First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - This is why you shouldn't be too excited on your First Date!

Episode Date: January 14, 2022

First Date Follow Up is when we get an email from someone who went on a date and the other person isn't calling back. We get that other person on the phone to see why they're "ghosting".Every once in a while when you try to get someone to go on a second date after the other has been ghosted, it gets awkward! In today's first date follow up, Kevin and Hannah argue about the weirdest thing! Brace yourself for another exciting First Date Follow Up!!!!!!!!!!!!Leave a rating and review wherever you listen. It will help the show out in a big way. If that's not your thing, you can find us on social media here:https://instagram.com/thejubalshowhttps://twitter.com/thejubalshowhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thejubalshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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First day follow-up. Kevin is taking a break from doing his squat thrusts and his hip thrusties and his slurpy burpees and his jump squat back hacks and his leg press scrunch ups to do a first day follow-up today. Because Kevin apparently met the girls not calling him back at his CrossFit gym. Oh, CrossFit. Here we go. What's up, Kevin? How are you? Hey, I'm doing good, man. How are you doing? Not too bad.

You met the girl that's not calling you back at your CrossFit gym? Yeah, man. I mean, it's intense in there. So, you know, you're there, you're sweating, you're putting it all out there. So, you know, when you're there, you kind of grow close to somebody and you make the connection. And I felt like I noticed her noticing me.

You know, there's those guys who go to the gym, you know, to hit on girls. I'm not that kind of guy. Listen, I really thought we made a connection, so I figured I'd do the slightly less creepy thing and look her up on Facebook and maybe shoot her a DM. Okay. You chose Facebook over Instagram. That's interesting.

I mean, listen, I had a couple of drinks one night, you know, which I'm not supposed to, and I just worked up the courage to do it, and she wrote back. She did? Okay. So what did you say to her? Yeah, I said, hey, you know, I've been wanting to chat with you after class, but, you know, you're always running off to work and we're looking pretty gross. I don't want to bother you.

But I figured one day after the class, we can go out and maybe grab a coffee or rather grab a smoothie, you know. That's right. That's within our, and she was down. That's cool. What did she end up saying back to you? She said that she was down, that, you know, she was down. That's cool. What did she end up saying back to you? She said that she was down, that she was free on Wednesday. And so at 2 o'clock after when the class ends, she'd be down to go grab a smoothie. Okay.

So did you go and grab a smoothie with her? So, yeah, we went. We got in there and we were online. We were having a nice conversation. You know, it's a little weird when you get to the cashier because, you know, she was actually in front of me. And I didn't want to put too much pressure on her by paying for it because then it would seem more like a date and not like two people getting to know each other. So I just figured, let's just go with that. It's only a couple of dollars anyway, right?

It was like $4.95. But we had our drinks, we went to the park, we chilled. And how was the conversation? Did she feel like, or did you feel like she was into it? Yeah, we were vibing.

You know, we talked about, you know, the workout of the day, what we thought, which one we liked, which one we didn't like, about our instructors and, you know, who we preferred.

I mean, it was great. Did you find out anything about her specifically other than the fact she works out well she's got a couple of siblings she's the youngest and she grew up in New York just like me so and is this the only time that you guys went out yeah very first time and it was good. So I waited the typical, you know, two days. And then I texted her by DM their back. And for some reason, she hasn't quite wrote back. Have you seen her at the gym?

I haven't gone to the gym. I've been jammed at work all week. And I was just kind of trying to see how this situation works out before because if she's

not writing me back I don't really know what's going on it's going to be super awkward yeah it would really awkward is there anything

that you can think of that went wrong why should we go see I don't know I mean maybe I smelled I put on deodorant I don't know

I have no idea why I mean that literally has been a reason before for sure we have had someone be like hey they just smell bad maybe

or maybe is it should I have paid for her smoothie I mean the way that you explained it it made sense like if I was in her situation

I wouldn't mind paying for my own smoothie especially without it being like I mean it kind of is a date you guys set up a time and it was after you guys' class, but also at the same time, like how you explained it is how I would feel too. Like nothing,

you know, too serious. And you're just getting to know each other. It's just a smoothie. So I don't know. I just, for me, that could not be it.

I don't know. Maybe she, she has a boyfriend. She didn't tell me about. Yeah. That's been one too too Let's hope not There's been a lot of things That would suck

I mean she's posting though I see her posting With her friends I mean she's posting At the gym She's posting And she's ghosting Posted and ghosted

Alright Well we'll play a song We'll come back And then we'll call her And see if we can figure it out For you okay Thanks man We'll get your first date

Follow up next It's the Jubal Show. In the middle of today's first date follow-up, if you're just joining us, Kevin is on the phone, and Kevin met a girl named Hannah at his CrossFit gym. He noticed her in class and then DM'd her and asked her to go out for a smoothie after one of their classes, and she agreed.

