Financial Feminist - 214. A Job Hunting Pep Talk for Women with Malia Razzaia (Dress for Success)

Episode Date: February 13, 2025

Job searching is never easy, but for women, the challenges can be even greater—lowball salary offers, confidence gaps, and workplaces still steeped in outdated norms. That’s why I brought on today’s guest, Malia Razzaia, Executive Director of Dress For Success Seattle, to break it all down. Malia has spent years helping women navigate career transitions, salary negotiations, and the systemic barriers that still hold us back. In this episode, we dive into the biggest mistakes women make when job hunting, how to confidently advocate for yourself, and why financial independence isn’t about luxury—it’s about having the power to make choices. Whether you’re actively job searching or just want to future-proof your career, this conversation is full of game-changing advice. Malia’s Links: Dress for Success website: dfsseattle.org Find your local Dress For Success chapter: dressforsuccess.org Read transcripts, learn more about our guests and sponsors, and get more resources at https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/214-a-job-hunting-pep-talk-for-women-with-malia-razzaia-dress-for-success/ Not sure where to start on your financial journey? Take our FREE money personality quiz! https://herfirst100k.com/quiz Looking for accountability, live coaching, and deeper financial education? Check out our exclusive community, The $100k Club: http://herfirst100k.com/100K-pod Special thanks to our sponsors: Squarespace Go to www.squarespace.com/FFPOD to save 10% off your first website or domain purchase. Rocket Money Stop wasting money on things you don’t use. Cancel your unwanted subscriptions by going to RocketMoney.com/FFPOD. Quince Get cozy in Quince's high-quality wardrobe essentials. Go to Quince.com/FFPOD for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Netsuite Download the CFO’s Guide to AI and Machine Learning at NetSuite.com/FFPOD. Indeed Hiring? Indeed is all you need. Get a $75 sponsored job credit to get your jobs more visibility at www.indeed.com/ffpod. Gusto Run your first payroll with Gusto and get three months free at gusto.com/ffpod. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The job market is brutal right now, and sometimes you just need a pep talk to remind yourself how badass you are. This is that episode. Hi, financial feminists. Welcome back to the show. I am so excited to see you as always. Thank you for being here. My name is Tori. I fight the patriarchy by making you rich. You can subscribe wherever you're listening right now to make sure you don't miss an episode. And if you're wondering where to get started on your financial journey, you can go to herfirsthundredk.com slash quiz to get a free personalized money plan. We brought on today's guests to talk about the current job market, job trends, and advocating for yourself.

But we also really want to highlight organizations like Dress for Success that she works for because more than ever in the coming years, we are going to need to support local community-focused organizations who are working on the ground with individuals. It is more important than ever that we get money, education, and support directly to people who need it.

And this is just one fantastic organization to support. So if you have either the finances to give to your favorite nonprofit, your local arts organization, or people running for office, please do. I consistently talk about how money equals freedom and power. And when we use our finances for good, we all win. And if you can't afford to financially donate right now,

maybe consider volunteering. There are so many organizations who are looking for people who have special skillsets that you might have, whether that's teaching women to build a stronger resume or to sort food at a food bank or to usher at your local community theater. And today's guest is proof that this kind of work is so important.

Malia Rosaya serves as the executive director of Dress for Success Seattle, an organization committed to supporting women on their journey towards sustainable economic independence. She also serves as the commissioner for the Washington State Women's Commission. With a career spanning several decades, Malia has dedicated herself to supporting women

and the men who stand by them across various sectors. Her expertise lies in strategic and leadership growth, both for individuals and organizations. We get into Malia's work at Dress for Success Seattle and why she's so passionate about helping women succeed in the workforce, her tips and tricks she gives her own team on how to successfully negotiate pay rises and advocate for promotions, and the startling statistics about the workforce when we don't prioritize women.

