Epic Real Estate Investing - How to Get Success when Starting Over in Life, Part III | 856

Episode Date: December 4, 2019

As you're contemplating starting over in life, there's one thing that you should do before anything else. For if you do... your "do over" will move forward with greater speed and be much more enjoyable than those that ignore this step. Actually, independent studies have proven this to be so. Furthermore, not only will your "do over" be more fun and progress faster, the studies show you'll make more money, too! In this episode, Matt shares this underestimated and often ignored step with you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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E-I-A-Ase.com. Here's Matt. Hey, Matt here. Welcome to another episode of the Epic Real Estate Investing Show. It is way back Wednesday. This is the day where we reach back into the archives and pull out old classic episodes. And we've been reaching back into the archives of the Do-Over podcast, the podcast that started it all. And I got another great one for you today.

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It's part three of how to get success when starting over in life. And today's subject is really one of my favorites, as I believe if done properly, nothing will move you along your path of success as fast as it will. And it is a mentor. And of course, good education, some skill and some talent. They are essential. They're all essential with regard to how to get success in your do-over. But for most people, I mean, school is over with and the parameters of their talent are set, basically on the day that they were born.

And their skills can certainly be developed. But how do you get success, especially if you need to get it fast? You get a mentor. In fact, you get a team of mentors if you can for the purpose of the right advice and guidance and always having a sample of what success looks like. I mean, oftentimes it's a great help to have a mentor, even if it's from a distance,

just to always have a reminder that success, the success that you pursue is always possible. Just having a visual representation will ultimately impact your results. And many independent studies, they've concluded that people that have mentors experience greater results, including making more money and making it much faster and at a younger age than those that do not. Additionally, I mean, much of this research, it shows that those who have had mentors are

faster with their progress and they derive greater pleasure from their lives and their work. But, you know, finding a mentor can be a challenge. And I know, because a lot of you have emailed me about that. How do I find a mentor? You know, for the fortunate, mentors, they can be found through a privileged network of relatives or family or family friends, parents, business associates, college professors, or maybe even your next door neighbor.

I don't know, depending on the neighborhood you live in, I guess. For everyone else, however, the search can require an extreme amount of patience, clear focus, and the self-confidence to actually approach a potential mentor. I mean, not everyone can depend on nepotism, right? And mentors, they're just important for starting over. So how to get success as you're starting over in life, you've got to find a mentor. I highly recommend that. I recommend that be probably the very first thing you do.

I mean, they're essential to rising through the ranks and experiencing greater achievement. Now, one of the easiest ways to attract a mentor is to develop a reputation to that of an overachiever, someone that works hard, someone that goes the extra mile, someone that asks for nothing in return. People of achievement are attracted to people like them, even if those people that they're attracted to

have yet to achieve what they wanted to achieve. But if you're going to be proactive about finding a mentor, here are seven tips. One, you've got to be clear. You've got to be clear as to why you want a mentor. I mean, is it advice and guidance that you're looking for? Is it a connection to the movers and the shakers in your industry that you're looking for? Or is it just someone to bounce ideas off of? You've got to be clear.

The second tip. Tip two. Look for somebody that has the type of lifestyle that you would like to have. And look at all aspects of their life. I mean, for example, their family, the name. neighborhood they live in, the car that they drive, the people of which they associate with, their character traits, their personality, their emotional stability. Do they have the life that you want? Or do they have the life that you want, but they appear stressed out all the time? Or do they

not have everything that you want, but they appear to be happy all the time? I mean, be careful with this one because more times than not, if you do what they do, if you take their advice, you are likely to get what they got. So look at all aspects of their life. Three, when asking someone to be your mentor, explain why you're asking and what you'd actually expect out of the relationship. I mean, let the person know the reasons as to why you are asking them. And don't be afraid to be flattering. I mean, flattery might not get you everywhere, but it will get you more places than indifference. Four, before asking someone to be your mentor, consider asking just a question or two to see what they have to say.

And after, ask yourself, how did that go? Was that good advice? Was it delivered in a way that made sense to me and did it fill me with confidence and energy? I mean, those are the types of things that you want to do. So don't be afraid to give them a little test by asking one or two little questions first. Tip five, one of my favorites.

And it's my favorite because I think it's the best way to get a mentor's undivided attention after you have identified who your ideal mentor is. Look for ways that you can reciprocate or even better look for ways that you can help that person first. I mean, at the very least, spring for lunch as often as you can, send a gift of gratitude when you feel grateful and just really always maintain an attitude of gratitude. Never let your mentor feel taken for granted. I mean, one of the greatest gifts that you can give a mentor is to report back and share your feedback and the results that their advice or guidance created for you.

