Escaping the Drift with John Gafford - Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life: The Power of Positive Thinking Ep 77

Episode Date: February 22, 2023

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life: The Power of Positive Thinking Ep 77Positive thinking is the key to success. If you want to achieve anything, you need to start by changing the way you think. In this podcast we talk about how to change your mindset for positive results. - eliminate your negative thinking💬 Did you enjoy this podcast episode? Tell us all about it in the comment section below!On his podcast, he discusses all sorts of topics, including what made him successful and some of his core tenants for living life and managing successful businesses.➡️ He is often joined by Chris Connel and Colt Amidan who are dear friends and successful business people in their own right.The Power Move podcast stands to be one of the top sources of knowledge and insights, specifically into real estate and entrepreneurship out there! Not to mention tons of coverage of topical events and insights into our non-commercial lives as well…➡️ Learn and burn Entrepreneurship from serial entrepreneur John Gafford and his band of mayhem makers. From stripper poles to the oval office, business lessons are everywhere. If that sounds interesting to you, make sure to subscribe to my channel and don't forget to hit the bell icon to never miss a Podcast! 🔔💯 About John Gafford:After appearing on NBC's "The Apprentice", John relocated to the Las Vegas Valley and founded several successful companies in the real estate space. ➡️ The Gafford Group at Simply Vegas, top 1% of all REALTORS nationwide in terms of production.Simply Vegas, a 500 agent brokerage with billions in annual salesClear Title, a 7 figure full service title and escrow company.➡️ Streamline Home Loans - An independent mortgage bank with more than 100 loan officers.The Simply Group, A national expansion vehicle partnering with large brokers across the country to vertically integrate their real estate brokerages.✅ Follow The Power Move with John Gafford on social media:Instagram ▶️ https://www.instagram.com/thejohnmgaffordFacebook ▶️ https://www.facebook.com/gafford2/🎧 Stream The Power Move Podcast with John Gafford Episode here:Listen On Spotify : https://open.spotify.com/show/7cWN80gtZ4m4wl3DqQoJmK?si=70ad5ca4f51e4acc Listen On Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-power-move-with-john-gafford/id1582927283☑️ Featuring:Chris Connel - Esquire - https://www.connelllaw.com Colt Amidan - Director of Commercial Real Estate at Simply Vegas - https://www.amidangroup.com#ThePowerMoveWithJohnGafford

from the art of the deal to keeping it real live from the simply vegas studios it's the power move with john gafford back again back again back again with another episode of the power move the podcast where we try to make you better trying to make us better i don't know know. I got to be honest. John, that intro song kind of slaps when you really listen to that. Does it? Yeah. It's designed to get the crowd going. That's what it's designed for.

That's it. That's pretty nice. Can your band do this? Oh, my God. Could you cover the Power Boots song? Could you do a cover? That's a great question. This is like Inception at some point.

He's completely hijacked the podcast already. For those of you who don't know, to the left of me, the Bulgarian mongoose, Colt Amadan. What's going on, guys? Across from me, the counselor, Chris Connell. Counselor. How are you guys? And I, of course, your host, John Gafford, who has a, host loose is a loosed phrase, because as you can see, I have no control over what cold does.

Just not. Tell me that having a concert with Chris doing a cover of this, wouldn't be amazing. It would be amazing. I'm not going to lie. Bring in, bring in my guitar and do an acoustic set of it. Wow.

Just play it. Valentine's gift for everybody. You know what? That's positive thinking. I think that's positive thinking. And it is. And today on the podcast, what we're going to talk about is negative thinking, how to escape it, how to get through it. There's a guy named Derek Howell that wrote a book called eliminate negative thinking. And I went through it this week because I got to tell you, man, sometimes I start to feel a little overwhelmed. I start to feel like I'm getting too much of the input,

too much stimulus, if you will. And I find myself like, as it comes down social media, just this constant bombardment of feeling like, man, I'm not doing enough. I gotta go faster. I gotta move quicker. I gotta do this. I gotta go.

I gotta go. I gotta go. And those feelings quickly develop and change into thoughts of, I'm not doing enough. It's funny how quickly it goes from, I need to thoughts of, I'm not doing enough. It's funny how quickly it goes from I need to do more to I'm not doing enough or I'm not where I need to be and I'm not there. And how quickly that negative thinking can just creep in on you. Oh, I got a weird one this week. What's that?

So I told you guys about that situation I'm involved in where I busted another lawyer stealing money. Oh, yes. And so I'm out there effectively doing what I'm morally, legally obliged to do ethically from a state bar point of view. I raised it with the court. I said, this is what I found. You know, he's in one of my cases. There was an order giving the wrong person money. And I raised the case.

This is what's going on. And the judge was very troubled by it had a hearing the other attorney hired an attorney to represent him and he pled the fifth oh the whole way wow but the fifth on everything because he's dead to rights yeah and so everyone's calling me newspaper reporters state bar state bar judges other lawyers are saying hey great job we need these people out of our profession etc so i got a text from a friend yesterday and it said hey they're like lighting you up on the law blog there's like a gossip law website just stuff that comes up lawyers and they post anonymous stuff yeah so he showed me two things and one was oh do we believe who's this guy you know i know this other guy he's been around for a long time do we which pony would you bet on like this guy or this guy

and normally not the guy not pleading the yeah yeah i mean that's the guy so so it's just talking about negative thinking then another person said something oh this this uh this guy better be careful what he's doing because i was in court a year ago and there was some case he said he represented somebody and he didn't or something. So normally I would let it go, but that's a direct shot. Oh, yeah, it is. And I knew which case he was talking about

and dead to rights. I'm like, that is a misstatement of fact, so I get on there and I put my name in it. Usually it's anonymous. I put my name and I said, hey, you're talking to me. First off, here's the case number. If you want to talk about stuff and use my name and I said, Hey, you're talking to me. So first off, here's the case number. If you want to talk about stuff and use my name in any breath, here's the information, here are the facts. Go look it up. Second, I don't care what pony you want to bet on. Just go watch

the video. And then you tell me, cause it's all public. Cause somebody came in and taped it. It was so publicized. And then somebody else was like, what's going on? So I explained it. And then two, three people were like, Hey, chris you don't have to defend yourself with anonymous bloggers and i was like yeah but i do because like i'm affected by that kind of negativity comment because there's it's so easy to take shots and add negativity to the world right i gotta i gotta tell i gotta tell you i i've nothing you're saying surprised me because one of the strangest things in in the day and age now of social media it's so odd to even mention this but if you think about a time before everybody had 140 characters to just spew out whatever they wanted eggs that

take shot every time everybody had in their phone to take a picture and comment on every single thing that ever happened to them there There was a time before that. And there was really only the, the burgeoning, you know, the beginning of the internet stuff when it was, were blogs, chat blogs,

chat places where you could chat and discuss much like your legal place. Right. And so before this, and man, when I was on the apprentice watching thousands of people talk about me, was, it was a hole that you go i don't care who you just go down the hole you don't but but this is like a legal thing this is like a professional thing oh yeah like don't you ever say i i walk the line i am i'm above no but but no but see i'm going to argue that it was not a thing because keep in mind you're gambling your reputation when

you're on, it wasn't survivor where we're trying to bounce coconuts on her head. This was, you were gambling with your survival, but you're gambling with, well, you would have won. Cause you would have eaten everybody.

