Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder - Blocking exes, slut breaks & 2025 fashion trends

Episode Date: June 26, 2025

Why does it feel illegal to unfollow people on Instagram? It's another solo episode where Hallie dives into the unwritten rules of social media: when you can unfollow, when to block an ex, and why men simply shouldn’t be allowed to have social media at all. Then she debates what’s trendy vs. timeless in fashion, followed by an Am I The Asshole? segment that covers slut breaks, moaning honesty, and warning the next girlfriend. Lastly Hallie admits all she wants is an emotionally unavailable situationship and asks the age-old question: where are all the hot men in NYC?! Until next week… kisses cookie!!! It's Extra Educational! Follow @extradirty on socials to keep up with Hallie and if you love what you hear, leave a review and subscribe to keep the chaos coming. 

I like would love an emotionally unavailable man right now actually. Because I want to have an emotionally unavailable summer. But they should want to cling to me in general, but I'm emotionally unavailable. What up you little fucks? Okay guys, I'm doing something really fucking stupid right now. We have an emergency debrief situation. Hi, this is Halle from the streets of New York. Guys, I had every intention of staying in last night. Bonjour, bonsoir.

Welcome back to Extra Dirty Motherfucking Weird Breaks. I'm so happy to be sitting here with you guys for another solo episode. On my way here, I was actually thinking about this last night. I'm so happy to be sitting here with you guys for another solo episode. On my way here, I was actually thinking about this last night. This is so random and I didn't know I was gonna do a cold open like this. But last night, I probably unfollowed

like 40 people on Instagram. Just because like honestly, the ratio wasn't ratioing. And that's important to me. I know that's important to you guys. When your ratio was all fucked up, you're like, what the fuck's going on? But also I was seeing some posts and people's stories of like, these people are like no longer in my life. But I always feel like this weird guilt unfollowing people that I went to high school with that I know I'm never going to like run into.

Let's talk a little bit about outgrowing friendships because I feel like this is one, an important part of life, but also like a natural part like this is one an important part of life but also like a natural part of life but also a part of life that maybe is a bit confusing. And I always preach this because me personally I probably only have two to three maybe four really important loyal girlfriends in my life that like I'm a loyal fucking person too. Everyone else I consider pretty much like arms length, acquaintance like still friends but like there's only be a few people in your life where you can like call up in the middle of the night say your car broke down I need you

to come pick me up off the side of the road there's only gonna be two or three motherfucking bitches that will actually get their ass up out of bed and do that for you. Okay, let's go back to like beyond following people. I was on a fucking spree last night and I feel like there's a couple rules of thumb I go by when I'm unfollowing someone. One, am I going to run into this person? If I'm not going to run into this person, they're getting the unfollow button. Two to have I seen this person in the past Five years. No, if I haven't seen the past five years, no, they're getting in the unfollow button three. Do they post consistently? Online I always say this is kind of like a write-off

Especially when I'm unfollowing guys from college and they like catch me in person and I'm like well you don't pose So like what's the point of even following you? That's like an easy way to like it's like a write-off so that's also a good one and I mean the fourth one I guess would be have they wronged me in any way shape or form then they get the unfollow button I'm so quick to block people these days as well just being in like the industry I'm in like people just troll me all the time. But I am a loyal fucking person to a fault where if I see a video about anyone I work with, anyone I'm loyal to, any of my friends, it could have nothing to do with me. I will go through the comments of that video and if they're shit talking, anyone in my orbit. I mean anyone in my orbit and I click on them

and it says fucking fall back, they're getting the block button because fuck that shit. No disrespect. They could love me. They could be like, oh my God, I'm obsessed with you. You're the best person ever. But if you're shit talking someone in my orbit, you are getting the block button and I don't give a fuck. I'm getting these DMs recently being like, hey, Hallie, like such a big fan. I don't

