First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Why is Luke ghosting Hannah?

Episode Date: March 14, 2025

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She's getting ghosted by a dude named Luke. So in a few minutes, we're going to call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her. But first, Hannah, how long has it been since you heard from Luke? It's been about a week. I texted him a couple of times, but nothing just radio silence. Really? So did you feel like you were going to hear from him? Was the date good?

No, no, it's so weird because he was texting me right after the date. Like that was fun. We should do it again. And now poof, absolutely nothing. Why don't you tell us about the date? Oh, okay. So here's the deal. We went out for sushi, which I love. I thought it was

a super solid start. He even let me pick out the restaurant, which was cool. I didn't think that a guy who doesn't like raw fish would suggest sushi, but cool. We ended up ordering way too much food. It was kind of a mess. We were both just like cracking jokes about it. Especially when he nearly fell on a piece of sashimi across the table trying to use the chopsticks. Yeah, it was cute. So afterwards we went for a walk, which was really sweet. This chill, low key and it just felt like we were on the same wavelength, you know?

Yeah, flinging sushi and, you know, sweet conversation. So why do you think you're getting ghosted then? Oh man, honestly, I don't know, because I thought it went really, really great. There was just like something about it, I mean, it's so funny, but maybe I messed up when I paid for dinner behind his back, but Bill was just way more than we expected.

And I had ordered a really fancy sake and a Wagyu appetizer without even thinking about it. And I felt bad. So when he got up to use the bathroom, I just went ahead and paid for the whole thing. So when he came back, I told him it wasn't a big deal. I'd marry you. That doesn't sound like a reason to ghost you at all. Right? I mean, I go Florida and, but he seemed like kind of irritated.

He kept saying, you know, I could have paid for that. And I tried to explain that it didn't mean anything. I just felt guilty for ordering the expensive stuff like unconsciously. But maybe he thought that I was implying that he couldn't afford it or something. I didn't really mean it like that. I was just trying to do something nice, but now I'm wondering if it like came off totally wrong. Well, did he say thank you? Did like aside from the fact that he's like, I could pay for it too was he appreciative

of it? Yeah, no he did. It just like it just like shifted the divide like a little bit but like not enough to like we still were planning on hanging out again. We both had talked about how it was fun so I don't know. Maybe it's one of those weird old school type of things you know where it feels like a guy's got to pay or something. Or maybe he didn't even have the option because you did it behind his back too.

For whatever reason again, like Jubal said, I would marry you. Right? I mean, a girl who can take care of herself, what's there not to like? Right. You need to date a new school dude who will use you for everything you're worth. Jubal. Phrased differently. You looking for a pool cleaner?

All right, well, we'll see if we can figure it out for you. We'll play a song, come back and then call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you and maybe get you another date, okay? Okay, thank you. All right, we'll play a song, come back and get your first date follow up next. Ugh, we're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists,

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But first, Hannah, why don't you refresh our memory on your date? Okay, we went out for the super fun sushi date but I ended up paying at the end because I thought I'd ordered two expensive things so I'm worried if that's why he disappeared. Okay. I mean, I don't know. I could see some guy being like, I don't want to go out with you again because you wouldn't let me pay. I could actually see that happening.

Because he's probably like, if he's thinking like, okay, well, what do I have to bring to the table or like somehow feeling bad about it? I don't know. We'll see. Ready for us to call him? Oh, here we go. Okay. Here we go. Hello. Hi, may I speak to Luke, please? Hey, Luke, how are you?

This is the Jubal show. It's a radio show. Hi, I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria. And my name is Jubal. What's up? How are you? I'm sorry.

Is this like, is thisal. What's up? How are you? I'm sorry. Is this like it's like a prank or something No, it's not actually we're calling you for a different reason. Have you ever listened to the show before? Yeah, yeah, I just I didn't expect you to call me Okay. Well, we're calling you today because you're ghosting somebody and we do a segment on the show called The First Date Follow-Up, you know where if you go on a date with someone and then you end up ghosting them,

that person can email us to ask you why you're ghosting them. So do you know who would have emailed us about you? I am guessing this is about Hannah, right? Yes. You got it correct. Congratulations. You've won nothing so far.

Are you ghosting her? I'm not like ghosting her intentionally. I don't know. The date was super fun. She's super cool. But it was, honestly, it was just something that happened after. Okay, so you are ghosting her intentionally.

