Fresh Air - Jeff Hiller's Big Break Came In His 40s

Episode Date: August 12, 2025

Hiller spent years scraping by in Hollywood by taking on various small roles and commercials. Then he landed the role of Joel on HBO's Somebody Somewhere and everything changed. His new memoir is Actress of a Certain Age. Learn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoicesNPR Privacy Policy

Support for NPR and the following message comes from the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation. RWJF is a national philanthropy, working toward a future where health is no longer a privilege but a right. Learn more at RWJF.org. This is fresh air. I'm Terry Gross. I think it's fair to say that everyone who watched the HBO series Somebody Somewhere, including me, wanted actor Jeff Hiller to be their friend. He played Joel, a sympathetic and supportive friend, with a great sense of humor. Somebody somewhere was the big break Hillary had been hoping for for decades.

As he writes in his new memoir, if you're obviously gay but not hot, your roles are limited. You just play The Bitchy Gay, which is what he played in lots of small parts and episodes of lots of different TV shows and commercials. More recently, he played a serial killer who targets gay men in American Horror Story.

His new memoir is called Actress of a Certain Age by 20-year trail to overnight success. Somebody Somewhere concluded its third and final season last December. Now Jeff Hillers nominated for an Emmy for Best Supporting Actor in a Comedy Series. The story is built around the characters of Sam, played by Bridget Everett, and Joel, Jeff Hiller's character. When the series begins, Sam had returned from New York to Manhattan, Kansas, where she grew up, to help care for her sister who was dying of cancer.

after the sister's death, Sam stays in Kansas where her other sister still lives. Sam has no friends there and has an argumentative relationship with her sister. Sam feels so lost and rejected that she takes offense easily and doesn't realize that in order to avoid rejection, she's pushing people away. But she becomes very close to Joel. He introduces her to his found family of LGBTQ people and artists who secretly have a nighttime cabaret at the church, where Joel is the pianist and has a key. He gets her to sing again.

She's a great singer who doesn't think she's any good. In the second episode, when they're becoming friends, she visits his home and sees a large, elaborate collage standing up against the wall in the living room. She asks if it's his dream board, and he corrects her, it's his vision board. Bridget Everett's character, Sam, speaks first. You really spend some time on this. We need to go to Paris, you got an Eiffel Tower there. Well, just Europe. I want to go to Europe.

Okay. Oh, and then, of course, everybody's hands in a heart. Community. Uh-huh. Great. Was that a blender or something? It's a vitamin X. I just, I really want to have a nice kitchen. And, oh, what's this one? Is this you and Michael and your nine adopted kids, or what? It's not nine, it's six.

Oh. And four of them are adopted, yes. Okay. And you want to do all of this here in Kansas? Yeah, this is where I live. Oh, family, prayer circles, pots with cactus and... I mean, what is wrong with this? What's wrong with this?

I'm dreaming about the future. This is what I want. Well, I mean, dream all you want, Joel, but this is the future. We're in our 40s. And it hasn't happened yet, hasn't it? It hasn't happened for you, it hasn't happened for me. And that's because it's not going to happen. And it's definitely not going to happen here.

Keep cutting up your pictures, but that's the way it is. We deserve to be happy. I'm not sure. I don't know. You know what? I think I said go Don't go I'm going to go

Don't leave I'm going to go Jeff Hiller Welcome to fresh air I love the series And you are so great in it Thank you so much for being on the show Congratulations on the Emmy nomination

And the memoir Thank you Wow I've got a lot going on Yes So since we just heard Your character Joel's vision board Let's talk about the similarities between you and Joel

there are several. You want to point some out? Sure. Well, first of all, I make vision boards. Oh, you do? I've done it twice. I've done it twice. And before the series even. And on one of them, I did have a Vitamix. And the writers didn't know that. And I had a Vitamix on my vision board. And my mom got me one for my birthday. And so it just feels very, I'm very like Joel in that. sense. And I think I'm also someone who is warm and likes to laugh and is joyful. And as you said in the intro, I've normally played sort of rude customer service representatives. And so it felt like such a joy to play Joel because he did feel a lot more like me rather than putting on a scowl and acting. It felt very like something I really knew how to do because he He was so similar to me. But I'm not so similar that I can look at you and say, if you sing at my party, everything will be better in your life.