know why you blocked me. It must have been a mistake. I like love you. I'm like, I don't block people for no reason. I block because you crossed. You cross some line. It doesn't have to be my line, but some line. And that's how I block people. But you know, people are just trolls out there. I mean, the trolling on the internet has gotten fucking out of hand. The woman on woman crime rate is at an all time high. I don't think I've ever commented on a video of another creator or another girl saying anything negative about their appearance, about the video, even if I think it's cringy, like keep that for your group chats. You don't need to like publicly

comment for what to get likes or something. I think it's the most pick me icky as shit bullshit you could do. You don't see pretty girls doing that shit. Trolling on other people's posts. I really truly believe that. Like it's okay to keep your opinions to yourself sometimes I Run into people actually all the time that I've unfollowed but like I'm an I'm a shameless Unfollower if I unfollow you it's usually for good purpose and I also unfollow people that are like You know, like if my friend is a following out you know like if my friend is a following out with someone that I follow I'll unfollow that person and then I'll kind of just like shrug my shoulders and

be like you kind of you know why I unfollowed you. I don't just unfollow like super random random people. I also mute a lot of people. I feel like muting is also like a power move. I mute every guy that I've ever slept with. Fun fact, I've probably said this before. Once I sleep with a guy, they're muted on everything. And usually I'll like change their contact name because I don't even want to see their name pop up. Especially if it's a guy that I've fucked that I regret, they're muted. Also, like why are you posting on social media? Blocking during a breakup, I feel like is always circumstantial. When I was going through my breakups, like I would always block but I would never like

fully block. Like they'd be blocked on one thing but they would have access to me on other things. Like I remember like my last relationship I would block him say on, which I think this is such a juvenile like my brain was not fully developed kind of move But I would block them on like I message and block them on you know Instagram, but I would still have them Unblocked on snapchat and I would feel like I would know they were giving a fuck and cared about me if they were going through alternative forms of communication to reach me via email, via Snapchat. If I was getting a missed phone call from a guy over Snapchat, I was like so

fucked up in the head. I was like, this man cares about me. This man loves me. And then we'd be communicating over Snapchat for the next week. I'm like, what is the difference at this point? I don't know. I feel like blocking still shows you care. I feel like the mind game going through a breakup is showing indifference and being super coy, which is why I mute. When there's an end to a situation ship, when I'm done hooking up with someone, when there's a breakup, they're muted, they're not blocked. I'm not watching their stuff.

So it feels like no contact where I'm kind of getting over the situation. I don't have to look at them. I don't have to see what they're posting. I don't have to see any of that shit. I mute all their friends in their orbit. I don't want to see them posting this guy, seeing him have a fun time.

Because God forbid he has a fun time post-breakup, post-situationship. having seeing him have like a fun time because god forbid he has a fun time post breakup post situationship you'd think that you know his days would be over at that point but no i feel like muting is much more powerful in the move i've just like probably 400 people muted on instagram not just all guys i haven't slept with 400 guys but like i'm saying like in general like i just mute people once i'm done with them and i feel like that's more powerful because it shows like I don't even give a fuck to look at your shit. I don't care and I feel like I know I like a guy when I start seeing if they viewed my stuff. I like usually put guys in my private story for that reason. Like when I start hooking up with someone I'll add them to my private story. I usually end up taking them off because

then there's like a new guy I'm like yapping about in my private story. But usually when I'm starting to hook up with a guy I'll put them on my private story because I want to see if they're viewing my shit regularly. Because if they're viewing my private story they're viewing everything else. It's honestly me. It's self-inflicting pain. In God forbid they like a story then my day is made, you know, but yeah That's how my mind works. And this is what we call mental illness. I'm looking at all the cameras This is fucked up. I just like wish men didn't have social media It would cut out a layer of bullshit that I don't need. I don't really want to know what they're up to

I feel like ignorance is bliss. So when I see him like Oliver, you know Like posting stories or like, you know, like posting stories or like you know they're in feed posts I'm like oh fuck they should be in the office. I still think that they should be in the office crunching numbers so when they're 45 they can support me but that's just how I think. You know you're fucked when you start looking to see if a guy has viewed your story. That's what I know. I'm fucked is when I'm like oh did so-and-so view my story. That's when I know I'm fucked, is when I'm like, oh, did so and so view my story, I'm fucked. So I'm like hoping he's doing the same thing.

