First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - This is the most confusing First Date Follow Up ever!

Episode Date: April 4, 2022

First Date Follow Up is when we get an email from someone who went on a date and the other person isn't calling back. We get that other person on the phone to see why they're "ghosting".If you missed it, we had a First Date Follow Up where someone showed up to the date pregnant, and they didn't split the bill three ways! One of the most awkward parts of the First Date Follow Up is when you have to ask two people who clearly don't like each other, if they want a second date! This is the most confusing First Date Follow Up ever! Leave a rating and review wherever you listen. It will help the show out in a big way. If that's not your thing, you can find us on social media here:https://instagram.com/thejubalshowhttps://twitter.com/thejubalshowhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thejubalshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the homestretch, right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon. But we're also going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome. My name is Paola Pedrosa, a medium and the host of the Ghost Therapy Podcast, where it's not just about connecting with deceased loved ones. It's about learning through them and their new perspective. I think God sent me this gift so I can show it to the world. And most of all, I help people every single day. Listen to the Ghost Therapy Podcast on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The Jubal Show on demand. First date follow up. This is a first.

It's the Jubal Show. It's time for your first date follow up. And Leslie is on the phone because she's not getting a call back from a dude she went out on a date with. And apparently they met on Instagram. On Instagram? I've never heard of that before. Whoa. That's crazy.

That's how I met my husband. That's how I met my girlfriend. What? We have so much in common. Wow. That's crazy. That's how I met my husband. Yeah, that's how I met my girlfriend. What? We have so much in common. Wow, that's crazy. Leslie is on the phone today for a first date follow-up. She's not getting a call back from a guy named Richard that she met on Instagram. Before we get into everything about the date and stuff, Leslie, how long has it been since you've heard from him?

I mean, like two weeks, pretty much. And how many times have you tried to reach out I mean, like two weeks pretty much. And how many times have you tried to reach out to him in those two weeks? Maybe three times and then like I texted him and like

four texts. It's different from a from a guy to a woman. Yeah. From a woman to a dude. It's, you're allowed more texts until you're a creep.

A guy's a creep after like three. Well, but a woman can't really seem creepy too. If she's pursuing a man, it's very hard. It's very hard for a woman to be creepy. They can be.

I've experienced it, but it's very difficult. It takes a long time. Anyway, tell us how you met. We know Instagram, but tell us more about it. Well, we, you know, he likes my pictures and I like his. We follow each other and it didn't take long for us to start messaging. And we really had like, you know, you just like, you can't do anything except for message back and forth. Like, I was just in it.

So it got a little, like, spicy, a little naughty, and, like, I want more of that, but, like, I also want to, like, go out. You want more of what he was DMing you, but, like, in person. Yeah, yeah, I wanted to cash in on that. Were you impressed by what he was DMing you, but like in person. Yeah. Yeah. I want it. I want to cash in on that. Were you impressed by what he was DMing you? Yeah. I mean, it was hot. You know, you just get that feeling where you're just like, I really would like this person to do what he's saying, you know? So you guys ended up going on a date. How did that go? I mean, it was, it was good. I will say like some of it was like a wet blanket, I guess. It was a brewery and like we went to dinner after the brewery and it was, it was fine. Like he,

he said he's working a lot and you know, we had good conversations, but like I don't really drink beer. Like I would like to go on a different date that's maybe not just like I want to like go to a place where maybe there's more drink options. Yeah, some cocktails rather than just beer and wine or just beer. They have hot dogs. Like, I don't really eat hot dogs. Like, I don't know. It was, I didn't want

to ruin his good time. I would want to know too, though, why you're being ghosted. Yeah. Why do you think you're, why do you think that you're getting ghosted? I mean, I would hate to know too, though, why you're being ghosted. Yeah. Why do you think that you're getting ghosted? I mean, I would hate to think that he's living a double life. I don't think that's crossed my mind. But also, I don't know. Maybe he doesn't like me.

Maybe, I don't know. Is it because I don't like beer? I mean, I tried to like it. Was there any other point in your date where you thought that maybe you said something that he didn't like or something that happened? Possibly, yeah. I mean, we did talk a lot, and it was not as racy as our DMs were. It's weird when you're DMing like that, and then you meet up in person, and it's cold. You're like, I mean, we've done way more virtually than we're doing now.

