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Episode Date: October 15, 2025When trials confine us, how do we find faith and power? Dr. David Holland unpacks five principles from Liberty Jail that reveal how affliction refines discipleship. SHOW NOTES/TRANSCRIPTS English: h...ttps://tinyurl.com/podcastDC243EN French: https://tinyurl.com/podcastDC243FR German: https://tinyurl.com/podcastDC243DE Portuguese: https://tinyurl.com/podcastDC243PT Spanish: https://tinyurl.com/podcastDC243ESALL EPISODES/SHOW NOTESfollowHIM website: https://www.followHIM.coYOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/ZbxE0Fzsed42021 Episode Doctrine & Covenants 121-123 Part 1https://youtu.be/XK3mXyJHo5oFREE PDF DOWNLOADS OF followHIM QUOTE BOOKSNew Testament: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastNTBookOld Testament: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastOTBookBook of Mormon: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastBMBook WEEKLY NEWSLETTER https://tinyurl.com/followHIMnewsletter SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/followHIMpodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/followhimpodcastTIMECODE:00:00 Part 1 - Dr. David Holland01:50 Episode Teaser04:24 Dr. Holland’s bio06:32 Come, Follow Me Manual07:46 American Revolution review11:43 Commensurate power between power and cost15:40 Beauty at great cost20:04 Friendship with the Lord23:45 How long until promises are fulfilled25:57 Dr. Holland shares a ministering story28:26 Elder Christofferson discusses a cosmic vending machine31:24 The Lord uses object lessons34:20 God is Joseph’s friend35:19 Dr. Holland and Elder Holland and spiritual struggles40:04 Puritans and unrighteous dominion43:51 New Bishop during a financial crisis47:40 Love our ward enemies49:54 Losing priesthood power when unrighteous51:50 Sad experience and clarity is kindness56:40 Many are called, but few answer59:46 End of Part 1 - Dr. David HollandThanks to the followHIM team:Steve & Shannon Sorensen: Cofounder, Executive Producer, SponsorDavid & Verla Sorensen: SponsorsDr. Hank Smith: Co-hostJohn Bytheway: Co-hostDavid Perry: ProducerKyle Nelson: Marketing, SponsorLisa Spice: Client Relations, Editor, Show NotesWill Stoughton: Video EditorKrystal Roberts: Translation Team, English & French Transcripts, WebsiteAriel Cuadra: Spanish TranscriptsAmelia Kabwika: Portuguese TranscriptsHeather Barlow: Communications DirectorSydney Smith: Social Media, Graphic Design "Let Zion in Her Beauty Rise" by Marshall McDonaldhttps://www.marshallmcdonaldmusic.com
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                                        Coming up in this episode on Follow Him.
                                         
                                        Serving as a bishop in Las Vegas in 2008, I was called,
                                         
                                        and 2008 was a terrible financial time for the country in general and for Las Vegas in particular.
                                         
                                        I was relatively young.
                                         
                                        It was 34 at the time I was called.
                                         
                                        Didn't have a lot of life experience.
                                         
                                        Suddenly, I was responsible for this war.
                                         
                                        that was in financial peril, financial crisis.
                                         
    
                                        Hello, everyone.
                                         
                                        Welcome to another episode of Follow Him.
                                         
                                        My name is Hank Smith.
                                         
                                        I'm your host.
                                         
                                        I'm here with John, by the way, who I can accurately describe this way.
                                         
                                        Persuasive, long-suffering, gentle, meek.
                                         
                                        He has pure knowledge and no hypocrisy.
                                         
                                        John section 121 you know these sections well Joseph Smith is in liberty jail what are you looking forward to today
                                         
    
                                        I've been thinking for days how do I answer this question that I knew you were going to ask me
                                         
                                        because some of the most amazing soaring beautiful language and ideas come from a prison so I'm
                                         
                                        really looking forward to it yeah there's almost nothing like it I remember being
                                         
                                        being just a young teenager in reading this going, wow, this is really good.
                                         
                                        John, we are privileged today to have with us, Dr. David Holland.
                                         
                                        Dr. Holland, welcome to follow him.
                                         
                                        Thank you.
                                         
                                        I'm really grateful to be here.
                                         
    
                                        We are excited as well.
                                         
                                        I've been looking forward to this for a long time.
                                         
                                        Dr. Holland, John, is a very busy man.
                                         
                                        Getting him to squeeze us in is quite a blessing, quite an honor.
                                         
                                        As you looked ahead at these sections, David, what do you see?
                                         
                                        What are we going to do today?
                                         
                                        The first thing I'd like to talk about is the universality of the principles and some of the experiences that are touched on here.
                                         
                                        We've all had those long, dark nights of the soul.
                                         
    
                                        And one of the things that weighs on us in those moments, sometimes of despair or discouragement,
                                         
                                        is a feeling that somehow the experience we're having is uniquely ours.
                                         
                                        Now, that's always true.
                                         
                                        We are particular people living particular lives, and our stories are.
                                         
                                        are uniquely ours. Yet the general experience of a sense of forlornness, of feeling maybe even
                                         
                                        sometimes forsaken, of wondering why the heavens seem silent in our moment of need, I think that's
                                         
                                        among the most universal of human experiences. Joseph Smith was able to capture that in a way
                                         
                                        that speaks both to the specificity of his circumstance and to the universality of the human
                                         
    
                                        experience. It ends, as John mentioned, with such remarkable and vivid language. It cannot help
                                         
                                        but pull us out of that moment of despair that we all experience at times. I'd like to talk a little
                                         
                                        bit about that aspect of it. I also want to think about the principles that are
                                         
                                        are conveyed in the process of the prophets wrestling with his particular challenge.
                                         
                                        And I think the Lord calls him and calls us to a renewal of perspective,
                                         
                                        to a recommitment to patience,
                                         
                                        to a fundamental dedication to persistence,
                                         
                                        to a belief in divine presence,
                                         
    
                                        and finally to a belief in divine power.
                                         
                                        If we can think a little bit illiteratively about all of those,
                                         
                                        P starting words, perspective, patience, persistence, presence, and power.
                                         
                                        I think it'll help us navigate these remarkable sections and think a little bit, both about
                                         
                                        their historical meaning and about their personal application for us.
                                         
                                        I heard those, the five P's there.
                                         
                                        I thought, I could improve in all of them.
                                         
                                        There's room for improvement there.
                                         
    
                                        John, I'm sure many of our listeners know Dr. Holland, but there might be a,
                                         
                                        If you who don't, do you have a bio?
                                         
                                        I do, and I first want to say that I was watching a wonderful documentary that is on BYU TV called
                                         
                                        Kurtland, America's Sacred Ground.
                                         
                                        One of the expert commentators that comes on is Dr. Holland.
                                         
                                        I was excited to see that he would join us on our podcast.
                                         
                                        I'm so excited.
                                         