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adorable. Hello. And then she hears my voice and she keeps looking at me and I'm like, me? Mwah. Hello. She is a 19 pound mini golden doodle. She is the love of my life. I would love if you could tell me who you are, what you do and why your work is so important. My name is Malia Rezaia. I am the executive director at Dress for Success Seattle. I also serve as a commissioner for the Washington State Women's Commission, which means that my life pretty much revolves around supporting women on their path towards health, safety, and economic independence. The work we do at Dress, I think particularly there's this idea, if you talk to

your mom or your grandma, they'll talk a little bit about the clothing. Oh, so that's the organization that gives women professional clothing. But we are actually a robust workforce development organization, right? We strive to support women in this lifelong learning model, to find that path towards sustainable economic independence, which falls very neatly into the work that you do, right? As a financial feminist, I don't have to tell you, right, that when women are financially and economically independent, it is freedom, it is choice, it is the opportunity to live your life in an authentic way.

It is an opportunity to support yourself, your family. And I think that's why the work that we do is so incredibly vital. And it's why I've really dedicated my life to it. You talked to us before we got on mic, when we were preparing for the interview, about money trauma and how that showed up for you. And I also imagine that shows up for so many women who come through Dress for Success. So can we talk a little bit about money trauma in general

for women, but specifically maybe your story and some of the stories that you've seen? Yeah, absolutely. You know, it's funny, I obviously listened to your book. Thank you. I appreciate it. You talked about the support you had from your family and all of that. And in some ways, you and I are very similar.

We're, you know, white women who grew up in middle-class families and had, you know, a dad who worked really hard, and we had a mom who also worked really hard in the home. What I didn't have was the same financial kind of transparency that I heard in your book. The conversation.

And those conversations, there were conversations around, you don't want to be in debt, you don't want to do this, you don't wanna be in debt, you don't wanna do this, you don't wanna do that. But there weren't conversations around how to do those things. When I hit adulthood, I didn't truly understand how credit cards worked. I didn't understand them. And I got influenced by a friend who was very much,

it just put it on a credit card, right? Just put it on a credit card. right? Just put it on a credit card. I tried to live the same lifestyle I grew up with, middle-class lifestyle, right? The upper middle-class lifestyle, realistically. But I was in my 20s, making $27,000 a year, right? I don't know who I thought I was, but I do know that I just I didn't quite understand. And also growing up, salaries were a secret in my family. I was never allowed to know how much my parents made, right?

It was one of those things that I was never able to connect salary with like credit cards or payments or to me, it was always well, as long as I can make the payment, I'm fine. I'm financially stable. And so by the time I was in my mid 20s, I had racked up $35,000 in credit card debt because I had no idea. In your book you talk about shame. I am not someone who feels a lot of shame or guilt.

It's just not kind of in my MO. But man, did I have a lot of shame around that. That is one of the very strong experiences in my life. But man, did I have a lot of shame around that. That is one of the very strong experiences in my life where I experienced shame. I didn't want people to know. And by the time I was in my mid thirties, I had dug myself out of it. I was proud of myself and then I would talk about it, right? But getting out of it was hard and it took over a decade. And I will be honest, even now, I still make huge mistakes, even now, because I didn't learn the lessons, right?

That is a huge part of the work that I do, that we do. I don't want women, particularly young women, to go through what I went through. It was really difficult, right? I moved overseas in my late 20s, knowing that that would help me pay my debt, it still took me almost a decade to do.

And even within that, I'm living overseas with $1,500 a month in credit card bills that I had to pay. It was crazy. I didn't have the freedoms that my colleagues had that were living over there that were investing in savings. I don't have a retirement account that I should, right?

Because I was busy paying off the decisions that I made early in my life. I take responsibility, they were my decisions. But on the flip side of that, those decisions came out of a lack of education and understanding. It's so vitally important to me that if I can support even one woman in not making the same decisions that I did because she has the education. That's so powerful to me. That's exactly how I feel as well. Congratulations on paying off that amount of debt.

That's a huge accomplishment. I know people are going to be mad if I don't ask you. In addition to moving overseas, what sort of strategies, what did that look like in paying off that amount of debt? Tips, tricks, what did you use at your disposal to do that? Honestly, I don't know other than to say anytime I got a big chunk of money, right? So living overseas, you often get paid differently than you do in the US on a monthly or bi-monthly basis.

