First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - She's not calling me back because of what I gave my kids to eat?

Episode Date: August 19, 2022

First Date Follow Up is when we get an email from someone who went on a date and the other person isn't calling back. We get that other person on the phone to see why they're "ghosting".Kurt is on the phone for a First Date Follow Up and he is not getting a call back from a girl named Rose that apparently he met at the gym. It has been about a couple of weeks and he noticed that she has been ghosting him after he has tried about five times to reach out!Leave a rating and review wherever you listen. It will help the show out in a big way. If that's not your thing, you can find us on social media here:https://instagram.com/thejubalshowhttps://twitter.com/thejubalshowhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thejubalshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Before we get into your date, Kurt, thank you for your email. How long has it been since you went on a date with Rose? It's been like a couple weeks now. A couple weeks. And she's kind of ghosting me. Okay. And how many times have you tried to reach out to her in those couple weeks that she's been ghosting you? At least four or five times, you know.

Okay. Not trying to be overwhelming about it, but still trying to get her attention. Right. All right. Well, tell us a little bit about your date. Why do you think she's not calling you back? Well, I thought we had a great date. That's why I'm curious why she's not responding to my calls.

We met at the gym, and we already had that in common. We both like to run. We're always on the treadmills and the cardio. We actually even bonded. We actually bonded talking about maybe doing a super marathon together. Super marathon is like 50, 100 miles, something like that? Yeah, they start at 50 and up. I was just going to say that her and I, well, she's run one before I've run one,

so we're avid runners, so they have that big thing in common. That's pretty cool too, that you would meet somebody who also is into running super marathons. Not that common to find someone else who has that same exact interest. Okay. So you must've been pretty excited about going out with Rhodes. Absolutely. Absolutely. And the day was fine. You know, when we, when we went on the date, I did admit to her that I have kids, but she didn't flinch at that, she didn't seem to mind. Like she told me that she dated people with kids before, so that wasn't a big deal.

So I don't understand why she's not responding to me anymore, just straight up ghosting me. Well, I mean, tell us a little about how she was on the date. Maybe she just didn't click with you. Well, I thought our date went really awesome, man. Like, we were clicking, I thought we were clicking. I was really digging this chick, I was making her laugh,

we had a few drinks, you know. That's why I'm so positive, why she's not calling me back. I thought we had a connection there, you know. Well, how did the date end then? So you said you went out for dinner and had dinner with her, how did it end? After dinner we had a few drinks and then we sat there and you know talked for another couple hours i was you know being charming and comical

as i am and made her laugh and stuff and then i i dropped her off at her house uh i was a gentleman about it i didn't reach in for her kids or anything but i did walk her door to her door hoping that you know i was going to get a second at least a call, a call back or something. And you got nothing. Have you seen her at the gym? I've seen her there but I haven't really approached her

because I feel a little awkward about it. I've seen her from a distance and I just kind of keep my distance. I would feel kind of crunchy about that. I kind of feel like she's avoiding me, because even if I do get within her region, she goes to the opposite end of the gym. All right, and before we call her and find out

why she's not calling you back, you think it might be because you have kids? It could be that I have kids. Like I said, she didn't seem to mind when I told her that I had kids when we were out on our date. Or, this is kind of awkward to say. It could be, this could be the day before our date.

I went on this really long run, and it started to rain. I got really sweaty. Long story short, I ended up getting a rash between my legs. And it was bugging me date night. And she might have caught me maybe scratching within that region. Oh, okay. I don't want her to think that I'm dirty or anything. Or that he had a rash.

I mean, how bad were you itching it? Was it obvious? I was trying to be subtle, but I don't know if I was subtle enough. I guess no matter how subtle it is, if I looked over the table and I was on a date and they were scratching their crotch area, I'd be like, I'm not really that interested. I'm full now. I'm going to go. No dessert. Thank you. There's really no way to be subtle about it when you think about it.

Maybe I should have just been honest. Maybe I should have just put it straight up. I got a rash, by the way. I don't know. There's literally so many other reasons why you could be scratching down there, too. I know. We'll play a song, come back, and then call her and find out if it is the kids or if it is the rash or another reason that she's not calling you back right after this okay thank you guys all right we'll get your first date follow-up next right in the middle of your first date

follow-up if you're just joining us kurt is on the phone and he's not getting a call back from rose they went on a date together and he thinks everything went great. He thought they were really into each other, felt a connection. Kurt met Rose at the gym. They bonded over the fact that both of them like to run a lot and by a lot I mean they both have run super marathons before which is like over 50 miles.

So they're big time runners obviously. It would be cool to find somebody who has such a specific interest to date you know you don't find a lot of people with the same interest like that so i can see why you were excited about going out with her kurt but now she's not calling you back and the only reasons that kurt can think of that she might not be calling him back is because he has kids maybe she doesn't like the fact that he has kids even though she seemed cool about it also

he had a rash because he went on a long run the day before and had a rash in between his legs and maybe he was itching it a little bit and she noticed that and that would obviously make somebody think probably not the best thought about somebody on a date. And other than that, those are the only two things you can think of, right, Kurt? Yeah. Like I said, we had a great time. I can't think of anything else that would have, you know, stirred her away.

All right. Well, we'll call her right now and see if we can figure it out for you. Here we go. Hello? Hi, man. Speak to Rose, please. I'm sorry. Who is this?

Sorry, my dogs are going crazy. Can you hold on for one second? Yep. Okay. Hey. Stop. Can you stop? Get in here.

Yes. Hi. I'm back. That's fine. This is the Jubal Show. It's a radio show. My name's Jubal. Mine's Alex.