There's so much. Mark Burnett would be like, I could kill people, right? That's not this other. It says survivor. I signed up for survivor. You're implying that people don't survive. But yeah, dude, it was when things were good.

It was fascinating when they were bad. Like, I felt the need to go on there and defend myself behind the scenes or whatever. So, I mean, it was limited to a small amount of things but it was a shot at me and i had i had the evidence to be like that's not what happened yeah here you go here's signed things from the people you're claiming i'm like i can't get into it because that's attorney client privilege stuff yeah but but trust me if anything had gone wrong i'm sure would have heard about it at least use the phrase keyboard tough guy no no i wasn't trying to be. I wasn't trying to get a fight so that people can escalate it because that's what anonymous people do.

Sure. But then one of the person that I took a shot at commented back. And they're like, okay, actually, I appreciate that, you saying that. I did see that you only said you represented one of the parties. You could have said both, and you didn't. That's very above board. But just think about that. Nobody wants to be tried in the court of public opinion. And I said, yeah, but I didn't that's very above board but just you know just think about that you know nobody wants to be tried in the court of public opinion and i said yeah but i didn't do anything

there's nothing to try me on yeah exactly i had to do so i was put in a position i'm just carrying out the day i steal money from people you can hang me up from the highest shots and there'll be maybe a time i fuck up or i do something i missed a deadline out you know it happens you're human mistakes it's not that making a mistake is a problem. It's what do you do about your mistakes that you've made, right? Well, doing fraud is not a mistake. No, no, but I'm saying, like, I'm not saying that, you know, there's times when I could have maybe made a different strategic decision.

You could say, I saw this guy up doing a deposition. He was like a bumbling asshole. He tripped over his questions. He wasn't prepared. Those things happen, right? It's how do you recover. Do you have the character to face it? Do you have the character to admit it?

Yeah. Go ahead, Colt. I was going to say, I think you have to step in when it can affect your business and your personal life. Yeah. Right? Like if somebody's sitting there saying, hey, you're ugly, who gives a shit? Yeah. If someone's like, hey, I'm sleeping with your husband, and it's not,, you better say I need to step in on this or if it's going to affect my

husband would cheat on you. No, he's pretty protective without my shirt on. Me and Chris decided we'd be the most amazing power couple at your party. No, I don't think cause you can't share clothing. You can't share two different clothes. You're going to be gay. You've got to have at least same same size person i don't want to i don't want to share clothes no really no you don't see yeah that's

like to me that's a huge you have your great clothes some great clothes that'd be a huge perk of the swapping of the clothes i'm not saying no but you can share watches you can do well that's a good point you know you can the stuff that man you know i could and we certainly if it was uh gordon's kid couldn't share shoes together dude i wanted to make a comment when he walked into the party and i'm like don't do it i called eric i called eric when they were skiing last week and she said for those of you listeners don't know our friend's son we discovered recently has a size nine he's a grown man he has a size nine she's that wonderful kid it's just funny because john apoplectic like he just couldn't believe it was the size that you i call their mid-ski vacation i could tell when i caught him it was after a couple pops yeah and i was like hey man i got

something really important call me back i got something really important for you because what's up bro what's up man what's going on i said hey man i got an important question you tell me the truth he said what's going on i said do they have size nine ski boots or you just got to get a 10 and shut some kleenex put a little sock in the bottom kleenex and he goes i don't know but i'm gonna go ask right he's a sweetheart anyway but uh but yeah you know i had a situation this week where we had to kind of put our chest out a little bit too. It's so funny the stuff that our competitors will glom onto. So it got back to us that on a regular basis, our competitors have now decided to use the fact

that Gavin and I were no longer the brokers of Simply Vegas. And we were just the owners to tell people that we no longer cared about the company, which was ludicrous on so many different levels. And the fact that, you know, yeah, something I spent 13 years of my life building, I'm just I don't care about it anymore. And that you're here every day for and I'm here every day in the building that my office is literally in a glass box, the middle of the lobby, same where it was, like, I'm on display, right?

I answered just many questions. So yeah, we had a situation where that had come up. And of our brokers needed some family time. Unfortunately, he had some bad stuff happen with his family. So he needs to focus on that. So rather than go hire somebody else, me and Gavin talked about it. We're like, let's just take away the talking point. We'll just step back in and be in the brokers. Who cares? We do the work anyway. It doesn't matter. Let's just step back in and remove that talking point. But I found myself really questioning later, did I do that because I genuinely love the job, which I do it anyway and I do like the job,

or do I do it just to silence the haters? And it's like, which side of that coin is the right side and which side is okay and is there a side of it's not okay? I'd answer for you, life is about marketing. Sometimes you have to make, there's this balance, right right do you post your supercar online and be like look how successful i am or do you go the humble route and say you know and just ignore it do you step into a position because people don't know what that means by the way a lot of people will that listen to this but a lot of people won't what that means to be a broker that just means you're the

licensed you know person that the things funnel through. It's more of an administrative position than it is a leadership position. It is because the leadership, the leadership never changed. That, that to me would be like a really silly, like is a professional realtor. I'm a realtor. I'm here. Here's, here's the point. We talked about this last time and we were talking about like simply Vegas

finishing with is the number one busiest office in the MLS. That's great, but there's only one way to go, but down. And when you're the guy on top, everybody wants to take their pot shots. And it just, it's amazing. It's kind of one of those things where I just, I didn't like the optics of hearing that, that, that, that bullshit was being perpetuated by other people. I didn't like the hearing it. So it was just easier to just take it off the table rather than fighting I think you wouldn't have done it if it hurt your guys's business right like nothing changed you guys have always had your phones out there if you have questions call me or Gavin right yeah so nothing changes it's just it's silencing a hater for it's administrative though it really is Matt it would be like if saying um uh Chris Connell isn't the secretary of his own LLC.

