First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Can The Jubal Show get her a charity date in this First Date Follow Up!?

Episode Date: March 4, 2022

First Date Follow Up is when we get an email from someone who went on a date and the other person isn't calling back. We get that other person on the phone to see why they're "ghosting".Charity isn't getting a call back from Mark in this First Date Follow Up! Will The Jubal Show get her a charity date!?Leave a rating and review wherever you listen. It will help the show out in a big way. If that's not your thing, you can find us on social media here:https://instagram.com/thejubalshowhttps://twitter.com/thejubalshowhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thejubalshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Network, iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The Jubal Show on demand. First date follow up. Charity is on the phone today for a first date follow up and she's not getting a call back from a dude named

Mark. It's been three weeks since their date and according to her email she's heard nothing. So Charity, thank you for listening to the show. Thank you for your email. Hope we can get you another date. Hey, yeah. No, I'm not actually like a listener but my friend told me about the

Jubal show so I just thought I would reach out. Well, cool. I'm glad you reached out to the Jubal show. We love the Jubal show. My name is pronounced Jubal but it doesn't matter. It, cool. I'm glad you reached out to the Jubal show. We love the Jubal show. My name is pronounced Jubal, but it doesn't matter. It's fine. I'm so sorry. No, it's fine. It happens all the time.

Can you say it one more time because I think I'm confused now? It's Jubal. Kind of like you're puking. Jubal. That's how you say it. That's how I've described it to people if you don't know how to say it. It's sort of like you puke it. Right. Jubal.

Jubal. I can't get what you mean. Yeah, no, I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to mispronounce the term. Trust me, I'm not offended at all. I just coached my nine-year-old stepson's flag football with another dude. That guy called me Jabal the whole time. I never corrected him.

So for weeks, he's calling me Jabal. I don't really care. Did you finally correct him? Nope. Yeah, it was weird. I'm like, why didn't you? I don't really care. Did you finally correct him? Nope. Yeah, it was weird. I'm like, why didn't you? I'm like, I don't care enough. The kids were trying to.

Yeah, the kids were like, his name's not Jabal, it's Jabal. I'm like, whatever, kid, don't worry about it. Anyway, it's not about, it's not about Jabal. It's about charity right now. And you said you went out with a dude named Mark and he hasn't called you back in three weeks. How many times have you tried to reach out to him in those three weeks? I mean, I texted him three times, like only once a week. So let it don't seem like too crazy.

But I did think about this a lot. So like maybe I am crazy. I don't know. Okay. And what did you guys do for the date? I mean, we went to dinner. It was amazing. I mean, it was the best date I've ever been on.

We talked about family and retirement, which is funny because we're both in our 30s. So there's a long way to go. But the date was incredible. Okay. Incredible for you or incredible for both of you? I mean, I thought it was good for both of us, which is why I'm confused. Is there any reason why you think that he's not calling you back? Well, honestly, I'm kind of, I think I offended him. How? Were you calling the wrong name? His name is Mark. I don't know how you think that he's not calling you back? Well, honestly, I think I offended him.

Were you calling the wrong name? His name's Mark. I don't know how you got that one wrong. Mac? No. No, I'm actually really health conscious. And at the moment, I'm trying to limit my sugar intake. But after dinner, we went out for ice cream and to go on a walk.

And at the time, I didn't say I don't need ice cream because it seemed like the perfect way to end an amazing night. But when I told him I didn't want ice cream when we got to the stand, he looked really upset. Really? That would kind of upset me if someone didn't want ice cream. It would just be awkward at that point.

Just to let loose for one night? I don't know. I mean, I feel bad a lot because I don't really like sweets. I do like a little taste here and know. I mean, I feel bad a lot because I don't really like sweets. I do like a little taste here and there of sweets, but I feel bad. Alex and I are married, if you didn't know that, but she wants to get dessert. I like to get dessert, right?

I don't necessarily want to eat it, but I love the act of getting dessert. Right. But I also want to enjoy the cheesecake with her, so I'll have a bite of cheesecake and also lactose intolerant. Not a good idea, but either way. I do feel bad sometimes.

So, but, but to get mad about that, it seems kind of weird. How did he get mad? Well, I mean, like he just, it was more of a, his just whole mood changed. Like he was just ice cold after that. And it just sucks because I feel like if that's what offended him, like I've been really diligent about my routine and I could have like explained that like this has been a long term thing and I've had a lot of success. I don't know know I just would have liked a chance to like explain myself okay other than the ice cream is there anything else that you did wrong on that on your date I don't know

I mean no I mean I thought like I said I thought it was a great date I thought we had a lot of fun I it was he seemed really interesting he seemed interested at me interested in me until we got to the ice cream. And then I was just like, oh, until it fell off. Well, that's a weird deal breaker to have. I just really need you to help me because I think this guy is perfect for me. And I had such a good time. So how did the date end? Well, I mean, he gave me a hug and we went to our cars and that was that.

