El Podcast de Marco Antonio Regil - 353 - ¿Tus heridas del pasado están afectando tus relaciones? - Marco Antonio Regil y Rodrigo García

Episode Date: December 9, 2024

¿Por qué nos atrae la gente que no nos valora o que no está disponible emocionalmente?En este episodio, junto a Rodrigo García Platas, experto en psicología sistémica, nos hacemos esa gran pregunta y descubrimos: Cómo las heridas de nuestra infancia nos llevan a elegir relaciones complicadas. Por qué el enamoramiento no siempre es amor (¡y cómo evitar caer en la trampa!). Las diferencias entre cómo hombres y mujeres nos enamoramos y amamos. Además, Rodrigo nos explica cómo dejar de repetir patrones dolorosos y empezar a construir relaciones más sanas y felices.Acompáñanos a descubrir herramientas prácticas para entender el amor desde un lugar más consciente.Ahora que platicamos sobre cómo regresar a nosotros mismos es clave para una vida amorosa exitosa, es momento de hacer lo mismo para lograr alcanzar nuestros sueños.Te cuento cómo en mi masterclass completamente gratuita. Solo regístrate aquí: http://marcoantonioregil.com/potencial-pod Sigue a Rodrigo García: https://www.instagram.com/rogarciaplatas/ En mi canal de Telegram, accede a contenido e invitaciones solo para fans. Únete en: marcoantonioregil.com/telegramDescarga GRATIS nuestra revista digital y encuentra información inédita del episodio de la semana. Da click en https://marcoantonioregil.com/aprendamos *Importante: Nuestros invitados son expertos en sus temas y reflejan su conocimiento y su punto de vista, siendo conscientes de que cada una de las opiniones es totalmente personal. La información, datos, comentarios, estadísticas que se presenten en el Podcast de Marco Antonio Regil, son de exclusiva responsabilidad de quienes las emiten y no representan, necesariamente, el pensamiento de Marco Antonio Regil o de la producción del podcast.

For me, it was, during many years, very attractive, the people that that were a little bit more. Stay enamorado of someone, the only that means is that all your ego has created a mega-projection because he's encountered

a person that valid the traumas more profound that you've managed of the past. But at times, no, is soltero, but not is it emotionally-disponable.

Because we're so idiotas that we're doing relations based on our traumas, and then we're we're doing people with traumas compatible. We're repitient the pattern

that we've ended with mom or with papa. We're not we're sufficiently valiosos and then we're really attracted to

a pairas that they're and they're exactly so. Because it could result be attractive to someone

that's a that's a question. The problem is that the 99% of the people of this

side of the world no doesn't know even know even doesn't

know to be that someone me explain why we're why we

we're just the people that no us Ama. Why we we give us attention to

who does not does attention? Because that's a lot of sometimes us can be attractive. A person

that even not us really well. Because we have the people who are that a lot of the children

malas or the people not are the people that is more attractive. All of we have been in some

moment of our life. I think I'm I'm despeded of that but for years and

years, I've lived. And highly probably you in some moment of your

life, you have lived, why we we're doing to give us a person, to who no is a or a

who not a who not and why when there someone who has a attention, that we can't

give a careyno and that is it doesn't not really, we're in the zone

of the people. Well, well, so I'm here, Roderio Garcia

Plata, he's the psychopodogues, expert in psychology systemic to about

to talk are the infancy. It's interesting the theme. Kedense with us we're doing from the studios

of radio, Formula of Group in Merida, Yucatan. We're ready to learn to learn so we're doing. Episodio

353. The podcast of Mark Antonio Regil is a production of RGial Entertainment and all

his rights and all his rights are reserved for what? Why? Why, Rodrigo? Why are

the citadel? I just sold the carcagada. Yeah, Yeah, so, it's all right. But it was allotted because in some moment of your life, you have lived.

And because I see cases like, almost all the days. Uh-huh. Of the people that's the attention to who no does attention.

A bit of course, of people who don't receive attention and that's attractive to who no that's not available. Correct.

A veces, the not is it's not that's not that's not other person or or something. But at

sometimes, no, he's soltero, but not emotionally is available. Correct. No. He doesn't.

Yeah. Because you can't not have a pairha, but simply not start to do anything. And you get to be

five years, to be there. If you know, if finally, it's entreged this person to come to do it.

And there's the bad to do you have to do you know, that's the little bit of the attractive, the attractiva.

Literal. No, so, so it's a woman's, but it's that the people they like

to do you know, to do you know the that we're we're not sure, because men, and women, we're

we're not different. A little. Let's the women we're innamorams the present of our

marriage. The women are in the future. Of the correct. So the women if they're like the

people say, I'm like, I'm like soha me just like that never can't be. In pox words.

Look, it's too the way to see the right. Correct. I'm going to change.

But more than I'm going to be to go to where you go to go to the maximum potential.

If you you're in the club, in the gymnasio, and of the restido of men,

and you're is to get a point of to get to you know, you get to you guys

you're going to and you say, you're doing you're sure? And if the chabbo is still?

And the only what you have to ask is to ask him and what you're like you

do you is what you like this relationship? The type you're going about

only of the present of this woman. It's guapisim our sexuality is incredible

is incredible is super little with my family no you know you can't

to go to go to to see to she, we'll we're we're doing the same things, we're doing the time, the type only

is the person in the present of who is the woman right. In the case, but you pass to the vestidor of the wife and you say,

you're going to say the sabbath? Yes, you're you're going to be sure, you're sure, no manches, it's the better that's the

better than you know what's the relationship. She's going to talk about the future of it. Of what we're going to do you

want to be a house, we we're going to live in tal colony. Apart, if you'd if you'd

How you guys, how she she's going to your papa? I'm sure that's a guy is a

person, you're a lot of people, you know, you know, the life that we're going to

build up, we're going to get in Japan in a few years, sure. She's in that's inamor of the future.

Exactly. I'm going that the woman, andnamored of the floor. Ben the potential.

Exactly. The grand problem of casers with a button enaborated with a button,

you're you're going to get to you're necessarily will be flower. The most

sure is that the guy is not going to be a flower when you know and the he's a question.

