El Podcast de Marco Antonio Regil - 268 - Cómo sanar las heridas emocionales de la infancia - Anamar Orihuela

Episode Date: May 1, 2023

Las experiencias que tenemos cuando somos niños pueden impactar en todas las áreas de nuestra vida adulta. Para ayudarnos a descubrir y sanar las heridas de nuestro niño interior, llega por primera vez al podcast la psicoterapeuta Anamar Orihuela.Tu mente, puede contarte historias cuando estás en el camino de sanar tus heridas de la infancia. Aprende a lograr que tu mente sea tu amiga en mi clase gratis 👉: https:/marcoantonioregil.com/mente-podSígueme en:Telegram: marcoantonioregil.com/telegramPractica todo lo que aprendiste esta semana en Del Podcast a tu Vida. Descarga GRATIS la revista digital que te ayudará a lograrlo. Da click en https://marcoantonioregil.com/aprendamos Sigue a Anamar Orihuela en:Instagram: @anamar.orihuelaConoce más sobre sus cursos y talleres en: https://academiaanamarorihuela.com*Importante: Nuestros invitados son expertos en sus temas y reflejan su conocimiento y su punto de vista, siendo conscientes de que cada una de las opiniones es totalmente personal. La información, datos, comentarios, estadísticas que se presenten en el Podcast de Marco Antonio Regil, son de exclusiva responsabilidad de quienes las emiten y no representan, necesariamente, el pensamiento de Marco Antonio Regil o de la producción del podcast.

Tuavi, the major The buyer of of a vivienda in Mexico, presenta. The dolor no has, no has to

have to be with the code postal, no has to have been if you've got to be with negligence,

it has to be a good a little of love, but without limits and structure, it's a

cause. It's a disaster, clear. You're to do you do it's, all the

money, all the money, all the all the money, to me not to me don't to do you to do you

to do it to do And then I do and you do and you do and then I'm and then I'm and then I'm an act of

a violence against that the time the first is the infancy there we're we're so we're so

we're so necessities and they're so set on the basis of what we're to do that but also our life

do we're let us know to do you know to your that you're that's a woman that today

the father and the mother, you. All, we've heard about this thing of this thing,

of the time, that we're our little little, that's that's still live with us

within us. And when that's a child, that's that's in we're not,

we're that's can be manifestating in our relations of love, of the

work, of the business, of the business, of the money, is that

they're in all the aspects of our life, and if not the not we

can make much of a year. So, this episode we're going to dedicate to understand and know what is this concept of our new year or a new interior, but over all to understand how,

practically, in form very simple, we can start to sanar a pass to a pacito. We're in the Hermosa, Guadalajara, Jalisco, with our students and alumni of our courses, here in the Hotel Fiesta Inn. It's the episode of 268.

Come on. Production of RGL Entertainment, and All their rights are reserved Annamar Origuela is psychotherapist international,

with more of 20 years of experience and helping us to help us and then to find out of the method era,

whose objective is to give us a route clear of the new and the person of the manoromian

origuela is in the podcast here we're in Guadalajara Guadalajara receiving Anamar welcome

how you thank you thank you. Feliz, happy to to be able to share to share

to be in our little bit of your how is your your new? Emotionated yeah, yeah,

she's always come with me and she is the part more intuitive and and sensorial

of me so I hope that I'm going to be able in this podcast. You have

dedicated many to your new new interior? Yes, it's is the

fact, it said, it's the a voyage of my life. In books? Yes,

I think never, I'm never thought I'm never thought I'm going to not studied thinking in that I'm

a writer, I'm really I'm a person and and from that you know when one encounter a

real real life and from the desire is that I have become in a clear, and I'm

imagine you that your need to let's talk to what is the the new

the new or the child, in what we're affect, so when we don't

know how can't be able to start when you're present in our life

and over the focus of this episode is the sanation. Right. Connocer to

to sanar. But I imagine that you have had done you've had

had been had been your inner inner other other not you have

to be to write to talk to to talk to to

see. Yes, so yes, since this necessity of

sanation I was a a new year, third daughter, the third

kids, almost we're going to therapy. Uh-huh. Because the kids we're in

the real thing that family. Sure. So my mom, well, we're we

were, we were six brothers, my mom, a mom very guerrera, that we

saw a lot, a un-u- a usent the life, when you have you

many people many a mom that's a mom that doesn't, this,

so, a bit of a life a lot of many necessities, of much necessity to be doing things to make the attention

because one a mom, six children, and all with necessities affective, a father totally

absent, well that's that's a adventure, the initial of my life. Wow, that's interesting.

And that the third is, no important how it's been the third or is the third or is the

other? What is what is that in terms of energy, the the linearments of the

father, or is he's looking always the approbation of the father, the

the child of the mother, is, is, is, it's, very allied with,

the world of the dynamic of those two. That's, the fourth, is a reflect also

of the system, and the fifth, is repite the, the, the,

the case, this is this is a systemic, and it's very, it's very

certain, yeah, and Interesting. And so, and the kids we're going to

therapy. For the dynamic of the marriage. Now I'm doing the part of the part of the

is a lot of the marriage and the thing, is the major reflex of the both. Wow.

Very interesting. Well, well, let's start. The, the new or the new year interior.

No, I want to assume that we understand. It's a is that, is that, is

that is a little, a little, that even that, still, still, still,

Yeah, still in reality, the, the young not in the past, or the

child, not in the past, is the memory of your body, is in your

present in different moments where the vulnerability is put in a game, where you

can be disqualified, abandoned, where you can be ignored, where, the,

of a problem you know, in the present, there's, that memory of that

that's a new that you're doing the hotel Fiesti-in and God God was made the bestion of a boy

to know the to know the to be the sometimes us can't hear you can't hear of the but if there's in a manor

not the man or not the man who is one that's that's not that's that's but it's

but it's but it's but it's someone someone salve that someone is a place there's

but a sometimes so it's he's grittando, a sometimes is you're

a bit a bit of a bit of especially is a question and not we're not we're

in, it's part of our inconsient but but actua and he takes decision and

can be I'm or what dynamic I'm in my work or how I'm

I'm to try to I'm can't see that we're there's there's

the thing I'm I think the 99% of the people

are capital by their year. The 99% capitaneated by a and so,

and so in the areas affective a lot of in the job we're more more functional and we're

a adult much more conscientious but in our areas where is the vulnerability where we don't we don't seem

expuest with necessity to be recognized and that's probably the 99% the captain is

the new and also the casting of a family is the a new. No.

Sure. We're not a wish list, no? Oh, I want a woman, tarara, you're a

lot of a person and you your new year and you know and you and it's, and it's a connection and

you know, with who you're going to get a lesson. Yeah, valio. Now,

I'm going to where I've been all my life. I'm, I can't have been in form

a concept a list of the things that I think that I think they're that are compatible with

or that they have logic but the little little is a there's a sweet so,

yeah, because there is that that man that's a man, because there is that

that woman that's that's a mother that that's just something that me that I can't

or that I'm in excess in carencia but it's really from the

world more instinctive and less rational that we're doing. Or a sometimes it's from what I know. No,

it's something me conviener but it's not something because it's a mom or a papa and then, because that is the infirnito

that I know. Exactly. And there really we're really we're really we're really we're really because of the

reason, eh? Petsa that we're a culture very cabesota, the world the world emotional that has much power.