That I don't know how to do, which I feel guilty about because I think sometimes people approach me on the street wanting that. I'll also point out you both have a very good sense of humor because, I mean, like, your thing is improv comedy. Yes. That's what you did for years. So, like, you know how to be funny. Yeah, I hope so. You're just naturally funny. Yeah.

I hope so. Yeah, we'll put that to the test. Exactly. We'll see at the end of this interview. Another thing you have in common with the characters, you both want children and don't have them. Yeah, that's true, yeah. And most of his arc in season three is about realizing that his life is good and he's happy with his life, but he has to mourn the things that he really wanted and didn't get. And that was a really, you know, powerful teacher for me, too.

Because I did, it's funny, I was never one of those people that was like carrying around a baby doll being like, I can't wait to be a parent. But I was also never one of those people that's like, you know, why are they're kids here? But you're at McDonald's, you know? I'm not one of those people either. I like kids. I love hanging out with them. And I do really have this need to provide safety for safety for. someone and that's the thing that I really miss by not having had kids but I'm almost 50 my

husband doesn't want them it's not like I can just you know toss away the pill and see what happens so I think that probably is not going to happen and you know just like Joel I'm I'm mourning that too yeah how did somebody somewhere change your life well on just the most base level I don't have to teach improv or temp or cater waiter. I mean, like, I'm financially stable now where I wasn't before. And then it also just made me feel like an artist.

I know that's sort of everything to say, but I do feel like I'm someone who had more to give than I was able to give previously, and I feel like Joel let me show that. And then also, It's just, you know, people in Hollywood know who I am now, whereas before nobody knew who I was, maybe a couple casting directors, but not fancy people, not the president of HBO, surely, and now people know who I am. And that's not nothing. So I mentioned this quote in my introduction, but I'm going to mention it again. You're right, if you're gay but not hot, you play the bitchy gay. So to prove that. We're going to play just a few clips of you in very small parts.

Okay, so we'll start with 30 Rock. This is an episode in which you're a flight attendant on a plane that all the passengers have been sitting on the plane waiting to take off for like a really long time. So you're the flight attendant trying to like distract them by telling them that they can watch videos because they can't use the bathroom and they can't eat. There's no food being served. So here you are. Excuse me. While we're waiting to take off, we're going to go ahead and begin our in-flight entertainment, which is the feature film, Legend of the Guardians, the Owls of Gahoole, and some NBC sitcoms that didn't make the schedule. Okay, so that's funny and very well written in a very small part. We'll move on to Law and Order Criminal Intents, Season 10. You're part of an investigation and you're going through stolen documents.

I've been through 80% of the stolen documents and I've got nothing incriminating just more internal memos, inocuous emails. Keep going. No, don't bother. There's still 8,000 pages. Okay, a small part. Everyone who lives in New York has been on at least one episode,

every actor or would-be actor has been probably in at least one episode of one Law & Order franchise or another. Okay, we move on to Broad City and in this year, the owner, manager of a coffee shop. The ladies' room has been closed for a while. You knock on the door and find one of your employees, played by Alan Glazer, asleep on the toilet, leaning on a large bag of expensive coffee beans. Here we go. You are so completely fired. Fine. God. But I'm at least

entitled to my one free coffee a day for employees. You made that up. There is no one free coffee a day for employees. You're just a thief. Wow. Did you just call me a queef? That's sexual harassment. Get out. Go. okay so point proven it must have been so frustrating for so many years to have like fun parts but really tiny ones like that yeah i mean it wasn't like when i got the job playing that i was like oh no not another one of these because the jobs were so few and far between that that was a thrill and if anything it was like oh good i have a niche and sometimes i can play kind of mean people and I'll get those jobs.

I have a friend, and she's like, yeah, this Karen thing is good for me. I can play a Karen well. And I really identified with that. But it was more during those long periods in between these small jobs, when I would think, I know I have more to give. I know I could be someone who could explore rich text and understand people's personalities and convey that. And it wasn't especially frustrating when I would get these tiny roles.