Right. Yeah, well, we kept, you know, one of the brokers is staying on as corporate broker. They can do all the signing and stuff and all the administrative work. You know, I think the biggest change is our names are going back on the MLS where people can see them on all the listings. I think that's the big difference. It's probably good. So who cares?

It just is what it is. But it's just so funny to me what did you come up with what was your nothing we're just going back on you said am i doing this to silence the haters i don't know i i don't know because the problem was i i thought about it for a while i'm like am i doing this because i want to do it or am i doing it because i'm i feel boxed in a corner to do it by the haters and then i decided that it didn't really matter which side of the coin it was because it can be both sides. It can be both sides. That's the thing. And it was, but again, let's talk about negative thinking because, you know, I started this out and, and I'm that guy that, again, I get sucked into the, you know, you know, now there's AI.

So I need to learn everything about AI and I got to do this and I got to do that. I can do this. And we've got to get this, you know, buying houses and just, just everything gets going and you just, I ended up doing so many things that I get overwhelmed. And that overwhelming always almost turns into negative thought, right? Like, I don't know how this, you know, like you see other people that are doing things well and you're like, I don't know how they're doing this. Right. I don't know how they're pulling that.

Like how does this person pulling this shit off when in reality, that is the worst thing you can do. You've just got to focus on what you're doing every day and put one foot in front of the other every day as you can go along. Well, not only that, but like Seneca said, like with the definition of true wealth is not the man that has the most,

it's the man that wants the least. So that's where I get kind of tangled up in this. So whenever, you know, luckily for you guys, when I have some sort of personal crisis or feel myself slipping in a direction, I always go right to the books, man. I go right- Orange, mocha, frappuccino. Chino, that's exactly right. No, I go right to where I can find a book that's going to help me on this. And this week, like I said, is a book called Eliminate Negative Thinking by Derek Howell.

And it's pretty good, man. And it talks a lot in bullet points, which I like, in which we can kind of hit some of these things. But to get started, I think it's necessary to define negative thinking, right? What is negative thinking? It is a way of thinking in which you exclusively see the negative side of situations, people, events, or even yourself. Negative thinkers often have low self-esteem and lack confidence because they tend to focus on things they don't like about themselves. Now, again, I think it's not necessarily low self-esteem people are, are, are, I disagree with him a little bit on this point are negative thinkers. I think the negative thinking brings about low self-esteem. It brings about self-doubt.

It's the result of those things. So, so here's the funny thing about that. There is a time in your life where you need to examine the negatives 100 he talks about that yeah and we're going to get there it's not it can't always be sunshine and rainbows no it's just the other side of a coin right like when you do a swat analysis what are my strengths what are my weaknesses people say oh you can't focus on your weaknesses it's like that's what i want to improve yeah you got to know of course i got to know you got to have a real understanding of what's negative about the situation. So to do an honest, you know, self aware, accounting of those things, you have to be able to understand the negative, but not to just dwell on

it solely, because you might not be able to change your weakness. But you can hire your weakness, figure a way around. Yeah, hire your weakness. You can definitely through it or mask it, but here's some cool stuff that I thought we're just talking about things you need to do when you slip into that mode of having a lot of negative thoughts of getting that perpetuating that dot, that boulder rolling down the hill of negativity. And the first one is clearing your mind. It's finding a time every day to clear your mind, just to, just to meditate. And I struggle with this. Are you a meditator? You know, it's, it's on my, again, list of things to get better at. Now, I do do hot yoga once in a while where I do find myself focusing on the moment. Is that just you on OnlyFans or is that

an actual class? No, it is. How do I sign up for that? How do I sign up to watch this? Can you get a webcam and just stream that? There may be some content creators in the room, but you wouldn't know. Cause you're focusing on yourself, you know, and it's in a difficult situation. It's hot. You're doing difficult things and hard poses.

And it's in those moments where I do find a lot of clarity in my mind. Well, I'll be thinking about something that I'll kind of ease off it and start thinking about nothing intentionally. I guess that's meditation, but not enough. It is. I,

you know, I it's again on my list as well. And I've tried it with some apps and I guess that's meditation, but not enough. It is. I, you know, I it's again on my list as well. And I've tried it with some apps and I've had a little, little success with the apps where like, there's a couple where like, I'll do the thing. And it says it's like eight or nine minute long meditation. And it feels like it's 30 seconds. And you're like, Whoa, that was really weird that, that, that went by that quick. And it was, it was good. So you guys not start your mornings? How do I start?

Because I start in a half hour of nothing, just staring out a window with my coffee. Oh, God, that sounds lovely. No, I probably get up and I go do sports. I listen to sports talk radio. That's kind of my meditation. Is it? Just to zone out?

I've been wondering why I like sports so much. I've developed a love and appreciation for sports. The more I get, the older I get. Yeah. and i think it's because there are no actual consequences to me about any of it it's a consequence free indulgence right i can get interested in things i can have opinions i can have all this without any consequence to anyone see this is why you'll never be a philly fan ever because you got you know you got to bleed for that shit i know yeah yeah lose a few teeth speaking speaking of which i'm going to sign part back it might go to you had people at your house for a super bowl yeah yeah i ended up just walking up the street to uh steve arcanas steve arcanas place and he is a diehard eagles fan i'm sorry and dude

you should have seen this party right he had like the printouts made with the fly eagles fly song on it he flew a dude in from philadelphia he flew a guy in from philly to cook cheesesteaks in his backyard and if like if you went to ai and said ai draw me a picture of a philadelphia phillies fan cooking cheesesteaks it would have spit this guy out. I mean, he was like a big, over-type, heavy-set guy with red curly hair and a red beard and a red and white striped headband back there cooking up. You want whiz? You want whiz.

