Fresh Air - Emma Stone / Mark Ruffalo

Episode Date: March 8, 2024

Emma Stone has two Oscar nominations for Poor Things: One for best actress and one for best picture, as a producer. She spoke with Terry Gross about working with an intimacy coordinator and why she sees her anxiety as a superpower. Mark Ruffalo plays a debauched cad opposite Emma Stone in the movie. The role was a big departure from his previous work playing real people, in dramas like Spotlight or Foxcatcher, or as the Incredible Hulk in the Marvel movies. The Oscar-nominated actor spoke with Sam Briger. For sponsor-free episodes of Fresh Air — and exclusive weekly bonus episodes, too — subscribe to Fresh Air+ via Apple Podcasts or at https://plus.npr.org/freshairLearn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoicesNPR Privacy Policy

This is Fresh Air. I'm David Bianculli. The Academy Awards are Sunday, and today we conclude our series of interviews with Oscar nominees. The film Poor Things has been nominated for 11 Oscars, including Best Picture, Director, Adapted Screenplay, Production Design, and Actress and Supporting Actor. Today, we start with an interview with Emma Stone, who stars in the film. Terry spoke with her in January. Here's Terry. My guest Emma Stone is nominated for an Oscar for her starring role in Poor Things. She won an Oscar for her performance in the movie musical La La Land, starring opposite Ryan Gosling,

and was nominated for Oscars for her performances in Birdman and The Favourite. She co-stars in the new streaming series The Curse. She's been acting since she was 11 and was so determined to make acting a central part of her life, she convinced her parents to let her be homeschooled so she could devote more time to acting, and then convinced them at the age of 15 to go to L.A. so she could go to auditions. Although she did not have a conventional high school experience, she first became known for two movies about high school kids, Superbad and Easy A.

In addition to her nomination for Poor Things, the film is also nominated for Best Picture, which means she is nominated for a second Oscar because she is a producer of the film. She plays Bella, a woman who has died by suicide jumping off a bridge. She's brought back to life by a weird surgeon played by Willem Defoe. Defoe's experiment is reanimating Bella and giving her the brain of an infant. She's trained and taught over time by the surgeon's assistant, but she never quite grasps the rules of society.

When she discovers her genitals and pleasures herself, she demonstrates this discovery to her trainer. And when her brain develops into a young adult brain, she leaves the surgeon and her mentor to go on an adventure while traveling with a man who has become obsessed with her, played by Mark Ruffalo. He claims to be a prosperous sophisticate who can't be tied down. But in Paris, when his money is gone, Bella decides to earn money by working in a brothel, where she can learn what other men are like sexually. In this scene, she's just left the brothel with some money after her first sexual encounter there. She meets up with Ruffalo, and he's in despair because he's now broke,

and he's appalled when he learns what she's just done. I took his money, I thanked him, I laughed all the way to Fires of Easy Clares, and I thought so fondly, remembering the fierce, sweaty nights of ours. You f***ed for money. And as an experiment? And it is good for our relationship as it gladdens my heart toward you. My heart has been a bit dim

on your weepy, sweary person lately. You are a monster, a horned monster, a demon sent from hell to rip my spirit to shreds, to punish my tiny sins with a tsunami of destruction, to take my heart and pull it like torpy to ruin me. I look at you and I see nothing but ugliness.

That last bit was uncalled for and makes no sense, as your odes to my beauty have been boring but constant. And this simple act erased all that. You hoard yourself. What you are now going to explain to me is bad. Can I never win with you? It is the worst thing a woman can do. We should definitely never marry.

I'm a flawed, experimenting person, and I will need a husband with a more forgiving disposition. Emma Stone, welcome to Fresh Air. I love this movie and your performance in it. And the film, it's like really interesting and also really funny, which I hope people got a sense of from that clip. So, you know, the movie is in part what women's lives would be like if they weren't socialized, to have shame about sexuality, and if people weren't taught that it was impolite to talk about sex in public. And I'm wondering what it got you thinking about in terms of your life and how you were brought up about your body and sexuality and independence. Well, thank you for having me, first of all.