It was frustrating that I just, in between when I would not get anything bigger. Because, honestly, being the guy who enhances the photo on law and order was a huge win. Huge. But I did know I had more to give. when I turned 40 and I had never played anything like that, I did sort of think I'll never get to play anything like that. And you feel a little powerless when you're an actor because you can't really make your own things happen.

And that's why I started writing my own shows and doing stand-up. And that's why I love improv so much is because I could control that. I could make a show happen. But I did want to act in a way that was, deeper and I'm so grateful to Bridget and HBO and all those people that made that show happen that I got to do that because it was, even if we had only shot the pilot, it was just, it felt so good to be able to capital A act. And I loved it. Before we get to how when you were in school you were bullied all the time and how horrible it was.

Nice tease. Stick around, everyone. Let's take a short break here. My guest is Jeff Hiller, and he's nominated for an Emmy for his performance in the HBO series, Somebody Somewhere. Its third and final season ended last December. His new memoir is called Actress of a Certain Age. We'll be right back. This is fresh air.

Support for NPR, and the following message comes from the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation. RWJF is a national philanthropy, working toward a future where health is no longer a privilege but a right. Learn more at RWJF.org. So let's get to the bullied part. Oh, yes. The big payoff for the audience. So in real life, when you were growing up, it sounds like you didn't have friends in school. were bullied in junior high when the bullying was at its worst and the bathroom and the gym

showers were like torture chambers for you. Were you bullying yourself for being gay? Like, were you picking on yourself, taking your cue from everybody else who was picking on you? Yeah, sure. I definitely did not. I was going to say I didn't love myself, but I didn't even like myself. I did kind of think I deserved it because... Deserved to be bullied? Yeah, yeah, and deserved to be hated because I did sort of think I was bad, inherently bad, because I was gay, and because I was, you know, girlish and chubby and, you know, not attractive in the conventional sense. Yeah, I did pick on myself quite a bit. But I have to tell you, I didn't do it nearly as badly as some of the other kids.

They really went for it. I got the gold medal there. For you, during those years when you were bullied, church was a safe place, and you were very active in it. You went nearly every day. There was youth group and Sunday school, after school tutoring, handbell choir, senior choir, children's choir, where you were the teen assistant. So it was the evangelical Lutheran Church of America. Describe like the foundation of the church. Right.

You hear the word evangelical, and it sounds pretty right-wing. But the ELCA is actually the, you know, slightly more progressive arm of the Lutheran Church. There are different factions. And so when I was growing up, that church was really a lot about, I don't know, social justice and being called by God to help people. Not because we are, you know, required to help people in order to get into heaven or whatever. We have grace for that, but because we are, you know, given this wonderful gift of life from God, it's important to help other people. And so for me, the church was the place that you went if you didn't have food, if you didn't have money to pay your rent, if you didn't have, you know, we had clothing drives. and we always sort of had families through this organization

that we would help provide with housing and with, you know, just whatever, toiletries, things like that. A lot of people feel the church is a place that is oppressive and othering people, and there are a lot of churches like that, and they've sort of co-opted the narrative. But for me, the church was a place where you could be, accepted and where you could be loved. And it wasn't until I came out that I kind of realized they weren't really into gay people yet.

But they probably knew you were gay just as like the students in your schools knew you were gay. Yeah, no one was ever surprised when I came out. But I think, but I didn't realize you couldn't be a pastor and be gay. And that has since changed. The church now does allow openly queer pastors. But at the time, you had to be celibate, whereas straight pastors could marry and have kids and things like that. And so for me, it was like a surprise that the church was oppressive. Yeah, so it must have made it extra confusing when you wanted to be a pastor and you couldn't because it meant you wouldn't be able to act out on your own sexuality because you'd have to be celibate, whereas straight people wouldn't have to be celibate to be a pastor.

