Extra Dirty with Hallie Batchelder - Let’s talk about kids, new boyfriends, & my summer plans

Episode Date: May 14, 2026

GRAB YOUR MATCHAS! Because is Hallie truly on a crusade for wholesome activity these days??? 🍵 Hallie sits down *solo* to answer all of your burning questions this week: what REALLY went down at Coachella, who was kissed, and what travel is NEXT for summer. Hallie explains how she is not finding her forever man on Instagram and why she doesn't believe in the friends to lovers pipeline. Then she answers the questions you've been dying to know: Hallie's plans for children, the nuances to cheating, dating athletes, and not feeling bad about going out this summer. BESOS! 💋 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

I want to be partying until my teeth fall out of my head. Until like every hair on top of my head is gone, which might be at the age of 40 at this rate. But like, you can have fun at any age. Don't Monday my Sunday. That is such a vibe killer. Let's get extra dirty. Okay, guys, hello and welcome back to the Extra Dirty Bar. It is just me today.

I've had so many fun guests on recently. I had my dad on. I had my brothers on. Delaney, Roan. I've had so many fun guests on this show, but I feel like there's been a hot minute where we haven't just like sat down and like talked about me. And like, I kind of want to just talk about me for today. And we have a lot to catch up on. A lot has happened over the past few months. It's felt like months. And this is the first solo that I've done in the new set. So I'm kind of excited to just sit here with you guys, answer some questions.

I asked you guys some, like, what do you guys want to know right now? And I'm feeling like an open book today. Maybe a little bit messy. Like, I want to be a little bit, you know, like, let's get into it a little bit. I feel like there's a lot of conversations that need to be had. So, yeah, we'll do a segment of that. We're going to do Am I the Asshole today. But I thought we just start off with talking about what I'm drinking right now,

which is how we start every show at the extra dirty bar. I am drinking a matto today because I am in my brand safe health era. Kind of. I need to find the duality of New York City. Let's talk about that. I have gotten in the bad habit of partying a lot at night and then kind of being a hermit during the day. And I told myself, I'm like, I can only emotionally justify partying so much if I do some wholesome during the day. So my new thing has been like, I'm going to find one wholesome activity to do during the day to, to emotionally, it's like an emotional right off to make it feel okay to party as hard as I do. I'm not going to party less,

but if I party hard, I'm matching hard the next day as well. Or I'm going to knit, or I'm going to walk, or I'm going to pick up a hobby, maybe ceramics, maybe do something with my hands. Not where you're thinking,

but like do something with my hands, like pottery, maybe like a sip and paint. Like I want to like start doing things that don't always, revolve around partying and drinking, but like during the day, you know? What else is new with me? I feel like we haven't caught up since pre-Cochella.

So Coachella was fun. I mean, I discussed it a little bit on here. Not really. I mean, this is the first Coachella that I've been to where I'm like, I guess, an influencer slash podcaster. Like, I've been five years ago and it was a lot different of an experience for me. It was also the first Coachella post-COVID. so I feel like a lot of people went.

But a lot of people also went to this Coachella because Justin Bieber being a headliner is huge. Let me just say, like, it was me and Graden. We went with Unwell, and we had a great house. We had a blast. We got a lot of good content. We interviewed a lot of good artists. But I will say this about Coachella.

Like, I'm not a big walker. I'm trying to be better about this. Like, I don't like to step. Like, the whole time, I kind of wished I was like on a magic carpet or like someone was just like, pulling me in a wheel, like pushing me in a wheelchair or something like that. Me and Graydon both don't like to walk or stand. Also, Graydon being seven feet tall, he's not the best person to be in front of you at a crowd

at like a concert like that. I don't know, it's just like a lot of walking and like hours and hours of waiting to like get to the car and to like, I didn't make it to a single after party, which is someone like me because I'm like the after's queen. But by the time you got to the car, after walking around in the desert, it was just like mayhem. And I also always will say this, like, Coachella just feels like at this point in time, like the influencer Olympics, and that's coming from an influencer.

It's just like, who do you know? Like, how many followers you have? It's like kind of that vibe, and I don't love that vibe. Also, I will say my outfit choices for Coachella were bit polarizing. I saw some commentary on it. Either people like really liked it or they were like, what the fuck? This is even disrespectful to show up like this

to a festival like this. Because I dress down really casual, like kind of similar to what I'm wearing right now, which is just like my ragged bone, jean sweats and like a white tank. But I choose comfort over anything else. And I feel like if you're comfortable, that is when you're the most stylish, in my opinion.

