First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - How many different things can you learn from a first date!?

Episode Date: February 3, 2023

First Date Follow Up is when we get an email from someone who went on a date and the other person isn't calling back. We get that other person on the phone to see why they're "ghosting".After a first date Allison isn't getting a call back from Json and she doesn't know why! Let's just say we learn a little information about her, and even more information about him in another exciting First Date Follow Up! Leave a rating and review wherever you listen. It will help the show out in a big way. If that's not your thing, you can find us on social media here:https://instagram.com/thejubalshowhttps://twitter.com/thejubalshowhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thejubalshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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And most of all, I help people every single day. Listen to the Ghost Therapy Podcast on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The Jubal Show on demand. First date follow-up. Allison is on the phone today for a first date follow-up, and she's not getting a call back from Jason. She went on a date with Jason and now nothing.

Allison, thank you for your email. Before we get into the date and everything, how long has it been since you went out with Jason? Yeah, it's been a couple of days now. Have you tried to reach out to him at all? I have. I mean, I've sent him a couple of text messages just, you know, asking how he was and I haven't heard anything back. Nothing at all. Okay. Tell us about the date first. What'd you guys do? Well, we went to dinner and then to a movie and I mean, I thought both went really well.

I just, you know, I just want to know why he's not getting back to me. It seemed like we had a lot in common. You know, we're both going through this, like, transition period with our lives and our jobs, and it really felt like we were able to understand each other. So I'm just at a loss. Okay. Well, why do you think he might be ghosting you? I mean, there was a little incident that happened after the movie ended, and I think maybe that's why he isn't getting back. Okay. But I don't know. I mean, at the

same time, it was a personal problem. Okay. You don't want to tell us what it was? So my brother and I had a really bad falling out, and as we were walking out of the theater, I see him. So I, you know, I told Jason to wait and I went over to talk to my brother and it ended up becoming this heated argument. And I walked back over to Jason and I was just super annoyed by it. I really wasn't hiding anything at all. And it ended up really affecting me. Oh, okay. So, I mean mean that's awkward

to happen on a date I mean that's more than just a little incident you got into a fight with your brother you haven't talked to in a while did you tell him that like hey sorry that was really personal incident for me like I'm sorry that it made me annoyed or upset or anything like that I didn't you know he tried to ask me about it because again I really wasn't I wasn't hiding it I was so annoyed and um and I just I couldn't even tell him because in my mind too at the same time I'm like this is too much to get into for someone that I just started seeing and and I just I didn't want to make it more awkward than it was so I just felt like I just needed to not talk about it then okay um but now he hasn't even given me a chance to talk about it.

So I don't know. Did you clarify to him that it was like your brother or someone in the family? Because I'm wondering like if he thinks it was like you had a random run in with an ex and then it kind of got a little messy. I didn't think about that. Oh, yeah. Yeah, I didn't. I didn't even think about that. I feel like I definitely should have. I didn't. I didn't clarify who about that. I feel like I definitely should have.

I didn't. I didn't clarify who it was. I just, yeah, he just saw me randomly arguing with this guy, and that's definitely what he could have thought. Oh, my gosh. Yeah. Even if he didn't think it was an ex, I mean, I understand you were upset, and rightfully so, but that would be super, super confusing to, like,

have a good date and then like you argue with someone you don't recognize and then you don't really get any clarity as to what it was. That would probably, I would probably be thinking that way.

So maybe that's it. Oh, I hope not. I wish I could just talk to him about it so we can clarify just everything. Now I feel really bad. Well, I feel like also

if he was just like a decent guy and at least like text you back, then you'd be able to clarify it though. Whatever happened to coming up with a good lie? Exactly. I'm moving.

How did the date end? I died. Sorry. How did the date end? Yeah. I feel like I at least deserve something. Even if it is just he moved or he died, I guess. But yeah.

I'm going to start doing that from now on. If people I don't want to talk to will be like, sorry, I died. How did it end? How did the date end? It seems cool, but I guess maybe he was just trying to be nice and make light of the rest of the date. But I don't know.

