First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - BE ASSERTIVE BE BE ASSERTIVE with this First Date Follow Up!

Episode Date: March 12, 2021

The Jubal Show talks to Mark who got ghosted after a month of seeing each other! Jubal Fresh calls Hailey to see what happened! Let us know what you think on social!Follow us at: @thejubalshow @jubalfresh @thatdreas @evanontheradioSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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We've been getting a lot of requests in for First Date Follow-Ups from people who have been dating somebody for a while and then they just get ghosted a while it's a while well i don't know mark is on the phone for a first date follow-up and he says that he's been hanging out with somebody and she just all of a sudden ghosted him how long have you guys been dating mark um we've been going seeing each other maybe about four weeks now, almost a whole month. Yeah. Almost a whole month.

All right. Okay. I mean, that's a, that's a while. That's a good amount of time for someone just to ghost you. And like, there was no reason given for anything. No, you know, I thought everything was going great. You know, we pretty much were hanging out almost every weekend, a couple of times during the week.

So what's her name? Her name's Haley. Have things have been going good with Haley? I mean, yeah. I mean, as far as I know, you know,

now she never said anything. I never had any hints that anything was wrong. You know, we had a good time every time we went out. Where did you guys meet? Um, we actually met, my friend dragged me to some happy hour,

social hour thing. And, you know, we just ended up, you know, hitting it off there. And from there we just started hanging out. hour, social hour thing. And, you know, we just ended up, you know, hitting it off there. And from there we just started hanging out. Oh, wow. Okay. So you met at a happy hour, social hour. And it's been about four weeks. I just, I mean, like, have you guys stayed at each other's house overnight? Um, you know, yeah. I'm like, you sound like you don't know.

I'm like, usually you know we're not. So yeah. And that just answered another question as well. Well, tell us a little bit about how things have been going then and why you think that all of a sudden she stopped talking to you. Guys, I can't figure it out. I've been thinking about it nonstop here. Like, I really, really liked her and I thought we were off to an amazing start here. You know, for my end, everything seemed really great.

We had a great connection. We were, you know, every time we were together, we were laughing and having fun. I just don't know what went wrong here. And like during the day, like when I'm at work, she would send me these, you know, cute little funny texts. And every time I'd see her name show up on my screen, I'd get these butterflies, you know, that feeling just of excitement.

Yeah. Yeah. And then, you know, all of a sudden out of nowhere, just gone, ghosted, nothing,

no texts, no calls. Since when? How long has it been? It's been almost two weeks now with nothing from her. Oh my God. Two weeks with nothing. Okay.

And you, you obviously can't stop thinking about her. Yeah. No, not at all. And there's nothing, like nothing you can think that happened the last time that you saw her that is the reason why she's not calling you back? No, I mean, I'm thinking back to like our last

time we were together. There was nothing, you know, I didn't do anything. It was just like every other night we've been together. Well, what did you guys do? Like, what was the last time you guys saw each other? What happened? Yeah, last time we were Well, what did, what did you guys do? Like, what was the last time you guys saw each other? What happened? Um, yeah, last time we were together, we did dinner. Um, and when I dropped her off at her house, you know, she seemed a little off, kind of standoffish, but you know, nothing out of the normal really. Did you, did you ask her about her behavior that

night? Um, you know, after that night, the next day I just sent her you know our normal hey how are you you know how's your morning going and had nothing yeah nothing okay all right so she just has completely stopped talking to you yeah nothing all right well we'll play a song come back and see if we can figure it out for you and you're sure there's nothing yeah there's nothing no text no no i don't mean that i mean there you're sure there's nothing? Yeah, there's nothing. No text, no Instagram. No, no, I don't mean that. I mean, you're sure you didn't do anything because people don't tell us a lot of times. They never tell us.

No, yes. I didn't do anything, you know. Alright, well, if you're lying, we'll find out. Yeah, yeah, I promise you guys. I didn't do anything weird, anything wrong here, you know. Okay. Alright, well, I'm going to play a song, come back and call her and see if we can figure it out, okay? Alrighty. All right, hang on.