So the The New Interior is, is a so defined to learn? The New Inner Denier? The New Interior is a reality and a reality

interior where we're a lot of the reason. It is a part impulsive, addictive, apassionada

a sometimes that operas with impulsivity that you know, so when you do you, when you,

you de pronto you get, you're not, is because if I'm because if I'm I'm doing, I'm not I'm going to

do the same way in that I'm because it's the berrinche, because it's an energy much more from our

talking, by example, of the cerebral, is there in the Cerebro and then a response of a

survival of situations, like to be going to be in a restaurant. I'm not getting

my site and the repent I'm going to see to maybe I'm doing the ridicule, that I'm

saying, and I think, calm, it's only has passed 10 minutes, and I

am I am sure to get anxious, so are positions of anxiety, of impulsive,

I don't see, like, like, like, it's, like, we've

had been about, because I doing this barringche, because I don't know because I

am I'm so much, because I feel so so much so much so, so my

life not about that, if my I understand not about that it's like it's like

it's like a reality parallel that's in the the person and the and the

and a a little he's the first but the the new is to attend it's

for so you have to this study if you're you've done to you're

not done and still and still taking this culture not us we can't how

to talk the language of the the language of the language of the language where we need

we need to learn to hear a listen to our body and to our body and to validate our body.

And this this culture us to think a think a think. Not to manage the

emotions. No manage. All the education is reasoned. Yeah. All is

it. Entiente, le, it's, logic. Logica. And so the

truth is that we understand many things. There's, there's, there's,

there's, there's, there's, but that doesn't know that's a time when I do a project,

and I'm to be in many people, about what I know, or I'm doing a project, or I'm

front to my paria, and I need to find, or I need to do that I'm, so, of

that information is like if not functionar in the apartado emotional. One

more, we've said, but the system educative that we have a

military, it's like to be a military or being a worker, so it's a question

to be a question. So, so the schools are the same. So the dogmas

of faith and so it's and if not to be to give a repression, repression, repression,

you say, what is right and repitel how you know, I mean in any

moment, a time we're, we're to learn to manage our emotions, we're

to learn we're not all we're not all we're, not it's

an is a education, more than of discipline, of, of, of rigor,

total, mental. It's that we're we're doing internally. We're not a humanity divorceyada.

In terms of that if we talk about this position of, for example, technologic, reason,

studies, entendiment, imposition, discipline, we're, we're talking of a quality

masculine. And all the interior has to have to be with the reality

feminine that has been to have been with the body, the emotions,

the vulnerability, receiving, no to do and the truth is that

this world no, no, no, no, not, no,

no, propitia the so we're, we're we're in the era of the cheganism,

there, have to, this, produce the life, so, and then to

wish list of what you you want and then there's but really many many many times it's an

self-persecution of what one in reality is because no there's no compassion in that no

no compassion in that so for example I when when my my

daughter I have a I'm just I'm going to have a I'm to have a one

a pair of dula and I do you to try to the the league of the

leach and I'm to from my mind powerful I've

put a whole the scenario I'm doing the day my idea I'm amat

my my name to make my what I'm sounded sonada sonable

so it was really so that's that's so was so

it's illuminated I'm I'm I'm in the latina the

last the well I know I'm I'm to do

but but what I'm not par so I mean to get to get to

five, at the five minutes at the chirofano pari in a cesaria totally inesperated.

I'mmantar because never was never the new year and that was a great lesson

for me of this for what we are we're we're and a sometimes in

this life of imponern and I'm I'm I'm I'm

and then then the point we're we're we're instinctive, more vulnerable, no,

that other that's another that's, we know, and that there to be how it's manifest,

in the different realities of our life. Wow, how strong. But then, so, because all

the intentions are so, but there's living in the present. I mean, in the present,

I mean, my better effort, but then I think the that the life suceda

how it's, what, what, what What you see much in this culture is

I have I've done a time of my I'm doing this I'm going to I'm trying to my new year I'm trying to

that's the new year that's the great error the new never's ever never you never never he never

never he never he's never to be to be to be able to to be Sanar the new

hered well, I'm now I'm already but in reality always it's always

we're in we need to we need to we need that we're there's personales all all

we all we have a story of the the the don't have to be

with the code postal no it has got to have if you

have not not to be with negligence it has

has of the and that's histories the erasers. So, they're,

they're they're, the the dolor is a and it's something that's

a scientific, no? So, really, there are, there's many,

very profound on relation to trauma, to how the experiences traumatic

are in our Cerebron. And when for example, the survivors

or, for example, the 11th of September, the women that were embarrassed as,

how, as their children, in their brain, there's the lesion of the

experiences traumatic of our life. In reality, much also also, also,

also, are the experiences traumatic, eridas, that our parents not put

sonar. It could be violence family of the abelel, and that reprecut

after this new generation? Yeah, it could even Marco could be for example infermedities.

How many of us were hospitalized when we were hospitalized when we're partos traumatical?

What accident did our parents that really could be done their trauma? What is

the history of our family? We're so so much times of all we know we're

so much so is the worst living in the ignorance? Yes. Vivier

in the ignorance us does act to from the inconsient

all these experiences so we really we have we're we're a little

and it's the child that's hospital because it was a part

premature that they were to be and that's he was a

one in the hospital that that can be the great

trauma of the life of a human or before since

when was a mom embarrassed She was a mom, a violence family,

like was in my case. The mom was super tense and stressed for a lack of because the life not was

like she was sure if I was sure if I should have that there's a lot of things that can

be done from before that you know, from you know, we're we're not

we're in the ovulos of the mother and of the when they when they're when they

are they are they are you and much of the things that we

They're in the memory more more profound of our our brothers. So, why is important

to understand this? Because what we've has, it has, it has, it has,

really, and we need to learn to be passives with us with our limitations,

with our history. Because in this Cheganism, and in this I go to be the

was, I'm, I'm, was, I'm, I'm, was atropayygiant

to the today to do you could do that's to be able to be able I'm going

I'm good after today today I learned after this

but if I think in my I'm my I would have got to come

to come what I would have been doing in that but but you

know but just that is the thing our our

our our our our that we are the dolor traumatic

the great repercution that has that we is that we're really and we disconnects

of that's the human that then we never we never we

we so we we're trying to connect us with us

know what we we're we we we don't

we we don't we we we we is a reality so great,

so important, but as a not we're not not they're, we're not we're not even even if it's where they're

in those impulses that are going to take decisions importantitimus. We're we're disconnected. We're

disconnected and just in this, my first, my first, that was the second. That's transforms the

end of your infancy. I'm, I'm just how of, we, of

we're we can't we're when we're in this in this book I plane

there are two three areas. We're going to go down five. There are five. I'm five.

But I read here. Yes, is that I, I, I, I'll,

I'm, I'm, let's explain that. But in reality, the most profounds are

two. And they have solution? And they solutions. Because, platica us, not,

of the two herities, and how are, how is the solution? Sorry, sorry. No, no, no, it's all right.