And when he sees that I have not viewed his story, then maybe he thinks I don't give a shit. And that's the whole point, right? We don't want them to know we give a shit. You can give a shit in peace and silence, but like you can be screaming on the inside with giving a shit, but on the outside, we're not even viewing their shit.

And that's like another thing that I'm thinking of now is like post breakup etiquette when it comes to social media. This is something that has taken me much trial and error to figure out because when you go through a breakup, you know, your first, I think as a girl, your first immediate thing is like, I have to look like a fucking Instagram baddie. I have to post my bikini pics. I got to fucking hike up my tits. I got to get glammed up. I got to hit the town, hit the club, look like you're having the best fucking time ever. Not a care in the world. I think that is very, a very JV and transparent approach, even though I've done that. I've

been there. We all been guilty of doing that. However, I think also the approach in this situation is to be coy, but not too coy. I would say go about your day. Go about your normal posting tendencies. You know, go out with your friends. But also like, I think taking time off of social media shows that you're taking time to heal. And I think healing is a man's worst nightmare in a way. Because I don't think a man post breakup wants you to heal. I think he wants you to be in pain. I think he wants to be posting those Instagram baddie stories being like, oh my God, she's trying to catch my attention. She's hurting. She's upset. Like she wants me to reach out to her. I think that's kind of the energy

it gives off. So if you're posting more like, you know, out to dinner with the girls, but like not out at the club, and then maybe like being a little more selective of what you post after that, and maybe not raging super hard and like posting like super thirst trappy like stuff and like being a little bit more quieter in social media, I think it shows the guy that you're actually taking time

to reflect and to heal and to like move on. And that's not what he wants. And I think a guy's more likely to reach out if he thinks that you are actually taking those steps to get over said situation. Also, you know what I think about all the time, social media for a guy and social media for a girl. Say you're a girl with 30,000 followers and you're a guy with 30,000 followers. I think it's so much easier for a guy to get pussy than it is for a girl with 30,000 followers to get any dick. Tell me why that is. If you compare the two exact same following, I would promise you that a good looking guy

with 30K has way more DMs than a really pretty girl with 30K. And I don't know the math and the science on that but it needs to be studied. Okay you silly motherfuckers let's get into our next segment. I want to do like a fashion segment like whether it's trendy or timeless or like throw in the motherfucking garbage. So I'm gonna go over some things that I think is in or out or like throw in the motherfucking garbage. So I'm gonna go over some things that I think is in or out or like why the fuck is it even a thing. Let's start with Doc Martens. I actually think Doc Martens are kind of chic but like only in certain seasons. You're not going to

catch me on the beaches of Nantucket wearing fucking Doc Martens. Although I have worn leather pants on the beach of Nantucket. I don't know what that was happening. I think I was having a mental crisis that summer. I was hooking up with this old guy and it was just a weird summer for me. I did not understand the summer trends at that point. But anyways that was kind of a you know a floof. Doc Martens are chic I think with the right outfit in the fall. I think that's trendy. It's on the edgier side, but it's trendy.

I think Docs are trendy and not timeless. Okay, bows everywhere. I fucking hate a bow. Bows piss me the fuck off. I hope they're just a trend. But like bows I feel like have been in forever, so they're probably timeless. I could see them on generations to come, unfortunately, but you're never gonna catch my bitch ass in a fucking bow.

And that's for goddamn sure. Baguette bags, I think they're always gonna be in, in some shape or form. I love a baguette bag. My sister has a beautiful Prada baguette bag that I'm obsessed with and I wanna steal. I think they'll be always timeless in some shape or form. I feel like bags also become more timeless with age, if that makes sense.