Correct. In his maximum splendor. The man, if me can be a flower with the

that I'm had casted, wait a what you before? What was? Because you're you're not

you're going to this? What's? This is not me because you see the back the

back. In the case, the the future of the future of the future of the

future the type no he was the thing to the the man

is the woman is going to when the woman is going to change and the woman is going to be and the woman

and the woman when the woman is the other because apart to the women what we need to the permanency or so

is think it even in the relations of amistat is the women all the time are trying

that their people are that their women we need to those people we're that our

I'm my my friend the tonto is, like a whole of the life.

What's the thing to that's the thing to be to be able to do you know about it. I mean

to be able to be sure that you're saying, but we're just the reasons neurologicas

of what what you know, the love at a neurociencia occurs very different

and hormones in the women of women. Let me let me. It's, the

the women are in a lot of oxytocinia. Okay. The men, the

when when it Nase a baby. I think this episode is going to be more more than what we amicester. I'm going to be

no, no, if you've been to be able to the issue. Yeah. Is, why when a baby nace, for

example, when my two kids are the first we're the first is the baby, immediately after they're

done your limpidita and they're in the back. For what? For what? For what?

For the mom the baby is sitting in the baby's sitting to come to come back to come from it's

all right. All of this is completely certain. also we know that psychologically the temperature of mom is something for the baby, the latino of the

is something that that's a lot of that's a lot of but there's a thing. This is not only you're doing for the baby

but you're doing for the mom because the contact the contact with the real-com-pil in that moment seya the relation with

creation of oxytocina and the oxytocin is the hormone of the relation so in the instant in the person in the moment

in that contact with the body-in-the-of-the- the Cerebro of the mother as a baby are inunded

and the oxytocina and the oxytocina seya the relation. In that instant it's love

eternal of the way of this relationship but when when a woman has a lojado

in his cerebral to someone with oxytocina the woman has to identify his necessities

personal as something as something to the other person. Wow. So, they aloja in the

ovulo prefrontal like what this need needs it's like if you it's like I need to

if this this new you know it's like the problem is that the people are you try to

we're gonna not come you know I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm gonna because it's

I'm my health for you correct my mom my mom my life I'm

costed two deopteryas yeah I'm I'm so you're so you

so you're so you so you so so right but it's because the relationship

that based in oxytocin there when it produces oxytocina. No see. Is that a tontah? Yes.

When a woman is a young of oxytocina, what you look is more contact and contact more profound. For that we say the hormone of the relation. An example.

It's, I can't make in any any way. One example. Tantombers as women, when we get to orgasm,

the orgasm is an explosion of oxytocin in the case. Okay. And then a woman, despite of the

orgasm, who's more contact. It's, Abasam, you want, how beautiful this is the one.

It's because that's what produces the oxytocina. And the is that's what you do you?

Because the the man gets to the orgasm and also you have an an

thing to get a place. A one of a person to a and what you

do you know and you need also a okay let me. Let me getteer. Yeah, let me gettear.

Yeah, I'm chame. Yeah, I'm not I don't I try with what? And the people start with oh, is that the performance

was too was a lot of and for that I'm getting dormitory. No, idiotas because you know about your

oxytocin. Wow. For that, pardon for the prosaico of this, but if you're chaboo,

if you're a man, an old old with you have a much confidence and you say, he says,

no I'm don't know I'm not I'm gonna exactly. Manuela. A mano am a mano amic

a justice for you You know. Has justice for your own. And literally you're doing.

And you're you're not you're not because the orgasm to do you know. Do you know has to go ahead? Do you know more

more than orgasm and do you're more because the exgaste but the oxytocina no the same. And the thing is this. All the amortemes

and the love that does it but the majority of the women and we're all because we're in a world

looking equity and trying to revaloror much to the women, and

I'm much about the medicine, even the literature psychological is very

based on the woman, not in the woman, but in this

battle we've we've done to forget about how I'm

so I'm all the time doing papers and this type of things and this

things, my colleagues that write things of the women,

they have seven eight years to not public nothing

because the investigators live in the grants, that people who want to do their own money,

they want to do and puttociar and get your your mecena's to make your business and you're going to make a question

that's based on the man, about the suffering or the experience of being a man and they're and they're

terror of being so that's not to be their careers not are trying to publicing things of

how we're we're not even that's information that we're that's information that we're

not sure of the people don't not function in vasisocinicinia and not function in base to get a emotional.

The man not is like a pender not. Because for many years, the women, those are you not used to be

the women, the woman, the right. And right we were the one of the other side. Correct.

And the pendulum and then... Yeah, you'll be to be the center, the synthesis. Tard or time.

At the moment we're to look to be to be able to know we're to get to we're going to put into the

people to say, I'm a man, I'm a I'm revaloras in a form incredible but not for

so I'm because we're going to be a world today, where the demographic that's suicide is

man who's under 25 and 35 years. Because if you see you like a privilege, that you know,

I'm sure, I'm, I'm and it's a thing of the two, it's a thing of unidad correct. It's a

thing that it's a thing that we can't be that's not because when it's so it's the pendulum

it's carried. It's You know, well, the chavitos that they're not those millions, and they're not paying the price. Yes, and apart

they're not doing it. Correct. And not it's not to try to have to be a other other way, and then it's a lot more than a thing.

But if, for the less, we're not doings the time to say, well, if we understand this of the woman, no, we don't

we'll forget us to explain to the man of the right. Correct. The equity is for the right of the

right. Correct. For the bien of the society in general, with the family. Exactly. But the

women and So we're we're inomoram most different. Ammous different? From there. From us. From there's different. From there's different.

There's like the best way of explain to this. Is, I think all the women have been in a relation

of a marriage a couple, there's a moment in the they're going to their wife and they say, why you

keep you getting with that animal? With some the amigote? Exactly. Because you still you're doing with

this type that no that's not that you do you do is to pay to give you money, that is an idiot

that's a little bit of never, and that the only thing is quit your time? Why do you keep your question to tell you? Why do you

keep your attention to him? Don't me make a minute, women. And the men don't know how to defend us

because we don't understand because we am we, and how is that we're the thing is that the woman is

a way to the woman a time a through the hormone that the hormone of the mission complete.