Yeah. And it was also, I mean, I say confusing. It's not like I was completely unaware that gayness wasn't considered bad in the world. But it was more insulting than confusing. It was more like, but I've played all the, I've done it. I've been here. And you've been here with me and we've been together. And how could you now say I'm not welcome? The other thing you loved about church was the pageantry, the singing. The church was the church was like. like theater for you. You loved theater. You loved the whole idea of performance. And the pastor would stand up there, you know, kind of give a show. It was lovely. And did you like being in choir? Yes, I did. And I found it, I was inquiring in school in addition to at church. And it was really, that was also sort of a safe place at school. It was like a community. And you all had to blend and come together. And so people were looking for how you could unite. And everyone else in every other class was looking for how they could, you know, hit me or make fun of me or call me names. And

the choir was this really unifying, cohesive space. What did you feel called to be a pastor? Well, I do like to help people, and I do want to belong to a community. I've since realized I'm probably not the best, like, overt leader, probably more of a follower. But I thought I could help people in that way. And I thought I could be there not only providing sort of logistic help, like with whatever food, if you're home, hungry, but also emotional help, because there is such a tradition of pastors being sort of semi-therapists, too, when people are having problems. And I thought I could do that well. And then when I realized I couldn't do that, I thought, oh, well, then what makes sense is to go

into social work or, you know, direct care, working into shelter and then public health. And And then I realized, I'm not really good at that. And so that's why I became an actor and left people not helping them at all. But I still volunteer. So when you left the church, did that leave a big hole in your life and in your identity? Well, I say I left the church. I left the want to be an ordained pastor, but I still went to church for many years. It was a hole in my identity to no longer think I was going to be a pastor.

because that was sort of my whole persona was sort of this granola Christian type. And it was confusing. It was harder to admit to myself that I wanted to be an actor and to leave behind social work and then do improv while I, you know, worked at temping at J.P. Morgan Chase by day and then doing improv shows by night. That was, it was a real, yeah, it was like an identity confusing time to be like, oh, I guess I don't help people anymore. Now I just do silly jokes in this basement of this Gristides grocery store. What got you interested in improv?

My friend, my best friend Katie, had done improv in college, and she said, I want to go to this audition, but I'm afraid to go alone, will you come with me? And I was like, oh, I could never do improv. I'm so bad at it. But I'll go with you in case, you know, this is a cult or whatever. And I went and I was so good at it. I was good at it right away. And I loved being good at something. And I wanted to do nothing but that because I had missed performing so much in the three years I was living in Denver, working in social work.

And I just loved performing. And I loved the immediacy of the laugh from the audience. And especially with improv, you can kind of tailor your show to the audience, which can be, that can be bad. You don't want to just go dirty because you think the audience will scream at being dirty. But it is sort of a conversation about what this particular group of people, is interested in. And so I've become really good at being in dialogue with an audience and

finding what they like. And then it becomes a part of the improv show. The audience, it's not just the two scene partners doing a scene and finding where to go, it's also the audience too. And I think that's, I still do improv today, even though I don't necessarily have a lot of time for it, But it's just, it feeds me.

On the downside of improv, you say, and this is you speaking, only 1% of improv is funny. That's a pretty terrible track record. So what keeps you in it if you have such a low regard for the results? Maybe my percentage is a little bit off, but it's true. Okay, double it. It would be 2%. Yeah, that's a fair. Fair. You know, it is an imperfect art form. And, you know, I also, whenever people are like, I want to come see your improv show, I always say like, oh, it's okay. Don't worry about it. Because there are people who really love improv. And, you know, it's sort of like jazz or something where it's like. That's what I was thinking. I was thinking it's sort of like free jazz, which seems like it's probably more fun to play than to listen to. Now, I mean, in the early days when it was really.

radical and like something brand new, it was exciting. Right. But it's not always so exciting now. No. But yes, I'm sorry, I interrupted you. But you're right. All of what you just said is completely true. There are people, yeah, you know, those jazz heads that still love hearing all of that.

And yes, there are people, I think sometimes it is, certainly for me, I much prefer performing it than watching it. But sometimes you can watch it. and it becomes transcendent in a way that no other art form ever can because it is happening in the moment and when you see a group of people all in the same mind and they find these things together, you're not only laughing, you are on the verge of tears. But I say that, and that is the thing that is for sure,

less than 1% of happening. It's happened, you know, I've been doing improv for 25 years, and it's maybe happened twice, maybe three times. So it's, yeah, it's an imperfect art form. Your improv group is the Upright Citizens Brigade, which was co-founded by Amy Poehler. You've taught there, and you've had some students in improv who became very successful. Name some of them? Abby Jacobson and Alana Glazer from Broad City.

