First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Mya & Trevor: He Ghosted Her After the Date… Over a Coffee Order

Episode Date: January 9, 2026

Maya thought she’d found a real connection after a perfect first date—great conversation, flirty vibes, even a kiss. But just days later, she was completely ghosted. With no explanation and plenty of confusion, she turns to First Date Follow Up on The Jubal Show to finally get answers.What Trevor reveals when confronted leaves everyone stunned and sparks a heated back-and-forth you have to hear to believe. Is it a harmless coincidence… or a major dating red flag? Ever been ghosted after what you thought was an amazing date? Do you REALLY want that Second Date? The Jubal Show has your back! On First Date Follow Up, we track down the person who disappeared to get the real reason why. Awkward, hilarious, and sometimes downright shocking—First Date Follow Up delivers the truth, whether you want to hear it or not. Will there be a second date or just secondhand embarrassment? Subscribe to The Jubal Show's First Date Follow Up and find out! ➡︎ Get on The Jubal Show with your story - https://thejubalshow.com This is just a tiny piece of The Jubal Show. You can find every podcast we have, including the full show every weekday right here…➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com/podcasts The Jubal Show is everywhere, and also these places: Website ➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com  Instagram ➡︎ https://instagram.com/thejubalshow  X/Twitter ➡︎ https://twitter.com/thejubalshow  Tiktok ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@the.jubal.show Facebook ➡︎ https://facebook.com/thejubalshow  YouTube ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/@JubalFresh Support the show: https://the-jubal-show.beehiiv.com/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Maya is on the phone today for a first-date follow-up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Trevor, so in a few minutes we'll call him and see if he'll tell us why. he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date. But first, Maya, how long has it been since you heard from Trevor? Okay, that's quite a while. Yeah, well, so I tried reaching out, you know, a little. I texted once to make, oh, I had fun, because it was fun. And then I texted again and be like, how was your week?

And then I just on TikTok, that one that I thought he would like, because we already connected on there. But then I stopped because I didn't want to be that girl, you know. Okay, so three attempts. And no, nothing. Yeah, I don't know. After one day, that feels like a lot. But that's okay.

I don't think that's why you're getting ghosted, though. Because if he really liked you, it wouldn't matter. Right. That's why I'm so confused because it really was a great date. Tell us about it. What did you guys do? Well, they just, you know, did something low-key. We were like, let's, you know, go to a coffee, you know, a trendy coffee shop, I guess.

It ended up being, you know, one of those ones where it's like plants and coffee, but then there's just, like, one plant, and it's behind the counter, so you can't tell if it's fake, you know. whatever everything costs nine dollars but it's pretty good and they like lavender anyway um okay we yeah so we like you know got our drinks and ended up talking for a long time and um let's see he he got a cold brew i remember because he made this like little speech about how he drinks coffee for the vibes not the caffeine i was like i mean that's funny like okay sir i'm serious but But, you drink coffee for the vibes. So.

Yeah. What are coffee's vibes? Like, I mean, we were, we were just vibing. But anyway, so that's just an example, like, okay, it was fun. And then we walked around. I was a nearby, like, outdoor market, you know, like, sometimes it's a, what do you call it on weekends? Like a farmer's market, but there's just like little stuff.

Had some samples. I bought this really good honey for just to take home. Anyways, um, I love local honey. Anyways, yeah. We talk about travel and people watched and we just, we're clicking. You know, just like teasing me like in a flirty way, kind of felt like sarcastic. It just felt like rom-com meet cute. It was just one of those like perfect days, you know.

Okay. Like it was just great. And then we, you know, sat down on the bench towards the end of the day to finish our coffee and he put his arm around me. And it wasn't awkward. It was felt natural. And yeah, we did kiss on the bench. Aw, okay. All right.

You kissed on a bench and everything. You're still getting ghosted, huh? Yeah. What do you think went wrong? this sounds dumb so I'm like I feel dumb for even thinking that this is why he could be ghosting but I can't think of anything else I did spill spill my drink on him while I was laughing when we were sitting on the bench and it kind of went everywhere you know like there's just a little bit left but man that liquid just goes you know like on him on the ground on the bench so but he joked about it and stuff I thought that was fine but I was like well maybe he thinks I'm too much of a mess because of that I don't know no I don't know I don't know I don't I hope that's not why he ghosted you. How did he act after he spilled? So you said he was kind of joking about it, but like, did you kiss again after the bench?

Yeah, I think actually, I meant I still not before I kissed him. But, yeah, no, it didn't seem to, like, change anything. Okay. I also, like, talk about my mom a lot. I just remember that, like, bringing it up more than once. Not like a trauma way, but I was like, yeah, it depends how you talk about your mom, right? Like, you know. I mean, you're not supposed to bring up exes, but, like, it was just my mom.

That can't be weird. I talk about my mom all the time. I think that's probably fine. Like you said, though, just depends on how you're bringing it up. Maya is on the phone, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Trevor for three weeks now. So we're about to get him on the phone and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her a second date. But before we call him, Maya, why don't you break down your date with Trevor again real quick? So it was great.

It really was a coffee date, day-time date. Low-key, we kissed. I spilled coffee. I was her back. Okay, well, are you ready for us to call him up? Yeah. Okay, here we go. I'm going to dial this phone over right now.