                                        This is right off of the Harvard Divinity School website, but David Holland serves as the Bartlett
                                         
    
                                        Professor of New England Church History.
                                         
                                        at Harvard Divinity School.
                                         
                                        In July of 2024, he became the Associate Dean for Faculty and Academic Affairs.
                                         
                                        His research focuses on the intersecting theological commitments
                                         
                                        and cultural changes that shaped American life
                                         
                                        from the early 17th century to the late 19th.
                                         
                                        His first book is called Sacred Borders Continuing Revelation
                                         
                                        and canonical restraint in early America
                                         
    
                                        was published by Oxford University Press in 2011.
                                         
                                        He has since published a brief theological introduction to the Book of Mormon and is an editor of the Oxford Handbook on Seventh Day Adventism, which is now in press.
                                         
                                        His research has also appeared in New England Quarterly Law and History Review and in a variety of other scholarly collections, including a recent essay in secularization and religious innovation in the Atlantic world by Oxford University Press.
                                         
                                        That's amazing, and we're just so thrilled to have you.
                                         
                                        Thanks for joining us.
                                         
                                        Thank you. I'm glad to be part of the conversation.
                                         
                                        How are things in Harvard?
                                         
                                        One of the blessings of an academic life is the way the rhythms of the year play out.
                                         
    
                                        And they kind of breathe in and breathe out as students graduate and new students arrive.
                                         
                                        And we get the opportunity to encounter a whole new group of people that represent the thinking of their generation.
                                         
                                        We're just on the cusp of a new year.
                                         
                                        And that's always an exciting time.
                                         
                                        Wow.
                                         
                                        No, it is.
                                         
                                        I tell my friends sometimes, listen, I go underwater in September.
                                         
                                        I don't come back up to brief until December.
                                         
    
                                        Then I go down again and I'll come up next April.
                                         
                                        That's how it goes.
                                         
                                        The rhythm of the year.
                                         
                                        I like that.
                                         
                                        We need to jump into these sections.
                                         
                                        They're so rich.
                                         
                                        I'm going to read them the Come Follow Me Manual.
                                         
                                        It starts out beautifully.
                                         
    
                                        The bottom level of the jail in Liberty, Missouri was known as the dungeon.
                                         
                                        The walls were thick.
                                         
                                        The stone floor was cold and filthy.
                                         
                                        Food was scarce and rotten and too narrow iron-barred windows near the ceiling allowed for very
                                         
                                        little light. This is where Joseph Smith and a few others spent four frigid months during the
                                         
                                        winter of 1838 into 39. During this time, Joseph was constantly receiving news about the suffering
                                         
                                        of the saints. The peace and optimism felt in Far West had lasted only a few months, and now
                                         
                                        the saints were without a home once again, driven into the wilderness in search of yet a
                                         
    
                                        another place to start over, this time with their prophet in prison. And yet, even in that miserable
                                         
                                        jail, knowledge from heaven came pouring down. Joseph's question, O God, where art thou, was answered
                                         
                                        clearly and powerfully, fear not, for God shall be with you forever and ever. With that beautiful
                                         
                                        start, David, how do we want to jump in here? Maybe a little bit unorthodox, but I'd like to
                                         
                                        actually start a number of years before these sections began, before even Joseph Smith was
                                         
                                        born, and go all the way back to the American Revolution. I should note for listeners that
                                         
                                        among the instructions that I received when getting the invitation to participate in this
                                         
                                        conversation was to lean into our own areas of interest and expertise. One of the examples was if
                                         
    
                                        you're a historian, be a historian. So I'm going to be a historian for a minute. Because I want to
                                         
                                        invoke a particular line that comes from the late winter of 1776. Now, a lot of your listeners
                                         
                                        will know this history. The American Revolution had begun in earnest, really in the spring of
                                         
                                        75, but had pitted two identifiable armies against each other by the summer of 76.
                                         
                                        George Washington's Continental Army was being consistently trounced through those early months
                                         
                                        of the war. He was in despair. If you can sort of picture an army in retreat with one of the
                                         
                                        most powerful fighting forces in the world hot on their trail all the way through New York and
                                         
                                        down through Pennsylvania. Washington was lost. He didn't know if this effort could prevail.
                                         
    
                                        We have the benefit of hindsight. He obviously did not. To make matters worse, most of the men
                                         
                                        that were in his army were going to be finished with their contracts at the end of the year.
                                         
                                        so in late December he's about to become a general without an army and all he has is basically a string of defeats and retreats to show for this effort he has one last moment of resolve and won't get too much into the weeds of the geography of the battle at that point but suffice it to say he's facing an icy river and a dangerous foe on the other side of it and very few options when he
                                         
                                        was obviously otherwise preoccupied with the logistics of running a war and leading an army,
                                         
                                        he thought it worth his time to give his troops some words of encouragement. He also had the
                                         
                                        humility to know that he was probably not the word smith to provide those, but he had a traveling
                                         
                                        writer with the troops by the name of Tom Payne, who had been so influential in kicking off
                                         
                                        the independence effort with his treaty's common sense.
                                         
    
                                        from a year earlier, he asked pain to write something that could stiffen the resolve of
                                         
                                        these despairing soldiers.
                                         
                                        Most of us know the way it opens.
                                         
                                        These are the times that try men's souls remind us not to be sunshine patriots, but to
                                         
                                        retain our principles even in those winter months.
                                         
                                        But he says something there in that opening that I often think about when I encounter
                                         
                                        these sections he said heaven knows how to put a proper price upon its goods it would be rare indeed
                                         
                                        if so great a gift as liberty did not come at a steep price that's a paraphrase what pain is saying is
                                         
    
                                        the things that are of great value often come at steep cost he was pointing out to the army that if they
                                         
                                        really thought that liberty was something worth striving for. They should not be surprised that it
                                         
                                        took them into the depths of despair to ultimately attain it. I think about that when I think
                                         
                                        about this series of sections which have been so valuable, so meaningful, so moving, so
                                         
                                        redemptive for me personally in some pretty difficult times. And they came at a very, very high
                                         
                                        price, that there is a commensurability between the power of the passages and the depth of the
                                         
                                        darkness from which they emerged. I don't pretend to know all the ways in which God calculates
                                         
                                        those prices and that cost, but I do know enough from history and from my own personal experience
                                         
    
                                        that sometimes we come to know him
                                         
                                        in ways that cannot be acquired
                                         
                                        other than in those deepest, darkest recesses of our own need.
                                         
                                        You see that happening in these passages for Joseph.
                                         
                                        I'm grateful that we have them recorded
                                         
                                        so that we can learn from his experience as well as our own.
                                         
                                        I said at the outset that one of the striking things,
                                         
                                        things about these passages is that they seem to speak to such a universal human need. And it's
                                         
    
                                        striking to me that perhaps the oldest book in the Hebrew Bible is Job, which is referenced in this
                                         
