First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Lexi & Daniel - One “Joke” on a First Date… Then Total Silence

Episode Date: January 30, 2026

Lexi thought she finally met someone different — confident, thoughtful, and exactly her type. The date felt easy, flirty, and promising… until one offhand comment during a casual bar game may have changed everything. Five days later, she’s completely ghosted. Was it oversharing? Bad timing? Or a joke that landed the wrong way?In this episode of First Date Follow Up on The Jubal Show, we track down Daniel to uncover what really caused him to disappear — and whether one misunderstood moment is enough to end a great connection. Ever been ghosted after what you thought was an amazing date? Do you REALLY want that Second Date? The Jubal Show has your back! On First Date Follow Up, we track down the person who disappeared to get the real reason why. Awkward, hilarious, and sometimes downright shocking—First Date Follow Up delivers the truth, whether you want to hear it or not. Will there be a second date or just secondhand embarrassment? Subscribe to The Jubal Show's First Date Follow Up and find out! ➡︎ Get on The Jubal Show with your story - https://thejubalshow.com This is just a tiny piece of The Jubal Show. You can find every podcast we have, including the full show every weekday right here…➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com/podcasts The Jubal Show is everywhere, and also these places: Website ➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com  Instagram ➡︎ https://instagram.com/thejubalshow  X/Twitter ➡︎ https://twitter.com/thejubalshow  Tiktok ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@the.jubal.show Facebook ➡︎ https://facebook.com/thejubalshow  YouTube ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/@JubalFresh Support the show: https://the-jubal-show.beehiiv.com/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Listen to the mailroom on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, for wherever you get your favorite shows. First date of follow-up. Powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys, online at Advocateslaw.com. Lexi is on the phone today for our first day follow-up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Daniel. So in a few minutes, we'll call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her a second date. But before we do that, we need to talk to her about the date.

So, Lexi, what's up? How are you? You're doing all right. Just a lot of wondering. Yeah, of course. How long has it been since you heard from Danny Boy? Five days. You're making this so light.

You know she's stressed out, right? I don't know if he goes by Danny Boy or not, but that's what I want to call him right now. He just gave him a whole. Danny Heiser. I'm sorry, Lexi. This is not a joking matter. When you get ghosted, it's not fun. Why don't you tell us about your date?

So, I guess to start off with, he, I just really liked him. He was really different from everyone else that I've gone out on dates with. He's quietly confident, you know, not too flashy. He had clean sneakers, good watch. It's like he knows what he's doing. Um, he's also really thoughtful. He's, he's beautifully put together. Beautiful.

Beautifully. That's amazing. Um, he, he asked really good questions, thoughtful ones. And he actually remembered my answers. So all in all, a good package. He's seen grounded, ambitious, emotionally steady. And we, and there's, a meeting at a neighborhood bar and

there were darts and pool tables around it was kind of like a casual flirty vibe area there was little lighting there was jukebox I really am thinking like this could turn into something and then we started playing darts and I was

really really bad I shot one and it was nowhere near the board not even close Where was it? I think every It was like the other end of the room I'll say

So Oh wow I felt like everything was going in slow motion So I felt like I heard it Just hit the floor And everyone was looking Tables nearby And I

Without thinking I just started going Wow My dad was emotionally Eviscerated me for that And he was concerned He was like, oh, so I panicked. And he, I just said, well, no, he's alive. We're close.

It's fine. And I just laughed it off, but maybe too loudly. I think I snorted at one point. Wait, wait, wait, wait, Lexi. So you threw a dart across the room and then you started talking about your dad. I did. Okay. I don't have daddy issues, by the way.

Okay. I'm freaking out right now. Are you telling us or did you tell him that? I told him I don't have any daddy issues. I'm spiraling inside. I think I just killed the vibe. There is, yeah. I mean, there's worse things you can say.

