Follow Him: A Come, Follow Me Podcast - Mormon 1-6 Part 1 • Dr. Larry Nelson • October 28-November 3 • Come Follow Me

Episode Date: October 23, 2024

Join Dr. Larry Nelson as he uncovers the timeless insights of Mormon. Explore how environments, DNA, and personal choices shape our attitudes and faithfulness today. Discover what Mormon’s writings reveal about our modern-day challenges and triumphs as Latter-day Saints. Don’t miss this eye-opening journey into faith that connects the past with the present!SHOW NOTES/TRANSCRIPTSEnglish: https://tinyurl.com/podcastBM44ENFrench: https://tinyurl.com/podcastBM44FRGerman: https://tinyurl.com/podcastBM44DEPortuguese: https://tinyurl.com/podcastBM44PTSpanish: https://tinyurl.com/podcastBM44ESYOUTUBEhttps://youtu.be/B8d8Zj-OnsIALL EPISODES/SHOW NOTESfollowHIM website: https://www.followHIMpodcast.comFREE PDF DOWNLOADS OF followHIM QUOTE BOOKSNew Testament: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastNTBookOld Testament: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastOTBookWEEKLY NEWSLETTERhttps://tinyurl.com/followHIMnewsletterSOCIAL MEDIAInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/followHIMpodcastFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/followhimpodcastTIMECODE00:00 Part I - Dr. Larry Nelson02:53 Bio of Dr. Larry Nelson05:23 Come, Follow Me Manual introduction09:06 Nature vs nurture12:03 “Giving Children Love, Limits, and Latitude” by Dr. Nelson16:41 1 Nephi 1:16, 1 Nephi 2:16 - Nephi’s development20:07 Physical stature affects development23:47 A sober child, quick to observe28:43 Social withdrawal, introversion, and shyness35:46 The Lord needs each individual37:04 Mormon and a Father-son relationship41:18 Mormon “Let God prevail”46:02 Mormon 1-Mormon 2:15 - How Mormon’s life affected his writing49:12 Mormon teaches how to protect families51:41 Mormon 3:1-16 - Bad battle strategies54:32 Mormon 4:10-21 - Nephites fighting in anger and revenge57:34 Mormon 5:1-2 - The connection between spiritual and temporal1:01:10 Mormon 7:1-4 - Why Mormon addresses modern Saints about violence1:05:41 Moses 5-6: Satan rejoices and the Lord weeps01:09:39  End of Part 1 - Dr. Larry NelsonThanks to the followHIM team:Steve & Shannon Sorensen: Cofounder, Executive Producer, SponsorDavid & Verla Sorensen: SponsorsDr. Hank Smith: Co-hostJohn Bytheway: Co-hostDavid Perry: ProducerKyle Nelson: Marketing, SponsorLisa Spice: Client Relations, Editor, Show NotesJamie Neilson: Social Media, Graphic DesignWill Stoughton: Video EditorKrystal Roberts: Translation Team, English & French Transcripts, WebsiteAriel Cuadra: Spanish Transcripts"Let Zion in Her Beauty Rise" by Marshall McDonaldhttps://www.marshallmcdonaldmusic.com

Hello, everyone. Welcome to another episode of Follow Him. My name is Hank Smith and I am your host. I'm here with my co-host, John, by the way, who is a sober co-host and quick to observe. John, I was reading in the Book of Mormon, in the Book of Mormon, and that verse stood out to me. I perceive that thou art a sober co-host and quick to observe. Now, John, when you think of the Book of Mormon in the Book of Mormon, what comes to mind? Oh, I think of children who have to grow up too fast. I think of Mormon who saw unspeakable things and doesn't even want to tell us about it. It was so bad. And then those things that you just said, talking about you're going to need to be

quick to observe because you're going to be a historian and a abridger. That's what I think of. It was a while, John, before I realized that we learn about Mormon all the way through this book. This isn't the first time we're actually going, oh, who is this guy? He has been speaking to us for so long. And now we finally get to hear about his life, his story. And to help us out today, John, we have Dr. Larry Nelson here. Dr. Nelson joined us last year in Corinthians. Larry, we're happy to have you back. Tell us what we're going to do today. Well, I'm excited after hundreds of pages in the Book of Mormon covering the hundreds of years that we finally get to really meet the man who has abridged this book who we've heard little snippets from. I'm so excited to learn about him, maybe what

shaped his early years that made him pay attention to certain things and affected what he chose to include in his abridgment and then digging a little bit to what he really wanted us to take from what he wrote. And he says that in his own words and I'm excited to look at that. I've come to appreciate Mormon a lot more as I continue to read. One thing I did as a reader is I didn't understand that when we get Mormon for the first time it's in the words of Mormon and we don't know who he is but he thinks we know who he is. He says, I Mormon I'm gonna give this record that I've been making to my son Moroni and

you're going, who are you? I've read from Nephi and Jacob I I don't know who you are. So you really don't know who he is if you're a first-time reader until you get here. He's been telling you stories. He's been walking through war chapters. He's been walking through the visit of Christ. And he's such a good narrator, you kind of forget that he's even there. You say, oh yeah, you've been talking this entire time. You're the one helping me draw lessons out of this. John, like I said, Larry joined us last year for Corinthians, but those who are new may not know who he is. Can you give us a brief bio?

Yes, we're so happy to have Dr. Larry Nelson back with us. He's a professor of human development in the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University. He has a master's degree in family sciences at BYU and a PhD in human development from the University of Maryland. Now my favorite part of his bio, Hank, he studies factors that lead to flourishing or floundering in the transition to adulthood. And I'm not sure if I flourished or floundered or flubbed, so I'm in there somewhere. He served his mission in Zurich, Switzerland.