Hi, man, I speak to Trevor, please. Hey, Trevor, how are you? This is a radio show. It's called The Jubal Show. Hi, Trevor. I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria. And my name's Jubal.

What's up? Okay. Is this real right now? Okay. Is anything really real, Trevor, if you think about it? I don't know. We can be philosophical, but anyway. I feel like he could have that conversation right now.

Have you ever listened to the Jeeble show before? Yeah, yeah, I have. Okay. Thank you. All right. Well, you might know or not know, I don't know, but we do a segment called the first date follow-up. That's where if you go on a date with somebody and you end up ghosting them,

they can email us to get you on the phone and ask why. So we got an email about you from somebody. Oh. Okay. Is it that? This is about my. It's probably about Maya, isn't it? It is about Maya.

You're correct, Trevor. Yeah, she emailed us and we talked to her a little bit about your date. It sounded fun. She sounded like she really liked you. Yeah. And she's confused. Do you mind telling us why you're ghosting her? Oh, well, I look.

First of all, like, I didn't hate the date. She was great. She's fun. She's cute. She just... honestly did like one little thing that kind of freaked me out what did she do well she she ordered the same drink as me like right after I ordered it and that freaked you out what's your drink again Trevor I like cold brew we went to a coffee shop

and I got a cold brew so you got just a straight up cold brew you're ghosting her because she got the same drink as you yeah but it's not just like that she ordered it like she said that sounds good i'll have that too like that's just intense to me um wait is this a joke is wait that i can't believe it that's why you go to me because i because i said that sounds good i'll have that too hey trevor that's my uh she's on the phone and she wants to talk to you obviously i didn't know she can hear me all right um uh yeah i needed to know and i just are you serious is that a joke that you're ghosting me over Why I ordered at a coffee shop?

Number A, I didn't. Number eight. Yeah, well, I also didn't know you were going to order the same exact drink as me. I mean. Well, why is that a thing? Wait, because I ordered a cold brew. Are you freaking kidding me? It's just in the past, like, I've dated girls that, like, I mean, one thing, like,

one minute you're ordering the same drink as me. like, if I ride motorcycles, you're riding motorcycles. If I do this thing, like, I've been through that. So you think it starts with the drink, ordering the same drink as you, and then they're wanting to do everything the same as you? Look, man, I've just, that's in my past. That's what I've experienced. It is one coffee, not a whole lifestyle change.

It's a principle. Okay, look, you put your arm around me, you kiss me, and then you disappeared over a drink order from the beginning of the date? When we say it like that, it sounds bad. Oh, thank you. I mean, I still stand by it. I really don't want somebody like copy my personality is what it is. Psychotic, right?

But I'm the psycho. You're the one who's trying to morph into me. Next thing I know you're going to be ordering the same thing at dinner or saying, like you're not hungry and eating all my food and absolutely not for that. I've had enough shape shippers in my life. I do not want another shapeshifter. Are you serious? Have you ever met a woman before?

Like you just... Yeah, I've met at least three of them. And then all of a sudden they were dudes and they were me. What? Start riding a motorcycle, you crazy person. You kiss me. Yeah, I did, but you know, you ordered the same drink as me. It's only a matter of time before.

I feel like I'm kissing myself. What? Are you okay? Okay, we'll have fun with that. Trevor, would you like another day with Maya? We'll pay for it. Honestly, I don't think so. I can go take myself out to dinner.

Oh, how nice. Well, that's good because if I did morph into you, I would become incredibly uninteresting, I wouldn't want that to happen to me. You know, don't hate the player, hate the game. If you really want to be mad at someone, be mad at Maddie. Maddie? What?

Maddie. Maddie. The last girl copied my drink order. He made great for her. Yeah, I'm wise to that now. He's shapeshifter. Okay. Jubel's first date follow-up.

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what we don't know, and how messy it can all be. I like to sleep in late and sleep early. Is there a chronotype for that, or am I just depressed? Health stuff is about learning, laughing, and feeling a little less alone. Listen on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hello, I'm Jorge Ramos.

This week, on the moment, we take a look at Venezuela's uncertain future in a conversation with two people who have directly advised U.S. presidents. Juan Gonzalez, we're in the Obama and Biden administrations. We're really good at invading countries. We're very bad at nation building. In Carlos de Rosillo, we're in Trump's, two terms. I can guarantee you that nobody in the Trump administration likes Del Cid Rodriguez. Listen to the moment with Jorge Ramos and Paola Ramos

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If you're looking for clarity, connection, and healthier ways to show up in your life, sacred lessons is here for you. Listen to Sacred Lessons with Mike Della Roach on the IHartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hey, everybody, it's Michelle Williams, host of checking in on the Black Effect Podcast Network. You know, we always say New Year, New Me, but real change starts on the inside. It starts with giving your mind and your spirit the same attention you give your goals. And on my podcast, we talk mental health, healing, growth, and everything you need to step into your next season,

whole and empowered. New Year, real you. Listen to checking in with Michelle Williams from the Black Effect Podcast Network on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts. Are you desperately hoping for change in 2026, but feeling stuck?

I'm Dr. Lari Santos, and in a new year series of my show, The Happiness Lab, I'm going to look at the science of getting, well, unstuck at work, unstuck in your relationships, and even unstuck inside your mind. I am the absolute worst culprit when it comes to getting into these ruminative loops and just driving myself crazy. Listen to the Happiness Lab on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your shows.

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