That's a whiz, yeah? They're not good. The whiz is not good on him. I thought the whiz was good. You do it? They're good. He wasn't going to let me eat it either way. No, you can't. The Phillies cheese. I like them. I like thought the whiz was good you do it they're good he wasn't gonna let me eat it either way no you can't the philly cheese i like them i like a little whiz he said i had to grab

the whiz anyway so that's funny but that but i left before the end of the game so thank god because i'm sure it just changed because there were a lot of diehards there next thing talking about it talking about negative feelings and i think this is man there was a there's a post that went around on social media that i really liked and it was like you know one of those uh it wasn't quite into like the lines not cheap stuff but it was like a dude like hey man you ever ask a guy if he's okay and he says yeah and i'm okay well he's not okay truck guy yeah and he's like that dude that dude is not okay he's going through some shit you need to understand that and i think that probably this is one of not to kumbaya and start hugging anybody but this is probably one of the places where manly men struggle sure because we're

not supposed to you know it's like what is the community which community was it like i'm fine oh no it was bill burr and he's like no no i'm just gonna say i'm fine until i have a heart attack spot right he's like the guy asked me if I want a cookie. I said, no, you don't get to ask me that. And the thing is, I wanted a cookie. That's all this hate built up over time. You don't do that? No, not at all.

But talking about, man, if you're having negative feelings, this is like, again, I think one of those situations where it's important to have a mentor. It's important to have a confidant. It's important to have somebody that you can drop this stuff on. I don't think it should be your spouse. You know, it's funny. have somebody that you can you can drop this stuff on i don't think it should be your spouse no you know it's funny i like that you brought that up i don't know if we've ever talked about this but one of the absolute favorite things about my relationship hands down bar none is the fact that my wife and i have no desire to talk shit about people that are like our friends you know many couples sit there and go, oh, you know, just chirp.

Kind of chirp their people in their circle or even associates or whatever. Nobody. It just doesn't happen. And I noticed that a couple years ago. I go, that's interesting that we don't dislike any of our friends. You know how there's just the inevitability someone gets lumped in and you're just like, fuck that guy, but he's around. And you don't want to just the inevitability. Someone gets lumped in and just like, fuck that guy. But he gets,

you know, he's around and you don't want to be around that guy. But that helps so much to be with somebody that isn't feeding into your own negative thought loops about your situation. Well, I think, you know what it is, man. And I got to tell you,

let me ask you this. I bet by you saying that, I bet your wife doesn't watch any of the garbage, like housewife. She watches none of it. None of that. None of the, none of the housewife, none of the watch any of the garbage like housewife she watches none of it none of that none of the none of the housewife none of the none of the fucking fatties the kardashians whatever people watch that shit just to hate on those people yeah nothing there's no enjoyment there they're just watching us they can hate on them yeah that's why that is that's wild

i'm telling you you tell me that i already doesn't yeah i don't either and that goes back to what you feed your brain i mean i already know what you already know what you feed this is going to come out of this. Inputs, outputs. It's going to come straight out. So, yeah, I dig that. But what do you think about that, about not talking about your negative thoughts to your spouse? What do you think about that? You know, there's a part of me, and this is going to sound funny too.

When I was younger, I used to sit there and think, I want my wife. You know, you have a prototype wife, right, when you're single or you're whatever my wife i want her to be this this this and one of them was you know deeply political and opinionated because i like that you think well that's the person i'm going to be around i'd like to sit there and get in arguments with my wife that's how dumb i was yeah because i thought it'd be great oh she's so smart into this or whatever what you need is someone who's intelligent that you won't ever lose respect for yeah right but who doesn't give a shit about politics about any of that negativity stuff right right because i can argue politics with you i can argue politics i have friends i can do that with i don't need to go home into my sanctuary but let

me ask you a question let me ask you a question i'm talking about voicing your negative self-limiting thoughts to your spouse to me to me i think it upsets the apple cart a little bit of the dynamic of what's supposed to be going on at home i agree and that's why like i want my wife to look at me like i'm fucking superman that's what i want i don't want i don't want her to know that today i don't feel like i'm enough i don't i don't need her healing here yeah you know that's probably the wrong attitude but i have that too is it yeah i don't know if it's right i think it's wrong i don't i just don't think you want to stress let's let colt be the decision maker on this like i totally agree so like i have a another business that i have partnerships and i talk with my wife about and she finally goes you gotta stop like i can't deal with it it's too much right

that negativity and it wasn't negative it's just like how do i these problems you know these guys how could i fix this and she's like i can't and i think that it's like a real estate deal people look at how smooth it went if they knew exactly how many big problems there were, but why go upset somebody that's involved? And your wife is involved with you day to day, so look for an outsider that you can stress a little bit. For that reason. To not disrupt the apple cart, I think, is really good. I'm just going to show you 10% of the iceberg.

And as long as they're empathetic and know that, hey, there's all this other shit going on, they just don't bring it home, that's a sign of like fine strength but like i wouldn't also like be emotionally crippled to explain when you're having a bad day you know that's probably better if you're saying i'm having a bad day for x y or z reasons and i don't want to talk to you about it yeah but i just am so you understand i'm not i'm not being distant yeah no no no i i and i will i will i will let her know if there's issues but i'm never gonna when you have those moments that are just and they fade they come with the funk or whatever

else and the bullshit and you have those moments of self-doubt i'm not gonna i'm not gonna bring that home to her because again that's right i i don't i don't the last thing i need her doing is saying hmm maybe he is a little little sub Maybe that's not the guy that I thought. Maybe he is a little not the great in this department or whatever. So, yeah, I want her, again, I always, to me, it feeds me better if she thinks I'm Superman. Tell me what you guys think about this situation. You talk about being negative. I was trying to avoid that whole thing.

So my daughter, I have my oldest. My youngest I have full-time, obviously. My oldest, since she was two when i was in law school i had her 50 50 just week on week off with her mom worked great but a hundred percent of her school absences come in her mom's house 100 yeah not not 50 100 and it affects grades you can tell because assignments are missing and then it's a whole stressful experience One of her friends has a kid that had this disease which was ultimately gonna end up in death And a couple of whatever genetically they made they had a couple kids that they found out later There's a guarantee they can't process waste or something so they die

Yeah, so one of the kids died and it was kind of inevitable and all the other ones I think have also passed away. So she didn't go to school, and a part of me was going, well, you've missed a lot of school. There's always the excuse. She said, he was like a brother to me, and I'm upset, so I didn't go to school. Mom said I didn't have to go to school.