Well, maybe you look different than what your pictures show. He's got the nerve to say the things that he said to you in DM, but in person he's like, I could never do that. It's harder. It's harder in person for sure, especially on a first date. Is it possible that he could be ghosting you because of the amount of messages that you've sent him after? Possibly, but I'd like to plan a different date with him.

I don't know. Maybe we could have a different result, but I'm not even getting anything back from him. Maybe he died. I don't know. I don't think so. He's been commenting on other people. Dudes don't just ghost for no reason. I will say this.

If you guys are DMing like you were DMing, right, then maybe, I mean, for him not to call you back is kind of weird because like a lot of guys would just stick around to make the DMs come to real life and then split. So let's see if we can figure it out. We'll play a song, come back and then call him and get your first date follow up. OK. OK, thank you. All right.

We'll do it next. It's a Jubal show. If you're just joining us for today's first date follow up, Leslie is on the phone and Leslie is getting ghosted by a dude named Richard. And Richard is Richard hasn't talked to her since their date. They went out a few weeks ago. She's heard nothing since. So she tried reaching out to him a bunch. She thinks maybe she's not getting a call back

because she's tried too hard to get a hold of him and texted him and maybe messaged him a little bit too much. But they met on Instagram. They were having some pretty hot and heavy and spicy direct messages between each other. And then they went out to a brewery in person and the spice turned into mild salsa. I couldn't think of a good way to say that.

But it was just like the same heat wasn't there as it was before in the direct messages. And so it was kind of, she felt like it was kind of lame compared to what she thought it was going to be. And since the date, she hasn't heard anything from him. I didn't ask you at the end of that first part, Leslie, did you guys kiss? I don't know. It was like a hug and like he kind of kissed me a little like on the side of my face, but it was like, I don't know.

We didn't make out or anything. A cheek kiss is not, it's not a good sign if you've been talking about all kinds of different kisses in your direct messages, a cheek kiss in person might mean something. Well, I'm going to dial this one right now, okay? Here we go. Okay.

All right. Thanks, guys. Yep. Hello? Oh my God, is this Richard? Yeah, who's this? On the phone with Richard. And me. Holy crap.

On the phone with Richard. I don't even know who this is. You know what? I'm not interested. Okay, no, don't hang up. Richard, are you still there? Yeah, what's this about? This is the Jubal Show. It's a radio

show. My name is Jubal. And mine's Alex. And mine's English Evan. And we are big fans of yours. Do they win something? You might. We're doing a thing we do on the show called the First Date Follow-Up. What that is, it's where if you go out on a date with someone and then end up not calling them back, they can

email us to get you on the phone and ask what happened. And so we got an email about you from a woman named Leslie. Great. What about me? Well, Leslie said that you guys met on Instagram and you went out on a date to a brewery and she thought you were pretty cool.

She said the date was a little bit lackluster and she thought you might have also felt like the date wasn't necessarily the best but she wanted to see you again and reached out to you a few times and you won't answer so she's wondering what happened. Well, she is something else, I tell you.

Okay, was it good or bad? Oh yeah, she's freaking great. Well, she's great. Are you being sarcastic? Yeah. If she's great, why aren't you calling her back? I mean, she's great. I didn't say I wanted to marry her.

She's cool, but like, I don't know. I'm keeping my options open. I don't barely know her. But is there anything that she did, like, to you that made you not want to call her back? Not really. I mean, she's cool. She's a good backup plan. Oh, you're in a relationship.

Backup plan? Yeah. Backup plan? Excuse me. Excuse me, Richard. I am nobody's fucking backup plan. Who's this?

Who's that? Hello? Richard, I'm sorry about that. You're supposed to wait until I tell you, Leslie. Leslie is on the phone listening, wants to talk to you, and apparently she doesn't feel like she's anybody's effing backup plan.

This is great. Thanks, guys. This is what I get for being honest. You put me out there like this. Is this how you talk about women? Are you serious? You're a pig. I can't believe you're on the phone right now.

I mean, yeah, of course I'm on the phone. Leslie, how about I make it up to you? I'm sorry. Absolutely not. No, maybe why don't you just call on your other backup plans? Hey, I didn't mean, I didn't want to hurt your feelings. I'll take you out. It's my treat.

