First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Should I go on a date with someone that I know from social media!?

Episode Date: March 8, 2023

First Date Follow Up is when we get an email from someone who went on a date and the other person isn't calling back. We get that other person on the phone to see why they're "ghosting".Carmen isn't getting a call back from David! They met on Tinder but they may have met before somewhere else! Is this the reason he isn't calling her back AND can The Jubal Show get her a second date!? Leave a rating and review wherever you listen. It will help the show out in a big way. If that's not your thing, you can find us on social media here:https://instagram.com/thejubalshowhttps://twitter.com/thejubalshowhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thejubalshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Carmen is on the phone today for a first date follow-up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named David. Apparently they met on Tinder, and now she's getting ghosted. So it's a pretty common story. But let's see if we can get her another date, or if she even wants one after we find out why she's getting ghosted. What's up, Carmen? How are you? I'm great. How are you?

Pretty good. All right, before we get into your date and stuff, how long has it been since you talked to David? Like about six days. How many times have you tried to get a hold of him in that week? Not at all because I don't want to be desperate, but our last interaction was he told me to text him to make sure I got home okay, and I responded.

He told him I had a great time and wanted to see him again, and then he just never replied. Okay. Oh, wow. All right. Well, let's try to figure it out for you. Tell us a little bit about your date with David. Yeah. I mean, I thought it was pretty kind of hot and heavy from the beginning.

You know, we met on Tinder, started chatting back and forth. And honestly, like, it got pretty upfront right away. You know, we both stated what we were looking for, which was not, you know, some fling or one night stand. We were both looking kind of for a long term relationship. A few days later, things, you know, got a little adult, pretty racy. No pictures, but, you know, like a lot of sexy texting.

That's cool. Yeah, you know, so finally after a week, we decided to meet up. He took me out to like a nice restaurant, and honestly, I just sort of felt like that it factor was there. You know, he says, like, you want dates, and you know,

there's no spark, there's no chemistry, you know, they're a nice person, it's just they're not for you, but I mean, that was there. Okay. You know, he says that you go on dates and, you know, there's no spark and there's no chemistry, you know. They're a nice person, it's just they're not for you but, I mean, that was there. I mean,

we literally couldn't take our eyes off each other and the only thing I thought was weird is he said he, like, said I looked familiar but he, like,

couldn't put a finger on it and, like, that seems to, like, really bother him. Are you thinking maybe you reminded him of somebody that he didn't like like an ex or something yeah i'm hoping yeah i didn't seem particularly positive but overall the date like went so well it's like kind of just sort of brushed it off as

just being nervous um i really like this guy you know and so then after dinner you know we were tied up by the restaurant and uh we don't to be, you know, like a fling. So, you know, he kissed me and he said to text him when I got home. OK, you know, we went our separate ways and go home with each other. And like I said, you know, like when I got home safe, I told him I had such an amazing time and just completely like he dropped off the face of the earth. Like, I don't know what happened. What do you think? Is there anything that you've been thinking about?

Um, maybe I'm thinking like i hope this is the case maybe i sounded too serious and that scared him off and maybe he was just saying that like he totally agreed and he wanted that too just to like get me into bed oh yeah okay you said that your text messages got like really really hot and steamy but maybe it kind of like gave mixed signals because first you're saying you want something that's like serious and long term and then like a couple of days later you guys are sexting and then like you guys go to dinner so maybe that might have thrown him off a little yeah i've definitely thought about that too but i i just we both were like oh oh, we shouldn't. Like, we definitely shouldn't.

This is like the opposite of what we said we were going to do. But it's almost like we were just like we could not help it. I mean, we were we're so attracted to each other. Like, I just it just sort of happened. So that's why I feel like that's not it. I don't know. I ain't catfish him either. I feel like that's a good.

You know what? That's a good thing. Let me point this out real quick. I just want to say I'm not trying to sound like I'm conceited or anything, but I know I'm not bad looking. I've done modeling in the past, and he's gorgeous too. It's nice to meet another model. Yeah.

All right. So you didn't catfish him, so it's not that, because we do get ones like that where somebody is like, they didn't look like their picture. You definitely look like your pictures on Tinder? Oh, 100%. Okay. All right. Well, we'll try to figure out for you.

We'll play a song and then come back and call him and see why he's not calling you back and maybe get you another date, okay? Sounds great. Thank you so much. All right. We'll play a song, come back, and get your first date follow-up next. Just joining us for today's first date follow-up. Carmen is on the phone, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named David. They met on Tinder, went out on one date, and she hasn't heard anything from him.

If you missed the first part, I'll let Carmen recap for herself. Carmen, real quick recap of your date with David. Basically, we just had amazing chemistry, and things felt pretty hot and heavy and fireworks, and I just don't know what happened. Alright, so we're about to call him and see if we can figure it out. It's been about six days and she's heard nothing. They were also beforehand, they were texting like very

hot and heavy sexting. Oh yeah. And nothing happened on the date, but she does say that they talked a lot about how they're not looking for just a hookup. They're looking for a long-term thing and she thinks maybe that kind of scared him off or something, but we'll figure it out right now. We'll call him. Are you ready, Carmen? Um, I kind of, yeah. Okay. All Hello? May I speak to David, please?

This is him. David, how are you, man? This is Jubal from a radio show, and the show is called The Jubal Show. How are you? I'm well, thank you for asking. Have you ever heard of the show before? I have, actually. Oh, great.

Okay, cool. Well, just to let you know, so we got an email about you from someone you went on a date with that you've been ghosting. Okay. Who was it? Her name is Carmen. I remember Carmen. Absolutely. Okay.

