First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Jessica & Chris - The Trick is to Keep Breathing

Episode Date: February 12, 2024

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I've been texting him because I think it's super weird that we had a date and then he just stopped texting after weeks of texting all the time. Yeah. Okay. Did you guys meet on an app and were talking a bunch before you went out? Yeah, we met on an app and then we only had one date which was, you know, kind of basic like happy hour, just

some drinks and we shared an appetizer. But then nothing since that date ended. Did the date go well? Well, I mean I can't say that I was like super into him, but nothing went wrong in the date. Like it's not that big of a deal that he ghosted me

except I hate when people don't respond to texts. She's like, I don't really like him, but it's the principal at this point. So it's more just getting ghosted than anything. I get that. I mean, I don't really like him, but it's the principal at this point. So it's more just getting ghosted than anything. I get that. I mean, I'm going to have to keep thinking about him if there's no reason to. But there's something psychologically about being ghosted that makes me like upset over something that I barely even care about.

Could that have come up in the days? Kind of a red flag? I'm not sure. Maybe you could tell. I understand you and I know I'm a walking red flag at times. So that him. I'm not sure. Maybe he could tell. I understand you and I know I'm a walking red flag at times. So that's why I'm just asking. I don't know.

I just think it's really rude. Like if we're old enough to go on a date, then we should be old enough to say if we're not interested. And I'm curious, is it me or did he just not feel a connection or did he go on a date with someone else? And like the more like all of that's fine.

I would just like to know what the answer is if he was still talking to you would you want to go out with him again or is it just that you're getting ghosted and you can't you can't stand not knowing why it's sort of more the latter but like I'm open I didn't have a strong feeling one way or the other on whether we should go out again so'm open. I would just kind of like to know why he stopped responding to text messages. So if you think back to the date, though, to your, like, okay date, was there anything that was, like, less okay than normal?

Yeah, normally people are like, I really liked him, and I don't know why they're ghosting me. You're just like, I don't, it's whatever with him. I just don't want to be ghosted. Yeah, because if you're feeling like it was with whatever maybe he thought it was just whatever too and so he's like why bother yeah I guess but it takes two seconds to be like oh I just don't feel a connection or I'm not

interested you know like why would you not like I'm actually kind of worried because he was so responsive before the date and he was all initially on the date so i'm worried he might like be really sick actually are you feeling sick at all i mean maybe you know if you feel good yeah i feel totally fine so if he did have something i didn't catch it but i mean he was really sniffly like totally nose blocked and everything do you think that he knew you weren't that into it maybe i mean like i said it's the first date so it's not like I'm gonna be like gushing over someone right away or like completely uninterested I kind of feel like you should give people a chance so I don't know I don't think I gave off weird signals did anything

happen on your date that you think could be a reason that he ghosted you no like we hugged when we first got there and it was a nice hug. Like he came full on in full body contact. He had, you know, no problem sharing food, which I like because I think that's like a way to connect if you're sharing a plate as opposed to getting your own things. Um, you know, it was like your average date, I feel like. I don't know, Jubal, how do you feel about going on an average date? Would you want another date after an average date? Not usually, no. And I would be fine getting ghosted because I'm like, cool, I don't have to talk to him again, you know?

Yeah. Well, clearly you're healthier than I am. I wouldn't say that. He's been working on it for a while. Well, okay. We'll try to figure it out for you. What's the last thing that he said to you? Oh, he said this was great and I'll talk to you soon.

Like it ended in a positive way that would make you think that there's going to be communication afterwards. OK. All right. Well, we'll see if we can figure it out for you. We'll play a song, come back and then call him and find out where you're getting ghosted next. OK. All right. All right. Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric.

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Right in the middle of today's first day of follow-up, and if you're just joining us, Jessica is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Chris. She doesn't really care that much about Chris, but she wants to know why he's ghosting her. Real quick, Jessica, for anybody just joining us, give us a recap of your situation. So I went on a date with Chris. Things went fine.

I'm not sure if I even want a second date, but he stopped responding to text and it's driving me crazy. So I have to find out why. Okay. You know what? She's doing it for all the people that just are like, well, why not? I'm bomb. Yeah. You know?

Yeah. I mean, if I'm going on a date and there's ghosting involved, it better be from me. Okay. Yeah. We're about to call him and try to figure out why he's ghosting her. All right, Jessica, are you ready? I'm so ready.

Okay, here we go. I'm going to dial his phone number. Yeah, this is Chris. Hello, Chris. How are you? This is Jubal from The Jubal Show. It's a radio show. Hi, Chris.

I'm Nina, also on that show. That's Nina. And then Victoria's over there. There's three people on the phone with you right now. It's a radio show. Hi, Chris. I'm Nina, also on that show. That's Nina. And then Victoria's over there. There's three people on the phone with you right now. What's up, Chris? I'm so sorry. What is going on? We do a segment on our show, and it's called The First Date Follow-Up.