Nice pleasure, yes. This is lovely to get the chance to be here. I'm from Phoenix, Arizona, and I was born in 1988. So the majority of my childhood took place in the 90s. And I definitely didn't think the way that Bella does. I didn't have that sort of freedom and acceptance in the same way around sexuality. But as time has gone on, I think that it's been very illuminating to me. I mean, one of the conversations that I've talked a lot about, having worked with quite a few European people or people that were raised in cultures where nudity and sexuality is not as shame-filled, I guess. It's been very interesting, you know, and also talking to Yorgos, who's Greek, our director, it always kind of startles him how much violence is acceptable in sort of American

media, but sexuality is, you know, really looked down upon, like as if watching someone die on screen is less challenging than watching someone experience pleasure. Yeah, it's definitely expanded my mind more as I've gotten older too and sort of broken out of, you know, religion and things like that that I was exposed to at a younger age. So it sounds like making poor things was a great antidote to the kind of religious constrictions and guilt that you felt growing up, because your character is so uninhibited, because no one has ever told her what

she's supposed to be inhibited about. Which leads me to the sexual scenes. I mean, because your character is sexually uninhibited, you had to be uninhibited portraying her. And you were offered an intimacy coordinator. And at first you rejected the idea and didn't think you needed it because you knew the director so well. But then you reconsidered and had an intimacy coordinator. How was it helpful? Beyond useful. Well, first of all, I don't think having an intimacy coordinator is even a choice anymore. I think in the past five years, the industry has changed a lot for the better. And, you know, I did think, okay, well, Yorgos and I have made three films together.

I feel very comfortable with him. The DP, Robbie Ryan, and I, we did The Favorite together, feel comfortable with him. Our first AD is a woman, Hayley, who's incredible. Our focus puller is a woman. You know, I felt like I'll be fine in this circumstance, and these are my friends, and I know everybody well. But when Elle McAlpine came in, our intimacy coordinator, I could not, I felt so stupid that I thought that that wouldn't be a necessary situation because she was so, having her there felt like having both a safety net and a choreographer and a hand to hold. And, you know, she and I would text after a day of doing some of these scenes

and just sort of say how we were feeling and what was going on. And it was just this really beautiful relationship that I found extremely, extremely meaningful. What do you think she protected you from? I don't think it was protection from any of the experiences that I was having on set. I think it was almost like an emotional protection. It was like a safe place and someone who really has not only done this as a job for a long time, but who has studied what psychologically happens to your body when you're

in these circumstances. I remember reading something once that an actor on stage doing a very, you know, dramatic scene and having meltdowns and doing monologues for 90 minutes a night just in theater, your body feels like it's the equivalent of going through something like a car crash because your heart is racing. You're having these like big physical reactions to these emotions that you're kind of asking yourself to go through. And I think even when you know you're acting, when you know none of this is real, there's no real sex happening. This is all choreographed. Everyone here is a very safe place. You sometimes underestimate what your body is going through separately. And so I didn't even really give credence to that before

I had been through this experience. And Elle and I being able to kind of talk about that, washing the day away, taking a shower at the end of the day, and sort of releasing that for my own body was extremely helpful. So Bella, your character doesn't understand emotions like jealousy and anxiety. You suffered from anxiety and panic attacks as a child, starting, I think, at age seven. Can you describe what a panic a lot of people feel like they're dying or that the walls are closing in on them. And I certainly have had those types of panic attacks. I've had probably hundreds throughout my life. So my very first one, when I was seven, I was at a friend's house, and all of a sudden, I was just sitting in her room, and I had this deep knowing that the house was on fire. I believed the house was on fire, despite all evidence to the contrary.

And my chest just started tightening, and I was like, we have to get out of the house. The house is burning down. The house is burning down. The house is burning down. And I ended up calling my mom who didn't understand what was going was getting really hard for me to leave the house to go to school. I sort of lived in fear of these panic attacks. What were you afraid of about going to school? I think just I had massive separation anxiety from my mom. That was a large part, I think, of what was setting off my anxiety. I, for some reason, had convinced myself that if I wasn't watching out for her, that

something terrible could happen to her. So anxiety, as the interesting beast that it is, it feels like intuition, even though it's irrational. And it's a hard age to be able to sort of reason with yourself at seven or eight and tell yourself these things aren't true. So it was very hard to convince myself otherwise. So going to school meant that I would have to be away from her for hours in the day. And if I couldn't keep an eye on her, what could happen? As if I was the parent and she in the day. And if I couldn't keep an eye on her, what could happen as if I was the parent and she was the child? Exactly. Like what were you going to do exactly to help her when you were seven? No idea. No idea. But that's that, you know, strange thing that happens with kids when,