I've always wanted to ask somebody this. If you had Swiss chocolate there, could you ever go back to American chocolate after that? No. In fact, I use that as an example of the law of opposition that we need to sickness and health, pleasure and pain, Swiss chocolate and everything else. So yeah, exactly. Oh, that's great. Right now, Larry is serving as a pre-scorum specialist in his home ward in Pleasant Grove. Yuta has been married for 33 years to Kimberly.

They have three children and two grandsons, and we're really happy to have you back. Thanks for coming back. Thanks. Thanks for having me. Larry, before we begin, tell us about this book you've been working on. I've had the opportunity with a wonderful colleague, Dr. Sarah Coyne. We've edited a book that will be used as a textbook in a course in our department, Strengthening Marriage and Families.

Incredible colleagues, scholars have written chapters on various aspects of family life, dating, marriage, equal partnership, and so many more. Just received word it'll be published by BYU studies. Really happy with how it turned out. While it's geared towards college students and the course that they're taking, we definitely hope that there are principles that maybe have help to anybody who's able to read it. Wonderful. And it's not quite available yet to the general public, but it will be. Yes. We'll keep our eye out for it.

Larry's one of the best. He's beloved at Brigham Young University. Larry, let me read from the Come Follow Me manual and then I'm excited to see where you want to go here. I remember as I was looking at this lesson, I see we start with Mormon at 10 years old all the way through the end of his life and that's your expertise. I remember talking last year the idea of the whole human life. What'd you call it? Womb to tomb. I think you said that's what you study. Here's the manual. Mormon spared us the full account of the awful scene of the wickedness and bloodshed that he saw among the Nephites. But what he did record in these chapters is enough to remind us how far people who were once righteous can fall. Amid such pervasive wickedness, no one can blame Mormon for becoming weary and discouraged.

Yet through all that he saw and experienced, he never lost his sense of God's great mercy in his conviction that repentance is the way to receive it. And although Mormon's own people rejected his pleading invitations to repent, he knew he had a larger audience. Behold, he declared, I write unto all the ends of the earth. In other words, he wrote to you and to me. And his message today to you and me

is the same message that could have saved the Nephites in their day. Believe the gospel of Jesus Christ, repent and prepare to stand before the judgment seat of Christ. What a beautiful opener to the man behind the curtain who's been telling us all these stories. We finally get to meet him. What do you want to do today, Larry? How do you want to start this? Well, if I could, I know that you often ask your guests at the end for them to express their feelings about the Book of Mormon or profit in the Book of Mormon that they may be discussing or whatever. So I apologize for stealing your thunder, but I have to start the discussion of the Lower B Book of Mormon

by letting everybody know how I feel about Mormon. He's my hero. He's my hero of the Book of Mormon. Several years ago, I was really, really distressed about how things were going in our society, the political climate of the United States and the world is depressing and dark. It was really weighing on me. In that state, I read these very chapters that we'll be studying, and I was struck by the fact that Mormon was this incredible person who held beliefs that we are told his entire civilization had turned away from. They

didn't believe anymore what Mormon believed, and yet they respected him. They trusted him. They wanted him to be their leader. They followed him. I wanted so badly to learn how to remain faithful and get along with those who don't believe what I believe, to not only endure, but to be able to love and serve those who I don't agree with. How Mormon did what he did in the face of what was happening around him is astounding to me.

It was in that moment when I needed it and it still is. He's my hero. I appreciate so much this opportunity to discuss his life and his messages for us. Thank you for that. I don't know if there's anybody listening who lives in perilous times full of wickedness or dark and depressing things. There may be someone out there. This book really was written for us. It really was. I know often you have experts on in a wide range of areas. I'm a little different in that I study, as you noted, human development. I mentioned last year that I believe the study of human development is the most important

thing we can study because that's what our Heavenly Father's work and glory is, to bring to past immortality and eternal life, which is the development of His children. Just as kittens grow up to be cats and puppies grow up to be dogs, children of heavenly parents, as we're taught in the family proclamation, have the divine potential to grow up to be like them. I want to focus on that process of development and mortality, focusing especially on Mormon's development, but how it may help us to read the Book of Mormon through the lens of development. I'm sure many, if not most, have heard the terms nature and nurture as that applies to children growing up. Nature refers to the physical body that we're born with, its genetics, but also its autonomic nervous system,

the hormones firing of neurons in the brain, and so much more that make up these incredible bodies that we have. Nurture refers to the impact that our environments have on who we are becoming, our families, our friends, the culture that we're born into, the country that we live in. When I say nature and nurture though, sometimes we have an incorrect understanding of these.

What do I mean by that? When I introduced nature and nurture though, sometimes we have an incorrect understanding of these. What do I mean by that? When I introduce nature and nurture in my human development class, I ask students whether they think nature, the physical body, or nurture, the environment, plays a greater role in shaping development. And without fail, without fail, they say the environment. In fact, I just did this a couple of weeks ago and in a class of 225 students, only three felt that their body plays a greater role than the environment for shaping who

they become. When I asked them why they seem to discount the role of nature, the answer I get is that they feel that if they think nature plays a greater role, then they would be taking away agency. Somehow giving credit to the body for affecting our lived experience and mortality is somehow saying we don't have agency. They then ask them to think back to when they were five and ask if they got to choose their siblings, where they lived, or how their parents were raising. I asked them as they got older to think whether they chose to be bullied in school, whether they had a pandemic come and affect how school looked for them. As they got older still, did they choose to have their hearts broken when someone they were dating decided to break up with them?

