First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Nadine & Gabe - Bad Timing

Episode Date: December 4, 2023

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you heard from Gabe? It's been a pretty long time, maybe just like a week or so. What was the date like? It was literally perfect. We had the best time. Everything was in line. We have, you know, we both have German Shepherds and everything. One kid, everything seemed great. We had drinks and it was just such a good vibe. So I really thought it was something special.

You guys even match dogs? Yeah, that's when you know. I was going to say, man, that sounds like it's meant to be. That was some universe stuff there. For real. Okay. Well, tell us a little bit about your date. So we went to, you know, just get drinks and food and we played darts and lots of games.

And, you know, I did beat him at all of them i can't not i have to so yeah so we just talked about our dreams you know he was really sensitive and nice and i felt like we just the conversation just flowed which is super important and he made me laugh and again that's like my number one thing so yeah so it was really fun and um you know i kind of wanted to wind down but he wanted to keep going which i thought was a good sign so then how did the date end were you guys like kissy or like anything like that yeah definitely like flirty touchy kissy um so that's why again i thought i was like so sure i was waiting for a text from him from him or something you know like right afterwards but um literally nothing just silence and so i thought things were going so good so i was so surprised when i didn't hear anything and i don't know if

i did something that's the worst i don't know if i did something or he or what's going on but you know that's the worst i'm like what could i have done different was there anything that you think could have been why he's not calling you back like did anything kind of strange happen i don't know maybe again like i did beat him all the games i don't know sometimes you know the guy's ego could be hurt by that yeah we have had that happen on first date follow-ups before where that's the problem and And it's like, calm down a little bit. Yeah. Like, I don't care if she was the love of my life.

She beat me at skee-ball twice. Someone loves skee-ball. That's my favorite game, actually. Yeah, skee-ball is fun. It's all good. Okay, so other than that, is there anything else that happened that you can think of that would be a reason that he would ghost you? I don't know maybe i you know like i said i was kind of getting i'm kind of a homebody ish so maybe the

fact that i was like over it so like not over the date but just like i was like thought it was time to go home but again do you want to keep going so maybe that was something um you know like there wasn't really much silence or anything so So that's why I was confused. Could you have wanted something more rather than just like y'all separating at the end of the night? Just ask her. Do you think he wanted to smash? I tried saying it in a nice way. Yeah, I don't usually do that.

So maybe he was thinking something else was going to happen. But now I was looking for something like long term-ish. And I'm older now. So definitely thought he was looking for something more serious. So I thought, you know, that was happening. But you guys could be right. Well, we'll see if we can figure it out. Play a song, come back, call him, and then try to find out why he's ghosting you.

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Online at advocateslaw.com. Right in the middle of your first date follow-up, if you're just joining us, Nadine is on the phone, and she's getting ghosted by Gabe. So we're about to get Gabe on the phone and see if we can find out why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date. Nadine, before we call him, refresh everybody's memory on your date with Gabe. Yeah, so we went out. We had a really fun time. Everything was going super great.

We clicked. We talked the whole night. He wanted to keep the night going, even if I was a little tired. And we played a lot of games, and it was super fun, but I haven't heard from him since. So I'm wondering why. And the only thing you can think of is maybe his ego was bruised because you beat him at some of the games,

or maybe he was just trying to smash. Yeah, I beat him at some of the games. Yeah, so who knows? Maybe he thought we didn't mesh well. There's a lot of different scenarios, so I'm overthinking it, maybe. Yeah, definitely. That's what we all do, though. Easily. I know.

We'll call him right now, then, and see if we can figure it out. Here we go. You ready? Yes, thank you. Yep. Hello, this is Gabe. Hey, Gabe, what's up? This is Jubal. My name's Nina. I'm here with Jubal. And I'm Victoria.

Hi. Who are you guys? It's a good question. It's a radio show called The Jubal Show. There's three of us on the phone with you right now. Oh, okay. We're calling you because we got an email about you from one of our listeners. Oh, okay.

Uh, what are we doing? So we do a segment on the show called the first date followup. That's where if you go on a date with someone and end up ghosting them, that person can email us to get you on the phone and ask why. And we had an email about you from Nadine. You went on a date with her, and then it's been a little over a week, and you have not contacted her,

and she wants to know if you'll tell us why you're ghosting her. Yeah. Short version, I mean, Nadine was great. Okay. I had the best time with her, and here's the deal. That's great. Yeah, yeah, it was great. Okay. I had the best time with her. And here's the deal. That's great.

Yeah, yeah. It was great. I mean, we did. We have the same dog. You know what I mean? It's crazy. But the thing is this, and I didn't tell her this because I just wanted to go out and have a nice night. My job's sending me overseas, right?

