First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Cole & Aria - He Got Ghosted After a Perfect Date… Then She Revealed the One Thing That Scared Her Off 🎶💔

Episode Date: January 2, 2026

Cole thought his first date with Aria was something straight out of a movie—deep conversation, undeniable chemistry, and a connection that felt real. So when she suddenly went silent, he was left completely confused. On this First Date Follow Up from The Jubal Show, we track her down to find out what really made her disappear. What Aria shares sparks a heated conversation about romance, boundaries, and when a grand gesture might cross the line. Is it sweet… or is it too much, too soon? Ever been ghosted after what you thought was an amazing date? Do you REALLY want that Second Date? The Jubal Show has your back! On First Date Follow Up, we track down the person who disappeared to get the real reason why. Awkward, hilarious, and sometimes downright shocking—First Date Follow Up delivers the truth, whether you want to hear it or not. Will there be a second date or just secondhand embarrassment? Subscribe to The Jubal Show's First Date Follow Up and find out! ➡︎ Get on The Jubal Show with your story - https://thejubalshow.com This is just a tiny piece of The Jubal Show. You can find every podcast we have, including the full show every weekday right here…➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com/podcasts The Jubal Show is everywhere, and also these places: Website ➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com  Instagram ➡︎ https://instagram.com/thejubalshow  X/Twitter ➡︎ https://twitter.com/thejubalshow  Tiktok ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@the.jubal.show Facebook ➡︎ https://facebook.com/thejubalshow  YouTube ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/@JubalFresh Support the show: https://the-jubal-show.beehiiv.com/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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and I'm here to tell you, Josh Dean and I have a new podcast that celebrates the amazing creativity of the world's dumbest criminals. It's called Crimeless, a true crime comedy podcast. Listen on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, everybody, it's Michelle Williams, host of checking in on the Black Effect Podcast Network. You know, we always say New Year, New Me, but real change starts on the inside.

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I know he has a reputation, but it's going to catch up to him. Gabe Ortiz is a cop. His brother Larry, a mystery Gabe didn't want to solve until it was too late. He was the head of this gang. You're going to push that line for the cause.

Took us under his wing and showed us. the game, as they call it. When Larry's killed, Game Must Untangle a dangerous past, one that could destroy everything he thought he knew. Listen to the Brothers Ortiz on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts,

or wherever you get your podcasts. Who would you call if the unthinkable happened? I said, it was y'all 22 times. A police officer, right? But what do you do when the monster is the man in blue? This dude is the devil. He'll hurt you. This is the story of a detective

who thought he was above the law. until we came together to take him down. I said, you're going to see my face till the day that you die. Listen to the girlfriends, untouchable, on the I-Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. She said, Johnny, the kids didn't come home last night.

Along the Central Texas Plains, teens are dying, suicide. that don't make sense. Strange accidents and brutal murders. In what seems to be, a plot ripped straight out of breaking bad. Drugs, alcohol, trafficking of people. There are people out there that absolutely know what happened.

Listen to paper ghosts, the Texas teen murders, on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts. First date of follow-up. Powered by the Advocates, injury attorneys online at advocates law.com. Cole is on the phone today for a first date follow-up and he's getting ghosted by a woman

named Aria. So in a few minutes, we'll call her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him a second date. But first, Cole, how long has it been since you talked to Aria? Hey, guys. It's been a few weeks enough to where, you know, something's up for sure. And I'd like to know what's going on. Are you still thinking you like Aria or you just want to know what's up?

No, I mean, I definitely like her. Um, I thought there was a vibe and, you know, I, I, I, I, I just, I don't know what, what, like, did I do something this? You know, I don't know. I was trying to figure this off. Why don't you just tell us about the date then? Sure, yeah. Um, so we started at this wine bar, um, and it wasn't one of those pretentious places. Like, it actually was really super chill and vibey.

It had string lights on the ceiling and shelves of books everywhere and this little stage in the corner and there was actually a guy there playing acoustic covers um which is perfect because music's my kind of thing that's sort of what i do and so anyway we ordered a flight and aria didn't pretend to know all the wine turns which is cute and fun and she took a sip and said you know this one tastes like sadness and i started laughing because that's funny and you know she's funny like that doesn't try too hard and it was just like just a free flowing sort of vibe um then we get into like one of those conversations when you kind of don't expect on a first date. You know, we talked about our parents, about how we grew up, what we want out of our

life, you know, kind of deep stuff. She told me about traveling solo and how she's addicted to books. She can't finish. And I admitted, I still write songs in my notebook like a teenager because I'm a musician. And he didn't laugh at that. The bar town was closed and tabs and neither of us pretty much was moving. Like we were just kind of like just gazing, you know, kept talking to each other, leaning in.

Like there was no one around us. The room had disappeared. It was really sweet. She had this way of looking at me where, you know, I felt steam, you know. You don't get that too often, you know, if you're getting your best date, but, like, it's not easy out there. Do you think she felt the same way? I think so, for sure. There was an energy there.

If she wasn't liking it or feeling it, I assume she would have sort of, hey, I'm going to get late. I'm going. She didn't say that at all. Yeah. You know, she's different. She's sharp, you know, she challenges me. But she also has, like, this amazing stuff guy to her. um the way she listened it wasn't just small talk you know what i mean it was i don't know it just felt real

you like her yeah what could have gone wrong then it's a great question um i don't know at the end at the end of the date she said she suggested i don't know maybe heading back to my place which okay i wanted to but she had a few glasses of the wine and i didn't want anything to happen when we were both totally clear-headed. You know what I mean? We weren't very much. Like we had a few things. So we're like, we were just kind of buzzing and have a nice time. My mom raised me to respect women. So for me, I called it a night right there, you know. So maybe, I don't know, maybe she thinks I'm not really into her by doing that or if she's

embarrassed that I said no, I don't know. Women don't take it very well when they get turned down after asserting themselves, kind of. But we do love a respectful man. We do love a respectful man. So don't change that. But if she didn't understand. that's what was happening. Did you explain it to her? Did you say, sorry, I'm a respectful man.

I did say that. I text her the next day to see how she was feeling, and that's when she didn't respond. Cole is on the phone, and Cole is getting ghosted by Aria, so we're about to call her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him a second date,

but first, Cole, why don't you break down your date again for us one more time real quick? Yeah, so real quick, I mean, we went to this really cool wine bar, we were viving, we spent a couple hours there, You know, the bartender brother started check. We were still sort of gazing at each other, just having a great time, not in a rush to get out of there.

And then she sort of suggested, head back to her plate. But, you know, we would drink in. I wanted to be respectful. And I said, no, that's okay. I'm going to call it a night here. And so to me, maybe thinks, she thinks I'm not into her or she's embarrassed or whatever. But I text her the day after and she didn't respond. And it's been like ghost town ever since.

Okay. Well, are you ready for us to call her and see if she tell us why? Yes. All right. Here we go. Hello. Hi, may I speak to Aria, please? Yes, this is she.

Hey, Aria, how are you? This is a radio show. It's called The Jubal Show. Hi, Aria. My name is Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria. And my name is Jubal. How are you?

I'm a little confused. It's a radio show. It's called The Jubel Show. Have you ever listened to it? Um, I think, I feel like I've heard of it. Yeah. Okay. Well, we do a segment on the show that's called the first date follow up.

That's where if you go on a date with someone and you ghost them, that person can email us to ask you why you're ghosting them. And we got an email about you from somebody. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, any idea? You ghosting somebody, R. Um, um, is it Cole? Yes, it is cool.

I ghosted Cole. yeah do you mind telling us why um sure this is so strange um he sent me a song that i felt like was a trap he like wrote me a whole song about how he felt seeing me for the very first time and um he told you that we've been on one date right yeah um yeah it it was way too much it's like very love balmy thing all the right things like everything that you should say to get someone to fall fast and i it just felt so manipulative it felt so love balmy you didn't think it was sweet but somebody wrote you a song after meeting you okay let me hold on let me pull this up for you for a second you want to listen this lyric but he wrote for me okay your laugh lit the room like a spark

in the night one glass of red wine and everything felt right i don't need forever to know what i found with you aria my feet never touched the ground my feet never touched that's so lovebommy and kind of just like icky okay that's insane after like a couple hours together he sounds like an artist like he was just inspired by you have you been love bomb before are you do you feel like you're cautious about that type of behavior for a reason? I've definitely been love bomb before and so I know I'm very cautious, but I think I'm cautious for a reason because I think it's so easy to fall for love bombing because it just feels good and it feels like without seeming like a self-obsessed,

it's like, yeah, of course you'd like me, of course, I'm really great, you know, like me. But, you know, I think it was like it was very strong, very like, head over heels, my feet never touched the ground. Like, it's a good first date, but damn. You're funny. I mean, yeah. Can I jump in? Aria, Cole's on the phone listening and wants to talk to you.

