First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Someone is Talking Trash in this First Date Follow Up!

Episode Date: June 15, 2022

First Date Follow Up is when we get an email from someone who went on a date and the other person isn't calling back. We get that other person on the phone to see why they're "ghosting".Rob is on the phone today and is not getting a call back from Monica! They went to a rock concert for their date about two weeks ago and he has tried to reach out a few time but has not heard a word!Leave a rating and review wherever you listen. It will help the show out in a big way. If that's not your thing, you can find us on social media here:https://instagram.com/thejubalshowhttps://twitter.com/thejubalshowhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thejubalshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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dictated by traditional patriarchal norms. Tune in and join in the conversation. Listen to Decisions Decisions on the Black Effect Podcast Network, iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The Jubal Show on demand. First day follow up. Rob is on the phone today and Rob is not getting a call back from Monica. They went on a date to see a rock band.

Yeah. Apparently Rob's friends to see a rock band. Yeah. Apparently Rob's friends with some big rock stars. Rob's calling us because his date Monica isn't calling him back and he doesn't know why, even though he's got huge rock star friends. Before we get into all that though, Rob,

how long has it been since you went out with Monica? Yeah, it's been about two weeks now. Two weeks? All right, that's a decent amount of time. It is. Yeah, that's definitely being ghosted for sure. Rob, how many times have you tried to hit her up?

You know, I actually reached out a couple times via text. I eventually just ended up calling her, and I haven't gotten anything back. So I left her alone for a while, and then I just figured I'd try and see if you guys could help. Okay. Well, we definitely will try to help you out so your email said that you went to go see a rock band and you are friends with famous rock stars that's not really the way it said it that's the way i'm saying it just to sound weird but uh tell us about the date yeah for sure um so yeah we we met on tinder uh and I took her, so one of my friends is in like a nineties rock cover band type show. So like, yeah, not, you know, not, maybe not a

big rocks, maybe one day. Um, so I thought like, Oh yeah, this is nice. Like I, you know, it's one of my friends, I'll feel comfortable in that environment. Um, so we went and saw the show. Um, and I thought it went really well you know i i i liked talking to her i found her very attractive um and i felt like the date went really well and then she just ghosted me okay well is there anything that happened on the date that you think could have ruined your chances before we went i like made sure you like hey you know it's a 90s rock band like is this something that you'd be interested in? So like I knew right away that that was that was going to work out.

There were two things that I, you know, I racked my brain on what it could have been. And there are two things that stuck out. The first was that when we first got to the venue, my friend was supposed to put me on the list to get in. And so when we first got to the club, we ended up standing outside for 20 minutes because she must have forgotten to put me on the list. Oh, that's embarrassing. Yeah, it is.

Especially if you tell someone, no, I'm friends with the band. And then they're like, where's your name? I promise, I'm friends with them. I'm with the band. I'll show you the text message. I don't need to see that, sir. Everybody's friends with the band yeah and then they're like where's your name i promise i'm friends with them i'm with the band i'll show you the text message i don't need to see that sir everybody's friends get back in line that is an embarrassing situation absolutely and so i mean like yes super embarrassing and i was like i'm so sorry for that she seemed like totally okay with it i was like okay great like i'm not you know it's not a final strike out here. So, um,

the only other thing that really sticks out is, you know, I've seen my, uh, friends band perform a couple of times, right. Three or four different times. And the time that we went, um, it was, it was not as good as they normally are, you know, whatever the, like their song lineup, or they just weren't, you know, vibing that night, whatever it was, it just, it wasn't as good as it normally was. And so I was like, maybe she thinks it just wasn't as good as it normally was. And so I was like, maybe she thinks I just, you know, it's not a, I don't know. I don't know.

That was the only thing that I could think of. You took her to see this band that you had talked about. You talked it up. The first thing is you weren't on the list. They forgot to put you on the list, so it looks like you probably don't know them. And then the music was more like this. Not this. Is that what happened?

Yeah. I mean, that's the only thing I can really think of. You know, like I said, I felt like after all that, our date ended really well. Like I walked into her car, I gave her a hug. We like laughed about the performances a little bit and I had like made mention of it. Like, hey, normally they're better.

And so like, I felt like we mutually agreed that it was a good night and then that was it you didn't get a kiss or anything no hug any physical contact you know I was trying to be a gentleman uh you know I felt like uh if if the opportunity was there would I would have taken it but I just felt like okay we're you know this is where the night's ending and we'll call it a night okay all right that's nice yeah so and and that's the only reason that you can think is where the night's ending, and we'll call it a night. Okay. Well, that's nice. Yeah. And that's the only reason that you can think is maybe the band wasn't as good as you thought it would be, or you told her it was. And then also, maybe it looked like you might not have known them as well as you do because you weren't on the list.

Yeah, absolutely. All right. Well, we'll see if we can figure it out. Then we'll play a song, come back, and then call her and get your first day follow-up next. Sound good? Sounds good. Sounds great. Gravy.

All right. We'll do it next. Hey, Rob. Yeah. Yeah. Listen, I would love to do the first date follow-up for you, but you're not on the list. Sorry. Too soon.

So if you're just joining us for the first date follow-up, I started it off that way because Rob took a girl, Monica, to see a band, and he knows the singer of this 90s cover rock band, and he wanted to take his date, Monica, there. They went there, except he wasn't on the list, and that's always awkward if you know the people, but they didn't put you on the list. Now it looks like you don't really know them.

So that was a weird moment on their date. And then they went to the show, and Rob said that the band wasn't as good as they usually are. So maybe it was just really a bad experience all around. And that's why he thinks Monica might not be calling him back. When they parted ways, he thought she had a good time. They said, hey, we'll go out again. But it's been two weeks and he's heard nothing from her.

