First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - He's not ghosting, he's just a really good friend!

Episode Date: October 8, 2021

Jill doesn't know why Ben isn't returning a call after an "amazing date." The Jubal Show finds out Ben is just a really good friend the truth in this First Date Follow Up gone right!Let us know what you think on social!Follow us at: @thejubalshow @jubalfresh @thatdreas @evanontheradioSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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sex, and love. Every Monday and Wednesday, we both invite you to unlearn the outdated narratives dictated by traditional patriarchal norms. Tune in and join the conversation. Listen to Decisions Decisions on the Black Effect Podcast Network, iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. First date follow-up. Jill is on the phone today for a first date follow up And she met a guy named Ben Well Ben isn't calling Jill back And she doesn't know why

Apparently they met while they were out with Separate groups of friends You know how that goes Groups of friends are out They're partying And then one person locks eyes with the other person's friend group And then they just kind of both disappear And then everybody's like

Where did Jill go? Where did Ben go? I don't know And then they're over by They're dancing Oh That's how they at least started to meet. Jill, thank you very much for your email. I'm sorry. They're not getting a call back from Ben. Before we get into your actual date, how long has it been since you guys went out? Um, it's been a week. And how many times have you tried to get ahold of him in that week?

Uh, I don't know, like a few. I, I really want to know what I did wrong. Okay. All right. So let's find out just the basics then about Ben. What are the basics of Ben? Um, I mean, he seems like really nice. Uh, you know, we, um, we met at a local bar. So like, I don't know, I went out with my friends and he was there with his friends. Which one of you came up to who and started talking first uh he did which like I was really happy about because I definitely liked the way he looked you know all right after meeting there he asked you out or this is the date you're talking about like yeah pretty much we were talking for a long time and then he asked if I wanted to come back to the same spot in a couple

days but like just the two of us and have drinks and food and just like chill oh okay so how was that date I thought it was amazing like it was just relaxed it was so easy like to talk to him but now he's not calling me back so I guess it wasn't that good you said how it's been how long since you heard from him I mean like a week is like, I don't know. It's like frustrating because he's literally the perfect guy for me. Oh, wow. Okay. Wow.

After one date, you know that he's perfect. Wow. So how did the date end then? Did you guys kiss at all? He said that we should, you know, he gave me like, we should do this again sometime. And he gave me a really nice little kiss on the cheek, which I like. I like that he didn't like try to go in for it right away after the first date. It was really good.

Like, I mean, we just like ordered some basic like appies and stuff. And, um, just like, he even set the tone right away. Like, Hey, I just want this to be chill. Like, you seem super nice. I just want to get to know you. And I was just like, perfect. You know, it's not somebody who's trying to put on this big show for me and pretend to be this, you know, rock star or something.

He just legit wanted to get to know each other. So, you know, like I ended up finding out where he went to school and found out he loves dogs. You know, like the fun stuff that you want to get to know about somebody, you know? Well, I mean, it sounds like you had a really great time. So was there like any point in the night, though, that you think that it seemed awful? No, that's just it. Like, that you think that it seemed awful? No, that's just it. Like,

that's why I'm so, I don't know. That's why I'm so confused, like a little hurt too. Cause I usually have a decent radar for like, if a date's not going well. Right. And like,

if he's completely ghosting you, then that's a clear, obvious sign that something happened. Sounds like it. Yeah. Right. Like, I'm actually like super freaked out

where I'm like, oh my God, were you a cheater? Were you just in town for like, and like, I hope not. I'm just also like, ah, just God, I just want to know what's going on. I know, because usually it's not that though. Usually it is whatever somebody that, you know, the person did.

Right, and you can't think of anything that was like awkward or anything that could have ruined the date for you. Any reason that he would be ghosting you? No. I mean, unless he thought that I was like talking too much about myself, but I feel like the conversation was balanced.

I don't know. This is the thing about the dating world that like drives single people crazy because then you're just, if you get ghosted or you don't have follow-ups and you're just paranoid and then you self-analyze to the nth degree. And how did the date end?