Yeah, that's true. And he was really nice about it. He wasn't uncomfortable. He just smile and nodded. And, you know, very soon afterwards, we went to the pool. table and and I felt like the vibe picked back up from there. Okay. And, and then he was being flirtatious again.

He was showing me how to hold a cue properly. So there was light touching. Oh, we were jogging around. There's teasing. So he stayed for another round instead of just running away and leaving. Okay. That's nice. I mean, we appreciate that.

Yeah. Yeah, but, um, I just can't help but wonder if things got too real for him too fast, if I just overshared if it was the dad comment. Lexi is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Daniel, so we're about to call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her a second date. But before we do that, Lexi, why don't you break down your situation again real quick?

Basically, I went on a date about five days ago. I haven't heard from him. We went to a bar, a nearby bar. And I think I screwed it up by talking about my daddy issues when I screwed up at playing darts real badly. When you put it like that. All right. Well, are you ready for us to call him? Yeah.

Okay, here we go. Hi, may I speak to Daniel, please? Speaking. Hey, Daniel, how are you? This is a radio show. It's called The Jubal Show. Hi, Daniel. I'm Nina.

Hi, I'm Victoria. And my name is Jubal. What's up? wait this is really on the radio yes it is have you ever listed to the show before I'm guessing you have the way you responded

but yeah yeah I didn't think I'd be on it but here we are congratulations we've always wanted to get you on the show so I'm glad you're on now this part feels awkward to me

to me Daniel calling you today because you know we do the segment called the first date follow up where if you go out on a date with somebody and you end up ghosting them, they can email us to ask you why you're ghosting them. And we got an email about you.

Oh, no. Are you ghosting them? Yeah. Any idea who it would be? I'm just going to assume it might be Lexi, my most recent date. It is Lexi, your most recent date. Yeah, we talked to her. She said she really liked you,

but can't figure out why you're ghosting or do you mind telling us? Yeah, yeah. No problem. I mean, let me just start off. Like, Lexi, Lexi's great. She was cute, a little bit spastic, which I thought was kind of adorable. She was really funny. She was funny.

You know, very, very self-assured, which I liked. And, you know, we had a good time. But there's something she said that just kind of stuck with me. And I really, you know, I kind of ruined it for me. Uh-oh. What did she say? It rubbed me the wrong way, let's just put it that way. So we were playing pool, you know, and I'm not the best at pool.

I'm not the worst, but I had a moment where I completely missed a shot. And, yeah, I think she might have been joking, but what she said is, it's okay. I don't date winners anyway. And I don't know why, but for some reason, that just kind of rubs me the wrong way. And I couldn't really shake it the rest of the day. I kind of felt like she called me a loser, which I just missed a shot. a pool, but she kept saying it's a joke, relax, I'm kidding.

But the damage is kind of done. It really kind of felt like weirdly competitive or weirdly kind of a dig. And I don't know, I mean, I've had some bad dating history where people have been kind of not the kind of to me. So I don't know. For some reason, it really rubbed me the wrong way. Okay. Because she called you a loser?

I mean, essentially. Cool thing. Yeah. But that is kind of, you know, the thing that really made me give, it just gave me pause about whether or not I wanted to see her again. So I've been lyrinating on the idea. It is. It doesn't make you feel kind of takes the wind out of your sales or your confidence,

if you know what I mean. For sure, but you've got to feel good now knowing that she doesn't think you're a loser because she wants to know why you're ghosting her. Well. Well, I guess, I guess there is, that is a light at the end of the tunnel. if you got a bed of that way. You know, I don't think I'm a loser. I just think for some reason I just kept replaying that moment in my head.

It was like, wow, like, that was embarrassing enough. And then she kind of kicked me while I was down, you know? Yeah. And you don't want to date somebody that calls you a loser and kicks you while you're down. That's not your type. That was my type most of my life. So I'm saying, you know, I don't think that should be your type thing. Wow.

But I'm just making sure that's not your type. type. No, it's not my type, I wouldn't say. But she is, she was very cute. She's funny. I just can't believe she. Is she on the line right now? Yeah.