you know, you sort of, it's irrational. These things are irrational. It's just this, you're convinced of certain things with anxiety. And it's a tough one to unpack until you have sort of the tools to do it or the understanding of it through therapy, which I was so grateful that, you know, I didn't want to go to therapy. But I found it really, really life-changing. Therapy is a very private experience. So I don't want you to share things. I'm not asking you to share things that are too private to be shared. But if there are any like tools or approaches that you were taught in therapy that you felt like sharing, I'd love to

hear it and they might be helpful to others to hear. Yeah. So as a kid, I mean, one of the things that the child psychologist had me do was, you know, there's a lot of drawing pictures and playing games and things nine, I wrote a little book in therapy called I Am Bigger Than My Anxiety. And it was, you know, a bunch of drawings that I've never been an artist in that respect. So they're very crude drawings. But the idea was externalizing the anxiety as this little green monster that lives on your shoulder. And the more you listen to this, the bigger this monster grows, the more power it has. But as you feel the fear and kind of do it anyway and continue to push through, the monster kind of shrinks and shrinks and shrinks. And I think that externalization, that making it that it's not you, it's a part of you, but it's not you, was very helpful.

Where does acting fit into this? Like when you are acting, when you started acting as a kid, you were 11, I think, when you started performing. Do you feel like you were escaping yourself and therefore out of your anxiety and escaping your body because your body became controlled by the character? No, if anything, the opposite. I felt like I, and I've understood it more over the years, because I think I've heard a lot of actors talk about, and maybe that's because they're doing these big dramatic kind of cathartic roles, and I'm drawn much more to comedy or now dark comedy. I felt like every reaction in my body

is permitted. All of my big feelings are productive and presence is required. So it's like a meditation because anxiety lives solely in the past or the future, you know, either future tripping or past tripping, you know, things you can't control on either side. And acting requires you to be so present, to listen, to be looking at the other person, to be living in the experience and living in your body. And that was the huge gift of it to me and remains the huge gift of it to me to this day. But that's the thing, because it's like your job, it gives you permission. It makes it obligatory to be in the moment. It's like you can't say, well, I can't control it because I'm worried about the past. It's like your job is to focus on now. Exactly. So you've got to is to focus on now. Exactly.

So you've got to pass. What a gift. Exactly. It's a productive use of it. And I've told a lot of younger people that struggle with anxiety that in many ways I see it as kind of a superpower because I think that you have a lot of big feelings if you're anxious. You have a certain level. and I say this to kids, I don't mean this about myself because I'm a dodo with anxiety, but I do think that it requires a certain level of intelligence about the world. really is taking it in and really feels a lot of empathy and no anxiety comes with that. And so just because we might have a funny thing going on in our amygdala, you know, and our fight or flight response is maybe a little bit out of whack in comparison to many people's, you know, brain chemistry, it doesn't make it wrong. It doesn't make it bad. It just means we

have these tools to manage. And if you can use it for productive things, if you can use all of those feelings and those synapses that are firing for something creative or something that you're passionate about or something interesting, anxiety is like rocket fuel because you can't help but get out of bed and do things, do things, do things because you've got all of this energy within you. And that's really a gift. So you lobbied your parents when you were, what, 11 or 12 to pressure them to homeschool you so you could focus on acting. And you prepared a presentation. Can you tell us what was in the presentation?

So the first one was just about how homeschooling can be really beneficial and could be really helpful. And, you know, this was year 2000. And so there was kind of a beginning of internet being available for schooling. And I was doing play after play after play at this place called Valley Youth Theater, which I was just obsessed. And it was something I wanted to focus kind of all my time and energy on. And then the second presentation when I was 15 was a PowerPoint to move to LA forA. for pilot season to try to be an actor professionally. They bought the idea.

They did, which is also crazy, crazy stuff. Your parents sound like really cool people. They are. I mean, I know that none of this, obviously, would be possible without their support, especially at that age. I mean, it wasn't like I had graduated high school and I said, okay, bye, I'm taking a plane or taking a bus or driving myself out to LA to try to do this. It was impossible without their support. So I was extremely, extremely lucky to have the opportunity to do that. I'm thinking your gut gave you really true and really false

information. Terry, the story of my life. I mean, you got to, this is what I talk about in therapy on a weekly basis. Well, because he gave you really false information about the house burning down and all the panic attacks about things that weren't really happening. And it gave you true information that your calling was to act, and you should go audition. I know. It's interesting because over the years, I've been trying to understand that if it feels like my heart is racing and there's a fire inside of me, that might be false information. If it feels calm and like a knowing and like a warmth,

that might be true information. But they both come out of the same place, that feeling right in the middle, you know, just below your breastbone, right in the top of your stomach, like the same place that when you go down a roller coaster, your stomach drops. Oh, yeah, yeah. You know, it feels like intuition and anxiety both come from that same spot. So it's a tough one to work out. What do you feel right before a shoot or right before walking on stage?