Like the bags that are trendy now will be vintage someday and still be trendy then in the future. I don't have a lot of bags that I care about though. Maybe if I had a bag I cared about, I would get a LabouBou I cared about though Maybe if I had a bag I cared about I would get a little boo-boo I cared about because I fucking hate those two and those piss me the fuck off the motherfucking little boo-boos anyways Sheer everything I think timeless For the right audience for the right person for the right person that can pull it off I think sheer is fucking con free the nipple. I think it's also very

chic. Long denim skirts. Is that trending again? Those are fucking ugly. Maybe I just can't pull it off, but I think it takes the right, you know, if Belle Hadid was wearing a denim skirt, then I'd probably hop on board. I'm sure she owns a few of them. I think they're just trendy though. I can't see that lasting forever. It's one of those things that probably will like pop in then pop out and then like become in again. I feel like that's how fashion works. Like things just happen in cycles. Okay, Caprice. That was just talking to someone about this. I think Caprice is also one of those things that has its waves and will come back in. I think the way people are styling them right now is actually really

chic. I don't know if it's timeless or something that will just like, you know, be in and then be out. I think like what last time capris were popular was probably 2006 and then again in 2012 and now here we are in 2025. I think it really depends on like how you're styling them. I think it's on the edgier side, but I think they're really cute. Like I don't own a pair, but I'm not gonna lie. I've hearted a couple pair. I'm on Revolve and I'm hearting a couple pair.

I might lean in, but I haven't decided yet. Tube tops. I don't like the way tube tops look on me. I think my fucking tits are too big for them or something They just don't feel I don't feel confident in them for some reason But tube tops I don't think they're timeless. I honestly didn't even know they were a trend right now But I don't love a tube top linen button-ups on men

hot and hopefully timeless. I like that. Especially in the summer. It's giving like surf lodge, hamptons, it's giving European summer. I love a linen top on a man. But like long sleeve. I don't, or short sleeve. I don't know. I feel like this is timeless probably. I don't see this going away anytime soon. Low rise anything. Hopefully timeless. I know this is timeless probably I don't see this going away anytime soon Low-rise anything hopefully timeless. I know this is trendy right now, and this is something I'm leaning into so heavily I fucking love low-rise denim right now diesel's been my favorite Jean brand like recently and I've been buying a million pairs of jeans from them I think low-rise is so fucking cunty and chic.

It's like giving brat. It's giving cunt and it's giving everything that needs to be given. It says a lot with having to say nothing. And I love that about a piece of clothing. But I don't think they're timeless. But for me, they're timeless. For everyone else, I don't know.

Camouflage, I don't know. I think for a hoodie or like, you know, for like sweats or loungewear I think camo is cute. I wouldn't wear camo otherwise unless it's like Like a mini skirt, I don't know and even that it's probably just trendy and not timeless. It depends how camo is styled. I think it can be cute but it's not like my favorite thing ever. The color brown. I own so much brown. I only wear neutrals and like I need to mix in more color to be honest. I only wear like white, brown, black, beige. I'm actually pretty kind of boring when it comes to my color palette.

I think brown will always be in though. I think it's a nice color. So yeah, I would say that's timeless. Micro shorts, I think timeless. They should be timeless. I don't think I'm gonna be fucking 95 years old. Maybe I'll be pissed off at when I'm 95 years old if I make it that far looking back at the 20 somethings

that can still rock them, but I hope that I'm at years old, if I make it that far, looking back at the 20 somethings, I can still rock them. But I hope that I'm that fucking great grandma that can rock the micro short and be like, I remember back in my day when I would wear the micro short and all the guys would be hollering at me in the streets. That's the kind of grandma I wanna be. Pearl necklaces, I think, yeah.

It depends also how you style them. I've seen people with like the edgier pearl necklace. I'm never gonna be like the, you know, like a setford wife, like, you know, like very prim and proper with the pearl necklaces. And it reminds me of like Brie from Desperate Housewives, like a pearl necklace, kind of very like put together and like very set separate wifey.