Anytime I got a big chunk of money, I threw it at my debt. Obviously when I was living overseas, I wasn't using my credit cards anymore. And so that helped pay down a lot of that debt. I had a very large personal loan that I had tried to consolidate my debt. Instead, I just ended up with a large personal loan and more debt. I was able to pay that off because it didn't continue to grow right in the way that credit cards do. That was my strategy, but it reeks of privilege. It reeks of the opportunity, the education that I had to be able to move overseas and work in an environment that provided me with all of my living costs so that the majority of my salary was expendable enough that I

could pay off that debt. If I'm being totally honest, my husband and I do have a significant amount of debt again. Now it's medical debt because I got very, very, very sick for a couple of years from 20 to 22. There is this cycle that's perpetuated in the US that is really hard to break out of even for those of us That are in positions that in theory we we should be able to right and it is Frustrating. I mean, it's what we talk about all the time. It's the lack of education Yeah, it's the sexism and the racism and the homophobia and all of the things

That you know impact not only our ability to make money, but the narratives that either we're getting told or that we end up internalizing about money. But it's also all the policies, right? We actually just were recording this, I think a day or two after it's now been decided that medical debt is not going to count towards your credit score. And it's like, well, that should have happened a while ago. Like, it's just these things. It never should have been there in the first place. Totally.

And universal health care would have prevented health care from being a personal issue rather than a systemic issue. So all of these things remind me time and time again, just like you said up top, is money equals options. And it's also, unfortunately, the barrier that keeps a lot of women from being able to succeed. So in the work that you do at Dress for Success, can we talk about specifically like what that work is? You mentioned it's not just, you know, a great outfit for an interview.

It's really supporting, you know, a woman's holistic journey. So let's talk about that and also maybe how money plays into that too of when they have money, what, what, how does their life change? So it's interesting that you mentioned that, right? Because we've had a lot of conversations as of late, I think when I came into the organization, I really started adding the word sustainable to what we were doing. I don't want the conversation to be about supporting women on their path towards economic independence, if we're not going to talk about how to do so sustainably. Because ultimately that's where real change comes. If we are going to sit here and talk about

supporting women to get the job or negotiate the salary or any of the things that lead to women's economic independence, what we really need to be talking about is skills. The skills to be able to repeat the process where necessary in order to continue to grow their career across the board. When you get that job, that suddenly your income is six times higher than it was, how do you have the education, right? We talked about the education before and the skills now in order to make the decisions that lend themselves to that sustainable success. So

the work that we do at dress is kind of like I said, imagine a three-pronged stool. We have financial education, we have career support services that include that clothing component that we talked about. And then we have the digital literacy component. And this is where the unique design of Dress for Success worldwide comes in, right? So I think right now there's a hundred and thirty five affiliates in twenty something countries. And each location is unique to the geographical region that they serve, which is a really cool model. So there's this concept of this global mission to support women on their path towards economic independence.

And in Seattle we say sustainably so, right? But the hyperlocal focus to actually move the needle, right? And so that is where we have an opportunity to look at what is it that women in Seattle need? What are they asking for? And that's where for us, there's this digital literacy component that we've added to the financial education and the career support services. One of our digital literacy partners is Priscolas. It's an incredible organization that provides tech training. We're doing that through workshops on everything from providing computers and the training and the model for how to get that up and running to women, to making sure that they have their own computer. Workshops on how to cope with the anxiety of the job search. We're just about to launch our first ever certificate program

in partnership with Harbor Bridge, which is an amazing leadership and HR organization that is launching that with us, right? We're creating lifelong learners. We are creating a community, a safe space for women. We need that holistic approach to create that sustainable path towards equity, financial equity. And without it, we continue to be number two in the entire United States, as in the second

worst for pay parity across the United States. Washington only edges out Utah. That's it for pay parity. And we will stay there until we recognize the importance of this holistic approach to supporting women as they mark their place in sustainable economic independence. Yeah. One of the things that we really wanted to chat with you about because you have so much expertise in this is job hunting, finding a job, making that something that, you know, feels like a, I don't know, job hunting is just so hard, makes it feel like a doable practice.

So can we start with some of the pitfalls that you see or the biggest challenges right now for women who are job hunting? I think particularly in Washington, with the tech industry, the dichotomy between the financial support that women receive, one of the biggest things that we see is that when women apply for a position, this great new law in Washington where you have to put the salary

on a job description. But one of the biggest issues we're seeing is that to get around things, employers are putting this huge range, which in of itself is a problem with equity, right, and pay parity. But then what's happening is that women are being brought in at the low end of that range. And this is within the tech industry, but I think this is across the board in the world, right? Well, and any state too, I think there's,

I think we're at 25 states maybe who are requiring to have salary ranges in the job description. But to your point, we're seeing 50 to $100,000 ranges. And I don't know how much then. That's insane. That's a $50,000 range. I looked at a position at Microsoft that had an over $175,000 range on it. And I was like, this is not a salary indicator.