And I'm thinking of Cabaret. You were in the Broadway revival of Cabaret and the role that Liza Minnelli made famous in the movie. So like right before you step on stage, are you feeling anxious or like I'm about to go to my safe place? A combination, but that's actually my sort of sweet spot because I'm not trying to kill off the fears and I'm not trying to just feel all confidence all the time or like I'm in a safe place. I think my favorite feeling is a combination of both high stakes and low stakes. And that's what acting does for me. The high stakes is that you're either in front of an audience or you're, you know, this is being committed to film and will eventually last forever. But the low stakes is that you're acting,

you're storytelling, nobody's going to die. And you're not saving any lives, you know, they're not on the operating table. So that feeling of, you know, fear mixed with joy is that's that's my favorite combination. Emma Stone has been so great to talk with you. Thank you so much and good luck at the Oscars. Thank you so much for having me. Emma Stone is nominated for an Oscar for her starring role in the film Poor Things. She spoke with Terry Gross in January. After a break, we hear from actor Mark Ruffalo, who's been nominated for Best Supporting Actor in the same movie. I'm David Bianculli, and this is Fresh Air.

The Academy Awards are Sunday, and next we've got our interview with actor Mark Ruffalo, who's nominated for Best Supporting Actor for his role in Poor Things. He spoke with Fresh Air producer Sam Brigger last month. Here's Sam. In Poor Things, Mark Ruffalo plays a character described in the movie as a cad and a rake. His name is Duncan Wedderburn, and he seduces Emma Stone's character, Bella Baxter, to run away from her home and fiancé and have an adventure with him in Lisbon. Let's hear a scene.

You're a prisoner, and I aim to free you. Something in you, some hungry being, hungry for experience, freedom, touch, to see the unknown and know it. So why am I here, you ask? I'm going to Lisbon on Friday. I'd like you to come. Lisbon of Portugal?

That is Lisbon I speak of. God never allow it. That's why I'm not asking him. I'm asking you. Well, I'm not safe him. I'm asking you. Bella not safe with you, I think. You are absolutely not. In that scene, Duncan Wedderburn is looking at Bella Baxter like a cartoon cat who's trapped the canary. What he doesn't realize is that Bella Baxter is no ordinary young innocent to corrupt.

She is in fact the result of a Frankenstein-like experiment by a scientist, played by Willem Defoe, who reanimated a dead woman's body by replacing her brain with the brain of her unborn baby. Bella goes through a rapid awakening to the world around her and to her own body, and like an infant who doesn't yet know society's norms, is uninhibited to a degree that both attracts Wedderburn and undoes him. Mark Ruffalo's performance in Poor Things is hilarious and delicious, and he himself describes it as a big departure from his previous work in movies like Zodiac, Spotlight, Foxcatcher, The Kids Are Alright, You Can Count on Me, and of course, several Marvel movies and TV shows where he plays the Incredible Hulk.

Well, Mark Ruffalo, welcome back to Fresh Air. Thanks, Sam. It's really nice to be here. It's nice to have you. You said you had some trepidation about taking on this role. What were your concerns? Well, you know, I hadn't really played anything like this, and I hadn't done an accent. I hadn't really done any kind of a period piece.

And, you know, you sort of have a have a career going and you sort of get a brand and mistakenly you start to believe maybe that's who you are, that's how the world wants to see you. And, you know, I really wanted to be great in a Yergos Lanthimos movie. And so I said to him, it's ridiculous now, but I said to him, Yergos, I want to work with you. I love you. I don't want to suck in your movie. And I don't know if I'm the right guy for this.

