First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - This First Date Follow Up Might Have Ruined a Friendship!

Episode Date: March 31, 2021

Amara calls the Jubal Show after she goes on a date with her friend Patrick, Amara is now worried that now that she isn't getting a response back that she has ruined the friendship! Jubal Fresh calls Patrick and finds out more!Let us know what you think on social!Follow us at: @thejubalshow @jubalfresh @thatdreas @evanontheradioSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. First date follow-up. Things typically get weird when you start dating a friend. Yeah. Usually they get weird. Yeah, I mean, I guess if they're friends, they're friends for a reason.

They should stay in the friend zone. Yeah, people always ask that. Should you date a friend or does it ruin the friendship? Usually. It ruins the friendship. Yeah. And that's what Amanda thinks might be happening because she recently went on a date with a friend of hers. And I guess now they're not talking and he's not not calling her back, and she doesn't know why.

What's up, Amanda? How are you? Hey, guys. I'm good. Well, not that good. No, it doesn't sound that good. You might have ruined a friendship and lost a potential relationship.

So you decided to date one of your friends. That's what your email said. Yeah. So Patrick and I have been friends for quite a while. We know each other through mutual friends, and we've, I don't know, it's probably been about two and a half, three years. Oh, dang, you've known each other for that long? Yeah, and I've always been into him, and I just thought... Does he know that?

He found out when we were on our date, but I didn't let him know before. Okay, it's a giveaway. Or do you think that maybe he knew? Have you guys ever had a crush on a friend or someone in your friend group? Oh my gosh, yeah. And I got turned down a lot because I was a tomboy. I have before, too. Yeah, I thought that some of my friends were pretty good looking. Yeah, back in the day, my friend, it was my friend, his girlfriend who later became his wife.

I was like, man, if they ever break up, I don't even care. Me and him are friends. I'm going to try to go out with her. They never broke up. Wow. They obviously got married, which is fine because it wouldn't have worked out anyway. Right. Anyway, Amanda, so you had a crush on him for like three years and then how'd you guys finally go out? That must've been exciting at least if you had a crush on him for that long. Yeah, it was awesome. Um, he just kind of came up and asked me out for

drinks one day, which took me by surprise, but obviously after, after you know kind of thinking he's cute for all these years it was super exciting and the date honestly went really really great um you know we already knew each other so we were through all the like basic questions already and we could have really fun discussions and kind of get to know each other on a deeper level or talk about experiences we had hanging out before and kind of rehash that stuff. And it honestly went better than I thought it was going to. So because you guys knew each other, do you think the conversation was harder

because you had to like, you had already done all that small talk that you would have done with a person that you just met? I think it was easier during this date just because we've had so many conversations and we've had so many experiences that we could talk about things we knew we were both interested in instead of having to find out what we're interested in before we could do that. Yeah, that's pretty cool. And so it really kept the date flowing. I feel like that would be easier to go on a date with someone that was like a friend

of yours. Casual acquaintance or not, it'd be easier because you guys kind of know each other. Also, it would always be in the back of my mind, like, if we continue this, is it going to ruin our friendship? I mean, I just thought we've known each other for so long and

I figured we've been through a lot of stuff as like a group of friends and stuff and I thought that we'd be able to handle this. I mean even at the end of the date we both ubered home separately but we shared a kiss and. Did he like kiss you or did you try and kiss him? It was kind of a mutual thing like we went to hug each other And just kind of ended up kissing So what do you think happened? I don't Maybe it's because we're friends

And he thinks it's going to get weird But I mean it is weird already Because he doesn't talk to me anymore And he asked you out So he shouldn't really be thinking That it's going to get weird I mean he kind of brought it on himself Yeah and that's why I'm. I mean, he kind of brought it on himself.

Yeah, and that's why I'm confused. I mean, even after the date, he was fine to text me for a week, and now it's been, you know, a week, and I haven't heard anything. Nothing at all. Yeah, and I even hit up some of our mutual friends that he's close to, and I kind of told them what was going on, and they didn't seem to have any idea what was going on either because he hasn't been contacting them or if he has he's not talking about our date or what happened at all all right well we'll play a song come back

and call him and get your first date follow-up right after this okay right in the middle of your first date follow-up and before we do anything? Right in the middle of your first date follow-up, and before we do anything, I just realized that entire first part of today's first date follow-up, I was calling the woman who's not getting a call back, Amanda. Her name is Amara. My bad. Amara went out on a date with her friend. I guess they've known each other for about three years.

And you weren't super, super super close more like casual friends yeah we you know it hung out with groups of friends and stuff and it's always just been you know the casual no nothing intimate or dating before but you've known each other for about three years he finally asked you out and you guys went out to have some drinks and you said it went really well. You even shared a kiss with each other at the end of the night and then went your separate ways. But now he stopped talking to you and you guys were texting for like a week

and then he just stopped or did it kind of trail off? He just stopped because we were texting in the morning and at night, um, at least. And we typically had a few texts in between. And it just went from that happening to nothing. Well, maybe he started dating somebody. Yeah, I mean, I don't know.

