First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - He's Moving in this First Date Follow Up!

Episode Date: June 14, 2022

First Date Follow Up is when we get an email from someone who went on a date and the other person isn't calling back. We get that other person on the phone to see why they're "ghosting".Matt is on the phone because he is not getting a call back from a woman who he went on a date with. It has been 2 weeks and has tried to contact the woman, Lara, about three times. Leave a rating and review wherever you listen. It will help the show out in a big way. If that's not your thing, you can find us on social media here:https://instagram.com/thejubalshowhttps://twitter.com/thejubalshowhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thejubalshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Listen to Decisions Decisions on the Black Effect Podcast Network, iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The Jubal Show on demand. First day follow-up. Matt is on the phone because he's not getting a call back from a woman he went on a date with that he said he really liked. Her name is Lara.

Before we find out about your date and why you think you're not getting a call back, first of all, how long has it been since your date, Matt? About two weeks. That's a bit of time. How many times have you tried to reach out to Lara within those two weeks? I reached out to her

three times and I'm really trying not to do a fourth time. Don't do it. She hasn't responded at all? No, it sucks because I really like her a lot. Your email was glowing about her.

Let's find out a little bit about Lara, shall we? Let's shall. What did you do for your date, first of all? How did you meet her? We met online, like most couples do nowadays and um we went to a you know pretty basic like dinner and a movie but uh yeah it was great honestly it was like probably the best

dinner date movie we had in my life it was like oh wow she's amazing like she's just like naturally beautiful she doesn't have to wear really any makeup. I really like girls that just don't have to get all dolled up. So you don't have to worry about her waking up in the morning on one of your pillows and then you seeing her face still on the pillow and not on her anymore. You're like, whoa, you wear a lot of makeup. No, not at all. I couldn't believe it was happening how how amazing she was we talked about um how much we both love hiking a lot um and we like

hiked all the same trails like we've already done before and i just thought like oh my god that'd be like amazing if we like could do it together and also we like, we both have twin siblings that are younger than us, which is like very hard to find. It's extremely rare. And we talk about that a lot. That would be weird. Like the same people. Yeah, obviously you had a connection and you liked the date a lot.

Well, why do you think you're not getting a call back then if you think it was such an amazing time? This could be two different reasons for it. I may be like, I overly shared too much. Just kept telling her how amazing she is over and over again. Maybe she felt uncomfortable by that. It's a little awkward.

You may have gushed a little too much. Cause it can be a little overwhelming if you gush too much like that right away. Anything else? Um, no, I mean, yeah, that's one thing. Um thing um we were at the one of the movies like i you know i felt like the dinner was kind of short and like i still wanted to know her and talk to

more so i did talk to her during the movie um and she seemed okay with it but but I got shushed a lot. You got shushed by people. That's so funny. People get so mad. I know. Well, it's such a no-no. It is. In public. It's annoying.

So you got shushed. So what did she do when you got shushed so you would not stop talking to her during the movie? You said she seemed okay with it. That's embarrassing. It is embarrassing. Did she also shush you? No. She just kind of laughed and smiled.

I mean, she was just perfect as usual but i don't know it could have maybe she was just being polite maybe it really did bother her she just didn't yeah she might have been annoyed okay yeah it might maybe i'm not i'm not sure i really i don't know okay like so i'm guessing there's other reasons how did everything end with her like did you if you ended it and she seemed obviously annoyed after the movie and shushed you again when you tried to say goodbye, obviously she was annoyed by that, but did it end okay? Yeah, it ended pretty good.

It was a nice tug and a kiss on the cheek, and it wasn't forced at all. It was very engaging, and it was good. I mean, I'm kind of, yeah, I have a pretty good radar. at all. It was very engaging and it was good. I have a pretty good radar if things were bad or if she was annoyed or frustrated. I'm really curious why she's not responding to you. Me too. We'll play a song, come back and then call her and see if we can figure out just how

annoying you are. Let's see if we can get you a date. We'll try to get you a date. We'll find out if you did annoy her or maybe tell her that you loved her on accident and you don't remember it. Okay, shh, shh, shh. We'll figure it all out. We can't get her on the phone. So play us on, come back, and we'll get your first day follow-up right after this, okay?

Okay. Let's do a real quick poll. Text in 41061 if you went on a date with someone to the movies and they kept talking to you the whole time during the movie, would you give them a second shot or would you walk out of the movie right there and let them finish it alone? Because it was really annoying to text that in right now. 41061. I say that because Matt is on the phone for a first date follow up today and he went on

a date with a woman named Lara. He really liked her a lot. They met online. He said that their connection was amazing. They both like to hike. They both have younger twin siblings, which is a weird thing to have in common, too. Overall, Matt seemed to really

be head over heels in love with Lara, right, Matt? Sounds like it. Okay, I mean, like, I didn't say that. I didn't say I love you, but I do really love her. Stage five. Clear alert. He thinks that she knew how into her he was,

and maybe he seemed a little over the top with that, scared her off a bit. Or the fact that he thinks he might have been annoying in the movie they went to because he wanted to talk to her so bad he couldn't stop talking to her. She didn't seem annoyed, but he did get shushed by the people around him,

which was embarrassing and might have highlighted the fact that, hey, you're being inconsiderate in talking to her in the movie. We're about to get her on the phone and see if we can figure out the reason, though. Here we go. I'm going to dial the phone right now. Hello? Can I speak to Lara, please?

Yeah, this is Lara. Lara, how are you? Who is this? That's a good question, too. My name is Jubal. Mine's Alex. Mine's English Evan. The Jubal Show is a radio show, and yours is Lara.

And you recently went on a date with someone that listens to our show, but now you're not calling them back. And they wanted us to call you today to see if we could figure out what the deal is. Oh, um, about me. Yeah. We do a thing on our show called the first date followup.

