First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - How did confidence affect their First Date??

Episode Date: January 4, 2023

First Date Follow Up is when we get an email from someone who went on a date and the other person isn't calling back. We get that other person on the phone to see why they're "ghosting".They say confidence is key, but it is hard to be confident in the dating world sometimes. And confidence might be an issue and the reason one of our listeners is not getting a call back from someone who they went on a date with!Leave a rating and review wherever you listen. It will help the show out in a big way. If that's not your thing, you can find us on social media here:https://instagram.com/thejubalshowhttps://twitter.com/thejubalshowhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thejubalshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Margo is on the phone today for a first day follow-up, and she's not getting a call back from a dude named Alan. Oh, man. Margo, thank you for your email. Hopefully, we can find out why and get you another date. How long has it been since the last time you talked to alan it's been about six days six days all right and how many times you tried to reach out to him in that six days well i you know i kind of was waiting for him to reach out to me i mean we were planning let's just here's the thing we met um we met when uh we were rock climbing We were at a rock climbing gym.

Oh, I love that. And we were having a lot of fun. Yeah, it was great. I love it. It's so much fun. Oh, my God, if you haven't tried it, you have to. So we met at the rock climbing gym, and, you know, I've been doing this a while. I kind of get a little competitive, and we were just, you know, going up and down and trying to outdo each other and everything.

And, you know, it kind of got flirty after a while and we're both you know turns out you know we kind of started talking and we're both active people turns out which is something i really love and a guy like i i'm sorry i can't stand a guy that just sits on the couch and you know watches football sorry i need to be able to get out and you know do stuff yeah and um it's just something that's part of what i do and so he actually asked me out and we went to get this this is so much fun we went to an ice carving class together whoa that's cool oh that's awesome it was really fun and we were again you know the two of us who were kind of competitive about it but we worked together and honestly we worked together to really suck at ice carving we were kind of like okay how

bad can we make our ice carving how bad could we make it look it was great i mean it was it was just fun you know we just had a lot of fun and um so after that we went out for drinks and you know got a little more flirty i mean the thing that's nice is like, he's not just overly overbearing or he just like, he kind of goes with the flow, you know, he's fun. He's just somebody that is like laid back, but likes to have a good time. Um, no pressure about anything, you know, it's just like, hello, one of the good guys, you know what I mean? Um, and we, yes. Okay. We went back to his place, had a lot of fun, but we ended up talking till like three or four in the morning, and we were talking about a second date, and I was super excited, and

you know, I thought it would be great to, you know, we're starting to plan, maybe have a, you know, another date, and that was six days ago, and I haven't heard from him, and I'm like, I don't get it, because I thought that we really hit it off, and it was fun, and we were just going and doing, and now I'm just like, okay, what the heck happened? Okay. And you don't know why he's ghosting you? You can't think of why? I mean, okay, so here's the thing.

During rock climbing and ice sculpting, I kind of, like I said, I kind of get competitive, and I kind of beat him up to the top of the wall. And I, I don't know, I, maybe he felt emasculated. I don't know. I just, I just, cause I was, I, when I get out and when I'm in the middle of doing stuff, it's like, I go all out, you know, I'm not like, Oh yes, you can handle it and you can do better than me. No, it's like, if I'm going to do something, I'm going to have fun and do it and just go all out. And I don't know if that was too much for him. I don't know. Obviously, you guys were vibing.

If you guys were talking until like 3, 4 in the morning, I love good vibes. But maybe he wanted, maybe he expected something else, you know, because you did say you guys like kind of went to the back to the house. And maybe you guys were just having so much conversation. And he was like, are we going to actually do it? Did he try to put a move on you or anything? Do you think he was trying to have some adult time? You know, he wasn't, like I said, one of the things I really liked about him

is he wasn't pushy in any way like that. I think he was kind of trying to follow my lead and I was just having a really good time just talking and having fun. And, you know, so I don't know. I know I'm like again whole emasculated thing I don't know if that's part of it is that he didn't feel like I don't know that's what I'm trying that's why I called you guys man I want to find out what's going on because he's a really nice guy yeah I mean you know maybe he was just wanting a little bit more and you were just there vibing out yeah that might yeah okay fair yeah