I just I don't know why he couldn't just tell me. Well, we will call him right now and see if we can figure it out for you. OK, I'm going to dial his phone number. Here we go. Hello? Hi, may I speak to Patrick, please? You got him. What's up, Patrick?

How are you? This is The Jubal Show. My name's Jubal Mine's Alex My name's Evan And it's The Jubal Show Okay, um, I don't know what that means Okay, well let me tell you The Jubal Show, it's a radio show, it consists of me

And we already introduced ourselves, my name is Jubal And I'm Alex And I'm Elyse Evan Yeah, so those are the three people on the phone with you right now. Okay. And we're calling you because we do a segment on the show called the First Date Follow-Up. It's where if you go out on a date with someone and then they end up not calling you back, you can email us to figure out what happened.

And that's why we're calling you. All right. Well, I haven't emailed you guys and I haven't been out on a date with anybody that hasn't called me back. So I don't know why you guys are calling me. Not you. It's like where if somebody goes out on a date with someone and doesn't get a call back, they can email us. And then we call that person, which is you in this instance. Yeah.

So is there somebody that you went on a date with that you stopped talking to? Yeah. Yeah, there is. Yeah. Yeah, there is. Yeah. Yeah, there definitely is. Is her name Amara? Yes, it is. Well, I don't know how good you are at putting two and two together.

If you're a great detective, then you can probably tell that we're calling because Amara emailed us and said that she really enjoyed going out with you. And now you've stopped talking to her and she has no idea why. Yeah, it's, it's, it sucks. It's unfortunate, but we've known each other for a long time and she's great. And we had a great date, but she did something that just made me uncomfortable. She did something that made you uncomfortable. What do you mean by that? Well, she, you know, I don't even want to talk about it. I don't want to, you know, put her business out there or anything.

But a friend of ours, mutual friend Ross, texted me and told me that Amara texted him for a booty call. And this is already after we started going out. So you, wait, you mean she started texting one of your mutual friends after you started talking to her yeah that's exactly what she started doing but like more than a normal friend text yeah like she's interested in your friend well he thought that's what she was doing you know he just like thought he was she was setting him up for you know to get together i mean maybe a booty call or something like that, you know, so I just, that hurt me a little bit.

Yeah. I mean, I guess if I was talking to someone and they were a friend of mine for a while and then they just started texting another friend of mine wanting to go. Are you sure it was romantic and she wasn't just being friendly with another one of your friends? Well, i don't think so he said he didn't really used to get that from her at all and um knew that we had started dating which is why he's got in touch with me and let me know about it huh all right well i would like i'd be curious if it was romantic or if she was just like a normal friend texting wouldn't you yeah i'm curious about that. Great, then we can ask her because she's actually

on the phone and has been listening to this conversation and wants to talk to you. Hey, Patrick. Hi. I don't understand. I'm confused as to what the problem is. I'm kind of shocked that this is why you're not texting me. Why would you be shocked? this is why you're not texting me.

Why would you be shocked? I mean, you're talking to somebody else and we just started dating. I mean, we went on one date and Russ is a friend of both of ours and I just sent him some messages. I'm just a friendly person. I don't understand. His thought was that you wanted to hook up with him. Well, I honestly think Russ is cute and I think you're cute too. So I don't see why I can't talk to both of you. Um, all right. Uh, awkward. Uh, you know, that's, that's great. That's great. But the fact that we know each other, you don't think that's a little strange that Russ and I know each other? I mean, that's fine.

It doesn't matter. Like, I'm just, I'm going to talk to whoever I want. I don't care if you guys know each other or not. I'm good, guys. I'm good. No, you guys need anything else?

Well, yes, I do. I need to ask if you'll go out with Amara on another date. We will pay for it. Oh, but that would be a big no. Shut up. Well, yes, I do. I need to ask if you'll go out with Amara on another date. We will pay for it. Mm-hmm. Oh, that would be a big no. Shut up. And he hung up the phone.

Amara, I guess you know why. I think they call that a homie hopper. Yeah. Probably shouldn't do that. Yeah, they talk about it. Yeah. And then they just make fun of you. Yeah, for trying to hook up with every single one of your friends. Homie Hopper.

Yeah, it's usually not a good thing. Well, I mean, I'm just trying to have a good time. I'm, you know, not old yet. You know what's, that's messed up, because like it's okay for men to do it, but it's not okay for women to do it. I don't think it's okay for men to do it. The stigma is that, though. Oh, yeah, no, the stigma is fine. Like dudes can sleep around, dudes can do whatever, but women can't.

And then they're pimps, right? But then if girls do it, they're hoes. Right. I've never thought, that's always bugged me. That's always bugged me. I don't think there should be a double standard. If you want to go out and try to date your friends tomorrow, go for it. Yeah, do you. Do you, do them. Do whoever.

Thanks guys, I appreciate you. Yeah, I mean clearly Patrick's just a little too lame over there with his, like like i don't even understand his judgmental yeah his loss good luck with russ right it's russ thank you yeah i can't wait i'm gonna see if he wants to hang out tonight yeah tell him that yeah tell him that i will and patrick doesn't know it yet but russ and i have hooked up before. I was just checking out other options. Jubal's First Date Follow-Up.

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