From the Kitchen Table: The Duffys - Best of the Duffys: How To Help Your Son Become A Man Women Want to Marry

Episode Date: September 14, 2024

Every parent wants their child to grow up and find their perfect match, but how can you ensure your kids possess the qualities, skills, and ambition to attract the best partner?   Sean and Rachel revisit their conversation on what key qualities young men should work toward that will benefit them mentally, emotionally, and physically — giving them the best chance of meeting a great woman.   Follow Sean & Rachel on X: @SeanDuffyWI & @RCamposDuffy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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my partner in life and my wife, Rachel Campos Duffy. Sean, it's great to be back at the kitchen table. And for this episode of our show this podcast i came across a an x handle of a guy his name is benjamin black and his description in his twitter handle is that he's the founding father of three he's creating uh content and resources for you to forge a family legacy to outlive your grandkids and form a modern dynasty. And he did a post on the nine masculine traits that your son needs in order to find a decent woman. And I really liked this idea because oftentimes we just, you know, there's women out there saying, you know,

we can't find the right guy or we're telling guys and girls, you guys need to talk to each other, get off the phones. But, but actually, you first need to become great people who other people will be attracted to, right. And in this society, that has so marginalized men has told men that they are, you know, not worth much, that, you know, masculinity is toxic. A lot of men have sort of surrendered to this. They throw their hands up and they say, fine, I'll go to my basement and play my video games. And it's really up to the dads to go, no, you can be an amazing man.

And that's the best way for you to find happiness because then you'll find the right wife. So first off, if you want a dynasty as a man, you need a woman to build a dynasty with because she's the one that's going to have your children to create the dynasty. We have this idea that our home is our castle, right? And we want a dynasty. And there's a lot that goes into creating a family and raising good kids and again he mentions it can live on beyond you because of the values and the ideas that you instill in your kids that'll be passed on to your grandkids it lives on after you're gone and i think that's really it's really interesting and it doesn't matter that shot it doesn't matter you could be the president or you can be the plumber anyone in between you can create your own dynasty because

it's it's it's because we're wired for it we're made to procreate and have you know um grandkids and great-grandkids that outlive us and have that legacy right so what does not jack black say but what does benjamin black say okay so i i was just so wanting to get your thoughts on it so he says the first thing you need to teach your son. Just to reiterate, we're talking about how do you prepare your son to be dateable or marriable? Yes, both dateable and marriageable. Yes. Okay, let's go.

All right, so the first thing he says you need is to teach your son to control his urges. Okay, so I'm going to control his urges. Okay. So I'm going to just unpack that for a second. I imagine he's talking about, you know, young boys online looking at, you know, different websites that. Well, he says in general, lust is a sin and men obviously can fall for it. And when they do, by getting, he says, by getting the male urges under control, he can actually channel that energy into a relationship.

I think that's a really good point. If a young man is satisfied online, he won't be looking for satisfaction with another woman. So you want to have a pent-up desire to go, I want to find someone, a woman to talk to or a young girl to talk to, to maybe hold hands with, maybe eventually I'll kiss her. But if you're getting that somewhere else, the urge to build that with a real human being will be diminished. So I think he's right on that. Again, control your urges, which is going to make you more focused on trying to find a girlfriend or maybe a mate. I think that it's so important, especially now where we're living in this digital world. I saw, you know, a lot of guys are using, they're starting to buy these

Apple vision goggles. They're living in the AI. They're really, as you said, satisfying their needs for connection and relationship with things that aren't even real, with bots, with, you know, even like in the pornography realm, they're, you know, doing only fans, these fake relationships to satisfy these urges that they biologically have. But by putting it into that, they're not becoming disciplined and strong and channeling that energy into productive things, whether it's work, sports, but also a relationship. So I think that was a very good one.

So before we move on, to be realistic, how do you address this as a father, right? If kids have cell phones, this is an opportunity that they have. And it's less you're watching them all the time. So you have to have that conversation. It has to be a conversation, right? And it's not just a conversation about no pornography, which, you know, obvious. I think pornography weakens men. It makes men weak.

But also, like, the why. Like, I actually think you may think it's uncomfortable, but I think that it's an important conversation. Well, it is uncomfortable. Let's just be honest. That's an uncomfortable conversation to have. I'm not going to lie. I'm glad you have to do it. And every man will be like, yeah, that's not a conversation I want to have with my young son.

But I guess that's one that has to be had. Well, Sean, the average age that a young man encounters pornography because of the phones is now 10 years old that's the average age that they first encounter pornography so this is ubiquitous this is a very real temptation and it's everywhere it used to be like people worried that they might see the victoria's secret catalog we're talking about hardcore pornography that's being targeted at young children that actually warps their brain. So this is a very serious thing. I put the Sears catalog back in the day. I did, too.

