First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Ryan & Lana - Ghosted After the Perfect Kiss

Episode Date: September 2, 2025

Ryan thought his date with Lana was everything he’d been looking for—fun, romantic, and ending with the perfect kiss. But after two weeks of silence, he can’t figure out why she suddenly disappeared. In this First Date Follow Up on The Jubal Show, we call Lana to uncover the truth—and what she reveals may surprise you. Listen now to hear if Ryan gets a second chance or if this love story ends for good. Ever been ghosted after what you thought was an amazing date? Do you REALLY want that Second Date? The Jubal Show has your back! On First Date Follow Up, we track down the person who disappeared to get the real reason why. Awkward, hilarious, and sometimes downright shocking—First Date Follow Up delivers the truth, whether you want to hear it or not. Will there be a second date or just secondhand embarrassment? Subscribe to The Jubal Show's First Date Follow Up and find out! ➡︎ Get on The Jubal Show with your story - https://thejubalshow.com This is just a tiny piece of The Jubal Show. You can find every podcast we have, including the full show every weekday right here…➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com/podcasts The Jubal Show is everywhere, and also these places: Website ➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com  Instagram ➡︎ https://instagram.com/thejubalshow  X/Twitter ➡︎ https://twitter.com/thejubalshow  Tiktok ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@the.jubal.show Facebook ➡︎ https://facebook.com/thejubalshow  YouTube ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/@JubalFresh Support the show: https://the-jubal-show.beehiiv.com/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Who cares about truth when the lives more entertaining? Welcome home. I'm Angela Ryd, co-host of the Native Lamb Pod with Andrew Gillum and Tiffany Cross, and we want you all to survive and thrive in this political moment. We're having the same debates that American households are having all over the country. I'm terrified that in our rest, we're going to miss the moment. You want me to stop resting. What specifically are you asking me to do? stay informed and take action listen to native land pod on the iheart radio app apple podcast or

wherever you get your podcast i'm dr scott barry coughman host of the psychology podcast here's a clip from an upcoming conversation about how to be a better you when you think about emotion regulation you're not going to choose an adaptive strategy which is more effortful to use unless you think there's a good outcome avoidance is easier ignoring is easier denials is easier Your complex problem solving takes effort. Listen to the psychology podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. It's important that we just reassure people that they're not alone and there is help out there. The Good Stuff podcast, season two, takes a deep look into One Tribe Foundation, a non-profit fighting suicide in the veteran community.

September is National Suicide Prevention Month, so join host Jacob and Ashley Schick as they bring you to the front lines of One Tribe's mission. One Tribe, save my life. Twice. Welcome to season two of the Good Stuff. Listen to the Good Stuff podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. First date of follow-up, powered by the advocates injury attorneys, online at Advocateslaw.com. Ryan is on the phone today for our first date follow-up. He's getting ghosted by a woman named Lena. And in a few minutes, we're going to call her, see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him another date. But first, Ryan, how long has it been since you heard from her? You know, it's been,

like a couple weeks that's definitely a ghosting yeah so how many times have you reached out to her in that time you know just a few times i don't like to like text too much you know what i mean like you like i think three times i text her and i'm like yeah that's i'm not doing any more than that so what do let's go back to the date then like how did you guys meet what happened on the date so we met on hinge and then i felt like a really good connection we both love concerts and like new adventures and trying new things, traveling, stuff like that. And, like, she's very witty and she's very interesting. She's beautiful.

So, um, we went to a burger spot on the water. Nice. Okay. Yeah, you know, it was a lot of fun. Like, we, it was nice, like, kind of outside kind of area. We were having some drinks, you know, just talking. And afterwards, we went and walked around and, like, kind of took into scenery. And we, you know, we had a really great kiss.

And it was just like, I don't understand why she ghosted me because it felt so romantic and, like, idealized, you know. I mean, maybe some people would think it's cheesy. I don't know, but that's what I was looking for. Well, it sounds romantic, actually. So after all of this time, you know she's ghosting you two weeks later. The date sounds great, but what is it about her that makes you want to see her now? You know, I just felt like I had a real connection. and we were like kind of similar goals.

We both want to travel. I just felt like we went well together. Did something happen on the date at all that may have made it go in a different direction? Well, I will say, you know, something kind of not popular now is I have made a decision recently to abstain from sex until marriage. Okay. And did you told her this? Yes, yes, I did. And this is new.