                                        section. It's on the same topic. You could make the case that our earliest scripture is a
                                         
                                        testifier to the reality that from the beginning of time, human beings have always found themselves
                                         
                                        in these moments, even good, noble, faithful human beings,
                                         
                                        which the Book of Job takes pains to characterize Job as.
                                         
                                        That's been a recurring preoccupation for men and women from time immemorial.
                                         
                                        Think about St. Augustine, wrestles with the same question repeatedly,
                                         
                                        all the way up to Rabbi Harold Kushner,
                                         
    
                                        who wrote a best-selling book a couple of decades ago called,
                                         
                                        Why Bad Things Happened to Good People.
                                         
                                        Everything from this deeply ancient poetry of Job to the best-selling lists of our contemporary moment are grappling with this question, why bad things happen to good people.
                                         
                                        Here we open up in Section 121 with Joseph Smith wrestling with the same question.
                                         
                                        From a purely aesthetic point of view, from a purely literary point of view, it's striking to me that these moments evoke some of the most beautiful language in scripture.
                                         
                                        I was reading through the book of Job recently in anticipation of this conversation and was struck again and again by the majesty and beauty of his anguish and of his searching and of his determination.
                                         
                                        to persist, including going so far as to creating this beautiful poetry about the beauty of death
                                         
                                        compared to the pain that he's living. He goes into some pretty extreme places. That's true of
                                         
    
                                        these passages as well, that Joseph is capable, obviously, of beautiful language, but there's
                                         
                                        vividness here from a purely literary point of view that I think exceeds.
                                         
                                        most of his other language.
                                         
                                        He creates these images of God's Pavilion.
                                         
                                        He talks about lambs being stocked by ravenous wolves.
                                         
                                        He talks about being in the deep, billowing surge.
                                         
                                        He has this beautiful metaphor in Section 123 about large ships and small helms and turning
                                         
                                        into the wind and the waves.
                                         
    
                                        He talks about shackles and fetters and the puny arm of man compared to, you know,
                                         
                                        to the mighty Missouri River.
                                         
                                        This is an imagery, this is an evocative expression that can only come out when those
                                         
                                        deepest heartstrings are being plucked by the urgency of despair sometimes, at least of some
                                         
                                        suffering.
                                         
                                        If you just wanted to measure it on purely aesthetic grounds, you could come back to Tom Paine's
                                         
                                        line that heaven knows how to put a proper price upon its goods, that if you
                                         
                                        the beauty of this prophetic declaration is of great worth. It's not surprising that it came at
                                         
    
                                        great cost. That's a great introduction. When I think about this, it wasn't just Joseph,
                                         
                                        I'm hurting, I'm suffering, it's my people are out there. I'm hearing reports and I can't do
                                         
                                        anything. That question, how long? It's not, I'm not doubting God's existence.
                                         
                                        But what is the reason for this prolonged suffering?
                                         
                                        This is not doing anybody any good.
                                         
                                        But that question, how long I notice that Isaiah asks that when he gets his call,
                                         
                                        he's basically told that your mission to won't go well.
                                         
                                        And Isaiah says, how long?
                                         
    
                                        And the Lord says until the earth is wasted without inhabitant or something like that.
                                         
                                        Alma and Amulac are in prison.
                                         
                                        How long?
                                         
                                        the agony of waiting and knowing your people are suffering and you can't do anything about it.
                                         
                                        A lot of times we talk about Emma's comment about Joseph who could not dictate a well-worded letter
                                         
                                        or write a well-worded letter, but it just seems like he grew and he learned.
                                         
                                        When we see this language, we see a different Joseph.
                                         
                                        I think most of our listeners have probably heard of this BYU speech.
                                         
    
                                        it's from Elder Jeff Rear-Holland.
                                         
                                        Lessons from Liberty.
                                         
                                        Liberty Jail.
                                         
                                        He says, every one of us in one way or another,
                                         
                                        great or small, dramatic or incidental,
                                         
                                        is going to spend a little time in Liberty Jail, spiritually speaking.
                                         
                                        Then he says this,
                                         
                                        this is what David just said.
                                         
    
                                        You can have sacred, revelatory,
                                         
                                        profoundly instructive experience with the Lord
                                         
                                        in the most miserable experiences of your
                                         
                                        life in the worst settings while enduring the most painful injustices when facing the most insurmountable
                                         
                                        odds reminds me of Washington and opposition you have ever faced. A great thing to add to your
                                         
                                        study this week would be this BYU speech lessons from liberty jail. Every one of us is going to
                                         
                                        spend a little time in liberty jail. That's the message of this section and the message of the
                                         
                                        standard works generally, I think, because from beginning to end, they seem to witness to that
                                         
    
                                        effect. It's not always our tagline on the advertisements or the publicity material we put out
                                         
                                        there. You'll come and be assured that you'll have moments of suffering. A message from the
                                         
                                        church. Exactly. That's probably not straight out of Madison Avenue. But it is the message of
                                         
                                        scripture. I know it to be true. The Lord gives us some principles to guide us through those moments
                                         
                                        again and again. I'm not sure that those are articulated any more clearly anywhere in our canon
                                         
                                        than they are in these sections. I noted at the outset that one of the things he calls us to
                                         
                                        is perspective. He reminds Joseph that he still has friends. We know from multiple sources how important
                                         
                                        friendship was to Joseph. That was of central importance, not only to his own sense of life's
                                         
    
                                        enjoyment and survivability, but also to his sense of its theological significance. He said friendship
                                         
                                        is one of the grand principles of the faith. The sociality that exists among us here will exist
                                         
                                        among us there. It is an eternal principle. When God says,
                                         
                                        to Joseph, thy friends stand by thee, that for me is a indicator that the Lord knows how to speak
                                         
                                        to our particular need. I'm not sure if the Lord would have said that to everybody, in part because
                                         
                                        maybe friendship doesn't mean the same thing to everybody, but we know it was of the utmost value
                                         
                                        to Joseph, and the Lord speaks in specific ways to our specific hunger. The other thing that's
                                         
                                        beautiful about that is that beginning in section 84 as you're well aware the lord refers to
                                         
    
                                        joseph as his friend there is a kind of implication here when the lord says your friend stand by you
                                         
                                        that he's reminding him that i am your friend i stand by you there's a reference there in that same
                                         
                                        portion of the letter to job which reminds us that the lord draws from scripture
                                         
                                        in teaching us and from the experiences of others.
                                         
                                        Then, of course, ultimately, one of the primary ways
                                         
                                        or perhaps the culminating way
                                         
                                        that the Lord seeks to give us perspective
                                         
                                        is to remind us the experience of Christ
                                         
    
                                        who has descended below them all.
                                         