For me to feel like I don't deserve to be ghosted, I felt like it at least ended on a good note. Okay. Even with the argument happening. Oh, okay. Yeah. Well, we'll see if we can figure it out for you.

We'll play a song, come back, and then call him and see if we can find out why he's ghosting you and see if we can get you another date if you still want one

after you hear why. Okay. Well, we'll get your first date follow-up next. If you're just joining us for today's first date follow-up, Allison is on the phone. She went out

with a guy named Jason and now she's getting ghosted. It's been a few days. She's heard nothing. She said first date follow-up. Allison is on the phone. She went out with a guy named Jason and now she's getting ghosted. It's been a few days. She's heard nothing. She said the date went very well. They bonded over a lot of things and she thought it was great. They just went to the movies and stuff but there was a moment where they were walking outside

and she saw her brother who she hasn't seen in years and they had a terrible falling out so she walked over to talk to her brother and then ended up arguing with him and then went back and talked to Jason. And just to clarify, Allison, you didn't tell him that it was your brother that you were arguing with? No, I didn't.

I didn't give him any details. Yeah. So we're thinking maybe he thought that was an ex or something and that's why he's been ghosting her. But we don't know. And the date ended and Allison said it seemed like the guy she went out with, Jason, was just being nice and didn't really want to see her again. And we'll see if that dramatic situation is the thing that turned him off or something else. I'm going to call him right now.

Are you ready, Allison? Yes, I'm ready. All right. Here we go. Hello? Hey, may I speak to Jason, please? Yeah, this is him. Hey, what's up, man? This is Jubal from The Jubal Show.

It's a radio show. And Victoria from The Jubal Show. And Christian Grace Nose, surprise, also from The Jubal Show. Okay. How are you? I'm all right. What's going on? Calling you because we do a segment on our show called The First Day Follow-Up.

It's where if you go out on a date with somebody and then end up ghosting them, they can email us to get you on the phone and ask why you've been ghosting. And we got an email about you from one of our listeners that you went out with. Oh, okay. Yeah, I think I know. Okay. Who do you think it is? Uh, I'm going to guess it's Allison. You're good at guessing. It's Allison. Yeah. So she emailed us and told us about your date. She said she really likes you, but you have, but you ghosted her and she doesn't know why. So that's why we're on the phone. Do you mind telling us why? Sure.

So we went on a date and went to the movies, and it was fun, it was cool, we had a good conversation. She's very attractive and very nice and cool. The thing is, right after the movies and afterwards, she saw somebody and she kind of excused herself, and I kind of excused herself. And I kind of just, you know, minding my business. I was on my phone and she got really heated in this conversation and went on for quite a bit. And I mean, it went on for a while.

She didn't come back and check in with me at all. I was actually just going to leave right there because I felt like it was a very serious conversation. She told us about that. She said that that happened. She went and talked to somebody and it might have been awkward. So. It was super awkward.

Yeah, it was ridiculous. And I was, you know, listen, I understand everyone's got their own history and stuff, but I didn't want to get involved in some like weird love triangle or some weird ex and, you know, and I, and that's what I assumed it was. It's kind of, you know, I kind of gave her an opportunity. I asked her and she just didn't really share anything. So I kind of took it as like, well, she doesn't want to have that kind of conversation right now. So then she doesn't feel like she needs to explain anything. So I thought, well,

this is the type of girl that's going to kind play it that way that's some drama and baggage i don't want you know so do you think uh who do you think it was she was talking to i i mean i would assume the way they were talking to each other it had to be an ex someone maybe that just broke up to and then i was thinking oh we went to this movie theater and we went on this date but she's fighting with her ex. Like, clearly she wants to use me maybe. Oh, I didn't know.

