicoespacio Inger Devera: Instagram: @ingerdevera

When we When we start a relation romantic, it's we're a lot of our

and we're we're that we're in a life. Nobody plan we

to do a relation much about divorce us and much less if we

have family but always there some an illusion

to be that the relations are perfect and that there

no the question is when I when I want to when it

is when it Ganas and creativity and enthusiasm and this to start to get a lot of and when this is something is something I'm I'm urged to go

but not I've know when I'm go or when I get in this relationship is the episode 154 we'll start the podcast of Mark Antonio Regil is

a production of RGL Entertainment and all his rights are and all these and if I legia this episode is because that

I've lived many various times then then to me I'm a much curiosity of this thing I've I've wanted to invite two

amiss, to the first of them is my great Belkis Carrillo, to the good good Belkis carriyo, when I've been the telemundo in the program matutino in a new

day. Belkis is psychologist, is a therapist, is author of books, and now also exitosisim a coach in line because you have those courses digitales

of those that we're going to talk to the final. Belkis, to say, Malchis, my love, much more thanks for

this invitation. Feliz, happy to be here here again is creating a trade value of valuable for our followers. It's a very

that's a very, felon of this invitation. And I know that this thing you love much.

You're an apposionate of this time. You're very good. You're very good for this.

And also I've wanted to invite to a great-a- me to get to come to

podcast and you've been to come to see, Ger Devere, communicator social. She graduated of the

university andres Beyo in her natal Venezuela. It's a

influencer, is leader, is adored for the on the social with millions of

followers. It's also a mom of Miguel, of Santiago and in the year of the COVID,

oh, 2020, he was the great of a lot of a lot of a separation and with the

very known Nacho Mendoza that all we know we for his career as a music. So,

number one, you, I'd thank you the confidence Inger to be to be

20-20, how you went to 2020 in this process? right this is like surreal I live

listening to your podcast and right I'm in the podcast you're part of the podcast you're part of the podcast Look at the year the year the year

evidently was a year different for everyone and as me also it's he's

he's he's ummo to that year the separation and with children and then

it was the time of the separation the theme of the I'm in-cierro, no I could have

to anybody to have my my red of support there and my friends that me consoled that's

there's in that's that's with the time to be with the children, I'm living what I'm

living and they're doing what I was going to see what's what I'm because no we

didn't even to be to be to be to be to be able to to do you

to be in the all we all we all us all us all we can happen

but Belkis the case of Inger, to the eyes of the media of communication, where they're to start questions,

where they're in the revists, in the TV, they're doing to do you, and that's more more delicate still the

things, no? Yes, because definitely all we're when we're passing, or for a separation,

for a divorce, we have a part that we want to we're not, that's that the that's,

that, no, I know, because it even I have to think to think of the new, in what will

be going to me? with this reality, especially in the case of the case of her that's

in the case of his case of an additional that was that was a more complicated that is the

expectation of the world. Some of why not you're not you're to make you and other

to recover and you're to recover and you get to get to a level that is

like a a need a need a need to a need two hours that of

before you have to separate to a pair of many or you've got to enterer to your father,

whatever thing that's very strong and very dolorous. The people that you're around, you say, calmate, no you're where they want to give a passpillar, and you want, and that adorniscment of the emotions does make much damage. So Inger,

lamentablely, well, maybe, what you and you have been done when we've done a relation, but with that impact, of one day I have to complete the expectations of the Kulano

and another day of Mengano and other day, well, that really I'm really I'm really, I'm really, I'm really, It's complicatedissimo to do a process of duelo when you when you can't be able to be. She had

his children, she had she had she, she had her own, she had her own that technology has brought. There's many things good, but this in particular is very negative. A little, I can't understand, because when I was going to go to castes, it was

with a person of Mexico, very known-a-old, had been a, it was a noviage, a lot of public, and when turned the relation, all the world, asked to ask us, And I'm and I'm and I'm trying

to give you have to do interviews and so I'm thank you. I'm sorry to be the objective of this

podcast. No is enter us to the history of Inger or give a session public of therapy

to Inger not we we're not we're in a program this of entertainment or chismes

no, it's not is to share the experience of Inger and the experience of

Belkis as a professional for all us for us we can be

passing for this problem, how we can't do we'll doke's and what Inger knows, to help us together, because it's impossible, be, in front of, all the relations are going to have problems,

all the relations are going to have a moment in what you're going to that I'm going to, that I, I, I've got a my principal, my princess, Azul,

and yeah me is happy and all right in the way ahead, all going to be that's, that's false. That is a

That is a That is a That is a That is a Look at least I'm sure Every time Every time

I'm a lot of I'm always I'm Every time I'm the Culp is of the other the films that I've

of princesses and of Principes because no no no no

put in the idea that all all are all are all funals and we

we can maybe maybe could be maybe there's there

of that of that this, of that's not I'm saying that not I'm going to see a

final feles but it's a lot, you know see a person who see a

the final of the film but it's when they get to see the the part

of the but but but not there's there's a process that's but

always there's so there never be so I'm going to start of there

no Belkeis so is is it is is important

that is there is not well prepared to any relation. Sure.