I'm Christian Gray Snow. I'm Bennett. Did I win something? We're calling you today because we actually got an email about you from one of our listeners. I don't know if you've ever listened to the show before. We do a segment

on our show called the First Date Follow-Up. That's where if you go out on a date with somebody and then end up ghosting them, that person can email us to get you on the phone and ask what happened. And you went on a date with someone recently and have been ghosting them, so they asked us to call you. Oh, my God. Okay.

His name is Kurt. Oh, God, Kurt. Yeah? And he wants to know. He said he liked you a lot. I'll tell you what he told us, and then you can confirm anything that is true, or you can deny anything that isn't,

and maybe we can find out the reason why, because he's really he liked you a lot he said that he met you at the gym you guys bonded over the fact that you both like to run a ton he also said that you guys went out for dinner he thought you had a good time he thinks that maybe uh the fact that he has kids turned you off or it could have been that he had a rash from a long run that he went on the day before he said that he had a like a rash on his legs run that he went on the day before. He said that he had a, like a rash on his legs and that he was kind of itching it and maybe it looked like he was dirty or something, but it was a rash from running,

which if you run as much as he says that you do, you probably have had those before. Yeah. I mean, that, that really wasn't the problem. I, I,

I got, I get that. All right. So, you know, I just, in the end, I just didn't think he was the person i thought he was

you know because he's a rucker and he's supposed to be healthy so you have these kids right all right i'm totally fine with the kids not not a problem but like i found out he has he like lets his kids eat fast food and candy and drink a bunch of soda. And I'm like, what, what are you doing? Like, I don't understand. You live this healthy lifestyle and I live this healthy lifestyle. And like, let's just say like this thing works out. Like, what are we going to do about that?

You know what I mean? Okay. So the reason you're not calling him back is because he lets his kids eat candy and fast food and stuff. Well, no. I mean, there are other red flags obviously. It's not just that. So that's red flag number one. Can you tell us the other ones? I don't usually

date guys who aren't educated. And he did not go to college. Look, he's a plumber and that's fine. We all need a plumber. It's great. But how is he going to like mix with my friends? They all have like

advanced degrees as I do. How is he going to fit in? That's going to be like really super awkward. Feels a little judgmental to me. Definitely.

You don't need a piece of paper to be successful. Plumbers can make mad money. Yeah. Yeah. But what are we going to talk about basically? All the money he makes.

And he's a nice guy. I'm not saying that he's a terrible person but like he's a nice guy just so i don't really see how he's going to mix with my friends because i i like to have you know my boyfriends mixed with my girlfriends and their partners and stuff and like if we're talking like you know stock market for example or like literature or like art, art house movies, you know, like how is he tripping to this conversation? But like, seriously, how is that going to work out? You have your deal breakers, I guess. And you, you want to date somebody who has a college degree and doesn't feed their kids fast food. It's a lifestyle thing. Do you know what I mean?

Like, we're going to have to raise kids in a certain way. You know, we have to have an agreement about that. We have to have an agreement about, like, you know, are we on the same intellectual level? That's really important to me, too. And, like, can she get along with my friends? And do my friends like him? That's important, you know?

And I mix with really important people who are you know great minds and i just don't feel comfortable like saying oh hey my husband's a plumber i'm sorry that's just the way i feel i mean i'm just not well so you can tell him you know i had a great time and i think he is a wonderful soul. Okay. Sure, we'll tell him that. Actually, you did kind of tell him that already because he's on the line listening. Yep. And wants to talk to you.

Wait, what? Yeah. Yeah. Well, you should have told me this beforehand. Sorry. No, I forgot. I'm so sorry. Hi, Rose.

Wow. That was kind of hard to hear. Damn, that was some brutal honesty. So you're judging me because I give my kids fast food. I'm a busy single dad. I'm sorry. I sometimes just have to run by, you know, and grab them a burger and fries and a soda. What's the big deal? And I don't have a college degree. Yeah, I i get it i didn't do good in school but i have i make great money as a plumber when we were on this date i mean damn you didn't seem like such a karen at that point oh i'm sorry did you just call me karen oh you're true karen colors now i mean damn all right well that's kind of offensive, actually. You know what I mean? You don't think what you said about him was offensive? You're proclaiming I'm too dumb to date, but you get offended by the term Karen. Look in the mirror.

You're a Karen. Well, they called me. I didn't even know you were on the phone, okay? And they asked me some questions. They wanted some honesty, so I gave them honesty. Like, they should have told me that you were on the phone. But yeah, Karen is a very offensive term. Only if you're a Karen.

Yeah. Yeah, only if you are a Karen do you get offended by Karen. I mean, yeah, this is so surprising because you didn't seem at all like this when we went out. Like, where'd the change happen? Like, on switch, the Karen switch turned on. Okay, well, if, I mean, I said what I said and I was just being honest and, you know, I'm fine with not going out with you again and I'm sorry. Oh, man, I tell you what, you know, being a plumber has its benefits, you know. I can clean your pipes and you won't be so uptight.

That should be your slogan for your business. Rose, would you like to go on another date with Kurt? We'll pay for it. Absolutely not. I will not go out with you again. For your information, my plumbing works just fine. Okay, then. Yeah, no,

I'm cool with that. That's fine by me. I don't feel like going to get a four-year degree just to date somebody. Rightfully so. The Jubal Show on demand. Ugh, we're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you

shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Experiencing the news each day can feel like a journey. And find them on Bumble. informed, ready, and refreshed. Begin your day with Up First. Subscribe to Up First from NPR on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcasts. Calling all Yellowstone fans.

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