Come on, let's go out. No, get that through your stupid head. I'm not going out with you again, backup plan. What's my treat. Come on. Let's go out. No. Get that through your stupid head. I'm not going out with you again, backup plan. What do you think? Come on. This show put me up to it. You should be mad at them, not me. I didn't do anything.

They're the reason you're upset at me. I didn't mean to put you on blast. They didn't tell me that this is going out there. We're not the ones that told you to call her a backup plan. No, we didn't say that at all. Yeah, you mean you ghosted her and then you blame us. Do you have a girlfriend? Or like someone that you're more interested in?

You know, there's other people that I'm seeing. I'm a single person. I'm a single man. You don't have to put me down for what my lifestyle is. You're just so quick to like, hey, let's go out again. But you're ignoring her. I mean, do I have to respond to people whenever they say something? I'm not on anyone else's mind.

If you're keeping your options open and you're so ready to go out with her again, then why not respond to her text messages? Maybe I'm busy. Maybe I've got other things to do. Maybe I want to reach out at my convenience. Richard, it's the decent thing to do, though, to respond to someone that you've been on a date with if you are going to be nice.

Especially if you're trying to keep them as a backup plan. Like, you've still got to talk to your bench players, you know what I mean? Really, let's just call it a booty call. You know what? Don't listen to them, Leslie. They're just trying to cover their asses for putting me on the spot here.

Do you want to go out with me? I mean, no. Like, I just don't know. Like, no. I'm not a backup here. Do you want to go out with me? I mean, no. Like, I just don't know. Like, no. I'm not a backup plan. Are you kidding me? I apologize for putting you out like that. I didn't mean to blast it out,

but I didn't know that this was being broadcast. I didn't know it was in front of you. That's the only way to get you to call me back? Listen, let's go out again, and I'll make it up to you. It doesn't even make sense that she's a backup plan, but you don't want to talk to her. And then you want to ask her out right now. I didn't mean it like that. I would just, I was set up and it came out that way. You weren't set up. You're the one that said backup plan. You, the words came out. You put me

on blast. You put me in front of Leslie. If I didn't know that she was on the phone, maybe I would have said other words. But guess what? Those are the words that came out of my mouth. Leslie, I'm saying I'm sorry. And I'm asking you out again. I'm so sorry. I set you up, I guess. Like now you've convinced me. No, I feel terrible. Yeah. I don't know what's going on or apology. And are you guys willing to put us out on a date? Are you guys willing to pay for it? Hold on. I was joke apologizing. Also, I'm really confused still, but it doesn't matter. Would you like to go on another date with Leslie?

We'll pay for it. Yeah, I would love to. And Leslie, would you want to go on another date with Richard? We'll pay for it. I mean, I do think you guys really probably made this a little more dramatic than it needed to be.

We did? Are you both teaming up on us? Y'all are crazy. You meant for each other. He called you a backup plan and we didn't put those words in his mouth and then you were angry about it. We didn't make you angry about it. Yeah, but I never would have even known that

if you didn't have me listening in. Leslie, please don't go on this date. I mean, he probably would have been nicer about it if he didn't get ambushed on the on this date. I mean, he probably would have been nicer about it if he didn't get ambushed on the radio. Yeah, I mean, I would have been nicer about it if I wasn't ambushed.

Oh, Jesus. Okay. Okay, well, have fun on your date, you two. Sorry, guys. Enjoy your... Your free day. ...life together. Well, thanks for almost

screwing up my chances with Leslie. What? I'm so confused. You almost screwed up your chances. Well, have fun almost screwing up my chances with Leslie. What? I'm so confused. You almost screwed up your chances. Well, have fun. Thanks, guys. The Jubal Show on demand. Hey, everyone.

It's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the homestretch right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon. But we're also going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Catch Jon Stewart back in action on The Daily Show and in your ears with The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast.

From his hilarious satirical takes on today's politics and entertainment to the unique voices of correspondents and contributors, it's your perfect companion to stay on top of what's happening now. Plus, you'll get special content just for podcast listeners, like in-depth interviews and a roundup of the week's top headlines. Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome. My name is Paola Pedrosa, a medium and the host of the Ghost Therapy Podcast, where it's not just about connecting with deceased loved ones. It's about learning through them and their new perspective. I think God sent me this gift so I can show it to the world. And most of all, I help people every single day. Listen to the Ghost Therapy Podcast on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.