And it's called vasopresina. Uh-huh. It's the hormone that segregates when we got something something that was a little. Okay.

And the and the amygote what has to be? For you know, you know, your wife, is he's going to this idiot, with

the first, with the first, because, very probably in the primary, his friend, he helped to do a

little, that he was able to do this he was with a battle, like, we got him the tournament

of foot when we were the the peor people. Or this chau me helped to finally

to be to get a child that I never had never had a paled or this child,

I'm doing for this type I'm not I'd put a pay for the time. Whatever whatever.

So a triumphs a correct. And a gratitude. If I think

that someone me helped to do to get to make something

that's automatically, that person is a loggado prefrontal with vasopresina and that what means?

That's what does it? this person and the own because it's like the like the same like the same

like the exactly without the without you when a man when a man when a man super sacrificed

that he was that he was to do you do to get to the time time to come to talk to

to your mamacita because mom me made that were impossible and my mom is a

Santa and a and my mom no is it to because is alojada because it's

alojada and even has been your effects, I defiant to be a

part. Sure, it's I'm pedestalada like the part of that's a that's a

little bit of me, I'm just the he's a way to do you know, it's the way because we're

because we've momas flammatic ultra-amoros that they were their life for us and they're

to do that the great the grand lealtat for mom. My video my video more viral

I've got a video in TikTok with eight million of

and that's that how how to make that you so obsessions

with you. So the woman, and me I imagine that is, I'm going to to have to do you.

Let's, let's to make you to do it to look at things that are not even impossible to

him, curate her that he had he he knew, not the things that his mom,

his and the women, that were with him never did it and never no,

I'm never, I'm know, I'm, I'm, I mean, I mean, I mean,

and I, I'm, but you show the reactions of the people, because my

video of the majority of women that not what I said, that's the fact that you're in the reactions. That's the

book to do my mom. I'm not I'm here to be a person to be a therapy and he's a

little. But that's other thing. You're talking of a companyism. Obviously the man also

should be the same. Right. To help you support the support your support, support her

power, not dominor, etc. But a only and not for the people, and simply to

understand this dynamic is the men who are the men who are the women

with all the own the own they're in they're they're they're going to do you're

going to not quite because it's an people. Correct. But if the

woman not the part of the responsibility, the health emotional of the

family, the same in the man has to understand as a

responsibility, the security and the provide to the mother. Correspond

would be a responsibility not would be a job yeah

but we're more each a to be what I'm going to say to get a much The woman nutre

more. There's a word in English that no is not you can't translate with a word that's nourishing the natural

of the energy feminine, for not about to be the human rights and that's a that's a nutrition and cranesia

nutrition and creation and that's a term of super amazing. The woman or the energy

feminine naturally is more nourishing but there to be a bit the the man is

more destructor and the energy masculine because there women is so.

Yes, but there you go. With the with the problem, it's, we're going to

honest with respect to certain things. We're all we're not going to energy masculine and

female. All right. I mean, I'm a very, I'm a man, for so I'm

therapy. Yeah, and that's the jing and obviously. But to but to what we

do we need to do we need to not is this when a when a woman is a

masculineis can be so efficient, can effective, tan executive, as a president, CEO,

an entrepreneur, leader, whatever that's us. We don't know. To us. To who? To the women?

A those women us does it does not to get a person is a leader, very executive,

very independent and very very strong, they're attractive to the women, not to the women.

Sin embargo, okay, that's all that I'm that most the people, but if

we're We'd askerable to the spouse of Claudia Shemam or the husband of Kamala Harris. You could I demonstrate very easily what are

the traumas of the infancia for those they're in a relation so, that's just of what we're going to talk in this

episode a little. But if there's, I mean, if there are that there's that they're women, men, men,

men, men, nobody encounter attractive because they're people, but it's a match,

a much, it's a match that's a match that works that works, but I'm not only only only to have someone

that's going to I'm talking about how you're talking about how you're this society. This society maltrapa

to the people people and then those are the maltrapes because socially not they're not very

not really that we're that a woman can make make sure, that a woman can be presidenta obviously but it's

and it's the same respect and the acceptation that's 100% but for how

functioned biologically the person has the capacity to do that not means that's going to not going to

pay a price for doing. You know, I'm put very simple. Also, also in the man.

A man can't feminize and be a better to be able and be able and be

feminized and be the other the child of the children, and the they're going to

not be a respecter. Now, those people not, not you know, but it not you should

be able to whatever thinks the world and be the person and that's a because it's a

faction. It's a it's, it's, it's pretty good to say, and that my practice, no, I know what I'm saying, my practice, no, I know how to say it in Spanish. My practice, I'm, I'm, I'm a practical,

full of women's femininous, that's too, that this implicate, level relations, and women masculine, that are artas, to have to carry the world solas, and that only those encentent attractive

types, that are parents, are kids, because the women masculine are, aretas, to start carrying children. There's a price to pay, definitely. There's a price to pay.

But every who has a right to live, 100. 100, but for the less, I mean, I'm not saying that the women don't even masculinize. But for the most, let's tell me, the truth. Or so, for the minimum, let's say, it's clear that you can't make sure that you can't make, but these are the prices to pay. For this is for what you have to prepare. And so

so it's about your life. Now, it would be ideal that the woman could be president or CEO and all, all right, since masculinization. Because I sometimes, for example, right, Kamala Harris or Claudia Seimbaum, no, women's destackadas in the political. But put an example,

to survive, they have to be masculinize or have to put us a masker of a man for that not they're not, and they have to be more, you know,

say, those chabrones, for that they're not them come. But here is where we're going to make sure the error more great of the

history, in my opinion, is, and here is where the feminists is, is, the problem not is that the problem, not is that

the world has been that's been so patriarchal. No? That's not really the problem.

So, what is the problem? The problem is that we're just to value the magic

of the feminine. But it was the man patriarchal that he did not to be

to be the I'm a I'm a example. If you you're you're going

to be you're to get to the people in chappas and you you're to be

to be to be how you're how all the of leadership in the public

and there's a role of the people feminine. It's... It's... It's... It's...

