First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Blake & Selena - Taking Flight

Episode Date: January 3, 2025

➡︎ The Jubal Show’s First Date Follow UpWhat happens when you get ghosted after a first date? You call The Jubal Show and have them find out why! It's like putting yourself in a situation to get roasted, when you really just want a second date.======This is just a tiny piece of The Jubal Show. You can find every podcast we have, including the full show every weekday right here… ➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com/podcasts======The Jubal Show is everywhere, and also these places: Website ➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com  Instagram ➡︎ https://instagram.com/thejubalshow  X/Twitter ➡︎ https://twitter.com/thejubalshow  Tiktok ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@the.jubal.show YouTube ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/@JubalFresh  ======Meet The Jubal Show Cast:====== Jubal Fresh - https://jubalshow.com/featured/jubal-fresh/  Nina - https://thejubalshow.com/featured/ninaontheair/ Victoria - https://jubalshow.com/featured/victoria-ramirez/  Brad Nolan - https://jubalshow.com/featured/brad-nolan/  Sharkey - https://jubalshow.com/featured/richard-sharkey/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Listen to Decisions Decisions on the Black Effect Podcast Network, iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. First date follow-up. Powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys. Online at advocateslaw.com Leisha is on the phone today for a first date follow-up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named James. So in a second, we're going to call him

and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date. But first, Leisha, how long has it been since you heard from James? Yeah, it's been about a week. And then how many times have you reached out to him in that time? Yeah, like kind of a bunch. I was, you know, I was texting a bunch. I, you know, we had a great connection and, you know, you know, I was, we were trying to get together and, you know, I texted a few times and, you know, we had a plan. He canceled. He felt like he needed the weekend to recover.

I offered to make him soup, which he declined. And I, you know, and then after that, I texted him a couple of times. You know, he's feeling like nothing. So did your date happen or this was after the date? No. Well, we had a first date. OK, OK. but then after that nothing happened okay well tell us about the date well we met on hinge first of all and like we talked a little bit and we wanted to go out because we both like really like food and travel

and stuff and he's in a band and i used to sing in a band so we had like a lot of great connections and so we met for cocktails and we like bounced around and got tacos and ended up at this like karaoke place which was really fun after karaoke we went back to his place and we were hanging out and like cuddling and stuff but we didn't hook up but there was like a lot of like affection I felt and in the morning we kissed and like we planned on seeing each other again like the next weekend so that was the date is there anything that happened on the date that could have been awkward or something that would cause him to not want to talk to you again so i talked this over

like a bit and i think there might have been which i like want to apologize for and like I've been feeling bad about it so like when we were like hanging out and cuddling he like pulled out his phone to play me like a rough edit of his band's new song and I was excited to hear it I was glad he wanted to share it with me and you know

because I was on the music background I didn't feel like I needed to hold back what I thought you know so I mean I told him I was like I think background, I didn't feel like I needed to hold back what I thought, you know? So, I mean, I told him, I was like, I think this is, like, a great idea for a song. I said, like, some of the lyrics were a little cheesy and, you know, his voice was a little pitty at certain points. And, like, one of the lyrics in particular was, like, about her love being like a sugar rush

eating a box of Krispy Kreme or something. Okay. I, like, laughed at that that and then I kept like asking him if I made him feel like he was eating a box of Krispy Kreme and I thought it was being funny like I was joking and like I think I may have crushed him I don't know maybe I took it too far so I feel like he apologized like maybe he thought you were making fun of his music yeah but I mean it sounds like you were being more playful. Yeah, no,

I was just saying that's how I felt. That's what the intention was. Jubal, you are doing music now too. So think about this scenario. Wouldn't it be just kind of cute? Are you going to be offended?

No, I wouldn't be. I'm also a super harsh critic on myself so I'd be like, you're right, the whole thing's crap. I'll throw it out. You're my Christy Creen.