It's the Jubal Show. All right, right in the middle of your first date follow-up, if you're just joining us, Mark is on the phone, and Mark wants us to call a girl named Haley who... I was trying to make some kind of a cool reference. A comet. Haley, yeah. She's like a comet. Oh, yeah, Haley's comet.

She, like, cometed right out of his life. She just cometed right on by. She cometed right by him. There, thank you very much. So, Haley, yeah. She's like a comet. Oh, yeah. Haley's comet. She like cometed right out of his life. She just cometed right on by. Cometed right by him. There. Thank you very much. So Haley, anyway, she stopped talking to him. They've actually been dating for like a month. And according to everything that Mark says, everything was going great.

He actually, you really liked her a lot, huh? Yes. We kicked it off from the beginning. You know, I enjoyed every time we went out together. It was great. We had a great time every time we went out. Yeah. And it's from the beginning. You know, I enjoyed every time we went out together. It was great. We had a great time every time we went out. Yeah. And it's been two weeks.

Last time they hung out, they went to dinner. He dropped her off and that was it. Then she said bye-bye. She didn't even say bye. Yeah. She didn't even text you anything, right? She has no explanation at all. She just stopped talking to you.

Yeah. Nothing. Okay. Well, we're going to dial her phone number right now and see if we can figure it out for you. Okay. Alrighty. All, well, we're going to dial her phone number right now and see if we can figure it out for you, okay? Alrighty. Alright, here we go. Hello?

Hi, can I speak to Haley, please? Yeah, this is she. Haley, how are you? This is Jubal from the Jubal Show. This is Alex from the Jubal Show. This is Alex from The Jubal Show. This is Evan from The Jubal Show. This is the entire Jubal Show. I'm sorry, who is this? It's The Jubal Show.

It's a radio show, a radio program. Put the cheesy radio program that uses megaphones in the middle of segments where they shouldn't be using megaphones. Don't do the alarm. Haley, it's a radio show. It's called The Jubal Show. My name is Jubal. My name's Alex. My name's Evan.

We can tell that you don't know who we are. Yeah. And I haven't made a good impression. This is probably pretty weird, right? It's fine, but just check us out. Yeah. It's fine. Do you know what we're calling, though?

Oh, no, I don't. All right. So the reason that we're calling you is because you went out on a date, or a lot of dates, with a guy for like a month, then you blew him off and he's wondering what happened and his name is Mark. And we're calling to find out why. Does that make any sense to you? We don't contone Jubal's

behavior. I don't understand anything you guys just said. Let me explain again. We do a segment on the show called The First Date Fall. It's where if you go out on a date with someone and then end up blowing them off, they can email us to get you on the phone and find out what happened. And we got an email about you from Mark. Oh, okay. What about him?

Well, Mark told us about, you know, you guys have been dating for like a month. And he sounded really into you so he liked you a lot and he's wondering why you just stopped talking to him after the last time you guys went to dinner you pulled the old ghosty um honestly he's a good guy yes um honestly i was just kind of over it over it well that's fine but, you know, talk to him about it? I mean, he couldn't have thought that it was going very well. Really? Okay, so what happened then?

Yeah, according to him, everything was great. Like, amazing. Well, yeah, because I was doing all of the planning for every single date that we went on. It was exhausting. What do you mean, the planning? Well, I mean, he couldn't make any decisions. It was exhausting. What do you mean the planning? Well, I mean, he couldn't make any decisions. It was always like, oh, you pick you, you, what, what do you want? And I'm just like, oh, so you just don't feel like he wanted to put in the time. I mean, plan a date, dude. Like, okay. Wow. So is it, was it one of those things though? Because this happens even with me and Alex, Alex and I are married, by the way.

I know you don't know that. And some of our listeners don't know that. That's why I have to say it every time. But Alex and I are married. And I guarantee, and I know that there's times where she'll be like, what do you want for dinner? I don't care. Because I truly don't care. Also, she would like me to make a decision.

And I can see it in her eyes where she's like, would you just choose a place? And then it goes like this. Well, do you want to go to Red Robin? No. No. Do you want to go to Red Robin? No. No. Do you want to go to Wendy's? No. No.