It's that fiendt, one thing, maybe I'd think that two people are two people of two different, because we're

of the world different, of different, of other people, we've decided unes our life and live under a

same tacho. It's going to be a copply. It's will be a much work for

that combination really can't be that's what's we're just we're, we've done

that the love is that you have that you have that you have to live that year

that doesn't that doesn't that during the on the other than we've learned that we're getting casted to

until that you muret that you know that's that's the marriage that the love all you can't so we're

not we're not having education positive with respect to the class here I'm here I'd say to

I'm to make to me to create you're at common I'm a I'm you're gonna

you get a my life with your and you need to never be able to work much

I'd I'm to be you're going to with my with my, I'd have my

life, so, well, I'd to eat to eat to eat I'm going,

I'd get to be what you what's what you do you know, we're

we're doing we're we're we're to start our own, because you and I

came to different and we we're different, we're we're going to we're

we're not we're not to us not we're to get to we're we're just that we're

you you're you have to you have you have you always I always say I think I'm going to do you

every a relationship that's a real thing that you know I'm a problem I'm like I'm like

like a lack of education as far as the relationships like I'm we're we're much in comikitas we're

much in Disney and we think we're much that we're much that's really there's a there's not

people who can't because no can't serve like a problem. There are certain values that we have in common, and when the quantity of values that we have

different, exceed, the quantity of values that we have we in common, it's very cost-arriva, to get, because are your creences that you have, like, like, from, from, from, from, from,

certain, so, then to get to, to find a, someone who has completely opuces to those tues, it makes a difficult to get that

a quarter. No, I don't think, that's, with an accompaniment of a, a, a, that's

a, to help us superar that's, but I think yeah, the good to first to

get to get a lot of people, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm,

sure, so the first, what I'm clear, is that has a vaccine,

to be the syndrome, the virus of the you should, is put to a vaccine

to do a good communication from when you you're to get, to get,

and they're a they're best and that's a lot of the chemica and Wichimiri

and Wachistroki and they they're getting some revocated in the grass in the past or the sacate but it's

always always that one that one comes a boy and the other is vegan so if if they're to get together

together and say okay I go to rescat pollos and you you're going to

you're you're going to you're you're going to if we can't if we can't we can't we make

but we we're we're just we're we're has to be my, has been my,

has been my oh, my dear Belkis, tell me, if I'm in the correct, secretly, secretly,

we have, we have the plan malevolo of that I'm going to change. I'm going to, let that this corpecett

be me and that's the case and the I'm going to be a vegan, or I'm going to get the poeo to

get the poeo to the cold, the I'm going to doxico, I'm going to do you, I'm going to

And definitively, and this also comes of this culture, of apagar the emotions, no, of not, to not respect what really we're really because, fiatte, I have

many cases in consults of persons that can't, where one wants and the other person no, okay? And, and clearly,

the person that doesn't want to have my liberty, I don't want my liberty, I don't want responsibilities, and I,

and I, you know, who are my mother, we know, we're a job 24-7, and that's a responsibility that we're

that we're with much love, but it's responsibility, while the other person a fantasy to to have the baby? What's the

thing? Why do you? Why are you in a car, why are you in a question? Because they're in when they're

in the suetement enamorated, the one of the other, and that's not that's and I'm a respect.

And I always say to these pariah, when you convince to your partner to have a child, when he

didn't want, or she not wanted, you're going to make sure the resentment of your person, and the

resentment is the base of the divorce. Why? Because I don't I can't love and resentir

a same person. I don't give you orgasm and and felicity and give pleasure if I resiento things to be.

So, all what we does a person is when I insist in convincing to make

manipulation to have to get to get to get to we need to understand that even

that even that even even the major, the major act of love that you can't

to that person is to respect who is, accepter who is. And if that is

acceptation, you can build a relationship a relationship but if you know, you know,

to go to other person who want to have a child, I'm in my

book, I'm in my book, I'm, I'm, the good love that's in the

thing, that's that the two those two opposed are, so that

are between two people that are that they are that's because of

those the people of those posts I'm not if they're I don't know if they're

they're in they're in them to be in them to be in them to be doing that you have seen in the practice professional,

I've been able to so no you know you're not a person diametral and post and

remember and recognize that good love is going to a person with a person with

who can you can't share with you can't have a good

if you no doesn't change to nachio, Nacho, Nach, he quix to change to you.

