First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Teddy & Maya - He’s a Tool

Episode Date: July 18, 2024

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Network, iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. First date follow-up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys. Online at advocateslaw.com. Teddy is on the phone today for a first date follow-up and he's getting ghosted by

Maya. So in a few minutes, we're going to call her, see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him, and maybe get him another date. But first, Teddy, how long has it been since you heard from her? It's been about a week. How many times have you tried to reach out to her? Maybe three times, like once every couple days, two or three days. Just, you know, saying what's up, how's it going? We were talking before, and after we went out, that just kind of stopped.

She didn't respond to any of those? No, not at all. Well, let's talk about the date and see if we can see what went wrong. What? And see what went wrong. We went to a really nice place. We went to ****. I don't know if you've ever been there.

But really cool. They have a rooftop dining area. So she suggested that we sit outside because it was a really, really nice day. It was cool. They have a rooftop dining area. So she suggested that we sit outside because it was a really, really nice day. It was cool. We had a really great conversation. She's got her head on her shoulders in the right way. A lot of people,

they focus too much on social media and stuff. You know what I mean? They complain about everything. Their job. I'm not trying to meet anybody like that you know but um she really loves her job she's got a really good job she works up and um she's got goals which is always a good thing you know what i mean yeah like like a five-year plan that's you know that that's important and um that's something that i was i really thought we hit it off on, on that level. And, uh, you know, the food was great and the, uh, the ambience was great, you know? Um, so I really can't really

think off the top of my head of why after such a nice date that, you know, I just, she just stopped communicating with me. Like, I can't say that we've stopped communicating. I'm still, you know, trying to reach out, you know? Right. But there's nothing on the other end. Was there anything awkward that happened on the date at all that you can think of? I don't know if it's anything I did. I mean, I'm thinking maybe she didn't like the restaurant, even though it was great, you know, but I picked it. That might have been something. I will admit the service wasn't the best.

You know, we wanted to sit outside like she suggested it. But then they sat us where the sun's like directly in our faces, you know? So I had to ask them to move us. And, um, maybe like, because the service wasn't so great, I think maybe like the way I, you know, cause I can be a little assertive when I, you know, when the situation calls for it and maybe that's part of the reason why, um, after like the second time that I had to ask to be moved or get somebody's attention uh that might be it you know other than that um we talked for a while

uh we watched you know the sun go down it was really really cool you know and again we had a lot in common and you know we had you know we talked about goals that was always really good you know so like after you were being assertive she didn't seem to change her i'm like quote unquote assertive um she didn't change her demeanor or do you feel like she kind of was like what are you doing bro no i mean in the moment i can't i don't remember any disagreement i'm gonna say no you sound really really nice so i'm having a hard time picturing that like yeah what did that sound like do you mind like pretending for a? No, because it's like, you know, excuse me,

I don't know if you remember the old Bugs Bunny cartoon where he's trying to get the other animals' attention. He's like, hey, excuse me. All the animals are just running. He's trying to figure out what's going on. And then finally I was like, hey, excuse me for a second, you know? Okay. I didn't raise my voice or anything, but I definitely had to

get up and go talk to somebody it's very tame yeah very tame that's what I was trying to figure out like it wasn't an excuse me no I'm not going to do that that's inappropriate did you guys kiss or anything no I didn't

hug? I didn't really make any moves in that direction it was a nice little hug at the end not like a side hug no Okay. Not like a side hug. No, it wasn't. No, it wasn't like a side hug. It was very brief. Like, oh, thank you very much.

A little peck on the cheek. That was it. Well, we'll play a song, come back and then call her, see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you and maybe get you another date. Okay?

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everybody's memory on your date with Maya? No, we met online. We talked for a while. We went on a really nice date at dinner and talked for a while and I thought everything was going great and I haven't been able

to get in touch with her since. You ready for us to call her? Please, yeah. Okay, here we go. Hello? Hi, may I speak to Maya, please? This is she. Hey, Maya, how are you?

My name is Jubal, and this is a radio show. It's called The Jubal Show. Hi, Maya. The whole show's here. My name's Nina. Hi, and I'm Victoria. Hi. This is cool.

How are you? I'm good. How are you? I'm wonderful. Thank you for asking. Well, we're calling you today because we do a segment on the show. It's called The First Date Follow-Up. What that is is if you go out on a date with somebody and then you ghost them, that person

can email us to call you and ask why you're ghosting them. Okay. That makes me nervous. Are you ghosting somebody? I guess like kind. I feel like I know who this is maybe about. Take a guess. Teddy.

