First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Jeff is getting ghosted by Bebe (Rexha??)

Episode Date: October 6, 2023

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Jeff is on the phone today for a first date follow-up, and he's getting ghosted by Bebe. So we're going to see if we can figure out why he's getting ghosted in just a second. But first, Jeff, how long has it been since you heard from bb it's been a couple weeks now for sure maybe close to a month at this point oh wow so in that time how many times did you try to reach out to her almost once a week but then i you know i'm just scared of pushing it too much yeah i kind of want to just keep reaching out to her but i'm containing myself why do you still want to try to get a hold of her if it's already been a month because i can't thinking about her you can't stop thinking about her you really liked her yeah okay what'd you like so much about her she was it hasn't happened to me too many times

before but she was so pretty and even smarter than what I thought she would have been initially. And that's just, yeah, I'm obsessed. At least you're, and you know what? You're honest about it. That's cool. So what was it like when you spent time with her? Did she seem like she was into you? Why don't you just go back and tell us about how you met and your date?

I mean, pretty much it was, it wasn't the craziest story. We were at a bookstore and we just happened to sit next to each other reading our own books and I saw what she was reading and she kind of saw me peeping and long story short, yeah, just kind of had a small talk and I asked her, I really liked her vibe and I thought she was pretty so I asked her

if she wanted to go out for dinner and play some board games. You know, something very casual. It wasn't anything nice. And we did. She accepted. We had a great time. We just connected.

The food was great. Our conversation was even better. We hugged it out. I didn't want to push it too much. I said, you know, I want to see you again. She was on the same page, I thought. And that's it. I ghosted right after that.

Okay. Did you go to a bar to play board games or? Yeah, it was a very casual, like, bar board game place. Yeah. Was it anything happen during the date? Like, were you too competitive with the board game? Was there, like, any moment where you kind of argued? No, I mean, look, mean look not arguing but you know

just like playful competition i mean she really beat the crap out of me in these games like i just lost massively and i don't know maybe she's just really smart and i feel like maybe i don't know not thinking about it maybe i wasn't on the same level maybe she thought i wasn't as smart as her or something i don't know i really don't know why would she think you're not as smart as her or something. I don't know. I really don't know. Why would she think you're not as smart as her? Do you do or do you not think you're as smart as her? I don't know. Maybe I'm not. I mean, I'm not calling myself dumb.

It's just, yeah. Yeah. You know, what'd you guys talk about? Everything and anything from life experiences to we went down to physics and she's also into politics. We talked about some of that politics and physics whoa on the first date whoa i was starting to get sweaty me too thinking about both of those things and yeah that's pretty much where we're at was there anything awkward that happened on the date at all?

Not to my knowledge. No. Did it seem like she was into you like during the date? I mean, since it felt like everything was going great, but did she give you any signs that she was flirting with you? I mean, you know, yeah, like we were like staring at each other in the eyes a lot, a lot of eye contact, a little bit of arm touch, that kind of stuff. I mean, again, I think these were all just positive signs. We were just on the six, giggling, having a great time. She was winning.

She was really laughing about it and having fun. How'd the date end? We just hugged it out. We hugged it out, and that was it. Did she say anything about getting together again? I had told her I wanted to see her again and she was on board. She was on the same page.

And we're 100% sure she's single? To my knowledge, yes. Now, if she's in some sort of situation that she didn't bring up, well then that's a little bit on her. Of course. Just curious. We both found out we haven't been dating for a course. Yeah. Just curious. At the time, we both found out we haven't been dating for a while.

We weren't really looking at the time. Okay. Okay. All right, well, see if we can figure it out for you. We'll play a song, come back, and then call her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you and maybe get you another date, okay? All right, thank you.

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Powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys. Online at advocateslaw.com. If you're just joining us, Jeff is on the phone for a first date follow-up, and he's getting ghosted by Bebe, so we're about to call her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting, and maybe get him another date if he still wants one after he hears the reason. But before we do that, Jeff, why don't you catch everybody up on your date with BB? Pretty much. We had a very unplanned first encounter at a bookshop. We were just sitting next to each other, had started having some small talk, invited her for a dinner together. We had a great dinner. We had a great conversation.

Then we went to one of those board game bar places, very casual, played a couple games, had the best time, laughed a lot. She wiped me out. She's very beautiful. She's even smarter. And the last month, I would say, I've been texting her.

And yeah, I've been ghosted, heavily ghosted. It feels fishy. Are you ready for us to call her? Let's go. ghosted, heavily ghosted. It feels fishy. Are you ready for us to call her? Let's go. All right, here we go. Hello? Hi, may I speak to Bebe, please? This is she.

Hi, Bebe, how are you? My name is Jubal and I host a radio show and it's called The Jubal speak to Bebe, please? This is she. Hi, Bebe, how are you? My name is Jubal, and I host a radio show, and it's called The Jubal Show. Bebe! The whole show's here. What's up? I'm Nina. Hi, and I'm Victoria. Your name's super fun to say, Bebe.

