Financial Feminist - 268. How To Budget & Pay Off Debt (Personal Finance Cheat Sheet Pt. 2)

Episode Date: January 6, 2026

If you’ve ever avoided budgeting because it felt stressful, restrictive, or shame-inducing, this episode is going to change everything. In part two of my Personal Finance Cheat Sheet series, I’m breaking down how to budget in a way that actually works and how to use that budget to finally pay off your debt without shame, stress, or tracking every single penny. We’re talking about why most budgeting methods fail, how to reframe your budget as a permission slip instead of a punishment, and the exact system I use to help you make real progress on credit cards, student loans, and more. If you want actionable clarity around budgeting and debt payoff in 2026, get ready to take notes! Visit https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod to join our 5 Day Debt Challenge and find any resources mentioned in the show! 00:00 Intro 00:15 Why Budgeting Feels Restrictive 01:48 The Gas Gauge Analogy & Why Budgets Matter 03:11 Why Most Budgeting Methods Fail 04:14 The 50/30/20 Rule Explained 05:36 Why the 50/30/20 Rule Isn’t Perfect 06:56 Introducing the Three Bucket Budget 08:24 How to Automate Your Financial Goals 10:50 Progress Over Perfection: Flexible Budgeting 12:19 How to Prioritize Debt Payoff 14:39 Understanding Different Types of Debt 16:39 The High Cost of Credit Card Debt 18:08 The Snowball vs. Avalanche Method 19:47 Free Five-Day Debt Challenge Resource 20:22 How to Find More Money in Your Budget 21:44 Negotiating Your Bills & Saving More 23:41 You Are Not a Bad Person for Having Debt 24:59 Final Thoughts & What’s Next in the Series Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Welcome back to the Personal Finance Cheat SheetSeries. We are giving you actionable resources to better your money in 2026 with an incredible kickoff. with an incredible kickoff of this series in January. This is episode two of three all about how to be better with money this year. This is where I'm giving you actionable clarity as opposed to financial overwhelm. And if you're new here, my name is Tori. I'm a multi-millionaire, a money expert, and I've helped over 5 million women be better with money. Let's talk about budgeting and specifically budgeting for debt payoff.

Whatever kind of debt you have, whether that is student loans, credit card debt, a mortgage, something else. debt can feel overwhelming, but one of the best resources you have for actually paying down your debt is having a good budget. Now, I know what happened here. I already know. I said the word budget and you're like gross and you like want to throw up a little bit because you've associated budgeting with restriction or deprivation. You have associated the word budget with I'm about to hate my life and I have no choice but to hate my life in order to progress towards my financial goals. And I'm here to tell you and remind you that budget, as I've said many times before, is the gas gauge in your car. It is the permission slip for you to actually spend money. The reason I call it the gas

gauge in the car is because imagine you get in your car and you start driving and your gas gauge is broken. You don't know how far you can get without running out of gas, right? You don't know if you're going to end up stranded on the side of the road at two in the morning with no cell reception because you don't know. That is the reality of you trying to navigate personal finance without having a budget. Now, imagine I get in the car and I start driving and I see my gas gauge is there and the lights on, right? The light tells me, hey, you need to get gas soon.

That is a little stressful, okay? But I know, oh, I have to get gas in the next two miles, right? That is actually less stressful than you raw dog in life and just try. driving around and wondering if you're going to break down at any time. So if you've been thinking to yourself, money stresses me out, so I'm not going to look at it. Or budgeting stresses me out, so I'm not going to budget. You're actually not stressed out about the money or about a budget. You're stressed out because you don't know what's going on. You're stressed out because you don't have a budget. You're stressed out because your card could decline at any time. You're stressed