Do you remember now how these work? She is. She's on the phone and wants to talk to you. Oh, I totally forgot. Wait, she is on the line, isn't she? Yep. Yeah. Oh, God.

How's it going? Hey, so, I mean, that's kind of ridiculous. I mean, you ghosted me over that. It was obviously a joke. I mean, I understand how you meant it, but I couldn't help just replaying that moment in my head. And then I kind of, it kind of kicked my confidence to ask you out again because I didn't know if you really thought of that about me. I don't know.

Like, I thought it was like, am I disappointing you already? I don't know. I kind of felt like it kind of just planted a seat in my head. And for some reason, it's kind of blocked me from being able to reach out to you. So it just hit me the wrong way. I don't know how to explain it other than that. It was weird. Honestly, I rose people that I like.

If I didn't like you, I'd be polite. And honestly, polite would be the real red flag. I don't know if that sounds wrong. That's true, true. I mean, you lost. You lost that game. You lost that shot. But, I mean, I was just fooling around.

I know you're not really a loser. You're just a loser in that moment in time. But I was definitely not submitting feedback on your performance in general as a whole. In fact, like, I just really liked you. I hate thinking that you went home believing that I was so serious, but any end, losers can become winners, so we can try this again, maybe. Are you saying, like, you're being mean to me is supposed to be a green flag? that's what I'm looking forward to is you're going to be putting me down a lot.

That's a good question. Yeah, but I roast everybody that I care for, you big dummy. Well, hey, Daniel, you big dummy. Would you like to go out with Lexington? We'll pay for it. You know, I feel like this definitely made me feel kind of like a dummy because I think I got in my head. You were pretty great. I had a great time with you.

I'm sorry, I got a little overly sensitive about that. Wait, what? I think. Huh. Yeah, I mean, I do think I like to go on another day with you. I mean, now that I know how you operate, I'm sorry, I'll work on being less sensitive as a loser. What? Are you serious?

I think I may have overthought it. Okay. If you care enough to bring us on the radio, I think it's definitely worth another shot. Alexi, congratulations. You got yourself another date. I can't wait for our next day. Where are we going next? Wait a minute.

Jubil's first date follow-up. In the middle of the night, Saskia awoke in a haze. Her husband, Mike, was on his laptop. What was on his screen would change Saskia's life forever. I said, I need you to tell me exactly what you're doing. and immediately the mask came off. You're supposed to be safe. That's your home.

That's your husband. Listen to Betrayal Season 5 on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, it's Joel and Matt from How To Money. If your New Year's resolution is to finally get your finances in shape, we've got your back. Prices, they're still high and the economy is all over the place. But 2026 is the year for you, T, T, get intentional and make real progress. That's right. Yeah, each week we break down what's happening with your money, the most important issues to focus on, and the small moves that make a big

difference. Kick off the year with confidence, listen to How to Money on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. What if mind control is real? If you could control the behavior of anybody around you, what kind of life would you have? Can you hypnotically persuade someone to buy a car? When you look at your car, you're going to become overwhelmed with such good feelings. Can you hypnotize someone into sleeping with you? I gave her some suggestions to be sexually aroused. Can you get someone to join your cult?

NLP was used on me to access my subconscious. Mind Games, a new podcast exploring NLP, aka neurolinguistic programming. Is it a self-help miracle, a shady hypnosis scam, or both? Listen to Mind Games on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. This is Dr. Jesse Mills, host of the Mailroom podcast. Each January, men promise to get stronger, work harder, and fix what's broken. But what if the real work isn't physical at all? I sat down with psychologist, Dr. Steve Poulter, to unpack shame, anxiety, and the emotional pain men were never taught how to name.

Part of the way through the Valley of Despair is realizing this has happened, and you have to make a choice whether you're going to stay in it or move forward. Our two-part conversation is available now. Listen to the mailroom on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your favorite shows. This is an IHeart podcast. Guaranteed human.