First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - What special skill isn't getting him a call back?

Episode Date: January 18, 2023

First Date Follow Up is when we get an email from someone who went on a date and the other person isn't calling back. We get that other person on the phone to see why they're "ghosting".We have a guy on the phone who is getting ghosted by a girl he went on a date with for over a month now. He has no idea why he is getting ghosted, and says he even impressed her with a special skill of his! Find out what that skill is and why he is getting ghosted in this First Date Follow Up!Leave a rating and review wherever you listen. It will help the show out in a big way. If that's not your thing, you can find us on social media here:https://instagram.com/thejubalshowhttps://twitter.com/thejubalshowhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thejubalshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Network, iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. The Jubal Show on demand. First date follow-up. Michael is on the phone today for a first date follow-up and he's being ghosted by a woman named Kylie.

We'll see if we can get to the bottom of why Michael's getting ghosted in just a second. But before we get into your date, Michael, and ask you questions about that, why don't you tell us how long it's been since your date with Kylie? Oh, it's been about a month and a half. Whoa.

Okay, so that's a long ghost, yeah. How many times have you heard from her in that month and a half at all? It was a quick, like, I'm just a bit busy. I'll be right back. Okay, so she said she'll be right back and then she never came back. Yeah, pretty much.

All right, that sucks. Well, tell us about your date with Kylie then. What did you guys do? We went out for drinks and went bowling. Okay, so yeah, I mean, that's a fun date. Did it seem like she was into it? Yeah, I mean, she was, we had, I mean, we's a fun date. Did it seem like she was into it? Yeah. I mean, she was, we had, I mean, we had a great time.

First off, she's just drop dead gorgeous. Like, holy cow. Just wonderful person. Gorgeous. Just smile that lit up the whole room. Man, it was a lot of fun. I just, I really enjoyed her company, you know? I taught her how to bowl.

Um, I, I, she went, she, she's bowled before, but, uh, like I'm, I I've done it for, since I was a little kid, I used to bowl in leagues and stuff like that. It's like my dad used to bowl growing up, like the whole, you know, pretty much like my, my dad was like an Al Bundy sort of guy, right? Do you own your own ball? I do. Sweet. What? Legit.

Yeah, you are legit. How did the date end with her? Did she seem like she liked the date? Did anything happen that was awkward? Maybe because, like, I was so much better at bowling. I mean, it's a little, okay. I couldn't pull back when I bowled. I just kind of bowled and had fun with it the way I normally do,

and I'm kind of good. I'm not amazing, but I was quite a bit better than she was, and I was a bit worried that maybe I was showing off a bit and maybe that kind of put her off. Oh, yeah. I didn't really kind of intend to. I kind of wanted to show her that I was showing off a bit and maybe that kind of put her off. Oh, yeah. I didn't really kind of intend to. I kind of wanted to show her that I was good at something, but at the same time, like, trying to reel it in.

But I don't know. Hey, it's Bennett. I can't help but to think, not only were you, like, really good, but were you kind of, like, kind of forcing your skill upon her? Like, hey, this is how you should do it. This is the right way to throw the ball. You should use this ball because if you were doing a little too much, that might be the reason she's not calling you back. Yeah, it felt like you're trying to like correct her ways rather than just trying to have a good time, you know?

I mean, I didn't feel like I was doing that. I thought it was more of a conversational flirtation sort of thing with bowling. And it was, I didn't feel that she felt that way. Does that make sense? Okay. maybe I'm just completely and utterly naive, but I really thought, like, I mean, this girl was really amazing. And I was like, honestly, I was enamored. So I was just really trying to do anything I could to impress her, you know? Did you get a kiss at the end of the date? How did you leave things with her? We didn't kiss or anything like that.

Like, just, it was a good first. I didn't push for like a kiss or anything like that. I just, it was a good first date. I didn't push for, like, a kiss or anything like that. I just, we ended the date as casually as it was. And, like, I didn't kind of want to overstep those boundaries. And, like, does that make sense? Yeah, that makes sense. Okay. I was trying to feel out the end of the date, and I didn't.

It kind of, it just ended casually and very nicely. So, why do you think she's ghosting you? Do you have, there's got to be something that you thought of. I genuinely, I think it's because I was better than her at bowling. Okay. Yeah. I mean, if you're that good, if you got three different balls, all the weights, it's like, it's like I, you know, that's intimidating.