out because when somebody invites you to dinner, you don't know if you can actually afford it. So budgets are not restrictive. Budgets are not about. deprivation. They're instead the gas gauge in your car to tell you, yeah, you can spend on this thing guilt-free. You've already worked and settled your budget. You already know how much money you have to spend. So if you've been thinking, oh, I don't want a budget because that stresses me out, and that means I can't ever spend money and like, I actually need you to have a budget. And it is one of the best tools at your disposal to progress in your financial life and specifically to progress to make sure that you have enough money to contribute to paying

off debt. It is in fact one of the best tools and the only thing here that's in your control so that you can optimize your debt payoff journey. Now, one of the reasons you may have hated budgets before is that all of the budgeting methods out there kind of suck. And I'm the first person to say that. Like, I've downloaded those budgeting apps that yell at you for going over budget and like they're not fun. They're not helpful. They don't actually make you better with money. They just make you feel shame. They're extremely restrictive, right? There's no flexibility. You and I live our lives. We have different goals. We have different. Like, if it's in the middle of winter, I'm not going out to a rooftop bar. So yeah, my category for that month is going to be fine.

But in the summer, like, I'm just, my spending is going to change. So before we get into the budgeting method I recommend and I've created. Let's talk about the ones that you've probably heard and if they work well or not. The first budgeting method is the 50-30-20 rule. 50-30-20 is probably the most common budgeting method you've heard of. It's basically this idea that 50% of your pay goes to your expenses, right? Your necessary expenses like rent or your mortgage, groceries, insurance, gas, etc. 30% goes to fun things, right? Concert tickets or food out. or travel or coffee, 20% is for your financial goals, for your savings, for your debt payoff journey, for your retirement, et cetera. So that 50, 30, 20 rule is probably the most common and

agreed upon budgeting method. However, life is very different than when this rule was invented or when this rule was created. Inflation's so high. The cost of living is crazy. Wages have stagnated. The economy just feels rough right now, right? Tariffs have raised the price of everything. So with the 50, 30, 20 method, it is more of a guideline rather than a rule, right? We're playing Pirates of the Caribbean here. And it's really important that this 50, 30, 20 is not actually 50, 30, 20 exactly if that doesn't make sense for your life. It's meant to be this kind of a just guideline rather than this very strict rule. Because you have a different life than me than somebody else, right? All of us have different things we're prioritizing spending our money on. We live in

different places. The cost of things is different, right? So it's really important to adapt your budget to make your life work. Similar to the 50, 30, 20 method, right? There's so many other officially approved budgeting methods. But the one that I created is the one I find to be the helpful because frankly I didn't like any of the ones out there. And it's called the three bucket budget. My three bucket budget method I created because I wanted meant to stop yelling at me. I wanted mint to stop yelling at me about how I overspent on a category. And then when I would look and see that, oh, I had spent more than, I don't know, 50% on my expenses, the 50, 30, 20 rule was no longer effective because it just made me feel that I, I, yeah, it didn't work. It wasn't adaptive.

It wasn't helpful. So the three bucket. budget is actually very simple. And it all hinges on one very concrete, tangible thing that you can do today. First bucket is your expenses. It's everything you need to eat, sleep, breathe, move, and live. It's the things that you could not cut in case of a job loss, right? The things that you are spending money on that are necessary to your life. Bucket number two is your goals. This is your debt payoff. This is your savings. This is your retirement. This is everything. that you need to either save for or pay off. I joke that, like, bucket number one is present-day bucket, right?

It's the things that you're spending money on right now. And bucket number two is the bucket for either future you or past you, the person who either took on debt or the person who has these goals in the future. And finally, bucket number three is your fun bucket, right? It's everything that you love spending money on. Okay, so remember I said all of this hinges on one very con. concrete, actionable step. That step is automating bucket number two. If we can automate our savings, if we can say, I want the specific amount of money, either taken out of my paycheck every