This defeats the purpose of the law. And so I think that's one of the biggest challenges we're seeing. Study after study after study shows that women are ill equipped to negotiate for salaries, right? We were not as women provided the education or knowledge on how to negotiate for our salaries and then couple that with how we as

women are socialized throughout our growing up years that we're not even supposed to ask for those things. And when you couple those two things together, you see women coming on at the bottom of the salary ranges. And to me, that's a travesty, it's atrocious, right? It is a misogynistic society steeped in white supremacy that is leaning into the behaviors that we have socialized people to believe are acceptable.

That is one of the biggest things I think holding women back right now. The UN's office of, I can never remember, it's like the OIC I think. They found that if women were to have just the opportunity to participate in the workforce at the same rate as men, it would put $28 trillion back into the global economy. Do you know what else is $28 trillion? Our national debt. We are literally holding ourselves back at the rate of our national debt

simply because we are so stuck in these misogynistic white supremacy ideals around what work is and what professionalism is. And so anytime somebody comes to me with traditional values that women belong in the home and that women aren't equal and all of these things that we're seeing in today's political world. I'm like, but I thought you liked money. You're literally holding yourself back by the equivalent of our national debt. Well, that's how you always know it's control because we've had that same conversation with abortion is the perfect example, right? Abortion is a financial issue and people don't want to talk about it like it is. Oh, 100%.

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The very same people who are voting for the quote economy or who are, you know, supporting American jobs. I'm like, okay, so if you want to support the American economy, you should not be forcing people to have children that they don't want and cannot financially afford. So it's the same thing. It's not really a financial issue because if it was, that would not be where their support lie. It's not just control, it's power too. Right. Right. For me, that's synonymous. It's controlling women's bodies and the power of that,

or controlling the money or the resources. Controlling women's place in the workforce, right? It's a fear of a loss of power and control. So you're right, they are synonymous. But I also think there's value in identifying them both separately too. I agree. Because I think that you have men who feel powerful that want control, and then you have men who desperately want control because they don't feel powerful. And then you have women who fall within those lines as well, who have been caught in this

social conditioning that they have to step on other women in order to be successful. The most unsupported of us is where we all are. So we have to lift each other up together because otherwise it doesn't matter how many people get to the top. Whoever's at the bottom is really where we're at. One of the things that we at Dress do to really try and support women with this particular challenge is that we provide one-on-one coaching. One of the amazing things, I don't know, Tori, I'm sure, have you looked into coaching, career coaching? It's insanely expensive. It's like very expensive. It can

be up to $300 an hour, especially for good career coaches. There's a lot of there's a lot of scams out there. But yes, good career coaching. Yeah, I think 300 is honestly sometimes at the base. I was just gonna say that's the base for that's the low. And it's funny because we look at this where women are. Women are the disproportionate number of career coaches, right? It is an industry where we dominate. And so there's this weird dichotomy of as women, we are coming into this new world where we are asking for what we're worth. And that is amazing and beautiful and wonderful

and I support it. And that unfortunately also directly impacts women who are unable to, because of the exact things that hold us back. The exact reasons why women are now asking for what they're worth are the exact things that are holding other women back from being able to afford that kind of support.

DFSS, Dress for Success Seattle, we are serving as a bridge to support women on their path towards finding that support so that they can get to a point where they can support women who are doing this for a living and have that ability to pay women that value that they provide. So we provide that initial career coaching for no cost.