Like this is what I felt most confident in, so why wouldn't I wear that? I don't feel good wearing like a string thong, like seashell bikini and just being like really uncomfortable, tight, short clothing. It looks, it probably would look great on me. And like I think why why I spend money on buying tits if I'm not going to like release them to the world? But I just felt like for this festival, I really wanted to like have comfortable shoes and be

comfortable. I don't know what the wind was going to be. I don't know if it was me hot or cold. I don't know. You're in the desert. It's very confusing. but it was a good time. I shared a couple kisses and just kisses

because I was like in the middle of a field. I kissed a couple people honestly, just two, not including Graden, but one of them, Chase, the guy, I don't even know how to put this, like Chase, I love you, if you're watching this, I love you. So we were like kind of like in the field in broad daylight with Graden.

We're just kind of like watching a set or something. We're watching some like really hardcore gothic emo band. I don't even know. But something I forget about like people like were like recording it and taking pictures and making TikToks about it. And in my mind, I just don't think, I don't understand what the big deal is. Like when you're scrolling TikTok and you're having a peaceful doom scroll, you just want to like giggle and like watch.

AI fruit cheat on each other and you know you just want to like it's a real really like a not a relief it's like a mindless scrolling where you just can have a giggle for a moment and turn your brain off it's kind of weird scrolling and like seeing my face pop up and this guy's face pop up or like me and this guy together and someone's like obviously shooting it from very far away i mean i've never really had that happen to me that was definitely a new experience and on top of having scaries, you know, like Sunday's Scaries, Monday Scaries. I mean, that Monday after Coachella was extremely scary

for a multitude of reasons. But having, like, your publicist email you, like, past breaks of you, like, canoodling in a field with a guy, like, you don't really know. That's interesting. But, you know, it's all

for the lower. It's all for the story. I ended up actually meeting up with that guy, Chase. I keep saying his name. Like, I'm really standing on business here. But like we did go out to, he was in New York for something, something with page six or something.

And we went on a date. It was a very casual date. He was like, if you're around, he texted me, he's like, if you're around, I would love to go to dinner with you. Like, I think it'd be so much fun. And I was like, oh my God, yes, like so much fun. Let's do it.

I'm kind of in an era where dating is kind of just something I'm trying out. I can feel myself as a 28, almost 29 year old, getting things out of my system right now. So I'm kind of really just having fun with like a bunch of different guys and him being one of them. But I will say when I pulled up to Shay Margot, which is I was like, well, let's make it the reservation. In my mind, I'm like, it'll be like super private.

Like it's a members club. So I feel like it would be like chill. We could just like sit at a two shop in the corner. And it was on like a Tuesday. whatever. I thought it was very low maintenance. But then we showed up and like he goes just so you know like TMZ's here. And I was like, what do you mean TMZ here? Like TMZ doesn't just hang out here. Like did you call TMZ? And he was like, no. And I was like, you totally called TMZ. And that kind of gave me to ick. I'm not going to lie. And as we're walking in, paparazzi were also there. But they weren't obviously

there for like me and him. They were there because right behind me was Matt Healy and Gabriette, just like, like pulling up. And I was like, this is so overstimulating. I hadn't had a drink yet. I'm like pretty sober. First date, paparazzi is picturing the people behind me. And then I have a TMZ girl yelling on my face being like, did you really meet I, Coachella?

Did you really meet I coach Ella and I're on a date with Chase? And I'm like, oh, back at the fuck up. Cut the cameras. What? So I was frazzled. You could see like, I was like pale after that. I was like, oh my God, I should have just stayed at home.

So yeah, new Iick unlocked, but I love Chase. All is well with him. We're good friends. And you know, who's to say? Maybe we'll go on a second day, one day. What else do we have to catch up on? I've been doing a little bit of traveling. I've been trying to budget better.

I've been trying to cut out my shopping habits and just trying to kind of focus on saving money because I'm really bad at that and I just realized my life is just getting more and more expensive as I get older and I feel like I'm becoming kind of a diva when it comes to small things like I don't even know if there's small things

but travel like once you go first class or like Delta 1 I just can't see myself going back to the back row. I can't. I can't see it. I don't want to go back to economy, so I'd rather pay for the experience. I feel like it sets the tone for the trip.

