First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Kristen & Garrett - Just Wanted a Hook Up

Episode Date: January 23, 2024

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and she's getting ghosted by Garrett. So we're going to see if we can figure out why, and maybe get her another date if she still wants one. Kristen, what's up? How are you? Hi, I'm, besides being ghosted, doing great. How are you doing? Not too bad. Before we ask about your dating stuff, how long has it been since you heard from Garrett?

Like three days. Oh, that's not too bad. Well, around the three-day mark, I don't know. I feel like he's probably not interested, and I want to kind of figure out why. Yeah, three days might not necessarily be a full ghost yet, you know? Well, there was a read receipt. Then maybe, yeah, if he read a text and then hasn't responded in three days, then... That's infuriating.

Props to you for not sending him eight paragraphs. So what happened on the date, though? Like, what is it about him that makes you want to find out? Well, I mean, we met through mutual friends and, you know, we just kind of clicked and we went to a concert together and I thought we had a great time. And, yeah, I haven't heard it from him ever since. And, you know, I'm trying to figure out maybe why that happened. And I'm, yeah, I'm at a loss. Okay.

Well, tell us about the date. So we went to a concert and, you know, we had a couple of drinks and we made out and I think he was looking for something maybe a little more and I kind of backed out. You know, I'm not kind of looking for a hookup right now. You know, I think maybe I sang too loud and got a little drunk maybe he didn't like

my singing uh i can get a little loud and boisterous so maybe that maybe scared him i mean that's what you're supposed to do at a concert yeah did it seem like it bothered him i mean i thought it seemed okay but now that i haven't heard him, I'm really trying to rule out what the possibilities were. And, you know, I wish he'd be an adult and, you know, have a conversation if there was an issue. Maybe it's just he wanted to hook up. I guess, you know, and it's a real bummer that he couldn't just be up front and tell me that, you know, if that was what he was looking for. And, you know, it that was what he was looking for. And, you know, I wasn't giving him what he wants. He could just be an adult and say like, hey, you know, for whatever reason, I'm not interested

and be gracious about it as opposed to just hiding. So how do you know that he was trying to hook up other than that he was a dude on a date? Yeah, he was kind of handsy and, you know, kind of got a little below the equator. Okay. And, you know, I kind of pulled his hand away and I'm like a little below the equator okay and you know i kind of pulled his hand away and i'm like i don't know if i'm ready for this quite now you know we ended the night on a nice note and you know i didn't really want to take it any further for the first date okay and did he seem bothered by that when you you know smacked his hand away and said, you know, I mean, he wasn't thrilled about it. Um,

obviously. Um, but yeah, I, I, I, I just, I don't know why he goes to me about it.

He could have just been upfront about it. If that is the reason, would you want another date? Cause you know, I've been on, you know, when I used to date, I'm married now,

but when I would go on dates and stuff and, um, if ever I got, get away from the equator, it's too hot there for you right now. I would be fine with it, you know? Like, I never threw a fit, but I've heard about a lot of dudes, especially, like, they get upset. And I've never cared. I've been like, okay, that's cool. We can wait till later, you know? So if he got upset about that, would you want another date? We really did have good chemistry at the beginning, you know, and that's kind of what I want to find out a little bit more about.

And, you know, if there's a good reason why he ghosted me, then, you know, I'd be really interested in potentially having a second date. But, you know, I guess we'll have to find out why. That's such a good point. We're jumping to all of these conclusions. It's been three days. There's a really good chance that just something else was all of these conclusions. It's been three days. There's a really good chance that just something else was going on. Yeah, that's true.

Yeah. Well, we'll try to figure it out for you, okay? We'll play a song, come back, and then call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you and get you another date if you still want one, okay? All right, that sounds good to me. Thank you.

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she's getting ghosted and maybe get her another date when we call him in just a second. But before we do that, Kristen, remind everybody about your date and why you think you're getting ghosted. Yeah. So Garrett and I met through mutual friends. We went out on a date because we clicked almost instantly and we went to a concert and after the show, he ghosted me. It's been three days. I sent him a text. He left me on read. And yeah, I want to figure out why. Like, did I get a little bit too drunk? Was my singing really loud and bad? Or was it just that he was looking to hook up?

And I'm not too sure which one it was, but he seemed a little bit upset when we were making out and his hand started to go a little bit south. And I told him I wasn't looking for that. So I want to figure out why. And if there's a good reason, then, you know, I'd love to have a second date. It's only been three days, so you might not be getting ghosted. But you probably are since he read a text and didn't respond. We'll call him right now.

Okay, you ready? Yeah, okay. All right, here we go. Hello? Hi, may I speak to Garrett, please? This is Tim. Garrett, how are you? My name is Jubal, and I host a radio show called The Jubal Show.

Hi, Garrett. He hosts that show with some friends, and my name's Nina. I'm one of them. And mine's Victoria. Yeah. So there's three people on the phone with you right now. How are you? I'm good.