                                        Putting our suffering, putting our troubles
                                         
                                        into historical perspective
                                         
                                        to remind us that there are still things
                                         
                                        that we can cling to and hold to,
                                         
                                        which in Joseph's case includes friendship, which is so meaningful to him.
                                         
                                        That perspective, when we think that all is lost,
                                         
                                        when we think that nobody has suffered the way that we have suffered,
                                         
    
                                        when we think that nobody can understand the pain that we are feeling,
                                         
                                        the Lord patiently reminds us that that's not true.
                                         
                                        And in fact, it can never be true based on Alma 7,
                                         
                                        where the Lord has taken upon himself all the pains and sicknesses.
                                         
                                        of his people. That reminder in and of itself is of enormous potency in my mind as the Lord
                                         
                                        tries to help the prophet put his experience into that kind of perspective.
                                         
                                        Perspective is so difficult in pain. My son just recently left on a mission. The first
                                         
                                        18 and a half years seem to go by in the blink of an eye, but the next two seem to be in a
                                         
    
                                        eternity. My wife has to tell me, no, they'll go by pretty fast, just like these others. But at times
                                         
                                        the days go by slow in suffering. Hank texted me when his son left and said, you did this five
                                         
                                        times. Five times? Yeah. I remember on a lighter note, our friend George Durant, he wrote a book
                                         
                                        years ago called Get Ready, Get Called Go about missions. These chapsed,
                                         
                                        chapters were divided. Go for your mom. Go for your dad. Go for your siblings. Go for your ward. Go for the
                                         
                                        Lord. Something like this. One of his last lines was, go for a hundred reasons, but go for the glory of
                                         
                                        coming home. That's a moment, Hank. I'm so excited to have you experience that moment. I was watching
                                         
                                        some videos on my phone of some of my kids coming home. Then you get that idea, okay, maybe it was a
                                         
    
                                        small moment that's kind of coming up in verse.
                                         
                                        seven that fits john with verse nine your friends will hail thee again with warm hearts and friendly hands
                                         
                                        you'll see them again yeah john mentioned at the outset this question of how long how long until
                                         
                                        these promises can be fulfilled that puts me to mind of what must have been joseph's feeling in these
                                         
                                        opening verses. He begins with what may be a mistake, or at least maybe a failure of perspective.
                                         
                                        Maybe, maybe not. It seems to me that possible that he mistakes circumstance for God's feeling.
                                         
                                        He says, why isn't your heart softened toward us? As if to say, if I'm suffering that there must be a
                                         
                                        hardness to God's heart toward us, there are some passages of scripture that might
                                         
    
                                        reinforce that thinking, but there are so many others that suggest that we cannot equate
                                         
                                        the specifics of a circumstance to the nature of God's relationship to us. It reminds me a little
                                         
                                        bit of Moses 7, where Enoch wants to high-five God, that Zion has been redeemed, they've been
                                         
                                        taken up to heaven, and he finds a weeping God. Enoch says, why are you weeping? We've won. You've won.
                                         
                                        You're the best. We're the best.
                                         
                                        why are we not celebrating?
                                         
                                        And he said, don't you get it?
                                         
                                        Those are my children down there too.
                                         
    
                                        They hate each other.
                                         
                                        In that moment where God is detailing all of the crimes of humanity
                                         
                                        and the reason why he's weeping,
                                         
                                        even at that moment his heart is soft toward them.
                                         
                                        Even at that moment he is open to their suffering
                                         
                                        and seeking to save them.
                                         
                                        The idea that when we're suffering,
                                         
                                        it means God's heart is hard toward us,
                                         
    
                                        I think flies in the face.
                                         
                                        of the testimony of so much scripture, you think about Christ's compassion for his crucifiers,
                                         
                                        that even in the moment of ultimate betrayal and crucifixion, his heart is soft toward them.
                                         
                                        I think the passage is reminding us of the fallacy of assuming that suffering suggests God's
                                         
                                        displeasure or his closeness to our need.
                                         
                                        I had this experience once with a woman that I home taught when we lived in California.
                                         
                                        A remarkable woman, born in the South, and as with many African Americans migrated to the West Coast,
                                         
                                        work in the war industries, build a life in the Bay Area in some pretty difficult circumstances
                                         
    
                                        and seen a lot of pain in her life.
                                         
                                        I joined the church a couple of years before I moved into the ward, and then I was assigned to be her home teacher,
                                         
                                        and we grew very close.
                                         
                                        I was in grad school and had limited means
                                         
                                        and limited capacity to do too much for her.
                                         
                                        We tried, but it all felt so inadequate.
                                         
                                        I prayed and felt like I had an answer
                                         
                                        that God was going to provide something beautiful
                                         
    
                                        and glorious for Middy.
                                         
                                        And in my mind, I assumed that meant
                                         
                                        that I was going to go my material,
                                         
                                        circumstances were going to dramatically improve. I was going to have an opportunity to get her out of
                                         
                                        her circumstances. We'd have this beautiful experience together. And I remember getting the phone call
                                         
                                        one night that she'd passed away. And I remember just, you know, I'll confess, shaking my fist at
                                         
                                        heaven a little bit. You told me that she'd have this moment of glory. You told me that she'd have this
                                         
                                        moment of rest and relief. And I remember distinctly this sort of rebuking answer coming, you know,
                                         
    
                                        what do you think I'm doing for her now?
                                         
                                        This idea that we cannot confuse the appearances of the moment for the depth of God's love.
                                         
                                        The appearances of the moment will never be equal to the profundity of his care.
                                         
                                        Joseph's wondering if God's heart is hard toward his people
                                         
                                        is an opportunity for us to maybe reflect on that truth as God comes back to him in beginning in verse 7
                                         
                                        with such patience and such kindness and promises of great love.
                                         
                                        We read Scripture daily, yet when dark, hard things happen,
                                         
                                        it's almost our first question.
                                         
    
                                        What did I do wrong?
                                         
                                        Did I offend you?
                                         
                                        It's fascinating to me that I read scripture pretty frequently,
                                         
                                        yet it's almost always that first reaction.
                                         
                                        Why would you do this to me?
                                         
                                        I was trying hard, I promise, almost like you're convincing God
                                         
                                        but you're really trying to be good.
                                         
                                        Elder D. Todd Christofferson used a vending machine example once in general conference.
                                         
    
                                        The model of a vending machine is you put something in and something comes out immediately.
                                         
                                        For us, in life, you put something in and Job said how long, David said how long in the Psalms.
                                         
                                        Isaiah said how long?
                                         
                                        You could see us standing outside of a vending machine going, I did the right thing.
                                         
                                        How long until the dispensary comes?
                                         
                                        I remember to President Benson.
                                         
                                        What a great statement.
                                         
                                        He said, one of the trials of life is that we do not usually receive immediately the full blessing for righteousness or the full cursing for wickedness.
                                         
    
                                        He said that it will come, but it's certain.
                                         