Even if it's a business trip, you're getting champagne, you're getting food, you can lie down in a lie flat. Like, it sets the tone for the trip. If I'm crammed back in the middle C at row 32B or whatever the fuck, I'm going to be a crabby-ass cunt

when I get off that fight. And I'm sorry. I'll be a diva. I'll claim that. Same thing goes for Uber. Okay. I become a really big believer in Uber Black, Uber comfort, Black Lane, Amtrak first class. Like, it just needs to all stop.

I need to just stay in one place. So I'm trying to do that before this summer where I have about 19,000 weddings and 19 million bachelor at parties. I'm in a few weddings this upcoming year, including my sisters and my best. friends. It's just a lot of weddings at once. And it's also very expensive. And not only is it expensive, it's just a concert reminder how you don't have love with someone, you know? Like I get just, I love celebrating my friend's love, but I'm like, oh, fuck. I have to spend money and I'm single. I got to just bite the bullet. But I guess we are going to a fun trip and I think it's Majorca. I should know. It's somewhere in Europe. And I'm kind of ready to unlock a European summer.

The vibe for the summer, I feel like I want like very tiny bikinis and big boats. Tiny bikinis, big yachts. Rich men do not disturb. Phone on. Phone on do not disturb. What else do I want? I want like an East Coast summer that's kind of classy, but also being kind of a menace to society on the beaches of Nantucket and the Hamptons.

I just kind of want to spend a lot of time with my family, but also just, like, really get out there. Now that I've tried a little bit of dating, I always tell myself, I'm like, don't go for the social media guy. But, like, I will say Instagram is the best dating app. So, like, if a guy DMs me and he's hot and he has, like, a following, there's a good chance I'm probably going to reply just to, like, see what it's about. And it's funny because I bring them all to Shaymargo.

The hostess is there probably think I'm like, like a mega slot. In the past month, they probably bought at least three or four guys to Shia Margo. I should probably switch it up between Sierra Bond or something or mix that, I don't know, but like, I really like the menu there and they have really good wine. And it's dark. It's like very dark and sexy in there. I have been going on a lot of dates, but like with men that like do not, I know don't like me.

But I'm just going on dates kind of with these guys just to like practice. almost. I kind of psyched myself out and I'm like I am at an age where I should start taking dating a little bit more seriously, but the men I take out and I say I take them out because I do take them out. I'm like kind of like a sugar mama era too. I don't know what's going on with that because that is so not my vibe at all. But I'm like, let me bring you to shame art. Like they're not members there. I have to make the reservation. Like I'm kind of wearing the pants in the situation. None of these men I'm taking out. I don't really take seriously. Like at least a few of them I don't take seriously. And I have said this many times before. Like I'm not a great dater. Like I will have

sex on the first date without even blinking or thinking. Like I do that. I've come to this place where like I don't really even want to talk to them after that. I think I need a therapist. That's kind of what it sounds like. I don't think I've ever verbalized this really. But like I kind of lose interest after every guy I've hooked up with recently. I just lose interest in right after because I'm just like I don't take any of this seriously. I should, though, but I don't think the guys I am finding are the places I should be looking for them. I don't know if I really want to find my, like, Forever Man on Instagram.

I don't think I want them to find me there either. We'll see. I feel like this is like the one final, because I feel like I've been kind of a hoe lately, not like a crazy hoe, but like definitely starting to answer some booty calls of past romance. and just like kind of feeling like a free spirit. I feel like that's a brand safe answer.

Like, yeah, I've been like super free spirited lately. But having fun and I'm single and I'm young and I have fake tits and people need to see them and that's kind of my vibe on that. I feel like what I should do is have one of my good friends that I trust to know like set me up or something with someone. like because I feel like if there's a strong mutual friend in there there's a better chance of things working out

if that makes sense but like that can be tricky too because then if you get set up and it doesn't work out like I've been set up by some friends for just like hooking up like oh you should hug up with this guy and like I'll end up like getting into like a little thing with them and then it ends and then I'm like talking a lot of shit on them

to the friend and then it gets kind of messy but like what's a girl gotta do? The guy shouldn't have fucked up on me. So there's that. It's always the actors that turn out really fucking weird. I've had some weird run-ins with some actors. Really fucking weird. Those Hollywood guys are really, really, really, really, really weird.

