First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Why is Drea getting ghosted by Carolina

Episode Date: March 13, 2025

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and she's getting ghosted from a date she went on with a woman named Carolina so we're gonna see if we can help figure it out for her and maybe get her another date if she still wants one In a second, but first Drea, how long has it been since you heard from Carolina? Um, it's been about a week now Okay Yeah, so I'm just really confused because we met at work and we've kind of been flirting like back and forth, you know, just kind of office romance, I guess.

That's fun. Until it isn't. Yeah, exactly. But she's really pretty. She has a great sense of humor and we've actually been having coffee like in the office break room and stuff and kind of getting to know each other. So it was, we kind of knew each other before going into the date. And so I finally got up the nerve to ask her out and I've been wanting to play pickleball because I've heard there's so much hype around it and I thought it would be fun.

Is that what you did for your date? Yeah, we went, we played, we played a couple of rounds of pickleball and then we had some drinks after we're at that bar. Okay. And I mean, as far as I'm concerned, the date was great. Like the conversation was wonderful. Like I said, she has a great personality. She's funny. She has The conversation was wonderful. Like I said, she has a great personality. She's funny. She has wonderful sense of humor. And we even shared a little kiss.

But yeah, the next day I was excited to like get to work and see her and she wasn't there. So I texted her cause I was like, Oh no, you know, I just wanted to make sure she was okay, maybe she was sick. I wanted to check in on her and she didn't answer me back. And so she hasn't been at work all week. She got fired? I don't know. I haven't heard anything. So I don't think so, but I've been reaching out to her and I'm actually like kind of worried because like, don't know if something happened or she's really sick. Or if I mean maybe I just don't know.

I thought we had a great date. I think you know now I'm just worried I did something. Do they have like a policy about dating other coworkers at your office? Only if you're like you can't like supervisors can't be hourly employees and things like that But if you're both hourly, then you can then you can be It's a free for all Does she usually show up to work every day like I mean is she the type of person that just calls out sick randomly sometimes Or um, no, she's actually pretty good with attendance. So which is why I'm so worried that she's

missed so much. Did anything weird happen on the date? Like, was there a moment where you felt like, I don't know? Um, I mean, not on my end. I thought everything went great. Like when we parted, we parted on great terms. And you know, we even said we were kind of even like, hey, see you at work. Ha ha ha. Like see you around the office. And just kind of made a little joke out of it. But I'd be worried too. Yeah. Have you asked around about her?

I asked a couple of people, but nobody really, and everybody just kind of says they haven't heard from her either. Especially a week, I feel like is a good amount of time to not be in the office. Right. Like, do you know where she lives? Do a drive Especially a week, I feel like, is a good amount of time to not be in the office. Right, like do you know where she lives? She should do a drive by. Or, maybe not. I mean, just know she's there and stuff. I don't know, it's an idea.

I did call her from a block number to see if she would answer, and she did answer, but I got a little nervous and just hung up. Oh no. Okay, so you know that she's answering her phone at least. Okay. Well good. She's alive. Yeah.

Yeah, she is alive so that's good. I guess now it's more so I'm worried that she's just avoiding me. We'll see if we can figure it out. We'll play a song, come back, and then we'll call her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you and maybe get you another date if you still want one, okay? Yeah, great. Thanks guys. Alright, we'll play a song, come back, get you another date if you still want one okay? Yeah great thanks guys.

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with a coworker named Carolina and doesn't know why. So we're about to call Carolina and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting and maybe get Dre another date if she still wants one. But first Dre, why don't you catch everybody up on your date with Carolina? Yeah, Carolina and I met at work. We've been kind of flirting back and forth and I finally got the nerve to ask her out

We went we played pickleball. We had drinks great conversation and Even a little kiss at the end. So I'm just Wondering why she's not returning my text or calls and she hasn't been to work for a week. Yeah, that's the alarming Yeah Worried, yeah, okay And she hasn't been to work for a week. Yeah, that's the alarming part. Yeah. Yeah. All right. That's where I'm worried. Yeah. Okay.

I'm gonna call her. Hello? Hi, may I speak to Carolina, please? Yes, this is Carolina. Carolina, how are you? My name is Jubal and I host a radio show and it's called The Jubal Show. Hi Carolina, the show's here too.

My name's Nina. Hi, and I'm Victoria. There's three of us on the phone with you right now. Hi. Okay, sorry. Three of you? Okay, what's going on? We do a segment on our show,

it's called The First Date Follow-Up. That's where if you go out on a date with somebody and end up ghosting them, that person can email us to get you on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them. So we got an email about you from somebody that you dated recently. Okay.

Any idea who it would be? Was it Dreya? Yes, it was. Dreya wants to know why you're ghosting her and why you haven't been to work. Okay, so I'll tell you about that. Okay, cool. I mean, if you don't mind. I mean, you are, you're gonna ask me about it. Okay. Yeah, that'd be great. Sorry. Appreciate it.

Yeah. Okay. But you know what? Fine. So I'm ghosting Dreia. You can tell her this because, you know, as we were leaving our date, somebody just didn't really sit right with me. It was a comment that she made. She's kind of like, oh, you know, it's gonna be amazing when my ex hears about made. She's kind of like, oh, you know, it's gonna be amazing when my ex hears about this. She's gonna lose her. And I just kind of looked at it like, oh, so this is some sort of competition.