well we'll see we'll see if we can figure it out for you we'll play a song come back and then call him and ask him why he's not calling you back and then see if we can get another date for you if you want one after you hear the reason cool all right cool play a song come back do your first date follow-up next right in the middle of our first date follow-up if you're just joining us margo is on the phone and she's not getting a call back from a guy named Alan that she went on a date with and she has no idea why. Bummer. They went to an ice carving class together, which sounds fun. I just want to say that's probably one of the most unique slash fun dates we've ever heard of.

Yeah, it really is. Yeah. I want to go to an ice carving class. Me too. Because I've always wanted to make an ice sculpture of myself. But then when you think about that you're in like a room with strangers and chainsaws, I'm not sure how I feel about that.

She said the date was awesome. They went back to his place. They had a really fun time back at his place, but not like that kind of fun time. They talked, and that was fun. The vibe was fun, but the other fun stuff that you can do at a house didn't happen. Netflix and chill without the chill.

Exactly. And one of the reasons that Margo thinks she might not be getting a call back is because maybe his pride was a little hurt because she met him at a rock climbing gym and she was a little bit better than he is. And one of the reasons that we speculated on is maybe when they went back to his place, he was expecting a little more than just talking. And maybe he was a little disappointed, but we have no idea. So we're about to call him and see if we can figure it out. All right, Margo, anything else you want to add before we call Alan? No, that about covers it. That about covers it. All right. I'm going to call him right now. Here we go.

Hello? Hey, may I speak to Alan, please? This is? What's up, Alan? How are you? This is The Jubal Show. It's a radio show, and my name is Jubal. My name is Bennett.

I'm Christian Gray-Snow. And Victoria. Hello. Good morning. Hello. Good morning. Hello. Good morning. How are you? I'm okay. I'm confused. Well, we're calling you because we do a segment on our show. It's called the First Date Follow-Up.

That's where if you go out on a date with someone and you end up ghosting them, that person can email us to get you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them. And we got an email about you from somebody that you've been out with recently. Yeah. Okay.

All right. Well, uh, I'm not confused anymore. All right. Do you know who that person is? Have you been on a few dates or? Yes.

I, yeah, that is a, that is a lovely person named Margo. Oh, correct. Margo emailed us and told us that you're not calling her back

and she's trying to get a hold of you. It's been about six days now and she doesn't know why you're ghosting her so that's why we're on the phone. So, yeah, no, we went out. We met while climbing. We headed off. We then did ice carving.

Had a great time. Margo is great. She, like I said, is lovely. But for our next date, she suggested we should go ice skating because it's that time of year, you know? And, hey, we did ice carving. Now let's go ice skating. I can't ice skate. I have no idea how to ice skate.

And I know that's a stupid reason to not call her back. Wait, you're not calling her back because you don't know how to ice skate? Yeah, so here's the deal. I'm super embarrassed about this, and I know that sounds pathetic, but here's the deal. She's already outdone me twice with both rock climbing and ice carving, and I'm like oh man like i i she's just gonna think i'm a total loser like we're gonna i can't skate i'm gonna fall on the

butt um my ego is definitely uh stopping this i can't tell her that i don't know how to skate and i don't want to go and make a fool of myself so uh what's wrong with making a fool of yourself i've made a living off it. Cha-ching! I mean, we don't know each other all that well, and I'm still trying to make a great impression on her, and I definitely don't want her to be like, oh, wow, this guy can't do anything all that well. So I'm just hiding instead. I definitely think you're getting in your own way,

because she's the one that wanted another date and also maybe she likes having a man who she can beat at everything she does. Maybe you're in the right place. I'm just embarrassed. I feel stupid about it all but I don't really want to own up to

not being good or at least not even being able to do yet another thing. Why chance losing a potential life mate and life partner with the fact, because y'all are clearly bonding and you're into each other. Like y'all have had fun. You're going to let all that go because you're nervous about busting your booty a couple of times in front of her.