And they all rue. The Friends to Love Her Pipeline, let's talk about that a little bit. I don't think I believe in that, to be honest. I think just as human beings, like if you, I mean, Maybe that's my emotional immaturity, but I feel like if the connection's there and the chemistry is there, it's not going to start platonic and then go to a romantic connection. I mean, I've heard of that happening, but like I feel like if it's with the right person, wouldn't you feel that spark, romantic spark right off the bat?

But like to play devil's advocate, I feel like the friends to love her pipeline, I guess you do get a chance to get comfortable with that person and build a really strong foundation. and then explore what maybe a romantic thing could feel like. That's what I imagine, how it works out. But I've never experienced that at my lifetime. I've hooked up with some friends, but I blame Don Julio for that or Grey Goose or something like that. Like, I don't think it was like,

we like caught eyes across the room one night sober, and we were like, I think I feel something here. No, it was a little fucked up cross-eyed, and I probably thought he was someone else. Like that was just college days, honestly. That hasn't happened in a long time. I don't tend to hook up with my friends now. I do have some guys that I hook up with now that, like, are my friends.

That I don't. Like, I have flirty banter with and maybe once in a blue moon will have sex. But I don't see myself ever dating or bringing home to my parents. That's, like, a factor I always put in because there's guys that I'll 100% fuck. but would never introduce them to my parents. Bring them home, bring them to Nantucket, meet the brothers, meet the sister. No. There's certain guys that definitely, like, it's a different breed of man.

And then there's some guys that are just, like, funny, silly, flirty in your drinking body, and then sometimes you have, like, the afters, and then he ends up, you know, doing, you know, handstands in your bed. Like that shit just happens sometimes. What's a girl got to do? Enough about me. Let's get into actually more about me. But also just like questions that you guys ask me. I put it up on my story and I was like literally guys just asked me whatever the fuck you want.

I'm in a mood to answer every fucking question ever. Maybe that was a bit, you know, one step over the line. But like I'm down to answer. I'm looking at them. I can answer most of these questions in my opinion. Let's start from the beginning. Like getting with your boss's son, how do you, hmm, I think getting with your boss's son. I'm trying to picture that.

I mean, that's a risky move. I think, like, if you're getting with your boss's son, then that means that job is probably not that important to you. If you're ready to risk it all for some dick, I mean, I would probably, like, steer you against doing that. I don't know what the sun looks like. I don't know how hot he is. Maybe if I saw a picture, I'd probably be on board with it or agree with you. But like, I would be careful with that. I get it's like hot and sneaky and like you're flying under the radar and it's like hot.

But you could get in some trouble with your boss. Is the dick really worth a missing paycheck? No, probably not. But I bet it's great sex. Do you ever want to be a mom? 100%. And actually recently I've been. looking into freezing my eggs because I am getting to that age.

It is scary to say, but like by the age of 30, I do want my eggs to be frozen in the freezer or whatever the fuck. I don't know how the process even works, honestly. Like, it looks like a scary, painful process. It looks like you're bloated and tender and puffy and bitchy. And I just am so scared. But I do want insurance on my body. Like, I do feel like I don't think I'm going to have kids by the age.

I don't like to predict that far. but like I as we're tracking now I probably won't have kids until I am in my mid 30s if that but if you freeze your eggs it gets you some extra time but yeah I do want to be mom I actually really love babies I'm one of four I want my kids have siblings but we're just we got to work out the man sperm donor part of that because sometimes I'm like if I don't find a man like I still want to have kids like I would probably get a sperm donor or maybe I'd like ask Grayden to like put a bag over my head or something but yeah I definitely want to be a mom at some point do you drive or Uber everywhere I Uber literally everywhere everywhere everywhere everywhere I love Uber I just think Uber's the most reliable

and also like I've talked with this we don't like to walk like I'm wearing heels yo like and they're high like and I've had a couple martini's you think I'm walking around Manhattan it's dark out and I'm cross-high like I'm gonna get hurt as the weather gets warmer, I am going to be making a more conscious effort to like walk places. I also think I need to be more careful about how I budget and Uber they add up but I do Uber everywhere and if I had a car in New York City I would be driving everywhere. Would you ever date Andrew? I mean maybe if he lived in New York or if I lived in wherever the fuck he lives is you live in San Diego or L.A.? I mean, I mean,

He works, he literally works at unwell. It could be a little bit of a conflict of interest, but, you know, maybe like next time in LA we'll get some drinks, margaritas. But he doesn't like to do that as we discussed on last week's episode of Extra Dirty. Like, I'm like, where do you like meet girls? And he was like, I just like walk up to them when we're hiking. I'm like, I don't know if we'd align in that way. I do think we're very different people.