No, no, it's very. I was surprised. I did my time. I thought it were five. So,

so, so, when we so when we when we're, we're not quite we need to we need to two nutrients

basic. Very important. One is connection, connection, vinculation, protection, affect,

This is the theory of the vinkul. And this quality, this nutrient, the mother, when you amamanta, you beza, when you accoges, when you sostained. So the,

the, the, the, the, the new, a mother, presentes and disponibles, at level affective,

crees with the quality of the vincal. So, what needs a father, to be able to be

to be to be a effective, is to be connected So, a A dad that not is connected

with a woman can make many efforts but he costs a much work to be able to

be able. Some these are these people, they're going to get and they are

that they're that's they're going to get a problem with your own self- new-in-

the second great ingredient are limits, structure, discipline, that's that's

that's the that's a play a a role a good because the father,

then it's to make a separation between the mother and the child is a relation

fusional, the father is a third element that says, here I'm here I'm so it

also also, and to that separation and to put a structure, a limit

in reality not is a quality of the father nothing just the the

structure, the discipline is a quality that to give to

the child, but we're that in terms general, the father represent a energy, of limits,

structure, discipline, which is very important for a example, a new for example,

a new thing, but without limits and structure, it's a disaster, clear. It's a

form, it's a it's a , it's a rostro like to not be a lot,

all, those, all who were, people, and that you'd do you,

you'd be I would have found if if you lav to do you know, if you'd love who'd be able to do that's who'd rather than you, who'd rather than you,

to work with someone who's, who's, someone who's not a structure, who is irresponsible, that's the I mean, I mean, a little bit of my mom and I was and I was in the city

and we were six and we had to be a little bit more a man. The manchurcher not was gestioning to

start to start at a little chica I mean I was this, if did the task, I

remember that I said, ah, caray, there had a time, I mean, many

many times, no? So, really that that structure, that discipline It was something that I

didn't have in my life. I mean, I grew very chaotic. Because mom was working because mom was working because no

there was a structure. I mean, I took to learn and to reconcilial with the authority,

with the limits and with the discipline. It has been a great in my

life. Because never had never had had been to write

five books if no had integrated that that

quality that not a little, and well, and also the other, no,

because it's a part of a fact, the protection, the pertenance,

is something that's something we're that's but that not justifies a story

of a failure of a that's that we're that we're to have our

life will be governed by our lives. You're want to do you

don't they're you don't pay in, and with to gores risk while you're

not not you're not to not much we're the major company, the major

new abbey, the major thing that's money, it's simple, it's sure, it's too Avi, we're going to

let's get a To put it in the In the Basse, the two areas of the one is the

fault of when no is the lack of I need to need to be a needco I need to love, I need

that protection that is the first necessity and the other is structure Yeah okay

so when no there when there that when there how can manifest well

when not we don't have that that, I'm that's a market of the

life with a great necessity of love, trying to do all to call the attention, being very

fusionales, permitting what it so that not that not not being creating relations

of apego of need of this is Ambe of my first

book. So, Ambr of Hombes about justly of how we're

to the relations and from a fact and from a need to it's like a boquet

emotional Mark. Because it's real. But for what the woman? Well,

it's dedicated to the women because because just the women

were educated to get us to get us to a part of a part of a

party a part of but in reality the we we all

we that that's a of being sussed, of being and from

we're doing relations. From the from. From the from. From the from the

absence, from, here you say, when you a relation of a marriage, from a effect,

you're doing it, that's, so in reality, the ambrough is a good conceder. And to go to the

super with a hunger, is a no, it's a business. With And with

money, because you can't have hungry and not have money. Exactly. Because I've many years in my life with much

a lot of the problem. The problem was when I took the money to buy me all the money to

do you know. Not always the money is a benitio. And you think, a of the other than

the market of the life with much the from our origines. And of

all this that's talking, it's about the absence, the vincal,

the vincal, the of the love, of the only, or can be

not? No, too, because if there are like our mothers

that are separated, if you don't have, is the absence of the time, you

think, you're, you know, because the father also does a vincu affect,

and how you can you can't you know in my case, my dad never did,

my dad, never you don't don't know you know is, it's, it's a vacill. Okay. So, is, it's a vacue, it's a, it's a

that I know know what I'm, but I'm here, and I'm and what you explain? Moma, can't be very amorousa? No. No, the Tua, no. Very harda, but... No, amorousa. Fiatty, the Mia, if it was very amorousa, but she ausentable, so, in those two cases is the same, or so, that

we're, we're, we're, because mom's, and we're not we're not, we're not, we're not not so you're trying to create a podcast,

but we're doing the things. Yes, because also effectively understand the history of the

door of our parents is the best we're doing it. Because in reality, they were

also were also people and they're not given what they're so, in reality

not is that I'm a lot of my son, no. No, in reality they're

not they're not they're but but if the the child, of a other

form, yeah, or the father or not is, or not he's not a

or he's to be a kind of we're going to a lot of a real of a lack of love.

Yes, that is a problem interrupied, where, where, the point, you know,

where you then you're then you then you the, the affect, the bestos, but one

you're in the vows, and this you get to be a relations very codependent

with fear to be there. Because you because you because of the the because of

you know, in my case I mean a me it's a question I'm I'm not you know

I'm I'm and I'm and I'm and I'm there I'm more I'm cost

to work I'm costable to establish relationships with because it's like it's like

it's like it's like it's like you know and well if you well if you well you

well you no no way no no no you've you

correct me if I'm if I'm you've been you've been you've got to probably you with your you're going to

two kids two kids two kids one of a one of a one of you have you had said

you know you've had said you absolutely because no you're receiving so no it's that

that's that's that's okay that's it's not it's not it's not you can't

you know it would have happened it yeah but but you but

but I but I did but I'm and much people that actually after after

after being after being, then you know then you do you do but if you not you do you can't

be excessive sure you do you do it all the money, all the money, all the all me not me don't

me don't to you I'm going to you're going to do you to do and then I do you do and then

I'm sorry and then I'm and then it's a act of an act of a act of

a because it's the best form to discalific it,

to do that's the, to keep the the right to have the

own resources, and it and it and it has been the same result.

Wow. So, if not it's very important to go to therapy. In all

the ramifications that poor and I'll see the public and they're

many are so, um, they're they're with carita of stress.

Let's hear. Respire, inalen, exhalen. Ah. Because not this information, not it's

not about to recognize and to be to be able to do that. And I'm going to say,

how beautiful that you can you can't hear and because that you're not that's connected.

