First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show - Why is Nate ghosting Kelsey?

Episode Date: April 7, 2025

Kelsey hasn't heard from Nate in a week. They went on a first date, she only texted twice, but she's a bit shocked cause the date was SOOOO goood. She even sent compliments for his breakfast sandwich making skills. Let's see if we can help her figure this out. Ever been ghosted after what you thought was an amazing date? Do you REALLY want that Second Date? The Jubal Show has your back! On First Date Follow Up, we track down the person who disappeared to get the real reason why. Awkward, hilarious, and sometimes downright shocking—First Date Follow Up delivers the truth, whether you want to hear it or not. Will there be a second date or just secondhand embarrassment? Subscribe to The Jubal Show's First Date Follow Up and find out! ➡︎ Get on The Jubal Show with your story - https://thejubalshow.com This is just a tiny piece of The Jubal Show. You can find every podcast we have, including the full show every weekday right here…➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com/podcasts The Jubal Show is everywhere, and also these places: Website ➡︎ https://thejubalshow.com  Instagram ➡︎ https://instagram.com/thejubalshow  X/Twitter ➡︎ https://twitter.com/thejubalshow  Tiktok ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@the.jubal.show Facebook ➡︎ https://facebook.com/thejubalshow  YouTube ➡︎ https://www.youtube.com/@JubalFresh Support the show: https://the-jubal-show.beehiiv.com/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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First date of follow-up. Powered by the advocates injury attorneys. Online at advocateslaw.com. Kelsey is on the phone today for our first date follow up and she's getting ghosted by Nate. So in a few minutes, we'll call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her a second date. But first Kelsey, how long has it been

since you heard from Nate? Hey, it's been about a week. Okay. Okay. Not too long. No, so in that time though, how many times have you tried to hit him up? Oh.

I have texted twice. Okay. That's not bad. No, it's that time though, how many times have you tried to hit him up? Oh, I have texted twice Okay, that's not bad. No, it's not too bad What did you say to him in the last text you sent Well the last text I said, I mean I this kind of relates to like, you know what happened on the date So it wasn't out of the blue, but I complimented, he made me a breakfast sandwich. So I like told him that I was thinking about how good it was.

That sounds amazing. Well, that sounds like the date got great. Yeah. Yeah, it did. Okay, tell us about it. Okay, so it was like a little bit different than a lot of other dates I've been on. We met at a bar when I was out with some friends of mine celebrating and we just like kind

of were in the corner chatting a lot and we just like really clicked. There was instant chemistry and you know, I was, I was focusing on my friends and I wasn't really looking for anything, but I just couldn't stop talking to this guy. So after some drinks, we ended up going back to his place and yeah, you know, I ate a breakfast sandwich. So, you know, it happened. Yeah. Yeah. I truly thought it was just going to be a one night stand and like that was fine. But then in the morning when I got up to leave, he grabbed my hand and he asked me to stay. Oh, yeah.

I know. So yeah, that's weird that you're getting ghosted then. Thank you. I, you know, he said it was like, you know, I know this is kind of backwards, but could we have a breakfast date right now in my house? And he handed me, right? He handed me this like T-shirt of his and told me to freshen up and get ready.

And he would make breakfast. And I mean, it literally felt like I was in a rom-com. Which is great. Yeah. So I walked into the kitchen. He had like coffee and juice out. He was making me that breakfast sandwich. He wasn't wearing a shirt. He was just wearing shorts and it was literally, I know it was like, I was like looking into my future. It was so romantic

and I was just like melting. Oh my gosh. I'd be blowing his phone up too, bro. Where did you go? How long did you stay there? Well, we spent the whole day together. Like breakfast went to snacks and bed and we were watching movies and then it turned into having dinner together. Yeah. It really felt like we'd known each other forever. It's like a full 24 hours. That's a lie. Yeah.

Yes. Is there anything you can think of that would be a reason that he's ghosting you? No, I'm really cracking my brain because I feel crazy, but everything seemed perfect. I truly can't figure it out. I mean, the only thing that I could maybe think of is I don't know if he thought I overstayed my welcome. Like after breakfast, he didn't say that he wanted me to stay, but it really felt like he did.

And the more I thought about it, I started to wonder if maybe he was just being nice. I mean, I feel like if you wanted to leave, he could have been like, Oh, I gotta go run errands. Like who's nice seeing you. That is always awkward. I never knew how to tell people to leave. I just go, I got stuff to do. You can hang out if you want. Most of the time they say no. One time they said yes. And I'm like, that backfired. Did he give you that

option? Did he say you could stay if you want anything like that? No, he just like kept on offering other things we could do. You know, like breakfast for chatting and yeah, we were watching a movie and then he said, do you have like popcorn and just like one thing kept leading to another. But maybe I misread it? I don't know, I didn't have to leave before. I had to do something, you know?

I've been in that situation. All right, well we'll figure it out for you. We'll play a song, come back, and then call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you and maybe get you a second date, okay? Okay, thank you. All right, we'll get your first date follow up next. We live in a divided country.

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So we're about to call him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her. But first, Kelsey, just break down your date for us real quick one more time. Yeah, so I had like a casual run-in with a guy to borrow with my friends. We spent the night together. One thing led to another,

and I was gonna leave in the morning, but he offered to make me breakfast. It made me this beautiful breakfast, and we ended up spending like almost 24 hours together and having this incredible day. And now I've texted him twice and he has not texted me back. It has been a full week. Yeah. Okay. Here we go. Hello. Hi. May I speak to Nate, please? This is him. Nate, how are you?