I'll start all over. I quit it all. So I would just totally be like, yeah, thanks for the honest feedback. I suck. right the whole thing's crap i'll throw it out you're my christy green i'll start all over i quit it all so i would just totally be like yeah thanks for the honest feedback i suck that would also be a major turnoff and problem also okay so maybe maybe he was a little butthurt maybe i mean it might be so i feel like i don't know i feel like we need to get him on the phone like he needs to get a third party and to get him on the phone like i need to get a third party and to get him on the phone phone because he's ghosting me so like and i just want to apologize we'll try to figure it out for you we'll play a song and we'll come back and then we'll call him

and see if it tells why he's ghosting you and maybe get you another date with crispy cream boy okay all right should we not call him crispy cream boy no probably not all right we'll play a song come back get your first day follow up next All right. Should we not call him Krispy Kreme boy? No. Probably not. He didn't. He disappeared. All right. Well, play a song, come back, get your first day follow up next. Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the homestretch and I'm exhausted. But turns out the end is near, right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question. This podcast is for people like me who need a little perspective and insight. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein,

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Right in the middle of our first eight follow-up, if you're just joining us, Alicia is on the phone, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named James. So we're about to call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date. But first, Alicia, why don't you catch us up on your situation? Yeah, so I went on a date with this guy, James. It, like, went really really well we had cocktails and tacos and we did karaoke and all this stuff and you know we bonded because he's in a band and i used to sing in a band and you know we have a lot of common interests and i feel like and he hasn't

texted me back in a week so and i feel like something might have gone wrong the night we were on the date i feel like i might have kind wrong the night we were on the date. I feel like I might have kind of hurt his feelings making fun of one of his lyrics, which involves Krispy Kreme, which I kept bringing up. So, I don't know. I feel like I might have upset him and I need to apologize.

And also, he's ghosting me. So, that's where we are. Alright, are you ready for us to call him? Sure. Okay, here we go. Hello? Hi, may I speak to James, please? Yeah, speaking. James, how are you, man?

My name is Jubal. I'm calling from a radio show. It's called The Jubal Show. Hi, James. I'm Nina, also on the show. Hi, and I'm Victoria. How are you? Oh name is Jubal. I'm calling from a radio show. It's called The Jubal Show. Hi, James. I'm Nina, also on the show. Hi, and I'm Victoria. How are you? Oh, cool. Wonderful. I'm doing good, man. I don't get many calls from radio, but what's up?

Have you ever listened to the show before? Yeah, yeah, I have. I have. Okay. Oh, thank you. Yeah. Have you ever heard of First Aid Follow-Up before? Oh, yeah. Yeah, I have. Is this one of these things? First day follow-up, you know, that's a segment where if you're ghosting somebody, they can email us and then ask us to call you and ask why you're ghosting them. Somebody emailed us about you, James.

Oh, boy. Any idea who it would be? Yeah, maybe someone. I met someone online like a little more than a week ago. Is that someone's name, Leisha? Yeah. Yeah, Leisha name, Leisha? Yeah. Yeah, Leisha. Oh, yeah.

Yeah. Well, Leisha emailed us and told us about your date. She said she really liked you, but she's confused. Can you tell us why you're ghosting her? I really liked her, but, man, she's too much. She texted me on Saturday to ask about, well, first of all, I got sick, right? So like I got sick a little bit afterwards, but not the Rona or nothing, but like, you know,

she texted me on Saturday to ask me about soup. And then again, tell me good night. And then text me a list of vitamins I should be taking. Because you were sick. Yeah, you know, it was like, it was like a trip or a door dash to GNC, you know, the whole bag full. And then, like not soon after, asking if I missed her. This whole thing about like, if I wanted Krispy Kremes, like asking if I wanted Krispy Kreme. It's a joke about some stupid lyric I made.