Our ideas of like hobbies and fun seems to be a bit. off but we did have that fun flirty banter and he was a great kisser so who's to say but he does live miles thousands of miles across the United States for me rank ways that guys hit on you at bars asking for a friend the best way to hit on someone is to like hit on someone without even like showing you're hitting on them like just create good flowing casual conversation I feel like the tear underneath that would probably be funny, like being like, even if it's like kind of annoying humor, like just being like lighthearted and funny and giggly. And make it seem like as least creepy as possible. I feel like the worst way to hit on a girl at a bar is one, to either be super aggressive and to like not pick up on social cues.

Two, flexing money status, whatever the fuck that you think makes you important. I think that's kind of an icky way to fucking hit on someone. Three would probably be cheesy pickup lines. That's probably bad too. But anything aggressive or not picking up on the hint that it's making a girl uncomfortable or like thinking money is going to win them over, I feel like any of those options are kind of ass, to be honest. And I think probably in the middle of shitty in the best

would probably be like offering a girl a drink to buy them a drink. which I think is fine but like sometimes I will accept any guy to buy me a drink because I just have a thirst that needs to be quench but sometimes I just walk away I know that's bad but sometimes I do I'll be like thank you so much bye and then I kind of feel like a bitch but he offered like what am I just to say no that would be alcohol abuse. Nuances in relationships and cheating. I don't even know what the word

nuance means where I had to Google it. Hold on. Flirty DMs and texting an ex, micro cheating, seeking attention, validation secretly. Like emotional closeness without physical cheating. So I think the nuances to dating and cheating. I mean, it's very

dependent on the person, but if you're asking me, I do think there's a lot of gray area. And it, you know, I've been in relationships where maybe there was no physical cheating but there was emotional cheating or maybe there was liking Instagrams of a girl that we've argued about or maybe there's secret DMs or you know broken agreements or stuff like that where there's a lot of gray area also I feel like really flirtatious like party behavior when you're like seeing someone I don't know

It just depends on a lot of things. And a lot of these situations happen when I was like kind of an intense situation chips where the boundaries were already kind of blurred. But I don't know. I feel like cheating to me would be anything that you are trying to keep a secret. You know, or don't want the other person to know. Even if that's exchanging DMs that are pretty harmful. But like if you are trying to hide that,

I consider that kind of cheating. It's just deceptive and you're breaking trust right off the bat. But I mean, I'm so far out of this relationship game. Like, I don't even know what's considered, like, cheating these days. Like, some people consider, like, watching porn cheating. Like, I don't care about, like, a guy watching porn that sounds, that was probably the most pick-me sentence that is going to come out of my mouth all week. But some people, some girls do care about that.

I'm just not the type, but I also am the type to care about other things. Like the liking of an Instagram of a girl that like we've discussed before would piss me the fuck off. Like that would really piss me off. Or this isn't cheating, but like trying to force like, not force, but really bring up the idea of a threesome. Like that really used to grind my gears with this one particular guy. I've heard some girls tell me stories where like a guy just like wants to keep a dating app on his phone. just for fun. Like my ex-boyfriend did that.

I just remember some girl texted me or DM me and was like, hey, just let you know that like so-and-so's on Tinder. I just saw him like he's been on his account like probably this past week. And I was like, what the fuck? I asked that motherfucker about it. And this is what he says. Me and all my lacrosse buddies thought it be funny if we downloaded Tinder again and just swiped in the area.

I go, fuck you. Don't ever fucking do that shit again. Now I look like a dumb fooled whore. Or not a whore, sorry. A dumb fool. And you look like a whore. Also, what is funny for that? Like, get a fucking hobby.

Go for a walk just for fun. You want to swipe on Tinder just for fun? Give me a fucking break. This is another thing. If my man, my man, my man, were to get DMs from other girls. And they were flirty, but he wasn't even replying, but he saw them. I would still want him to show me. I think a man should always be able to give their partner their phone

without even breaking a sweat. Like, is that so crazy? I mean, it should be both ways, but I mean, girls are sketchy too. But I don't know if you're getting flirty DMs from, you know, Becky, Susan, and Jessica, and you're not telling me about it. I don't know. I also want to know to really keep my eye on. I always say this because no.

in this world where like people I just feel like girls want what like you have you know like if I were to date Greg or something was random name Greg and I posted Greg on my story and then me and Greg broke up just like I feel like Greg's value would already be higher so all these bitches would be going after Greg I would never post my man right now I wouldn't like if I have a boyfriend no one's ever going to know about him. Like, whenever I post a guy in my story and I'm always like, oh my God, my man, like that is not my man. And you should know that.

