First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Is tipping too much getting him ghosted?

Episode Date: April 24, 2023

First Date Follow Up is when we get an email from someone who went on a date and the other person isn't calling back. We get that other person on the phone to see why they're "ghosting".One of our listeners getting ghosted after a date he went on and he thinks that it might be because of the tip he left! Not that it was too little, but apparently he tipped too much! Is that actually the reason he is getting ghosted? Find out in this new First Date Follow Up!Leave a rating and review wherever you listen. It will help the show out in a big way. If that's not your thing, you can find us on social media here:https://instagram.com/thejubalshowhttps://twitter.com/thejubalshowhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thejubalshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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And we're going to see if we can help him out. What's up, Drew? How are you? Hey, guys. Thanks for taking my call. I appreciate it. Yeah, no problem, man. Yeah.

So I went on this first date with this girl, Jess. You know, I met her recently. We went out and, you know, she told me she was into basketball. You know, I'm into basketball. So, you know, I wasn't going to take her to the court on the first date. That's just a little much. Well, what I did is I took her to an arcade that had like, you know, they had the basketball hoops there that you can just like shoot. Papa shot?

That's fun. I love that. We played that. We played a bunch of other games, you know, air hockey and stuff like that. Ended up making it out by the motorcycle game, you know,

it was pretty cool. Oh, sweet. What happened? Well, you know, everything was good. We, you know, ended the night with a few beers

and, you know, some appetizers, some wings and stuff like that and I, you know, ended the night, I took her home, I walked her to her door.

We kissed a little bit more. And I thought we had a great night. She said she had a great night. I knew we had a great night. And so I was expecting a second date to come around. But now, yeah, she's not returning my calls or my text messages or anything like that. I don't know. It's been over a week.

And I figured, you know, did I do something wrong? Like, I thought we were having a great time. time and I feel like I'm getting ghosted here. Is there anything that could have happened during the date? Like, are you super competitive? I mean, I was like, you know, just joking around and, you know, like screaming airball every time. I mean, at one point, you know, when I was paying the bill, she, I don't know, called me out for leaving a big tip. I don't I used to, you know, serve in Barton when I was in college. So, you know, when people take good care of me, I take good care of them. Yeah, I know.

She dropped something like I tip like 30 percent. She's like, oh, you're just throwing away money. Though that line was kind of weird to me, kind of off. But I don't know if maybe she's a little conservative, kind of off, but I don't know if maybe she's a little conservative with her spendings, but I don't know. I take care of my own. That wasn't a red flag to you? Yeah.

Wow. I mean, I didn't really see it that way, you know, at the moment. I mean, I just thought, you know, she was maybe a little more conservative, but I didn't think any more than that. We've heard people not get a call back when they've been a terrible tipper, but not for being a good tipper. Like it's one thing to be stingy and another thing to be over generous. And I feel like I'm right somewhere in the middle, you know?

I hate to even jump to this conclusion, but the only other thing that ever crosses my mind when you hear about people that did make out on a date and not get a call back,'s like was something there with the chemistry like are you just not a good kisser i know i've said that before but i've never gotten any complaints on my kissing style i don't know maybe i had bad breath or something i don't know i don't know i have no idea so did she talk to you at all after your date no that's the thing is that like i haven't been in touch with her since that one date and which is like i said so random and weird to me because i thought we had something i thought there was a spark i thought maybe i thought there was chemistry how long has it been since you talked to her it's been like a it's like a week and a half i guess i mean if something did come up in her life i mean i kind of feel like she'd have time to deal with it by now and at least return

a text or something, you know? Yeah. How many times have you reached out to her? I don't know. I will text her in the morning, you know, just, you know, a little good morning text, no response. When I know she's at work, I'm like, hope you're having a good day at work, no response. And then I'll call her, you know, at night. See if everything's fine.