This is the Jubel Show. It's a radio show. Hi, Nate. I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria. And my name is Jubel. How are you? Hello.

I'm okay. How are you guys? Good. Have you ever listened to the show before? I think I have heard of it. I've heard of it. I've heard of it. I've heard of it.

I've heard of it. I've heard of it. I've heard of it. How are you? Hello, I'm okay. How are you guys? Good. Have you ever listened to the show before? I think I have heard you guys before, yeah. Oh, sweet. All right, cool. Well, guess what, Nate? Somebody emailed us about you. Okay. We do a segment on our show and it's called the first date follow up.

So that's wherever you go on a date with somebody and then you ghost them. That person can email us to give you a call and ask why you're ghosting them so somebody that you're ghosting email us. Got it yeah I think I have an idea who that might be. Okay. Who do you think it is? Um is it Kelsey by chance? Yes it is. Kelsey. She told us all about your date. It sounded awesome. Oh my gosh. By the way, breakfast and everything. Yeah. Uh, it was kind of an awesome day. Date slash breakfast date. Yeah. Tell us why you're ghosting her. Yeah, I kind of look. Kelsey's awesome. She really is. I wasn't faking anything. She's funny,

beautiful, really smart, easy to talk to. But the thing is that I've been kind of going through a whole bunch of stuff lately. So yeah. Oh, I'm sorry. Okay. If you don't mind sharing, like what kind of stuff? Yeah, that's okay. Um, so I lost my job recently and I'm having to make plans to move back in with my parents to save money. So yeah, that's kind of going on right now. I feel like a giant loser. So yeah, basically didn't think I was in a position to date someone like her with the financial mess that I'm in right now. Okay. So you didn't ghost her because you didn't like her, you ghosted her because?

You like her. Yeah, I guess. Yeah, definitely I like her a lot. I don't know, it's just a weird conversation. Like I don't know how to really approach that subject. Hey, nice to meet you, I got fired and I have to go sleep in my childhood bedroom again. That was perfect.

That could be kinda fun. I think the way you said that was perfect. I've been there, honestly, but sometimes you have to give people an opportunity to show you who they are, you know? I mean, I know that it's kind of uncomfortable, especially since you just met her, but it sounds like you guys had an amazing time and connection. I just feel like, you know, a conversation could have or could be worth it for you. You're probably right. Everything's just kind of happening all at once.

So it's a lot. It's a little heavy. That's all. It just feels heavy. Okay. Well, the conversation could happen cause she's actually on the phone and wants to talk to you. Okay. All right. Hey.

Hello. Hi Chelsea. I'm so confused. Hi, you're ghosting me because you lost your job? Like you didn't think I could handle that? I, it's not that I don't think you can handle it. It's more just I don't want to drag you into my problems right now. You know, we just met.

I'm not some delicate flower, Nate. I'm the kind of woman who stands up for her guy and like helps him get back on his feet. You should have told me. That's really sweet of you to say that. And I don't even know if I need outside help yet. Kelsey, I'm still kind of like figuring it all out. Like I said, it just happened. And I know I'm a catch. I still like myself. It's not like that. But I, yeah, I didn't think you'd want to date me. You know, you like nice things. You deserve nice things. Fine, then you'll give me all of that when you're back on your feet, I guess. Okay. Well, yeah, I just don't want to feel pressured like while I'm trying to get stuff

together. I just need a genuine reset right now. So as long as you know that's what's going on. That's fair. Yeah. I'll meet you where you are. Kelsey, you're okay with this situation? Yeah. Yeah. He's okay with this situation? Yeah. Yeah, he's a human being. Life happens.

For sure. But do you think that puts pressure on a new relationship in the beginning? I guess so. But I think also if, you know, this went anywhere and it is early, it would make us really strong together to have gone through this so early on. Good point. Call me a hopeless romantic, but that's how I feel about it. Nate, you think your mom would like Kelsey? Uh, yeah, I definitely think so. I mean, everything she's saying is incredibly sweet and understanding.

So I didn't know you would take it like that, to be honest with you. That's incredibly sweet. I feel like you underestimated me a little bit. I guess I did. I guess I did. I think I did. Well, Nate, would you like to go on another date with Kelsey? We'll pay for it, because we probably have to. Nope. Jubal.

Oh, I did. It happens to everybody. At least you can laugh at it. It's the way. It happens to everybody. You'll get back on your feet. That was, that was really funny. Um, yes. Yeah. I do want to go on a second date, but let's just try to take it slow though. Um, I don't want to feel like I have to fix everything, you know, right away, but yeah. Thank you guys. Congratulations, Kelsey. You got another

date and Nate, congratulations to you too. Thank you guys. I'm excited to see you. Yeah, me too. But just know that from now on if we do stuff it has to be at your place because my mom will get pretty mad. Yeah, we can do that. Jubel's First Day Follow-Up Have you ever wondered if your pet is lying to you? Why is my cat not here? And I go in and she's eating my lunch. Or if hypnotism is real?

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And innovators like Jenny Nguyen. I would say 50% of the people that come visit the Sportsbra aren't sports fans. They come to be in community. They come to be part of this culture. Courtside with Laura Karenty is an iHeart Women's Sports production in partnership with Deep Blue Sports and Entertainment. Listen to Courtside with Laura Karenty on the iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts,

or wherever you get your podcasts. Presented by Elf Beauty, founding partner of iHeart Women's Sports. Are your money skills total trash? Well, trust me, you are not alone. Personal finance ignorance is as American as apple pie, but you can improve. Think, Matt, if your emergency fund was invested, especially given the volatility we're experiencing right now.

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