I would never do that. Like, I'm never going to be posting my boyfriend on my story. And honestly, that's a telltale sign that I don't like someone is if I do post them on my story because I'm like, sure, have Adam. He's up for grabs. That's kind of how I look at it. I don't know if that's fucked up or not, but that's kind of how I look at it. Okay, let's go the next question.

never had sex ed. Where can I learn? I feel so uncomfortable. Oh, darling. Probably not for me. I went to an all-girls Catholic school, so our sexual education was pretty limited. Yeah, maybe you talk to your friends,

and also Google is free. I'm sure there's some great resources out there. But if you are trying to learn anything, I'm not a sexual educator. Honestly, there's definitely people out there that know what they're talking about. Do you believe in soulmates? I do.

I believe there's multiple soulmates for different people. I think some people just like have real chemistry. Like I have platonic soulmates. Like Graydon, like that's my man. Our souls just feel like one. He's like my twin flame. I haven't lost faith in love just because I'm like aging. I just feel like

there's a right person out there for everyone. And it sounds cheesy, but I truly believe that. That going out and drinking is okay past 25. I don't know why people think like they die when they turn 25 or something. Like I'm getting a lot of that too being like, I'll be out partying with my bitches and I'll get comments and DMs being like, I can't believe you're almost 30 in acting like this. Like do people just die when like or not allowed to have fun when they're like reaching a certain,

age. Like, I want to be fucking partying until my teeth fall out of my head. Until, like, every hair on top of my head is gone, which might be at the age of 40 at this rate. But, like, you can have fun at any age. I don't believe in, like, don't Monday, my Sunday. That is such a vibe killer. Like, you can have fun at any age. I don't know who's telling you that, but drop them. Drop them immediately. I mean, yes, there's a certain, like, as long as you get your work ton and you're getting that fucking bag and you're not hurting anyone and you're not really hurting yourself go out have a fun time drink a margarita meet cute boys kiss rich men you only live once and then you're fucking dead in the ground and you don't have regret

you don't want your ghosts to have regrets on this earth so just fucking rip it okay you're not going to find any dick staying inside. I will say that. And I always say that to remind myself to go out. I'll be laying on my couch, marinating, wanting real housewives of Rhode Island. And I'll be like, I'm not going to find any fucking dick here. I need to get outside. Sorry, I felt really passionate about that. Dating athletes, your thoughts on that. I mean, I've, you know, blessed a ton of athletes like in my day i mean they're probably not they're not great athletes i would say they're tiered you know definitely bench riders but i always say if they're riding the bench they can also be riding me it's those top tier athletes that like can't fuck as much because they're busy like

doing like you know sporty things on the field so honestly it's a loophole just fuck the bench rider and he'll have like a more open schedule to hang out with you. I've done a couple athletes, but honestly athletes are really fucking suss. But at the end of the day, so am I. So I guess potato, potato. The art of not giving a fuck, I mean, I stopped giving a fuck so long ago. I mean, people asking this all the time because I am an influencer and I put my life out there. And I share my insecurities, my vulnerabilities.

You know, and I am a type of creator where I, it's all very raw. honest and real. I highlight my highs, I highlight my lows, and I'm very self-deprecating, and sometimes I'm an obnoxious cunt. But at the end of the day, like, who gives a fuck what other people think about you? I don't care. Like, as long as, like, I'm being a good friend to the people that I love, I'm being a good family member, sibling, daughter, granddaughter, and I'm, you know, I have my ducks in a row, then everyone else can fuck the fuck off if they have an opinion about me okay i've never gotten insulted by someone i want to trade places with and i get insulted all the fucking time but that's part of the gig here

i feel like that's the price you pay for putting your shit out there and if you can get that mentality and get over just the public perception then like i think you'll have a successful career and yapping to the public i don't know like i don't say anything that, like, crazy. But, yeah, people definitely hate me, and that's okay. I sleep very well at night. Would you ever move to Cali? No.