And we don't have to have to fear to because we're in a culture

that we're to be phobic to the , because we

are a lot. And if it's very rarro. It's very that's too you're in

a duel. You're doing, we're doing, we're doing, we're doing this there's a absolutely to say,

I'm not that I'm not going to live a battle with with, I'm, I'm

my children, my family, my and my family, and that that battle

or that that, that, that, that, that, that, that,

we can we can't live if we integrate to our our child, our our life our

life, our vulnerability. That other other that's that's that's no,

there's a, no, there's a, more more more than our other than our other

other other, we're, we're going something, you're doing a podcast, or you're doing

a little and that something to start, it's a contrary, not you you're

The problem is not know when we when we start and to give us it's incoomod can't come light, can come come

the pain but that's the end of the side. So, festejas and you see stress because you

wow, I'm doing, I'm doing, I'm doing, I'm sorry, I'm trying to get into to the

problem, me still and it's going to feel to make a mind, but the,

the, the, the, the, the salida, not is the way the world,

it's a way, is to get to and sanar and pass for there,

for to do it. I'm maternard. So, every that you

see, that's that's there's, there's, there's how you're that's

how it, simply doing it. Right, we're going to say, if that is the

don't know that's coming just to your your your little

your little your was an person, you can put you to put

a brandus in this moment, to say, to say, here I'm

here that we're we're going to be. Here we're, if you want to talk about so, so then the anger, regressando to the point, the anger, can't repercuting in, I'm, I'm with with the life, so I'm going to

accept my gajas in many aspects of my life, and in some cases, no I'm going to know, to be able to help someone more, because I'm not me not even't, or I'm going to eat more.

So, for compenser, to some form. So it's. It has. It's a lot of ramifications

to have been having of love, of carino, of protection, of presence. Tremend. It's just

the, we're just the, we're, the, the usensia and of the love. Yeah.

That's, to us, a todos, that's the button, no? So, the second ingredient that

has to be with the energy of the limits, the structure and the discipline, is related

more with the father. Uh, and, Mom, Awcense, Disciplina,

Papa. That's And this, this real, this nutrient of structure, limites, discipline,

also can be a great absence in our life and we do that does it, we're not

a job disciplinar us, put a limit to the other, protect us to us us and we

sometimes we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're, we're

a person the casa of our life and he's met you and it's to make to the

kitchen and there there's a little in you that he did you to do you

this person without doing a without a when we when we

we're when we we're we're we're that we do give

to say that the limits are a not the

limits are the we're we're we're we're we

we're we're we when we're masculine of our father or of our

mother, because we in them that protection. I, my mom and my my,

my, my, my, my, my, my, my, my,

my, a limit adequate. Because what what is when we did we many

limits, much discipline, much, debes, you know, you know, do you

do you, do you do the question, you're to, you will castigar

God. So, so then you creces in a position very autocritical, of much

rechase, of much noho with who you're in of much self-persecution. So,

so, very exitoso because the people who have a limit very extremo, you know,

a energy, a nutrient very very strong, so are people are corrects, are good,

are good, are very disciplinated, want to give opportunities. They're people very just as the justice is very important.

They're like everything. They're like disciplined, and they're very disciplined, as limpies, in their

work, they're really, respect to the regals. So, are like, in a

mirab, very functionales. Uh, no? Because, well, respect, they're,

they're limited and all. But they're a world affective, emotional, his own vulnerability, atropegated, negated. So, of course, I remember

a patient that said, Annamar, me has forced out of my life, I do exercise, I'm super-disciplined, I have a lot, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I'm not I'm sorry, because, of a sudden, tell me what I do, because it seems that I've done what

did to do. And why not I'm happy? Because, because just for that because the ingredient of the discipline,

the rigidess if it's excessive, then it makes to do do the correct, to do

do the correct, but not ser. Uh-huh. So, reprimed the

ser. So, de a lot of the life, with excess of one

or with excess of other or with a careency of one or

with careency of and what's and that's the

way, we need we to know to know us to know us is something that's

something that's something that's in the oraculo of Delphos the phrase that for all is a

cliché is profound very much in reality we know we need we need to learn

to learn to know when we when we do something when something when something

something when something active our our vulnerability our memories

of our us allows to know these and to be the world,

and to who have more people who are the people that are the

people who do you feel out of control. Yeah not I'm the adult

the adult and I see that young again again asking a more

destructurated or with a need with a need to a

question the phrase specific of the oracle of Delphos

know set to you knowstete to you knowstead to you because it is super clear that's that's the

that is the great that's the great that's the that's the life of all what is what there's many many

many times not is not known if we we don't we're we'll we'll

we'll we'llteam to see how we're in this moment front to

what so in our and that and that we so that

we're to be really to learn to learn very guerrera, because all this culture

not the school, what we're learning in the school, what we're in all the other laws, no it's something that's

something to be to learn. Okay. And so, to be able to be, I don't want to be,

I'm no amado, and I don't want to be without these nutrients, I'm going to be five

strategies for survive. The first strategy is, me going to be absentar, no I'm to exist,

no exist, no exist, of this world, nobody me will be going to be

going to be going to be going to be my own because being in this world dole much and I

go to that's the first strategy the second is I'm going to depend to all I'm going

to fusionar I'm going to be able to be able to be sure a a certain that will

be to love protection, carino that me payen that me can be

they can make how make to be to keep in this position of an

eternal a new for that he's a father, a wife, a chef, papa,

and I'm resolve. That's the second strategy. And I'm manifest. And I'm

for that to be adopt and I'm so, and there always there always there always.

And a change of that control you. Exactly. No? Because I do you

do the thing. You know, I do do you do all the you want to do?

But here I'm but here I'm exactly. And well, it's

well, it's good. I need to take your life. But I'm going to be your victim

because this game not. I'm going to be a victim and me going to be a

question. So, all that all that happens. Oh, that's a very bad so it.

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my mom my men, the people the pay, the that they're the

money, the time. What is necessary? Because I am the woman of Teta

Grand, the man of the man, and so I do

and I am what my mom is a person, and my mom always is someone

with who I care because in the second strategy the

rescatator is Marko. Tons I don't you don't

to permit to talking of me in my podcast. That me is here exigiding. More respect

for a favor. Sigel, seele, seele. Sigle, I'm I'm sure. Well,

the people that we know, well, okay, the person that we're the third

strategy. Elegimus, you, you also, you're in the club. Yes, here

here's. Amiga. Vena. In what is it? What is it? Well, the third strategy is

much here because the people that are more than the over the overpeas because the people that

we're always seeing being to the other those people those that we're always we're

always resolve, carry, there's a disconnection very very with our

needs and it's always be a carggy and you say it's you we're doing

we're we come we come what we we call us what we The person who

elige the third the people the people that we're

people who know we're not we know how we're we're we're

always we're we're we're we're costs much really to really

to our own our own there's much very so in

the front there's there's like there some element

super doloroso and have to really a podcast for about about the badgwens nothing more

because the badgwomen is after of all the eras but well the

the the the yeah pardon me yeah I want I'm

this is this this this rescat this there's there's there's

this is making long the explanation oh that's and how

in the and well and well Well, so, well, don't, go,

go, let me get it. Passing to I want to. I want to. No, I'm just saying my incommodity,

but I want to, do you know, what I'm going, what I'm doing, is that the third, in the third strategy, in the third strategy,

in the third strategy, in the third strategy, the element mother is an element very important. Because the

mother always Construed in you A person No, I'm talking to you

not I'm talking to me is talking to me this is completely personal

but see it the person that person that was that and then

so it's very is very very very very very

very to to romper the contract that he

he did the he's the man hergwense or the that's a herida

is a car that's a car or castada with your mother. Oh, God.