So did he have to convince you? It didn't take very much. He just laughed at me. He's just like, you're him. You've been in romantic comedies and you've been in movies that have comedic elements like The Brothers Bloom and even in the Avengers movies. But I don't think you've ever had a role that was so broadly comic as this one. I mean, you even do a pratfall at one point. So can you just sort of compare what it's like to act in something that's

comedic like this compared to your more like dramatic roles? Yeah, it's, you know, even in the dramatic roles, I feel like I've always kind of had one foot on a banana peel and the other in a grave. You know, it's like I just I see that as like the aesthetic that I want to, you know, that is my North Star if I could find a way of doing it. But to just do all out comedy that's so physical and that pratfall is such an interesting thing because, you know, in comedy, what I find is you have to be very open to play. And it's not an inner thing. It's this open thing, and it happens in this kind of special space that's outside yourself. And so you have to be very open and aware and ready to grab whatever's

being given to you and then play with it. And that pratfall, I think it's the one you're talking about when I come up the stairs. Yeah. Yeah. You're almost like skating up the stairs, like your arms are going back and forth. And at the landing you just go flop over and that was an accident oh it was yes and it was like but that's the thing like if you're really in if you're in the flow of comedy the accidents are the gold those are the gifts, you know? There's another moment in the movie where Duncan farts when Max McCandless comes in to confront him, right? And that was like the acting gods just filled my belly with gas. And I was like, here we go. And poor Rami looked at me.

He was so outraged and humiliated. And it was just the perfect, it was like, oh, we're into the scene. And it was literally that one take was the take that Yorgos used. But I guess why I'm telling you that is like, great comedy is something that happens spontaneously and is playful. And that's that's I mean, the same thing happens with with drama. But, you know, people are't lift my butt up and let one rip in Spotlight or Foxcatcher, you know, maybe Foxcatcher, but nowhere else. The character in the movie is described as a cad and a rake. And he's disreputable, but he's definitely working like within the boundaries of society. And he's challenged and finally undone by Emma Stone's complete uninhibitedness. Can you talk about that? wants to project himself as the freewheeling, free-loving, libertine centralist. But really, at his core, he's incredibly conventional. He's very conventional in his idea of a man's

place in the world and a woman's place in the world. And we see somebody whose whole projection of his personality comes undone when those concepts are really put to test by love. Mm-hmm. love. Whatever she strikes in him that he supposes is love. Whatever version of love he can get closest to. And we see that he's actually incredibly fragile and he's actually incredibly needy and he's actually incredibly vulnerable. There's a sex scene montage in Poor Things that I wanted to talk to you about. Like, you've done sex scenes before, but this is sex played for comedy. Like, it's not supposed to be sexy.

I mean, it's meant to make the audience laugh. I mean, the characters are having a good time, but it's filmed to look awkward and rutting and your character is even wearing a corset. So can you talk about like doing that kind of scene for comedy? The only time you want to do that kind of scene is if it's for comedy. It's just so horrible and awkward and it's so horrible and awkward. And it's so horrible and awkward for everybody else. And then you add in the intimacy coordinator, who's literally giving you the thumbs up from behind the camera, or giving you notes on your technique. So we knew that was going to be a montage. At one point, we were talking about trying to do every position in the Kama Sutra.

But there's like 110 now. I think they, you know, when you see that. They've updated it? Yeah, when you see the helicopter or the, you know, the rowboat, you know, you're like, okay. They didn't come up with that in a Kama Sutra time, you know. Right. But it's, yeah, to do that and to have in mind the comedy, you could do a lot of comedy with sex scenes, you know?

I mean, they're already kind of comic just by themselves. Let's take a short break here, Mark. If you're just joining us, our guest is Mark Ruffalo. He's been nominated for a Best Supporting Actor Oscar for his role in the movie Poor Things. We'll be back after a short break. This is Fresh Air. This is Fresh Air. I'm Sam Brigger. My guest is Mark Ruffalo.

He's been nominated for an Academy Award for Best Supporting Actor for his role in Poor Things. Some of his other movies include Spotlight, Foxcatcher, The Kids Are Alright, Zodiac, and You Can Count on Me. He has, of course, also played the Incredible Hulk in many Marvel movies and TV shows. Mark, to prepare for this interview, I watched a lot of your films, and I watched this trio of films that you did, which are all based on historical events. There's actually some sort of similarity between them. This is Zodiac, Foxcatcher and Spotlight.

And I read that for two of those movies, the people you were portraying were still alive and you got to spend time with them, got to know them. And this was Dave Tosky, who was one of the detectives investigating the Zodiac killings. And then for Spotlight, you spent time with one of the reporters who was investigating the sexual abuse in the Catholic Church, Mike Resendiz. So when you're portraying a historical figure, an actual person, how much of an effort do you make to try to be as much like them as possible? Let's stick with Mike Rosendi. How much time did you spend with him? Oh, days. And we became friends. And I asked if it was okay for him to be with us while we were shooting. And obviously, he's so invested in it. He was actually a filmmaker first.