Wait, she said she texted you and you didn't call her back, so. Yeah, so yeah, here's the deal. Okay, but why? Why? Yeah. So the deal is, so you know after, after our date, it was really good. And my buddy Andrew, so I was telling him about it and, you know, staying, so she paid for the meal and I, you know, behind my back and I don't know, I just thought it was kind of weird.

So I'm telling him about it and he asked me to see a picture of her and I showed him a picture and he just started cracking up and it turns out that he went out with Hannah too. Oh, okay. You don't want to go with her because of that? No, no, no, no, no, no. It's not, it's not only that. It was that she did like the same exact thing with him. They went to like a steakhouse and got all like this expensive stuff and like behind

his back she paid without telling him. And then he was saying that like happened a bunch of times and he said in his words that by the end he felt like she was treating him like some sort of boy toy that she could like, you know, control with her money. Oh, okay. And you don't want to be a boy toy. No. Is that what she's doing though?

Or is that just, I mean, I don't know. I think it's like nice that she wants to treat you. Maybe not every single time, but do you think that she was making you feel like a boy toy at all, Luke, when you were out with her? I mean, I'm not going to like jump to that conclusion, but it just like, it felt weird, you know, like it felt really weird. Oh, wow. So because I'm too generous, I'm getting ghosted.

Hannah's on the phone listening and wants to talk to you. Ah, oh, Hannah. Hey, how are you doing? Oh, hi, Luke. I'm sorry, I didn't realize I was making you feel like my personal sugar baby. Seriously, Luke? I obviously had no idea that Andrew was your friend. Also, Andrew seemed like super okay with the fact that I was paying for a lot of things. I have a nice job. He seems grateful. This is news to me. I mean, yeah, I mean, that's, that's Andrew. Of course you're buying

something, but it just like sounded like a pattern and I don't know, I didn't want to get wrapped up in this whole like you're paying for everything and I'm just along for the ride thing. I mean, that's not it at all. I'm just, you know, trying to not seem like a money grubbing woman myself. I have a nice job. So I wanted to get what I wanted to get without feeling guilty.

So what? Isn't that a nice thing that I can take care of myself? Yeah, but I mean, like, you know, I can take care of myself too. And it just, it feels weird that you're just paying for everything. I don't know, it just feels really weird. And I don't, I don't know. It just like you doing behind my back.

Cool game. Well, that's fine. I'll find somebody who's hot and proud to be with a woman who can also take care of them. But wait, Hannah, what is it about paying for your men every time you go out with them? That's like so important to you. Like, what is it about paying behind their back and like doing it every time that you like? I'm not doing it every time. I just don't want to feel like I'm beholden to a man because I want really nice things and I'm not expecting anybody to pay for that when they don't really know me yet, you know? But you know, honestly you're

You know, but you know, I mean, this is so weird that you're thinking I'm going to be beholden. I don't. Yeah, honestly, you're just missing out. You didn't even get to the part where I buy you clothes yet. You know, I want like a man, I want a man who adores me and it's secure enough to, you know, be okay with that. I mean, I could buy my own clothes. That's the thing. could buy my own clothes. That's insane.

I buy my own clothes. It makes me sound like I can't do this. Well, I mean, you could really, really use a stylist and some new clothes because man, that outfit was not really impressed me. But I'm done trying to impress someone who gets scared off by a little generosity. Well, Luke, would you like another date with Hannah? We'll pay for it. I don't even need it. That's true. We shouldn't pay for it.

I don't think I could, you know, I guess survive a whole wardrobe overhaul, you know, to refer to pretty woman me. So I don't think so. All right. Well, no hard feelings though. Good luck finding someone who won't spoil you too much. Okay, baby boy. Oh, thank you. Oh. Jubal's first date follow-up.

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And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Have you ever wondered if your pet is lying to you? Why is my cat not here? will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. understand the universe. Well, we have answers for you in the new iHeart original podcast, Signing Stuff. Join me or Hitcham as we answer questions about animals, space, our brains, and our bodies. So give yourself permission to be a science geek and listen to Signing Stuff on the iHeart video app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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the math, and the ever important creative spark, the magic. Listen to Math and Magic, stories from the frontiers of marketing on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hey, it's Amartines. The news can feel like a lot on any given day, but you can't just ignore las noticias when important world-changing events are happening. That is where the Up First podcast comes in. Every single morning in under 15 minutes, we take the news and boil it down to three essential

stories so you can keep up without feeling stressed out. Listen Up First from NPR on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcasts.