First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Cole & Aria - Love Song or Love Bomb?

Episode Date: September 8, 2025

Cole thought his date with Aria was magical—deep conversations, wine bar vibes, and undeniable chemistry. But after one bold gesture, she completely ghosted him. Was it sweet and romantic… or way too much, too soon? In this First Date Follow-Up on The Jubal Show, we get Aria’s side of the story—and the truth might surprise you. Ever been ghosted after what you thought was an amazing date? Do you REALLY want that Second Date? The Jubal Show has your back! On First Date Follow Up, we track down the person who disappeared to get the real reason why. Awkward, hilarious, and sometimes downright shocking—First Date Follow Up delivers the truth, whether you want to hear it or not. Will there be a second date or just secondhand embarrassment? Subscribe to The Jubal Show's First Date Follow Up and find out! ➡︎ Get on The Jubal Show with your story - https://thejubalshow.com This is just a tiny piece of The Jubal Show. You can find every podcast we have, including the full show every weekday right here…➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com/podcasts The Jubal Show is everywhere, and also these places: Website ➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com  Instagram ➡︎ https://instagram.com/thejubalshow  X/Twitter ➡︎ https://twitter.com/thejubalshow  Tiktok ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@the.jubal.show Facebook ➡︎ https://facebook.com/thejubalshow  YouTube ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/@JubalFresh Support the show: https://the-jubal-show.beehiiv.com/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Listen to the hood politics with prop podcasts on the IHard Radio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. First day to follow up. Powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys. Online at Advocateslaw.com. Cole is on the phone today for a first day follow-up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named ARIA.

So in a few minutes, we'll call her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting and maybe get him a second date. But first, Cole, how long has it been since you talked to Aria? Hey, guys. It's been a few weeks, enough to where, you know, something's up for sure. And I'd like to know what's going on. Are you still thinking you like Aria or you just want to know what's up?

No, I mean, I definitely like her. I thought there was a vibe and, you know, it was a good night. I just, I don't know what's like to do something. I see something. You know, I don't know. I was trying to figure this off. Why don't you just tell us about the date then? Sure, yeah.

So we started at this wine bar, and it wasn't one of those pretentious places. Like, it actually was really super chill and vibey and had string lights on the ceiling and shells of books everywhere, and this little stage in the corner. And there was actually a guy there playing acoustic covers, which is perfect because music's my kind of thing. That's sort of what I do. So anyway, we ordered a flight, and Aria didn't pretend to know all the wine turns, which is cute and fun. She took a sip and said, you know, this one tastes like sadness. And I started laughing because that's funny.

And, you know, she's funny like that. It doesn't try too hard. And it was just like just a free-flowing sort of vibe. Then we get into like one of those conversations when you kind of don't expect on a first date. You know, we talked about our parents, about how we grew up, what we want out of her life, you know, kind of deep stuff. She told me about traveling solo and how she's addicted to books. She can't finish. and I admitted I still write songs in my notebook like a teenager because I'm a musician

and he didn't line about that. The barcdown was closed and tabs and neither of us pretty much was moving. Like we were just kind of like just gazing, you know, kept talking to each other and leaning in. Like there was no one around us. The room had disappeared. They were really sweet. She had this way of looking at me where, you know, I felt steam, you know. You don't get that too often, you know, if you're getting your best date, but like it's not easy out there.

Do you think she felt the same way? I think so for sure there was an energy there if she wasn't liking it or feeling I assume she would have sort of hey I'm gonna get late I'm gonna get going she didn't say that at all yeah you know she's different she's sharp you know she challenges me and but she also has like this amazing soft side to her um the way she listened there wasn't just small talk you know what I mean it was I don't know it just felt real you like her yeah what could have gone wrong then It's a great question.

I don't know. At the end of the date, she suggested, I don't know, maybe heading back to my place, which, okay. I wanted to, but she had a few glasses and the wine, and I didn't want anything to happen when we were both totally clear-headed. You know what I mean? We weren't very much, like, we had a few drinks. So we were like, we were just kind of buzzing and having a nice time.

My mom raised me to respect women. So for me, I called it a night right there, you know? So maybe, I don't know, maybe she thinks I'm not really into her by doing that or she's embarrassed that I said no, I don't know. Women don't take it very well when they get turned down after asserting themselves, kind of. But we do love a respectful man. We do love a respectful man, so don't change that. But if she didn't understand, that's what was happening.

Did you explain it to her? Did you say, sorry, I'm a respectful man. I did say that. I text her the next day to see how she was feeling, and that's when she didn't respond. And I want her to know how much the next. I meant to me, but after a couple more texts, I haven't heard of peep. I wonder if she feels like she embarrassed

herself. All right, well, we'll see if we can figure it out for you then. We'll play a song, come back, and then call her and see if she tells us why she's ghosting you and maybe get you a second date, okay? Oh, that's great. Thanks, gosh. Okay, we'll get your first day follow up next. Who cares about truth

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Listen to the Good Stuff podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Right in the middle of your first date and follow up, if you're just joining us, Cole is on the phone and Cole is getting ghosted by Aria. So we're about to call her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him a second date. But first, Cole, why don't you break down your date again for us one more time real quick? Yeah, so real quick, I mean, we went to this really cool wine bar. We were vibing. We spent a couple hours there. You know, the bartender brother started check.

We were still sort of gazing at each other, just having a great time, not in a rush to get out of there. And then she sort of suggested head back to her plate. But, you know, we would drink in. I wanted to be respectful. And I said, no, that's okay. I'm going to call it a night here. And so to me, maybe thinks, she thinks I'm not into her or she's embarrassed or whatever. But I text her the day after and she didn't respond.