Absolutely not. Single Summer in New York City thoughts. I mean, single summer in New York City, I've never done. I'll be out at the Hamptons or Nantucket, babe. But I will say spring is the prime time. That's when people are starting to do summer. Fridays, rooftops, outdoor seating, having an apparel spritz, a Hugo Spritz, maybe a Guinness, a beer, the vibes are up, the drinks are flowing, Thursdays are back.

And just like the energy outside is just a little bit more vibrant and less dull than our bullshit winter that we just had. My advice on a New York City single summer is to happy hour as much as you possibly can hang out in the West Village, Soho, rooftops, Lower East Side, Tribeca. Like there's so many good outdoor seating spots and just be open to meeting new people and smile more. That's something I also need to work on is smiling more after my stint in reality TV when everyone thought I was a cunt.

Like I do kind of sit there like this sometimes. But yeah, single summer, be safe, be smart, be cute, and smile. Blow job techniques, just choke on that shit. That's like literally all I'll say, and use your hands. I thought we'd do a little bit of Am I the Asshole and hear from you guys instead of talking about me so much. I've been yapping about myself this whole episode, but honestly, it kind of felt like therapy, like a little therapy session. I got all off my chest and, you know, sometimes you just got to do that.

All right, am I the asshole? Number one, I tried to set my girl up with a good friend of my fiancee and I's. Things seem to have went well, but I'm kind of feeling like I shouldn't have because they are in very different places in life. And she has an SDD that I forgot about. Oh, fuck. And had to tell him, and now I'm kind of stepping back. Am I the asshole for I starting something or should I just let them? Well, you know, you can't control if a P goes in the V.

Like, even though you set them up, like, she can get rid of an STD. Like, that's just like a couple tick-tacks and you're fucking good to go. But, like, all she needs is an antibiotic. Like, that's her body, her problem. If she knows she has an STD, it's on her to not sleep with this man that you set her up with, to get tested, to get it cleared, and make sure it's gone before sleeping with him. Like, she can't, like, you can't control that. I mean, it is kind of weird spot to be put in because now, like, does he know that she is an STD?

And you have that information. And he's also your friend, but you don't want to betray the girlfriend, girl code. But at the end of the day, like, I would just have your fiancé tell the friend and just be like, this hands off. That's what I would do. I would just loop yourself out of it as much as possible. Have your fiance do all the dirty work. tell the friend that she has an SDD and then keep fucking pushing

and then send her to urgent care immediately. Kidnap her and bring her to urgent care. Anyways, but no, I don't think you're an asshole. I feel like you're just in a shitty situation. You were trying to be like a good friend and set up your girl with a hot guy but she just happened to be SDG-ridden. So now you're just at a sticky situation.

No pun intended. Okay, next. I'm in nursing school and I'm leaving my restaurant job in August. Am I an asshole if I stop caring as much? Like, stop caring as much at work? I mean, no. That's literally just being a human being. Like, I was a fucking hostess.

You think I gave a shit about being there every day? No, absolutely not. I think everyone should be in the hospitality business because you learn how to deal with very difficult people, especially in Nantucket, a lot of rich fucking assholes you have to deal with. But, no, I mean, if you have another job lined up that you're excited about, you're already emotionally checked out of this current job that you have that probably isn't paying you that well. So yeah, I don't think you're human.

Like, I don't think you're an asshole for not giving a fuck as much. I mean, like, how much can you really fuck up at a restaurant job besides, you know, a meal? If I'm taking space from a friend who recently texts me saying I need to stop going out, am I the asshole? I would take space too. I mean, what is she your mom? I think she's the fucking asshole in the situation. Let's be real. You're an adult.

You're 25 or whatever, 26. No one should be policing what you do. As long as you're not being destructive to yourself or other people. Like, if you want to go out, you can go out, babe. She's trying to Monday or Sunday. She's trying to ruin your vibe. I hate people that do this, that try to, like, put their two cents in as if they're, like, wiser than me. Which is like, fuck, maybe they are.

but I can do whatever the hell I want any day I want, and it's no one's business but mine. So she should like maybe live a little and start focusing on herself instead of, you know, what you're up to in the evenings. Oh, that would piss me off. I would take space from her. I would take a lot of space from her.