And I mean, just more texts on and on and on. on i'm not even giving you all that was all in one day that happened all in the same day yeah this is someone i just talked to online they came over we cuddled i mean the sweet it was great you know don't get me wrong, but after all this, just pile it on and just happening so soon, I just stopped responding because, like, I needed to rest. And I wake up and it's like, I mean, I lose like 12 text messages from her. I don't respond, but I get even more the next day. Eventually, I just block her because i feel like that kind of energy i felt it gives me a lot of anxiety like and i'm gonna go with the flow kind of guy and when it just gets raw raw raw it's like it first of all it doesn't make me feel better but

then it's like this is someone i just met sweet girl i mean she came over it was great the date was amazing uh karaokeoke was fun. And yeah, like we talked like it was going to turn into something. But then the text, just the messaging. Well, it was just not. No, it was just a no go. I mean, it sounds like she was just concerned because you were sick. Now, granted, 12 and maybe 24 text messages might be a lot in two days, but the initial reach out probably was kind of nice, though, no?

I mean, I get it. She's very sweet, but it's just someone I just started talking to online and it just started giving me the vibe that this is the kind of person that's going to give me a whole lot of anxiety. I don't. I just wanted peace. OK, well, speaking of peace peace james i will let you know that lisa's actually on the phone listening and wants to talk to you yeah hi oh hi lisa do you have a problem getting close to people like do you know how to ask when someone cares about you like i was just trying to show you that i cared and i'm like actually a good caretaker in like times like this.

I get it, but it's just, we just had one date after a little bit of online conversation and I just feel like you're sweet, wonderful, but I just feel that we're nowhere close to the come over and make me soup stage of this relationship. Okay, well, you said on your hinge that you wanted to be intentional about the time we spend together and to prioritize growth, and I feel like I was doing that. So I don't know what there is about this that you wouldn't like. Can we go further than, can we have a relationship first? Can we, we like have some

other there's there's steps to this before okay wait wait i'm not ready to be in a relationship with you oh look that's that's that's not what i said okay that's that's not what i said it's um i feel there's a little miscommunication here. Well, I mean, I'm not, well, you just mentioned wanting to have a relationship first. Like, you talk about me texting a lot, and you're already talking about a relationship. So I don't know what the problem is with my texting when you're like, I want a relationship right now. What? No, I'm not saying right now. It's just that I just don't want to jump into things that just lead to anxiety and just like already we're checking each other's mental health. Like I'm just trying to just go with the vibe that we had that was real good.

It just felt like this was just in a different place, and I was just like, I don't want to grow with this. You are moving way too fast, James. This is a good turn. Look, I just, I just, I'm all for like all those texts in the soup, but I just feel that there's, there's just a sequence to it that just, you know, rocks my boat a certain way. And, and like, I'm, I'm sorry for, for miscommunicating orcommunicating or or like you know just going outside the vibe

that we had and i just feel i just feel like we went the wrong direction with that well james would you like another date with lisha we'll pay for it james i just so you know i will go on another date with you but i just want to let you know like i'm not to get together with you right now, just so you know. Yeah, so like I said, I'm not interested in rushing into getting together right now. I'm sorry about the miscommunication, but I'm willing to give this another go, just as long as we don't mention the Krispy Kremes. Okay, but we're not going to be, like, dating yet. Like, this is just a date.

Not like a dating date. Look, don't worry. I'm not trying to wife you up just yet. Wait a minute. You want to wife me up? Hold on. Why are we jumping to marriage? I don't think James wants to marry you yet.

I think you guys should just go out on one more date and see how it goes. Okay? Okay. Yeah. I'm you guys should just go out on one more date and see how it goes, okay? Okay. All right. Jubal's first date follow-up. Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the homestretch

right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon. But we're also going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new season of Next Question with

me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, exclusive extended interviews, and more. Now this is a second term we can all get behind. Listen to The Daily Show, ears edition on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome. My name is Paola Pedrosa, a medium and the host of the Ghost Therapy Podcast, where it's not just about connecting with deceased loved ones. It's about learning through them and their new perspective. I think God sent me this gift so I can show it to the world.

And most of all, I help people every single day. Listen to the Ghost Therapy Podcast on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. is returning for another season. We've asked an entirely new set of guests our seven questions, including Jane Lynch, Delaney Rowe, and Cord Jefferson. Listen to mini questions on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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