For that's not me has been cast because I'm cased and I'm and I'm and I'm

and I'm and also yeah, but it's a contract that no, that no, that's a

problem with the man, that's a time, well, no says if I'm saying, but I'm

also I'm also, I'm I'm sorry, and And it can be a woman of your mom. So, how you do

you ask your mother? When you're going to do you because she has to be the mother,

you know, you know, you know, you know, you know, you know, and she doesn't, and she's up

to his level. Because, yeah. And you get to be, even, even,

so, my mom, I, so, yeah, so, is, yeah,

is, is, is, is your , is, this, is,

this, is, this, So, and they've Yeah, and that's, and that's very

very strong. So, I'm not, never never had never the right, is,

is, is a supermany and there and there is a divorce. And that is a

thing, so, no is something that it's a thing, because the contractors

more important of our life, we did we did, we did when we're

more sophisticated still still not never was has been developed. So,

so all what we understand about it doesn't know it's a different from the reptilian, the

body, the emotion, and it's a work therapeutic. So that's the second, the third mechanism of

defense. The fourth mechanism, then what we do we do is to survive is, I'm going

to control all all. I'm to be correct, to go to go, to go, to

think, rapid, controlling, know, I'm going to be a supererue of my family. I'm going to

be a person a very that no needs a need, I'm going to be a self-sufficient, to not

receive, to not to be a life, I don't want, I'm not going to confi-

because this life not because this life is confiable. Because the people more more than my my life,

me trycioner. So, I'm going to to go to go back to confiard. For example, this is we've when we've got to, the mother's, for example, a

father that's, that's a, I don't know, because, because, because it's because it's because it's in a position of aggression. The father of your expectation, no is

what you expected. And that's, and so, that you make sense or or a or in the case of the man is the

mother, no? I mean, I mean, I'm really I'm thought about

that she was a way or that me to be to be to be a and at and at

the end the arid of the reason you have the self post.

And so this is the Doha Govote in the case of the new book?

It's the new book. The new new book The Doha Boat is a woman that's a

result, carga, no pite that's exitosa plasma produces, can't

always, can't, it's always he's, and it and it is very good,

because that we're we're just the women, but in reality he, he's,

she, a, a, the, so the Doebottes is fundamentaled

in the in the fear, in the fear and the misprection. So,

not was, I'm not I'm, I'm going to be the first I'm

a lot of an atropeachment of the vulnerability and how reconcilial. So that's is the most important.

So how reconcilial with the energy masculine and feminine to be to be the doña

and equilibrium. So that's the fourth mechanism of defense. I'm I'm a super controllator or

the super-controll the hero, the hero, the kind of the second mechanism is I'm going to the perfect

the that's the correct everything everything everything is I'm

I'm I'm very perfectionist no me I'm not a position

rigid polarised black black black black black no

and I so I'm physically even the person that has this fifth

mechanism very very very really physically very rigid. And so

it's the tension in the mandibula, no, always a preet the abdomen, has a

more, almost, it's, it's, because it has got a great tension in

the body, just for this fifth mechanism of I, no me going to

be a quick, I'm going to be perfect, and all my life will

be perfected. Okay. So, we're, these two dolors. And, and

five mechanisms of superviveness. And that can you can't, you know, you have to one of the

five. It's obviously. That's so. So, yeah, because

in the time in the time we're the third mechanism, which is the control, but with

the party, it's the second, the second is the abandon, but

at the more in other moments with the power, we're we're the we're

we're and so, the really, the fact, is that we all we're

both the two dolores primaries that's, in a in a distinct, in a

different level of not, because it's the same, a cortadita than a fracture, no, so,

all we all we're in a little the absence of the vincal and the

and the structure, of the father and the mother, and we use some of these

mechanisms to survive but at the final of these mechanisms are

to produce to protect us, are strategies, they're from from a place of a point, not are what we're what we're

for example, I, during more of 20 years I've done titherees of this, and I'm to people

that have the same mechanism to talk how is your life, when they're from the mechanism of recasas,

of abandon, of humiliation, of, the, of a justice, and are people who actuan

that are that they think they're like, that they're things, they're in those different.

So, because, if we're different, if we're we're doing because we act we when we're

doing when we our area, because it's a mechanism of defense. Mechanism of defense. Now,

there mentioned the five that I had noted. So, so are two don't those

different things, and there are these other things that's other things this,

rechazo, abandon, humiliation, transition, injustice. That's. So, they're the two

mainstapes, that's the fault of the role or the fault of the structure. Exactly. Ah,

yeah. Yeah. Okay, perfect. But it's, okay, yeah. And there's

a solution. Exactly. Yes, we have a solution. We're talking, we're talking, you know, now we're getting

to us accompanied us. We're going to get a Flos. Like, poor, pollo

without your and you're going to the life? Okay. I, I want, I mean,

I mean to explain this, because I think it's very important to understand.

Two things. One, that the are the un- un- integrando the

nutrients, so the nutrients, the nutrients, the people, that is the effect and the

discipline. So, we have to give the permission to vincularn us, to connecter,

to intimar. So, Darn us what not we're the solution. In those two nutrients. So,

all those problems that we have in our life, we think about, in the work, in the

person, the exercise, the paria, all have their origin in some of those two

nutrients. Because you have been because you have done discipline, because you

It's not structure or because you fall a connection, vincal, and love. Of the really. If each one of us can't to think in this,

then we need to learn to develop those permissos. The sanation not is like the recipe of the pastel,

because you have to do work with these two figures entraeable that are your parents.

And if we don't we can to have the therapy to get

to get to get to get to get to the the new that's what you

do you, what you need we need. We need we need to give us to the

experiences that we we're and that is something very important. When

we're when we we we've no space to to put

to we're we we're much more in possibility to

give the permission, for example, when I'm in a new relation, to acercar me more, of to be, to confiard, not to the brutal, but if a little more, a little more of confidence, a little more of authenticity, of vulnerability. And that is something that we're doing

in a laboratory of the life when we have less carried of a door to our a little year- because what we're many times

is that we're we're in we're we're to give us we're to get us

and we know the you're you're you're you're you've got because

confiaster to do you you know amste of more you know something

that was something to do the more is not to not

to not and because you did because I did it's

first first PASO, I'm the figures to your figures parentals.

You know that's the right that from the child, you can't say what you felt

or what you did, what you know, and you don't you know

to destroy those in therapy. Oh, no, no, it's a therapy with them.

No. No, no, no. No, no, no, it's a good idea.

That's It's in a space therapeutic in a front of a professional where you can't

talk without of these two figures and of all what you do you. And it's

a juice. And not a question. Because, oh, many we're

we're saying, well, is that I understand my mom, because my mom was an

woman, so, so, what could do I do know to do understand

excellent. But you have, you know, you did you never have

a mother. Entender and sanar are two things are two different. And so, they're very

different. So, in reality, sanar is a state complete. And it's

here. Exactly. In the heart, in the mind. I can't understand

that my father was an alcoholic, I can't understand that my boy, I can't

understand but the but the problem is another thing. It's not.