In other words, most of the things that occur in our environments are not things we choose either, especially for very young children. Obviously, as we get older, we can have more control to shape our environments, but we still don't choose everything in our environments. For example, a ward boundary split changes the environment of the congregation that we worship in. You want to be careful there. That's going to bring up a lot of hard feelings for people in those ward splits. Yeah, those emotions remind us there are a lot of things about our environment. So we didn't choose any more than our bodies,

but they affect us. Our bodies and our experiences are critical in shaping who we become in mortality. How we choose to respond to our bodies and our environment, that is when our agency comes into play. How we choose to respond to those things that maybe we didn't choose. Why am I talking about this in preparation for discussing Mormon? Because I look at the scriptures through the lens of development, and I do it in two ways. I look at it through the lens of my own development, where I am in life. We're told that we're here on earth, among other reasons, to have a body and experience, but sometimes we forget what that means and how that's really

shaping us. And the Book of Mormon can be this incredible guide through those experiences with our body and the environment. Every time we read the Book of Mormon, we're at a different place in our development. Whether our bodies are changing due to age or health or disabilities, pregnancy, infertility, a cancer diagnosis, or our environments are changing with the birth of a new child, being newly married, going off to college, a new calling, the Book of Mormon can shape these things for us and give us insight. I remember reading the Book of Mormon as a new father. I hit Third Nephi and the visit of the Savior to the Nephites.

And all of a sudden, that was a brand new experience where I was taught parenting principles. I learned how to be a dad in 3rd Nephi. I went on and my education became focused on doing research and teaching about parenting. I realized what researchers have found is the best parenting to achieve the best outcomes in children. They were the same things that I read in 3rd Nephi. 30 years later, I'm still studying and teaching and learning from those things that I learned as a new dad. Every time we read the Book of Mormon, it can be a brand new book because we're at a different place in our own development. The book doesn't change, but we do. That reminds me of something one of our previous guests, they talked about water skiing

over the top of the scriptures, that sometimes if we go deeper, we scuba dive, but we can even deep sea dive. They're as deep as they are wide. You can say, oh, I read that book, but with this book and with scriptures, there's always more in there that you didn't see it. I love what you said. It's a different experience every time you read it because you are in a different place. Larry, I'm actually really glad you brought this up because I read an article in the August 2020 N-Sign. Fantastic author wrote this article called Giving Children Love Limits and Latitude. It starts this way. In our family, my son is nine years younger than his siblings. When he was little, we often heard him say,

why they don't have to do that. For example, as a preschooler, he was usually sent to bed long before his teenage sisters, and he never felt this was fair. Many parents find themselves wondering how to be fair, consistent or equal in their parenting. And the rest of the article is all about how to do that, using examples from the Book of Mormon.

Larry, it seems like this author really honed in on what you were saying there. The author's name was, oh, look at that, Larry Nelson, professor, School of Family Life at Brigham Young University. What a coincidence. No, it's shocking. He must be a twin or something. The article is called, Giving love, limits, and latitude from Dr. Nelson, who's here with us today. We'll link that on our show notes at followhim.co. This really is something you've put your mind to, Larry.

It really is. Every child is different. I have students who say, well, we all grew up in the same home, but we're so different. The Book of Mormon can also guide parents through understanding each of their kids. I frequently have to apologize to my oldest child. I say, I was new. And she frequently points out, I never would have had that. You never would have allowed me to do that

to our younger siblings. And I say, I know, I know. And her little siblings say something like, well, you should have been born last. It's a lot better down there. Every child has a different experience and every child is a different experience for the parents. And having a book that can teach us principles that can be applied in each of those unique circumstances with those unique kids is powerful. Part of that is because we see the development of the individuals in the Book of Mormon as well. It's not like we're reading conference talks here. We are

witnessing the development of Nephi and Lehi and Alma and the sons of Mosiah and now Mormon. For example, isn't it interesting that the most read chapters in our faith include statements about nature and nurture? What do I mean by that? First Nephi 1.1, the most read because how many times we of the learning of my father, and having seen many afflictions in the course of my days, and then he begins." But that's a statement about the impact of his nurture on his development. One chapter later in 1 Nephi 2.16 says, I, Nephi, being exceedingly young, nevertheless being large in stature. This is a statement about something in his nature having to do with his physical body. Did that play a role in his development and the experiences we read about? Yes. Being able to wear the armor of Laban,

building a boat, standing against his brothers. His body made a difference in this account. His environment shaped his experiences, the relationship with his father leading him to obey him. How many chapters are filled with the anguish caused by his brothers, the impact of Jerusalem, the time in the desert, the promised land. I share Nephi's because we've examined him, but I'd like to now do that and look at how understanding maybe those formative years of Mormon, his nature and nurture in the small B Book of Mormon may help us learn why he chose to include what he did. We have to remember that we're told that he couldn't include even a hundredth part

of the history. So why did he choose to include what he did? We know at some points he tells us that the spirit directed him. By mentioning those times when the Spirit specifically directed him, it lets us know that he'd been given a stewardship and therefore his agency to include other things of his choosing. So why did he choose what he chose? I wonder if a look at his nature and nurture might help us understand that.

I really like this approach. And I've heard John say before, if you have some problems in your family, you'd fit right in in this book. Like Larry mentioned, it starts out with a family that was all over the place. Let's kill dad, let's kill Nephi, let's kill dad and Nephi. Unusual family situations throughout in all of the scriptures that you don't find perfect families. Yeah, Elma the elder struggled early and came around a little bit later. Alma the younger struggled early, came around a little bit later. Corianton struggled early,

it's almost like it's genetic. Let's begin very similar to Nephi. We'll actually start in Mormon 2 verse 1. Would one of you read that for me? And it came to pass in that same year there began to be a war again between the Nephites and the Lamanites. And notwithstanding, I being young was large in stature. Therefore, the people of Nephi appointed me that I should be their leader or the leader of their armies." This is something about his body, his physical stature. Is it going to impact him? Yes, it probably played a very significant, maybe not the only role, but a very significant role in being asked to lead the army at such a young age. I'm not an expert in ancient battle,

but I can only imagine that being large inspired an army. Being able to stand at the head of the army and literally be seen was probably helpful. But then in a time where war was hand-to-hand combat, being able to follow somebody who was big and strong, probably inspired confidence and courage in the soldiers. But I wonder the impact that this had on Mormon. You mentioned it a little bit, John. I wonder what being selected based on one aspect of your development, your body, how that impacted other aspects of his development. When researchers look at the impact of pubertal timing, when a child begins puberty, we sometimes see that those who develop early physically or who are big for their age, they're often treated in ways that harm them because other people will

look at their physical stature and assume, well, you're bigger physically, you also must be more mature emotionally and cognitively and spiritually. I can't imagine what he must have felt like as a 16-year-old to have the expectations of a nation on his shoulders, let alone having to stare death in the face at that age. That's going to impact the things that we hear from him, his feelings about war. I want us to keep that in mind as we move forward. I do that same thing when I look at someone who's a little bit bigger and taller.