And I'm sitting there going, how do I walk this tightrope, not be the negative asshole, because I'm the hard one. I'm the one that pays for tutoring. I'm the one that pays for club volleyball. I'm the one going, how do I walk this tightrope? Not be the negative asshole. Because I'm the hard one. I'm the one that pays for tutoring. I'm the one that pays for club volleyball. I'm the one that tries to promote. No, you've got to be responsible. There's hard parts of it. It can't just be every time you come up with conflict,

you just get to avoid it by not going. So I'm sitting there thinking, and I couldn't come up with a solution. Can I give you an answer? Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I did come up with one. OK, now I want to hear your solution. I don't know if you're asking metaphorically to leave your solution. I did, but I don't know if it was right. I don't know. Whatever. What did you an answer? Yeah, yeah, but I did come up with one. Okay, now I want to hear your solution. I don't know if you're asking metaphorically to leave your solution. I did, but I don't know if it was right.

I don't know. What did you go with? Because I could tell that whatever I text is going to be negative. You can't text. No, but it was just a passing thing where I didn't want to call and get into it. Okay. So I just said, I understand how it's very hard. I'm very sorry.

I'm your dad. I'm responsible. Like I need to make sure that you're taking care of yourself and these are the areas that aren't going well. No more absences going forward. Zero, zero tolerance policy now. Okay. Because, cause you have the sniffles.

I, you know, all these excuses for why I was having heavy, you know, she's 14. She's obviously, so all that stuff just comes up as an excuse to miss school. And it's just like, you just don't want to go. And you know that's 14 she's obviously yeah okay so all that stuff just comes up as an excuse to miss school and it's just like you just don't want to go and you know that one of your parents will allow it right which is normal it's not bad but it's just now there's a zero tolerance policy yeah that's all i can come up with this is what i did because we had a similar situation because obviously hayden was very sick um for weeks and we got to a point where he went to several doctors and you know they're just like he like, he's just going to get better. He's got to ride it out. And he's not physically ill.

He just had this cough that just like would not stop cough. And he missed a lot of school and exceptional student as it was. And finally I was like, buddy, you got to go to school tomorrow. Like now you're not contagious. You're not going to get anybody else sick. You're just, now you just want to stay home to stay home. Right? At which point it was like, he was kind of looking confused.

And I said, look, me and mommy have one job. We got to get you prepared to be an adult. Yes. And I got four more, literally three years and two months left to do it. Is what I got left to do. Three years and two months. If you had a job, if you had, if you had, if you were employed by someone and you had been out this much, you would have gotten fired.

And he just looked at me. He's like, well, no, I just would have worked at home. And you forget sometimes when you're a business owner and have the freedom to do whatever we want, as we all do, you forget when your kids see that they don't necessarily plug into how the world works. And so then Gidge went through and was like, no, let me explain to you how, like, if let's say you worked at one of the casinos, which he never will, but let's just say hypothetically, you worked at one of the casinos. He's like, you get points. There's no, there's no reason. If you don't show up, you, you get a point. When you get so many points, you get written up. You get so many points after that you get fired and you would have had enough points this week there's no work at home right you just

would have gotten fired you've got to be responsible you're not a professional architect yet no one day you may be right but now you're not but when you're earning your stripes yeah you're there every day you don't get to do anything so so i we always lean into because i find that and your daughter's probably at the same age same age age, exactly. Wants to be an adult, like wants to be an adult, wants to be treated as a grownup, wants to be treated, you know, wants to be treated. Stretching those boundaries of adolescence into adulthood, right? I only know the half I have her. Right, but the point is, we lean into that and lever that. If you lean into it in a way like we do, and you're like, look, adults don't act like this.

You want to be treated like Mr. Big Man. You've got to act like this. You don't get them both. You don't get them both. And when we lean into that, it seems to work. I was going to say, I go to my oldest kid. You'd be fired from me for that. He screws up on a chore.

That's unacceptable. I'd fire you. I think I've said that too. I always, I say that probably. I've done've said that too. I always, I say that probably three times a week to him. I'd fire you if you worked for me. Note to self, do not hire Colt's son. No, but just like

if you say take out the trash, he takes out the trash and he doesn't put the bag back. Why would you have to ask it? Maybe he needs some more inclusive management, Colt. Maybe the problem's you. I'm not a micro-manager.

So what exactly would you say you do around here in a week, Colt? What would you say you do? It's a week with the Bobs. I'm missing it. But again, yeah, like you said, trying to frame the negative. Because it's obviously a negative situation. It's horrible. Yeah.

It's not good. But I'm kind of going, this person's not like a brother to you this person doesn't have like language skills because they're very severely yeah you know it's a convenient excuse it's a tough it's a tough situation because you can't step it over but you've just got to lean into you can't you can't lessen her opinion on the severity of the situation you've just got to lean into how the world works. She's entitled to her feelings. You're entitled to your feelings. But also, sometimes your feelings don't matter.

But the boss wouldn't give a shit about your feelings. That's right. That's the point. I understand your feelings. The boss doesn't give a shit. There are going to be adults doing that. You know how many times I call people and they're like, oh, my dad just died.

All right, well, sorry. Your due diligence is up. I got 50 grand of earnest money in two days. We need to sit down and talk. It's like, sorry, life doesn't stop. Unfortunately, it doesn't. As a lawyer, no, it does. People say we can work together.

We have a lot of latitude. There are very few things, and I've never denied a request to somebody that made the request. Hey, my father's got a funeral. Can I get a two-week extension? It's 100%. 100%. But that's because we're all professionals at a level when i was 21 i had zero flexibility with what i was doing zero not not not one percent no zero but when contract law states something like that doesn't stop you don't go in front of a judge and say oh i missed my

due diligence day or my earnest money's up. And that happens a lot. Unless you're pro saying Clark County because you can get away with murder someday. When I was in a restaurant business and I was very young and I was working, I just started. I was assistant manager for this company.

And the other assistant manager on like my second day, he called, like the area guy came, our area supervisor came in right to the store, randomly, unannounced. Same day, the other assistant, I'd been there for two days, tried to call in. And this is exactly how it went. Called in, I was like, hello.

We're in the back office and the, I don't remember his name, but the area supervisor guy was standing there. And it was Chris was the other manager. He's like, I'm, and this is all here. He's like, hey man, I'm really sick. Can you cover for me? I can't come in. I'm like, you need me to work. You need me to cover for you. And the manager heard me say that he goes, who is that? And I said, it's Chris. He's really sick.