I don't think I'll ever wear a pearl necklace like that. But I think with a diamond chain and a pearl necklace combination on the edgier side of things, I think it'd be chic. But I don't think pearls are ever gonna go out of style. I think it's gonna be a very timeless thing. Pearl necklace is on straight guys. It's giving like Love Island.

It's giving TikTokker. I don't know. Pearl necklace is on straight guys. It's giving like love Island. It's giving TikToker. I don't know. I think it could be chic. Like if you're like a professional athlete and you're wearing like kind of like a pearl necklace chain combo, like I just talked about, I think that could be cool. But if you're just wearing a pearl necklace,

it's giving like, I don't know. What's this called? A shocker. A shocker. It's like, I'm going surfing. It's this called? A shocker. A shocker. It's like I'm going surfing. It's very Tik Toker-esque. It's giving in the renegade. You'd be like next level hot to pull any of that shit off.

Okay, next. Denim on denim. I love denim on denim. I think it's chic. A little Canadian tuxedo. Love. I do that all the time. But has to like match or else it's like kind of janky looking and then it looks like you just like rolled out of

bed and you don't know you can't see. I don't know. Like I feel like it has to the right match for that to work. Do I think this is a timeless trend? No. I didn't even know it was a trend right now. I thought I just did that and I was overlooking something. But love. Butter yellow? No I don't like know it was a trend right now. I thought I just did that and I was overlooking something. But love. Butter yellow? No, I don't like butter yellow. I don't like butter in general really, but butter yellow, it's too bright.

It's giving happy and no one's that happy. It's too, maybe for the summer. That's probably why it's trendy. It's probably trendy in the summer, but you're not gonna catch me wearing butter yellow on New Year's Eve. That's not happening. Flats? I don't like flats. I don't like those gummy flats too that everyone's fucking wearing right now. You know what I'm talking about? Those like gummy woven flats? They're like bojiga. Bojiga! Bojiga banana a banana gummy flats.

I don't understand it. They kind of look like the woven flats not really my style, but everyone has different styles. If it makes you smile and you feel like your most confident self in them then fucking wear those gummy woven flats from wherever you fucking get them. I'm not hating on you. I've worn some questionable things in my day.

I just don't think maybe I'm behind hating on you. I've worn some questionable things in my day. I just don't think maybe I'm behind on this trend It seems like I am behind on a lot of trends right now and that's shocking to me because I'm chronically online But every trend is like propaganda to me and it's like I don't fall for propaganda Like we talked about this with the little boo-boos like I'm not fucking falling for that shit I don't fall for it. White tank tops always. That's my uniform, babe. Show off the fucking knockers. Love them.

White tank tops, black tank tops. I think it's chic, casual, elevated, all the fucking things. I think that will be timeless because it's so easy to throw on. Aviator sunglasses. There's no fucking way those are coming, making a comeback. There's no way. They're definitely not timeless. Those piss me the fuck off. And I'm pissed I ever spent money on them. So hopefully just a trend, but like I didn't even know that was a trend.

I thought we left those in 2012 with those Ray-Bans. Decline. I do not RSVP. Adidas Sambas. I think those are cool. Chic. A nice summer shoe to throw on. A nice fall shoe to throw on. Probably wouldn't work in the snow. But I think they're cute. Nothing wrong with... I think they're probably not timeless, but I think right now they're definitely trendy. And yeah, that was a fun segment. If there's anything fashion related guys, any questions you have on like whatever fashion trends labooboos whatever the fuck you want to ask me about I will give you my honest opinion on them so feel free to ask the extra dirty account or my personal DM I

look at those two as we know and now for a fan favorite segment guys, let's do am I the asshole? Because am I an asshole? Yeah, most days of the week in most situations of life. So when you guys tell me you're assholes too, it makes me feel better. Maybe that's selfish. Maybe I'm a selfish bitch for that. But we're gonna listen to how you guys are the asshole and I'll give you guys my take and see if you guys are or if you're not. Am I the asshole for telling my boyfriend I need a break? I've been with my boyfriend for about nine months. He's great, but I just feel like I missed out

