First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - What's worse than someone ghosting you after spending the night at their house!?

Episode Date: February 2, 2022

First Date Follow Up is when we get an email from someone who went on a date and the other person isn't calling back. We get that other person on the phone to see why they're "ghosting".What's worse than someone ghosting you after spending the night at their house!? You're about to find out! It's time for another First Date Follow Up! Leave a rating and review wherever you listen. It will help the show out in a big way. If that's not your thing, you can find us on social media here:https://instagram.com/thejubalshowhttps://twitter.com/thejubalshowhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thejubalshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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And together with my wife, Andrea Waters King, and our dear friends, Mark and Craig Kilberger, we explore the personal journeys that shape extraordinary lives. Join us for heartfelt conversations with remarkable guests like David Oyelowo, Mel Robbins, Martin Sheen, Dr. Sanjay Gupta, and Billy Porter. Listen to My Legacy on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. This is My Legacy on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. This is My Legacy. The Jubal Show on demand. First day follow-up. I don't know what's worse. If somebody ghosts you after a normal first date where you go out to dinner or whatever and then you leave and then they just never talk to you again.

Or they ghost you after you spent the night at their house. Oh. And you leave in the morning and then just never talk to you again. Or they ghost you after you spent the night at their house and you leave in the morning and then they never talk to you again. I think that's the worst one because you're like, I was good enough to get over there. We did what we did. And I must've been so bad at doing what we did. I don't know.

There's so many other things that could go wrong in that situation. It would make me rethink my life though. Either way, I'm like, is either one better than the other? I guess it's all not great if you're really into somebody just like Owen, who's on the phone right now for a first date follow-up. Before

we find out what happened for your date, Owen, how long has it been since you went out with, looks like her name is Jess. How long has it been since you went out with Jess? Yes, it's been four days. Four days's been four days. Four days. Okay.

Only four days. But if you go to that, I feel like it feels like a long time, even if it's a day. Yeah, it's true. Yeah, I mean, it's definitely past the time. So how many times have you tried to reach out to her? Yeah, I reached out to her twice. Twice. I don't stalk people.

It's just not my thing. Twice in four days is appropriate. I like that. I really like that. Very normal. Yeah. Four times in two days, though. Probably not good. Anyway, so tell I really like that. Very normal. Yeah, four times in two days, though, probably not good.

Anyway, so tell us a little bit about your date. You know, we went out for dinner and then ended up at her place. Well, that's not good. Yeah, I don't like to brag, but yeah. You're downplaying it. That's a good first date. I mean, unless you had already planned. You guys had talked about going back to her house after dinner, or was it she had such a good time at dinner that she wanted you to check out her wallpaper we just really hit it off you

know a lot of laughing uh you know there's like those moments where she like like might touch my arm you could tell there was like chemistry you know we spoke about family like we had a ton of stuff to talk about we just you know non-stop talking family, like we had a ton of stuff to talk about, which is, you know, nonstop talking. I'm assuming she invited you to go to her house after the date. She did propose the idea and she even, you know, she made it sound like, you know, this is a completely rare thing that she doesn't normally bring people back. I never do this. You went over there.

She said she never does that, even though who knows? She probably does. And did you guys hook up? Yes, we did. Okay. Okay, so she's done that a few times. Congrats. Yes, she absolutely has.

Good for her and good for you. Maybe she didn't hook up with you. Maybe it'd be a little bit more believable on her end. Yeah. Yeah, I guess so. I mean, it was awesome. You could feel there was that strong chemistry between us, Yeah, I guess so. I mean, it was awesome. Like, you could feel there was that strong chemistry between us,

and it was really romantic. I don't need to get into details. You know, I told her I had to get up in the morning to go to work. I did spill a glass of water on the floor on my way out, so I don't know if, like, that was... What time did you get up? It was about 6, 6.30, I think, know if that was... What time did you get up? It was about 6, 6.30, I think, if I remember correctly. Okay.

Did you say bye? I didn't want to wake her up. Okay, so you snuck out of there. Okay. Yeah, but I told her I was going to do it, so it wasn't. Did she live in a house or an apartment? Yeah, she lived in an apartment. Okay, so you bounced, you didn't say bye,

and you've heard nothing from her since? Yeah, she didn't respond to my messages. Okay, so that's what I was talking about earlier. I was like, is that worse than getting blown off right after dinner? Were you that bad? Or, I mean, you said you spilled water, and maybe that was it. Is there another reason at all? Yeah, nothing I can think of at all.

There was no point in the night where it was like awkward I mean besides spilling the water I mean maybe she could be could have been upset about me you know not saying bye on the way out I guess that could have been off putting like that you were disrespectful or something when it kind of sends a message that you want to like hit it and quit it

yeah it is weird though it's a tough situation to like hit it and quit it, you know? it is weird though. Yeah, it's a tough situation to be in. I told her I was going to though. Oh, you did? Okay.

Yeah. So, I mean, if you told her, then she should have known, but I mean, you never know, right?

So, all right, we'll play a song, come back, and then call her and see if we can figure out the real reason she's not calling you back, okay?

Cool. Thanks a lot, guys. All right, man. We'll do it next. It's the Jubal Show. I just want to touch on this thing that we talked about in the first part of the first date follow-up real quick before we get to finding out why Owen

isn't getting a call back from a woman that he went out on a date with. Her name is Jess. But we talked about the fact that Owen went out with Jess to dinner. They had such a good dinner that she was like, would you like to come back to my place, Owen? I don't know why she speaks that way, but that's how she said it. Yeah, she isn't. Is she from Italy, Owen? Was that right? No, not that I don't know why she speaks that way, but that's how she said it. Yeah, she's in it. Is she from Italy, Owen?