You're surprised sometimes. How old are you? Oh, I'm 13. You're 13? You're so tall that expectation would be different. Sometimes boys who are a little more physically mature might play a sport, maybe even on an elite team because of that. And then watch as coaches will yell and scream at this child. And the child starts to cry and they're like, what are you crying? Are you just being a kid? And yeah, he is. He may be bigger, more mature physically, but that doesn't mean he's more mature emotionally or socially or cognitively.

That was a little bit of a look at his nature. Now, if we can go back to chapter one, we learn at age 10, he had already started his education. Now, this is something about his nurture. Having education and being able to read and write made him stand out as well. It was a huge advantage in his young life. But once again, because he was maybe a little more advanced and had those opportunities, he was selected out and asked to take on a huge responsibility. I wonder how that then affected his future studies. Regardless, it enabled him to pull off an incredible accomplishment of producing a record that is a historical account, that is beautifully written, that teaches moral and religious

principles and do it all in one. It's brilliant. And so something about that early environment affected him in a way that enabled him to be able to do that. Larry, when Amaron says, I perceive that thou art a sober child and are quick to observe. What does that look like today? Would that be a teacher coming up to a child and going, you know, you're an old soul, right? There's something about you. You're a little more introspective, a little more careful than a typical 10-year-old. I think we can talk about what those characteristics mean. But first, the importance of maybe giving a shout out to Amaron. As I think about Amaron, I often think

of watching a movie and the main actors get so much attention for the film, but it's really all those people whose names are flying by at the end of the movie as we're leaving the theater that contributed so much. Amaron mentioned briefly, but what an impact in identifying a young man who he sees potential and skills and gifts in a wide variety of areas and selecting him to receive the plates. Big shout out to Amaron and the role that he played in all of this. I actually have another article written by another wonderful author. This one's in the church news just recently, February of this year. Talking about Amaron says, he came unto me is a little phrase with a lot of power. Amaron must have known about young Mormon and his progress in learning the doctrine of Christ. At some point,

he came into Mormon. Note that Amaron sought out Mormon, not the other way around. Young men might not seek out mentors, but mentors can seek out young men. This entire article is on the need for mentors to help young men become lifelong disciples of Christ. Written by a member of the Young Men General Advisory Council, John Gee, by the way. Now, I know John by the way, but this is someone sounds very important. John G. By the way. So John, what did you see in Amaron that led to this article on mentoring? Amaron's also quick to observe. He must have seen Mormon and saw things in him and came to him. What an encouraging thing. If someone comes to you and say you're a sober

child and you're quick to observe, he may not even have known of those traits in himself. But boy, when an adult comes along and says that, when I was a teenager, go back to the 70s and 80s, I don't remember who won the Academy Awards or who won the Super Bowl or who won the World Series. But I can remember all my leaders and I can remember all my bishops. When I go down to verse five, I see, I remember the things which Amaron commanded me. That had a big impact. I agree. Let's give a shout out to Amaron for finding this 10-year-old and giving him a path and a purpose. I mean, maybe being part of that shaping of his life.

John, you said something wonderful that really inspired me at the end of this article. Being a good example is always a wonderful thing. Here we have a lot of adult men in the church who are wonderful examples. John, you wrote, our young men need more. They need inspired mentors who see more in them than they see in themselves. Maybe this is part of ministering, John. I don't have to be assigned to a young man's family to take interest in him. I like to check in with the youth in my ward. How you doing?

How are things? John, is that what you're seeing? Is that what you had in mind here? That is what I had in mind. I can think of times in my life when somebody put their arm around me and said, I see this in you. You may think that's a little thing, but it had a huge impact when you're just a kid and you're trying to figure things out. We can apply some of what Amaron did and try to do

that with the young people that we get to be around. Like ministering, I like that you use that word, Hank. I'd like to look at these characteristics that Amaron identified. Sober, quick to observe, and I hesitate to read too much into these as these words may have had a slightly different meaning in his culture than the word Joseph Smith used in his translation had in his context and then what it may even mean today. But I find them fascinating. I think it's important to look at how these attributes that he was born with or that he had nurtured in him shaped the man and the leader he became. Specifically, when I think of the attributes of sober and observant, I think of the fact that he had immersed himself in learning. All of these things point to

me of an introverted personality. I don't want to spend too much time on that because, again, I'm reading into it, but I want to lay the foundation for something that we can take from this. I study social withdrawal. It's one of my areas of research. I know that words like shy and fearful and introverted and withdrawn are often treated as the same, but they're not. Introverts are not afraid of social interaction. They don't dislike being with people. Introversion isn't about fear, it's about energy. Introverts aren't afraid of social interaction. They're often drained by it, so they will take time in solitude, such that you may

find them reading. Sounds familiar what Mormon was doing or in nature, studies have shown that they actually do really well with other people because they are observant. They think through their thoughts before opening their mouth. That phrase, better to be thought of fool than open your mouth and remove all doubt. Introverts think things through before they comment. Oh man, I need to be an introvert.