You can do it for as long as you need. We're actually just in the process, we just launched our coaching council and they're in the process of revamping the entire program. I'm really excited about it to make sure that we are serving in an authentic way so that when it comes time to negotiate for that salary, when it comes time to hold your ground, when it comes time to make sure that you're putting the right things in your resume or your cover letter, when it comes time to have that interview that you have been coached now. It's not just you trying to wing it, going in and figuring it out, but you have the power of other successful women behind you

as you walk into those situations. That's one of the big trends we're seeing and the work that we're doing to try and combat that. I think some of the other things that we see is, again, as women have been socialized to downplay their strengths and their successes and their leadership. We are working with programs that we're hosting,

like crafting your elevator pitch. How do you talk about yourself? We're supporting women on making sure that they have the skills that they need, both technologically, financially, and professionally. I particularly am a huge proponent of, as we talk about what is professionalism,

this is another huge trend we're seeing that's impacting women as they're searching for jobs. Because the reality is, is that as women have increased our numbers in the professional world, across the board, regardless of the position, we've been asked to do it as men do. We've not come into this world as women. We've come into this world as women entering a man's world. And that continues to hold us back in a really significant way. And so one of the things that we at Dress for Success Seattle are particularly passionate about is what is professionalism, right? When you look at the reality of what we call professional now, it is a white centric male

model. It is steeped in white supremacy from all the way back to when this country was founded. I don't know if you've heard of Leila Assad's Me and White Supremacy, but that book was life-changing for me. I think what I really took out of that is what we present as professional in this world, in this culture, and not just here in the US, but living overseas,

everyone's kind of adopted our model of professionalism, right? English is the language of business. Suits are what everybody wears. Office buildings are what everyone has created. So we are really working to turn the head on what is professionalism and support women. How can you show up to an interview? How can you show up to a job and really be authentically yourself and bring your spark and your culture and who you are into that and show them that you can still be successful.

Those are some of the trends. As far as like industry and work, I mean, obviously the medical industry is not going anywhere. We have some great partnerships. I tell women all the time, if you're interested, healthcare administration is just going to continue to grow. We're just now forging a partnership with a subgroup of another group that's Women's Healthcare Executive Network, because that is an industry that's going to continue to grow. Tech is going gonna continue to grow. Tech is gonna continue to grow.

The banking industry is shifting and changing, but it will continue to grow. And so we are working with some really incredible partners to get women placed into positions that are supporting some of these industries, that that's where the money is going to be. And at the same time, then it's on us to really support also educating women that as they

enter into this position, how do they ask for what they deserve, right? Which is pay equity, not just by their paycheck, but also their opportunities, their growth, their leadership, their ability to take care of their families. Don't even get me started on the care economy and the impact that that has on women. You were mentioning, you know, job hunting as resumes and cover letters. What advice right now are you giving to job seekers to stand out in, you know, those kind of written materials before you even land to the interview? It totally depends on the job. It totally depends on the work, the industry.

I think the number one piece of advice across the board though is be authentic. Don't downplay yourself, right? Own your wins and put them in your resume, put them in your cover letter, right? I think as women, we're socialized to downplay ourselves, right? And so that's the number one piece of advice is as you're creating those resumes and those cover letters, do not question whether it was your success or not. Even if there were other people

that were a part of that success, at the end of the day, it was still yours. And I coach my team on this all the time. Every year when we do our annual reviews, I coach them and I say, okay, look at your successes from this last year, own them. And then I want you to tell me how do you quantify them? How do you put numbers behind them so that you can add a bullet to your resume? Build your resume while you're working. Right? So that is the other advice I think we would give women is one, build your resume while

you're working, right? Do not wait until you need to look for a new job in order to start adding things to your resume because you inevitably forget things. You forget those successes. Keep a list of all of the things that you have done successfully in your life, in your career. If you are a woman who's looking to re-enter the workforce, then look at the places you volunteered. Look at the work you've done within the home. Look at all of those components, right? Keep a list of those. And then my biggest piece of advice is quantify them.