It's where if you go out on a date with someone and then end up ghosting them, they can email us to get you on the phone and ask what happened. You recently went on a date with a dude. His name is Matt. So are you not calling Matt back? Oh, uh, wow. Okay. Um, yeah. So first of all, we talked to Matt and he told us about your date. He said that he really liked you a lot. He thought you guys had a really good date. He

thought you guys both vibed. And then he said after though, he's had no response from you at all. Oh yeah, we did. We, I liked him a lot too, but... Oh, you did? I just don't know how it's going to work out though. He thinks that you're not calling him back because he likes you a lot and he might have shown you that too much and made you think that he's super clingy.

Or the fact that you guys went to the movies and he talked to you too much during the movie and got shushed by people. He thinks he might have been annoying to you. Is it either movie and got shushed by people he thinks he might have been annoying to you is it either one of those no it's not no okay please tell us i'm so excited it's not yeah i don't know what is it no no not at all matt's a great guy we went out we clicked i mean we we both have younger twin siblings for goodness sake i mean how often do you find somebody who really understands you and on on that level? Yeah. So that sounds like you guys have a lot of cool stuff in common,

you know, and it sounds like you also liked him a lot. I did. Oh my gosh. I don't know that I've clicked with anyone kind of on that level in a really, really long time. The deal breaker isn't with him, honestly. He's awesome and he's amazing, but the deal breaker is with me and I just don't want to get a broken heart. What does that mean? You know, I really could see myself liking him too much. What if it does work out?

I don't know how it could, I mean that's so confusing then why are you dating though because aren't you trying to find somebody that you vibe with like that you guys both vibe but you guys no no no it's not any of that it's just he told me that um he's had this dream job and he's been interviewing for it for a couple of months and um he's probably going to be moving across the country in a couple of months. And I just don't want to get into something with someone that I really like a lot. So you wouldn't be interested if you did just date for a little bit? And what if you guys vibe so much that you would move over there?

I can't do that. Why? I just got settled here. Is doing long distance not in the cards? I've done that before and it just didn't work out. I mean,

that would be hard. That would be tough. I can see why you'd be apprehensive about that and especially if it hasn't worked for you before. Yeah, and we've only had one date,

you know. Well, that sucks too because both of you guys seem to like each other a lot, you know well that sucks too because both you guys seem to like each other a lot you know and he said it and he's probably sitting there listening to this conversation because you don't even know that he's listening to the conversation but he is on the um on the phone right now listening and wants to talk to you and i'm sure he's thinking man this really sucks oh my gosh he's he's on the phone yeah i just sort of dropped that um casually and i should have made that a little more official so that you really knew it but yeah he's on the phone. Yeah, I just sort of dropped that casually,

and I should have made that a little more official so that you really knew it. But yeah, he's listening and wants to talk to you. Hey, hey, Lara. Hi, Matt. Now you know why I didn't call you back. I'm so sorry for ghosting you. It's okay, but...

I just don't want to get my heart broken, you know? That's okay, but... So, you really did like me, though? Oh, my gosh, yeah. Yeah, I really did, Matt. So, wait, Matt, did you get the job yet, or do you know? No, I don't know yet. I'm still in the interview process, so i did not get a job yet

i'm kind of hoping you don't get it this is your dream job right and you'd have to move yeah i mean i would have to move so i wish you would have told me how you felt um so we would have talked about it and but yeah and like he's not even sure if he's gonna get the job yet you know he might not have to move yeah i don't i don't know yet it's not it's not definite at all it was our first date matt and they really like you but you know i don't i don't want to take the chance of getting hurt that's all okay but like i understand but like if we do really really like each other i mean i think we should definitely explore that. And I don't, I mean, I do want this job, but like there's more to life than this dream job.

You could be like my new dream. Oh, yes, Matt. Have a reason I stay. So I don't, I could find something else. Well, I mean, that's awesome. I mean, the fact that you would be willing to even think about that shows a little bit of understanding and a little bit of wanting to definitely wanting to date you, Lara, and choose maybe you over a job. But the only way to find out is if you guys go out again. Lara, would you like to go out with Matt on another date?

We'll pay for it. I would love to. Oh, really you like to go out with Matt on another date? We'll pay for it. I would love to. Oh! Really? Really. Let's go. Yay! We did it!

Awesome. Thank you so much. Really appreciate it. I'm not going to talk in the movies anymore. This is great. I'm excited for you guys. That's awesome.

This could be the start of something special. I'm pretty excited, too. I really can't wait to see if this is going to special. I'm pretty excited, too. I really can't wait to see if this is going to work out. Yeah, us too. So we'll check in with you guys again, all right? We'll send you out on a date.

We'll check in with you guys again and see how it went. Okay. All right. Thank you, guys. All right. Thank you. Have a good day, guys. Hey, everyone.

It's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the homestretch, right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon. But we're also going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Catch Jon Stewart back in action on The Daily Show and in your ears with The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast. From his hilarious satirical takes on today's politics and entertainment to the unique voices of correspondents and contributors it's your perfect companion to stay on top of what's happening now plus you'll get special content just for podcast listeners like in-depth interviews and a roundup of the week's top headlines listen on the iheart radio app apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to Decisions Decisions, the podcast where boundaries are pushed and

conversations get candid. Join your favorite hosts, me, Weezy WTF, and me, Mandy B, as we dive deep into the world of non-traditional relationships and explore the often taboo topics surrounding dating, sex, and love. Every Monday and Wednesday, we both invite you to unlearn the outdated narratives dictated by traditional patriarchal norms. Tune in and join the conversation. Listen to Decisions Decisions on the Black Effect Podcast Network, iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.