on a proper slut era. I told him I needed a little break for my mental clarity, but what I really meant was I needed at least two Hot makeouts before coughing up forever. Am I the asshole for lying about my break intentions? Babe take that slut break Slut breaks are good for the soul We all need a slut break sometimes and I feel like if you're having these feelings of doubt in your relationship if you're already feeling like of doubt in your relationship, if you're already feeling

like you need to take a break and just have some breathing room to make out with other people, to explore, to experience, to have hot girl summer, allow yourself. If you don't allow yourself that space, it will just build resentment. You're not going to be happy with this man. You're going to look at him every day and be like, I should have had that fucking slut

era. Also, I'm assuming you're young because I don't think anyone in their 30s or 40s or 50s is using the term slut era. If you're just coming out of college, have that slut era. If you've been with a boyfriend, like he probably needs a slut era too, to be honest. And I think this is good. You're only young once. And if you are feeling these feelings, act on them.

It's okay. And you should feel no guilt around that. You asked for the break. You're not doing anything wrong. You're not cheating on him. You can do it for the fuck you want. You can go outside naked, making out with everyone on the street of Manhattan

if you really wanted to. And you wouldn't be doing anything wrong. Give yourself a little room for grace and just fucking act on whatever you wanna act on. I say fucking do it, and I don't think you're an asshole. I think you're a motherfucking queen. We also, I think we have different definitions of slut era. If all you wanted was to make out with two guys,

I would just say like go to Marquee and do that. I think that's okay. I think a slut era, I think my interpretation of a slut era would be like a fucking full on five guy bender in one weekend. And I'm not talking make out. Like who the fuck cares? At the end of the day we're all just like floating rock.

So if you feel like you need to get a slut era out of you, who the fuck cares? At the end of the day, we're all just a floating rock. So if you feel like you need to get a slayer out of you, who the fuck cares? Do you? Also, I feel like I don't think you're lying about your intentions. It seems like you want mental clarity, but I've always said this, if you're feeling like these feelings

of maybe I wanna explore with other guys, then you're definitely not with the right guy. At least for right now. And you should probably just break up. The guy you're supposed to be with forever, I don't think you're ever going to feel like feelings that I want to explore with other guys. That's what I tell myself, but maybe it's different for everyone else, but I think that once you've found the right Mr. Right, that person, that partner, that forever person,

I don't think you're gonna want to hook up with Joe Schmo at Bleaker Street Bar. I don't think that's gonna be the case. Okay next, am I the asshole for giving my ex's new girlfriend a heads up? My ex cheated on me. We haven't spoken since the breakup, but I saw he's now dating the girl he told me not to worry about of course classic I sent her a message saying hey just let you know he was cheating on me multiple times with multiple people not just you good luck she blocked me and now I feel weird am I the asshole for inserting myself I mean I would say maybe maybe, like do you really give a fuck about like if this new girl gets cheated on by the guy you just broke up with?

I don't think you, I don't think your intentions were probably the most pure. Maybe a little bit of an asshole. But on the flip side of things, you are giving the girl a heads up. Karma is going to come, you know, around, I guess, to that man. He's probably gonna do it again. Especially these men. They just can't keep their fucking dicks in their pants. They'll put in anything these days. So he'll probably cheat on her, but I feel like I'm a true believer in like,

let her find that information out herself via her own experiences. I don't think you have to tell her because she'll probably find out the hard way anyways. That would be my take on that. It's always the fucking bitch that like they always tell us not to worry about. I swear this happened to me in college. I was like you're too friendly with this motherfucking bitch and then they went abroad together and then it happened. And I was like, I knew it. It's almost like I put the idea in this man's head. The more he told him, I'm worried about this girl.

I'm worried about this girl. And then he's like, I'll give you a motherfucking reason to be worried about this girl. Oh, these men are fucking stupid, I swear. I swear I've turned into like a man hater, which is someone I never wanted to be, but I just like don't like them right now. They're all stupid to me. Am I the asshole for telling my boyfriend he gives ick energy when he moans? He's super hot. We have great sex. But when he moans, it sounds like a cartoon character in pain.