                                        But oftentimes there is a waiting period that occurs, as was the case with Job.
                                         
                                        and with Joseph.
                                         
                                        That Joseph example,
                                         
                                        I run from Potipher's wife,
                                         
                                        yay, here comes my blessing.
                                         
                                        Yeah, years in prison.
                                         
                                        How long?
                                         
    
                                        Yeah.
                                         
                                        It's a tough question.
                                         
                                        It's interesting to me that part of the substance of that question
                                         
                                        is a recognition that it's the lack of knowledge.
                                         
                                        It's the lack of the ability to see the end from the beginning.
                                         
                                        that is so painful for us. It's the uncertainty of what's coming next, the uncertainty of
                                         
                                        each chapter of mortality, that sometimes is the most agonizing part of being mortal. We wish we knew
                                         
                                        exactly what was going to happen. I've actually said to the Lord, I think a time or two, I can take
                                         
    
                                        whatever it is, don't leave me a hangy. I need to know. Interesting to me about 121 is that
                                         
                                        actually provides a lot of promises of knowledge. If you look at verse 26, God shall give unto you
                                         
                                        knowledge by His Holy Spirit, yea, by the unspeakable gift of the Holy Ghost, that has not been
                                         
                                        revealed since the world was until now. Again, in verse 33, we've already referenced the vivid language
                                         
                                        here. It says, how long can rolling waters remain impure? What power shall stay the heavens? As well
                                         
                                        might man stretch forth his puny arm to stop the Missouri River in its decreed course, or to turn it
                                         
                                        upstream as to hinder the Almighty from pouring down knowledge from heaven upon the heads of the
                                         
                                        Latter-day Saints. In a sense, it's God's way of saying, not only am I not going to leave you
                                         
    
                                        suffering forever, I'm not going to leave you in the dark forever. Part of the promise is a promise
                                         
                                        of eventual understanding that knowledge will come and that nothing can stop that knowledge from coming
                                         
                                        according to God's decree.
                                         
                                        That particular verse, verse 33, is quite interesting.
                                         
                                        When I read it, sometimes I remember an experience being at Caesarea Philippi in the Holy Land,
                                         
                                        which is an interesting location.
                                         
                                        It's the setting for Matthew 16, where Jesus tells Peter that he is the rock and that he will have the keys of the kingdom.
                                         
                                        It's a big rock.
                                         
    
                                        the Lord's having an object lesson right there, this massive immovable stone that represents
                                         
                                        the foundation of God's work in the world. And it's also the area that's the headwaters for the Jordan
                                         
                                        River. You can see from a vantage point of some elevation how crucial that river is. There's this
                                         
                                        verdant stretch of vegetation and greenery wherever that river flows. Where the river doesn't flow,
                                         
                                        it's a very dry and somewhat desolate landscape. Then it ends in the Dead Sea, which is aptly named.
                                         
                                        That's where water stops flowing. It's almost as if when Jesus is talking to Peter, he's doing it
                                         
                                        not only with the object lesson of the rock sitting right there, this massive geological
                                         
                                        structure that underscores the power of his words. But he's also doing it at the headwaters of this
                                         
    
                                        life-giving river. Part of what he promises Peter is Revelation. He tells Peter that Revelation is
                                         
                                        the source of his testimony and this promise of revelatory continuation. As this river rolls
                                         
                                        through a dry and dusty land, and everywhere it goes, it brings life. As if to say, as long as
                                         
                                        revelation is flowing, as long as here it's the references to the Missouri River, the idea of the
                                         
                                        river as the flow of divine knowledge, as long as it's flowing, you will be all right. You will
                                         
                                        have the ability to navigate the things that life presents to you, but make sure you keep it
                                         
                                        flowing because in the places where it ceases to flow, the places where it stops, that's where
                                         
                                        trouble begins. So I think about the sacred landscape of the Savior's life, thinking about the use
                                         
    
                                        of these local images to be object lessons here. Joseph's using the Missouri, but Jesus was using
                                         
                                        the Jordan. But the principle is the same, which is that truth flows. And when truth flows,
                                         
                                        we're going to be okay. And we need to make sure that we keep it flowing. Life without it is not life.
                                         
                                        It's interesting that in the depths of this despairing moment, one of the things that the Lord promises Joseph is the continuing revelation of divine knowledge.
                                         
                                        That's a perspective changer.
                                         
                                        I was looking at Section 121, verse 1 and verse 2, where are you?
                                         
                                        How long?
                                         
                                        And then you go to the very end, and it's let us cheerfully do all things that lie in our power.
                                         
    
                                        So his perspective definitely changes.
                                         
                                        that's got to be one of the factors is revelation is not stopping.
                                         
                                        No one can stop it.
                                         
                                        I love what David said.
                                         
                                        Your friends stand by the end.
                                         
                                        I am one of them for the Savior to say that.
                                         
                                        What would that do for you?
                                         
                                        I mean, there's some interesting verses right here in verses 28 through 31 or so.
                                         
    
                                        Partly, this is about a very intimate moment.
                                         
                                        It's a prophet and his God, and they are working out this critical moment of pain and frustration.
                                         
                                        And to John's point, I jotted down my notes as well, the desperation of leadership feel like you're responsible for people that you now can't help.
                                         
                                        So it's a very specific and very intimate moment, but it also expands outward to remind us that God is also the God of the universe.
                                         
                                        He's also the God of powers and principalities.
                                         
                                        if there be bound set to the heavens or to the seas or to the dry land or to the sun, moon, or stars,
                                         
                                        a reminder that he's in control of the big things as well as the intimate moments of a particular person's pain.
                                         
                                        My father was called as a general authority.
                                         
    
                                        At that time, he was still serving as president of BYU.
                                         
                                        There was about a, he was called the April conference, and I don't think he wrapped up his
                                         
                                        BYU responsibilities till July. So there was a period of months there where he was already
                                         
                                        getting assignments as a general officer of the church and still trying to run a university.
                                         
                                        And I just remember those being trying times, difficult times. He was feeling pretty inadequate
                                         
                                        to his call. He'd spoken about that publicly, so I think I could mention it. But in the midst of all
                                         
                                        that, the midst of his own struggle with his own sense of inadequacy and with the
                                         
                                        demands of his circumstance. He knew that this change also entailed a move for me that I would
                                         
    
                                        have to move from Provo to Bountiful, which doesn't sound like a massive move, if anybody knows
                                         
                                        the geography of the state, but to me it felt like a massive move. He knew that at that point
                                         
                                        in my life, all I really cared about was football. I loved playing football and had dreams of
                                         
                                        glory. I made up for being small by being slow, so that wasn't a good combination. But it didn't
                                         
                                        hamper my ambition. So he knew this move was bringing some disruption to the things I cared
                                         
                                        about, including this high school football team I was on. He knew that two a day, I don't think
                                         