So Carmen said you guys went out about a week ago and ever since your date, you haven't talked to her at all. And she's wondering why because she said she really liked you i i really like karma uh carmen too i mean she's gorgeous um she wants everything that i'm looking for she wants something long term but in the middle of the date i realized that i knew her from somewhere and it was right in the middle of the date that i realized where I actually knew her from. Oh. Where?

Okay, yeah. You have a girl for real. I'm a casual subscriber to her OnlyFans. Oh. Oh. I didn't realize it was her until like halfway through the date. I didn't want to embarrass her or call her out.

So I just didn't say anything. I get why people do it, you know. Yeah, but hold on. I'm confused because wouldn't that be a plus? Like if you subscribe to somebody's OnlyFans and then you didn't realize it was them on Tinder, then you went out with them and you realize it on the date,

wouldn't that be like extra special? You've never wanted to be in the movie? Like I honestly, I thought somebody with OnlyF fans wouldn't want a serious relationship oh that's right because you guys talked about she said that you guys talked about how you weren't really on tinder just to hook up i guess i'm just surprised because how did you not know in advance like if anybody that i follow on only fans is within a 10 mile radius of me i'm gonna know like i said i i am a casual fan.

Her name is different online than it is in real life. And it's just I was nervous about the first date, so it just didn't click until about right in the middle of the date. Okay. David, how many people do you follow on OnlyFans where you don't even know you're going on a date with that part? You know, I only follow a couple, but I started it during the pandemic,

and I just, like I said, I barely go on it. So it really did a couple hundred. You spend an all-time amount of money on OnlyFans. And we're three jobs just to have you on OnlyFans. So I have one question. Is it that because she is on OnlyFans, you don't believe that she's looking for something serious? Or do you think that that's just a conflict of interest uh no i i honestly thought that because she had no i thought somebody with an only fans wouldn't want a serious relationship wouldn't want to settle down

so that's that's why i didn't lead myself down to a road of you know getting hurt or anything like that so but she said it. According to her, at least, she told you that she is interested in a serious relationship. Like I said, I think she's gorgeous, and she's looking for everything that I'm looking for. When I realized who she was, I was like, oh, she can't possibly want the same stuff as me.

Okay, well, I know one way to figure that out, and the only thing I can think of is let's just ask her because she's actually on the phone listening and you probably knew that and just remembered it because you've heard these before. Carmen? Hey, David. Hi, Carmen. You subscribe to my OnlyFans?

I do. Yeah, I mean, yeah, I do have one, but it's not like, I mean mean the extra money's fine i'm not famous or anything i have a nine to five how long have you been like a you know following before probably like a year or so i want to say wow so wait i'm just confused because how like we matched on tinder and like you you know, like, pictures, pictures, not those pictures, but, you know, I've got pictures on Tinder. I just, I don't understand, like, how you recognize me. Like, you had seriously no idea?

Like, I'm just, how did that even happen? I really didn't recognize. I mean, I have astigmatism, so that definitely plays a part into it. I mean, how often are you on my page? really didn't recognize i mean i have astigmatism so that definitely plays a part into it but i mean how often are you on my page like i don't go on it very often uh like the the last thing i saw was you were wearing this like red thing i'm not sure what it was but this like red outfit yeah that was my last post oh sorry maybe i'm on it a lot. I don't know. I just can't believe you didn't recognize me. I can't believe you followed me and then we

matched up and we went on a that's never happened to me before. I always thought, oh, I wonder if that would happen, but I didn't think it would actually ever happen. It did. Just because I have one doesn't mean that I wouldn't want a stable relationship or be in a long-term relationship with someone or wouldn't be like in like, you know, a loyal faithful relationship with someone.

So that kind of hurts my feelings, honestly. Yeah, no, I, I understand that. And I, I feel like a, I feel like an ass for thinking that, you know, somebody with an only fans wouldn't want a long, long-term relationship. Oh, I appreciate you saying that. I mean, I don't think you're an a**hole. If we were to move forward, you know, and we talked about it and it really made you uncomfortable, I would have no problem discontinuing or deleting my account.

So we can talk about it later. Don't cancel, though. David's like, hell no, don't cancel. He's like, if that's the case, we're never talking again. David, let's say you guys go out again. Would you want to date someone who had an OnlyFans?

Some people might have a problem with that. Would you have a problem with it? I have no problem with it whatsoever. That's cool. Might even do an appearance or two. Yeah. A little collab. Maybe we'll see David on there

in a red thingy too. Careful, the way you hyped me up, I might get my own. David, would you like to go on another date with Carmen? We'll pay for it. Absolutely. Yay. Yay. Awesome.

Congratulations. Carmen, you got another date. I'm really excited. Like, I really enjoyed talking to you, David. I mean, I'm really, this is fantastic. So you guys are going to pay for the next date for me and Carmen? Yes, we'll pay for it.

And then Carmen, you're going to pay for that next date after that because you make more money than me. Oh, gosh. I mean, technically, you're still paying for it because you paid. True. Touche. The Jubal Show on demand. Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric.

Well, the election is in the homestretch right in time for a new season of my podcast. Next question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon. But we're also going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast.

Join late-night legend Jon Stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines, exclusive extended interviews, and more. Now this is a second term we can all get behind. Listen to The Daily Show Ears Edition on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Dr. Laurie Santos, and to welcome the new year, my podcast, The Happiness Lab, is releasing a series of happiness how-to guides to help you in 2025. I'll distill the wisdom of world-class experts into easy-to-digest, actionable tips. Struggling

with tough emotions? We have a how-to guide. Worried that you're not enough? We got you. Self-obsessed and want to get over yourself? There's a guide for that, too. The Happiness Lab's how-to season starts January 1st. Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,

or wherever you get your podcasts.