To say the least. Yeah. Dating a guy with three. She struggled, you know? Yeah. I mean, she was like, so I helped her out. that's intimidating to say the least yeah dating a guy with three she struggled you know I mean she was like so I helped her out I helped her out

the best I could you know well we'll see if we can figure it out for you then okay we'll play a song come back and then call her

and get your first date follow up next I think for the rest of this I'm going to call you three ball Mike well that's uncomfortable but okay

why because right in the middle of your first day of fall, if you were just joining us, why do I want to call Michael three-ball Mike? Because he's got three bowling balls for all the different things that he can do while he bowls because Michael's a good bowler. That's why. If you thought anything else,

you get your mind out of the gutter. Okay. Michael's on the phone. He's not getting a call back from Kylie. It's been about a month and a half. He heard a little bit from her. She said, I'm busy. I'll be right back. But then never came back and Michael hasn't heard from her

and he really liked her. They went bowling and he said that they had a great time. Looked like she was into it. Michael thinks that she might not be calling back because Michael, he's got bowling in his DNA. He comes from a line of good bowlers. He's a good bowler, such a good bowler. He owns three bowling balls.

He's got them weighted in different ways. So, like, Michael just kills it at bowling. After their date, he said it ended nicely. She seemed like she had a good time, but now she's in the wind and he has not heard from her at all. He wants to know why. So we're about to call her and see if we can figure out why Kylie is ghosting Michael. Here we go. Hello? I'm looking for Kylie.

Yeah, this is Kylie. Kylie, how are you? This is Jubal from a radio show called The Jubal Show. And I'm Victoria from the same radio show. I'm Bennett. I'm Christian Grace Now. Uh, what's up? Not much. We're calling you today because one of our listeners actually emailed us about you and wanted us to call you. Oh man, um, about what? We do a segment called The First Date Follow-Up. That's where if you go out on a date with somebody and then end up ghosting them, that person can email us and ask us to get you on the phone and ask why. So we got an email about you from a guy that you ghosted that you went out with.

Oh my God. Is it, is it a guy named Michael who called you? It is a guy named Michael. You guys went bowling. Yeah. Do you mind telling us a little bit about your thoughts on Michael and maybe telling us why you're ghosting him? He said he enjoyed your date a lot.

He had a lot of nice things to say about you. He said he thought you had a great time, but you haven't called him back in a month and a half, and he just wants to know why. Yeah. I thought he would kind of get the hint hint um that i you know wasn't interested in another date but i guess not um he you know he's a pretty nice guy um and and that's why like i took a chance like one out on a date with him um and we went bowling which like is a totally fine

date we got some drinks. Um, yeah, he told us about that. He said he's a really good bowler. Yeah. And he's, he's good. And like, and that's totally fine to have your hobbies and like be really good at something. Um, but what I think kind of bothered me was that he was like mansplaining the whole time to me on like proper form and all this. i think like i don't care if you're

really good at something but if you're on a date especially like a first date like don't be so obnoxious about it um and you know it's like it's like it's just a game we're just on a date it's not that serious but he took it like so seriously and he wouldn't let me like he would like stop me and be like no no no no your foot's not in the right place oh god he's got like really competitive and you know like if he wasn't doing as well as me for like one game like i don't like i've bowled a few times but it's not something that like i do and so i was just there to like have fun get to know him a little bit and he was getting kind of like you get like kind of mad if he thought just there to like have fun get to know him a little bit and he was getting

kind of like you get like kind of mad if he thought I was gonna like get a point or something just like really competitive okay like I get that that's his thing but I don't know it's just like you have to know when to chill out on a date also like it was really weird because, like, at one point he missed a spare. And he, like, turned around and he was like, What? He was yelling at himself because he missed a pin, I guess. Awkward. What?

Yeah, and he kept, like, apologizing to me. Like, I'm so sorry. Like, I did that. And I was just like, what? You know, it was very very it was super weird um so take the bowling out of it then like if you think about Michael without you know him being in a bowling alley and the passion that he has behind bowling did you like him and you know it was kind of hard to tell honestly which is why I like didn't say, you know, I didn't say like, no, I try and let someone down easy if I know I don't want to go out on a second date.

