First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Why is Jake ghosting Raquel?

Episode Date: February 20, 2025

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If you had a red polo, that's probably him and probably because he's very busy. Raquel, how long has it been since you heard from Jake? Oh gosh, it's been like a couple weeks. Okay, let's get into it. Tell us about the date. How did you guys meet? So we met at a bar that's also kind of known for their desserts. So my idea was like cocktail and cake, which I thought was really cute. Yeah. Yeah. I thought it was like a really fun way to get to know each other. And I mean, truth be told, we told we met online but like even online our banter was really great and so I was like super super happy to when I met him in person like he was so funny he was so so so so so funny so was

he funny online too yeah exactly like he was funny, but he was even funnier in person. That's good. I feel like that doesn't happen that often. I feel like some people are hilarious over text, but then they kind of get nervous when they're in person, you know? It really sucks. It doesn't make letdown because you show up and you're ready for a show. I'm like dinner and a show. Make me laugh. And then it's like, They don't do that. Can you just text with me then? Because you were hilarious when you were texting.

I'm glad he was good in person. I just keep bringing this back. Yeah, no, it was like a real pleasant surprise for sure. And the date was good? Yeah. And like we decided to share a slice of the triple chocolate cake. Like, or it was like triple chocolate truffle cake or something.

Ooh. But it was so good. And we each had martinis. So like, you know, it was really nice. This is a great date idea. I'm loving this date idea. I thought it was cute. How did the date end? You know, it ended pretty well. Like we were, he walked me to my car, he gave me a kiss on the cheek and he was like,

yeah, I'll get in touch with you. So you got a kiss on the cheek. Okay. And then never got in touch with you? I'll get in touch with you. So you got a kiss on the cheek. Okay, and then never got in touch with you. I Mean I basically texted him like a couple days later Like there was just one thing that happened on the date that was like a little strange Okay, so basically he Okay, we're talking I'm like asking him some cool questions, right? Like I'm getting to know him I'm him like, what's your astrological sign? You know, like I'm really into that stuff. Like, are you close

with your parents? Like blah, blah, blah. So like the usual stuff. And I did kind of notice that he was on his phone a lot, like towards the end of the date. So like that kind of was a little concerning to me. And then like at one point he excused himself, like after we have our martini and he said he had to go like all of a sudden. So it was like, Oh, okay. Weird. I mean, everything was going great until then. And it honestly happened so fast.

So he was like, Oh, I have to go. And I was like, Oh, okay. So like we paid the bill and I'm like, okay. So we walk out to my car, you know, he, he kisses me on the cheek. He's like, you know, I had fun, but I have to go. And I was like, okay, so we walk out to my car, you know, he, he kisses me on the cheek. He's like, you know, I had fun, but I have to go. And I was like, I hope everything's okay. And he just kind of like left. It was, it was very kind of strange.

The ending was strange. Well, yeah, I mean, it makes you feel like did something happen? What's the deal? Yeah. So like after that I did text him and I was just like, Hey, I hope everything's okay. And nothing. And it's been like, I don't know, it's been like 10 days or something, like almost two weeks. Well, I mean, I would just wonder if you have some, I would be kind of nervous. Like, is this person all right?

Exactly. Yeah. So your family emergency? Maybe that's what I'm thinking. Or I was like, maybe he just didn't like the idea of like the cocktails and cake. Like I thought it was really cute, where I was like maybe he just didn't like the idea of like the cocktails and cake like I thought it was really cute but I was like the only thing like maybe he just didn't like my judgment and like the place but I think that that might not be it that sounds like a fine date unless he's really against cake or cocktails. I mean in that case that's a red flag for you. Or like maybe I ate too much of the cake I don't know. And then that's also a red flag for you. Or like maybe I ate too much of the cake?

I don't know. And then that's also a red flag for you. Yeah. Because if he's caring about how much cake you eat, but we'll figure it out. We'll play a song, come back and then call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you and maybe get you another date if you still want one, okay?

Yeah, because I really want one. Okay, get your first date follow up next. We're so done with New Year, new you. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding demon eyes because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want.

And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. First date follow-up. Powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys. Online at AdvocatesLaw.com. If you're just joining us for today's first date follow-up, Raquel is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Jake. So we're about to see if we can get him on the phone and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her another date if she's still interested after she hears why but before we call him Raquel why don't you catch everybody up on the

situation with Jake okay so basically we met online we decided to get to this really cute place it was like a cocktail and dessert type place. Like get some cake, get some cocktails and everything was going great. Really great conversation. And then, you know, kind of halfway through the date, he was like, kind of got a little strange. Like he basically said that he had to go to the bathroom. And when he came back, he was like, Oh, I have to leave like kind of all of a sudden. And I was like, Oh, okay. Um, that's strange. Cause the banter was really good. And then he walked me to my car. He kissed me on the cheek and then, you know, kind of just like rushed out.