But I think that's that we're in the stories that we've heard of the question that's the story,

you know, you know, you're going to get to the sapo because you get to the little, yeah,

because you have to be a story of the bea and the bestia, that be it, yeah, the bea,

and now, I'm sure, that's a great, I'm going, but what I'm being the bela, the bella,

the bela, not, I didn't, that bestia, I mean, different, it was a little. Then then I don't

like that movie, because it's really, and there's there's a whole, a story

of a other, to make it to make it. And I'm a question to make you, it's a

fact of respect. That's the that's not, obviously, but in my case, I said, I,

I, so, I, my world is more little. It's more little, it's more

beautiful to live as like I live, but that's my idea. So, his idea

of the world is completely different to the But I insisting in that little to a little, he was to be able to be how

beautiful, and then so, he was he was to care to live a my manner, and not is good. And I was the that I made the

error of think that the things could be different for think that the love is magical, the love all can,

the love all the love, my idea was very romantic, but, but the other other side, you know,

you know, you're doing, you know, you know, the other other side you know, I'm

really, I'm really, I'm really, because I'm going to be to get to this chica with a child

with a car to do a family conservative, a very traditional, very catholic, very, very,

of the regals very specific with those which I was doing a effort for doing a thing she

transform, in the in the she, in the she was she was she was, she was,

I was, I was, I was, I thought, I was that it's good, is that is hermosa

is a good woman will be a good mom will be a lot I saw her I'm really so I'm really so I'm so I'm

so I'm so I'm not so I'm so so I'm more religious I'm also I'm also Belkechie we've been

we've been we've been we've been we've been I'm talking and what I'm doing was doing was just

I'm doing so I'm doing and respectuoso with me myself I'm I'm saying well in pro of this

a little bit, the story bonita, the final felon, and to the final is to be able to be your biggit, is to be his wife, to be, that's, for me is the final happy, no?

And, and the, you know, part of the error is that you see a person, is that is a grand person, and that's a grand person, no, that's, that is the point, no, Belkis?

Look, there, there's a little bit that I heard about, and you'd hear you, and I'd hear you, and I was just, there was a lot of the risa that I'm just, there's there, there's for the people

that are you can't identify there, there is a process in the what I'm, I'm in a relation, and I'm going to to try to adapt to

something to me, my my body, my mind, but I think so well, but it's so good, I want that story, I want that casita,

I want that person, will be excellent father, will be excellent mother, and I I'm trying to make a real to me because I'm to adopt

a comportment and creencers that are my own to be in my own. I'm going to get to

get a restentiment in my body and I am a transformation of the which they're so yeah,

but Belgi was so that was that all the day and that's it was a man,

it was a man, it's a lot of and then it's a car you know and you know, and

you know he's so, because I'm so much occupied in act, can occupied in resisting to

to be who that's a require an energy. So I don't have energy to be able to talk, energy to be energy

to make, energy, to do you, and a minute that I go and going to that more version of me

amalgated, a little sex, cally, frustrated, when that process does that do much time, I've become

in a woman marchita, in a woman that's a woman that you don't see so, you know,

does the more, it's the more, it's that's the explore and

and then it's my paris to be to be a part of the last, because I don't to be a

person attractive, because being to be with the physical, it has to be my state of

energy, with my state emotional, with my feelings, with my desire to

make me, with my desire, to be and that that I'm when I'm when I'm

when I'm to make you to be the when I'm to be you're just when I'm I'm going,

I'm going to another. And I think, but what what's all my life

if I changed for you. It's that is what you got to

you in the bestia agarando the example of the person

out of you did you the light you're you're you

you're much so never is good business it's good to be

to be to be that you don't when you when you when you say

when you resona with me and I think I never see like

for that not not for that our to keep to keep to keep that's

in the way and that we're in harmony so I said I I'm

I said I said okay the relations we have in some

one I suppose that's so I'm to talk about you have to

have to negotiate and yeah to negotiate and and

well I I know I'm well but what What important if I don't do

to do this, what's, more valuable is this that I'm doing what I'm doing. What can import that I'm no,

no, no, we know, we're doing, this is in pro of the project and so, but I'm,

maybe they're saying, but I'm, little, like I was saying, well, this,

this will be to do the things better, and the story of the houseita. My quote was the

story of the kind of important like this, probably probably when when you did you feel,

sexy, bonita, intelligent, exitosa. So, we're a gallows of the gullas

the eggina of and we're going to keep having the fruptune. No, it's not because

who was that Inger, who had I trago, and when I was retelling, is reten,

is retelling to the woman, is to that the question of the casita felis

that I was, is retener what I I'm to me, to the little

that I what I'm I always see that that woman that you were and that negotiated to be able to make the principle of the

end. Totally. It's what I want that all the people who listen and they understand. And not only

just the women who are not to not to not get to not get to get to die, but the women that

are listening that with the men who are the chelos of the macho we're not even to make us or also a

woman and salo then a woman Mark, oh, I've had been a woman me says,

I am to play softball, or I am to manage a bicycle at those dominoes or I'm my reunion

with my four friends, my four panas, as we say in Venezuela, and I

have to do you do it because a woman not a car, a racquet,

a racquet of tennis, a batte of baseball, can start to make a men for someone

because it's insecure, and there is this first this first part of the

that is, you know, to matter of that that's a matter. Exactly. Any

characteristic that's you, I remember that in the moment, I'm not a moment, I'm not much

part of my personality, yeah, I had I had I'm to make a a bit of a lot of

because my career is a problem and you, you know, those things that are things that

sometimes, but then we're a pauseita. What we can't more clear of this segment is something that for that the

realer love is a great love the realtta and it's a lot of you have a

relationship to do you you're going to be a person to get your your essence and you you're going to

get to get to that that's a dream that we we're going of the family perfecta

of the relationship that is the the need to know of and a other

thing is that a reason that sometimes that sometimes that that that's the

to have a person or that that's a way to we need we're going to we're going to let us

but we're going to in the next segment I want to we go and when I get to

because how how to know, because I when I tron in my relation, I remember

that we're we're just we're just we're for always and I'm and I'm this is horrible

and she's this is horrible. And she we're that's not so much how to be when we're when we're

talking about when we're just just about as us and we're because we've because we've got that's all and we we'll get