No, no. No, the orgasm is in sense. we're talking

we're talking to and the I'm going to get a orgasm here, what was? It's that you can't

you can't do you can't your life that you've that's the day that you I'm

that's that that's the yeah, is the it's the connection my Cerebrose another

Cajita I'm yeah different episode of the podcast where we're yeah yeah

yeah so when you're like all all that all that you

can connect with the body free. Yes. It's like to do the

love. So, all, all what we are that we have connection with

a head and with a and with the and the areas

in our life and that is, that is what we have this is

this is our I mean important what you're saying, Anamara, because, I know you know, how people

here, I'm curiousity, get the mind, how do you have done to therapy? Ah, there's all. They're all. Those who are

those who, those who are, those who are when they're because all we need us. How do you have done

much time to therapy? With different experts, okay, perfect. We have many, we've done

that we've dedicated years of our life to be that I'm sexy. I've

commented. I mean, I know someone a chica and me says, I go to therapy and I have worked out of

my little bit little. Chiquita, what thing? It's like the lenseria spiritual, no?

Because you're saying that you're you're conscious, you are you, and also I'm going to

have to the consequences of that the therapy. Totally. You're your responsibility. I'm

I'm trying my my mochila with my infantiles. And when we go to much,

much, much, much, a lot of a lot of kind of depending on the type of therapy

to the type of you know, expert or expert with that you know, in analysis, analyze, analyze,

analyze, analyze, analysis, so so, so say, it's a psychoanalysis, analysis,

and you can analyze it, and you're and I'm still doling. Sure, that's you know,

you know, you know, but you have done so there I also, I, I, I, I was what

discovered in my way, and there's where I'm going to be you know, you're not, I've got to

pass to sanar the physical and emotionally because I know it, but not me sanable. So,

two things are different. So, two apartos very distinct that have to be

with these two qualities of the that we have been, all, all we are, so,

all we are, we're all we're not much fear, because there we're we're

we're not when we think we don't we're not we're we're we're

we're we're we know we're and then we're we're in the incertidum

front of what we think it's very important to start inviiting in a therapy

in a talk about analysis analyzing because because I've been I've been

patients that me said I'm not about 20, 15, 18,

18, 18, 18, years of never never never

and that's the origin and the the root and the race of of these things that we can't and that's they're not in the

body, they're talking in the emotions and there are to learn to connect us and for that for example

for that the meditation is a great resource not because the meditation to take the somras

and to get the things in the examples that we've done in the

so not really meditate to to connect to to be to be to to see,

evita imagine your steles to get to a new year to a little because many times we're

in my meditation you put your meditation and you go to your life these meditations that you get to

get to get to not no no no no there here in your emotion

in your sensation in your in your body so so we we need

to connect to connect with the body, to look what happens to see what

to see the the time, and what are the when the problem, we need to learn to give to that

that little that's a little, that the child, let's showke. Let's put an example.

I'm with my partner and then he's being his telephone. And all the time is

doing your time. And I'm still abandon. Abandono. Rechase. But when I

Connoisse. Exactly. Injustice. Injustice. Perro, Infelis, why not is here?

Pardon, Perro. Exactly. I don't have that perro as an insult. I have to have to change

that part. Yeah. A la cran, maldito. What is there's there? Oh, in

mean. Well, because when I Because is it's an very right. It's the And not

because the fact is that we're not we're able at level affective when we're in fact and this is

the reality of the right, I don't, I'm not, I'm not, I'm a person hyper-disponible

effectively. So, honestly, to us cost a, the position of, the position of

the, the position of, like, a zone to comfort. That's all but, but,

yes, a, if you want to if you want to if you want, if you're, so, Yeah, I mean, I think, effectively,

that we need to learn to be more disponibles for the other. And when we're notherstores a major capacity of intimacy, we have beenclusive much more satisfacious, is there there demandando our partner, our children,

because in reality, we're very poor disponibility affective. When we're going to this world interior. Sanar our our injuries is reconnected

us with what in reality we're not what I think, not like my mechanism of defense, no what I should, is what I'm, and what I'm, much times, is in

contra of your principles, ideas, and creencers, and a lot you but that is, and is very amorous and compasive to love it. For that you

know, Exactly. And to hear it. And no there's rationalize the emotions. The emotions are you

have a technique that just of the you know, to make an a brazo mariposa

and we do we make a and we arrojamos with a sound to the

when we when we we're when we get a direct to the child

the the can't, the music, the sound, the tacto, it gets direct, direct. When we're not when we're the world toke the

erudel the new, arruyal it. And this movement, for all is a sonador. For all

is a sonador, like, to the people who are you are doing. So,

the right, it's like me-ser to the little, to talk the

pecho, no, darte to be the right to be imponyingt what a day you're going to

do you but that you're not you're a more a year a day we're going to

be more more generous much more sadios a day we're more more autentical because it's

something to what we aspire but for what for what what it is

respectable and we need to learn to to learn to and to

know because that is the grand vi that's how how respond to this situation. How

me feel? How much me dole this? That's how me inoja. Casse almost after the enojo, there's much pain. I'm connecting with a fear. And there's to go to therapy, because the therapy to

to abitar that part of you the time. The therapy can't and do the arraimientas and, and, also, you can talk it and you can pelotear it with

someone that can understand with empathy. A therapist is a person with whom you can you can't you

you're being you're a therapist functioned the because that's the 80% of the exit

if your therapist not you look and is being his relo you get

a gordon he's a great if your therapist not is still a level affective

for you that that's that it doesn't it doesn't it a plus ultra

of the world. If the person no has a position affective to listen to connect

to you, then you don't you want to work. Because you have to you have

to restableser in that space the linkco that's you and also

with a person that you that you're in this process. Yes,

that sometimes the therapy could be the traditional can be

very because you do you, you ask you questions,

no you know, no, no, there's a no, and there's, and then you

say the doctor, well, well, we're going to we'll be the next week, and we'll be the last,

it's a box of Pandora and no solution us that. For so, many psychotherapists yeah they're incorporating techniques of

mindfulness, of meditation, of sanation, my master, my master, Ronnie Merrick in Psychology Spiritual,

one of the one of the premises of the psychology spiritual was the sanation is the application of the

love to the other than the not is the analysis the sanation is the application of the

love to the and we're we're and we did we were to give

a boy to or give to that to that to be to be to be

to make that's express to no Jiu. And then the application

of the love. And that's that we've got, we've got to do you know,

you know, so you would have seen a minute more I'm a little, I'm really, I

felt like a can't, I, I'm like, I would be able and me would be my

mom and, and apart when there no, and just that just that was that was the

tone that did you, it was it, it, it was you're like you're just like

the simply I'm present with the of the that was

precious for a certain thank you thank you thank you you thank you

thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you and not is a

melody in special no the music and the intention are a

great medicine for our new and it and is part

of the curation not that that medicine when the life to talk his

dolor, to keep to imponern ideas, accept what we know

to learn to have to have to have important to know what are

the the are you you you you know and that the

child the the work, your your your meditation

the lecture the lectures all those those are resources

very important for to sustainer to the life. And so that, so as

we've that this ball of that when we're to hear to our

child or our our we're what is what is what is what

is what it's it's it's it's it is I'm

I'm I'm I'm that's this I'm I'm I'm

here for you tell how you you can't

you the of the areas are complex. Yes. In reality it's a

treatment. It's a treatment. It's a problem. From going to it's a mothernard,

what you know, from to learn to give new permissos to put to get yourself to work you