He thought it went great. The smoothies were delicious. Yeah, they were. We went into detail about the flavor on those, but he also thought the date was great. They have a lot in common, along with working out other things, too, also from the same area in New York where they grew up. And so he was really into her, but now she's not calling him back,

and he doesn't know why. So we're about to call her and see if we can figure it out for him. All right, Kevin, you ready to go? Yeah. Hello? Hi, may I speak to Hannah, please? Yeah, this is her. Hey, Hannah, how are you? This is the Jubal Show. My name is Jubal. Mine's Alex Fresh.

Mine's English Evan. Hi. So you have heard of the show? Yeah. Have you listened to it, though? I can't say that I have. Really? All right, that's fine.

I'll tell you why we're calling because it's probably weird that we're calling you, but we're calling because we do a segment on the show called The First Date Follow-Up. Basically what that is, if you go out on a date with someone and then you end up ghosting them, that person can email us to get you on the phone

and ask you why. And you have been ghosting a dude named Kevin. Oh, yeah. Yeah. And Kevin emailed us and told us about your date, said that he really liked you, also said that you haven't talked to him in about seven days since the date,

and he would like to know why. Do you mind telling us? Uh, yeah. Well, what did he tell you what did he tell you guys well yeah he said that you guys met at your gym your crossfit gym and that he asked you out for a smoothie date and that you guys went and got a smoothie and he hasn't been able to get a hold of you since uh the it's just a little awkward i guess but the reason that i ghosted him is when we would text his text he used so many exclamation points um like so many exclamation points. I felt like I was talking to a 15-year-old boy. And it just was a really big turnoff.

And it was just so, it was too many. And be like, what's up? With like a thousand exclamation points. I know some people like that, that they'll text you and it's always exclamation points or emails are always exclamation points. And you're just like, are you this excited about everything all the time?

Sorry, but that's the reason you're not getting back to him. Yeah. Is it because are you like a grammar Nazi? Or maybe a school teacher? No, I wouldn't say that. It's just something that you wouldn't want to deal with going forward in a relationship? Yeah. Like, can we just tone it down? It was, it felt like it was too much all in my face when we were texting. Um, in person it was great in person. It was good. Yeah. I mean, I'm attracted

to Kevin. I think he's very cute, but I don't know. Every time I got a text message from him, I would just cringe. Wow. Okay. I wonder if he realizes that he does that. I mean, I wouldn't assume so. Yeah. We should ask him about it.

Right now. What do you think? What? Yeah, he's actually listening to this conversation and wants to talk to you. Hey, Hannah. Wow, you're alive. You guys. Wow, Hannah. So that was it, huh?

Wow. A thousand exclamation points. It was more like three, okay? And if that's what turned you off, then I don't know who the 15-year-old here is, me or you. But listen, I was just, listen, when you get to know somebody at the very beginning, I'm just trying to be a little bit friendly. Sometimes texts can come across as a little bit cold, and I was trying to be warm. And instead of using corny emojis, I figured I'd put a little oomph with exclamation points,

but wow. Exclamation points. I'm sorry. I was still trying to process what is happening right now and that you're on the phone, but yeah, Kevin, it was just too much. It was too much. Sure.

Yeah. Okay. Yeah. I mean, you could have just texted me that without exclamation points or whatever, but okay. I guess, I guess I'll see you around or in class or not. I don't know. You guys aren't even going to talk it out at all, huh?

Come on. I mean, there's really nothing to talk about, right? I still use a few exclamation points. I mean, that's what people do. It wasn't a thousand. Kevin, Kevin, Kevin, it was more than a few. I mean, I feel like you're downplaying how many exclamation points you actually use. It was a lot.

It was a lot. After it would be, what's up? How are you? So great. Exclamation point, exclamation point, exclamation point. I mean, I don't think I've ever seen somebody use so many exclamation points. And I like explanation points. I use them myself.

Just one or two. It's a great piece of conversation. I mean, if it's warranted three at max. Three is fine. I think three, you know, at the end of the phrase. But not every time. Not every time. But, you know, then you can downgrade it to two or one.

No. See, it was every time, though. It was every time. And. It was every time. And it was more than three. I was just trying to be friendly. Friendly with 16 exclamation points? I mean, it's like, mm. It wasn't even 16.

Come on, stop exaggerating. For real, it was three. Maps. Per sentence. Whatever. It was three maps. But you did it every time after every single thing you said. They're free.

They're free. They're free. I've never heard anyone say that. You guys are already arguing about some of the weirdest stuff. And to me, that says that you're ready for a relationship. Hannah, would you like to go out with Kevin one more time? We'll pay for it. I mean, if it's only going to be to argue about

exclamation points I don't I think that's a no you know we can just be adults about this I mean at least I can be I don't know about you but you know I guess I'll see you around class or you know we'll take different classes but

Hannah very nice to meet you. No exclamation point. How do you do that? The Jubal Show on demand. We're so done with new year, new you. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes.

More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will, too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Consider this is a daily news podcast. And lately, the news is about a big question.

How much can one guy change? They want change. What will change look like for energy? Drill, baby, drill. Schools? Take the Department of Education closer. Health care? Better and less expensive.

Follow coverage of a changing country. Promises made, promises kept. We're going to keep our promises. On Consider This from NPR. Listen on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the homestretch, right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein,

Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon. But we're also going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.