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we'll be able to the podcast. I'm going or me I'm going or I Kedo in this is the question I'm a quote that I never could be able to

I'm doing the back I'm going to do you I'm going I'm going to that's a that's a that you know

no no no but this this is that this is not not for her not for me how we how do we

see you know how do we see what are the signs clear as whether I'm and get me and get me

and ever if Inger also you know a bit of your that passed no-night and

nother I'm going to let me have to let me have to last when you said, I said a fear of

and the humor is something that I'm that's a thing that's an echo when you think you

you're you're really you're really you're you're you're in the person incorrect

okay? Because your your essence is what you are what you do you do you do you

the people people think that's that they're that's that's I have to get here because with him, my house, with him, I've had my

children, with him, I'm cased in a superboda. And really what we do do our people are the little things, the cafe of the morning, the risa for this, the chiste that you always you always put in the day.

So when you see it, when you're saying, is the first signal importantism of that you are with the person equivocated. Two, when the culp gets, and for

us the psychologists, the culp is when I feel that I'm doing unjust with when a person to some kind of you know, or not I'm

doing it's making, or not I'm doing what I'm doing, in a way. You feel like that you're just a or in some moment of the day,

much times, with much frequency, the culp is another indicator very powerful of that you're in the relation equivocated.

Three, when your potential as a person human, exitoso, is, when it's,

no, you know, you're doing, when you do you're when you're a lot of your time, you're

a manned, you're in the person equivocated, and it's a good moment to, you know,

because, to be, because if you're a marco, my career, I mean, really,

you know, the middle of my life, I'm, I'm a passionate with this,

I'm all the time I'm doing , I'm doing, I'm attending to someone. So if you

am, how is that you do you want to do you want to do do you know to do you. Sure,

I think I'm going with respect to the problem, that the problem, that's the

same thing, that's the same thing but with me. I mean, not, to him, but I'm,

it, but I'm, not that's so much, so I'm so, you know, I'm okay

yeah, so you're saying, fear, I, guilt, of being, limitations professional and

and of success of being basically when you you don't you feel you're not it's

hour of you're going to so that we can't understand of the national that we're so when you

when you say you say what carrizo do I do I'm what I'm to do

do you to be here that you you don't get to your car is the moment of

moving to sit Oh, but if you mean, or to look at a or to look at a doctor of your church or go to an psychiatrist, a psychologist,

or is your best friend or a friend who has a marriage, or a woman who has to be to look at another point of

view and to get to get to the car of that mal-relation that you think. I think it's

super complicated the moment this of to make the decision because in my

case, I said, well, I was going, and, and as B.K.

I'm I would be able to go to the resources. We, in some moment, we recurrent to therapy of a pair. We did, we've, we've done, we did some more that the people say, no, it's that there's

there's a, there's a, no, we don't, no, we don't, no, we know the same way, but if there's, some type of project in common,

and then, we, we, we, we, the forms of, the, of, the form of, the decision final, no? But, like, you said, in what

one, one, one, but then, but then, for whatever, is that I go to, yeah, I'm,

I see I feel there are like things things very important that are the that are the

problem and that are when one has when one has to make the decision because there's that we're

that we're obviously always I think that's that's the professional is the the way

to go because that one can't have a one you think you think you're the reason

and the other think that they you're the other doesn't yeah so can't

yeah so spiritual, if they're going to the church to the church, if they go to the psychologist, if they're going to the psychologist, and always to, uh,

a, one, a, one, a, one, a, one, a, one, you can't think that's, and this, this, this,

this, it's, that's true, not, not, you know, when you have, if I have a, problem in my car,

and yeah, the motor no, or it's, and I, you, I'll, go, well, well, so, I'm,

so, I, I, I, I, I, I'm, no, I, I'm, I'm,

I'm going to and it's I'm I'm going to and here. There's there. A good

a professional to do you do a I'm a cliente professional of professionals. So I've

done all types of therapies. So, I'm going to talk. A sometimes, a

sometimes, all those people are you're doing you, that no you can't be you,

that's a relationship that's toxic that you not you do you sometimes then you don't

to make to be a other person. Because it comes a

well it's well, I don't I don't do you know I'm doing this you know you know this,

you know you know and you're like to correlate to be able to you're playing a headress to be who

who gets more space to get a time. And then all those people all the people do they

all the family it's a person who all they all know only you know you you know

but you you do you know because because there because there because a one of the

things that you sex, the kuchy, kuchy, so pegged some revocados terrible, the call

a paloma of the pass, as a man, and it's, and it's, and it's, and it's, the thing,

then in the camera, well, is the maximum, but no more, not the more, the passion,

and it's a circle of course. A-pocos. A relation of a pair has three three steps, and the

important is that the three occur at the way. Good sexo, good communication, and projects in common.