I know it is. I just couldn't help myself. Oh, my gosh. I can't believe this. Wait, am I on the radio right now? Yeah. Okay. We do a segment on our radio right now? Yeah. Okay. We do a segment on our show and it's called the first date follow-up.

That's where if you go out on a date with somebody and then you end up ghosting them, that person can email us to get you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them. Yeah. Okay. I've heard this one before. Oh, nice. Yeah. I think I know what this is about.

Okay. That makes it easy. You want to take a guess? See if you're right. Yeah. It's Jeff, right? Yes, it is is about. Okay. That makes it easy. You want to take a guess? See if you're right. Um, yeah, it's Jeff, right? Yes, it is. Congratulations. So why are you ghosting Jeff?

We honestly like, he's a really nice guy. He's actually smarter than he gives himself credit for. He was like beating himself up a lot on the date. But so we went to this board game bar and we played Scrabble and he was like nice up until that point. And then he, it was just like Frankenstein's monster. It was like complete switch. And he was just so competitive, but like mainly with himself, he was just like so intense and beating himself up the whole time and I just don't want to didn't think I'd want to be with someone who was able to kind of like be that intense on a first date you know so what was he doing he was just like

getting super mad at himself and like intense about the whole game. And we had like just met and it would be his turn and he would like play a word and then I would play a better word. And then he would just like beat himself up. He'd be like, oh, my God, why didn't I see that? Or, you know, he'd like realize he missed the word. You know what I mean? And I was just like, whoa, it's like just a game. Yeah, it was just like I don't know if he was like, just compare. I mean, I was much better at him, but that's fine.

I was better at travel than most people. It's kind of a confidence thing, though, yeah. Yeah, he couldn't take it. I don't know. It was just like, yeah, off-putting. Did you say anything in the moment or did you just let it go? No, I mean, I just met him. I was just like, okay.

And then he obviously wanted to go on another day and I, and he, he put it, the ball in my court and he was just like, let me know. And I was like, sure, I'll let you know.

Um, and then I just didn't let him know. Yeah. Yeah. In a way I did. Okay. Well, thank you for being honest,

BB. I appreciate that. Jeff is actually on the line listening. He's been listening this whole time and he wants to talk to you. Visage. What? What? That's the word that drove me crazy during our whole game and I still can't stop thinking about it.

Oh. Hi, Jeff. So, what's visage? Visage was the word that I couldn't figure out during our game, and it just drove me crazy. It's been haunting me in my dreams. Is it a real word? V-I-S-A-G-E.

Oh. I should see Victoria's face in the studio right now. You sound upset about it right now, thinking about it, Jeff. I mean, that and then her on the other line, it's a lot going on right now. Okay. Visage, a person's face with reference to the form of proportions of the features. Oh. So you have an elegant angular visage. Interesting. I did not know that was a word.

Well, thank you for teaching us a word today. You're welcome. Okay okay you sound really upset it's not sad just you know i just didn't know that bb felt that way about our first date our first encounter i mean i just really thought we had a good time i didn't realize i had these toxic traits of being overly competitive and and yeah doubting my myself a lot I didn't realize all this it kind of hurts to listen to her say that well maybe it's also an opportunity to kind of open your eyes to seeing how you talk to yourself and maybe doing that is something that might be helpful to change not just on a date but like in general no i disagree with you i'm sorry but with all due respect if i did a bad job i will tell myself i did a bad job not give myself credit okay do you ever give yourself credit when the job is done well yeah sure okay okay i mean i appreciate the self-awareness i will say that uh it does sound like you're still

like beating yourself up though well look it's unacceptable i knew that word i know it sounds kind of dumb being so angry about it but when you know something and you don't know about it in a certain moment of course it's gonna piss you off and it did at the time it was kind of inconvenient i could have not known about that word at a dinner but now i had it happen during a game with the girl i really like you know oh jack you still sound upset and i swear i'm gonna sound like a nut right now but every morning i've been writing that word down 100 that we're down a hundred times so I don't forget it. Wow. Okay. I guess that's sweet. I know that's romantic, let's go on a second date.

Would you like to go out with Jeff again on another date? We'll pay for it, BB. I'm not gonna lie, like the whole lack of self-control, like I've gone out with guys who have that and it's not great but i do appreciate someone who has a uh affinity for vocabulary words so yeah sure we go on one more date oh really that's free dinner and it's a free dinner forget about it even if you hit my guts and i hit yours we could just not talk to each other and eat the most expensive thing on the menu. Let's go.

Okay. Let's do it. What a sell. Congratulations, Jeff. You got another date. Let's boogie. Jubal's first date follow-up. We're so done with new year, new you.

This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Experiencing the news each day can feel like a journey. With Up First from NPR though,

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