He goes, give me the phone. It's great. Hey Chris. And he said his name, whatever his name was, he goes, how you doing buddy? He goes, Oh, you're sick, huh? Doctor said you should stay in bed. Did he say a hospital bed oh great okay cool we'll see you at 3 30 click and he looked at me he goes there's no sick well it's just funny no no but i don't want to sound extra harsh so let me i want to clarify one little thing this is an important lesson when you've had 11 absences in the past for bullshit that time you need the 12th it's so again so if you don't this is going to sound dorky but there was a year of high school i had perfect attendance i didn't skip i just always

went because i played sports i wanted to be at school like my girlfriend was there i won a super titan award my high school right i i spent my time doing stuff okay no but if you're napoleon what's next earned though right right? Sometimes you've earned the right through exceptional performance. So if it was the first absence, take the week. It wouldn't have been an issue. Not an issue. But no, no, no. We're now at the 12th, 13th, 14th absence.

Well, because that's. You've run out. You don't get. Your feelings have to take a backseat at some point because of the objective measure. The answer to that is the problem is not today.'s right the problem is everything that's happened for the last three months that is a hundred percent what you want to say it's like you've used it already not today yeah cat's got nine lives you're on 13 yeah it's not today yeah it's it's tough man it's tough other ways to clear negative thinking get creative it says use anxiety and frustrate

frustration as forces for good by and channeling them towards creativity so i don't know paint death metal something death metal i think a lot of people use that negativity and that anxiety and start working harder and start thinking of other ways right make nirvana yeah well i did i immediately thought i read that i swear to god i did i'm like you don't well I know that. So I didn't think it was good. Let's get back to ones I do agree with. Practice positive affirmations. I do love this.

I mean, if you come through my coaching program, one of the first things that I do is you write out all of your negative beliefs, all of the things that are prohibiting you from getting to where you want to be. And then you flip those to an alternate statement. So if you think you're too old, your positive affirmation statement is, I am young enough. If you think you're too old, your positive affirmation

statement is I am young enough. If you think you don't have enough money, it's I have plenty of money. I have plenty of time. I have everything I want. And that becomes your mantra that you say to yourself every morning. You write it on a piece of paper, you stick it to the mirror. It's the first thing you see when you wake up and it's the last thing you see before you go to bed. I'm not old. I'm experienced. I'm experienced. But every day it's a positive affirmation and i do 100 believe in the power of positive affirmation to change your your whole thing if you if you are if you are struggling right now if you're out there and you're struggling dude if you do nothing else you've ever heard on this podcast figure out what

your negative limiting belief is flip it to the inverse and then say it to yourself in a positive way every single day as much as you can straight stewart smalley that's it i'm good enough i'm smart enough and gosh darn it people like you guys have stuff on your mirror i have a sharpie or a dry erase marker i ride on my mirror like my weight goal right like whatever i have going that i want to see daily that thing's on my top left of my mirror. Nice. I put that everywhere. That's smart. That is smart. Just like weighing yourself every day, taking pictures of yourself.

Yeah. I have three things on my mirror right now that won't come off until I hit those goals. So every time I see it. Nice. Does it say somewhere on your mirror, if you find me dead, the Latina did it? Does it also say that? That's in my bank account. Or what is it? Bank vault? Yeah. It's in different color and it says underneath.

Yeah. DNR, fool. DNR. Do not resuscitate. He said DNR. Anyway, move. If you're feeling grumpy, get up and do some activity. I firmly believe the most positive people that I know on this planet are all in great shape motion creates emotion exactly get up move get the endorphins going get that pump going get that moving i don't know i mean how many super fit people do you know that are unhappy do you know a lot of unhappy super fit people um super fit yes

yes super fit look i don't mean like abs that are terrible and grumpy because they're just a slave. Okay, I'm not saying a slave to the fitness lifestyle. Okay, you almost want to flip that. How many very happy people do you see that are very unhealthy? I think, I mean, I think. I don't think unhealthy people are happy. You mean, oh, you're going to go the inverse of that.

And not to be negative, what I'm saying is you can be super fit and so driven that you're a perfectionist and miserable, and nothing's ever good enough. And that's where eating disorders come in. That's where steroid abuse comes in. Like all these people, they're trying to achieve something, and they're never happy. They're never satisfied. Okay, but again, I don't consider those people healthy.

Okay, super fit, like healthy, really healthy people. Yeah, healthy people. Goal-oriented people like the Jesse Itzlers of the world. Yeah, he's a lunatic. Right. Did you hear what his wife was saying? It was great. This was a lovely story.

You want to talk about this. Exactly what you're talking about. What was it? Way to frame it. So she's saying she first was starting Jesse and they were getting married or whatever. We were in there first dating. She said she had a podcast or something with George Foremanman she had to go meet george foreman the boxer she

goes my boyfriend i may i may be butchering this because my boyfriend just ran a super marathon he ran 100 miles in 23 hours george foreman says to her never try to understand that man just love him that's it just just that's an exceptional man. That is an except like, that's one of those people that, you know, she probably like this ultra successful guy. But it's like, don't try to understand people like that.

You know, it's, you just have to love them. You know, it's funny. I saw Jesse. That's her clip this morning talking about super marathons where he said like, look,

he goes, people think I ran that. I didn't run that three minutes, seven minutes run, three minutes walk. I can do seven minute running, three minute walk forever. I can do that do that forever to me mentally that was easy easily palatable could you bite-sized pieces that's it one bite at a time so yeah was the foreman grill like one of the grace inventions what is what an awesome yeah screw that electricity or you know

penicillin ac yeah alternating current ge. Yeah, the George Forming Grill. George Forming Grill. Airplanes. Mosquito netting. Right to the George Forming Grill. What a great invention. Greatest invention ever. Top five.

Top five. Okay, Colt, what are your top five best inventions ever? I mean, we got to go Snuggie. Snuggie was number five. Right into the Snuggie. I like it. You guys are laughing, so I know you never owned a Snuggie, because if you did, you'd agree with me.

I'm not. Snuggie was amazing. All right. George Foreman is right. Number four. George Foreman at four. Okay. Not him, but his grill.

His grill. Okay. Him as a boxer. Yeah, whatever. You know, I would have to say the microwave. The microwave? Okay. Fair.

It's a great one. Can you imagine without a microwave? Nope. It would be horrible. Take me now, Lord. Then I would have to say the car. Then the hair dryer. I have curly hair.

The hair dryer. Wow. No penicillin. No like antimalarials. Don't need it. Don't need it. Nope. Because then there'd be less people yeah yeah he's he's anti-penicillin anti-animal like a cigar cutter no i would just chop it off

yeah i mean man all right john doesn't know anything about that but next keep a gratitude journal and this is you much funny You said how I start my day. This is how I start my day. Every single day is keeping a gratitude journal. It's every day writing the three things that I'm grateful for every day. I like that. I don't do that. I do that.