It's... It's... Exactly. You, you know, it depends the community and the culture,

but of what I know the people, it's very common in those communities, is that there's a

community, who does the car, because it's like the governor of this little community, and is who

has who has a person to the person's he elige to try of certain methods, depending depending on

every community. And this type has a rune temporal. You're going to have the baston-demand during five or six years, or you

have to have 10, or what or two, and just, and just ender, you're going to you're going to your house and

you're just you've got to. In the baby the little the world, that is the that the

that demuestra to have the sabiduria feminine, that is normally where the man with baston de mando,

will to yore your and who who's the people, this woman this woman does the

little the world, resolve all the problems emotional of the world, and what means to be part of this

community, and that that's a car. No, that's that's for always.

In the the tribus is the thing, the problem is of the European, is that all

the model of the model of the woman black, but what what I'm all

the countries should have to have to have to have a role masculine of leadership and a role

feminine of leadership. Sure. But then then there would have a role feminine of that someone us could have to a form different to the economy and

what we're going to do the tax of interest and how are the migrants? No, in the other of little foundations

feminines, trying to help to help to the women with cancer and trying to help the children in

situation of abandono and and trying to help to help us the blah, blah, blah. Tendria

a figure governmental as important as a president that were a 100% occupied by someone that's

absolute sabidurial because it's uncibly, the roles the role is the power that occupies

in the world are minimum when they're more of the population. But the problem should be not going to

be governed both and not only not only only only only I think that all the

people would have to have a different of the sex or the sexo that you

want to but someone I would have to understander to like, I am the grand of the people.

And the thing is this. When a woman is this, it's a very much attractive

for all. When a man is a masculineisia, it's very very much attractive for all right.

And it is it and it seems to be but we know the point. My point,

I think I can start to be a point, is that not a question.

Cere. Cere. That for for being to be not you need to to do the

role, then you still the is the the Who is any of us to say

this is the reality of how they they're in the reason the only the only that's the

thing for the I'm abog much much is, for favor we're able to let's we're able to

let's be going to be what you're going to do you that's all because if you'll

do you know you'll be a little a paloote to your tabor a time

as they're like the as the while the those those those are involved

are okay with what is okay with all all the consequences. If it's what you

want, if you're going to prepare us for the consequences of that role. And the thing is that if we're in a time where one of the patrons most common is, into the enamoramoramination, that we're going to talk about much of enamourmet. But one of the patrons most common is

to look at people that not you valor. No, no is that's the problem. It's a symptom of the problem. We're talking about the problem. We'll make a pause and continue because we're not. We're we're enamoramous of people that not is

a disconvour, justly, we'll come back. After you? You're going to your dreams, but you'll feel you feel?

You know you do you need the necessary to build the life that you want and you do you're a problem?

So, if you see the sientes, not you don't you don't you feel like, because that's very common.

Sin embargo, there is to know that this limit the potential of many people is to be down and

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Garcia Plattas about of why we we know we're not that's not that's not

that's not all over. Then just yeah, more than we're we're not much and we're and that we're doing roles different. because, for what, for you, the other part of course,

because we're to divorce us to the idea of that the enaboramination is a reason for the way to start

a relation to get a person, the only that means is that all your ego has created a

mega-projection because it's encountered a person that valid the traumas more that's

that's managed that's so who is our child or a child lastimated literally

100% 100% to be examples to be practical to do you

to explain that is a trauma. So, we'll we're going to the trauma, and that's

what you have to understand the people. So, what is a trauma? When we're when we're

we're in front a event and we feel a thing we're the first that we're to understand,

is that the is personal and subjective. Is what to you can have done

much, I could not even never have noted. And pass between

the time. And pass time. You're you're a time. It's like in our

my they'd even in many houses, existian the cell phone of this of line in your

house, that you could have you're to get a that you're talking about and they're

talking about it. And they're about it and you're to hear so, and with that you don't see

that's all to the click final. Sure. It's correct. So, imagine that I've got

seven years. The papa even thought the telephone to be about the nobody and that they're

talking about. Obviously. Now, imagine that I'm seven years. I'm in the cell of my house. Hibanded with my mom.

And, of a repent, I'm going to the telephone, and I hear my papa the bocina, and me kept callied-dissim to hear this. And not is your mom. And he's talking

with someone, that clearly not is my mom, because my mom is sat there. And he's saying, you know, I'm, I'm, want to be here want to be here

to get to get to get to that. There's a lot. There's, even that you know is, that could hear you

like to talk the telephone and say the way, I'm because the events as not we're not that's

not that's not that's what you understand, but the having lived something, not the

interpretation, the story that you want to be, the thing is, imagineate that I'm that I'm

thinking you the telephone, I go to my papa to say to know, I'm doing it to be

to be in my mom, and it's my mom, I'm here two options. What are what are

saying? It's confronting and say or guard them. The theme is of who is the

kind of also to get to be some things but there but I'm if I'm I'm front

this I don't have the I'm not I'm the seven years I know I know what

I'm so I'm so I'm so I'm this I'm this I'm in this moment what I'm

mom, that what is this? Papa, with who you're talking? What, which would be terrible for the relation of my but extremely

good. Could you probably be a divorce? My father. My doleur no, I'm going to

put the cause to me. I was who was who knew and not suble but the most part of the

people would be compared the idea of that they they're the idea of the thing.

The thing is that if this this this is very probable that this event not the that's something

that's a little that's something that's he's going to get a lot. If it's the problem is when

we're doing we're trying to confront us to and so it's how they're the trauma.

Not is the event, it's the incapacity to process and confrontal the so I'm so I'm

I'm I'm still I'm but I'm to be to be to my mom and I don't know

to do And what on with this family? And I know what's going to be going to go that telephone and I'm going to to go to scone to my room to try to to put up to what I've got to

and that's not it will. The thing is that that's not to say to your mom to what you have that's going to do. That's all you

do you're going to do that's just because. But what you're going to be the interpretation that armes, that you help to justify and for the

So, normalize this event. It's called in psychology, process of normalization. And then what is, is, for that this no me dweller, I have to find the form of ver it as normal. And for that I had to change my system operative. Correct. And then my values.