I mean, nothing about a second date, nothing about how much he enjoyed the date, nothing. So, like, I mean, I'm just, yeah, the end was, I don't know. Did he initiate the hug? Yeah, he did.

Okay. That's not great. Oh yeah. Something happened. It sounds like, and the only thing you can think of is that you didn't want ice cream. That's it. Okay. All right.

Well, we'll play a song, come back and then call him and see if that is the problem. And if we can get you another date next. Okay. Okay. All right. Well, we'll play a song, come back, and then call him and see if that is the problem. And if we can get you another date next, okay? Okay. All right. It's the Jubal Show. Right in the middle of today's first date follow-up, if you're just joining us, Charity is on the phone.

And Charity went out with a dude named Mark. And she said it was one of the best dates of her life. She had a great time. And she doesn't understand why it's been three weeks and she hasn't heard anything from him. The only reason that Charity can think that she's not getting a call back is that they went for ice cream after and Charity's been working out and trying to eat right, all that stuff. So she didn't really want the sugar, didn't want any ice cream. And that's when his mood changed and he seemed really cold. She thinks that not ordering ice cream is the reason he's not calling back. So we're about to get him on the phone and see if we can figure out the scoop.

Yes. I just dropped the mic. Should we see what you did there? Thank you. All right, Charity, are you ready to call him and see if that is the reason he's not calling you back? Yeah. Yeah, honestly, I'm just hoping you guys can get me another date. And I really liked him, so I'm just fingers crossed.

All right. Well, here we go. I'm going to dial this phone number. Hello. Hi, may I speak to Mark, please? This is Mark. Hi, Mark. My name's Jubal. My name's Alex. My name is English Evan. I'm Christian Gray-Snow.

And this is a radio show called The Jubal Show. Oh, okay. All right. Yeah. How can I help you guys? You've heard of the show before? Yeah. Did I get picked for a contest or something?

No. Well, yeah, not really. So if you've heard the show before, have you heard of a first date follow-up? Have you ever heard one of the first date follow-ups? Yeah. So you already know that's a segment that we do where if you ghost somebody, they can email us and then we can get you on the phone and go, Hey, what happened? Why did you ghost? Let's say their name's Charity, for example. Why'd you ghost Charity? Oh, yep, yep, Charity. Yeah.

So like, let's say, I don't know. I'm going to do another hypothetical. Let's say your name was Mark and you were on the phone with us and it's been three weeks since you reached out to a girl named Charity who you went on a date with. We'd call you and ask why.

That's the kind of segment I'm talking about. So why aren't you calling Charity back? Okay, yeah. Charity. All right. This is weird. Okay. If you're wanting me

to be completely honest, we do. She was boring as hell. It was like watching paint dry. Oh. You said boring? Boring.

Yeah. Yeah. Like, so freaking boring. That's kind of rude. We talked talked to her she didn't sound super boring but it's hard to tell she also said that the date was like the best date she's ever been on and she thinks the reason you're not calling her back is because she didn't want ice cream oh my oh my i knew that was gonna be a thing i knew it was gonna be a thing. I knew it was going to be a thing. Okay. So yes, that was like the, the, like, it wasn't just that,

but it was just like everything on top of that. Okay. So we had dinner and she was just so freaking dull. And then when she didn't want the ice cream, I was just like, okay, you know what? Like, this is so ridiculous. She had no personality. And so like, I just ghosted her because I didn't want to waste my time and I didn't want to waste her time either, you know know but it was just like this I just don't see this going anywhere she's I the most boring date I've ever had so wow dang I mean my god so it wasn't just the ice cream but

she was a little too vanilla for you yeah it was like just so dull like there was nothing to her I have a question Mark if the date was so boring why did. Like there was nothing to her. I have a question, Mark. If the date was so boring, why did you ask her to go to ice cream after? Because I was trying to save it. I was like, well, if this date's going to go south, I'm at least going to get some ice cream. That's funny. He's a smart guy.

Yeah. All right. Well, thanks for being honest. Very honest. I appreciate it. I don't know if Tiffany, or right, no, Charity. I don't know if Charity would appreciate it, but either way. See, she's so boring, you don't even remember her name. Oh, my gosh.