Daily stoic journal. I got it. And I write down. And it's usually something about that. Every day. Something positive. You start your day with gratitude. It's hard to be in a bad mood when you start the day with gratitude.

Yeah. I like that a lot. I just write down like my thoughts on my Netflix series that I'm going right. Yeah. For me, Colt's going to pick up black mirrors where it left off. If you've ever seen that he's convinced that he can get a Netflix pilot deal just by purging his brain onto a page. I see a hundred percent.

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I'm not going to say how it ends. I'll tell you all fair. Does he get eaten by the bees like Nick Cage in The Wicker Man? Oh, my God. That was the worst scene in the world. The Wicker Man. What? Oh, come on. Never saw that.

I don't even know what you're talking about the movie that proved that nick cage definitely does not read scripts before he agrees to make movies just no way he read how have we not had him on the podcast yeah i find i find to believe what he is right down the street let's start we need to work on that get him get him on try to work nick cage figure that out colt get us nick cage on the podcast the next one on here says practice deep breathing. I find this interesting. Wim Hof, baby.

Yeah, the Wim Hof method has become very popular. And actually now a friend of the show, we'll call her Dr. Shannon Sperber, is a breathwork expert person. And she teaches clinical breathworkwork and everybody that's gone through it says it's amazing whatever it is but but i heard like it's uh there's all kinds of different techniques you can you google eyes on how to uh hyper oxygenate yeah draw it in i gotta tell you since i started the ewok training with the oxygen thing it it uh at home the mood's been much better you pump that much oxygen into the body once a day because you feel because you fill it with nitrous no okay wait it's not supposed to have nitrous in it no that's not

good my bad that's not that's not how that works that's terrible it's scientifically proven that breath work does help with stress and everything like that so but you know the number one thing that leads to negative thinking is overthinking it's when the brain is going to the brain is going too fast and too much and uh i find that this happens to me when i'm compulsively scrolling you ever find yourself compulsively scrolling when you're on social media and you're just you know of course this is when the memes are flying high and heavy amongst us boys you're asking me if i'm watching i'm watching some swedish abba song that turns into death metal courtesy of connell and i'm like what am i watching you're

welcome what am i watching did he said that to you too no that all sounds amazing i'm gonna send it to you german schlager turn yeah it's straight abba turned into death metal it's so good though it's it's a shout out to electric call boy yeah there's the hit there it is but overthinking is something that causes a lot of negative thinking it's what happens to me especially when i'm scrolling so number one the number one thing you do is become aware that you have that problem and understand the triggers for me i'm telling you it's the social media that kills me i got to limit the social media everybody it's so that's the trigger that sends me spiraling so much because it's too much input it's too much input too fast we're not designed for that kind of stuff you're not you're not at all you're not

that's why our kids are on whole different levels yeah like their attention spans are just off the wall but mine is when i'm laying in bed that's when i overthink like when i'm doing stuff don't overthink but when i'm laying in bed it's a freaking did you have that yeah but when you close your eyes i mean there's a chance you're not opening them yeah i would probably be worried about that too find my iphone yeah now you can no but some of people you know postulate that it's um some of that overthinking is due to overly critical parenting as you grew up so one of the ways that you can help with your own negative thinking is to understand that you are a product of your environment and this is a normal thing and just to forgive yourself and be kind to yourself that's the other thing people are just so

awful to themselves sometimes yeah right like you wouldn't hang out with a friend that treated you the way you internalize your voice oh never you know so it's like just be kind to yourself too it sounds corny that's what we're we're get to that. That was one of the, that, that actually comes from overcoming worry, but it says, I said, overcoming worry. Where was this?

We're being more positive. It says practice self love, man. Yeah. It says cultivate, cultivate positive. Not that way. I just,

no, but it just, it says ways that you can actually affect yourself, change your thinking. One of them is to practice self-love. You got to start learning how to love on yourself a little more. But back to overthinking, you know, we talked about the triggers, minimizing the daily input we talked about, accepting your limitations.

I think this is something, you know, we can't predict what will happen in the future. It's a natural part of our reality and the fact that this should be embraced. Acknowledging your limitations and lack of ability to control everything can ease the pressure on yourself and help you to achieve a state of inner peace and acceptance. So yeah, I mean, you know, except the things we can't control, you know, forget the ones we can't. That's probably my biggest issue I have. I look, she's like, holy cow, you're looking like this.

Four different things go wrong. How bad could it really get yeah yeah i do that too a lot because i have cases that seem like they're going forever and every single one of them i remember stressing out about and then i'll look back in my closed folders because i have to keep cases for seven years every single case that gave me problems is has been resolved and is closed and whatever well I think the step on here that I like the most is where it says interrogate yourself. And it's asking yourself one simple question when it comes, when you have a negative thought

or you have something that creeps in your brain or some overwhelming feeling of negativity. I think the best question to ask is, is this feeling useful? And sometimes it is because we have feelings of fight or flight. Sometimes your brain is trying to protect you. you know it's the it's the six cents radar going off about a person to try to get you out of a situation your your gut your visceral instinct yeah but

ask yourself is this thought useful and i think if you break it down on terms of that it's like is this useful or is this just noise it's just nonsense am i just am i just am i just perpetuating some kind of nonsense have you seen that diagram where the worry was like like reasons should i worry about this and it's yes and no yeah says can you do something about it if it's like no it's like stop worrying about it yeah stop yes you know do something about it that's pretty much it's literally the end of the rope can I can I can I do anything about this no then stop worrying about it well overcoming overcoming worry is is probably in my household my wife worries about everything she's she's a very has a lot

of worry mom she has mom and I always you know my phrase that I say to her all the time is don't bar trouble from tomorrow yeah I mean we don't know what's gonna happen you don't know where from tomorrow yeah i mean we don't know what's going to happen you don't know where you're at i mean what's going to happen is going to happen so you might as well not worry about it until it does okay case the raw case sarah and i mean you know and sometimes that's hard yeah i was going to say that's a lot easier said than done yeah i mean like with the with the dog this weekend you know that was hard. You know, my dog, we started feeling not well last Friday and we had to take him and, you know, it just wasn't feel good. We took him to the vet.