Probably I get a conclusion like, well, this is normal. Talves, so are all those people. All right. Talves, all the papas of my friends also have been a galangit. It's more, one

a case with women that not are those women that's that's maybe this

is normal for what we're doing? For to survive literally? Point number one.

To survive the terror that we do this and the consequences of the that you

have to my boquita 100. But point number two to keep to keep

to be right to justify it. It's more it's more easy to do

to do my father to my mom So I'm sorry to, so I want to think that my mom is an stupid and that my father is the mal of the movie. But that's a supervivency? Correct.

Or at the end of the day, or what I'm going to to be able to my papa? It's supervivency and pertenance. I want to continue forming part of this. I want to see them. Exactly. No, I want to take the borgia. But the thing is that the interpretation

is completely subjective. For that my job is so entertainer because if not all the people who lived the same, would have the same trauma and would be a formula in literally the story that you You know, exactly. You have to

understand what, what is the head this person to survive that person to survive that's a lot. There's a lot of this is of the man, sure my mom

also my mom also maybe this is the love, maybe this is the marriage. I'm for what I'm to make me met to

and I can't get to and I can't and the real problem is that the sensation of control that

this normalization has that soverevives without the next years of your life. So,

This you save in the moment you but when when you get to a age a little

more and you see you see that you know you know you're you're doing that you're doing

when you start a first relationship with a if you you decide that the love is

and that everyone that's normal my my dad I wasia my did you know

my dad my dad but I'm my mom too my mom too I'm I'm

I'm I'm I'm that all the people of that is normal

is a He's inchain and is infiel. The I mean, the end up and the infidilidad

is normal. And the right of the right. Correct. And if I decided, agarrens

that there come in the guamazzo. And if I decided that that's normal, my ego

only can love and find people sexually attractive if they are in these characteristics.

So, that are that they're not, that I'm I'm going a woman that's

physically attractive, but also is is quite mysterious and we know

we know we know we know we know we know with the ex-novio perfect enamoravisim me go

to ultra-boca because this woman justifies my infancia oh, the is for that

we're so we're not so I'm that I'm doing no say no I'm no, no, the

only that I'm I'm a hand-of- impressionant and I'm a desire sexual

ridicul for this woman but the only that I'm saying that I'm in this moment, is that there's a little of me that says that if I'm going to be

my life would be there's a more. There's a little that me that if I'm saying that if I would be able to or this man,

he would be my life. Freud, he called the false promise egoical. The false promise ego.

It's my ego, my ego, I'm, that if I resolve this situation with this person,

until my infancy, it's resolves. Ah, I like, I, I like, I,

I like is like what I've the I elic to be to do you I'm to try to

the the problem to do you it's a so it's perfect the problem is when you

know it's and you repites and repites and repites and repite and the problem is that the premise

is that is there there are there are various levels here so right we're gonna we're gonna

because the one deslokeated. But what go is I'm I love these plattics. In the moment

in the moment in that I know I'm that I know very very very similar

to the that I'm very very similar to how me be in the people in

the times my ego detecta that this game I know

this this movie I've seen and I've never

I'm imagine that my trauma is I have a I have a

I have a great, I have a mother that is very beautiful and then I'm a life, I'm going to

think that I don't know I'm going to do this for the other. Only me I'm able to love to

someone that also. If someone me be like very valioso, I'm still to be a suspect of

them. If someone gets, you're the most incredible that I have been the

time. When my trauma of the infancies is that never was sufficient is

if you're so perfect because you're a lot. To be, I'm saying my Facebook, because what he

did you see to your my time. I'm going to get to do this. I'm not going to be more

more than what I'm going to like that's like a gato encerate? This is like a harritte and you

revasas the level. In English, your happiness level. Yep. Your capacity to have your recas to your

recipient, you make your little bit I'm going to do you, no, no, I don't know. There's a

other thing that time that's the movie there's a Emma Watson the Harry Potter that's

called the perks of being a wallflower something like the same the topis something like I don't know

in Spanish but it has a phrase I did in English and then in Spanish says we only take

the love that we think we deserve clearly only we can't we receive the

love that we're we're so so so I decide that I

think I want to want I'm want to I think the problem are they

don't know I'm I'm going to rechasing no, I'm saying, no, me I'm going to because the last time I think

that I'm going to my mom, it's my parents and not me amar like you're not, so you could love me to this form is make

the same way in the way in the infancy. And no I'm going to do. You know, but of a real thing, but me say,

ah, you're you're saying, ah, you're a bit rote, no, because something that's a bit obscure in you. And you're

perfect. My ego is my ego is this woman my Alma. This woman

me view like my view my view so because me view and he

he's he's he's identical to the trauma that I'm about

me that it resuena the the enorms is ego and

traumatic you you know you you know and the problem is that

the end a a drug is a a drug based in

three hormones want to learn much of this

but we let do We'll do our posita and we'll talk about these hormones, but that me clear and it's goody the form in that you

you're saying, the problem not is the love, is the embase. It's the embases. You want more love? Can you a buso for a jarra. No, it's the

embeckes that you have the capacity to receive that you have to be a not in the emvase, not in the love that the other person. The problem is the

content, is the basicha. It's the basija, exactly. Pausita. And we'll come as the podcast. No, it's a lucre.