So a great example is, let's say you have been a stay at home mom for the last 10 years and you're ready to reenter the workforce. And as a stay at home mom, you took over the finances from your husband, right? Because you wanted to make sure

that you could manage the household effectively. And you were able to decrease your bills by 10% and you were able to increase your activity output by 20%, right? These are real numbers. Do not dismiss the work that you have done both in and outside of the home on a resume, right? I can help you write a great bullet that something along the lines of increased, you know, increased operational efficiency by 10%. Right? These are facts you have accomplished. Put that in your resume, right? Don't just say, took a break to be a stay at home mom and leave it at that. You have accomplished things. A stay at home mom's annual salary is something like a hundred and, I'm probably going to get the statistic

wrong, but. $75,000. $175,000. I thought it was $80,000. Oh yeah, pretty close. Yeah, it's somewhere around there. It's a manager level position. It is work included. And the same thing if you are working outside the home. Every time you have something that happens, how can I quantify this? How do I make this show that I provided a return on investment to this organization and that I can do it for you too. Right. That is the three pieces of advice that I think we're really seeing across the board. Again, so it's don't downplay yourself. Make sure that you're owning your work

and your successes. Make sure you're quantifying those successes, putting numbers where you can. And I'll be the one to argue, you can put numbers pretty much anywhere. And I will put it out there. If you're not sure how to put numbers to it, reach out to Dress for Success Seattle. I will help you put numbers to it. That third one, keep a running list.

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We were talking about money trauma before. How do you see this show up for the women you work with when they're out on job interviews or when they're negotiating their salaries? And if someone's listening and experiencing that themselves, what are the strategies they can use to kind of move through that trauma and be able to advocate for themselves effectively? I hate to say this, but it is really how we have grown up, what we have been taught. There is this absolutely deeply ingrained trauma that we as women have that we are not allowed to ask for what we are worth. And so I cannot tell you the number of times that I have seen women, whether they be my friends, our clients, whomever, they go into an interview and they're like, yeah, I have

this, I got this, I can do this. And I'm going to ask for this much and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then they get in there and that trauma takes hold. And now all of a sudden they're terrified that they're not going to get the job. And so now they don't fight for what they went in ready to fight for. And the first thing that I want to say is you're not alone. The second thing I want to say is not that it's not your fault, but don't beat yourself up over it. You have been set up to fail by the system.

And to fight against that is incredibly exhausting and difficult and overwhelming. And so when you get into a situation where now you have to fight against it, sometimes it's just too much. So my advice, my feedback, if you feel yourself starting to have that trauma take over and you starting to waver and waffle, right? Take a deep breath. Breathe. Also remember, it's okay to ask for time.

I think that's the number one thing is that there's this pressure and women in particular, we feel like we have to answer. We're not allowed to ask for what we want. So we don't ask for time. I tell women all the time and I tell my team this, do not accept an offer the minute that it comes to you. Do not. Even if it's a fantastic offer, by the way, even if it's more money than you could have dreamed, you have to take time.

One because you need to think it over. You need to be able to process it. From a physiological standpoint, you need your brain to sit with it for a second. You also need to go home and do some research and make sure that's a market rate. You need to make sure that, you know, how is my personal finance is going to make sense with this number, but also you need to probably prepare

to ask for more money. And then the final thing, and I'm probably taking the words out of your mouth. I'm sorry, I just got excited. The other thing too is that you need to, when you ask for time, you control the situation then. You can say, hey, you know what? I need a day. I'll get back to you tomorrow. Does that work? Like you get to slow down and you get to call the shots. And so it sets up your negotiation. Again, psychologically, it makes you feel more powerful because you're setting terms then.

Mm-hmm. Yeah. 100%. I think you used a really important point there, control. It puts you back in the driver's seat, right? If nothing else is where the power comes from, right? The reality is, you're going to see all over our website, because it's some older verbiage, where we talk about how we empower women. And I've really come in and I've said, no, empowerment is something you do yourself. What we do is support women to stand in their own power, right? And I know that when I heard that in your book, Tori, I was like, yes, this is what I've been saying. Right. I was so excited because the reality is, is that that is what I'm going to say is

stand in your power, take control of the situation. And I know that I'm sure there are a ton of women that are listening right now that are like, oh, no, I can't do that. And I'm going to tell you, yes, you can. If by no other means, just taking a deep breath and not answering right away. Fight the urge, fight the compulsion to give an immediate answer. You don't have to ask for a day, ask for some time, do the research. And then the other thing is, and I know that this comes from a place of privilege and I want to acknowledge that, but I want to also acknowledge if they're not going to pay you your worth, if they're not going to give you the time in the interview,

what do you think is going to happen when you work there? Is that really an organization that you want to work for. And where the privilege comes in here is that I know that there are a lot of women in situations and in places where they cannot turn down a job, right? They need the income. But that's where I would say that's where you start keeping your list and you're updating your resume. Every day you're writing down the new success you had that day. Every day you are taking the time to make sure that you're preparing yourself for the next job so that you can negotiate your worth and you can work for an organization that values you and that is going to put the time, the effort and the belief into you and give you the flexibility that you need to be the woman that you need to be in a workforce, right? Not the person, the woman that you need to be.