They looked at him. They said, ah, we think there's kind of a mass on the back of them. And then went to an emergency vet that night and another vet and back to the vet on Monday. It turns out he's got cancer and we don't know how bad it is yet. So we had the mass removed from him, but now we have to see how bad it is. And the dogs, he's perky. I mean, he's uh he's got cancer and we don't know how bad it is yet so we had the mass removed from him but now we have to see how bad it is and the dogs he's perky i mean he's only nine he's not an old dog and he's he's fine and you know the vet's like you know until we know what's going on we won't know what's going on and i've seen dogs like this live with us for three years you know it just depends he's only nine so we just don't know know. And it's hard when you have a life situation like that, but I am choosing to assume the best until I hear the worst.

That's what I'm assuming to do. And it's hard. And it's hard when you have stuff like that, but you've got to force yourself to do it. The next one says create a daily worry period, allocating a set amount of time for your negative thoughts and keep you to free your mind to perform the rest of the tasks. I think that is nonsense do you do that i can't even do that for the next 20 minutes don't call me right now i'm being fucking shitty

for the next 20 minutes i'm gonna wallow in my own self pity i mean it might be brilliant i'd have to read the whole paragraph maybe i don't know how you want to do that you can't turn it on and off like that i agree right like if you could turn it on and off great right there might be times you need to just go be mad at something for 20 minutes to get off your chest yeah you may be mad i was driving today i had to go pick up a check from client we had a nice case finalized you're mad mad because you made money? That's a good trip. No, I was going to. It was a great trip. It's a trip I'm very happy about. Yeah.

But as I'm driving in that lane that keeps getting cut off, you know the zipper merge and people are supposed to zipper merge. Yeah, you go, I go, you go, I go. You go, I go, you go. How annoying. But first off, go pound sand back there when it's an empty lane. You come flying up and cut in front. Yeah, I hate that shit. But even worse.

Technically, that's what you're supposed to do. Fine. We'll argue that one. You get one car. One car. It's every other car. You don't have the idiot in front of you who let 50 cars in in front of you.

That's true. I hate that guy. You are the guy that... Caught in traffic. Okay, everybody... Okay, fine, Zipper Merch. I'll die on this cross that I hate you all because you know goddamn well you could have gotten that line.

But fine. Fine. Dude, I'm the guy that waves at you. Last hitting a barrel just whatever okay let's say the idiot in front of me just kept letting people come in and so i'm just waiting now i'm not zipper merging either yeah so anyway no it's one but i'm sitting and 50 people. I'm sitting there 20 minutes, and I just start screaming. I'm like, would you effing, could you get one car? It's like a Larry David moment. And then I'm like, okay.

Just, I literally just, okay. You're being an asshole. Just calm down. Got to breathe through it. Yeah, this will be fine. 10 minutes late to go pick up a check. What are you, why are you mad? Well, because you just sometimes.

And if you'd have gotten out six minutes earlier you could have gotten it hit by a tractor trailer there's just no way to know so i just was like just so i grabbed my fingers like as a joke being like calm down no way to know well let's wrap this up by talking about how to be more positive right be more positive hitting barrels and doing that shit yeah but if you can no but but again i think think one car, one car for me, you know, what, what is your, what is your key to having a positive mindset every day? You're going to go last. Cause I'm sure you're just going to be magical.

Just being grateful. Just being grateful. I, the older I get, the more grateful I am. I was talking to my wife about this the other day. And I do have this ton of worry because I'm scared of, because I like what I'm doing. I like what I'm with. I like what's happening in my life. And I don't sit there and worry about what I don't have.

I'm very grateful for what I do have. I do have that Seneca-esque understanding that I don't want for anything. And I'm very happy. But when you get happy, you kind of sometimes want to preserve it. And you think negative thoughts. Oh, God, what if my wife got hit by a bus? I would just be so devastated. I would never recover from it, but she's here, right? It's like the whole thing, the glass is already broken. The glass will break one day. So just appreciate it while

it's here. That's the right way to do it. So I try to be grateful when there's situations where I realize that it could be all done one day. For everything. For me, I would say my key to overall happiness is I try to systematize as many monotonous-type decisions as I can, which means that my morning routine, I eat the same thing every day. I drink the same thing every day. I do the same thing at the same time every day. Everything happens at the same way. And sometimes it is bad because if something goes screwy,

like this morning, for example, my Fitbit died and my chart halfway, like right. When I started working out my Fitbit died and I was like, oh shit, my steps are going to get screwed up today. They won't. And even though I'll know that I got them because I'm still doing everything that I normally do the same way, it's not going to be in my app and that spun me a little bit. So word of warning to everybody, if you're going to be in my app. And that spun me a little bit. So we're

the warning to everybody. If you're going to systematize your day like that, in ways that everything always happens the same. And you look at all these billionaires that wear the same thing every day. And they do that. I do too. Yeah, just so they you know, they don't have to think about it. All those little decisions that tend to clog things up. You want to you want to free up as much of your brainpower away from those things as you can. So when the things you do need to think about or the things that do become critical in your decision-making, you're free to make them, that's my key to it.

So, Colt, what about you? Your life is probably, that'd be boring. Wake up. I might have orange juice. I might have scotch. You might have them both. I have them at the same time. That's a great answer.

A boring fricking life, John has. You might have orange juice, you might have scotch. It's something. That's a great answer. A boring freaking life. John has. That works. Just don't have a scratch. It's something. That's great. I think of all the people I cut off and how much time I save from not getting in the lane a half a mile back.

Like all that stuff. Yeah, that's great. That was a good answer. But honestly, like, you know, I saw, I've seen a lot of people die. It's the only time I have a bad. At your own hand?

At my own ass. No no no i i just have right i don't think we should talk about this yeah i know right you're my attorney just cut me off no i just there was like a five-year gap i saw out surfing guy next to me have a heart attack he dies on the beach right in hawaii i saw two of my friends get their heads cut off i've seen death right so anytime i'm like holy i think you know i still got my family like i almost lost my kid a couple years ago like i'm like all right cool grateful get off that right like think of all the amazing you have that it could be a lot worse start off with gratitude and start with gratitude start with gratitude but you're supposed to zipper lane you're supposed to

get to the top of the barrels guys don't listen to connell this is a reason we have traffic jams around town get one car one car one car in i agree one car per space fine i'll live with that i agree all right everybody what i'm grateful for is for each and every one of you that take time out of your day to listen to this podcast hopefully we help make sure that if you listen to us on youtube you hit the like subscribe notify button and if you're listening to us on YouTube, you hit the like, subscribe, notify button. And if you're listening to us on a podcast app, man,

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