You haven't always Okay, okay Right And you think maybe she had a problem with that Because she's like, I need you right now, Ryan? You know, it's possible Because like I don't think that's a thing

That's common now Like, you know, some people do it But it's like, especially, you know, here Like I don't feel like that's one of those things That people do anymore But the reason why I kind of went that direction is You know, I slept around And it felt empty

And it felt like I was just kind of using girls for their body, and I wasn't connecting. Right. You know, and it's one of those things after a while, you're like, gosh, like, what do I really want? So, you know, I asked myself, and I was like, I want somebody that I could build a future with, and I feel like Lana has that potential. Okay. I can respect that. After my last breakup, I decided that I wasn't going to give

myself to anybody unless I thought that their energy was good, you know, or that, like, it wasn't necessarily a marriage thing, but it was kind of the same thing, but it was more about I don't want to like mix my energy with bad energy you know because I feel like it does I feel like you know you do it does somehow become a part of you well you exchange more than yeah just what you can see exactly is also exchanged between the two of you so fair for fair points for both of you look at you guys thank you because that's for maturing Ryan for showing everybody then want connections too so why do you think she's ghosting you then I think you know I just don't know if she was comfortable with that.

I mean, that's my thought, but, like, I don't know for sure because everything else went pretty well. But when I said that, she didn't have a bad reaction, but it was just kind of like, she tensed up a little bit, you know? And then it's kind of like, that moment passed. So I was like, oh, I guess it's fine. We'll see if we can figure it out for you. Then we'll play a song, come back, and then call her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you and maybe get you another date, okay? Okay, sounds great. All right, man.

Play a song, come back, get your first day follow up next. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him?

Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Who cares about truth when the lives more entertaining. Hey, everybody. I'm Angela Rye, co-host of Native Lambot with Tiffany Cross and Andrew Gillum.

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Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. In the middle of the first date, follow up, and if you're just joining us, Ryan is on the phone. He's getting ghosted by Lana. And in a minute, we're going to call her, see if she helps why she's ghosting him and maybe get him another date. But first, Ryan, why don't you recap to everybody your situation? So I met Lana on Hinge. We connected really quickly. I felt like a good connection with her, lots of similar interests. We went to a Berger spot on the water had a bunch of cocktails and had a lot of fun and we went for a walk we kissed everything seemed perfect but um i feel like maybe because i want to abstain from sex until marriage

because of my past that she might be ghosting me okay are you ready for us to call her yes okay here we go hello Hi, man, I speak to Lana, please. This is Lana. Hi, Lana, how are you? My name is Jubal, and I host a radio show. It's called The Jubal Show. Hi, Lana.

The whole show's here. I'm Nina. Hi, and I'm Victoria. How are you? Hi. What's up, girl? I'm good, thank you. Have you ever heard the show before?

I have not. Okay. I'll let you know something. We do a segment on our show. It's called the first date follow-up. What that is, is if you go out on a date with somebody and then you ghost them, that person can email us to get you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them. So we got an email about you.

oh and this is from Ryan oh yes it is wow she knew right away yeah sometimes people say another name so we know they're ghosting multiple people but you're obviously just ghosting Ryan right now uh I would say that I have not exactly been ghosting Ryan that wasn't my intention um I was taking time to process what he told me at the end of our date. Ryan said that he is waiting until marriage and that is not something that I've ever done in a relationship. I have always had intimacy with all of my partners and it's a really big part of a relationship for me. So it was not my intention to completely ghost Ryan. I really was trying to take time to think about if this could be something that would work for me.

I had such a good time. So you liked him? Yes. It was so magical. And he's such a spiritual guy. And we really connected. I felt like he was really seeing me. But I'm afraid that if we get into this relationship without, you know, the intimacy that I'm usual,

well, one, this sounds bad, but what if we're not good together physically and we find out too late? That's fair. Yeah. And another thing that I have been thinking about is what if it becomes something that gives me, you know, reason to stray or thoughts to stray because I am a sexual person. Yeah. Okay. So you're processing a lot of different things. Yeah, absolutely.

I can understand that. Yeah. I mean, it's not something that you hear all the time. time, and especially if that's a way that you connect and share yourself with another person. And then that's a lot of pressure too, right? Because you're like, wait a second. So we're doing this. I'm going to get excited and want to unwrap the present, but I can't unless I marry you.