I'll go wherever. Where do you want to go? Where do you want to go? Where do you want to go? I don't know. So I asked my girlfriend, I go, guess where we're going for dinner today? And whatever she says is where we're going. Oh my God, that's hilarious.

That's a good idea. Oh my God, that's a great idea. That's a pro tip right there. So is that kind of what you're describing or is it a little different? He would ask me and I would throw some suggestions. That was in the beginning. And then it was just kind of from then on, it was just like up to me. Like he would be like, hey, you want to hang out on this day?

And I'm like, yeah, what do you want to do? He's like, oh, whatever you want. Okay. And honestly, he's just a little bit of a pushover because I planned a date. I cooked some food and he didn't tell me until afterwards that he didn't like that food. I just think he just can't make a decision. And I really need somebody to every once in a while make a decision and not

just leave it up to me a hundred percent of the time. Yeah. I can see how that might be annoying. Yes, that would be. It is. It's very annoying, especially if you are working and you've got to make decisions at work. You just want to be able

to hang out and somebody be like, hey, let's go to this restaurant or let's watch this movie. You know, and it's perfect. Okay. Well, thank you for being honest with us. I appreciate that. And we will tell him what you said. Okay. Well, thank you for being honest with us. I appreciate that. And we will tell him what you said. Okay.

Well, actually, you kind of already told him because he's on the phone listening and wants to talk to you. Yeah. Hi, Haley. Hey, Mark. So, really, that's why you ghosted me is because, you know, I didn't decide what we should do or where we should go. Every single time? Yeah. I'm sorry.

That's just not what I want. Make a decision every once in a while. I can make decisions. I just wanted to do what you wanted to do, you know? Right. And I appreciate that, but it can't be 100% of the time. You got to step in there. I mean, if you want to do something, tell me.

And if you don't want to do something that I suggested, like, tell me that as well. You sound like really angry about this. Like, you don't even really like me. Well, Mark, I mean, this phone call is a little bit of annoying. I'm not in the best place. I mean, you had a radio. Well, yeah, I understand that you could be upset about this, but you could have responded to me or, you know, shot me a message, been honest, you know, and said I had to bring you on here. Yeah, I should have been honest with you. But you're acting like you called me a bunch of times. You only called me a couple of times. And that was that. So if he would have chased you a little bit more, you might have still been going out with him?

No, not necessarily. But he acted just like he was calling me and sending me messages. And it's like, oh, my gosh. But he wasn't. Okay. Like, it's not like I ghosted him in that way. Like, I just didn't respond, like, literally to a couple messages. And that was that.

Well, I didn't want to, like, keep bothering you too much, you know? And that's exactly it. Like, you need to be a little bit assertive, dude. Like, I'm sorry. And not a radio show assertive. Like, I don't know. I just think you didn't go about it the right way. Well, would you like to give him another shot, Haley?

Would you like to go out with Mark one more time? We'll pay for it. No, that's okay. I appreciate it. But no. Oh, Haley, you want assertive? Okay. Yes, you will go out with me again.

Oh. What? Wow. Really? I like it. You're going to try that now after everything? Like now you're trying it? Well, you know, you want assertive.

I'm trying here. So, you know, go out with me again. Honestly, Mark, I know you well enough by now that I just know that I don't want to go out with you again. Sounds like her mind's pretty made up. Yeah, Mark, it does sound like her mind's made up. She's being assertive. Yeah.

I'm getting the picture here. Maybe you can learn something from this. Just make some decisions, you know? Make some decisions. I guess so. You know, I've dated girls who wanted, you know, were super picky, so I guess I'll find the middle there. All've dated girls who wanted, you know, are super picky. So I guess I'll find the middle there.

All right. Well, Haley, thank you for your time. I appreciate it. So. Oh, I hurt my ear. Appreciate it. All right. Bye.

She don't like anybody. No, she sounds upset. Yeah. The megaphone was an interesting choice at the end. Yeah. The megaphone was an interesting choice at the end. Yeah, so I think the megaphone might have pissed her off and probably won't be hearing from her again. We're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble.

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