That you're describing is, yeah no me communicable with this person, no want to not even to be able to

talk. I don't have any project in common with her or with her, but in the camera

not chever. That's is being a manned. And it would be that in a lot of

we'd understand that only we only we just we're that the other two paths of

the mess vital and important, that has good communication and be good and be

common and be social and are not exist. Okay? Because, a bit in psychology,

we're saying something about with respect to what I'm about that we're talking about for much

things, there's much there's much there's important. The intensity and the frequency.

All the relations have retos, but if the intensity of those are

when they're highissima and the frequency is constant we, we're in the

place we're in the place. So, and here here I

I would say, like those two ways. Number one, we're discussing or we're with a lot of, with much

things, with much intensity and much frequency, oh-ho, we're going to be the separation. Two,

only we we're going to find out of these three areas, because there's a person who's that's a

good sex and it's a lot of people, but I have attended to me say, is, is my friend, is, that

we're doing that's, that they're just, so, so, they're just, so, they're in projects.

As I have a pairas that they're saying, no we're sex, no we're not we're we're

but we're cars, cars, businesses, businesses, then they're they're they're

what they're seeing, when you want you want to you're in a relationship,

you have to have the three at the best. The three have to functionar

and and there to look if those differences not not not not

a frequency of discussions because that will be also also another alarm

to know when to go out, okay? Ammates, or that's or that the intensity and the frequency are very high. Amantes,

amososos. Ammants? Repet it. That's like, so, you know, has been, you've been said,

amtes, amyos, and socius. If only we're just, we're going sex and the we're very

in the camera, we're if we're we're not, we're not, we're not, we're not we're,

and if we're people, we're, and we're people, we're, we're, we're social,

Okay? So what happens if we're We're doing sex and we have even children in common, but never we're talking. We're not a socios that we're super-dick in the camera. What happens if we're going to be in the camera and we're about all, but my

money is my money is your, you know I don't want to have a child, you if you're going to get a house, you want to come, that we're not ones that we're we're revocamos in the camera. But we're not a pair of because it's a third part. So have to have

the combination has to functioned the three areas to be in a relationship. If you know, there's a

way to be to the separation. Why not I know Belkis when I was 14 years? No,

because I didn't know did that when I was 14 years. No, because me had done that

training, that's the trainingment and me had arra many problems. To do you to all the

world, to, you, you, you, you, you, you,

you, you, you, of the frequency. And I feel that there is something that is this

this gotita that's that's a intense but that is constant and that is imperceptible when we're

in the relationship, that's something that's something that's going to and in this case, what I said

to per me myself, is something that I see one of the I mean when I'm looking to

see back I'm caramba, how, how, if I try to say, how was

that I get to get to get to I, I don't, no, I'm not able

to there, this, this thing that's, I think, that's, that's,

is the part psychological, what is going to and that there's people,

and I know, so, so I, the, but some that one person,

maybe is more more more mentally, and with the words,

and, that not necessarily are words of insults, no words or words dolorousas,

but what are you do some way you do you do you know, and at least you knowces when you know when you

know when you say, Marco, right my people, me say, right, is that you

can be you you're all of colors and you were like gris, is that you did you do you do

and you, and I, in the moment if I regress and I said, but I was in pro of me

I mean me was like logical to do it. I thought that was good, to continue for there, but right I see that not is so, I don't think so. My form of my values are other are totally different.

I want to say, for those people, because that's a, well, it's a typical and very important, that you've got to say, and is because you entered to that relation and your focus of being an attractive, attractive, intellectually, and being able to be able to

change, it's like to, it's like, arregglar the focus of the camera, now the focus in permanence together and diegit together

so the woman, in this case you, entrusted in the relation and changed the

focus of your camera and you're enfocated when we have got when we're doing you

in the day to day okay where you when you you're because basically

it's because basically it's and you're the process to get to get to that that

No has to be with him, no has to be with that other person is a strong or devil, no has to be with manipulation. A me

to look to see it from my patients from the point of view of the point of that he said, I'm going to be

to behecese with this man and get to get to get to our niect. So, then what you

can be a focus, you can't the image. Okay? Think in one of a camera.