And some people who weren't necessarily my students, but who I was, you know, peers with or like I would coach their improv group like Aubrey Plaza, Donald Glover, Darcy Cardin, Ellie Kemper. I was on a team with Bobby Moynihan. So, yeah, lots of people. What was it like to see your students and your peers becoming more. successful than you. Yeah. I never was like they don't deserve it.

I truly wasn't like that. It was more like why can't I get a break? Why all of these people who are from the same place as me

are having success, but I'm not. Now, I was only comparing myself to the people who had success. I wasn't comparing the people who looked at me and thought I was having success because I was, you know, on law and order that time. So I, but I really kept thinking, it's something I'm doing. I've done something bad. You know, I'm too gay or I'm too ugly or I'm too big because I'm very tall. And so it became, it's funny, it's kind of like that question you asked earlier, did I bully myself? That's, I think, that was me bullying myself. But, interestingly, now that I've had this success, I feel a lot of, what's the word of, it's not shame. It's confusion at why I have other friends who are also incredibly talented, who haven't had the break that I've had recently. And I'm not sure why. I used to say, why me?

And now I keep thinking, why not them? And, you know, the truth is, showbiz ain't fair. It's not a meritocracy. Well, your improv skills have come in very handy in roles like playing a cockroach for a pest control company. So tell us what that experience was like. Explain that. It was me and like four other UCB people, and this pest control company had us dress. up, like cockroaches. And we stood in Union Square and handed out, you know, brochures for this exterminator. That's the word I'm looking for, exterminator. And we had to pretend that we were having a

party in the walls of people's apartment buildings because the idea was that these roaches were having parties, and that's why you needed this exterminator to come in and help you out. And it was only one day. We got free lunch and $500. And so I did it. But it was one of those times where I thought, you know, I have friends who I went to college with who own houses and they have their own washing machine in their house. And I am in Union Square in a cockroach costume, hiding when I see people I know come by. On a kind of related note, or perhaps not so much, you've been. in a lot of commercials earlier in your career

and like in some of them you have one line like there's one commercial where your line is wedges because the woman in it is choosing between like espadrilles

or wedges and you're going wedges so how do you audition for like what is the audition like for an ad like that well it's so funny that you bring up that commercial because I just met the woman

who wrote it she was at a book signing I just did. And I was like, oh, my God, I had to give her a hug. It was so exciting. Because it really, commercials saved me so many times financially and, you know, allowing me to get health insurance through SAG. Commercial auditions are, they're not like acting auditions. Many auditions you'll go in and you don't say a word. You just stand there and smile or you, you mime drinking something. It's a different type of acting. And you really have to learn. The rules. And I was really good at following rules. And I think a lot of actors are not good at that. And I think that's what makes me a really good guest star, too, because in a certain way, when you have tiny little roles, you just need to do this one thing so that we can get on with it. We don't need to analyze what the character's thinking. We don't care. We just want you to do the thing. Okay, let's take another short break here, and then we'll talk some more.

If you're just joining us, my guest is Jeff Hiller. He's nominated for an Emmy for his performance in the HBO series, Somebody Somewhere. His new memoir is called Actress of a Certain Age. We'll be right back. This is Fresh Air. Now, another thing that you've done is you've auditioned a lot for Broadway shows. You've been in off-Broadway shows. You were in one Broadway show.

And you sing. And I want to play an example of you singing because you have a really nice duet with Bridget Everett in somebody somewhere. And this is from, I think, the first episode where you get her to sing at this basically like cabaret that you've created at night in church when no one is looking because you have the key because you're the pianist for the church. And everybody has a great time there. And you kind of force her up to the microphone to sing. And you duet with her on the song Don't Give Up, which Peter Gabriel and Kate Bush had dueted on. So let's hear that. And we'll pick it up in the middle so we get to you right away.