Oh, my God. Hey, that song was me being honest. My mom raised me to believe women are goddesses. Like, I don't fake that stuff. You're doing it right now, though. Like, you're saying exactly what I'm supposed to want to hear to like make me think that you're like head over heels crazy about me and maybe he is though i know yeah so wait so treating you with respect is a problem i i didn't take you home because i

didn't want to cross the line that's not being you know manipulative i just this basic decency i thought well it's not just you think that like like makes you this saintly person i just suggested that we go back to yours because honestly it was like in the moment it felt right i felt like continuing the night. But that's just physical cold. That's not like love. That's not like love at first sight. And this, what you did with this song, it's so loaded. It's like so feelings heavy. Does that make sense? I mean, yeah, yeah, I don't, someone hurt you, obviously. And, and someone must have think a love song is turning you in a different direction or something. Like, that's not what this was about. Like, this is me being open and kind and vulnerable.

well guys i read you the short version i read you verse one okay there's more to that do you think you would have been more comfortable if he dedicated a song to you that already exists versus like writing one i don't know like maybe write the song but then maybe don't like give it to me until maybe we've seen each other a few more times and it's like i have to confess i wrote the song about the way that i felt about you after our first date like that would have been so romantic then let me prove that let me prove not all men are the same. I mean, I'm not asking for forever here. I just want a second date. No songs, this time, just off. Oh, my God. You just did it again. Would you like to go out with Coligan? We'll pay for it.

I mean, I like to hear that, are you? Oh, God, you just don't quit. But can you hear the way? And I'm, it's not even your fault. Like, you're an artist. I get it. I'm not happy for forever. Yeah, I think that if he can kind of like to style it back a little bit and not be so whashing poetic, I, I mean, you're asking me to change, like, who I am. They're asking me to change this core value of who I am. I can't do that. You know what I'm saying?

You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm into you, then I'm into you. And I'm not going to be bashful about it. I'm going to let you know, you know, and we had a moment that night and it was sweet. It was tender. It was pine. You know, I didn't want to go home with you. Obviously, I want to be respectful.

And I don't, you know what I mean? Like, this is what a gentleman does. and I think your smile is a scot sense and the sunset for that thing is beaming and I you know there's something here that makes you pull out this poetry in motion type stuff and you should be here you should know about it oh right maybe this is who he is I mean I think that this is who he is through and through it's hard to not hard to wonder you know has he spent that exact song to another girl and swapped out the name is this a move but like it just feels so performative, but maybe it's genuine.

I've written songs, but this one is specifically for you. This isn't for anybody else. This is what inspired me to write. I shared it with you. I'm not your typical, you know, musician you see on the corner of a street or playing at the bar. This is something wholesome. And I don't know how else to prove with you, but let me go out again. Let's try it again.

Let's go to a second date. And I'm not going to bring my guitar or see, this is real. At least giving out the chance, what do you have to lose? These guys are going to pay for it. Come on. good point very good point um sure yeah

yeah I can just kind of get to know each other on some real on a real level no guitar no notebooks don't write a poet an epic poem about you know my parking skills I would like that I would love to see that congratulations Cole you got another date

yay amazing amazing this is this actually was worth it thank you guys it's good and aria this is this is wonderful I'm excited to see you again and, you know, there is no flower in this world that is as budding as you are. Just know that.

Oh, wow. Oh, wow. Joubles' first date, follow-up. Have you ever listened to those true crime shows and found yourself with more questions than answers? Who catfishes a city? Is it even safe to snort human remains? Is that the plot of footloos?

I'm comedian Rory Scoville, and I'm here to tell you, Josh Dean and I have a new podcast that celebrates the amazing creativity of the world's dumbest criminals. It's called Crimeless, a true crime comedy podcast. Listen on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey everybody, it's Michelle Williams, host of checking in on the Black Effect Podcast Network. You know, we always say New Year, new me, but real change starts on the inside. It starts with giving your mind and your spirit the same attention you give your goals. And on my podcast, we talk mental health, healing, growth,

and everything you need to step into your next season, whole and empowered. New Year, Real You. Listen to checking in with Michelle Williams from the Black Effect Podcast Network on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. I know he has a reputation, but it's going to catch up to him. Gabe Ortiz is a cop. His brother Larry, the mystery Gabe didn't want to solve until it was too late.

He was the head of this gang. You're going to push that line for the cause? Took us under his wing and showed us the game, as they call it. When Larry's killed, Gabe must untangle the dangerous past, one that could destroy everything he thought he knew. Listen to the brothers Ortiz on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Who would you call if the unthinkable happened?

My sister was y'all 22 times. A police officer, right? But what do you do when the monster is the man in blue? This dude is the devil. He'll hurt you. This is the story of a detective who thought he was above the law until we came together to take him down. I said, you're going to see my face till the day that you die.

Listen to the girlfriends, untouchable, on the IHeart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. And she said, Johnny, the kids didn't come home last night. Along the central Texas plains, teens are dying. Suicides that don't make sense. Strange accidents and brutal murders. In what seems to be, a plot ripped straight out of Breaking Bad. Drugs, alcohol, trafficking of people. There are people out there that absolutely know what happened.

Listen to paper ghosts. The Texas Teen Murders on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. This is an IHeart podcast, guaranteed human.