First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Rob was not on the list in this First Date Follow Up!

Episode Date: August 4, 2022

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The Jubal Show on demand. First day follow-up. Rob is on the phone today, and Rob is not getting a call back from Monica. They went on a date to see a rock band. Yeah, apparently Rob's friends with some big rock stars. Rob's calling us because his date Monica isn't calling him back and he doesn't know why, even though he's got huge rock star friends. Before we get into all that though, Rob, how long has it been since you went out with Monica?

Yeah, it's been about two weeks now. Two weeks? All right, that's a decent amount of time. Yeah, that's definitely being ghosted, for sure. Rob, how many times have you tried to hit her up? You know, I actually reached out a couple times via text. I eventually just ended up calling her and I haven't gotten anything back. So I left it alone for a while and then I just figured I'd try and see if you guys could

help. Okay. Well, we definitely will try to help you out. So your email said that you went to go see a rock band and you are friends with famous rock stars. That's not really the way it said it. That's the way I'm saying it just to sound weird but uh tell us about the date yeah for sure um so yeah we we met on tinder uh and um i took her so one of my friends is in like a 90s rock cover band type show so like yeah not you know not maybe not a big rocks maybe one day um so i thought like oh yeah this is nice like you know, it's one of my friends. I'll feel comfortable in that environment. So we went and saw the show and I thought it went really well. You know, I liked talking to her.

I found her very attractive and I felt like the date went really well. And then she just ghosted me. OK, well, is there anything that happened on the date that you think could have ruined your chances? Before we went, I like made sure you like, hey, you know, it's a 90s rock band. Like, is this something that you'd be interested in? So like I knew right away that that was that was going to work out. There were two things that I, you know, I racked my brain on what it could have been. And there are two things that stuck out. The first was that when we first got to the venue,

my friend was supposed to put me on like the list to get in. And so when we first got to the club, we ended up standing outside for 20 minutes because she must have forgotten to put me on the list. That's embarrassing. Yeah, it is. Especially if you tell someone, no, I'm friends with the band. And then they. Yeah, it is. Especially if you tell someone, no, I'm friends with the band. Yeah, right.

And then they're like, where's your name? I promise, I'm friends with them. I'm with the band. I'll show you the text message. I don't need to see that, sir. Everybody's friends with the band. Get back in line.

That is an embarrassing situation. Absolutely. And so, I mean, like, yes, super embarrassing. And I was like, I'm so sorry for this. She seemed like totally okay with it. I was like, okay, great. Like, I'm not, you know, it's not a good as they normally are. You know, whatever, like their song lineup, or they just weren't, you know, vibing that night.

Whatever it was, it just, it wasn't as good as it normally was. And so I was like, maybe she thinks I just, you know, it's not a, I don't know. I don't know. That was the only thing that I could think of. You took her to see this band that you had talked about. You talked it up. The first thing is you weren't on the list.

They forgot to put you on the list, so it looks like you probably don't know them and then the music was more like this not this is that what happened yeah i mean that's the only thing i can really think of uh you know like i said i i felt like after all that our date ended really well like i i walked into her car i gave her a hug we like laughed about the performances a little bit and i had like made mention of it like hey normally they're better and so like i felt like we mutually agreed that it was a good night and then that was it you didn't get a kiss or anything no hug any physical contact you know i was trying to be a gentleman uh you know i felt like uh if if the opportunity was there would i would

have taken it but i just felt like okay we're you know this is where the night's ending and we'll call it a night okay all right that's nice yeah so and that's the only reasons that you can think is maybe the band wasn't as good as you thought it would be or you told her it was and then also maybe it looked like you might not have known them as well as you do because you weren't on the list yeah Yeah, absolutely. All right. Well, we'll see if we can figure it out then. We'll play a song, come back, and then call her and get your first day follow-up next.

Sound good? Sounds good. Thanks. Sounds great. Gravy. Hey, Rob. Yeah. Yeah. Listen, I would love to do the first day follow-up for you, but you're not on the list.

Sorry. Too soon. So if you're just joining us for the first date follow-up, I started it off that way because Rob took a girl, Monica, to see a band. And he knows the singer of this 90s cover rock band. And he wanted to take his date, Monica, there. They went there, except he wasn't on the list. And that's always awkward if you know the people, but they didn't put you on the list. Now it looks like you don't really know them. So that was a weird moment on the list. And that's always awkward if you know the people but they didn't put you on the list. Now it looks like you don't really know them.

So that was a weird moment on their date. And then they went to the show and Rob said that the band wasn't as good as they usually are. So maybe it was just really a bad experience all around. And that's why he thinks Monica might not be calling him back.

When they parted ways, he thought she had a good time. They said, hey, we'll go out again. But it's been two weeks and he's heard nothing from her. We're about to get her on the phone right now and see if we can figure it out. Here we go.

Let's get it. Hello? Hi, may I speak to Monica, please? Yeah, this is Monica. Hey, Monica, how are you? My name is Jubal, and I'm calling from a radio show that is called The Jubal Show. And it's Alex from the same show. And Christian Greisner from also the same show.

Cool, hi. Hi. Hi. This is cool. What's up? Oh, so you know the show then? Yeah, I do. Okay. Hopefully you still like it after we're done talking to you. Oh is cool. What's up? Oh, so you know the show then? Yeah, I do. Okay. Cool.

Hopefully you still like it after we're done talking to you. Oh, God. What does that mean? It means that we got an email about you from somebody that you went on a date with. Mm-hmm. Oh, man. Yeah. Okay.