Oh, my gosh. Poor Charity. Charity is actually on the phone listening and wants to talk to you. Oh, you think I'm boring? You didn't talk for the entire date. Mark, I am not boring. This is the best date. Mark, I am not boring. This is the best date you've ever been on.

Like, I'm scared to think about how your other dates have been. If this was your best date, how bad were your other dates? I don't understand because we were speaking about family. We were laughing. I had an amazing time. What are you talking about? I asked about your family, and you were like, yeah, mine's good. And that was it.

And, like, you said nothing else. You just, like, looked at me. looked at me you're like yeah that's it and then you just stared at me i was like okay and that's like every conversation that we had like i'm not even surprised you didn't want ice cream because ice cream's fun and you're absolutely not okay i can be fun you can be yeah like no i was responding i just like sometimes i get nervous and i thought i thought i was in talking enough i also worried that like i was over talking and then like maybe i just didn't like no over talking was like the least of your problems all right like you did not engage at all i mean maybe that's true, but like I was trying. No, there's no name charity. Like you were just like, yep. Uh-huh.

Mine's good. Yep. Like that's it. Okay. Maybe she was just listening to you. Yeah, she's an avid listener. She's not listening now because I'm trying to give her a hint. She's not picking it up.

Maybe she wasn't not talking. Maybe you were just talking too much. Oh. I was asking questions the whole time. I was like, so tell me about your work. And she's like, all right.

I can remember it is what it is. See, I'll give you like the perfect example. Hey charity, are you there? Yeah. Okay. Did you not hear like the,

the thought processing, the answer and then the awkward silence. That's how the entire conversation was. See, it's been a few minutes and she hasn't even said a word. I forgot she was already there. Well, gee, who can get a word in edgewise when you won't shut up? I was like, I'm just going to like spare her of this and I'm not going to call her. And then you like keep texting me.

Then all you have to do is respond and just let her know that you're not interested. Exactly. Little communication goes a long way, Mark. You're right. You're right. You know what? I should have just called her up on a radio show and pulled her all out on public. I think so. I also want to ask you, Mark,

would you... No. Okay. Hold on, Mark. would you? No. Okay. Hold on. Hold on, Mark. You don't even know what to say. Would you like? No. I already know what you're going to say.

The answer is no. Can I just, okay, Mark, can I just say it, please? Would you like to go on another date with charity? We'll pay for it. Okay. You know what? You know what? You know what?

Fine. I'll do one more date. Really? No. Sike. You are a total Fine. I'll do one more date. Really? No. Sike. Yes, you're going. You are a total jerk. Jeez, man.

All right. So, Charity, I'm sorry that you didn't get another date. It sounds like you're going to be better off, though. Yeah. You'll find someone who doesn't think you're boring. Honestly, like, sorry to, I feel bad. I wasted your guys' time. You turned out to be kind of an ass.

No, it wasn't a waste of time. I probably should have said more during our date, but like, I don't know. It's all good. You guys aren't meant to be kind of an ass. No, it wasn't a waste of time. I probably should have said more during our date, but like, I don't know. That's all good. You guys aren't meant to be. Yeah, you'll find someone who likes the way that you communicate, whether you're saying words or saying nothing at all. Well, I mean, like, at least it's on the Jabal show,

so I got something good to listen to. Yes, you did. So check out the Jabal show, and thank you for your email, and now you can be a listener to the Jabal show. Appreciate it. The Jabal show on demand. Hey for your email. And now you can be a listener to The Jubal Show. Appreciate it. The Jubal Show on demand. Hey, everyone.

It's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the homestretch right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon. But we're also going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about?

Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. John Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears. Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Now this is a second term we can all get behind. Listen to The Daily Show, Ears Edition on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to Decisions Decisions, the podcast where boundaries are pushed and conversations get candid. Join your favorite hosts, me, Weezy WTF, and me, Mandy B, as we dive deep into the world of nontraditional relationships

and explore the often taboo topics surrounding dating, sex, and love. That's right. Every Monday and Wednesday, we both invite you to unlearn the outdated narratives dictated by traditional patriarchal norms. With a blend of humor, vulnerability, and authenticity, we share our personal journeys navigating our 30s, tackling the complexities of modern relationships, and engage in in thought provoking discussions that challenge societal expectations. From groundbreaking interviews with diverse guests to relatable stories that will resonate with your experiences.

Decisions Decisions is going to be your go to source for the open dialogue about what it truly means to love and connect in today's world. Get ready to reshape your understanding of relationships and embrace the freedom of authentic connections. Tune in and join the conversation. Listen to Decisions Decisions on the Black Effect Podcast Network, iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.