to work you to putterter limits, from an to learn to get to because when we're

we're we're we're not we're discongelamos and we don't give us the medicine because one

no can't feel more for one and for the other when you're in the rest of and the

and the and the and the and so much when we we're going descongelando we're

we're recupering that connection with us and with the life that makes

that it's absolutely different and and it's and you need to

your inner no no? Sure yes that's very

important because Because always you have to consider or we have to considerate because in reality

has a power very important. Not you knowhes with your child, nor you impongas

or you do you do you have to you have a pair that for your adult

he gets clear that not it's clear that you're to be to car

or you you're to you're that you're really really

what you really to do to you know

to he he he has a pego. If your adult it's decided

without consider that your new new has a pego, you're going to be to convince you, you're going to sabotage, and you're going to start. And then, a negotiation could be, I know, I know, I'm going to

say that you're going to help and I'm going to permit to live the dolor of this duel, but I'll show that there's another, there's an experience more for us. Confia in me. confia in me and I

you're a I'm in this process accompanied in this process accompanied of this, of this, of this,

that's it really, for example, of an friend, of this is a life, of your

mascot, I'm going to do your mascot, to do you to do this for that you're going to

keep, and we're going to go to not going to get to that person. So,

to make a part and to be to be really really to be really to

help for what we're doing that's that's that's that's that's

not ignore that I'm this power that's this is the heart this entity that's

this entity that's my little my new my new I'm going to do you're going to do

I'm going to do you do a but I'm to give the thing this no but with

all good I'm sorry I'm sorry you abrash you apapach you do these things

that I can you with a good I'll do but chiquita a chiquito you're not you're not to take a decision

of the decision of the decision to get to you're a little, there's a little there's a there's a

process adequate or the process of our doing our work we're doing we're doing we're

in our life adultes in our there's problems and let's to know to do to do you

to know to do that you the father and the mother you're you And that is what I'm

Mapa. Cet your your own because that that's a need to open to the door or that

that's a new year, you know, it's a person to that's the person to get to

feel that not having to not doing anything, to call the attention, because in reality,

yeah is. And if we're going to get to get a short. Because, the, the

the step more complex is the infancy. There we are so vulnerable, we're so

so necessary, and we're the basis of all the things of the thing. But also our life

our life. We'll do the way. As we we're doing the testimony

of what says An Marr, I'm I'm a testimony of the prophet, Anam

Marr what he says the obispa because I'm sure that when I did that

I did this work very profoundly and was when I

I remember when more have I've I'm I'm in the whole, and when I did this

work, and I did that negotiation with my my little, it was the, was of the

moments that I can mark, like an before in my life. My relation

was a time with my child to the before, I was that I'm even that

was a little a new was, and it was a a, a,

a session, a meditation, a cardita, no. It's a

continue, but the heart of that's a time of that's constant with that focus. My focus my focus,

to say this year, this was my work with my child and it was exactly like to give give us,

to give me, permit you make I had I, uh, cartas that rompia obviously,

or chema me desacia of them desacia of them, but he gave chance to mentar madres,

of say or serias, of to becharse, of yore, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then that's,

the love, the love, the abrass, and the limits. Yes. It's, I'm trying, I'm trying,

I'm, this, this, so, this can do you, this is it can't do, but you can't do that

decision? No. Like a little. You know, I don't, I don't, I, you know,

no, you don't, you know, to decide, not, to, not what we're to come we, to come up,

to, where we're to do we can, It's a little, a little. Yes. It's a little bit of a metaphor. It's literal.

It's literal. It's literal. It's literal. It's done our cerebral. It's operated for the parts more primitivas.

All what we sound dangerous for to be abandoned and rechasasas and we're going to activate. So it's important

to give a space amorous of therapy. It's the most amorous that can one does because,

another, one day, a day, you can you've imagine and it's very important

in a time like the role working on the ego, because the problem and the vulnerability

romp in the ego and we need we need to be people people with more ego there's

there's a moment in that it's very time or at any time or at any year

and the child yeah to do to do you to work only

it's only difficult conform it is going to go 18, 19, go to therapy.

So, how many us would have saved the life? Very. To go to a good

therapy. Right. No? So, with a person that has a mind empathic and

disposition and to listen to, with that we're the ingredient more important. How to the guide

of, obviously, I'm going to share that you know, you're going to share to do you, and all

to keep to be able to be to be a one-a- one to you. how, what, what, what,

what, what, ? What's the people to a good therapeutic to, that you could get to the man?

I'm, I'm the first I'm, what you need, because there's what we need is to find us, define us,

define something because you're confused. A, a lot of we need to is to be to be the

situations of our issues, and a sometimes what we need is one,

uh, uh, one, uh, disciplines for to change conducts.

And for a specialist if you you want to work with your years, with your past, then

then you have an expert in therapy in therapy, uh, I create a method that I'm a

other therapists. I mean I don't know I'm not I'm doing the therapy to but I have, I

know my method. You're a course? I'm a speciality for therapists. Okay.

It's a year. And I've also therapists that I'm going to work with this. When I had 11 years, this was my

dream. I said, why no there's a place for that people are in the problem?

As surely I was feeling in that moment. And today, well, there are options. We need to we need to

if we're we're trying with the areas, we can't rationalizing. A The most that is the first

pass. And not, not is that not is to resolve if you're rationalizes. If it's good to know them, learn the

book, learn the book, but that's the only the first first step. It's like if you'd know the Lue

and let's the words that there. The experience is when you go and you gores. So,

so if you know, so if you know, then you know, you know, you know, but you're that's what

you have to visit it. Visit it. Where? In the your body, at the time of the sensations, a

through the emotions, and at the through what your body is refecting. And for all of the really, no,

they're going to take, to meditate. Meditar is a great tool for reconnect us. But specifically

the mindfulness, no, that's the we're talking. Because as, there's a lot of ways to meditate.