It fully drives me up. I told him half joking that his moan gives me the ick. He got super offended and he said I'm ruining sex for him. Am I the asshole for being too honest or is he just doing us both a favor? Honestly, I don't think you're the asshole here at all because he's ruining your sexual experience if he's doing all these weird bucking moanings like he's a dying zebra. Okay? But like sometimes let the man let out a moan here and there. Honestly you should be moaning louder than him. Like you should not be able to even hear his moans.

You should be moaning so loud. But I mean you were honest. I don't think you're really the asshole here. I used to hook up with this guy. I used to moan all the time and I called him out for it too and I was like, why do you moan like this? Like what are we doing here? Like why are you moaning more than me? And he was so hot, like really really fucking hot guy. Maybe it was the same guy honestly, not that I think about it, but I was like, he was like the hottest guy ever and he was like, girls say they like it, girls think

it's hot. I'm like, babe trust me, no one thinks it's hot. Keep your moments to yourself. But he was going OD about it. It was like performative almost. Like performative moments are like for the girls, not for the guys. So no, I don't think you're the asshole. And if you are, then we're both assholes

because I've done the same exact thing. Okay, next, am I the asshole for secretly keeping my dating apps active while on vacation with my boyfriend? Probably. Hi Hallie, me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year and we just took our first trip together. I still have Grindr- wait what? Oh this is a gay relationship. Love, happy pride months, love that. Sorry, I didn't have context. I was like why why does this girl have Grindr? But honestly, it's like, I still have Grindr on my phone, but I truthfully have not opened it

since we made it official. It's like buried in the third page folder of my iPhone. So real. I only captured because I used to use Grindr when I was in a new city to ask locals for fun things to do. Fun things to do. I think it's fun and kind of just like doing my Good primary research question mark. Well when we're looking at pics of my phone, he saw a notification pop up and freaked out I told him the entire story, but he's having a hard time believing me. Am I the asshole for thinking he's overreacting? I don't think He's overreacting at all. I

Don't think if he saw a notification pop up from another dating app and you guys are in a relationship, I don't think he's overreacting in the slightest actually because I would be taking that phone and shoving up your motherfucking ass. I would be flipping out if this was the case. However, this is a new relationship. I don't know.

Like, I don't think it's crazy that, I mean, did you proact, I've follow up questions. Like, did you proactively like hide it in the third folder of your third app, like a secret folder in the folder? I don't fucking know. Was that purposeful? Or was that just like an oversight on your end? Like, did you just forget to delete the app?

Or did you keep it for a reason? Or are you trying to have threesomes? Are you trying to have a little fun on vacation? It is vacation. I don't know what you guys get up to, but like maybe. I don't think you're the app, I mean if it's a brand new relationship. I don't know guys, I feel like I'm answering this very wrong because probably you should be deleting your dating apps the second you are in an exclusive relationship. But I do not know the rules in your relationship specifically.

So maybe, I don't know. Am I the asshole for being on hinge during my friend's wedding ceremony? Absolutely the fuck not. That's the best time to go on hinge. What? All right, let me read the thing. My ex was a groomsman at

this wedding and brought his new girlfriend which triggered a full spiral. While the bride and groom were exchanging vows I opened hinge and messaged a guy I'd been putting off. We hooked up later that night my friend the bride found out and said I was being disrespectful to her day am I the asshole? No, what the fuck? She's being an asshole. Girls gotta eat, okay? And weddings, trust me, as a single girl, especially if your ex is there with a new bitch, like what the fuck? Like, I would be on every, I would be on eBay, okay? I would be on every dating app possible.

I would be in the newspaper, okay? I would be on Craigslist, Raya, Hinge, Facebook Marketplace. Okay, all the things. It's one of those days where everyone's celebrating love and it's such a place where you just want a partner next to you at because love is beautiful. I'm not a love hater, I'm a man hater. I love love, I love seeing people in love.