month, which you can do at some payroll platforms, or I want this amount of money transferred from my checking account to my savings account. Maybe that's every time you get paid. Maybe that's once a month. If you can automate the hardest part, which is the saving money part or the debt payoff part, bucket number one, your expenses don't really change, right? You're going to have the same rent month over month. Your groceries are going to be roughly the same. So if you've automated bucket number two, if you've paid yourself first, which is what we call it on this show, right? If you've paid yourself like you're another bill, your bucket number one money is then taken out of your account. Everything left over in your checking account is

bucket number three money to spend on whatever you want. You just budgeted without having to track a single penny. And you've budgeted in a way that is flexible to your life depending on what's going on, depending on the season, depending on the cost of living, right? So if you are trying to pay off your debt more aggressively, this automation is where we can have some fun, right? If we increase the amount, even just by one percent, you're probably not going to feel that that 1%, but it's going to allow you to pay off your debt quicker, right? If you increase that contribution just 1% or 2%, it is going to allow you to pay off your debt on a more expedited timeline. And it's going to prevent you from agonizing and stressing over $5 purchases and

$5 decisions. Because that is the mistake with budgeting that is so common. People start budgeting and they feel like they have to track every penny. And then they get stressed out about any time they spend money, even if it's just a small amount. And then that shame cycle continues. And then you feel like you need to spend more money to try to not feel shame anymore. And then you feel shame about that.

And oh, I got to the end of the month and I didn't save anything. You can see how this happens. And if this is you and you're watching on YouTube, let us know in the comments. Because this is so many people we talk to in a daily basis. This feeling of shame about every purchase, this feeling that, you know, I didn't save anything.

this month or I didn't pay off any debt this month because I spent all my money. This budgeting method is flexible. It allows your budget to grow and change and shift, and it prioritizes you progressing in your financial goals while also having some fun, because both of those things have to happen. Now, I know what you're asking me next. Tori, how do I know what percentage I need to automate? This is where something like 50, 30, 20 might be a good guideline for you. You might want to try to automate 20%. But for somebody else, that might be way too high.

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And I don't want you to feel shame if that exact right amount is so far away from what you can do. try to work your way up to something like 20% for all of your different goals, right? But ultimately, I care about progress more than perfection here. So again, that three bucket budget, bucket number one, making sure that you know your expenses, your necessary expenses. Bucket number two, your goals, automate that bucket and then pay all of your necessary bills out of your checking account.

And finally, bucket number three, everything that's left over in your checking account, right? That's bucket number three money that can get spent on whatever you want. So how do we increase the amount that we're able to contribute to our debt? We increase bucket number two money, right? We increase that percentage. This is where knowing your numbers is absolutely crucial. And I'm not talking about tracking every penny. I'm just talking about creating these systems, right? Creating the system of automation so that you can feel supported towards these goals without feeling like it's a chore every single time. If you can set up this automatic transfer, if you can pay yourself first, if you can

contribute to your savings or to your debt payoff journey and not feel like, oh, I didn't save anything this month because I forgot or I don't have any money left over, right? You're doing the hard thing first. And if you want to be more aggressive with your debt payoff and you can afford to be, amp up that percentage. This is where you can get creative and allow this budgeting method to help increase your success rate. Because we don't want to say, I'm never spending money again because that's not sustainable. And frankly, that's not fun. I'm not the financial expert that's going to tell you to stop spending money because that's not realistic, right? And we also want to make sure we're not getting in that cycle of guilt where, oh, I spent all my money and I didn't save

anything. This allows us to have both. So as you're progressing towards your goals, as you're using your budget to accelerate your debt payoff, it's really important that you don't view all debt the same. This is a very common mistake that we see, especially people who have followed the Dave Ramsey method. And also, if you want to see my take down of Dave Ramsey, we'll put it in the description. But ultimately, if you view all of your debt the same, you are absolutely sabotaging your success and you're adding unnecessary, potentially years to this debt payoff journey because not all debt is the same. So the easiest way to differentiate debt

is interest rate and the way that interest accrues. So something like credit cards, going into credit card debt is a very, very different experience than having a student loan or even than having a mortgage, okay? Credit cards, for example,