I would probably block her a number. Like, that's just a vibe killer. What's the deal with that? I forgot about my friends because I got into. a relationship. Yeah, I would probably say you're a bit of an asshole, but I get it. Sometimes when you are, especially if you're in like the honeymoon phase of things and things are so new and exciting, you just like want to be around that person like 24-7, yeah, I can see how like you get caught up in that. But I'm assuming you're young and I'm assuming your friends are probably calling you out

on it, I would just try to meet them halfway or try to figure out a setting where like you can all hang out together. You know, like I hang out my friends, fiancés and boyfriends all the time with them there obviously. But like all the time and we're just like one big friend group and that's the way it should be. Like they should get to know each other so you can just bring them around more. But yeah, I would remember your friends. Maybe shoot them in text if you're seeing this. Maybe just like, hey, miss you love you. Make dinner plans. Make your friends feel like they're also still a priority in your life and not like, you know, last week's news because you have a new man. But that would just be my advice.

This guy really likes me and is really hot, but like because he likes me, I don't want him. Girl, me and you both. I don't know what's good with me. I feel like this is some sort of mental illness or something because I get really icked out by guys showing a lot of interest in me. And I don't know if that's something wrong with my wiring or if it's immaturity or if the guy's actually generally just like coming on too like too strong because that can be a lot of the case like a lot of times guys just to like pump the brakes you like it's too much. It's like you want a little mystery, especially at the beginning phases. It helps you figure out if you're like really interested in someone or not.

Because if a guy is just giving everything to you and like the most of him and all this information like what questions do you have. left to ask him. Like, it's just too much and overwhelming. Especially for someone like me and you who maybe like gets a bit overstimulated with that kind of stuff, it can just be all too much at once. So I don't think you're the asshole. I think you're just a girl in this big, big world. My friend only texts me when she needs things, so I just stop answering. Am I the asshole? No, your friend's a fucking asshole. Because, like, you're a fucking asshole. Because, like, Like what? What are you a fucking dictionary? I hate friends like this because it's just so transparent.

It's like, bitch, I can see fucking through you. Like, that's not how a friend should be valued as a Google machine. Or as like a service. Like, I don't know. I just don't. Your friend sounds like a user. I had friends like that back in the day, but like they kind of weed themselves out eventually. Once your frontal lobe starts to develop and they find other people that they need things

from dependent on that phase of life that they're in. So they'll probably end up weeding themselves out, but I get it. That's a shitty scenario to be in. My best friend truly picks the worst men, so I never say anything nice about them to her. Am I the asshole? I mean, you're just being honest. I mean, she's probably going to think you're an asshole because you're talking shit about, you know, the dick that she's blessing.

But, I mean, I don't know. I would have to really know these people to understand the situation. Because sometimes people also get jealous when their best girlfriend goes off with another guy. And they get jealous. So they just start talking shit about that guy. I feel like that's also pretty common. So I don't know exactly how to answer this one. But if she actually is truly picking the worst fucking man possible and you're just saying how it is,

no, you're not an asshole. And she needs to stop banging assholes. Okay, I went on the first date and had sex with him with another man's hickie on my neck. No, I mean, this happened to me recently, but it was a lot worse of a situation. I was hooking up with someone. We didn't have sex, but we were definitely, like, doing shit at my apartment. And he had to go because of something. So I invited another guy over after he left.

I was like, bye. I was like, you can come over now. I kind of felt bad about it but I didn't because I ended up like blacking in I was pretty drunk at that point I blacked in I was like yo like this second guy needs to go like I'm gonna have the worst scary tomorrow if I go through with any of this and he was also kind of chopped so like I was like this is not it

but no this is just like shit that happens sometimes I mean I was on a first day and had sex with him and another man's hickey on my neck like that's what foundation coverups for So just get some like nice like tart cover up and just like really soak it in on your neck. Also like hickies are crazy this day and age. I also love hickies. I get it. But I mean, who is, you know, claiming.

Like that's like a real like I claim you. It's like kind of like peeing on it. It's like a dog peeing on you in a way. So I feel like guys. do that on purpose sometimes just so you don't go out and get with other people but I guess not us it seems like that theory didn't work well anyways guys this is such a fun solo episode I do love sitting here and I feel like I'm going to mix more these solo episodes in as well as having more guests on I would love to know from you guys what guests you would like to see on the show

you can just like leave that in the comment section or DM me or anything I tend to read everything. So just let me know. But I definitely love doing these solo sessions just because I feel like it gives me a chance to like connect with you guys and hear what you have to say. I love the, Am I the asshole segments? I love answering your guys these questions. And it just feels like kind of like girl chat. And I love that. So anyways, I will see you all next week. As always, you can watch on YouTube and listen to me on any other platform. And I love you guys so much and kisses and have the best weekend ever. Bye.