Like it was the first date. I actually appreciated it. He didn't go crazy. Like, he said, we should do this again sometime. And he gave me, like, a nice little kiss on the cheek, you know, which I thought was classy. Kiss on the cheek. Did you guys make plans to go again?

Like, hey, we should do this again sometime. That kind of a feel to it? Okay. So he didn't just bounce and then that was it? Right. Okay, well, we'll play a song, come back, and then we'll call him and see if we can figure out why he's ghosting you, okay?

Okay, yeah. Thank you, guys. Yeah, we'll do it right after this. We'll continue the first date follow-up next. It's the Jubal Show. If you're just joining us for today's first date follow-up, Jill is on the phone, and Jill is being ghosted by a guy named Ben. It's been about a week.

She's tried to text him a few times. She's heard nothing since they met. They met while they were both out at a bar with separate groups of friends. And they spotted each other. They talked. And then they actually had a date at that same bar. And Jill said it was an amazing date for her. She thought he was awesome.

And now he's not calling her back. And she has no idea why. I'm going to call him right now then. you ready I'm ready I just wanna get this figured out here we go let's do it hello I may speak to Ben, please. Yeah, speaking. Who's this? My name is Jubal from The Jubal Show.

And mine's Alex from The Jubal Show. And your name is Ben. Whoa. I won a prize or something? We're calling you because it's a first date follow-up. So you went on a date with someone, and now you're not calling them back. And they emailed us to figure out what happened. Do you know who we're talking about? Yes, I do. I know exactly who you're not calling them back and they emailed us to figure out what happened do you know who we're talking about yes i do i know exactly what you're talking about okay does her name happen to be jill it happens to be jill correct how come you ghosted her oh man you know it's it

was kind of hectic you know i've been uh been dealing with, you know, it's been real rough. I feel bad about it, but I've been going through, you know, some hard things lately. Yeah, it's been rough. What do you mean by that, though? Like, did something happen after you guys' date? Yes. It had nothing to do with her. Nothing at all.

So did you like Jill? Yeah, of course. I liked Jill. Okay. She was very, very cool. I liked her a lot. She's beautiful, too. Okay. So then what was the reason, though, that you couldn't just tell her that you couldn't see her again instead of ghosting her?

I mean, you know, this is the thing. You know, my best friend, he cheated on his girlfriend. So I've been dealing with that like all week, you know, trying to hang out with him and make sure, you know, he feel better trying to help him out. And what? She left him or what? I mean, yeah, but see, the issue was I'm pretty much friends with the both of them. So I've been, you know, on both sides here, you know. Oh, okay. So you're like the middleman in between him

and the girlfriend you cheated on. Well, who are you closer with? I mean, he's my best friend. Okay, but like, if you really like jill though like how come you didn't text her back yeah why aren't you talking to her still i mean to be honest i felt like i let things go too far like i had a lot on my plate and i definitely like jill a lot but i feel like i just let things go on for too far. And now she might not text me back or hit me back up. I think I let it go too far.

That's why. So you think you were like too busy trying to deal with the situation that you were dealing with. So you were unavailable to hit Jill back up after she texted you or whatever. And now you feel like it's just been too long. Yeah, I let too much time pass.

So I feel like, you know. How long was it? How long was it until you felt like it's just been too long yeah i let too much time pass so i feel like you know how long was it how long was it until you felt like you wanted to text her back um i wanted to text her back the whole time but it was like after after about a week and you know i didn't respond i just like yeah she's probably moved on and forgot about me you know forgot about you she texted you yeah a few times and you didn't respond so like is there anything else for real i mean yeah you know she uh she sent me a text i was gonna text her back but then my friend my best friend he just wouldn't shut up so i was dealing with his situation and i had intentions on texting her back but time passed and i you know took a

long time to text her back and i just felt like she just moved on from there, and she might not respond if I text her back. So I just let it go. But I definitely wanted to. We just, you know. Okay. So you just felt like it was too long, and she was going to think you weren't into her,

so you just didn't text at all, which you really would think you're not into her. Yeah, it was awkward. I didn't text at all, which you really would think you're not into her. Yeah, it was awkward. I didn't really know what to do. Well, I didn't want to bother. You know what else is awkward? What's that? I don't know if you forgot or not, Ben, how these work, but Jill is actually on the phone and wants to talk to you.