So what if we could convince Ryan to sleep with you before you're married? Would you go out with him again? Juvenile. No, this is his commitment. But would you? I would love to sleep with Ryan. But if this is a boundary that he is setting, I and I were to get into a relationship with him, I would, I would want to respect that.

I would not, once I am in the relationship, I would not, I would have given up any plans to sleep with Ryan. What if we could convince him to go back on his morals, though? Jubal. She is respecting his boundaries. Maybe you should respect his boundaries too. I'll respect his boundaries for now. Lana, Ryan is actually on the phone listening and wants to talk to you. Oh, hi, Ryan.

Um, yeah, I know it's, it's probably like the most awkward way we could meet again. But I want to say, first of all, I respect that, like, you respect my boundaries. It was nice to hear that without you knowing I was there. Because like that, that proves to me that if we can make it work, that this could work. But, um, I just want to say, like, for me, I don't see intimacy as just there's physical, emotional, mental intimacy that can be built. Like, you know, we can have days where we just cuddle, kiss, collass. Like, all that's on the table still.

I'm just not trying to take it all the way. So, like, where do you draw the line? I think that's something that we have to discuss, right? Mind your business, girl. Got it. Got it. I respect that, and that does make me excited to hear that you have interest in being intimate with me. I am my biggest concern is still I just am really concerned of straying and that's not your fault not your fault at all

that's something that I need to decide and you know make a plan with my morals that I will not you know if we were to be in a relationship together that I will not feel that I'm not getting what I need and then look for what I need elsewhere. I think I can find ways to take care of what you need, at least in the shorter. Ryan, not that I'm trying to get you to rethink the promise that you made to yourself, but I'm trying to get you to rethink it. When I decided to do the similar thing, I didn't make it about marriage because, you know, like you should be, you should really get to know somebody for,

and it can be a long time before marriage, so that's a long time not doing it. But me and my therapist came up with, I will not give myself to anybody. until I know I have a secure connection with them. Well, I think that's fair. I think that's a healthy way of thinking of it too. So, because does it have to be like a ring and a ceremony and all that for Ryan to get it out? Okay. I don't think it has to, but there definitely has to be that line where it's like, I know I'm building a future with you, at the very least.

I think there's a lot of talk that we're getting ahead of ourselves here a little bit. You guys like each other, and I think there's definitely stuff that you guys can explore to even see if you're going to make it. it all that way. People just tell me not to get out of myself, and I feel like we're getting ahead of ourselves here too. So, I don't know, if there's a possibility of you getting your needs met in a certain way, Lana, and Ryan, you know, you're open to exploring that

stuff too. I don't see any problems. Yeah, I think that would work. I do think that it may be cheesy, but I think that it is very sweet that you brought me on the radio to call me for a second date. I think that is very romantic, and

I'm willing to try it. I think that we have such a good connection. So, Landa, you'll go out with Ryan again. We'll pay for it. I will. I would love to see you again, Ryan. Aw. Awesome.

That's great. I'm glad to hear that. I'm so excited, you know? Yeah, you guys are cute. I'm so excited, too. Me too. Yeah. Congratulations.

Ryan, you did it. You got another date. Woo! All right. Jewel's first day follow-up. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam.

Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, My boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Who cares about truth when the lives more entertaining? Welcome home. I'm Angela Ride, co-host of the native lamb pod with Andrew Gillum and Tiffany Cross, and we want you all to survive and thrive in this political moment. We're having the same debates that American households are having all over the country. I'm terrified that in our rest, we're going to miss the moment.

You want me to stop resting. What specifically are you asking me to do? stay informed and take action listen to native land pod on the iheart radio app apple podcast or wherever you get your podcast i'm dr scott barry coughman host of the psychology podcast here's a clip from an upcoming conversation about how to be a better you when you think about emotion regulation you're not going to choose an adaptive strategy which is more effortful to use unless you think there's a good outcome avoidance is easier ignoring is easier denials is easier your complex problem solving, takes effort. Listen to the psychology podcast on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. It's important that we just reassure people that they're not alone, and there is help out there. The Good Stuff podcast, season two, takes a deep look into One Tribe Foundation, a non-profit fighting suicide in the veteran community. September is National Suicide Prevention Month, so join host Jacob and Ashley Schick as they bring you to the front lines of One Tribe's mission. One Tribe, save my life.

twice. Welcome to season two of the Good Stuff. Listen to the Good Stuff podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. This is an IHeart podcast.