No, fight left or so it seems I'm a man whose dreams have all deserted. I change my face, I change my name, but no one wants you when you lose. Don't give up, because you have friends. Don't give up, you're not beaten yet. Because somewhere there's a place where we belong At your head You worry too much It's gonna be all right

When times get rough You can fall bad on us Don't give up Please don't give up That's a really Sounds so good at the end there, She's got a great voice

It really does. I know that's sort of like saying, you know, Paris is beautiful, but she does. She has such a great voice. And when I read the pilot and I thought, like, if I get this, I get to sing a duet with Bridget Everett. Because I was such a fan of hers before the show happened. Because she's like a downtown star in New York City. So it was a real thrill. I can't believe. Actually, when you were playing it, I was like, I can believe I got to sing a duet with Bridget Everett. on television. So you have a great story about auditioning for Stephen Sondheim, and I think this would be a good time to tell it. Yeah, I did audition for Steven Sondheim in this planned revival of a funny thing happened on the way to the

forum, playing a character named Hysterium, which I would be perfect for. I don't know why somebody didn't cast me in that role. But, and I sang my song, and he was so into it, and I was so excited, and everyone was so effusive, and he was just so happy. And then I went home that night,

And, you know, like, when you think something big is going to happen, and you, like, are just like, this is my new life. I'm a Stephen Sondheim actor. And so I started watching all of these YouTube videos, interviews of Stephen Sondheim. And in about, like, I don't know, number seven or eight, someone said, do you have to pretend that you're liking a show when you're in the audience watching it? Because people are watching you watch this show. And he said, oh, God, no, I don't ever do that. but I do have to pretend that every actor who auditions for me is the best thing I've ever heard

or they'd all kill themselves. And I thought, oh, no. Maybe that's what was happening during that audition today. And in fact, I did find out I did not get that show. That was like my third. Yeah, I was. I was. But I'm also used to getting the no.

And there's something in theater, when you get that far along, you get the no. and a lot of times in film and TV you never even find out if there's a no or yes it's just you get kind of ghosted and so there's something about hearing a no that's like okay well closure and you just move on

you write about having a midlife crisis when you were 40 what was that about well I was having this crisis because I was in a financial crunch I didn't have a lot of money I had to move from L.A. back to New York because I hadn't gotten a job on TV. And then the really big thing that I sort of downplay in the book comedically

is that my parents were both very, very sick. My mom was dying, and my dad was going through a pretty big health crisis as well. And it just felt like everything was sad. And I was chasing this dream that didn't say, seemed like it was possible to happen because whoever hears of someone having their big break after 40. And now that I had a break after 40, I've heard of a lot of people. I just didn't do the research properly. But I did feel like I had wasted my life. And all I had to show for it was, you know, credit card bills and nothing else. I want to ask you about your mother because

She sounds like such a wonderful person. She died in, was it, 2016? Yeah. And like when you were growing up and you were being bullied, like she knew that you were gay, but she never said anything. And she actually went to a gay pastor and said, you know, what should I do? Should I say something? And he said, no, you have to let your son bring it up.

Don't bring it up yourself. Yeah. Was that the right advice, do you think? I do. I really do. I think I would have been defensive if she had said something. And I mean, I had been trying to do it for several months, so maybe that would have been the time to have done it. But I think that pastor was right. I think you can't drag someone out of the closet. You have to let them open the door themselves. And the big takeaway from me was that she had done all of this research, which is so her. I mean, it's funny, but it's also beautiful, and it makes me feel so loved that she had done all of this work to make me feel loved and safe. And I'm so grateful for having her, because I don't think I would have survived having my school journey and also not having a safe home. It would have been too much.

Well, we need to take another break here, so let me reintroduce you. If you're just joining us, my guest is Jeff Hiller. He's nominated for an Emmy for his performance in the HBO series, Somebody Somewhere. His new memoir is called Actress of a Certain Age. We'll be right back. This is Fresh Air. I want to ask you about a couple of health issues and how they affect you as an actor. Do you mind if I bring it up because you talk about it in the book?