Alcalf your maximum potential. Lunes to Thursday, 10 the morning, in the channel of YouTube, the group formula. We're going to Rodrigo Garcia Plattas,

my masters, doctors in psychology, spiritual, doctors in psychology, creators of the maestrian, in psychology, spiritual, Ronnie Merrick always said,

the problem, not is the problem. It's the form in that you relationas with the problem. The issue is never the issue. The issue is,

the issue. never, never, never, ever. That's the best phrases of the world. The theme, never is the theme. The theme, never is the theme. The form in that you relationas with the problem, is the problem. And in my current,

we're saying, like, what you think is the problem, no, no, no. And the only problem is in who you have been given. Sure. It's what you're doing. But all of us,

the recipient. But if you're not, what you do, generate the results that you have. But it's one more, the recipient. Correct. Robert Kyosaki

He had always when I was about the money, I was about about the context, the content

is the water, the context is the water, then you're more money, no,

don't, you know, think in the thing you think your little, be a big,

is a basic more that's a big, for that the , and all the philosophies

spiritual antivate, the idea of the tases budista, is the most, it's the

part is a good not news, if you the problem is I, the problem, I,

the form in the and what I do what I'm so it's very good because I'm

because I'm really really pretty little everything everything you know that's you're not and even you

put you make you make you do you get socee because you don't have your time you're

you're and then you get a lot you're in your basihy there's there's cellar and that's

and that's the thing is and that's with a process with much compassion and with much value and Because the

The cresciment of personal is a deported of valiantes. I do my patients to the Japanese. Of how in the

ceremony of tea Japanese use some some porcelana precious, some tascots incredible, and sometimes a

tassas a romepe. And when the taza is romeper, whoever thinks this taser not

serve. There are the Japanese not do that they're not they're in a molde and they

all the grietas with the $24 kilates. That And so that tassar rota is a tax

automatically in the tax more value of the set. Because only those who are they're going to be and are people

are people who are people who are it's attractive and you have to see those grietas of gold to those people

as humans reparated as so I'm saying that my people I prefer sickerisated because it represents, it

it's a it's heartless it, the way of the Sanation, no is single. It's of

valiantes because we have to see and have to be able to get and have to be able to and to repair and to

change. It's of people very valiant and reparance to see. 100. Yeah.

They're saying for there, it's easy to a city. The difficult is conquist to you

yourself. Sure. Exactly. And I get that dialogue internal. So when

you're you're you're obviously, I don't because I do because I

live. for me, it was during many years very attractive the people that were a little bit

a lot. Or the people literally, I was to get to with a guy with someone that's,

literally that always me be yeah, I was like I'm doing, I'm, like a little

of who, you know, you're going, you, you, you, you're going, that you

want, that you're that they're that they're in the instant, in the instant, in the time, they were,

they were, they were to they're doing, they're getting to start to correction and was,

because it's the only way in that they were in the only they were in the way, they were to do you want to do that.

And in a way, they had I, I had to help. Correct. Of course. So, for

me, a damcela in necessity, someone that was a attractive. And the worst is that

for your biology colerica, you see as a man, so it's very easy

that the women with that automatically they were, uh, a malo. A mano,

a, a, But I'm trying, I I'll show you to I'm going to show you're going to I'm a good. I'm going to show you. I'm sure.

If I'm sure to show you that I'm good and you're you're doing you, resolve the problem of mom, of course. That's,

that is what we do we're doing this and not put a philosophical. We're talking we're saying, we're repeating, we're putting the

pattern that we're we're doing the pattern of what we've seen what we think to the majority of the people. If my papas were to I'm going to

to be a to be a not necessarily is, I'm going to to be to be to get a person who

to play the game that I'm with the promise of that this person if I'm if I

see a valios, if I'm very sanos and when I'm when I'm

with the India with a man with a sociologist that I know

yeah. Is more I can tell a a story? Yes. Because this story

me I'll open the eyes to me. I went to India with my woman. We went to a crucerito

and we went to a much of a little bit of a excuse to be a little bit of the first city that we talked in the crosser

called Cochee and then we got him the sir of tuk, super good on that has a tuk tuk

with a what's the tukes? are these motos that they put like the here in Merida

we have many these these motors they put like the caris like the those mototot

taxis. And the guy's and the guy's a little bit of a little bit of a little

so he's a carri and he's a stucus and I did he so I'm so we're in and we're going to

go to do you and we're we're going to we're going to go to do you and we're so we're so in this

city there's a sole church that you're going to know well we're well we're I've been

I've been about my car on the net. The case is that we my wife is very

she's very so it's she's literally in this set cabed microscopic. It's, or so,

for a church. The case is that we're a woman found a a couple of a car to be like

the two years and me go, you know, and I said, no, the a out of the let me go to be my

drone. And so she met with this pair of people, that are like the guys of tourists of

there, it's like, it's a time, and in this he's a little difficult, I'm doing a

couple of years, and the man, and the man is And he says, Oye,

I can't take a photo with your woman? That is something that in the India, we've been much because I mean

an 80, my wife made the same to the way of the eyes and it's really a lot of so they'd make a photo

on all the other side. I'm going to get a photo with your and the first of the first I'm

to look to my wife and he said, hey, I'm sure, that if you take you take you

a photo with this to him, to him to you to ask you to him but for me

it's obvious. It's like I'm like I my woman me says, yes. And then the type

is a cell the cellular to the whole of the woman, and he says something in Urdu or not in

what is in what you know, but not just for the energy of what he's doing, he said that he said,

let me make me a photo with this chava and then he goes to my and he abhors

to my and he abient to the phone, what you think you you're you don't, no,

me molestary the form to the honestly I'm in honestly, I did and I

It's like I'm going to be on the day in play to Carmen with my and I'm going to find out of some time. And I'm going to say, I'm

photos with my phone and start something like going to go to a little bit. Like if it was your assistant. Exactly. Like if it was my assistant

is this type will be like in a fairia. Or so, this woman to do you know, to do this man? For my surprise, terminate to

the photo. She's, she, he abient the telephone of the regress. And she, I said, I said, I mean the

and the woman and then I'me now me now me now I'm and she's and she's like I'm trying to my wife

because she also I'm my phone and I'm that I'm my phone and I can't see the after that this woman

to give a little caches to my exhote to me stupidly confused and being a therapist and being a therapist and

that's even even different religions and nationalities the that I don't me can't explain what I'm me affect

much, the net. And our guide of tourists, days after we went to

we're a lot, blah, blah, was a sociologist. And then I was sent with him, I was

perfect, Spanish. And when we're saying, I need, I'm explain

what the other day. Because my and my knowledge no me do to understand this

situation. He explained all the what I did it and I did one of the

cachedadas professional more durs that's done in the life what he said, he said, ah, is that you're not,

is that you're like, yeah, we're saying, we're saying, we're saying, oh, is that's

that's because, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And he said, how, and me said, I know,

I know, I know, I know, because our matrimonious are all right and we said,

we're doing, we're, we're just we're not people, and I'm and I'm why?