What are you guys calling for? We're calling because we got an email about you from somebody who listens to the show. An email about me? About what? We do a segment on the show called the first date follow-up. That's where if you go out on a date with someone and then you end up ghosting them, that person can email us to call you and figure out why you're ghosting them. So you went out with someone and now you're not calling them back and they want to know what happened. Oh, um, yeah. I mean, I went out on a date, a few dates the past couple of weeks. Um, is this, I don't know which girl. All right. Well, let's see. We can help you out. Um, you went to a concert together. I think I know who you're talking about. Kristen, right? Yes. So she emailed us and said that she really liked you know who you're talking about. Kristen, right? Yes.

So she emailed us and said that she really liked you, but you're not getting back to her and she wants to know what's up. Yeah. I mean, you know, she's cool. Don't get me wrong, but I kind of thought we were, you know, going to be on the same page. Like we were going out. I thought we were kind of just, you know, going to lead to hooking up at the end

of the night and like she wasn't down so i don't know i mean that was kind of like my main motivation to go out with her i'm not really looking to like date right now if you just wanted to like hook up with someone like concerts can kind of be expensive why not just go to the bar yeah i mean that's true i mean i don't know i they weren't that expensive, and I don't mind, you know, having, like, a good time. You know, I'm not just exclusively only trying to do that. Like, I'd like to have a good time during the night, too, and then kind of end it with a bang. Okay, so that's why you're not, that's why you're ghosting her, though, because it didn't end with a bang. Yeah, I mean, well, I'm not trying to ghost her it's only been like two or three days but i don't know i just kind of lost interest she thought maybe that the reason you weren't calling back was because you know you wanted to hook up and she wasn't into it that night

yeah well i mean i mean i feel a little bit bad but i mean it's just kind of it is what it is i mean i assume that she was you know, on the same page. What would give you that impression? Well, I mean, she was being all flirtatious and, you know, like the first time we met, same thing. And she was like texting me some stuff. And I don't know, it was just, it was very clear that she was wanting something. And then, I don't know. Well, thanks for being honest, man. I appreciate it. Now I'll be honest with you. Kristen is actually on the phone. was wanting something and then out of that it just didn't happen. Well, thanks for being honest, man.

I appreciate it. Now I'll be honest with you. Kristen is actually on the phone. She's been listening this whole time and wants to talk to you. She's on the line right now? Yep. Hi. How's it going?

Now this is awkward. Nice to hear from you. Yeah, I didn't know I would... What would what happened you know i texted you three days ago and you know i said i had a nice time and you disappear and ghost me like what's up with that i'm sorry you know look i'm sorry you know i've been busy and i did mean to text you back i don't i really ghost girls like that. Like, I'm not trying to be like that guy. But I guess you just heard, I mean, what I said and stuff. I don't know. I mean, I was looking to hook up and you weren't down

and it just didn't end up going to where I wanted it to. Yeah, well, I mean, the thing was, like, we met through friends and if you wanted to hook up and we were drinking that first night why did you just take me home with you like i don't understand like a concert and making an event you know what i mean like if you wanted to hook up we could have done it that night when we were just drinking together like you bought concert tickets you picked me up like we went to a show i thought you were a little more interested i like to court a girl i mean you can't text me back like an adult and say hey i had a nice time but you know

maybe we're not looking for the same thing like Like you could at least be courteous. Everyone's on their phone the entire time. Like everybody's on social media and you say you're too busy to respond to a text. Like that doesn't apply. It's literally been like two, three days. I mean, it's not like it's been a week. You had me on read. The most obvious form of ghosting. What would he say to you that would make you feel better about the situation if that's all he wanted?

I mean, he could have just been up front, you know, and just said, hey, like, you know, I'm looking for this. And if I said I wasn't looking for it, then it's like, okay, well, we can't give each other the same thing. Have a great, you know, life. So, Kristen, if he would have said that up front, do you think that you would have wanted the same thing in that moment? Yeah, like, how do I even say even say that like it's supposed to be implied and it's tough in these streets okay fine i i want to sleep with you that's what i wanted out of the day that's it are you happy now i mean that they're honest thank you for your honesty but yeah i just you know you you could have had better

communication yeah well i mean i've never had a girl take me on the radio i mean that's kind of crazy in itself especially after like three days like that's kind of wild i don't know if you want another date but i'll ask anyway garrett would you like to go on another date with kristen we'll pay for it no i'm okay i'm done with this it's all too wild too much well what if kristen wants to sleep with you then would you be cool with it yeah i don't know i'm not down anymore it's just the radio call it's kind of weird well garrett how would you feel if i said I actually want to sleep with you? I just didn't want to do it on the first date.

Well, maybe I would. Yeah, I mean, yeah. All of a sudden, no. Yeah, I just not on the first night. So what does that mean then? Is this going to happen? Yeah, are you saying that you want to go out with him again still? Of course.

That's cute. Well, then I'll text you. Okay. All right. I mean, I'm taking this as a successful first date follow-up. Kristen, I think you have another date. I'm not sure. And Garrett, thank you for your time.

Please be safe. You're welcome. Thank you. Jubal's first date follow-up. Powered by the Advocates Injury Attorney. Online at advocateslaw.com. Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric.

Well, the election is in the homestretch, right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon. But we're also going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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