Go straight to work. Drew, you're using Drew, you're not using past tense words. Are you still texting her that right now, like a week and a half later? I mean, I've lightened up, but I'm still going to reach it out. Okay, good. Have you been texting her every morning and calling

her every night? No, no. I'm not trying to be a creeper like that, but it's kind of like, hey, thinking about you, kind of shooting it out there, balls in your court, you know. Right. Because she's a baller. Right. Oh, okay, okay.

Okay. That's a good one. Well, we'll try to figure it out for you, man. We'll play a song, come back, and then call her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you and get you another date if you still want one with your first date follow-up, okay? Okay, thank you, guys. All right. Play a song, come back. Get your first date follow-up, okay? Okay, thank you, guys. All right, play a song, come back. Get your first date follow-up next.

In the middle of your first date follow-up, if you're just joining us, Drew is on the phone, and Drew might not be getting a call back because he's a good tipper. I don't think that's the reason, Drew, but we're about to call the woman that Drew went on a date with named Jess and see why she's ghosting him

and see if we can get him another date in just a second. But first, Drew, refresh everybody's memory about your date with Jess. Well, I took her out to a little arcade. We played a little hoops there. We had a great time. Had some beers and food. Did a little makeout sesh.

Thought we had a great time. And now I'm being ghosted. About to call her right now. Anything else you want to say before we do that, Drew? I hope she has a good answer, I guess. I hope so, too, for you, Drew. All right, I'm going to call her right now. Here we go.

Hello? Hello? Hi, may I speak to Jess, please? This is she. Jess, how are you? This is, my name is Jubal from a radio show called The Jubal Show. Hi, Jess. I know your show. Hi, guys.

Oh, hey. Why are you calling me? Oh, my God. I love this enthusiasm, Jess. My name's Nina. I'm the new one. Jess, thank you for listening to the show. Appreciate that. Yeah.

I'm a little nervous. Why are you calling me? I mean, you know the options. It could be a first date follow-up. Are you in a relationship and cheating on someone or think that they might be cheating on you? No, but I did go on a date. So it is a first date follow-up, yes. You went on a date with somebody recently, and now you're ghosting them.

I'm ghosting him. His name is Drew. Yeah. His name is Drew. We talked to Drew. Yeah, he's a nice guy. He's a really nice guy. We went on a date.

I had a really good time. I cheated. I really, really did. And he's a really nice guy. We went on a date. I had a really good time. I truly did. I really, really did. And he's a really nice guy. But, you know, I could date him, but right now I'm at the point where, you know, I only want to date someone who's going to be the husband. And as nice as he was and as much fun as I had, I don't see him as the husband. And I don't want to be dating if it's not going to be the long-term one.

But so what about him makes you feel like he's not the one? Because if he's so great, you went on one date, you obviously were attracted to him enough. We heard you guys made out and stuff. Yeah, but you know, you have friends that you love to death and they're wonderful, but you would never marry them. You know? Sure. So he's one of those. He's a good kisser and all, but it didn't take me, I don't know, it didn't hit me spiritually the place that I needed to.

So he kissed you like a date and not a husband. I'm sorry. Well, you know, a lot of people are good kissers. I mean, don't get me wrong. He was a really nice guy, but he's not the one for me. I could introduce him to somebody because he's a really nice guy, but he's not the one for me. So, Jess, are you going on a lot of these first dates and just, you know, having a great time and figuring out that they're not the one? Yeah, yeah.

I mean, isn't that the formula? You know, yes. Yes, it is. I mean, you know, I could waste his time, his money. I mean, oh, he's a great tipper, too. You know, he's a nice guy and everything. Well, actually, that's another thing. I mean, he, like, totally overtips, you know, like 30%.

And I'm looking for somebody who knows how to manage their money, you know. A husband that's not going to, like, be spending all the money out, you know, when he's away from me. I mean, that's a red flag. So you want a husband who's going to tip like a standard 18 to 20%? No, you know, according to what's, you know, but I mean, 30%. I mean, it wasn't like, I mean, it wasn't that amazing. Jesus. She's like tip well, just not too well.