They tend to see when somebody's being left out or because they're observant, they see somebody in need that a less observant person may miss. They're not anti-social. Relationships mean so much to them. That's why they prefer one-on-one settings or small groups of meaningful conversations and catching up and discussion, rather than maybe less meaningful talk that occurs in large group contexts. They tend to be empathetic, good listeners, and make meaningful contributions to the group. Now, again, I don't know from such a brief description of Mormon as a child that he was indeed an introvert. But so much of what he does later, including his leadership style, seems to reflect these attributes. Sober, observant, and if we were to think that through his empathy, he felt things

deeply. We're not reading into that. We see that he feels things deeply, very motion-filled passages that we'll look at. He withdrew for a time. Isn't that interesting? Maybe it was to spend time in solitude working on the records. He was observant of things going on with people. Of all of the hundredth part that he could have included, he spent so much time comparing the approaches of Ammon, who took a quiet, service-filled approach to missionary work, versus the stand-up-and- and preach approach of his brothers and showing which one worked. He noticed the impact of people who were often not seen, such as the female servant

Abish, who was a believer in Christ and wanted to share that with others. He chose to include that story. He was observant. I could go on and on, but so many things point to the importance of these characteristics that Amaron saw in him. The thing that I would like to take from that and apply to us today is that the Lord will use all personality types in his work. Many of us may have a singular stereotype of a leader who is dynamic and funny and extroverted, who can speak effortlessly and vibrantly to a crowd, but in reality, there are many ways to lead, to fulfill any calling that you may be given. You don't have to try to be somebody else. Be you.

We've all had that leader who is obviously so nervous standing in front of a crowd, but who is so good at ministering to the One, serving quietly and away from the eyes of others and noticing those on the margins. My life was impacted by this. I could give numerous examples, but I'd like to share one of the most powerful experiences of this quiet service-filled leadership. Early in my career, I'd been asked to serve on a committee. I worked four years on that committee. It was a lot of time, a lot of effort. We hit a point over four years in, in which the fruits of our work were finally going to be seen. We were going to get some data that was going to be helpful in understanding for students. And when we

hit that point, without any explanation, without any warning, I was dismissed from the committee. I was the only one. The others on the committee were specifically told that I wasn't to see the data. I was the only full-time faculty member on the committee. Everybody else had administrative posts. You can only imagine. That was distressing. I felt devalued, unappreciated, mistrusted.

It really hurt. As I understand the person who made the decision never spoke with me, didn't know me, which made it hurt even more. Well, there was an administrator, I believe at the time this person held the title of special assistant to the president. I don't know how he found out about how I was feeling about all this, but he had his administrative assistant invite me to have lunch with him. Went up to his office and sat knee to knee with this individual as he listened to me. Didn't change the situation, nothing about it, but just listened to me and changed how I felt about the situation because of his love, his compassion, his listening, his empathy. Well, about two weeks later, I was

back in my office and there was a knock on my door and I opened it and this individual was there. And he said, I've just been thinking about you and I want to check in and see how you've been doing since our visit together. He had taken the time to come over, leave his office and come and seek out the one who he perceived maybe needed a visit, wanted to follow up with me. Who was that individual? It is the now elder, Garret Gong. That quiet, service-filled approach to ministering, to leadership. So there's no one way to be a leader or to fulfill a calling. The Lord can and will use all of us with all of our strengths, those inborn, those nurtured.

He will use all of those in His service. And that's so empowering to those who like Newel K. Whitney who said, I don't see a bishop in me, right? Or I don't see a Relief Society president in me. I'm nothing like so-and-so who is so good with people. If I'm hearing you right, Larry, it's the Lord chose you. You have gifts. Use those gifts. Don't try to be someone else.

Be you. And great things will happen. I think you can see that with Mormon. I'm going to be me and move forward in this project. Being me, not trying to be someone else. Remember my wife and I talking once? We remembered that we had never seen President Monson get weepy in a talk. And that's okay. Bring who you are. Recently, Elder Ciaran, our newest apostle, spoke at BYU.

The way he started was interesting because Elder Stevenson, I think, was supposed to speak at the devotional and Elder Elder Curon jumped in right at the last minute. He said, I'm so sorry that you don't get to hear from a real apostle. So, I think we all feel this way, going, I don't know if the Lord can use me like he uses other people. Yeah. The next thing I want to point out about Mormon's upbringing that might be relevant is found in chapter one verses five through eight, if we could read those together. And I, Mormon, being a descendant of Nephi, and my father's name was Mormon, I remembered the things which Amaron commanded me. And it came to pass that I, being eleven years old, was

carried by my father into the land southward, even the land of Zarahemla. The whole face of the land had become covered with buildings and the people were as numerous almost as it were the sand of the sea. And it came to pass in this year there began to be a war between the Nephites who consisted of Nephites, Jacobites, Josephites, Zoramites. And this war was between the Nephites and the Lamanites and the Lemuelites and the Ishmaelites. Thank you.

Mormon mentions being carried by his father to Zarahemla, but we never hear about his father again. Despite being a military leader, it is obvious that Mormon does not like war. He detests the shedding of blood. It's pure speculation, and I wonder if we need to go no further in wondering why he detests war and bloodshed to the possibility that he lost his father in the war that took him to Zarahemla. He mentions his dad here, but never again. Eleven years old, as we look at the accounts Mormon chose to include in the Book of Mormon, we note the inclusion of numerous father-son relationships.

Mosiah and his sons, Alma and Alma the Younger, the interactions between Alma the Younger and his sons, Helaman choosing carefully what to name his sons and others. Father-son relationships make up a significant part of Mormon's record. And I think it is interesting to consider how his early life with or without maybe his father may have shaped his approach to the record and his approach to war. Regardless of whether the war took his father, we know for a fact that he was exposed to war from an early age. He tells us this.