In what you do you change in what you change what you have to see. And I get clear

one more the a lealted to you to me is the most important is the is the

is the principle if you're if you're not you like you like you like you

like you right right exactly exactly exactly exactly not you not you

don't to honor the you know you you're you're going to you're you're going to

ask you I'm if I'm my hobbies and I'm what I'm happy maybe

let's or do or do you or do you see what that I mean I'm

me do and I'm going to to ask someone. So, I'm going to ask you to do a little bit of a person. And at the more

there's the part also to communicate to say, look, for me, to do you to make photos or to go and

the motor or whatever. So, so is very important. And so, if I'm a question,

to start, we're going to make a pause, if in a relationship, I'm, I'm, I'm,

if I'm, if I'm, I'm, if there's, if there's a, if there's a misstat, if there's,

I'm and we're having the of the problem of the essence, the essence is

that is that it's the essence is that when we're going to be able to the two to ask you to what is what

what is what is what is the because this is one of the one of the same point but you know

but laterers take courses in line has time he's he's it's it's

and the other the other the other or the other the other the other the other is

the the same place. And I'm going to do you do you. It's that you do you.

So, how, how we do we're when one crees and when another no crees? And also in the last segment, I see, we'll

we'll get to talk about the need, because a lot of the thing is what you do not to make the decision, no?

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you grow apart. In Spanish, no has a so that so marre too, but it would if not

they're not, because we're always we're we're changing. What is when a

part of a part of, that is very common, compromittism with your personal, and it's

and he's and he's be a victim and learn to be to be to be to care and learn and he's

a better and he's a person more conscious more compasive and the other person is a schoolita

traditional of the 1950 where no the love is celos and pletos and coraches

and possession and you are my and you're not you're to be a question you see that

the concept of a parenta the we're the we're in the sexology is that

is what is what between two persons that are at a par. So, for I to be a pair of someone, I go and I'm a try to a person that's at the par of my life, of my own, of my own, the tourno, of my expectations.

When I'm going to grow and the other person no does, it's a space in the which, some of the three papas that we've talked about before, because it's a period, because it's or communication or admiration or the capacity to have projects in common, I, as a sexologist,

I'm going to every you want to most you want to your life, more you're more calientas to your

paris. Because you see it. Again, that's, that it that he's, that he

repita, that's, how? How? How? How? How? You're just,

you're more you do you, more calientas to your family in the camera, because a

person that a person that is a person that is a person that ira to power and the power

is a High-Ment erotic, okay? Then we have to understand that that she's going to that's with with his own self-esteem,

that you have been abandoned that you grew, well, it's just to be the person that you not

you know, you know, you know, you know, and you say, but what's what you know, and

you're going to you start, when you're to your level of conscience is expand, you're going to bring

to people that you. So, you have a a lot of people that when you're to get a lot. When you're in your house, you're a gray or the gris in the house. So, no tequila when the relation is wrong. A relation

of a pair is a relation between two persons that are at the par. You need to be that vincal, from the exit, from the prosperity, from the auto-realization in all the areas. And to be together, what you said right? I see more from the crescent

that's the market, that's more spiritual and more of conscience and more of this, because we're for example, in my relation, we had roles like being marked I was the, I was the,

the, that was the people were the, he was the, he was, he was, his, his,

his, his, so, so, I've been, I'm, I'm, I'm,

also, I like the about the thing, the creation, personal, and the creation,

and then I, I'd say, look, what I'm, this will be, that's going to educate, so,

so, and I'm, so, and I I know that there an intent of his part, too,

for, for to understand that I was going, but as I said, we're we're

in the places that it was super difficult that's, that's that's that's

that's from us. So, from the right, there's the space that's the

difference. You're you? You've got a maraud, you've, you know,

with what you're, with what you talk about, of this of the I always I'm very

to think, you know, to put them to put in to be inal the things because I'm when you're

to get to get to get the emotions the intelligence would be to be a other other side.

So when I was much emotional, then I had to to be to be going to

the question and I'm the question that you at the first, because I know,

I'm sorry, I was I was there was a that no quadrava there. That's

that was that was there something here that not I'm saying and I said, I'm saying,

I'm saying, I'm going to you're going to so. It's that you're listening Blancanneves. You know,

you'd have heard of Frozen, Frozen, be Frozen, for favor. No, Blankeyeves,

no. Frozen. Moulan, right. Right. Oh, no. Anna,

also. So, so I, I put in the balance. I said, because I'm here.

I'm here because I don't, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm not I'm not

this. Okay, no, no, is this. I'm here because me'd have fear that my father. No, I'm I'm going to

my mom and I'm not I'm not that idea of that not going to be doing like discarding to be the

that was the correct. And so, and I said, no, but is that I'm that I'm and I'm inamored

and I'm in I'm going to but I'm again again to talk to the time to say Belke is that you

that's the thing, ah, the little the poe, that I didn't put in any other

side and and I'd and then I'm saying that's the other exactly that's what I'm saying. exactly. what's what I'm saying,

what I'm saying, that's not going to separate. and when there's space, and then it's inevitably, I'm going to be able to. I'm here. And there's going to go. And I'm going to go.