You know, it's not worth it. I mean, it's not, it's not like I don't like Margo or anything. I just, I just can't do it. I can't, I can't skate. I don't want to own up to it. I'm just, I mean, it's not like I don't like Margot or anything. I just can't do it. I can't skate.

I don't want to own up to it. I'm just... You don't want to own up to it. I know. I know. That sounds stupid. I know. But...

I mean, I guess you could... I mean, you could talk to her about it. Yeah. I mean, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I could totally talk to her. Yes, I could.

But now, at this point, it's just awkward. And we've only been out on... I just don't know how to even broach things now. I know how you can, like, at this point, like, it's just awkward, and, like, we've only been out on, like, I just, I just don't know, like, how to even approach things now. I know how you can do it, Alan. How? You can just talk to her, because she's actually on the phone listening and wants to talk to you. Boop! Surprise! Hi.

Hi. Okay, first of all, I think you're adorable. Aw. Hi, Margo. did you uh first of all i think you i think you're adorable oh um hi margo um so i get it i get it you don't know how to do something and you're a guy sorry guys so i you know i think let's just you know i suck at stuff too thank you for thank you for for for being so understanding about this. Obviously, if I would have just told you that I don't know how to ice skate, we wouldn't even be talking about this. I feel like a dummy. I get it.

Yes. So let's, I mean, we can go and do something else, whatever you want to do. I'm totally open for it. I really appreciate you. I appreciate that. But now we're on a radio show talking about how I was embarrassed, and now you're trying to coax me into doing something else, and I feel like I'm never going to get out of this embarrassment. Now we're here.

Like, isn't it weird that I ghosted you and you were so upset about me ghosting you that you reached out to a radio show. Now we're here going over this and I just feel like now we've hit a next level of awkwardness and weirdness because of this. Not that we didn't have fun. Again, you're lovely. We had a great time. I mean, you seemed like, I don't know, you seemed really cool on our date and I thought that this was,

we'd at least have another one that'd be fun. Alan, would you like to go on another date with Margo? We'll pay for it. Oh, man. You said she was lovely. Alright, alright. I am sorry. Yeah, I just can't, I can, I just can't.

I can't. This is just all too meta, next level Truman Show now. I am so sorry. I can't. I definitely can't go on a date now, even if it's not ice skating.

This is all just too... I'm sorry. No. No. Oh my gosh. I wasn't expecting this. Um, this is all just to, I'm, uh, I'm sorry. No, no. Oh my gosh. I wasn't expecting that. All righty then. Actually.

Okay. You know what? You know what? I will. Let's do it. Fine. I'll do it. Let's go on the date.

I have changed my mind. Uh, let's go on another date. Uh, don't be better than me at whatever we do. And make me feel like a douche and we'll go on another date. So, alright. So, you know what? Let's go and do it and just be a little more

confident and decisive and we'll just go and do what you want to do. I'm fine doing what you want to do. Let's go. Great, great, great. And we're going to bring the whole radio show with us to encourage me. Absolutely. Okay, perfect.

Oh, my God. Let's do it. All right, all right. You've asked for it. I am really bad, but this is on you. I will be the fool making uh making you look terrible but great let's oh no you're gonna be awesome you're gonna be awesome you'll see all right you can see all right let's let's make it happen yay the. The Jubal Show on demand.

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Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show, ears edition podcast. Join late night legend Jon Stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines, exclusive extended interviews, and more.

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professional sports. I'm Tisha Allen, former golf professional, and the host of Welcome to the Party, your newest obsession about the wonderful world that is women's golf featuring interviews with top players on tour tips to help improve your swing and the craziest stories to come out of your friendly neighborhood country club welcome to the party with tisha allen is an iheart women's sports production in partnership with deep blue sports and entertainment listen to welcome to the party that's P-A-R-T-E-E,

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