You're correct. Congratulations. You got it right. You don't get any prize for that. But yes, it's Teddy. Would you mind telling us why you're ghosting him? Well, so I met him online. And when I was online and I was going through the app or whatever,

a friend of mine was with me a girlfriend and she noticed him actually and she was like oh um I know exactly who that is and she was telling me all about him she like mentioned that he was kind of a tool and that like I don't know like dating him is kind of this is so bad dating him is kind of, this is so bad, dating him is kind of like getting a loan at a bank. And so for some reason, that really made that, I was kind of intrigued. And I was like, I want to see if this guy is really like that. Maybe he's totally not. And it'll be great. So I ended up, we ended up going on the date. And I just like the whole time he was complaining about things and like making kind of like a fuss about things like we were sitting outside and the sun was like on our table and he

like made us move and I just I didn't really mind and really like totally care and it was like super busy in the restaurant too so it's like this was kind of like uncomfortable and um and then when we started talking he only asked me about my career and like how my lifestyle is and stuff like that and i just felt like i was like don't you actually want to get to know me like it kind of felt like he had already like made up his mind like he's like i could date her and let me just see how it fits into my lifestyle what exactly is she like i just felt like i had like no say in it and And I was like, okay, this is kind of strange. Don't we want somebody that wants

to date us? No, of course. Of course. I think it was just that he didn't really ask me about any of my hobbies. He didn't ask me about like anything that I like. He was just like, what's your job? Like, do you make enough money to like support yourself? Like what do you do

like you know what i mean like it was very like i just feel like i was in a job interview or something those are kind of weird questions especially on a first date there's ways to get those answers without asking that question too by the way if you'd like to learn hit me up at me on the air but um well guess what maya what it's not as easy as you think because teddy's actually on the phone and has been listening this whole time he wants to talk to you i don't really know how much i want to have this conversation now um that's that's super messed up you know that you and your friends are making fun of me and um that's that's really what's wrong with these apps instead of trying to like get to know someone or share anything proper,

it's just, oh, let me go see what this person is really about with an agenda that you don't even articulate. It wasn't a bet or anything. I was just genuinely curious. You were genuinely curious, and you could have just asked that before we went out. All of the questions that you were saying that we were talking about, you could have asked me about me before we went out.

You could have actually just said, hey, I spoke to my friend. Do you know whoever your friend was? And we could have had this conversation and just avoided all that whole thing. It's just a little on the ridiculous side, you know? And that's a problem. But don't you think that you would have just acted probably like like a different way and then I would have not actually known who the real you is? Like, I just think that that's a silly thing. I just I went on the date.

I like tried to get to know you a little bit and you did not care about anything I had to say. You just cared about like the way I like was in my life, like how I fit into your life. And I just think that that's a silly reason. I don't know about other people online. I definitely meet 24 hours a day, seven days a week. So if you would have asked me, we could have avoided that. All you had to do was ask me about my experience with your friend. And if I could have remembered your friend,

I would have told you exactly what I felt. But when I meet with somebody, when I meet anyone, you know, I'm, I'm very straightforward about, you know, what's important to me. And I think that we know what we talked about was really cool. And I thought we had actually, you know, thought we had a cool vibe. Now I don't know how good the thing was, you know, how much of that was you being you, you know? I mean, it was all me.

I just, I just expected, I mean, I could have actually been a little bit more fun and stuff, but you didn't ask me anything about me as a person. So I, you got what she asked for. I mean, you asked me, it felt like I was in a job interview. Like I just don't get it. When you, when you say job interview, if you're going to, you know, meet someone and you want to know if you're compatible, would ask questions and for me i'm a person who does a lot of i'm very serious about work and and goals and meeting my goals so i just wanted to make sure that i was you know on the same page with somebody who had you know goals i mean do you even have any type of goals or was that all just stuff that you were saying

of course i have goals it's like a silly silly thing to say. You know what? I just expected you to give a little bit more of a crap about who I am as a person and all those other things that you're asking of me would have came naturally. They would have come out. You could have just been a little bit more, I don't know, like suave about it or something. It did not go well. Tell me one thing that I said about myself on the date. Tell me, because if it was good, then you should know this, right?

Yeah, but that's not the point. I don't think I'm trying to know. Alright, well, now, you know. Hey, Maya, would you like another date with Teddy? We'll pay for it. No, thank you. I'm sorry. I don't want to go out with you again. I get it.

You know, just have fun on your apps. Maybe you can meet somebody that you're not going to be playing games with from the beginning. Okay, Teddy, well, you have fun playing games with yourself. Jubal's first date follow-up. Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the homestretch, right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon. But we're also

going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show, Ears Edition podcast. Join late night legend Jon Stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines, exclusive extended interviews, and more. Now this is a second term we can all

get behind. Listen to The Daily Show, Ears Edition on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to Decisions Decisions, the podcast where boundaries are pushed and conversations get candid. Join your favorite hosts, me, Weezy WTF, and me, Mandy B, as we dive deep into the world of non-traditional relationships and explore the often taboo topics surrounding dating, sex, and love. That's right. Every Monday and Wednesday, we both invite you to unlearn the outdated narratives

dictated by traditional patriarchal norms. With a blend of humor, vulnerability, and authenticity, we share our personal journeys navigating our 30s, tackling the complexities of modern relationships, and engage in thought-provoking discussions that challenge societal expectations. From groundbreaking interviews with diverse guests to relatable stories that'll resonate with your experiences,

Decisions Decisions is going to be your go-to source for the open dialogue about what it truly means to love and connect in today's world. Get ready to reshape your understanding of relationships and embrace the freedom of authentic connections. Tune in and join the conversation. Listen to Decisions Decisions on the Black Effect Podcast Network, iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.