It's where you go out on a date with somebody, and then you end up ghosting them. They ask if we can get you on the phone and figure out what happened. And we got an email about you from somebody that you went on a date with recently. Yeah, okay. Now I know what this is about brilliant hi okay so you do know who we're talking about so is there somebody you're ghosting in particular yeah no recently uh i have been receiving a lot of texts and i haven't been replying to them just honestly because I haven't known how to let me guess is Jessica on the line? That's a great guess. That is a good guess. Hi Jessica how are you doing today? Can I talk?

I think you have no choice now. Chris knows that you're on the phone. Hi Chris. Okay you know it's really awkward to bring a whole radio show into this, but I guess, you know, I have been dodging the text and everything. So the actual reason that I haven't responded to anything and the reason I haven't really, like, I really haven't known how to actually do this, I couldn't breathe throughout the entire date. And that's

not actually like a feelings thing. That's like a medical thing. Uh, when I went in for the hug, there was all the cat hair on your sweater and I'm guessfully just completely allergic to cats. And so my entire breathing system was locking up. Oh, well, why didn't you tell me that? Fair question. trying to not you know especially because i didn't want to put it on you and be like you know you're the cause of this or whatever i really tried to bottle all that up at the same time it would have been very difficult for me to articulate any of this just because i couldn't breathe so i was smiling nodding than anything else what an awkward date no wonder it was

average i'm sorry yeah Yeah, she said. Jessica told us that your date seemed kind of average. And from what Nina said right there, it would make sense. Right, because he wasn't really talking. Yeah, we went out for drinks and for appetizers. It was a happy hour. And I was trying to be as happy as possible while also trying to, you know, not faint. Okay.

So that's why you weren't really talkative like you are in tech because you couldn't breathe. Like, oh my God, I'm so sorry. I feel like I almost killed you. No, I mean, so right. And honestly, and that's why I was sharing the plates and everything is because I kind of wanted to keep our mouths full. So I had an excuse not to talk. Yeah, you know, when we were texting, it never came up that you had a cat. Otherwise,

I would have given you the heads up that I am allergic. Yeah, but I don't have a cat. My roommate has a cat. And if you had just told me about your allergy, I would have made sure I used one of those like hair removal things so that I didn't show up with cat hair on my shirt. Okay, so I can blame your roommate then. That's totally fine. I'm fine with that. You can also blame yourself because you could have taken an antihistamine if you were experiencing such severe allergies. I just wasn't expecting to come face- face with like a cat that that's not

really something that I schedule on my daily routine. And therefore an antihistamine is not quite something that is just routine for me. Jessica, was there at any point during the date, like, did you notice that he couldn't talk? Did he look itchy or like he couldn't breathe? He didn't look itchy, but he definitely sounded like he had a stuffy nose. Like I thought he might have a cold or was getting sick that he just didn't tell me about. But apparently he's been suffering from this cat allergy all week, which is why he can't respond to my text messages. Is that what I'm hearing, Chris? Again, it's difficult because I don't want to throw anybody under the bus here except i guess

a cat or two um i just didn't want to text and say hey we should get together again and kind of lead anybody on especially if i was you know thinking that i had to continually contend with like oh man i'm gonna have to put my face in other cats butt every time i see her i will say it's a teachable moment, though, for everybody listening at this point. And especially, like, as a woman, for a man to be direct and honest about what he's experiencing, that's attractive.

Like, that's hot. So maybe in the future, Chris, like, if you start being able not to breathe, you just straight up say, I got allergies! And that's way more attractive. Nothing more attractive than a guy gasping for air. All right, Chris. Well, I'm glad you're finally sharing now.

I feel like I can close this chapter a bit. But honestly, I feel like you handled it completely wrong. And maybe you'll take this as a lesson going forward and not ghost people when you're having some kind of issue i i will take that to heart and jessica i'm so sorry and i guess listeners of this radio show i'm i'm so sorry and i what i did was not the correct thing to do again i'm gonna be going to be more direct from now on. I love that you're being direct and apologizing to Jessica, but it's also hot when you don't apologize to people you don't need to apologize to.

Yeah, nobody's really that mad. I'm not mad at you. At you, Chris. It's understandable. Again, it's that martyrdom. I'm just trying to make sure that everybody in this situation feels great except for me, who is blushing and just totally red in his office.

But, you know, it's okay. I mean, I guess I have to ask no matter what. Chris, would you like to go on another date with Jessica? We'll pay for it. You know that I would. I have a lot to make up for here. And Jessica is very, very sweet, and I enjoy talking to her when I can talk. So, yeah.

I'm not interested. I really just wanted to know why you ghosted me. So I'm going to say no. Okay. And that was direct. Yeah. Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric.

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