We're about to get her on the phone right now and see if we can figure it out. Here we go. Let's get it. Hello? Hi, may I speak to Monica, please? Yeah, this is Monica. Hey, Monica, how are you? My name is Jubal, and I'm calling from a radio show that is called The Jubal Show.

And it's Alex from the same show. And Christian Grisner from also the same show. Cool, hi. Hi. Hi. This is cool. What's up? Oh, so you know the show then?

Yeah, I do. Okay. Cool. Hopefully you still like it after we're done talking to you. Oh, God. What does that mean? It means that we got an email about you from somebody that you went on a date with. Mm-hmm. Oh, man.

Okay. Am I in trouble? Like, what's happening? This is a first date follow-up. You went on a date with someone. You ghosted them, and they want to know why because they really liked you, and that person's name is Rob. Yes, Rob.

I, yeah, I know. Okay. Okay. This makes like, it's been about like two weeks or something. And he, we went on a date and he took me to see, it was like his friend's cover band. They do like 90s rock and um so i mean he said that they were his friends and we get there and we're not on any sort of list we have to wait outside which i was totally fine with you know there were some cool people outside we just all got to chatting

and talking and you know we go inside afterward one of the reasons that it could be why you're not calling him back he thought was the fact that he wasn't on the list and it might have looked like he didn't actually know the people he told you he knew. No, no. I mean, stuff happens. Like, I didn't care about that and, you know, it was fine. We were just waiting outside, just talking. It gave us

more of an opportunity to talk. So I was cool with it. Okay. But then, like, we get in and I thought the band was great. Like, they sounded good to me and and yeah, that wasn't it. He told us that the band wasn't as good as they normally are. He thought that was the other reason that you might not be calling them back, but you actually thought they were good.

No, I thought they were good. Now, I will say that the red flag that pops up for me was that the whole time they were playing and even before we even got in in the club to hear them play he was just talking trash about them the entire time yeah he was you know he was like sometimes they're hit or miss and i don't want you to have like high expectations about the band like that type of stuff and i'm like dude these are your friends why are you talking about them like that you should be like their number one fan so I don't know I mean something something my

grandmother always used to tell me was just like you know how Harry talks about Sally says more about Harry than it does about Sally so I'm just like if he's talking about his friends like that then I don't want to be with a guy who does that. If somebody's constantly talking trash about people, you know they're doing the same thing about you when you leave the room. That's like anytime I've had a friend who's constantly doing that. They're usually not my friend for very long because I'm just like

I don't want to hang out. I don't want to say hang out and talk about how bad everybody else is. Can we talk about something else? Also, I don't want you talking about how bad I am. I'm scared to hear what you have to say about me. For me, it's't want you talking about how bad I am. I'm scared to hear what you have to say about me. For me, it's just like if you do that with someone that you just met and throw your friends that you've known for years or however longer under the bus for someone that you just met, then I don't know. It just rubbed me the wrong way. You know what? We did talk to him and he did tell us that they weren't good that night.

So maybe not. Maybe he is talking trash about them. Yeah. Yeah. I don't know. I just thought they were good. I didn't have high expectations for a cover band anyway. Right. I mean, you're going to a 90s rock cover band. Really, you shouldn't be like, this is going to be the most amazing thing. You're not going to Adele or anything. No, it was more about, you you know just the fact that we were going out together it was supposed to be something that was fun and it ended up not being fun because

he was just you know yeah he took the fun out of it the whole time yeah all right well i hope this doesn't take the fun out of it for you but do this on the air it just seems weird to me i mean i yeah i'm sorry if that's the reason uh i talk you know i talk about my french in a joking way we do that with each other all the time about you know we bust each other's balls like that's what we do that's what friends do we've known each other all the time about, you know, we bust each other's balls. Like that's what we do. That's what friends do. We've known each other for years. Yeah. I guess that's because we were, we, it was our first date and we don't know much about each other. I didn't know that you do that with your friends. So it really just came off as just you being a just, yeah, you could have, I mean, you could have told me that via text or anything it just sucks that we had to

do this over the air yeah i agree i mean it was i i'm sorry i should have answered i should have responded um i should have let you know what was up but now it's just out for the public to hear so rob if you were to say the things that you were saying to her about your friend's band to them would they be cool with it absolutely i actually talked to them after the show and was like hey not not your best performance like we that's you know they know i told it i told my friend exactly what i told monica so like they know exactly what i said to her yeah i mean even if that's the way that you guys are with each other it just it just i mean it just comes off as negative to me. So I don't have that interaction with my friends and I don't want my friends to have that type

of interaction with me. I would take it personally. And if that's the way that you talk to people that, that, you know, that you like, that you love, then, uh, if we got into a relationship, I would have a problem because I don't, I don't want someone ripping on me the entire time we're together. I'm too sensitive for that stuff, too. Yeah, I mean, I guess that's just difference of opinion there, but

sorry it didn't work out, but good luck with your dating advice from your grandmother. Oh, that was short. Good luck with ripping on your friends all the time. Alright, well, let me ask the question then, Monica, would you like to go out with Rob again on another date?

We will pay for it. No, I'm good. Thank you. I'm okay. Are you sure? Yeah, no, I'm good. Just, you know, have fun being miserable. Yeah, exactly.

That's what I'm talking about. That's good. That's a good joke. We can, you know, give each other shit.'s good that's a good joke we can we can you know give each other no that was not a joke rob i was i was being serious oh the jubile show on demand hey everyone it's katie couric well the election is in the home stretch right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki,

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