Yeah. Well, Jess, thank you for your honesty. Thank you for listening Yeah well thank you For calling me Yeah no problem I love your show Jess are you forgetting

Something about the First date follow ups though Oh god No I don't want Another date I remember Not that part I remember

That part's coming up That part There's another part though Um Oh god Drew are you on the phone Yes Drew's on the phone oh no i forgot that's part of it oh my goodness oh no when i'm listening when i'm listening to the show i'm always like oh

i hope they don't hear that oh god i forgot well it was nice knowing you drew i hope you find a wonderful person just right somebody else you deserve I mean, it's somebody else. You deserve somebody else. I'm not the one for you. You can tell from the phone call. I'm not the one. Yeah, I'm trying to pick that up now. Very receptive.

How do you feel about just not feeling like you're a husband? Like, I could be hobby material. I am totally hobby material. Not for me, but you could. could well we had a good time was it because i gave too much money to the server or i mean oh lord that was that was something but um you know come on guys 30 i mean we have you know i'm totally husband material though i mean you just got to get to know me. You know, I'm a nurturer. I'm caring. I'm funny. I'm a good cook. I'll let you beat me in basketball.

How are you at DIY projects, Drew? Everything I own is from Ikea, so I'm pretty good at it. You guys think I was too quick? Too rash? You think maybe I should give him a break? Well, I think we were kind of leaning in that direction, Jess. Yeah, I mean,

I think it'd be very hard to tell if somebody is potential long-term boyfriend material or husband material after one date. I'm more interested that it was Ikea

that got you to kind of turn around. You're like, oh, hello. I mean, I thought we had a good first impression, but if I had to throw a second impression in there, I'd be more than happy to.

I mean, you guys, a date to Ikea is a move. I don't know. I don't know. Maybe we could go to Ikea together and I'll see. I personally, as a dude, I feel like Drew hearing that from you and still trying to convince you to go out with him is husband material. Because I know for me, especially when I was single and I didn't want to get married at all I'm married now but that took a long time to get there and if I was out with someone and I heard them say that or I went out with someone I heard them say that I'd be like well cool I'm not your material definitely not because I didn't want

to get married you know okay Jubal I think dude I heard your response but can I have a charge response? I don't think a second date would be a bad thing. I agree. Okay, well what if I'm willing to do one more? Or we give it one more try? Should we give it one more try? Jess, would you like to go out on another date with Drew? We'll pay for it. Okay, that

settles it. Let's go, Drew. Alright. Sweet. But this time, Jess, you can't ghost him. You just have to straight up say, I still don't think you're my husband. We can go. We'll have a great time, but I won't marry you. I still don't think you're my husband. We can work on it.

Little by little. Little by little. Baby steps. Baby steps. Stay tuned, everybody. Yo, check in with us and let us know, Jess. Congratulations, Drew. You got another date, everybody. Check in with us and let us know, Jess. Congratulations, Drew. You got another date, man. Awesome. Thank you, guys.

That worked out well. The Jubal Show on demand. Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the homestretch, right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon.

But we're also going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric,

on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show, ears edition podcast. Join late night legend Jon Stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines, exclusive extended interviews and more. Now this is a second term we can all get behind. Listen to The Daily Show, ears edition on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to Decisions Decisions, the podcast where boundaries are pushed and conversations get candid. Join your favorite hosts, me, Weezy WTF,

and me, Mandy B, as we dive deep into the world of non-traditional relationships and explore the often taboo topics surrounding dating, sex, and love. That's right. Every Monday and Wednesday, we both invite you to unlearn the outdated narratives dictated by traditional patriarchal norms. With a blend of humor, vulnerability, and authenticity, we share our personal journeys navigating our 30s, Thank you. Decisions Decisions is going to be your go-to source for the open dialogue about what it truly means to love and connect in today's world. Get ready to reshape your understanding of relationships and embrace the freedom of authentic connections.

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