Mentors, or all people for that matter, love hearing about their part in a success story and they'll be inclined to help you further. Tip six, be careful as to not adopt a sidekick or a mentee mentality. Don't become too dependent on your mentor. I mean, the intent is that one day you'll eventually be a mentor. And to be a mentor, you'll need to fly on your own. And if the opportunity presents itself, I mean, you'll want to surpass your mentor. It's okay if you do that. So continue to think for yourself in that relationship.

Tip seven, I kind of alluded to this in the beginning. Don't limit yourself to just one mentor. The mentor relationship can work in any area of your life. And maybe the best business mentor is not going to be the best relationship mentor. And that person is not going to be the best health mentor. I mean, you just might not find a mentor that represents everything that you want out of life. Now, a strong community of people doing what you want to do that have what you want to have can collectively be an amazing mentor.

That whole community can act like a mentor. I mean, I really just went to this process myself recently. the reason being is that I'm currently creating an online real estate investing training program of which when I got started I just I didn't have the slightest clue I just knew I wanted to create it and I searched high and low at every possible place that I could find to to find someone that was doing it or someone that had done it and I found that person on Twitter of all places so that kind of leads us to where do you find a mentor and I gave you seven tips of what you want to do once you find the person but where do you find one?

Here are some ideas, industry associations, online communities. I love meetup.com. Check out meetup.com. Check out your chamber of commerce. All of your chambers have an online presence now. Look at your church, great people at church, networking communities. Look at your local business owners.

Look at volunteering. Look for opportunities to volunteer because that's really where you are going to shine in your best light, where you are going to be the best person that you are When you're volunteering for a good cause, you'll meet all kinds of amazing people. And they're going to notice you as a great person because you're there volunteering. Look at the SBA, the Small Business Administration. That's a good source. Retirees can be an amazing source.

It doesn't have to be someone who's actively in the workforce or actively doing what you want to do right now. It might be someone that was very successful before that did what you want to do now. And then people associated with your hobbies and your interests. And as I found, maybe you find that person online. I found my person on Twitter. And I'll share you with you that experience. I sent them a tweet and they responded back and then he sent me through the direct message service that Twitter has.

He sent me his email and his phone number. And I sent him an email and he just happened to be vacationing out here only about an hour drive away from my house and asked him if he wanted to get together. And he said, sure, come on down. So he broke away from his family. God bless him. And we met and I just started asking him questions. and it turned out to a four-hour conversation.

And he was so giving with his information that it made an amazing impact on my progress with my project. So it went really, really well. And I'm not sharing that with you to show you how easy and simple it is. I'm sharing that with you to hopefully get across the point that there's nothing to be afraid of. And it is easier than it might sound right now to you. And people are much more inclined to help if you're there to help them. and I came and I did some favors for him as well

and he really appreciated it and I appreciate him and now we call each other and now there's a relationship there. Okay, so that's it for today. God loves you and so do I. And speaking of the Almighty, I'd like to leave you with this from Hebrew 612, the ultimate personal development book. We do not want you to become lazy,

but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised. And I read that because sometimes it's easy to look at your circumstances in the natural and think, I've missed my opportunity. I'm too old. It's too late. I've messed up too much. But with the messages from the ultimate personal development book, the Bible, there's always another opportunity.

He created you on purpose and for a purpose. He's the one who placed those dreams and desires on the inside of you. He hasn't given up on those dreams, and you shouldn't either, okay? it's never too late for God, which means it's never too late for you. It's never too late to be who you might have become. It's never too late to do what you might have done. It's never too late to have what you might have had. Now, I don't know about you, but I have never heard of a single story,

not in the Bible nor in our time, where God gave someone a dream and fulfilled on it the same day. No, our lives are designed with seasons and processes to build our faith and prepare us for the next step. It takes faith. It takes obedience and it takes patience to see God's promises come to pass. Now I speak of God. That's my faith.

And it's okay if you have your faith placed somewhere else at another higher power. And whatever manuscript that accompanies that higher power that you reference, the message is the same. So today, no matter where you are in your journey of faith, just focus on moving forward. God hasn't given up on you. The Lord hasn't given up on you. The universe hasn't given up on you. Trust that he has you in the right place at the right time. Trust that.

He is working all things together for your good. Trust that new doors are opening. Just because one closed doesn't mean it's the end. New doors are opening. Look for them. Choose faith and patience. And you will inherit his promises because, you know, it's just never too late for you to embrace the good things God has in store for you.

I am Matt, the do-over guy, and I will see you. on the next episode of your do-over. Thank you for tuning in to your do-over, where the ignored, underestimated, and unknown steps to producing results and making life work are revealed. And remember, knowledge is potential power. Take action on what you learned today. This is not your learn-over.

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