What? Oh, my God. Are you serious? Yep. Jill, are you still there? Hey, how's it going? Hey, what's going on? I, my God. Are you serious? Mm-hmm. Yep. Jill, are you still there? Hey, how's it going? Hey, what's going on? I'm so sorry. Like, I'm really sorry I didn't text you back.

I'm so sorry. It's okay. I mean, that sucks about your friends and the whole cheating thing. It sounds like it's been hard. Yeah, yeah, it's okay. I've been, you know know put in the weird position and you know after a few days went by i was nervous about you know texting you because i didn't you know i thought too much time went past and i didn't want to you know bother you you know yeah i mean i get that but

like no i definitely would have answered i mean i had an amazing time on the date and I really like you actually. Yeah, me too. I like you a lot. I like you a lot. I mean, like should we go out again then? That's like the one thing that I know that I can do well in this segment and you just tried to steal my sunshine. Just do it, sunshine.

I know. I'm sorry. I'm excited. Thank you. Ben, would you like to go on another date with Jill? We'll pay for it. What? I would love to. Oh, really? Yes.

Yeah. Oh, my God. I'm so excited. Yay. Congratulations. Yo, thank you so much. I appreciate it. Hey, Ben, do me a favor, okay?

Like, congratulations, both you guys. Jill, congratulations. You got your second date. You found out that it wasn't anything with you. It was just Ben overthinking things, way overthinking things. It would be weird, though. I would think that he has a girlfriend or something. Yeah.

So I think congratulations, Jill. You got your date. Yay. And Ben, you definitely overthink situations for sure. I've been told that my whole life. My whole life. Since I was a kid, I was always told that. Like, you way over thought that, man. Like, you could have texted her back, like,

two days later and seen how it went, but instead you just gave up because you assumed it was too late texting her back. And Ben, you know what? You need to work on the confidence a little bit, I think. Yeah. Yeah, because I wanted to text her, but I didn't know what to say, you know, because time passed.

And it was like, I didn't just want to pop up like, hey, remember me? I'm such and such, you know. It was less than a week. So you got to like work on your confidence a little bit. And I'm going to I'll tell you the first step, OK, because confidence is attractive. People like confidence. Absolutely. So I'll give you the first step today

to creating a more confident Ben. I appreciate that. I appreciate it. I want you, after this phone call, I want you to go straight to whatever drugstore is near you. Okay.

I want you to find the deodorant aisle. Okay. And I want you to pick yourself up some Old Spice Swagger. Old Spice Swagger? Swagger, yeah. Okay. Because you need you to pick yourself up some Old Spice Swagger. Old Spice Swagger? Swagger, yeah. Okay. Because you need a little bit more swag.

Because you need a little bit more swag. Start with the Old Spice Swagger. Then wear your own swag after that. Okay. I might have to try that. You know the acts where the girls can't keep their hands off from the commercials? Yeah, Axe Body Spray. There you go.

Yeah. I saw that commercial a lot. Yeah. No, no axe. Okay. Jill doesn't want any axe, so don't get the axe body spray. I'm glad you let me know because I was going to grab it. Okay.

Sorry for recommending. Congratulations, you guys. Thank you so much. I appreciate it. Jubal's First Date Follow-Up. Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the homestretch right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question. I'm bringing in some

FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon. But we're also going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast. Join late night legend John Stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines, exclusive extended interviews and more. Now this is a second term we can all get behind. Listen to The Daily Show Ears Edition on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Welcome to Decisions Decisions, the podcast where boundaries are pushed and conversations get candid. Join your favorite hosts, me, Weezy WTF, and me, Mandy B, as we dive deep into the world of nontraditional relationships and explore the often taboo topics surrounding dating, sex, and love. That's right. Every Monday and Wednesday, we both invite you to unlearn the outdated narratives dictated by traditional patriarchal norms. With a blend of humor, vulnerability, and authenticity, we share our personal journeys navigating our 30s, tackling the complexities of modern relationships, and engage in thought-provoking discussions that challenge societal expectations. From groundbreaking interviews with diverse guests to relatable stories that will resonate

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