First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Russell & Chrissy - The Mug That Ruined the Date 😬

Episode Date: January 8, 2026

What starts as a sweet, artsy night quickly turns into an awkward mystery involving silence, overthinking, and a moment Russell can’t stop replaying in his head. Was it nerves… or something much weirder? 👀 Ever been ghosted after what you thought was an amazing date? Do you REALLY want that Second Date? The Jubal Show has your back! On First Date Follow Up, we track down the person who disappeared to get the real reason why. Awkward, hilarious, and sometimes downright shocking—First Date Follow Up delivers the truth, whether you want to hear it or not. Will there be a second date or just secondhand embarrassment? Subscribe to The Jubal Show's First Date Follow Up and find out! ➡︎ Get on The Jubal Show with your story - https://thejubalshow.com This is just a tiny piece of The Jubal Show. You can find every podcast we have, including the full show every weekday right here…➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com/podcasts The Jubal Show is everywhere, and also these places: Website ➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com  Instagram ➡︎ https://instagram.com/thejubalshow  X/Twitter ➡︎ https://twitter.com/thejubalshow  Tiktok ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@the.jubal.show Facebook ➡︎ https://facebook.com/thejubalshow  YouTube ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/@JubalFresh  Support the show: https://the-jubal-show.beehiiv.com/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. Guaranteed human. First date follow-up. Powered by the advocates injury attorneys. Online at Advocateslaw.com. Russell is on the phone today for a first date follow-up, and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Christy, so we're about to call her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him

and maybe get him a second date. But first, Russell, how long has it been since you heard from Christy? Five days. He said that very confidently, like you have been counting. Yeah. It's, I mean, you know, you can always debate, it does the first day count or, you know, but I would say five days. Five days. Okay. Have you tried to reach out to her? Um, I, I, I, I did. I texted a, hey, what's going on, um, about two days ago, uh, that got no response. Oh. But, uh, but, uh, but, you know, I mean, I can only, one text can always be forgiven if not being responded to.

And then, but I felt like if I sent a second text, um, that's, uh, but, but, uh, but, but, uh, but, that's when it'd start to get creepy fair um well tell us about your date okay so all right so i like i liked chrissey uh she uh she had this like calm confidence like like like this chill like i got my life together energy like you can you just spot somebody who's like got their stuff together totally um and but but like she would like laugh with these like tiny snorts oh it's really adorable like you know like like someone she's like laughs with snorts you can tell like it's not like a fake laugh because no one would laugh that way. Right.

And she also would talk with her hands, but not like being overly dramatic. She was just like expressive. So you felt like you were really drawn into conversation with her. And so we went on this like simple date, like an indoor kind of date thing. What did you do indoors? So we met at this like paint in your own mug night at like this wine bar. It was like low key, cozy, warm lighting, you know, lots of mismatch. chairs and indie music and stuff like that and we sat across from each other and painted our

mugs while sharing childhood stories and you know sipping pinot noir it's a nice spin on sipping paint it's all right yeah it was it was nice and then there was a moment that i think probably brought the ghosting along so while we're painting um crissy goes up and she's chatting with a girl the front counter because she needs to grab more glaze like you do and um Um, but, but then she said, I always attract the quiet ones and the front desk girl, like, laughed and, and, and then she responded with, well, hey, those are usually the weird ones. And she was like, usually the weird ones. Yeah. And it's like, it's weird when you, you can't unhear that.

The moment you hear that, your brain just starts spiraling and spiraling, even though you're in the middle of the date. So you're just trying to, like, throw yourself together and it despite the fact that your brain is just going in a hundred directions. Uh, and. And I, like, honestly, like, I was convinced she was talking about me because who else was she going to be talking about at this wine bar? And, like, I'm thinking, like, okay, she thinks I'm awkward or, like, I'm too introverted or, like, I'm not, like, fun or anything or, like, just not like the guy she had hoped she wanted. So I spend the entire rest of the date overthinking every single word that comes out of my mouth. Like, am I being boring? Am I being too serious?

Too slow to joke back? I like like should I be talking more should I be talking less did I pick the wrong mug shape you know it's like I should I go for the tea mug when I should have gone for like the gigantic black coffee mug and I'm just you know and it just it just felt like like emotional and insecure and I felt like I was everything I'm not for the rest of the day and even though and and I mean Christy seemed totally normal and and she even laughed a few times but like I felt like I was like closing off and I was trying way too hard to not seem weird, which is like the best way to seem weird.

Right. But still at the end, like we took a picture holding our mugs. But in my head, like I just thought like she, she was stiff and like she's uncomfortable. And like stiff and uncomfortable because of me. Okay. But I felt chemistry. So that's the thing. It's like I felt like chemistry, but like embarrassment.

Like she'd seemed totally through me. Sounds like you had a really emotional night. Yeah. And so after five days of silence, I'm convinced she probably told her friends, I'm the weird quiet guy at the wine bar. And I feel like I just want to explain, maybe try again, because I think there's potential if like we could just get off on the right foot. Okay. Russell is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Chrissy. So in a second, we're going to call her see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him a second date.