Was that right? No, not that I'm aware of. Okay, well, in my mind, she is. And she was like, would you like to come back to my place for a little bit of fun? And now she sounds like something else. I don't know.

And anyway, Owen went over there. They ended up hooking up and now she's not calling back and he doesn't know why. We're about to call her and get her on the phone and we're going to see why she's not calling you back. Before I call why we're about to call her and get her on the phone. And we're going to see why she's not calling you back.

Before I call her, is there anything else you want to add? No, I'm ready for an answer. I've been going over it in my head. I can't figure it out. All right, here we go. The other phone is ringing. Hello? Hi, may I speak to Jess, please?

Yeah, this is her. Hey, Jess, how are you? This is The Jubal Show. It's a radio show. My name is Jubal. Mine's Alex. Mine's English Heaven. Have you heard of The Jubal Show?

Yeah, I mean, it's been a while. What is this about? Well, we do a segment on our show called The First Date Follow-Up. It's where if you go out on a date with someone and end up ghosting them, they can email us

to get you on the phone and ask why. And we got an email about you from Owen. Oh my... Wait, seriously? Yeah, Owen wants to know why you're not calling back.

He told us about your date. He said you guys had a really wonderful dinner. You went back to your place. You had fun there. And he left in the morning to go to work. And that's the last time he's heard from you. He said he's also tried to reach out to you, but you haven't even responded. Yes, we're dying to know.

Well, yeah. No, he's been ghosted for a reason. Okay. And what is that reason? I mean, he peed in my bed. He did what? He did? Yeah. No, no, no.

No, no, no. Like, legitimately everywhere. I'm still dealing with that right now. What? How much pee did that guy have? It probably got on the mattress. everywhere. I'm still, I'm still dealing with that right now. So I, that's why I'm, I'm How much pee did that guy have? You're still dealing with it. It probably got on the mattress. Oh yeah. Wait, like what were you guys drinking the night before?

Well, yeah. I mean, and that's, I mean, here's the thing. That's the worst part. We were having such a great time and I brought him to my, my apartment. We, I never bring anybody over to my apartment and I decided, cause we were talking about family and just, you know, mature stuff and not things that we talk about normally on a first date. So I brought him over. We had such an amazing night. And I wake up the next morning and I roll into his side. The worst part about it is, is though he left. He didn't even say sorry. He didn't even wake me up.

He didn't even throw a freaking towel that was on the floor. Like he did nothing. We talked to him. He didn't tell us anything about that. That's sad. First of all. And that happens a lot when people go out drinking. I've peed in beds. People have peed in my bed. There's been all kinds. There's a lot of peeing in beds. What?

If you're the peer, right? Not the PE. You feel really bad about that. And then you'll say something about it. Like, even if you leave and don't say goodbye, you'll still text later and go, cause you have to call it out and go, sorry about that. Do you think you just, do you think he didn't know? Uh, I honestly, I have no idea, but I felt completely disrespected and I just, I'm, I can still smell it. I can still smell it. You gotta get a new mattress.

Yeah. Yeah. I'm going to. Okay. I'm still kind of, I'm shaking. I'm pissed off right now. That's disgusting. I'm sorry.

Well, I understand why you ghosted him now. It makes sense. You know, he might not be able to help you guys. So, you know. Yeah. Who knows? It could be an issue. Yeah.

Like a health issue. To not address it. Yeah, that's the weird part. Well, why don't we ask him, Jess? Let's do. Because Owen is on the phone listening and wants to talk to you. Hey, Jess.

Oh, my God. Guys, I can't believe this is happening right now sorry I can't only because I knew look I didn't pee the bad I spilled water on the way out like are you sure I'm pretty sure that it was just water

a cup of water so I know for a fact that when I rolled over that was not water. I don't know why you're lying to me and you're not even being a man. You keep backpedaling. What makes you think that this is okay? Any part of this.

Look, I didn't pee the bed. Did you pee the bed? No. How are you so sure it wasn't your own pee? Oh, my God. I can't believe you're trying to argue with me right now when I clearly know it was s*** because I could smell it. And how do you know it's my s*** if it's s***? How do you know it's not your own s***?

We both had a lot to drink. Because I don't pee the bed, Owen. I've never peed the bed. I don't pee the bed either. Well, someone peed the bed. Yeah, we got to get to the bottom of this. Okay, so one of've never peed the bed. I don't pee the bed either. Well, someone peed the bed. Yeah, we got to get to the bottom of this. Okay, so one of you guys peed the bed. We know that.

Well, we don't know that. Do you have a dog? Could someone have come in and peed the bed to try to frame Owen? No, it was Owen that peed the bed. Now, are we done? I didn't pee the bed. Okay, well, we're not quite done. Would you like to go on another date with Owen?

We'll pay for it. What do you guys think? No, thank you. I was thinking you might say yes, based on the fact that we still don't know who peed it. We know who peed the bed. It was Owen. And clearly, I can't and I will never be able to trust him

because he's lying right now. Sorry, Owen. I did not pee the bed. How do we know you're not lying, Owen? Still going. She has to get a new mattress. How do we know she's not lying? How do I know you didn't just pee your pants on this phone call? If she was a bedwetter, she would have a mattress cover.

How do we know she's not peeing right now? How do you know I'm not peeing right now? How do you know I'm not peeing right now? How do you know I'm not peeing right now? How do you know I'm not peeing right now? All of us might be peeing right now. It's not adding up. Somebody's peeing. And it's not me. The Jubal Show on demand. Ugh. We're so done with

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