The bride is up there exchanging vows. She has the man of her dreams. Like I would be on him too. I don't think you're the asshole at all. And especially if you're triggered by your fucking dickhead ex that brought a new bitch to the wedding. And it's probably making out being all lovey-dovey in front of you. Now he will rue.

Fuck that shit. I think you are not the asshole. I think you're just like a little maybe sad and lonely and aren't we all in those circumstances. I think your bride's being kind of a bridezilla and she needs to calm the fuck down. Have a martini at the reception and take a hush. Okay? Take a motherfucking lap. She should not be focused on your apps at that point in time. She should be focused on loving her man that she just married and exchanged vows with.

Sorry, I just got really passionate about that one, guys. Okay, that was so fun, guys. As always, please DM me about Am I the Asshole? They literally make my day. It's like my favorite segment. I literally could do a whole episode just reading them, being like, going over these. I honestly think we should do that for an ex solo is just am I the asshole am I the asshole? I think it's the most fun

Fucking segment ever okay next you know what something I am a mad about right now is There's no men that just like wanna fuck No men that just like wanna fuck Casually right now my roster is cleared. I talked about this last week or a couple weeks ago I believe just the lack of men in the city I thought something I'm looking forward to this summer is finding hot men Whether that's in the Hamptons in Europe on Nantucket. I Just like want to hook up with someone normal. It's not a fucking weirdo.

That's a freak though. I wanna find some freaky ass men with normal jobs. That's what I want this summer. And you'd think that they'd be like, everyone's saying that like New York is the place to find these hot men, but I don't know where they're at. You know, I'm on Raya, which I thought was like

the creme de la creme of the dating apps. It's not, I swear they're all fucking AI. I don't think they're real or straight. There's a lot of men on there that I don't think they're, I don't think they plugged in the things correctly. They don't look straight to me. I'm not lying. I don't know where you find all the hot straight daddies right

now. Maybe at the members clubs, but like I go to the members clubs and by the time I get to the members clubs I'm kind of cross-eyed and confused. Maybe had a couple too many martinis, but that's something that's pissed me off right now. I don't know where the hot normal successful men are. Like just like not weirdos. Just like have normal like nine fives. I like would love an emotionally unavailable man right now actually because I want to have an emotionally unavailable summer but they should want to cling to me in general but I'm emotionally unavailable. Okay so my ideal situation for a casual hookup this summer would be someone that just like literally I can text

without them thinking I'm like trying to date them just to fuck and that they can just leave after. That would be amazing. And like they don't have, they're not trying to like go on dates, they're not trying to go out for drinks. Like literally just the fuck buddy. Like I'm not even gonna be in New York that much. Someone I can text when I'm back in New York that's like, hey, how are ya?

Come over or I'll come to you so I don't have to do a sleepover kind of vibe. Like I don't even want to sleepover. I don't want to cuddle. I don't want any of that. I just want to pee in the V situation. That's all I need this summer. No in-depth talks. I don't want to hear about their pet names.

I don't even want to know their pet names. I don't even want to know their last name or their middle name. But just someone reliant. Only reliant sexually. Not reliant for anything else. I don't even care if they hook up with other bitches. Just don't give me an STD. Get checked regularly if you're doing that. But like, shouldn't we all be getting checked regularly? I don't even know. But yeah, that would be my ideal situation for the summer Okay guys when you hear this episode, I will be freshly back from Mykonos Ready to do a debrief and I'll let you know what I found there. I'm really excited to go

So that's gonna be really fun fucking trip. Anyways guys as always I love sitting down with you. I love doing these solos Anyways guys, as always, I love sitting down with you. I love doing these solos. Watch on YouTube, like, subscribe, comment, all the beautiful things. You can listen to me on every other platform. Tag me when you listen to me, post me, I always repost those stories. So all of that, I love you guys and I will see you next week. Kisses, bissels, muah muah muah.