And I texted him being like, I hope everything's okay. And no response. And that was like 10 days ago. Okay. Well, we'll see if we can help you out. We're going to call him right now and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you and see if you want another date, okay? Ready?

Yes, thank you. All right, here we go. Hello? Hello? Hi, may I speak to Jake please? Who's Jake? Jake, how are you? My name is Jubal and I host a radio show and it's named The Jubal Show. Hi Jake.

I'm jumping right in. Jubal's not by himself. My name is Nina. I'm also on the show. Yes, she is. And I'm Victoria. She's also on the show. Okay.

What's up, Jake? How's it going? Oh. I'm doing fine. Why are you guys calling from a radio station? We do a segment on our show called the first date follow up. That's where if you go out on a date with somebody and then you end up ghosting them, they can email us to get you on the phone and find out why. And we got an email about you from someone, Jake.

Uh huh. And would you like to take a guess at who that person is? Yeah, I'm pretty sure I know who it is. Oh. Is Raquel. It is Raquel. Yes. So Raquel told us

about your date. She said she really liked you, but she can't figure out why you're ghosting her. So that's why we're here. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, look, you know, look, first of all, Raquel is super hot. I thought the cake

and cocktails idea was like super cute. But like it felt like a job interview, you know, like it felt like she was asking all these questions. And like sometimes like before, you would have a chance to finish

the answer. It was like it was like she was trying to see if I fit her template of like the perfect guy template You know and it was like it literally felt like a job interview. It was like, you know, what are your strengths and weaknesses? Asking about my family to like she asked about the relationship with my mom like I was like I just met you 20 minutes ago so it just like I get that girls want to know that stuff but on the first date like and then I mean asking about my astrological sign that's fine but it just I was like it just felt like it was coming on too strong like it I was just kind of like you know

I in my mind I was like have more game you know have more game. Damn. I was like, have more game, you know, have more game. Damn. I was just trying to get to know you. Jake, that's Raquel. She was on the phone listening. She's on the phone listening and wants to talk to you. Oh, hey Raquel, sorry. I didn't realize you were on the phone. That part, sorry. No, that's okay.

I'm just like, you know, I was disappointed because I really, I felt like we had such great banter and I'm like, I'm just like, you know, I was disappointed because I really, I felt like we had such great banter and I'm like, I'm just like interested in you and I just, I was interested in those things. And I just think, you know, it was a good conversation. They're like, they're like conversation starters, you know? And I mean, I'm so sorry that it turned you off. I can certainly, you know, tone it down and the hot next time. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, um, no, I get like dating is awkward.

It's like an awkward thing to do. It's kind of weird. So I mean, I, I feel that. But yeah, I mean, I'm sorry that I didn't respond. I just was kind of like, honestly, I didn't think I was really interested again. But you know, I mean, yeah, that's kind of how I was feeling. That's why I didn't respond. Jake, can I ask you what types of questions make you feel comfortable?

Because I don't know about you guys, but I don't like to waste my time with like, Oh, look at the chandelier. It's so beautiful. I'd rather know about you. Yeah. Although I probably would talk about it, but deeper conversations are more meaningful than the surface level. Like how's the weather? Like, so what kind of questions?

I totally agree. I totally agree. I think it's, I think it's less, maybe it's less the questions. I mean, some of the questions were a little bit much, but like it's more like the style and the like, it just felt like she was reciting a list. It was like, okay, so that's about your job. So tell me about your mom. Okay. Well then tell me about like, what's your sign? It was like, as if that's what I mean. Like it wasn't so much like those are, those are totally valid questions to ask. It just was like, it felt like I was like a candidate to be her husband. Huh?

Technically isn't everybody until you're not. I'm sorry. That's just how I view the world. Okay. Raquel, were you nervous? I mean, yeah, I was nervous and excited, you know, and I think when I get excited, I just like, you know, kind of like get a little bit fiery. And so I definitely need to work on my delivery, which I am really willing to do Jake, because I think we really hit it off and I would really love to see you again.

Yeah, I mean, I'm open to it. Like I feel like, again, like it's, honestly it's my bad, like I should've communicated that to you perhaps, but you know how dating is, like sometimes it's just easier to like move on. But you seem like a nice person and I'm glad that we had this opportunity to clear this up Jake since you seem since you think Raquel seems like a nice person Would you like to try again and go out another day with Raquel we'll pay for it I

Would I would I'm down? Congratulations Raquel Good luck. Don't be self-conscious. You still do whatever you need to do on the stage. Be yourself. Thank you guys. Jake, you be yourself as well.

I think you do. I will, yes I will. And I'm gonna be somebody different. I'll see you on your date though. I'm gonna be somebody weird. Look behind the bushes. Yeah, that'll be me. Jugal's first daily follow-up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorney, online at advocateslaw.com.

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