But that's the third person could be the that you left to go. I mean, I'm going to enter another person completely different

that's a different that's a moment. So, when, when entered my was I, I was that

did, okay, no, no, no, it's not, it's not, I'm, I'm,

I'm, when I'm, when you're, when you're, when you're, you're, that's a part of a,

that's a question, that we're to be a catate Because when we're talking about to the crescent, and I talk of elevar your level of

conscience, that is just will be possible when when you're to find out of who you're really with your essence, with what

you do you make, with what you make to feel with what you make a better person, that's that

expand your capacity to be a human, to connect to connect to and when we're not

when we're doing when we're the stress that generates not we not we don't know

reconnected with us. For example, in question of the question of the question horrible and I

still generating the theme of the same I'd think he grew up that he had a

question, because that's that's a that's a thing of a carnicola of the prehistory but

but fission your see, you're your desire to all to do that he grew

and that no exists. No exists. That's no I don't have why

when And not it Not and it's Humanity not possible No No it's No it's possible

To let it To live it To the operative If no Why? I don't I don't have To be

To be To make If the person No no And that You can't No can't No can't

No, I Can't I'm So I'm Withing So, Well, Well,

Well, Well, well, Yeah, And so Well, you We're We're

We're And the And the And the the machism is another podcast complete, but I just say just a little bit more a thing, put much attention. You're you, you're a mom,

so good and so much with Michael, with Santiago, with Mattias, for not create new men's machos. Yeah, for no sense. I'm, I'm, I've taken to learn to not be macho, but the that she knew to

be celoso, the that I was about about the women, the, the, that me metia super machistas, well, was my mamita adorada,

that's not, that's true, that's, that's, that's, that's true, that's, and suffered of and violence family.

And it was a woman superada, that never, never would have permitted, yeah, when I was

never had permitted a macho in his life. But, but in him too, me ducco,

celos. So, there's, there, there, have to have, there,

but one that we're, a way, we're, not I'm not not I'm, not I'm know,

I'm not me, I'm afraid, to be the hours, no, I'm sure, I'm,

I'm a thing, I'm a relationship, or at the more I'm I'm also I'm toxic.

Total that this no function. One of us is growing more than the other. Yeah, we're doing we're doing,

this is not not function. Sin embargo, me I'm here for the fear. Mied to be to not have

money, MED to get to my kids. If I'm going to say to the cause,

if I'm to get to sacrifice me to make me to make to make a not to another

Parenthood to my I'm, I know that my is for me, so I of someone more, that

someone more he'd be those in the those little those dead on the feet. No, those

those dead are no. No say, what that's no say, or in the cod, in the head, in the

mouth, in the, in the, in the, so, it's a fear. I know,

I know, I don't know, no, I don't know, no, so, but in my case,

I, when, when I took the decision, maybe the maybe those those was I

thought, in some when the time when the decision, no

I don't think of nothing. Yeah. It was like, and the fears maybe were more the end of the decision, now what?

Now, how I'm going to to resolve this? How will you to do this? And I think are the most all the

time, no? I, I'm going to be a time, now how I'm going to do to do you

to have to be a time? I'm very positive and I think much in my capacities and

I'm that in some that I'm could be to be to be able to to be but

I'm going to see that not the see that it you know the end up the life and I can't

what you're what you're what do you do this think you the fear of the need is a

emotion that basically is a that's that's necessary no I think that nobody has to

care that they're that they're that they're what we're we need to what things

we need because the people are because the people are I'm doing something I'm

Because, I mean, a video class that's a name, I'm not a good, I'm going or me I'm going, just the question of the video class.

I'll tell you tell the person is the next. The need, you have to use it as a motor to make a list,

lap, and make a piece, and start to look at what you need to do you have because the

contrary to the need, not is the valentia. The contrary to the knowledge is the knowledge.

The only form of being valiant is to acquire know. If I have myed ski and I take classes of ski,

I'm going to go to get a mountain above and feel like. If I have fear of public and I'm classes of oratoria,

I'm going to to be able to be able to start in a scenario, what it means that for I to get to

feel more, I need to where I'm doing it's a place to do my need to so I'm so those

those fears, which are the typical what I think to say, I think you're what I did you,

what I said you, I probably you, I those I work one-a-one and what I do with the

patient or with the client in that moment okay I'm afraid to not not to make me

only to my little to immediately we're a menace that is a thing that

can be real or no 50 to 50-50 and we've we've a list

of possible alternatives all that's all that we're all what could

happen that it can't be ruined completely the the

with my kids. But it can't that I know to make a Marko

and Mark me help because I'm working and I'm that you know

to get a house of my mom for now a few and he and he

and I start to be a can be it can be it can be what I

say to the people that's we're going to we're going to

our plasticity cerebral we we're we these these these

we're to mount us on the we we but if it's necessary, what's the

you occur that I can do? Because at times we're in our case, we're in our case, and we're that we're going to

start with a human that's to reconstructing your life to an essay and error, Mark, because you know what happens,

we're much times, we're in paralysis, for analysis., with Larita, we're in the essay and error. Because when we're not going to divorceeamos, what's the day after to take the decision is to make us cargo of us

with all what that is that is so, health, money, casa, a good, it's abrumator. Entient. For that you need to

get to get to the head in lapis and paper. But to work every need, I always would recommender this to the people. Agarra,

paper and lapis and anode all the fears that you're all right. And then get them an antidote. Okay? Like when we know that if I'm a gripe, me tome, I'm a Tylenol. If I'm a dolor of the barriced, me take a rannitina. Okay.