And it's been like ghost town ever since. Okay. Well, are you ready for us to call her and see if she'll tell us why? Yes. All right. Here we go. Hello? Hi, may I speak to Aria, please?

Yes, this is she. Hey, Aria, how are you? This is a radio show. It's called The Jubal Show. Hi, Aria. My name is Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria. And my name is Jubal.

How are you? I'm a little confused. It's a radio show. It's called The Jubal Show. Have you ever listened to it? um i think i feel like i've heard of it yeah okay well we do a segment on the show that's called the first date follow-up that's where if you go on a date with someone and you ghost them that person can email us to ask you why you're ghosting them and we got an email about you from

somebody yeah yeah any idea you ghosting somebody are you ghosting somebody are um is it cole yes it is cool i ghosted cole yeah do you mind telling us why um sure this is so strange um he sent me a song that i felt like was a trap he like wrote me a whole song about how he felt seeing me for the very first time and um he told you that we've been on one date right yeah um yeah it it was way too much it's like very loved balmy sing all the right things like everything that you should say to get someone to fall fast and i it just felt so manipulative it felt so love balmy you didn't think it was sweet but somebody wrote you a song after meeting you okay let me hold on let me pull this up for you

for a second you have to listen this lyric but he wrote for me okay your laugh lit the room like a spark in the night one goal glass of red wine and everything felt right. I don't need forever to know what I've found with you, Aria, my feet never touched the ground. My feet never touched the ground.

That's so lovebommy and kind of just like, icky. Okay. That's insane. After like a couple hours together. He sounds like an artist like he was just inspired by you. Have you been love bomb before?

Are ya, do you feel like you're cautious about that type of behavior for a reason? I've definitely been love bomb before and so I know I'm very cautious but I think I'm cautious for a reason because I think it's so easy to fall for love bombing because it just

feels good and it feels like without seeming like a self-obsessed it's like yeah of course you'd like me of course I'm really great you know like me but you know I think it was like it was very strong very like head over heels

my feet never touched the ground like it was a good first date but damn you're funny I mean yeah Can I jump in? Ari Cole's on the phone listening and wants to talk to you Oh my God Hey that song was me being honest

My mom raised me to believe women are goddesses Like I don't think that stuff You're doing it right now though Like you're saying exactly what I'm supposed to want to hear To like make me think that you're like like head over heels crazy about me and maybe he is though i know yeah so wait so treating you with respect is a problem i i didn't take you home because i didn't want to cross the line that's not

being you know manipulative i just this basic decency i thought well it's not just you think that like makes you this saintly person i just suggested that we go back to yours because honestly it was like in the moment it felt right i felt like continuing the night but that's just physical cool that's not like love that's not like love at first sight and this what you did with this song it's so loaded it's like so feelings heavy does that make sense i mean yeah yeah i don't someone hurt you obviously and and someone's someone must have think a love song is turning you in a different direction or something like that's not what this was about like this is me being open and kind and vulnerable well guys i read you the short version i read you verse one okay that's

more of that. Do you think you would have been more comfortable if he dedicated a song to you that already exists versus like writing one? I don't know. Like maybe write the song but then maybe don't like give it to me until maybe we've seen each other a few more times. And it's like I have to confess I wrote the song about the way that I felt about you after our first date. Like that would be. That's a good idea. That would have been so romantic. Then let me prove that. Let me prove not all men are the same. I mean, I'm not asking for forever here. I just want a second date. No songs. This time just off. Oh my God. You just did it again. Would you like to go out

with Coligan? We'll pay for it. I mean, I like to hear that, are you? Oh, God, you just don't quit. Can you hear the way, and it's not even your fault. Like, you're an artist. I get it. I'm not happy for forever. Yeah, I think that if he can kind of like

to style it back a little bit and not be so laughing poetic, I could. I mean, you're asking me to change. like who I am they're asking me to change this core value of who I am I can't do that you know what I'm saying this is who I am I mean here's the thing

if I'm into you then I'm in to you and I'm not going to be bashful about it I'm going to let you know you know and we had a moment that night and it was sweet it was tender it was time you know I didn't want to go home with you obviously I want to be respectful and I don't you know what I mean like this is what a gentleman does

and I think your smile is a scott sense and the sunset and the sunset with that thing is beeman and I you know there's something here that basically pull out this poetry in motion type stuff and you should be here you should know about it oh right maybe this is

who he is I mean I think that this is who he is through and through it's hard to not hard to wonder if you know has he sent that exact song to another girl and swapped out the name is this a move but like it just

feels so performative but maybe it's genuine I've written songs but this one is specifically for you. This isn't for anybody else. This is what inspired me to write. I shared it with you. I'm not your typical, you know, musician you see on the corner of a street or playing at the bar.

This is something wholesome. And I don't know how else it grew with you, but let me go out again. Let's try it again. Let's go to a second day. And I'm not going to bring my guitar. See, this is real. At least giving out the chance, what do you have to lose? These guys are going to pay for it.

Come on. Good point. Very good point. Sure. Yeah. Yeah, she can just kind of get to know each other on some real, on a real level, no guitar, no notebooks, don't write a poet and epic poem about, you know, my parking skills. I would like that. I would love to eat.

Congratulations, Cole. You got another date. Yay! Amazing. Amazing. This is, this actually was worth it. Thank you guys. It's good.

And, Aria, this is wonderful. I'm excited to see you again. And, you know, there is no flower in this world that is as budding as you are. Just know that. Oh, wow. Oh, wow. Jubil's first date follow-up. Who cares about truth when the lives more entertaining?

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