And I me said, the literature psychological, He was a type very prepared. And, me, the literature psychological, what does it have to have two

people who are a pair of, to give the major possibility of this matrimonial? Helen Fisher has written much to respect. It's the characteristics fundamental for that a relation functione,

has to be with having created in levels socioeconomic and levels socio-cultural like-cultural, parisides, to be the same

idiom, having the same values, to be there the same culture, to have the same religion,

is having lived the life of the form of the values essential. Exactly. The tripia has to be,

or the trip has to be similar. What it's a matter? What's the matter a child? How is it a good?

How is God? Who is God? Or who are people? Or who are who are people?

For the politicalists? How do? How is? What is? the money, for what is the money?

All right. What's the thing? What's the what I mean? Exactly. If we're more money, we're

we're doing, the people, the rich are are not all these things. The poor get better to the

world. These things are important. The case is that me that's interesting that the literature

psychological that says that these are the factors more important and you're and you're

not the because and I said, and me said, and me when my people

when my that I don't know the day of my boda, me eligered a woman of the

same religion, of a culture similar, of a level socio-economic similar, with the same values,

with the parents that were the same things in the family, with the same religion, and me

said, when you're when you're because the relationship is very fragile, because what has the

relationship is the desire that you see the other person and the guarantee of that this person

still feeling and that's going to be able to and I'm and he said if this

woman, the other the other the person, he would be the person

thinking that the solide that the solidee that's the relationship then the that's a

photo with your wife, would have been a problem monumental. A menace. Correct.

And me he said, but that that woman knows that she's because they're

and then because they're And me he said, for what have consolidated and vivid. My son,

those two were the day of his bode, but I'm sure that I'm sure that's two

he's still and he was to get to care he and they're this business. And certainly

they're this business, to gain money, to be this in a church a

Catholic. Probably the two value the religion Catholic. Probably probably the

both are Catholicos. Probably this is some mission to expand the Catholicism into

the India and to bring people to know this power of God. Probably they didn't

a child. Because in this region of the India, we've had many people have many people. And for

the most we've been to know. And you know what's the one or one or the other.

So, your relation not is based on what they are, and how they're

in the relationship. So, it's a lot of much more more than, have been have been

to do it has much more than their desire and their individuality. For lot

to your woman or you, no an man, because what they are more solid than the enamoramoram.

And when me said I'm saying, caro, studied as a idiot psychology,

and me have passed trying to resolve matrimonies and the resuel based on

enamoramion. And what we know psychologically is that the enormonement is that

is not more than three hormones. I'm I'm going to this and I'm sorry to the

story, because the enomomomomomom is my ego detect that someone front

to me act like the moments more traumatic of my life. Nace the idea of

that if I do this person me want to me be a valiosos and then it's resolves my trauma

and my life entire from the infancy I'm I'm to feel

for this person because the first hormon of the enamoramation is testosterone

and no me degen this has passed practically all is

you enter to a new job or you enter

to a new salon in the school, in the university, or a university, or what the salon. There's been a child or a chapo in the salon. Those are from not you came to attention.

No, they're not so physically bonit, is a person X more in your life. But, of a sudden a week of classes, pass on two. You see how it's a person,

if it's a bit despot, if it's arrogant, if it's a man, if he's a lot of the master, and it's different to you can't. And now

you can't even to think in this person that you that's the first

that's it's a because you know, it's a thing that you know,

there's that's you're to be a person, you know, if the person,

you know, and it's like, oh, here, there's there, there's a

little bit of that this occurred in the first, that's over the child that's or the chab or the chab

automatically dopamine. I'm going to feel a like a reason.

You not only I'm not only you do you're a

enthusiasm of the thing. Finally, we talk about we'll we're exososina. The

enamoramoramation is nothing more than curbs of testosterone, dopamine and oxytocin and can

durer six months. For that the typical relation promed due a six months.

Because you start a six months in that this person and that has this

person and that all the projection that's the armast of the enamor in the head.

It can get to get to last 18 months, a year but a time

the end of the end of the end of the and you the election of the

the question of this is something more more important to be more than

for you know that role is that the problem is that the

problem is that the people not know never know does even The men think that desire a

woman is a reason to offer a relationship and you you're going because valid a

your because it you're going to get to get to you're so that's so that's

this type what he said is, you're you're so you're so they're so they're

not, we're not we're not because we're we're not we're we're

we're more more more than our individuality and our desire and me said that

a pair that's that's probably that's all the whole of your relationship,

she has been inamorated of someone. It's highly probably that in the relationship, he's

has been a be a becina, of a client, of what and to all of

those both does that they know, because the thing that's, and they're

part of a much more important than the enaborampt the enaborampt the love no. And, It's fascinating this.

I remember when Oprah a voyo to go to the India and interviewed personally, he meted to the house and he was and he said, is that no problem.

No, we don't have the expectation of anemortar us. Then we're now, we're that we've been this side of the

world. Well, yes, we're never we're but we're after that we know we're and we

we can't see the relationship as an to sanarer to do a therapy, to sanar,

but also we can't decide to build, we can't, because we don't we're going to say,

oh, well, yeah, I'm going to say, I'm not, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,

not going to do you know, not going to not go to not. No, no, we're doing. But we're

doing it's a moment, right. Correct. I'm enamored. Okay, this is going to get a, I'm my love,