have an extremely high interest rate. On average, that interest rate is 22%, but can be as high as 30%. And not only do credit cards have a high interest rate, but the interest compounds, meaning that the interest earns interest, which is one of the reasons why debt and credit card debt specifically feels so hard to pay off. Because the last thing is not only is the interest rate really high, and it compounds, it compounds daily. That means every single day you're in credit card debt, it costs more than the previous day. No wonder this like feels like a hole that you can't

dig your way out of. This is very different than a student loan or mortgage. Mortgages is the perfect example. The average mortgage interest rate is anywhere from four to seven percent. It's about seven percent right now. But a mortgage doesn't really have compound interest. Most mortgages have what's called simple interest. So it's a way lower interest rate. And the interest is not earning, earning interest all the time. It earns in a different way. It's simple interest. So when we're thinking about paying off our debt, if you are treating credit card debt the same as a mortgage, for instance, or a car loan or another kind of debt, these are not the same. So when you lump all your debt together, rather than getting a different plan for each

kind of debt, you are actually adding months, if not years, to your debt payoff journey because you are not viewing debt differently. The easiest way to think about paying off your debt and prioritizing your debt is to start with the debt that has the highest interest rate. If you are in credit card debt, I can almost guarantee that's going to be the stuff with the highest interest. So rather than saying, okay, I am going to split all of my effort over all of my pieces of debt, right? If you have two credit cards with debt on them, and then a car loan and then a mortgage, rather than saying, okay, I'm going to split my energy into fourths, into quarters, I am going to put all of my energy towards paying down the credit card with the highest interest rate.

Now, this doesn't mean that we can like neglect our payments, right? We need to keep paying our payments. But with any additional money, with any additional money, you want to focus that full of aggression onto paying down the debt with the highest interest rate first. Then once that debt is eliminated, we move to the next highest interest rate and then the next highest interest rate. If you want more resources around paying off debt, we have an incredible five-day debt challenge. It is entirely free. It is so helpful. It has helped over 35,000 people progress in their debt payoff journey and literally can help you pay down your debt in just five days. So go to her first hundredk.com FF pod to get signed up. It is a free challenge so helpful. So if you're not spreading your focus,

you can begin to make real progress towards that one piece of debt as opposed to making little tiny bits of progress on a bunch of different things, right? Splitting your energy in a way that it's not sustainable. So if you're at the point where you're trying to find more money, right, you're trying to find more money to contribute to your debt payoff to make your debt balance go down, the easiest way to do that is to evaluate that budget you just made. I'm not asking you to completely cut everything that brings you joy. I'm not asking you to stop spending money. But what I am asking you to do is stop spending money on shit you don't care about, okay?

We end up spending a lot of money as human beings in a very mindless way, right? Maybe that is that coffee at 3 o'clock in the afternoon. afternoon, that your over-cathinated body doesn't really need, that is your excuse to get out and take a walk at work. I'm not demonizing coffee. You guys know that about me. Coffee, if that is something that brings you joy, is great, okay? But if you are spending money on things that you don't really like, that you don't really truly enjoy, just because it's convenient or it's mindless, this is the easiest immediate change you can make. That's actually going to help you pay off your debt faster. Evaluate that budget.

look for things you forgot to cancel, look for purchases that you don't want to make again because they were not actually beneficial to your life. What you can also do, especially if you're someone who's like, you know what, Tori, I've already done that. My budget is pretty lean. You can negotiate your bills.

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her savings account. So one of the best things you can do is make sure you've got the best deal. You've got the best deal for your auto insurance. You've got the best deal for your phone plan. You have the best deal for your rent. This is where you call the kind of companies and get to their cancellation department. When you call the company that your phone is with and they're like, do you want to talk to a representative? And then, you know, you can press the number six to get to their cancellation department. That's where you're going.

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