We're going to look at a posima, a strategy for each one of those fears. But I don't have no, I'm not to do you, call my friends. We need to be, we need to get to be able to I think of fear, not the day of the jant,

I'm trying to do with you. Sure. I feel that it's difficult when one has different when one has many I don't know how much time would be able to be a stasis and of stances

of emotions revoked but as as, pretend not to think it's, it's logical. It's a process. To be, it's the real.

That's the rationality. so fast. Sure. Fiatte to divorce you is basically

separate to get to be able to divorce you're is separate to

you know you so it should be a celebration so we're

not we have no we're in the veins in the veins

we're we're we we're we we're to come we're

we're we're used we're to be in our family to the celebration

to restaurant. That is going to need to need to get a time to get us but the form

is think in the future. Not in the past. Not in what we did we did it. It's from

it's where there's where there's a professional, definitely. No, because you're going to

because you're where you're saying where you're where you're saying, where you're don't get those those can't get those

I don't have no, I don't have any the tap the tap the tap I don't have a tap and if you

And if you Cahes in that If you guys in that you're going to No my my amor you're extraadio

Pegra Pegam but no me behes No Nostalgia Yeah That's

That me One A phrase that I think was the that me

did that that change of the of the state mental

to to think that yeah it's all my life

no I'm all I'm in the last on the last

a one one phrase that I read in a book, even a book of Tony Robbins, that said, that you can't decide to take the situation that's going,

like the final or like the principle of something. And I was in the final. For me, all is it had been all,

yeah, and like, no, no, no, I don't know, I was not,

I was, that, that impulse to be, to start to think, like I would have been

in another, in other moment, because I was in the final. I felt that yeah, that no more

nothing to do that's and I remember I'm in the traffic so, I'm in the little car

parable and I saw that and I'm yeah obviously the houseita like I had the

story that I had in mind that it's but now I have the opportunity to write

a story different now now I can't have a first

so I'm so I started to build in function of this

principle and I can be very to be a mom that was creating to his children

and I could then look at and I was like a realto a matter of me myself that I could be independent economically and that

also could be to be with my kids and that also could be doing the activities that I liked and then I'm

completely not was that I was that I did I'm in the night to the morning but I had a lot

more intense at the final of the tunnel. I knew that was that didn't not the

not they didn't the moment but this made us on a point with more

intensity of that that's a focus, not to know, not a final, but it's

a problem, then those those fears there's the time, the time,

we're going to be this, we're a lot about, it's very interesting,

and I like, so it's, so, so we're , three things, where I

know, so I'm , I'm gonna, Belkis, you did you talk, let's,

let's, let's, let's, let's, you, you, if I'm, That is one.

If I know, if I'm going. What other? What other? So, I'm afraid of being, I'm sorry. If I'm going to read to carcathas and me rive like, because I don't like to you, me ria to carcathas, I'm in the place incorrect. Exactly.

I'd go to put in a balance, no, the, that, I'm so much I'm so I'm, and with that much frequency, me feel very, I, with how much frequency,

me feel miserable, and me feel too, and I'd want to change the things. Because when I think we're going to to change too what is our

around, we're not we're not going to not much we're in a reflection. To be a

person to all the men, casasasas and mal-cassas that we're talking about a novel

you're a man-cassad but mal-cassad but mal-cassad and mal-cassad the majority of us when they're

in a relation of a that doesn't feel like and that makes infelis and that we can't our

we can't our of that we're we're going to get there to give us to give us our life to

give us this style of life, this style of this school, this rope, these voyages. I'm going to

propose that vision. The day that I decided, and that I decided to divorce me, and that

I decided to do I'm doing to do this work, I do I'm, I decided that I'm not I'm

not I'm not I'm not I'm not I'm not I'm I want to give us I want to

give me. I want to give me experiences that I never lived. I don't want to

to give them things. I want to do you never learned and that I learned now after I'm

after I'm after I'm divorcee so you don't get in for things your son your son

you never to remember what you you're you're you're you're you're going to

you're you're how you you're so you so we're to change things

and for you never did you never to do you do you don't

do you don't don't even for the the story of the family, that the children have to grow with with mom,

because if we're in a relation that not we're in a real, that we're not not, not, not does it's free, then we're going to try to make them

and they're going to continue to our story, because they're going to think that that is the form correct to Amar and that is the

model that they have to have more ahead. And I think that's one of the most of the most great that we can

do some of the people to do us, for them exactly. Exactly. Mostarles to look

for your Felicidad and that you are the priority is an example very beautiful. And that's, no, it's egoism,

nor is egolatria, but it's, it's, to be really, genuinely, genuinely to marr, and from it, and

from us to to your kids. So, so I'm thank you, much much, my dear, Inger,

thanks for having, talked with us, I'm the last time that's in the podcast.

Thank you, Mark. Also, and you it's all time, me does just,

thank you, I'm while I'm Lave, I'm trying to I'm listening. I'm going to love to lavap

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