Am I in trouble? Like, what's happening? This is a first date follow-up. You went on a date with someone. You ghosted them, and they want to know why because they really liked you and that person's name is rob yes rob i yeah i i know okay okay this makes sense okay but i didn't i didn't go to them on purpose it just i mean i have my opportunity to explain, right? Yeah. So it's like, it's been about like two weeks or something. And he, we went on a date and he took me to see, it was like his friend's cover band.

They do like 90s rock. And so, I mean, he said that they were his friends and we get there and we're not on any sort of list that we have to wait outside, which I was totally fine with. You know, there were some cool people outside. We just all got to chatting and talking and, you know, we go inside afterward. One of the reasons that it could be why you're not calling him back, he thought, was the fact that he wasn't on the list and it might have looked like he didn't actually know the people he told you he knew. No, no. I mean, stuff happens.

Like, I didn't care about that. And, you know, it was fine. We were just waiting outside, just talking. It gave us more of an opportunity to talk. So I was cool with it. Okay. But then, like, we get in, and I thought the band was great. Like, they sounded good to me, and, yeah, that wasn't it.

He told us that the band wasn't as good as they normally are he thought that was the other reason that you might not be calling him back but you actually thought they were good no i thought they were good now i will say that the red flag that pops up for me was that the whole time they were playing and even before we even got in in the club to hear them play he was just talking trash about them the entire time. What? Yeah, he was, you know, he was like, sometimes they're hit or miss, and I don't want you to have, like, high expectations about the band,

like that type of stuff. And I'm like, dude, these are your friends. Why are you talking about them like that? You should be, like, their number one fan. So, I don't know. I mean, something my grandmother always used to tell me was just like you know how harry talks about sally says more about harry than it does about sally so i'm just like if he's talking about his friends like that then

i don't want to be with a guy who does that if somebody's constantly talking trash about people you know they're doing the same thing about you when you leave the room that's like anytime i've had a friend who's constantly doing that they're usually not my friend for very long because i'm just like i don't want to hang out i don't want to say hang out and talk about how bad everybody else is yeah can we talk about something else also i don't want you talking about how bad i am i'm scared to hear what you have to say about me for me it's just like if you do that with someone that you just met and throw your friends that you've known for years or however longer under the bus for someone that you just met, then I don't know. It just rubbed me the wrong way. You know what?

We did talk to him and he did tell us that they weren't good that night. So maybe not. Maybe he's talking trash about them. Yeah. Yeah. I don't know. I thought they were good. I didn't have high expectations for a cover band anyway. them. Yeah, yeah. I don't know. I just thought they were good.

I didn't have high expectations for a cover band anyway. Right. Yeah. I mean, you're going to a 90s rock cover band. Really, you shouldn't be like, this is going to be the most amazing thing.

You're not going to a Dale or anything. Yeah. No, it was more about, you know, just the fact that we were going out together. It was supposed to be something that was fun

and it ended up not being fun because he was just, you know. Yeah, he took the fun out of it the whole time yeah all right well i hope this doesn't take the fun out of it for you but he is on the phone listening and wants to talk to you oh forgot yeah hey monica hey hey rob yeah sorry to do this on the air. It just seems weird to me. I mean, yeah, I'm sorry if that's the reason. I talk about my French porns in a joking way.

We do that with each other all the time. We bust each other's balls. That's what we do. That's what friends do. We've known each other for years. Yeah, I guess it's because it was our it was our first date and we don't know much about each other. I didn't know that you do that with your friends, so it really

just came off as just you being a d***. Just, yeah, I mean, you could have told me that via text or anything. It just sucks that we had to Now it's just out for the public to hear. So, Rob, if you were to say the things that you were saying to her about your friend's band to them, would they be cool with it?

Absolutely. I actually talked to them after the show and was like, hey, not your best performance. Like, you know, they know. I told my friend exactly what I told Monica. So, like, they know exactly what I said to her. Yeah. I mean, even if that's the way that you guys are with each other, it just, it just, I mean, it just comes off as negative to me. So I don't have that interaction with my friends and I don't want my friends to have that type of

interaction with me. I would take it personally. And if that's the way that you talk to people that, that, you know, you like, that you love, then, uh, if we got into a relationship, I would have a problem because I don't want someone ripping on me the entire time we're together. Who doesn't want that? I'm too sensitive for that stuff, too. All right. Yeah, I mean, I guess that's just difference of opinion there,

but sorry it didn't work out, but good luck with your dating advice from your grandmother. Oh, that was strange. Thanks, and good luck with ripping on your friends all the time all right well let me ask the question then Monica would you like to go out with Rob again on another date we will pay for it no I'm good

thank you I'm okay are you sure yeah no I'm good just you know have fun being miserable yeah exactly that's what I'm talking about that, you know, have fun being miserable. Yeah, exactly. That's what I'm talking about.

That's good. That's a good joke. We can, you know, give each other. No, that was not a joke, Rob. I was I was being serious. Oh, the Jubal show on demand. We're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble.

More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Experiencing the news each day can feel like a journey.

With Up First from NPR, though, it doesn't have to be. Welcome to 15 easy minutes of breaking news, clarity on international and national affairs, and a casual tone that you can take in with breakfast. Begin your day informed, ready, and refreshed. Begin your day with Up First. Subscribe to Up First from NPR on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric.

Well, the election is in the homestretch right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon. But we're also going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.