And this harkens back to what I said earlier, we've been taught to come into the workforce as men. And I'm tired of it. We are women who experience, because of how society is set up, we are women who experience different needs, different requirements, until society does a major flip, that's not gonna change, right? And so we need the flexibility in the work environment that's going to address that.

If you are in a position where you have to take a job that's not going to honor you as a woman in the workforce, that's okay. But it also means that now you have an opportunity to use that job as a stepping stone to find the job that will honor you as a woman in the workforce. When we're talking about people listening

who are not only looking for jobs, but trying to support the kind of equitable workplaces that we want to see, what are some specific things that we can do to make sure that we are supporting and hiring people who are really great and need work and who are, you know, like how do we show up not just on the the job searching end but how do we show up as the the workplaces that we want to see more of?

I spent a lot of time thinking about this actually as an employer. When I came into the workforce it was really hard, you know, it was toxic. It was ugly. The things that were said to me as a woman. I remember walking into a meeting with my boss, his boss, and the admin. And I remember them sitting me down in this conference room and I thought I had been killing it, right? And they started ripping into me about all of these things. But one of the things that I took back was that the biggest thing that they gave me a hard time for was that I showed too much cleavage. You can't see it, probably. Maybe you can in the camera.

I don't know. But, Tori, I could wear a turtleneck and show cleavage. It is my body shape. Girl same. Yep. Right? And the fact that these people felt that they had the right to criticize my physical appearance because I was a woman and wasn't fitting into their misogynistic box of what professional looked like, is something that has stuck with me for the rest of time. And so as I step into being a leader in an organization, those are the things that have guided me. And they're the things that I tell other leaders

that have the ability to control workplace culture. Because that's really what it comes down to. It's workplace culture, right? The things that support women in the workplace are workplace culture. Treat your staff like adults. They're grownups, right? They have every right to the flexibility

and the trust that you have in yourself, right? If my team says that they need a day off, heck, if they say they need a week off, it's not my place to question that. It's my place to say, how can I support you? And how do we make sure your stuff is covered while you're out? And if I'm going to talk about pay equity and pay parity across the board, I'm going to make sure that my team is getting the same treatment, that they have the benefits,

that they have the salary. And in fact, we're in the middle of increasing salaries right now. We did a review of salaries and we made sure that we recognized that we were below par and we were under mission. And so now we're working to bring those up. And I think that is something I tell employers all the time. If you want to be a good employer, make sure that in addition to trusting your people and recognizing them as adults, pay them what they are worth and also provide them the benefits that support them

being able to show up at work with a healthy mindset. For example, I just recently someone was asking about high deductible health plans. I'm going to use this as an example. High deductible health plans are a joke. They are awful. And I will die on this hill that they do nothing other than continue to create the marginalized valley between individuals who have the financial resources and those who do not. So if you're going to come in to a workplace and tell to me that you're offering

100% employer-based healthcare for your entire staff, and then you're gonna tell me that it's a high deductible health plan, then you are not providing a benefit to your staff, right? These are the decisions that you as an employer can make to ensure that your staff have the resources necessary and needed to show up to work in a healthy way that allows them to then focus on that work.

That's one example, right? There's lots of examples, child care, there's time off for moms, a whole number of things that if you are going to be an employer in today's world, your single responsibility as an employer is to ensure that your teams, your employees, are supported in a way that will bring them the ability to not worry about those things in their lives so that they can actually focus on getting work done.

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So dress for success is all over. I imagine these sort of success stories and this work is available in your community as well. But tell me some of your favorite highlight, like give me the highlight reel. Yeah. For anyone listening, there is probably a dress somewhere within the relative vicinity of where you are. We all have this same mission, this global mission,

to support women on their path towards economic independence, but we get to do it in a hyperlocal way. So I've talked a lot about how we're doing that here in Seattle, but each dress is going to do that based on the work and the need that needs to happen within their community. I mean, in Portland, they have an incredible partnership with the state for some of their support, social support programs, right? Because that's what's needed down there.