He went to AFI in the screenwriting program, and he just became this invaluable reference for all of us. But I went to the Globe the first day, and I had my phone camera and I had my notepad, and I just said, Hey, I and I just said hey I really just you know like to sit down and watch you work and watch you you know work the phones and and you know just watch you do what you do and if you don't mind I'd like to you know shoot a little bit of it and he's like uh okay I'm not really used to that. I'm usually the one who's doing the questions and, you know, the recording. But yeah a way. And then they start to slowly get to know you and they start to open up and they feel safe and they realize that you're just there trying to do right by them.

And eventually they show you who they are. Well, what were some of the mannerisms that you saw that you tried to emulate in your performance? Certain people have a, you know, tension in their bodies in certain places or and it makes them move a certain way. Mike had a sort of like a tension in his solar plexus area. And it sort of tilts his pelvis forward a little bit. And it's just a subtle thing. But the physical work that I've learned how to do was, if you could start picking up some physical qualities of a person, it actually starts to inform a lot about them.

And there's a toughness about someone who's holding their pelvis, where they're holding their solar plexus like that. It's someone who's protecting something, and it makes you walk a certain way and it it sort of pulls down on your on your your spine your your vocal cords in a certain way and um if you can just listen to that a little bit you start to you start to get something about the person and um yeah so for mike it was that you know these little things i don't know what it is, but when I'm watching someone, I'm like, oh, that's really interesting. I want to try to assume some of that. But I also found when you start doing that, there's an inner quality that starts to come into view. I think that's really interesting.

Okay, good. I mean, sometimes I start talking about this and people like literally glaze over. They're like, uh, pelvic? Okay. Mark, I wanted to ask you a little bit about your childhood. I think your family was Catholic, but it sounds like there were some active seekers of religion in the household. Is that correct? Yes, it was a very interesting household, religiously speaking. My family was, you know, Italian Catholics. Then my mom and her mother became evangelicals in the First Assembly of God, Pentecostal, Jimmy Swaggart era. And my dad split off completely in a whole other direction into the Baha'i faith. And so, you know, you're in the family and everyone's participating.

And so I was introduced to all three. Well, you actually were saved by the televangelist Jimmy Swagger, right? I was. Was that on TV? No, no, no. You know, there was a first assembly of God in Kenosha, Wisconsin at the time. And my grandmother was a member of it. And, you know, these different evangelical preachers would sort of tour. And he was the

star of that at that time. He was their Elvis of evangelicals. And it was music. I mean, it was a pretty lively experience. And so my grandmother, for her birthday, asked me to be saved. And I was like, saved from what? I'm like, I'm eight. I haven't even gotten to do anything yet, really. And it was like, no, you were born. I mean, the second you come through the birth canal, you've sinned. That's the original sin. And I'm like, oh, yeah, okay. Oh mean, the second you come through the birth canal, you've sinned, you know, like that's, you know,

that's the original sin. And I'm like, oh, yeah, okay. Oh, yeah, makes sense to me. But I was like, yeah, I'll do whatever you want, Grandma, you know. So what was that like? Did everyone sort of line up or get, like? Yeah, so they bring the kids down. Like, it was a special moment.

We're like, okay, we're going to bring the children down, you know? And so I'm walking down there. I was like, I want to be saved. I mean, I don't want to go to hell. I certainly don't, you know, like, that would suck. And it's going to make my grandma happy. But, man, this is so intense down here, and he's so sweaty, and everyone's, like, talking in different languages.

So I got down there and we're lined up and they're going you know each kid's getting preyed on from kid to kid and they're falling down or you know people are falling over and and i was like i'm not feeling it and uh then finally i was like oh man I'm not gonna be the one who's like doesn't get Jesus today I'm like no not me no and I just kind of went with it you know so you fell over too yeah and it was horrible yeah did you feel bad you feel like you were kind of oh god I felt so ashamed yeah are you kidding you kidding me? I was like, I didn't feel anything. Like I was supposed to, everyone here is like feeling so much and I didn't feel anything. And man, I mean, what that sets up in you at so early an age is so difficult for your, you know, your ongoing relationship just became this thing that was always there

that I didn't understand. Now I do, but I didn't then. And it was just a shameful feeling. If you're just joining us, our guest is actor Mark Ruffalo. He's been nominated for a Best Supporting Actor Oscar for his role in the movie Poor Things. We'll be back after a short break. This is Fresh Air. How did you get into acting? Is that something you felt good at right away? Did it come easy naturally to you? No, no.