And that undoubtedly shaped his views of war and what he paid attention to later when he compiled the plates. So we're gonna have to talk about the impact that early and prolonged exposure to war had on his message. Not only did he grow up in an environment filled with war, but in an environment full of such wickedness and iniquity that in verses 14 and 15 we're told

disciples were removed, miracles no longer occurred, no healing or spiritual gifts. Can you imagine being an adult in such an evil environment, let alone a child in his formative years. A few years ago, I had the opportunity to take a sabbatical, a professional leave, and we spent part of it in the Baltics. We lived in Lithuania for the time and visited some other countries like Estonia and Latvia. And I remember one evening while walking together, my wife Kimberly wondered aloud how the youth of the church can stay strong in places like that. This past summer, we led a study abroad to Croatia and Bosnia and Herzegovina and Austria, and we discussed it again. Kimberly and I both

served missions in Germany and Switzerland respectively. So we'd had experiences with places where the youth organizations of the church weren't as strong. Youth were growing up without that support. But being there now as parents and as those who work with young people, we are struck by how difficult it must be to lack large, strong, supportive groups and peers. I wonder then how Mormon could grow up in such a wicked environment and be so strong. But when we hit that point, we receive the answer in verse 15. If we could read that. In this setting of such awfulness, war and wickedness, Mormon chose to do the one thing that would allow him to

rise above his circumstances. He let God prevail in his life. He developed his testimony of the Savior and I think seeing Mormon's circumstances and his ability to rise above it by developing a personal relationship with our Father in heaven and our Savior sets the example for us and underscores what President Nelson was teaching us when he taught. With the help of two Hebrew scholars, I learned that one of the Hebraic meanings of the word Israel is let God prevail. Thus, the very name of Israel refers to a person who is willing to let God prevail in his or her life.

That concept stirs my soul. The word willing is crucial to this interpretation of Israel. We all have our agency. We can choose to be of Israel or not. We can choose to let God prevail in our lives or not. We can choose to let God be the most powerful influence in our lives or not. He continues, Are you willing to let God prevail in your life? Are you willing to let God be the most important influence in your life? Will you allow His words, His commandments, and His covenants to influence what you do each day? Will you allow his voice to take priority over any other? Are you willing to let whatever he needs you to do take precedence over every other ambition? Are you willing to have your will swallowed up in his?" I just love this. We see such an example

in Mormon of what happens when we let God prevail. We've learned some things about His nature and His nurture that were very difficult. But now we see the piece that I mentioned briefly earlier, which is that we now get to choose how we respond to the things in our environment or in our nature that we didn't choose. We can act or we can be acted upon. To be very clear, I don't get to use my agency to change what I can't control. As much as I wanted to be taller as a teenager, I can't choose to be six foot four. I have an autoimmune disease that

I didn't choose in which I don't get to choose out of my life. There are things about our environments, about our nature that we don't will away, but we can choose to act rather than be acted upon by them. And Mormon is showing us the best way to do that is let God prevail in our lives. John, one of my favorite moments you've told me about is when someone said that they were tall, dark and handsome and you said, well, I'm O for three. And your wife said, you're not short. Right?

Oh, so I'm one for three. Thank you so much. Thank you, sweetheart. But if, yeah, if I could choose to be tall, dark and handsome, I would definitely choose that. I frequently tell my children, you should see my spirit. He is so strong. I really like that. Larry, it seems Mormon chapter one, verse 15, correct me here, talk me through this, that if a youth is going to last in their spirituality, into their adulthood, that these type of things have to happen.

We can have family prayer, we can have family scripture study, we can go to church. But the most lasting thing that we can do for our children, and help me out here, Larry, since you're the expert, is send them to the Lord so they can have their own experiences. Yeah, the phrase that comes to mind, we were told President Kimball, I believe we can't live on borrowed light. We have to have our own light. Absolutely. And I think we're going to see that even more as we move on here. Our most important role as parents is to help children cultivate

a relationship with our Heavenly Father and the Savior on their own. We can't force, we can't protect, we can't bubble forever. We've got to help them choose to let God prevail in their lives. That's what gave Mormon the strength. This quote from Elder Holland, he said, see your students, and you could say your children the same way, as not vessels to be filled with knowledge, but matches to be lit. Push them to the Lord and let him light that match.

Yeah. Now we have this foundation of various aspects of Mormon's development that might have shaped him and led him to the messages that he wanted to convey with us and what he chose to include in the plates. Let's look at some of those messages now through that lens of his upbringing. that lens of his upbringing. At the end of chapter one, we start to see two separate but connected concerns for Mormon that we can see may be influenced by revelation from God, absolutely, but also influenced by Mormon's development. One is the people's spiritual state. The second is the people's temporal state or the war they were fighting. Let's look at that connection if we could go to Mormon chapter 2 verse 15. This is Mormon 2 verse 15. And it came to pass that my sorrow did return unto me again. I saw the day of grace was passed for them, both temporally and spiritually.

For I saw thousands of them hewn down in open rebellion against their God and heaped as a dung upon the face of the land. Three hundred and forty-four years had passed away." away. Both temporally and spiritually, he's going to start to show that these are so connected and they can't be disconnected in any way. Their spiritual state and their temporal, or in this case, their military state. You start to see which one disturbs him more. In 15, he's pretty direct about the physical state when he's talking about the number who were hewn down and heaped up as dung. He doesn't have any problems sharing a very graphic picture

of that physical state. But then we go to verse 18. It says, but upon these plates, I did forbear to make a full account of their wickedness and abominations. For behold, a continual scene of wickedness and abominations has been before my eyes ever since I have been sufficient to behold the ways of man. We go from being very graphic, heaped up as dung upon the face of the land to, I can't even begin to tell you how bad the wickedness is. How bad must it have been. He's connecting these two things for us and his sorrow-filled writings continue. He hearkens his inner Captain Moroni

and calls on them to fight for their wives and children and homes, which rallies them a bit, but ultimately it's unsuccessful because they haven't let God prevail in their lives. That really is, Larry, what's missing from the title of Liberty. He's got wives and children and homes, but he doesn't have in memory of our God. And our religion. Right. Yeah.