                                        they, I think by law you can't do two a days in the summer anymore, but this was back in the
                                         
                                        olden times when they didn't care about kids. We did these two a day practice set.
                                         
    
                                        sessions. He would drive me up there. We were still living in Provo. He'd drive me up there,
                                         
                                        go into the office in Salt Lake. I'd find a way to kill time between the two sessions and to come
                                         
                                        back to get me after the second session. I understand after the fact sort of the depth of the spiritual
                                         
                                        struggle he was in trying to rise to the moment and how really deep and difficult that was.
                                         
                                        But I didn't, you know, I was a 15-year-old, selfish, self-centered kid, sort of mad that we were moving.
                                         
                                        But he faithfully took me to those practices.
                                         
                                        And I remember we were driving home one day, and I was feeling a little discouraged.
                                         
                                        And he was feeling a little discouraged.
                                         
    
                                        He calls me Duff.
                                         
                                        He said, Duff, read us a scripture.
                                         
                                        There was a little blue Book of Mormon in the pocket of the car, as there often seemed to be.
                                         
                                        And I picked it up and just randomly open to Enos.
                                         
                                        Enos 12, as a matter of fact, that says, you know, you'll have the desires of your heart
                                         
                                        because your prayer of faith.
                                         
                                        And I remember us both being moved in that moment, kind of feeling it again.
                                         
                                        Now that I look back on it, the enormity of the difference between our areas of concern.
                                         
    
                                        You had somebody that was trying to run a 30,000-plus student university and take on a new calling.
                                         
                                        Then you had a guy, then you had a sophomore in high school who was trying to get on a football team.
                                         
                                        You know, you think about the dramatic contrasts between those, the macro and the micro, the global and the self-centered.
                                         
                                        And yet that verse of scripture was designed to speak to both of us.
                                         
                                        God loved us both in the place that we were in the grand scheme of things.
                                         
                                        Perhaps my little high school worries were as important to the Lord as my father's global concerns.
                                         
                                        He sent the same verse to both of us in the same moment.
                                         
                                        In Section 121, we see both parts of God.
                                         
    
                                        We see him in the details of the particular wrongs and the particular challenges.
                                         
                                        We also have him remind us, and also I am the God of the planets.
                                         
                                        I'm the God of the universe.
                                         
                                        I have control over all of these things.
                                         
                                        And we get to those parts of the section that we often quote when we're talking about leadership.
                                         
                                        You quoted them, Hank, when you were introducing John some of his characteristics.
                                         
                                        It talks about there are many called, but few are chosen beginning of verse 34.
                                         
                                        Why are they not chosen?
                                         
    
                                        Because their hearts are so much upon the things of this world and aspire to the honors of men.
                                         
                                        It goes on to talk about the rights of the priesthood being inextricably bound to the principles of righteousness and the ways in which we can abuse that.
                                         
                                        Then it gives us a reminder, a warning about human nature.
                                         
                                        And this is part of what I was alluding to at the outset about the universality of the things
                                         
                                        that are being taught here, because the Lord wants to tell us something about our tendencies.
                                         
                                        It is the nature and disposition of almost all men that as soon as they get a little authority,
                                         
                                        they will immediately begin to exercise unrighteous dominion.
                                         
                                        Part of my area of historical research is the Puritan period.
                                         
    
                                        I think about the Puritan.
                                         
                                        There's a lot to be said about the Puritan.
                                         
                                        Prows and cons, and history is always complicated, and cultures are often equal parts light and dark.
                                         
                                        But one of the things that I've come to appreciate about Puritan theology, this Calvinist theology, that they carried, was its warning about human nature.
                                         
                                        I think as moderns as products of the 20th and now 21st centuries, we've inherited a kind of optimism.
                                         
                                        and people are intrinsically good and human nature leans toward the positive.
                                         
                                        There's a sort of Americanness to that, that positivity about human nature,
                                         
                                        which is all well and good.
                                         
    
                                        We are created in the image of God, and we have divine DNA and all the things that I believe.
                                         
                                        But the Lord will occasionally, as King Benjamin does,
                                         
                                        to remind us about the natural man being an enemy to God,
                                         
                                        or as this passage does, remind us to take care,
                                         
                                        that there are tendencies in us that are dangerous.
                                         
                                        I remember being in a bishopbrick many years ago
                                         
                                        when a member of another bishopbrick had had some trouble.
                                         
                                        And I remember the state president just speaking to all the bishop's saying,
                                         
    
                                        we're all subject.
                                         
                                        We are all subject to these temptations.
                                         
                                        We are all subject to human nature.
                                         
                                        And we have to take care.
                                         
                                        We have to recognize our own imperfection.
                                         
                                        It's interesting that in this section, God reminds us of those tendencies, God reminds us of human nature's capacity for corruption, then tells us to lean into the better parts of ourselves, the angels of our better nature, remind us about persuasion and long-suffering and gentleness and meekness and love unfaind and kindness and pure knowledge, and to avoid hypocrisy and to avoid guile, and then to show an increase of love even when we have to reprove with sharpness.
                                         
                                        You see these two parts of humanity's capacity, the beauty of verses 41 through 43, and then the dangers of the verses that precede it, and a call to be committed to our best selves and to be mindful of our weaknesses.
                                         
                                        This reminds me, I brought this with me today, a talk from general conference, continue in patience.
                                         
    
                                        This is President Uptorf, speaking at priesthood session.
                                         
                                        He said, there is a reason that almost every lesson on priesthood leadership at some point
                                         
                                        arrives at the 121 section of the Doctor in Covenants.
                                         
                                        In a few verses, the Lord provides a master course in priesthood leadership.
                                         
                                        He quotes what you just quoted, verse 41.
                                         
                                        The character traits and practices described in these verses are the foundation of godly
                                         
                                        patients and are inseparably connected to effective priesthood service.
                                         
                                        These attributes will give you strength and wisdom.
                                         
    
                                        in magnifying your callings, in preaching the gospel, in fellowshiping core members,
                                         
                                        and in giving the most important priesthood service, which is indeed the loving service within
                                         
                                        the walls of your own homes. It really is in one or two verses a master class in not just
                                         
                                        priesthood leadership, leadership in general, in parenting, how to have influence. In today's
                                         
                                        terms, the word influencer has become a common word. I think this is the Lord saying, you want to be
                                         
                                        an influencer. This is how you do it.
                                         
                                        And quite candidly, quite explicitly says there's no other way.
                                         
                                        These other ways simply are no way at all.
                                         
    
                                        That's a pretty stark reminder to us.
                                         
                                        I was serving as a bishop in Las Vegas in 2008.
                                         
                                        I was called and 2008 was a terrible financial time for the country in general.
                                         
                                        for Las Vegas in particular.
                                         
                                        I was relatively young.
                                         
                                        It was 34 at the time I was called.
                                         
                                        Didn't have a lot of life experience.
                                         