I'm going to go, I'm, I'm going to work, the, the trauma, I'm going to, I'm going to what you're

what's saying is what is the What's true. So, what you're saying is completely that's the way. But that's the is the way

real. So if you're really to do you have to do you do that's the people that's listening, we can't

give down like a ristah, a solid of to, in what to start us? We're going with that. We're going to

get me I'm thinking. I'm trying. I'm trying. So, the first that you need to know,

is to what you're trying to what is the way to to get to what you see to get

to be a Nota the patron that has had been all your relations. For the

least, you're you're you're you're doing you're always you're and you're

and they're and never to get us in the head to say, oh, is that not that's

not sure, the people not changed. The fact that at the first you think

they were that were that they were that was what you was the time, you're

you're not, you this same form of being the right. What I'm in the same is the same but the 99%

the people don't have to be able to see me but when when you're saying there's not when you when you're

when you're transform what you do you're but not only only the the family the time the the time the

stuff all the fact so it's you're you're so it's you're you know

what you're you're you're you're you're you're there's a car there's

there's too wapos? Ah, car. There are all these women that never had seen. There was another type of job, of the company, employees, employees. You know, you're a carball lechero, being in a one of a little direction, and that had a world of possibilities that no. You'd attract me

to attract. But you to understand what toxicity? Or so, you and you, that I'm dedico this, and you've done a quantity of chamba in this, yeah is for us very easy to say, you'd be look at those who people were that men were men, they were I was to look at those that

those people were bados and I was really I'm addicted to that you're a thing you're a lot of the thing you're trying

to do you think that all those men's like I'm back 20 years or so that that was my profile, that was my patron

I'm just at point of to casar me with someone that I'm trying in the instant in the I'm sitting

and I'm say, I'm sure because I'm trying to be doing that if I'm sufficiently

good for someone if I doivable for my parages. A wait, because I'm

so convinced of that I'm really that I'm really that I'm really that I'm actually, I'm never have done nothing to do

if I'm not if I'm not if I'm didn't know I'm because I'm so I'm so that I'm that I'm

that's the thing you start. Because then then what you say is... Or go to pel the one, you

one, you obviously there's evidently there there's a part of me that's convinced that this stupidness

and then you start to have the I'm to get the and you're the question that I

feel like I'm really about the stupidness that I'm think I'm that's right correct. And then so

then you understand what you is what you can't to say that to find to find attractive to these

people? Because why is this episode of the podcast of why we're we're going to

we're we're going to and that it's not even it's not sure that all

we're not not sure we're not emotionally about it. What is true is that the majority of

we're in we're ashamed of we're in we're quite we're quite we're quite and then

only we're not really that they're that they're exactly so they're those questions marvellousas

to what I'm attracted or attracted in this moment and what is what I'm to say

for that this person or this type of people me degen and tryer and

and remember to this you're you're this question you're those

questions you're to talk my tallyers, resolves these traumas

and when you know your relations are completely different and you know you know because you changed your experience in the world

is a can be able to know. For that I have a theory in that I have a lot of people who's that's called

compatibility traumatic that's this is very very difficult we should be we're going to do this one day in a

episode with a part of you. It's very impressionant. But I know I know people, I can't have

a patient individual for much time I did this in the time I went to a bar I was

a person and said you're going to you're and you're and they're and they're so,

okay this person is there's a person who's she's a lot of two minutes and then I just to talk

them to talk their experiences see what biotip and what personality there there's

I'm you're you're you're you invite the next service if I'm

if I'm can't and they said, ah, caray, to be the number of the times that

I'm a lot of times that I'm because it very easy. It's very very much I'm not exactly how

is the kind of the same and then I'm, so I'm to know what you

to have to get to someone, you know, you know, you always always you always you

say this type of but at the time you're doing the mandibular to get to get to the because we're

so idiotas, based on our traumas, and then we're just we're doing people with traumas compatible. It's, I need to

someone who my personality with my defianto has to talk your trauma, and his personality with the has done to

my trauma, and then we're to play the rest of the life and and this is the reason for the way

that I was the day that I did I, I sent to to me, we, we presented a friend to me, he was

going to be going to be going to be he said, And so chylango, endulsa-u-u-idos, blah, blah, blah. Because my mother is regia. And I said, no, no, no, de vera.

Me going to cast out of you? And it was time in to say, why me did you? And I said, because our traumas not are compatible and I'm like five minutes in dar me. I don't have the capacity

to lastimart where most you dole. And you don't have the capacity to lastime where the most me. So, with you can't build

something I can't almost 10 years after with two kids and never me have crossed over the

head to be the way, it's very very easy when I'm that you know,

we're a super group, and the that he could be to get a more

or that even even if even even that's a lot, that's

a lot, that we know, that we we're that's that's that's the

good news. The life not has not you keep that you

have to you're you repeat and repites and you the same Inferno

with a different diablo or diabla the life not has been so the

solution is to to find in encounter to that person special in

in going to get into of you and and give that and

that's the very and in very many many little

words and just to say all the people

and just and more and better to get to all the

people that you do are that you don't then

then then then then then then in the other to think that the

world is a lot. Yeah, a friend, that's the thing. My dear Rodrigo Garcia

Plattas, in where we can't find out of you to learn more to be a therapy, although I imagine

that's many places there's different there's there's there but I'm

many times I'm much times that's a full in love just of this, that the

people enter in a time doing to do you do you do you're going to get to

things I'm like Roe Garcia Plattas, so just a R.O. Garcia Plattas in Instagram. I'm like Rodrigo Garcia Plattas in TikTok. Pronto,

we're re-aser the page of rooGarciaplattas.com. But there me can be in radio social. I'm doing lives all the time. There are many people who are

to come to me to the lives and I'll go, let them, I'm two seconds and they're to say,

and I'm going to get you're doing in 10 minutes. It's good. Yorando while. Yolando and

starting to sanar. Because what I do it is that they're really dole and not the theories that has been made in the case. So, of a

repent, he'll take to her with him, for example, and he says, is that you should be more more faredes,

is that you don't know what you're going to reclamar. That's what is what you want to be to say,

it's not to say, it's not going to say, I'm more, I'm more, because you're sure,

I'm sure, because you're trying to soltart the control and the control and the mando, and I'm convinced

that if I don't know I'm going to do you're going to make you're going to be you're going to be you're going to be

the essence. Correct. I the people, it's a, it's a, it's a technique of resolution systemical. But I'm,

I do to say, I tell you to do the platform in the launchment, I you tell you, how to start to to say what you're to say.

And when you you know, you're going to be able to the problem is the problem is that we're going to get you're going

with the information equivocal in the media social. And the and the fact is correct. And the fact not you're saying.

It's always there's a very fact. No, I'm very good. Roderio Garcia Plata, much,

thank you, thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you, all the heart to me. I'm going to

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