Yeah, that's fine. So you have, and this is a mouthful frontal fibrosing alopecia. I don't even nailed it. And morphia, would you describe what they are? Sure. Morphia is, as I understand it, I'm not a rheumatologist, but as I understand it, it's when your immune system thinks that the healthy layer of fat underneath your epidermis is bad and it attacks it and eats it away and then it causes

your skin to scar. And then frontal fibrosine alopecia is, you know, I think we all know what alopecia is, just hair loss. But I guess on your frontal lobe, it's like my eyebrows, I have no beard, and I have a large chunk of hair missing on the top of my head from that. So, and you have some like brown marks on your chest. The scarring. Yeah, so if you're shirtless and a scene, the makeup people really have to go to work.

Oh, boy. And they don't like it. They don't like it. And I don't blame them. It's a lot of work. So how is it affecting both your self-image and your career? Well, with my career, it's more about, it's things like that. With, you know, in the hair and makeup trailer, you really have to go in and be like,

I'm really sorry, but I have to put this little piece of hair in my head or I look strange. And to a one, people have been so supportive and kind. And I think it bonds us immediately. But also, you know, sometimes you get cast as the person who takes their shirt off. And whenever an actor has their shirt off, it's either because you want to look at them and be like, wow, they are hot. Or it's to be like, oh, my gosh, they're so not hot. and so I think in that sense they want to just see you sort of be jiggly

they don't want to be like wait one of those things you know so I think it's hurt in that sense but it's also like do I really want those roles where I'm like like I may jiggle probably not so in that sense I guess there's definitely been more than one commercial

where I was not cast and because you had to take your shirt off in the audition and I could tell them that they were like Huh, what is that? But then self-image-wise, it's just one more reason that I'm uncomfortable. One more reason that when I go to the beach, I'm like, oh, God, not going to explain this to people, that's sort of a thing. And then, you know, you hope you don't go in the beach and your fake hair flows away in the ocean. Right.

So I have to ask you about the cover of your book. Oh, yeah. And the book is called Actress of a Certain Age. Oh, yeah. And you're pictured on it, wearing your regular glasses, but over your head, you're wearing like a headscarf, not like an Islamic headscarf, but just like the kind of headscarf that women wore a lot in, like, 1950s movies. Right, when they had to ride in a convertible. Exactly, exactly. And I'll reference in particular here, imitation of life with Lana Turner.

I remember her wearing a lot of, like, scarfs like this. Yes. And yours is like, I have to say it's not an attractive scarf, if you don't mind me saying that. Terry, that was original Hermes, I believe. Oh, really? Because it's like magenta and black in this, like, I don't know, loud pattern. But anyways, what were you trying to conjure? Was it like 1950s movies?

I was trying to find a photo that looked, you know, the book is called Actress of a Certain Age. and I wanted something that looked glamorous but also winky and campy. And I thought this picture fit the bill. So I have one last question for you. Okay. So this is going to make both of us uncomfortable. Oh, my God. I love this, preface.

Okay, so on page 62 of your book, you write, once I was a guest on a podcast, where the host tried to do that serious NPR intro voice that Terry Gross does on fresh air and the host said, my guest Jeff Hiller is on a new show on HBO called Somebody Out There. Jeff, I loved somebody out there.

I loved everything about somebody out there. And of course the show is called Somebody Somewhere, not somebody out there. But I want to get to the serious NPR intro voice. Since you not only do improv, but you've taught improv, How can I make my intros sound less serious? Oh, don't you dare. Don't you dare?

It's part of the joy of listening to it. I would never want you to change it. You do that wonderful thing. You did it today, and I got goosebumps where you said, this is fresh air. It's like a little slide we go down. I hope I'm not making you self-conscious. Oh, you're too far in.

You're already no your brand. But I love it. I would never want you to do it. And that's why this podcaster was doing it, because they wanted to emulate you. They wanted to be the best. Oh, thank you so much. This was so much fun to do. Thank you so much for coming.

Thank you for having me. I really appreciate it. Jeff Hiller is nominated for an Emmy for his performance in the HBO series, Somebody Somewhere. Tomorrow on Fresh Air, singer, guitarist, and songwriter Charlie Crockett brings his guitar and plays some of his songs. He won an Americana Music Award, and this year was nominated for a Grammy. He's about to tour with Leon Bridges and what's being billed as the crooner and the cowboy. Crockett's the Cowboy. He has a new album called Dollar a Day.

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