                                        Suddenly I was responsible for this ward
                                         
    
                                        that was in financial peril, financial crisis.
                                         
                                        I was running around trying to keep the lights on
                                         
                                        and keep people housed and fed.
                                         
                                        And I remember feeling quite overwhelmed.
                                         
                                        And I was out on a walk
                                         
                                        in the desert sunrise in my head and wrestling with these concerns.
                                         
                                        I had been praying for confidence.
                                         
                                        I felt a lack of confidence to really go in and help people with clear sense of purpose
                                         
    
                                        and knowing what I was doing and some clarity of plan for this situation.
                                         
                                        And I'd been praying for confidence and praying for confidence and didn't feel it coming.
                                         
                                        And as I was out on my walk, this verse came to my mind in verse.
                                         
                                        45, let thy bowels also be full of charity towards all men and to the household of faith,
                                         
                                        and let virtue garnish thy thoughts unceasingly, and then shall thy confidence wax strong in the
                                         
                                        presence of God. It occurred to me on this walk that I'd been praying for the wrong thing.
                                         
                                        I'd been praying for confidence, and it wasn't coming. The Lord says here that confidence is a product
                                         
                                        of charity. Let your bows be full of charity. There's some link.
                                         
    
                                        between the depth of our love and the confidence that we bring in our effort to help people,
                                         
                                        I began to pray for more charity for my award, more charity for the people. And as my love grew,
                                         
                                        I found myself acting with greater confidence. And I don't know exactly what the relationship is
                                         
                                        there, except that in the purification of motive and in the depth of strong feeling for one
                                         
                                        another, I think there is strength. There's power in that. I've also always been struck that,
                                         
                                        You know, the first part of that verse, let thy bowels be full of charity toward all men and to the
                                         
                                        household of faith. I've often wondered why that formulation is as it is. Wouldn't the household
                                         
                                        of faith be included in all people? That seems pretty comprehensive. But then again, and maybe
                                         
    
                                        this is a reflection on some time as a bishop or other callings that are involved in the councils
                                         
                                        of the church. I've been struck a time or two in ward councils that sometimes we're bending over
                                         
                                        backwards to be charitable and patient with people that never really darken the door of the building,
                                         
                                        and yet we're really impatient and sharp with the person sitting next to us. Maybe the Lord knows
                                         
                                        what he's doing when he says, look, yeah, I want you to love everybody, but you also need to love
                                         
                                        the household of faith, because these are the people that we work with and worship with. It reminds me
                                         
                                        that passage in the screw tape letters when they're talking about how to tempt a person
                                         
                                        that's sitting at church. And they said, well, just remind him that his neighbors on the pew
                                         
    
                                        are annoying. Just remind him that the people that he's worshiping with are imperfect. It's interesting
                                         
                                        that the Lord reminds us here that in our charity for all people that we should include the household
                                         
                                        of faith. It's, I think, quite telling that we need to be reminded of that a time or two.
                                         
                                        Yeah, these are the ones you're going to bump up against the most, most likely.
                                         
                                        We had a wonderful interview last year with Dr. Melissa in a way, a historian for the church.
                                         
                                        She talked about Mosiah 18, about the church coming together as the church.
                                         
                                        What did she say, John, you and she both, it was funny, the Lord, he commands us to love our enemies, so he puts them in our war.
                                         
                                        So many enemies, one convenient location.
                                         
    
                                        But the idea is, I think, David, that's what you're saying.
                                         
                                        It's almost easier to love someone you never see, you never really talk to, yet here's the neighbor next door who made that comment in Sunday school that I just can't get past.
                                         
                                        As a young person, I felt like there was some missing punctuation or something in some of these verses, like verse 36, the rights of the priesthood are inseparably connected with the powers of heaven.
                                         
                                        and that the powers of heaven cannot be controlled nor handled,
                                         
                                        I felt like semicolon, only upon the principles of righteousness.
                                         
                                        Do you see it that way?
                                         
                                        I see what you're saying, yep.
                                         
                                        Then it made sense to me, okay, cannot be controlled nor handled only.
                                         
    
                                        No, cannot be controlled or handled only upon the principles of righteousness.
                                         
                                        And then I just love this line, that they may be conferred upon us, it is true.
                                         
                                        Okay, I may have been ordained.
                                         
                                        But then the word amen, that sounds like sainara.
                                         
                                        Sianara to the priest and authority of that man, if you try to cover your sins, gratify your pride, your vain ambition, or to exercise control or dominion, then you may have been ordained, but you don't have the priesthood.
                                         
                                        And this idea of formal authority, perhaps versus moral authority, when you do any of that, you don't have the priesthood anymore.
                                         
                                        Oh, you may have been ordained, but you don't have it, which is so different than maybe the way we think of leadership in other settings like at work or in the military or something like that.
                                         
                                        So when you see amen to the priesthood authority, that man, you get the same meaning, right?
                                         
    
                                        It's like, that's done.
                                         
                                        There's a story.
                                         
                                        Elder Hugh Pinoc gave a talk at BYU in the 70s, if you can imagine such a thing, Hank.
                                         
                                        It's like 10 keys to marriage and family relationships, and he talked about a couple coming in to see him.
                                         
                                        We're talking about a church with two and a half, three million members, a long time ago, a husband saying, tell her she has to obey me because I have the priesthood.
                                         
                                        Elder Pinoc, when this man said, tell her she has to obey me, he just looked at him and said, you don't have the priesthood.
                                         
                                        He said, yes, I do.
                                         
                                        I was ordained.
                                         
    
                                        When was that, Ethel, right?
                                         
                                        and he just kept saying you don't have the priesthood he said i guess i don't know what you mean and guess
                                         
                                        what elder pinoc opened right here and read this to him you don't have the priesthood if you
                                         
                                        are behaving that way this was in a marriage relationship i never forgot that idea this is a different
                                         
                                        kind of power and authority these verses are so good and so profound you said it hank about
                                         
                                        How do we influence others?
                                         
                                        And then we have this beautiful list in verse 41.
                                         
                                        The other thing I wanted to mention was I'm kind of a nerd when it comes to this.
                                         
    
                                        I'm looking at the footnotes here.
                                         
                                        I had Robert J. Matthews for a professor for a time.
                                         
                                        He talked about being on the scriptures publication committee that put out our edition of the scriptures.
                                         
                                        So it was exciting to me to see if this has 27 lines of footnotes, this is doctrinally
                                         
                                        rich. It's like one of those Second Eify 9, Second Eify 2. Second Eify 9, Mosaic 3. Yeah. There's one page in the Old
                                         
                                        Testament that has zero footnotes. Guess what it is? Yeah, it's the Song of Solomon. Song of
                                         
                                        Solomon. But this is doctrinally rich. Ought to be read slowly. When I read verse 39 and I'm looking inward,
                                         