But before we do that, Russell, why don't you break down your date again for us real quick? Five days ago, I had a great, what started off as a great date with Chrissy at this wine bar where we were painting mugs. And then all of a sudden I overhear her talking about the weird and creepy quiet ones. And I just, it sent me the rest of the date. I was like, not standoffish, but I definitely was overthinking everything. And now she hasn't sent me a text or anything in five days. And you're pretty sure when she was talking to the person at the place you went about the quiet, weird, creepy people. I can't think of anybody else she would have been talking about unless she had a full history with the person working at the wine bar.

All right. Well, here we go. Are you ready for us to call her? I think so, yeah. Okay. Hey, Chrissy. Hey, Chrissy. How are you?

This is a radio show. It's called the Jubal Show. Hi, Chrissy. I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria. I'm freeze the producer. And my name is Jubal. How are you? I'm good. And I'm not prepared for this. Have you ever listened to the show before? Yeah. Well, if you've ever heard a first date follow-up before, that's the segment where if you end up ghosting somebody, they can call us to get you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them.

We got an email about you, Chrissy. Oh, okay. Any idea who you're ghosting? that would be wanting to figure out why? Yeah, I kind of know. Who is it? This guy, Russell. Russell? No.

It's a guy named Jim. You know Jim? Jubal. Yes. It is Russell. Russell emailed us and said that he went on a date with you. He thought it was great. He thought you were awesome, but now you're ghosting him, and he's wondering if you'll tell us why. I mean, it's kind of embarrassing.

For him? maybe both of us okay do you mind just telling us a little bit about it he's really curious okay so it was the way he sat sat yeah okay what is that mean okay i know this sounds insane but we were at this like paint your own mug place uh-huh and he he just sat there for 20 minutes without moving, without blinking, just totally statue-esque. So he just sat there like a statue? Yeah. Was he talking at all, or he was just quietly sitting there?

No, like totally in the zone, not speaking, nothing. It was freaking me out. Was he painting his mug? Yes. Okay. He was doing what he was supposed to be doing. Yeah, like I'm picturing him stop painting his mug and just staring off in his face very stiffly.

So he was doing his mug But the way that he was sitting And like his demeanor What? It creep you out or something? Yeah, yeah, definitely. Was it like I'm sitting up super straight and frozen Or like kind of hunched over and frozen

Like did he at least feel like he was frozen At a comfortable position? What? I don't know because then it would make you have like different, you know? It looks very uncomfortable And that also freaked me out. Okay. Yeah, he wasn't moving like at all.

It was given. me, like, low-key serial killer vibe. Oh, okay. Free, three, three, three. Um, well, I'd be curious to know if he is one of those. Same. We could just ask him. Let's ask him.

Chrissy, Russell is on the phone and wants to talk to you. Wait, he is. Yes, he is. Russell? He's been listening to it. Hey, Chrissy. Yeah. Hey.

Are you moving, Russell? I'm not. Sorry, I'm just, I'm a little taking it back here. I'm just, like, I'm finding myself, it's a little weird. I'm being ghosted over the fact that I put effort into painting a mug. I didn't even pick the mug place. I just sort of thought like, okay, she cares about mugs. And so I'm sitting there, like making it not seem like I'm making fun of the fact

that we're painting these mugs that she wanted to paint. Yeah, but we were on a date. Like, how are you supposed to get to know me? If you're just sitting there frozen, painting a mug, a whole thing. time. I was concentrating. It's called being focused. I was, you know, I was trying to make this mug look like it was worthy of the date. Yeah, but you look like you were buffering. You went silent in there as well. I mean, you were trying to paint the perfect mug on your side. It seemed like, like honestly, it seemed like you were like writing your resignation

letter to the universe. Like, we were in an activity. I mean, you were, you, you know, you, You weren't talking either. Yeah, because I was sitting across from you, so I figured I might as well just sit here and paint my mug, too. Sounds like a couple of kids in their first day, right? I know. Okay, I mean, I get that you were focusing on the mug, but honestly, like, I overheard you talking to the lady from the wine bar,

and you were kind of talking shit about me. What? No way, wasn't. You were talking about attracting the quiet guys and like how they're the weird ones oh yeah I was talking about you I was telling her how you were a quiet weirdo okay so that feels pretty aggressive

we had just met and we were in the middle of like making these mugs you know what I'm really busy so I'm gonna go now oh okay Russell Chrissy's Chrissy hung up how have a good day she's already gone I see why you liked her

I'm so sorry, Russell. I, you know, I got to be honest. I thought doing an activity on a first date was going to, like, bring about conversation. Sure. I did not think it was going to create a level of, you know, just, like, intensity from her. It doesn't sound like this was a you thing, though, Russell. Yeah, it just sounds like, yeah, maybe something else is going on there. She definitely didn't like your vibe when you were painting the mug, that's for sure.

Maybe she was, like, painting. I don't know. You know what the worst part is? I forgot the mug at the wine bar. Oh, no. And you focus so hard. It is a first-day fall, so I have to ask no matter what. Chrissy, would you like to go on another date with Russell?

We'll pay for it. No, thank you. I'm not interested in another date with you, Russell, even though I thought you were super sexy with the stubble and all. She said no. Sorry, Russell. How did you know I hadn't shaved? This is an eye heart.

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