So I just thought like, maybe I'll give it another chance. And then I've gone on a few other dates and I don't know. I feel like on the first date, no matter what you're doing, you can kind of get a sense of the person. And I just I don't see it going anywhere. It sounds like you're saying you can take the boy out of the bowling alley, but you can't take the bowling alley out of the boy. That's right. Like, does he do this for anything he doesn't get right?

Just kind of yells at himself? That could be entertaining. Only one way to find out. Yeah, there is one way to find out. I don't know. The way we can find out is that Michael is actually on the phone listening and wants to talk to you. Oh my God.

So stupid. Michael. Hey, we're on now. You're on now. Okay. First, I'm so sorry. Please someone mansplain what mansplaining means. I was just genuinely trying I don't understand. Please, someone, mansplain what mansplaining means.

Because I was just genuinely trying to help you out. Yeah, I understand that this is your thing. And, like, maybe it would have gone better had we not gone bowling. But I think you really wanted to, like, show how good you were at that. I think, you know, I think you're a really nice guy. I just need someone who can, like, read the situation a little bit more and chill out when needed, I think. I read the bowling thing.

They had the instructions up there. I read them to you. I could read. I don't think she's saying you're illiterate. I'm not illiterate. Yeah. Michael, I think you're a really nice guy. I just, i think maybe

either you need to find someone who's more into bowling or maybe just work on being a little less competitive during a date kylie it sounds like you've got good advice from michael and i'm wondering if you'd like to give that advice to him in person would you like to go out on another date with michael we'll pay for it. Oh, man. I mean, I appreciate it, guys, but it's a no for me. But what if we, listen, we won't go bowling. We won't go bowling.

I'll leave my three balls at home. Let's go. We'll go play darts. No more bowling. Play darts. I'm very good at darts. So have you ever played cricket? So cricket is a dart game where you got to hit.

Yeah, yeah. Michael, stop for a second. What? Okay, you guys, if you needed an example of mansplaining, that's mansplaining. I know what cricket is. Checked. There we go. Yeah.

Yeah, Michael, I just, I don't think it's going to work out, but I wish you the best of luck. That's fine. That's fine. Well, you have a wonderful, wonderful life. Okay. Thank you so much. Stupid. Stupid, Michael.

I threw that up. Okay. Oh, stupid Michael. Michael, just do that. I'll put that. Okay. Are you going to be okay, Michael? Yeah, no, I'm perfectly fine. Everything's great. Actually, I have a date this evening with a lovely bartender over at the bowling alley. Oh, there you go.

Well, there you go. Sounds like things are looking up for you, Mikey. Yeah, definitely. Yeah, yeah. Maybe she could tell me what this mansplaining thing is. But yeah, I'm good. Thank you so much, guys, for your help. For sure.

I don't need that wet noodle Kylie anyway. Okay, all right. Have a great day anyway. The Jubal Show on demand. Hey, everyone. It's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the homestretch right in time for a new season

of my podcast, Next Question. I'm bringing in some FOKs, friends of Katie's, to help me out, like Ezra Klein, Jen Psaki, Astead Herndon. But we're also going to have some fun, thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee and Charlemagne the

God. We're going to take some viewer questions as well. I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about? Check out our new season of Next Question with me, Katie Couric, on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Jon Stewart is back in the host chair at The Daily Show, which means he's also back in our ears on The Daily Show Ears Edition podcast. Join late-night legend Jon Stewart and the best news team for today's biggest headlines, exclusive extended interviews, and more. Now this is a second term we can all get behind.

Listen to The Daily Show, Ears Edition on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to Decisions Decisions, the podcast where boundaries are pushed and conversations get candid. Join your favorite hosts, me, Weezy WTF, and me, Mandy B, as we dive deep into the world of non-traditional relationships and explore the often taboo topics surrounding dating, sex, and love. That's right. Every Monday and Wednesday,

we both invite you to unlearn the outdated narratives dictated by traditional patriarchal norms. With a blend of humor, vulnerability, and authenticity, we share our personal journeys navigating our 30s, tackling the complexities of modern relationships, and engage in thought-provoking discussions that challenge societal expectations. From groundbreaking interviews with diverse guests to relatable stories that will resonate with your experiences, Decisions Decisions is going to be your go-to source for the open dialogue

about what it truly means to love and connect in today's world. Get ready to reshape your understanding of relationships and embrace the freedom of authentic connections. Tune in and join the conversation. Listen to Decisions Decisions on the Black Effect Podcast Network, iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.