                                        I kind of hear this. We have learned by sad experience.
                                         
    
                                        that is the nature and disposition of almost all men, including you, Hank, as soon as you
                                         
                                        became a parent, you immediately began to exercise in righteous dominion.
                                         
                                        When you have someone like a child who is dependent upon you, you have complete control of the situation,
                                         
                                        and you use that control in a way to almost take shortcuts.
                                         
                                        I don't want to build the relationship.
                                         
                                        That takes too long.
                                         
                                        I will make you do these things because I'm in charge.
                                         
                                        I'm the dad.
                                         
    
                                        I said so.
                                         
                                        Those shortcuts end up costing you enormous sums in the long run.
                                         
                                        Because the pup grows up, right?
                                         
                                        There is no substitute for the ratio that's described in 43,
                                         
                                        reproving betimes with sharpness, but then showing forth afterward an increase of love.
                                         
                                        the idea that the proportionality of truth and grace, love and doctrine, these things have to be
                                         
                                        overwhelmingly on the love relationship side of that ledger in order for any of the rest of it
                                         
                                        to have any kind of positive meaning.
                                         
    
                                        Yeah.
                                         
                                        I have in my notes, Elder H. Burke Peterson, I think he was Bishop, H. Burke Peterson at one time
                                         
                                        presiding bishop.
                                         
                                        Yeah.
                                         
                                        he actually said that the word sharpness is maybe misunderstood he said perhaps we should consider
                                         
                                        what it means to approve with sharpness reproving with sharpness means reproving with clarity
                                         
                                        with loving firmness with serious intent it does not mean reproving with sarcasm or with bitterness
                                         
                                        or with clenched teeth and a raised voice i've appreciated that idea giving real clarity it's not
                                         
    
                                        Oh, you're fine, never mind.
                                         
                                        Oh, no, it's reproving, but it's with clarity.
                                         
                                        I had a student once tell me that clarity was kindness.
                                         
                                        I was being a little vague in my expectations of the course, and she said,
                                         
                                        clarity is kindness.
                                         
                                        Interesting.
                                         
                                        I talked about myself being a parent.
                                         
                                        I'll give you an example, and I hope there's some parents out there that can see themselves here.
                                         
    
                                        But I think my daughter was 15 or so, and she's on the couch, and she was on her phone,
                                         
                                        and I had a big pile of dishes.
                                         
                                        John, I'm sure you've heard me tell this story.
                                         
                                        I said, hey, you want to help me with the dishes?
                                         
                                        She turned and looked at me and said, no.
                                         
                                        I went back to her phone.
                                         
                                        That's content communication right there.
                                         
                                        Do you want to?
                                         
    
                                        Nope.
                                         
                                        Okay.
                                         
                                        I should have thought to myself, how can I have more influence?
                                         
                                        How can I be more long-suffering and gentle and kind?
                                         
                                        But I didn't.
                                         
                                        I went immediately to unrighteous dominion.
                                         
                                        I said, hey, we're going to make a new rule.
                                         
                                        It's one of the best parts about being a parent, right?
                                         
    
                                        I can make a brand new rule.
                                         
                                        New law.
                                         
                                        She who does not help with the dishes doesn't get to use her phone.
                                         
                                        I said, now do you want to help me with the dishes, right?
                                         
                                        And she said, yes, right?
                                         
                                        And she came over.
                                         
                                        We didn't build the relationship at all.
                                         
                                        I was really disappointed in her for not wanting to be my friend.
                                         
    
                                        That is, to me, what the Lord is saying here is, it may feel like you may,
                                         
                                        progress. You made no progress. In fact, you took a step back. It digressed maybe. Yeah. You heard the
                                         
                                        relationship in your unrighteous dominion, but it's such a natural tendency, like David said,
                                         
                                        it's inside of us. Lean into the best part of ourselves. I wrote that down. Well, I think that's a
                                         
                                        constant effort. I mean, if it is part of our nature, which this section seems to suggest,
                                         
                                        It also means that it's a constant effort, maybe a lifelong effort, maybe even longer than life effort, to fully come to embody verses 41, 42, and completely eliminate verses 37 from our life.
                                         
                                        You think, oh, I'm a good person, I'm a church leader.
                                         
                                        This would not happen to me in my church leadership.
                                         
    
                                        Yet there are stories of the best among us hurting those in their flock, mission person.
                                         
                                        presidents, hurting missionaries and state presidents and bishops in a moment of anger saying
                                         
                                        something. It's hard. This is one of those, David, where I frequently say this to John,
                                         
                                        if we just get this section from Joseph Smith, who is this? Right? Who is this? This is
                                         
                                        incredible. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's true. I would love to hear what you both think about the difference
                                         
                                        between being called and chosen. I have always wondered exactly what that meant. Behold, there are many
                                         
                                        called, but few are chosen. How do you guys perceive that? Maybe I'm resting the scriptures here,
                                         
                                        but I've always rephrased it, as many are called, but few show up. The sign up sheet is full,
                                         
    
                                        but the attendance is lacking. Yeah, I have in my margin, many sign up, few show up. Maybe that was from
                                         
                                        four years ago.
                                         
                                        Yeah.
                                         
                                        I'm not sure that it really matches the language here,
                                         
                                        but I've thought a lot about the passages of scripture
                                         
                                        where the Lord says,
                                         
                                        and then you shall be the children of God,
                                         
                                        which has always been in tension
                                         
    
                                        with this doctrine and theology of ours
                                         
                                        that we're all already the children of God.
                                         
                                        So why do the scriptures sometimes make it sound like that's contingent?
                                         
                                        that by certain actions we become the children of God.
                                         
                                        I wonder if sometimes it's not so much that there are really substantive differences
                                         
                                        between the words called and chosen any more than there are substantive differences
                                         
                                        between being the child of God in I am a child of God, children's Him,
                                         
                                        or being the child of God described in Romans 8, which says,
                                         
    
                                        then we shall become the children of God.
                                         
                                        For me, maybe the analogy is when somebody says to one of my children, wow, you're really your mother's daughter.
                                         
                                        Of course she is, right?
                                         
                                        Yeah, right.
                                         
                                        But when you say that, you mean that, yeah, you have chosen to act the way that she acts.
                                         
                                        The words are the same, but the relationship is different, and we all sort of know what that means.
                                         
                                        Maybe calling and choosing in terms of their actual dictionary definitions are not all that different.
                                         
                                        But in this context, it's like being a child of God or being a child of God that we have chosen to hear that calling.
                                         
    
                                        And that's what makes the difference.
                                         
                                        Coming up in part two.
                                         
                                        My own view is to whitewash or to shy away from history is to.
                                         
                                        rewrite God's work in the world. The fact that people are blemished and histories are
                                         
                                        challenging. As we have just been discussing in these sections, God does not want us to
                                         
                                        shy away from the dark and difficult things.
                                         