Mormon is showing us that weapons aren't enough to defend our families. As a father, I'm rather offended that we have reduced our role of protector to the stereotype of dad sitting on the porch with a shotgun as his daughter's date comes to pick her up. Really? Is that the best that we can aspire to as dads? Mormon is showing us it isn't enough. President Howard W. Hunter has tried to expand our view of how we protect our children. He said, earn the respect and confidence of your children. Let me stop. He didn't say, you're my child, you have to obey me. Respect me because I'm your father.

He said, earn the respect and confidence of your children through your loving relationship with them. A righteous father protects his children with his time and presence in their social, educational, and spiritual activities and responsibilities. Tender expressions of love and affection toward children are as much the responsibility of the father as the mother. Tell your children you love them." That's how you protect our children. As we noted, it is equipping them to be spiritually,

socially, cognitively, emotionally, and morally strong so they can withstand the challenges that will come their way. Mormon is showing that spiritual strength supersedes physical military strength. Let's look at how he used a time of peace. There's a period in this battle between the Nephites and the Lamanites in which there's basically a peace treaty for time. Let's look in Mormon 3 verse 1 and 2 and see once again the connection between these two things and how this time was used. Mormon 3, 1, and 2. And it came to pass that the Lamanites did not come to battle again until ten years more had passed away. And behold, I had employed my people, then he fights, in preparing their lands and their arms against the time of battle.

And it came to pass that the Lord did say unto me, Cry unto this people, repent ye, and come unto me, and be ye baptized, and build up again my church, and ye shall be spared." They used the time to prepare defenses and to prepare them spiritually. Preparing arms can't do what coming to Christ can do. We've hit this point in Mormon 3 where the Nephites are having some success in battle even though they are no longer supported by the Lord because of their wickedness. They are on their own, again seeing some success, but everything changes in verse 9 of chapter 3. We can mark the beginning of the end, I believe, right here. And now, because of this great thing which my people, the Nephitesites had done, they began to boast in their strength and began to swear the absolute worst thing they could do, go on the

offensive driven by vengeance, because it combines the worst of their spiritual and military state. And we know that he thinks this is the absolute worst combination, where their spirits are seeking vengeance, and by going on the offensive. We know that it's how he feels about it because at this point, he utterly refused from this moment forward to be their leader. If we were to read verses 11 through 16 without verses, so it's one long statement. And if I could give the Larry translation of these verses. I've read that version. I would love a full Book of Mormon with the Larry version. I think he's saying, listen, behold, listen, I led them. I loved them. I poured my soul out in prayer for them. I've led them three times to victory,

but they crossed the line the moment they went against Christ to go up in vengeance. That is too far. I'm done. This emphasis on their incorrect spiritual and incorrect temporal or military choices is very clear. Let's start in verse four, please. It was because the armies of the Nephites went up under the Lamanites that they began to be smitten. For were it not for that, the Lamanites could have had no power over them. He's saying this is a bad battle strategy because it was a bad spiritual strategy to seek vengeance. 10 and 11, please. Mormon 4, 10 and 11.

And it came to pass that the 360 and 60-year had passed away and the Lamanites came again upon the Nephites to battle. And yet the Nephites repented not of the evil they had done, but persisted in their wickedness continually. And it is impossible for the tongue to describe or for man to write a perfect description of the horrible scene of the blood and carnage which was among the people, both of the Nephites and of the Lamanites, and every heart was hardened, so that they delighted in the shedding of blood continually." There is no separation here between the spiritual state of their hearts and what's going on

in war because it is this poor spiritual state of their hearts that's driving them right now in battle, such that they're delighting in the shedding of blood. Verse 14, what happens here? And they did also march forward against the city of Teancum and to drive the inhabitants forth out of her and to take many prisoners, both women and children, and did offer them up as sacrifices. The Nephites watched their women and children being offered a sacrifice. Some may think if there is anything that would justify being vengeful. Got to be that, right? Let's read 15, please. drive them out of their lands. They went up to avenge the killing of women and children. But what are we going to see that leads to?

Verse 21, and when they had come the second time, the Nephites were driven and slaughtered with the exceedingly great slaughter. Their women and their children were again sacrificed unto idols. We may think if there's anything just fighting, being vengeful and seeking revenge, it's because women and children have been sacrificed. But the only thing that led to was more women and children being killed. They went up to avenge the Lamanites for killing their wives and children. But what if they had taken the advice

of a prophet of God in President Hunter? What if they had put all of that energy into defending them by repenting, by forgiving, by teaching them in love and righteousness? This is what the family proclamation teaches us to do when we fill our role to protect. Vengeance cannot do that. Verse 18 makes it clear, I said the beginning of the end and here we have it in verse 18. We are told that they never again gained control. Never again. Their bad military decisions were a result of their bad spiritual decisions. This focus on violence as a means of protection

rather than righteousness is one of Mormon's main messages. We really need to pay attention to it. Again, he states it in Mormon 5, 1, and 2. This emphasis on the connection between our spiritual and our temporal, how we approach others is so important. Since I was asked to cover these chapters several months ago, the thoughts have flowed over and over again about one topic that Mormon is making clear has to be a discussion point. Why did God send the flood in the days of Noah? Because the earth was filled with a violence. Yeah. We often talk about wickedness generally, but in both Genesis and the book of Moses, we read, the earth was corrupt before God and it was filled with violence. And God looked upon the earth and behold it was corrupt for all flesh had corrupted its way upon

the earth. And God said unto Noah, the end of all flesh has come before me, for the earth is filled with violence, and behold, I will destroy all flesh from off the earth." Violence, we are so quick to ignore discussions of violence. We all sheepishly may admit that we've heard this or been a part of this where conversation may sound something like this. Oh, you have to see this movie. It's great. Well, what's it rated? Oh, it's

rated whatever, but there's no nudity. There's only violence. I've never said that. I don't know. Only violence. As if we're dismissing the one thing that the Lord specifically said, corrupted the earth. I recognize the topic is uncomfortable. It isn't fun to discuss these things. Believe me. You had Dr. Ava Weitzman on who found herself needing to be bold as she discussed the account of Alma and Amulek who were forced to watch the women and children and other believers being burned, she noted how often we skip over the burning of these people and simply turn to Alma and Amulek and how difficult it must have been for them to watch it.