I sucked. I wanted to be an actor from very early on I just didn't know what acting really was I had already found myself performing I found myself doing skits from The Three Stooges doing slapstick, pretending I was Charlie Chaplin

I was doing all that but there was no culture for that in my family they were house painters then they became construction painters But there was no culture for that in my family. They were house painters. Then they became construction painters. They were business people. They were very serious about making money.

And there wasn't a lot of room for this kind of being a dreamer. So it just wasn't anything that was a possibility to me. senior year of high school i dropped out of uh wrestling i was an avid wrestler um and i dropped out of wrestling to join the drama department because i'd walk by the drama department and they'd all be wrestling on the ground just like us but it was like 10 girls and two guys. And, you know, I was like, why am I not doing that wrestling? And so I went in there and I was just thrilled by it, how emotionally open it was and diverse and accepting and silly and you know everything you couldn't be as a as a young man you know and uh and one of the kids in play broke his arm and my teacher

nancy curtis who was like this great theater teacher in the middle of Virginia Beach, like really great, came to me and said, I want you to replace Scott. And I said, you do? And she's like, yeah. And I was like, I don't know. I don't know if I could do it. She's like, I think you could do it. And so I did it.

And I did the first scene. And I was basically just ripping off Peter Falk and Columbo. And I did the first scene and I got a big laugh and I said, oh my God, this is what I want to do for the rest of my life. This is amazing. It was like that feedback that you got. Yes, that relationship, you know, it was like, it was telling me what it was asking for and then it was responding with the laugh or the silence or whatever. And I went to Nancy afterwards.

I said, Mrs. Curtis. Yes, Mark. Do you think it's too late for me to become an actor? I mean, I'm already 18. She just was like, no, Mark, I don't think it's too late. Yes, I think you can become an actor. That sounds like a very vulnerable moment for you. Oh, it's horrible. I mean, I was a jock. I was a surfer. I was a skater. I was in a punk band. I was as much a dude as you could possibly be. But I also just had this other thing that I wanted to try. Yeah. At some point, you decided to make a go of it, right? Like you must have been getting some encouragement from her and then from other people to sort of get you to take a chance and to move to L.A. eventually. Well, my family moved to San Diego the day after I graduated from high school.

And, you know, all my friends had gotten into colleges. I didn't get into any colleges. I was a terrible student. I didn't even really apply to that many. And I ended up in San Diego, and I didn't have a plan. And, you know, through a whole fantastical set of circumstances, I heard about the Stella Adler Conservatory in Los Angeles. That was like two hours away. Was Stella Adler teaching there when you were there? Yeah, yeah, she was there. But, you know, I had the good fortune of walking into the school and there was a woman there, Joanne Linville, who I recognized immediately as the Romulan commander of Star Trek. And she said, what are you doing here?

And I said, I don't have an audition. I don't know what I'm doing. I don't have any real training, but I want to spend my life being an actor. And she said, well, darling, you've come to the right place. And she really took me under her wing. And I wasn't good in the beginning. And it took me a long time. You know who I was in class with

who was amazing was Benicio Del Toro. Like literally the second he walked in, he was amazing. And I looked at him, I was like, oh my God, I'll never be that guy. And yeah, it took me a long time and a lot of auditions before I started to figure out what I was doing. Well, it's been a real pleasure speaking with you. Mark Ruffalo, thanks so much for coming on the show. Thanks, Sam. It was a great interview. It was really, really a great interview. I appreciate it. Mark Ruffalo speaking with Fresh Air producer Sam Brigger last month.

Ruffalo is nominated for an Oscar for Best Supporting Actor for his performance in the film Poor Things. The Academy Awards are this Sunday, scheduled to be broadcast by ABC. On Monday's show, comic, writer, director, and actor Julio Torres talks about the absurd obstacles he faced in the U.S. immigration system after coming to the States from El Salvador. He satirizes the system in his new film Problemista. He formerly wrote for Saturday Night Live and co-wrote and starred in HBO's Los Espookys. I hope you can join us.

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