There are in meditations of respiration, there are meditations where you say, there's you,

see, see, see, that's it's beautiful. to do that but what we

we're talking is of mindfulness of the conscience, of the conscience that's going to get to get

out of and start present with your emotions. Yes. I'm coming in

a phrase of Jung that said nobody is that you imagine forms of

light you, you you're you and view the front and

that's the opportunity of the areas not, the those are the years

to get to look that you know to make a a

meditation that you get to be to be to in

silence and to feel you and with you can you can feel your

sensations corporalal in this moment what are the sensations that are there

there are there there there there there there there

there there are seeing the sensations there there

there and how is your your body you

have to feel there every there the when

we when we we we're when we're when we're when we're when we're we're

the fact that not only the meditation you get to the connection there are who they're there's not

they're in a level of so much they're so they're so that's a war

impossible so you you can't you can't you can't you can't you can't do you

can't but the fundamental is that you abites that you you mire and

that constructs a interior and that so is if you don't

if you're to start a prism if you do you do you if you're

you you you you're you do you and you

and you this world not no no no no no

we don't we don't we don't we in this in Asia is

another other other so yeah so it's part of

it's part of the culture So our Our tendency is to That's a that Viener the

Dement, Viener the Tristence, say, this rechazzo, abandon, humiliation, traition, injustice,

what is, this sensation horrible. And what we want to do you know, I want to feel like

me to get me let me get, let me let me let me get it, and what I'm what you're saying, is all the

contrary. When you you're doing in excesses, for example, you're in excess of sugar,

in excess of carbohydrates, in excess of work, in excesses, oh, you're talking your

areas. You're trying not to not feel your your calendar your day for not

to not to be able to not be exactly, in excess of thinking. In excesses.

In all that that is compulsive, impulsive, excessive, is a form of

uh, because you're talking, something, something, something, and then I'm,

nobody has been for you have to be expert to have been to do you but you can't

you're going to get a use a yes, it's very adult to look at because apart we

we're not so not it's not it not they're to make to me or me

I don't not not we don't know no no no no try it in my

experience the in my experience the the saleida is a time the same the soulating to

do you and I'm working but I'm sitting with the paining with the

pain feeling the problem, permitting to start with the door, and there is

when one that you do that's when you do that's because you want to be heard of here I'm

here's just put me attention and no you put this attention and more grita and more more you and never you never

you can't come here for so, the job of personal is a sport

of because it is at to be to be able to be I'm going to be a lot of you feel horrible, preferrere to not to see you

but here is the mindfulness that's the meditations to go to in a process compasive of a of being

to look what there and to accompany it and it can be a menaceant but no you don't

you're a day not going to do do you and a day you're you're a more

a more a more you're because that is what that we don't

dole of our parents, not have been seen to exactly. And when

you see, when only you're you're just you're you're restitue

the the that you have your your child. And the magic is

that no I need to necessarily resolve it. It's like here

here's the door, now what I do with to talk to talk about

that therapy but there sometimes in that simply it's

simply to feel and you I love I'm a I'm absolutely there's a

part of the sanation there's a point in that's just that's that's not that's exactly and that

that's that's the that's because in this on this on that then you

to do to continue to continue controlling the situation and that

I think I think like this I think a how I'm I'm I'm

can't do you can't do to try to to be to be looking the illumination,

no. So, in reality there are in what there, in what we're, in what we

are doing, what we're doing, I mean, I think there have decided to live the life as a

life, and that's a way to be a way, like, an auto-exploration. What are thinking?

I, I remember of an anecdote that one of my master, Tara Bragg, Quenta that says

that's that's a a person to get a and that's like a very executive and I'm

I'm sure I'm not in the podcast and I'm to have and he got to get to get to

get to me going to write but in how time I'm going to be in what time

I'm going to I'm and he he says the monhe and he says

he's five years 10 years and what I'm no no no no no but I

I'm I'm very so I'm I'm I'm going to apply. I mean, if I put all the

world and if I'm going to put all the when I'm going to going to get to get to suffer. He's, um, he's,

like, so as you know, me put it's like in 30 years. And I'm, no, no, but no,

you know, you know, you know, you know, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, all the books,

all the courses, all, and so, in a, in the, in the, in the, in the, in the,

in the, in the, no, no, because that's not it's forci

is all the it's all it's all but but I think Mark how I think I think

this life this neurotic you know you have you take and then and then

then you and then you and you you're here you're going to be and there we're going

to do me let me I'm let me look the four books and me I'm going to get and me

with that You'll guarantee you that this I'm going to guarantee you I'm going to give to adoption to the I'm going to I'm illumino

it's that we're thinking we're thinking with regals with the world physical material that's like

it's like it's like this and you know and so not is the world of the world of

the world of spiritual because no for that us it

doesn't because in reality you you know you you know you

know you know is always different. It's always different. It's put under your power because in reality, when you abitas

that you discover to you discoveres to you discover other powers and you abitats in a dimension much more complete that is the

real realtor so it's a way to do that it's super amorouso it's a real it's a relationship for a

life super exactly because what you constructs there no's it's the The best regal

of a new year your new your new your best your new your best your best

your your new year your new is give to give attention. Yes, establish a

new relationship with that story, with that that new year and that that year that never

never to go and to think that this only has to be with stories catastrophes

know, dolorous or negligence and abuse no, we know the two We know the tuxelieu. Yes,

and a concession that I have negotiated, I'm negotiated, I'm my little my new interior am to have a perrita,

perrita. The adult, as I'm don't have family and I'm doing, no I don't have a life to

have a to have a perro, and it costs much money. To be a logistic. My

my people said that perro, it's a little more than the university, Luna,

Bernie, and those I've needed to help to have to to have to have to be

my new interior says, me makes a really, I need I need, I need I'm going to I'm just a question. I know that

I know that I know that I'm going to that I'm that I'm going to to help a little to the car you

when you're rescaters, if I'm a profound a great idea. And that's is my tool of

negotiation. Okay, we're having perrito, we're going to have no, we're going

to do this things. Sure. No, no, it's a and you

get to get to you're going to get to you're going because really is a part

very important. And also the function that they're in the perrijos in terms of the

vinculation yeah so the first ingredient of the love of the vincal

no they're they're they're not our mascots so

so is the is the place for our people is very

sanador to have a mascot. And every who has to find the of your

so you. Yes. Every who has to have to negotiate. Every who I'm

a little, no see, for example, a my little bit of a

city of Mexico to goyacan to go to the little they're

there me always to hear organieros and it's a great

time I do I'm I'm I'm talking in the car

and they they're and they're I'm and they just my

little those are some are So are great things for the children is much more simple

than what we think we're if we're not experts in us ourselves we're not that we're going to the organ

year you're going to be you're going to be able to get to dance that day that you're in the naturalness

that moment where you're you're rastrastic with your perro where you did the time to play

to work to that you that you did to that you that did to that exist, that

that's what he doesn't like. So, for me to do you to make to make you

for my for my my new entire and the family so I'm sorry. And the family is like, why not you're

not going to pass hours? Via to Navidat, the fiestas my to the people,

my little to and having maybe what I'm doing and when I'm when I'm

so I'm so I'm so that's those are those is the salation That's the application of the

That's the application of the That's the That's the Not even the analysis Of the problem Yeah, Yeah, so, when our energy

also when our energy also, because when we're doing great jobs and we're doing here and in projects,

in where where it's where you where you do you, where you're so, a matter,

Sostenied, recognized, reconforted, those are the moment and the task of all.

And all all, those, I'll do this task. A gregn's in what

his new new and they're to have the power of their creativity, the power

of your power of the return to the authenticity and that is like recuperate. There's a

phrase precious of Erickson that says never too time to live

a infancy a life. Nunn't it never time

so that's so that. So, let me let me. Yes.

So can Yes. Yes. So, so can. And the

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