Like, yeah, that makes sense. Like, she knew he was there, wanted to go there with another guy to be like,

look how I'm doing. Oh. Like, it was like some, I was using some pawn. I was like, forget this. I'm not,

I'm not interested in that kind of drama. That's how she's going to play it. What if it was like her brother, her long lost brother she hasn't talked to in a while or something, would that change it for you? Her brother? That was a

weird conversation to have with your brother, but like, I mean, I would be really surprised if it wasn't her ex. Let's just put it that way. Alright, well, I don't know, maybe it would. But anyway, yeah, that sounds super awkward and you know what else is super awkward? She's actually on the phone listening and wants to talk to you. She heard everything you just said. Oh, hey, Jason.

Hi, Allison. Hi. I really want to apologize for the incident just going down the way that it did. And I'm sorry that I didn't explain everything to you in the moment. And I hate that it got to the point where you felt like you had to ghost me and just really just over speculation too. The guy that I was arguing with is actually my brother. I know it sounds crazy and whatever, but I haven't seen him in years. And we had a really bad falling out. And that was the first time I had seen him. And it just, it just went south. And I'm really sorry that you had to see that and it had to happen on our date. I'm sorry that you had to go through that. And I mean, I'm really, I didn't reach back out if you texted me because I just assumed,

you know, it was a boyfriend cause he didn't really go into it. And, um, you know, I'm kind of surprised that it was your brother, but I'm, I'm sorry that,

uh, that, that you had to go through that. I just, yeah. Had I known, I probably would have, you know, reached, we would have been talking and stuff. It's just, you know, I thought it was definitely

your ex. Yeah, no, I'm sorry. I should have, I should have explained it. I didn't know how, because it was, it was, you know, we were just getting to know each other. And I was like, I can't bring this drama to him. And I'm already super annoyed about it. I'm just going to go on and on. And he's going to think I'm even crazier than he already thinks I am because I'm arguing in public with somebody that he doesn't know. But I just, I didn't know, I didn't know how to talk about it. So I'm, I'm sorry for that. That's on me. Um, but I just, I wanted to explain it to you. I thought that we had a really good time together besides that incident happening. And you were owed an explanation.

But I don't, I just, I wasn't in the place to do it that night. You know, I appreciate you apologizing and stuff. It's just, you know, I don't understand why you couldn't just have told me. That's really the issue. It's like, if you can't tell me something upfront, as small as that, like you're not like maybe ready to be in a relationship or just like go out with data or somebody, I don't know. I just feel like bringing up family issues is not something that you really talk about on like first date conversations. Um, because you're not sure

if you can really trust that person with that information, especially if it's really sensitive. But, yeah. Did I hear a baby in the background? Yeah, I do. I have a kid. Oh, that was you? What?

Wait, wait, wait. You didn't tell me that you had a kid. I mean, you have a kid, and you're getting on to me about my brother? Honestly, that's a fair point. That's a fair state conversation. Jason? Yeah, I guess I really don't have any room to talk. Definitely not.

Thank you, guys. Well, now that we know that, you guys know each other a little better. Jason, would you like to go out on another date with Allison? We'll pay for it. Not to sit her, but we'll pay for it. Yeah, well, you know, you kind of... Or Jason, would you like to go out on another date with Allison? We'll pay for it. Not the sitter, but we'll pay for it. Yeah, well, you know, you're right. I probably should have told you that I had a kid on a date.

So yeah, he got me there. But will you be willing to go out on a date with me still? Yeah, I would love to go out on a date with you. I honestly feel like we've gotten to know each other better on this phone call than we did in person. The Jubal Show on demand. Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the homestretch right in time for a new season of my podcast.

Next Question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon. But we're also going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show, ears edition podcast. Join late night legend Jon Stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines, extended interviews, and more. Now this is a second term we can all get behind. Listen to The Daily Show, ears edition on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome. My name is Paola Pedrosa, a medium and the host of the Ghost Therapy Podcast, where it's not just about connecting with deceased loved ones. It's about learning through them and their new perspective. I think God sent me this gift so I can show it to the world.

And most of all, I help people every single day. Listen to the Ghost Therapy Podcast on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.