Like to me, that's like, you know, listen, I'm getting older. I don't want to be a pawn in anyone's game. So I was hurt by that. I thought it was really uncalled for. And from there on out, I was hurt by that. I thought was really uncalled for and from there on out I was really uninterested. She was saying that going out with you was gonna make her ex angry Yeah, like basically like getting back with her like happiness is the best revenge like that's what I took from it with her saying that

So I ended up actually, um, I haven't been around her because I called out of work the next day First and foremost, I did not want to see Trey up But then he turned out universe works in mysterious ways and I really did come down with something. So I've actually been pretty sick this past week or so. But at the same time, like, yeah, I'm getting better but I just have no interest in being used to make someone jealous, you know what I mean?

Yeah. That's legit. I'm glad you're feeling better. Yeah, she seems like a cool girl. I gotta protect my heart, you know? I don't want to set myself up for something and be disappointed, get hurt. So we work together,

which makes it super awkward. I just think it's probably best if we can just avoid each other at work. I don't know how I'm gonna go about that once I do return to the office, but I'll figure that out. You think that she didn't really like you that much. She just wanted to make her ex jealous. Well, that's the thing.

Like I didn't see that coming that she gave me no signs of that. It was again, just at the very end of the day. She said that. So that was when I felt let down because I thought everything went well. I thought we had really good chemistry and everything. It's just tough to find. So yeah, it was a let down for sure. But now I just have to try and be smart about this whole thing, you know?

I mean, I get that protecting yourself is one thing, but did you ever think about calling her out and having a conversation about it maybe? You know, it was just the one date. So I kind of feel like, I don't know, I hope I'm not being cowardly, but I just kind of want to let it go. And I really am being a ghost or here, aren't I? But sometimes like it's better than to just get into a long, drawn out conversation. I don't know what she'll say. If I mentioned that comment that she made, I don't know if it'll backfire.

Well, let's see. Cause she's actually on the phone and she's been listening this whole time and she wants to talk to you. Oh my God. So, Andrea, you're there right now? Yeah. Yeah. I'm here, sorry. Sorry, I just got kind of, like, I just got really anxious all of a sudden.

Yeah, no, first of all, I am so sorry. Like, let me apologize for making that comment. Obviously, you don't know a lot about my past, and I didn't, it didn't come from a place of, Oh, ha ha, you're going to be how I get back at my ex and everything like that. Actually I had a, an amazing time with you, but my ex was kind of one of those who was kind of abusive and always made me feel small and like I wasn't good enough for anybody. And you're just,

all of a sudden this amazing, beautiful person who showed up. And it was just one of those things where it was, it was more of like a happy, like, Oh my God, wait till my ex sees this because haha, I finally like might actually be happy for once. And it wasn't to be petty or to use you as a pawn in a game or anything like that. It was just more of like a, I'm wow, I finally met somebody like really nice. And that I like, and might like me back. So I am so sorry for that comment if it hurt you.

Okay. Um, I would say right now, like I do appreciate the apology for sure. And you know, didn't think that's where you'd be coming from. Not really sure if I'm interested in taking this any further. Um, for me, uh, the biggest reason why is just kind of like the whole ex talk. I feel like this is a lot of talk about your act and like, I don't even like bringing up like half girlfriends or even guys I dated about nothing from the past, like early on. So I feel like this is a lot coming at me. Does that make sense?

You dated guys? Yes. I date people for sure. Yeah. Oh yeah. You didn't tell me that. So I didn't know that. So I don't mention, you know, because I'll keep your secrets for sure. So, you know, that's kind of, this is a lot. Yeah. Well you're getting onto me about like my ex, but you didn't even tell me about your exes. So it's just kind of,

it's just kind of odd to me. I wasn't really getting on too much about your ex. I think for me it was just more about like, Ooh, that seems like some game playing there. So. Yeah. Well I just, I mean, I guess like, I just kind of like to be upfront about things. I, you know, I don't really like to keep things from people even though early on in a relationship, you know, because when you're trying to get to know somebody, you're trying to get to know somebody.

Yeah, but like in time for sure. That is exactly what I'm trying to say. You just pretty much stated that there. You know, I just think it takes time to get to know one another. I don't need to know everything upfront. I guess I'm just kind of different on that end. I kind of like, you know. Yeah, I think we're different.

Carolina, would you like to go out with Dre again on another date? We'll pay for it. I think I've made myself pretty clear here. Again, I think she seems like a cool girl, but I just think, you know, she's, I'm not the one for her, you know? I know it's early on, but I can tell.

I can definitely tell that we're just not a match, but. Yeah, no, that's fine. I mean, I would still like to be friends because I think you're really cool girls, but I mean, I just, I'm not really interested either. Cause you know, like you want to hide things from me. So hopefully, you know, work friends. We'll leave it at that. Yeah. All right. Well, see you at work, Carolina. Have a good first day back after being sick.

Oh, thank you. I appreciate it. Jubel's first date follow-up. Ugh, we're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Geminis because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want.

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