This fall, I'm going to Europe. I'm going to be going for a year could be more depending on how it goes and i'm really excited about that um but i just you know like i had an amazing time with her and i mean the thing i didn't know how to handle it because i didn't want to i don't want to start something i can't finish i don't want to do long distance and that's basically what happened. That's fair. She being wife zoned. Sounds like she's being wife zoned.

This is a new term that we heard. Basically, when a woman is amazing and you just can't do it. That sucks. That's right. But it doesn't sound like you're wife zoning her based off of like what you would want, right? Like, it's not like you're like,

bro, she's just way too good. Like I can't disrespect her. So I'm not going to date her. No, no, no. It's just a timing thing, right? You know, like I'm in, I mean, in the next couple of months, I'm going to start getting ready to leave.

I'm leaving, you know, I'm leaving the country for over a year. Yeah. So it's just, it's just straight up timing. And I don't want to, and I don't want to, you know, fall madly in love with this person and then shut off the Europe for 18 months. Yeah, I mean, that would be tough.

If you just start a relationship and you're really into them and then you have to be gone for that long, that would be hard. Yeah, I mean, I did something like this in the past and it did not work out well for either of us. And I just said to myself, when that happened, I'll never do it again. You know? Okay. Because it was so great.

And because the situation is, I didn't know how to handle it. So to be honest, I'm sort of glad you guys called. I feel like I've been in a situation like this before too. And then not talking to them is the easiest way because of temptation. Really? And so it's just better to avoid it altogether

because then you can just try to shut it off in your head and move forward, which sucks. Yes. but it sometimes is the easiest thing to do yeah it's ghosting them yeah but i mean yeah it's protecting everybody seriously because i mean i know for me i would be like okay i'm gonna get together and talk to her and then before i know it we'd be in a relationship and i'd be gone for anything wasn't right this is terrible why did i make that decision right thank you, Gabe, for being honest. Appreciate that. Nice criticism to her. You know, that's the truth.

Yeah. It's easier to do this and in a couple months I'm out of here anyhow. I mean, you did tell her. You know? Yeah. You did tell her. Wait, what do you mean I did? Well, yeah, you did, but she's on the phone and has been listening this whole time and wants to talk to you.

Oh. Hey. Hey, Nadine. Hi. Hi. Hi. Yeah. Sexual tension.

Oh, seriously. Yeah, no, I don't. Could she use a dart? Yeah, I wish you would have told me. Yeah, definitely long distance isn't something that I would want. So maybe you could have told me, you know, I could have at least had some better expectations. But other than that, you know, I'm glad I know it's nothing I did. No, it is totally not you.

You're amazing. It's been a minute since I've been out, and I haven't connected with somebody like I connected with you in a real long time. If the situation were different, if I wasn't leaving the country, no one could stop me from seeing you again. Oh, you know, and if you were to, well, it's true. I haven't, it's been a long time and I haven't met someone.

I mean, she's, maybe it was wonderful and perfect in every way. And that's not something you expect when you just, you know, so if you'll be open, Nadine, if you're still available when I'm back, I would love to hit you up again. Yeah, I definitely would love that, too. You know, like I said, it was a good date. That would be perfect. And hopefully, you know, timing will be right then. Are you sure you guys don't want just a couple nights?

Yeah. You know, like before he goes away to make sure that this is something that you want to remember. That is a great idea, Nina. Hey, Nadine, would you like to go out with Gabe for a weekend at a hotel? We'll pay for it. Oh, there you go. As your next date.

Yeah, definitely pay for it. I'm there. Alright, well, we'll pay for it. For real. That'll be your next date. Like, spend the weekend together and see what you think. We gotta ask Gabe, though. He put the hard no on this. together and see what you think. We gotta ask Gabe, though. He put the hard no on this. Gabe, what do you think? Well, I mean, so,

I mean, look, you only live once, right? So, I love to. Yeah. You're picking up a hotel tab and we're going out for the weekend? Yeah. You know? Just don't put a baby in her, otherwise you're gonna be stuck for life. No, we're talking about 18 baby in her, otherwise you're going to be stuck for life.

No, we're talking about 18 months. We're talking about 18 years at that point, Gabe. Well, congratulations. Have fun, at least, and let us know how everything ends up for you guys, okay? Will do. Thank you so much. Yeah, thank you. Now, if this isn't a lesson in not ignoring the universe, I don't know what is.

Jubal's first date follow up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorney. Online at AdvocatesLaw.com. Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the homestretch right in time for a new season of my podcast. Next Question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon. But we're also going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new

season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show, ears edition podcast. Join late night legend Jon Stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines, exclusive extended interviews and more. Now this is a second term we can all get behind.

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