Now, I'm sure it was difficult for them to watch it, especially because they could have stopped it with the power of God. But she noted that we seldom, if ever, dwell on how hard it was for those who were in the fire. And she forced us, if you remember, to consider the amount of violence towards women and children that are occurring all around us. the amount of violence towards women and children that are occurring all around us. I loved her boldness and I need to follow her example and I need to live up to my hero, Mormon, and share his words. Because even Mormon is basically saying, I know it's difficult to hear, but you need to hear it. I, Mormon, do not desire to harrow up the souls of men in casting before them such an awful scene of blood and carnage as was laid before mine eyes." So this isn't just a

spiritual part. He's actually talking about the violence and then says why he has to do it. With that, remember that there weren't chapters and verses in what Mormon wrote. Chapter 7 is divided up in Come Follow Me, and 7 would be in next week's study. But I have to jump into the first four verses because really this would have all been part of Mormon's message to us. If we could please read the first four verses of seven. And now behold, I would speak somewhat unto the remnant of this people who are spared, if it so be that God may give unto them my words, that they may know of the things of their fathers. I speak unto you, ye remnant of the house of Israel, and these are the words which I

speak. Know ye that you are the house of Israel. Know ye that you must come unto repentance or ye cannot be saved. Know ye that ye must lay down your weapons of war and delight no more in the shedding of blood, and take them not again save it be that God shall command you. In sum, this isn't fun for me, but Mormon didn't include this description of war and violence for us to turn into a metaphor of spiritual battles only. I agree complete with something Dr. Grant Hardy observed that, quote, as a military man himself, Mormon never speaks of war figuratively or makes it a metaphor for Christian living.

He may include accounts where others refer to types or symbols of spiritual warfare, but he does not. Laying down weapons of war and delighting in bloodshed is not figurative. If we go back and think about his early years, we may start to understand what shaping is. He watched nothing but war and violence his entire life. And although we immediately don't know to what extent, meaning whether family members were killed in war or not, we know that was the context for his formative years. Then his work on the records has done nothing but show him more scenes of carnage brought about by violence and vengeance and weapons of war.

He has read in the records about accounts of entire civilizations being wiped out through violence and now he's just witnessed his own people utterly destroyed by it. He has seen what vengeance and violence does to people. This is why I think Mormon in choosing what to include in the Big B Book of Mormon, is focused so much on the people of Ammon. Remember, it wasn't just that they laid down their weapons of war, but it is that they, one, came to Christ. They were converted. Two, they repented of their sins. Three, they buried

their weapons as a sign of a covenant with God. This covenant is that they would A, be killed rather than shed blood of another. B, that they would give to their brother rather than take anything away from them. And C, they would spend their days laboring abundantly with their hands rather than in idleness. This was about how they would obey God, treat God's children, and how they would live their lives in keeping covenants. Going back to Mormon's purpose in writing in 7, 1 through 4, he's connecting all of these things, the spiritual, the military, what he showed with this incredible civilization that took a different approach

than his people, the Nephites, at that time. Those verses tell us keeping covenants, that speaking of the house of Israel, that's covenant language. Repent, lay down weapons of war and come to Christ. That is how you protect women and children, by making and keeping covenants, repenting, serving to others and coming to Christ. Through that faithfulness, the children who didn't die were raised in righteousness such that they knew their mothers knew it. The stripling warriors, they were protected not by their father's weapons, but by their making and keeping covenants. When you talked about the Lord and the flood, do you remember John, someone connecting this?

I can't remember who was that taught our lesson there in Moses 5 and 6. It's Enoch seeing the Lord weeping. And the Lord weeps because they hate their own blood. I asked them to choose me their father, but behold they are without affection and they hate their own blood the tears of the Lord Go right into the story of Noah Such a surprising like they rain and the enix says that how is it that the heavens weep and shed forth their tears as rain upon the mountains which is Poetry anyway, and then yeah, the next few verses are the flood It's the Lord weeping

that turns into the flood, which I found just an interesting concept. And then the other story I thought of from Mormon's abridgment is the city of Ammonihah sacrifices women and children, but the Nephites do not go in battle in vengeance. It's the Lord that the city of Ammonihah is destroyed not by the Nephites, it's destroyed by the Lamanites who had nothing to do with that. With these messages being conveyed, we have to honestly look at what is he saying for us in our day. If we truly believe that this book is for our day, how do we lay down our weapons of war and delight no more in the shedding of blood? That's Mormon's language here. I want to pause as we look at what this might apply for us. We've had to do some hard things in the study of the Book of Mormon. At one point, we had to reflect on our own relationship with money.

And we learned that it isn't money that's the problem, but the- The love of money, yeah. We've reflected and learned that it isn't learning that it's the problem, it's being learned and proud. In other contexts, we've learned and been taught that the internet, for example, isn't inherently good or bad, but how we choose to use it. So on and on. We've had to do some hard reflection. What's my relationship with money? What's my relationship with being learned? And it's not those things that are the problem. It's pride. It's the love of those things.

We have to do some spiritual self reflection about this word delight in the shedding of blood. Do we delight in violence? Do we delight in our weapons of war? How much violence have we invited into our lives, into our homes through the things that we purchase, watch, and play? When I mention that way, sometimes the pushback probably immediately be, oh, but violence in video games or in movies, that's fake. It isn't real, so it isn't a problem.

Coming up in part two of this episode. There are stories of acts of service he would render to those on his postal route as a postman, especially when it involved getting letters as quickly as possible from individuals serving our country to their families. But there are also stories of how he withdrew inward, was less emotionally available, didn't display some of the same musical talents after the war that he did before. My grandfather left part of himself on the battlefield of Europe.