We don't have that same partnership, right? So find the dress near you. They will have programs and services to support you. The reality is that there's this idea that the women who come through dress are in a certain financial situation or economic situation. The reality is that dress is for any woman, any woman who is looking to find financial and career stability. And so some of my successes are, you know, some of the women that

came in in situations where they were really struggling and they were trying to better their situation. But some of my successes are women who had found success and just needed the community of women and the support. One of the ones I was talking about yesterday was a woman who, she popped into my office, she was volunteering, she was a client, and utilized our career coaching services. And she was telling me, she was like, you was a client, and utilized our career coaching services. And she was telling me, she was like, you know, Malia, I left a job after 14 years, and I couldn't bring

myself to get into a new role. And I couldn't figure out what was going on. And when I joined the career coaching program, I realized that I had spent 14 years in a toxic environment and I had no idea. And I had to work through that toxicity before I could get back into the workforce. And eventually she was able to get back into the workforce. She worked through it with her career coach and was able to find great success.

And we are really proud of that. There's also a young woman who came to one of our seminars on your elevator pitch. And while there she learned about the proscolis programs and graduated a little while back and is now pursuing a career change that is absolutely incredible. I had one woman who came to me at an event once

and was like, oh my gosh, you work for Dress for Success Seattle. When I was 16, I was a single mom. They coached me through my first interviews and the outfit that I got for that interview was what I wore. And now I'm, I forget what she said. She's like 16 years later, I'm like their global head of something.

These are the reason that we do the work that we do, but you can see how varied they are too. Right. One of my favorite success stories was a woman who came in. She was so excited and she was like, she even started it by saying to me, Malia, I know that this is probably not going to be as exciting as you think it is. I know it's probably not the definition of financial independence that you all are looking for, but I just want you to know that I was able to quit my job today.

I now get to quit my job and I get to go and I get to stay home with my kids. No, that is the financial success we're talking about. Like that's financial independence. Right? That's what I said. Yeah. People think it's Maserati, you're a billion dollars. No, it's the ability to leave situations you don't want to be in anymore and to put yourself

into situations you want to be in. Yeah. That's it. To me, she might be my greatest success story, right? To me, the fact that she was able able with her husband, they were able to save enough and make the decisions that led to her ability to choose to stay home with her family, that is true economic independence to me. And I told her that I was like, no, your story is as valuable as any other of success that we have in this organization.

Because we continually see that financial independence is about choice. It is about freedom, whatever those choices and those freedoms may be. I'm just so incredibly proud of women as they stand in their power, as they claim their power and they say, you know, society holds me to this mold, but I'm going to do it the way I want to do it. And that we can be a small part of that process, It just brings me insurmountable amounts of joy. Thank you for being on the show. Thank you for your work.

Tell me, really tell people listening where they can find Dress for Success, either to utilize the resources or to support the work that you all are doing. Absolutely, yeah. Dress for Success, if you need to find an affiliate near you, you can go to dressforsuccess.org and there's the ability to find affiliates all over the world. And then if you would like to find out more

about Dress for Success Seattle or you are in the Washington area, please check us out at DFS, so Dress for Success, dfsseattle.org. And we are always looking for folks to support programs, to volunteer. Obviously, I wouldn't be the executive director if I didn't say we're always looking for financial support as well. A little bit goes a long way. If you are a woman in this world and you are looking to grow your career, if you are looking to change your career, if you are looking to financial stability, grow your retirement, I don't care what it looks like, please reach out to the Dress for Success near you. Our doors are open.

We are a community of women who simply want to see the success of other women. And there's no strings attached. There's no hidden agenda. We just know that women are fucking bad asses. And we are here to make sure that the world sees that. I opened up a new tab and I'm donating. So that's why I'm distracted. I love it.

Thank you so much for your work. I really appreciate it. Thank you for being here. And thank you so much. I know you're local. So I really appreciate everything that you have done for Washington and Seattle and putting us on the map. Oh, right back at you.

Oh my gosh. Thank you. Thank you so much to Malia for joining us and for her incredible work. Dress for Success is a national organization, might even be international. So you can find the local chapter to support or to get resources

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