Okay, let's go to this. The next one he says is physical strength. Your son should have to have some level of earned physical strength. He doesn't have to look like he's like, you know, the statue of David, right? Although, wow, that, you know, that's a beautiful body. But if you, your, your son can't squat, can't carry, can't bench his bride to be, this man says, Benjamin says, he won't have the power to protect her. And I do think women have a desire to be with a man that they know can protect her. I know when our daughter got married to Michael,

a couple days before, you and I were, I don't know if you remember, we were having a conversation about our daughter and marrying her off and all the emotions of that, her being the first one to get married, the first daughter to get married. And I just said, you never know, right? Because marriage is a crapshoot in a lot of ways. I said, but I can said, you never know, right? Because marriage is a crapshoot in a lot of ways. I said, but I can say Michael will and can pull her out of a burning building. So let's be honest on this one. There's a couple things at play.

So all things being equal, a man who is fit and has, again, you don't have to have the greatest dreams, but everyone can work to be a little more fit than what God gave them with not working out. But there's other things that come into play. So maybe it goes to taking care of someone. If you're really rich, you can see some nerdy, rich, really rich guys get really beautiful women. Right? That could happen. That is true. I saw a lot of that when I lived in Beverly Hills.

That's true. You saw that in Beverly Hills. So that could happen. But also you'll see funny guys. Interesting. That can work as well. But it's easy. Just the go-to is work out. Just a little bit. Get a little stronger. And by the way, that's more attractive. Women will find that more attractive when they see a young man who looks firmer. And by the way, you're never going to have it as easy as when you're young to work out.

Like, like take advantage of it while, while it's easy. Right. And it's going to give the young man more confidence. Yeah. And confidence is an aphrodisiac. Absolutely.

Okay. The next one he says is be an early riser. Now that's a really hard thing to each voice, like to sleep in um he says the dim hours of the early morning belong to men who get up and take them by seeking clean to the day he can bring masculine energy to every morning she will find that alluring a woman will never respect a man that values his pillow over prosperity that's's interesting. Again, young men like to sleep. They do need to sleep to grow. They like to sleep late. But I'm gonna tell you what, I think that

if you if I just look at young men, when you have young men who get up early and get about the day, get it going to the gym, get the job, they none them have any money, but I go, that one is going to do pretty well. That one who gets up and works hard is going to do better in life at providing for our family or our potential family. If we ever get married because he's going up and taking it to the day. I see what you're saying. What's interesting is you're saying being that guy, you're signaling to the woman through your you know your discipline of getting up early getting the day going early whether it's to go work out

or to go to work a work that requires you to go early that you're signaling i i have discipline i can provide my brothers used to get up sean this is the kids that get up at 10 o'clock or 11 o'clock my brothers used to get up at 4 3030 in the morning because they delivered papers. That's how old I am. I had brothers who delivered the paper in the morning, and they would get up at 4.30. And you know my brothers. They're hard workers.

Yeah, and sometimes, like for me, when I was working, when I was in high school, sometimes I had to get up really early, and I got up early and did it, and then sometimes I was able to sleep in. But I had no problem getting up and doing early work. Yeah, I like that one.

You know, Michael Wahlberg, he's part of that, like, 430 club. You know, he's a guy. No, I think it's like a 230 club or a 3 o'clock club. I don't know. It's super. I thought it was 430. It's really early. Good for you, Mark Wahlberg. Marky Mark, they've gone through bad itself.

I can't do that. Yeah, he gets up. He works out. He cold plunges. Then he goes to mass. I mean, the guy is, like've gone through that yourself. I can't do that. Yeah, he gets up, he works out, he cold plunges, then he goes to mass. I mean, the guy's like incredible. All right. Practicality is the next one. Being practical is a skill befitting of any man.

It applies to many areas of thought. Working with your hands, making suitable decisions, knowing how to dress for the right occasion, being prepared for anything. It's a summation of be practical. Being practical is a summation of masculine capabilities. You know, Sean, this one's a little nebulous. How do you teach someone to be practical? How do you teach a son to be practical? You must have to just model it. I think that was going to say a lot of a lot of this comes to what has the father in the home? Or if there's not a father, what are the father in the home or if there's not a father what are the brothers of the mother um or the grandfather what have they modeled to this young man um what's what do they

see as normal right and if you're giving me this dress well well again being fit and dressing well is more attractive to women so try to dress the best you can. Or appropriately for the occasion, right? You dress up a little bit for church or you dress up for an interview or if you go out to dinner, you try and look nice and your son might notice that. Or you go to the beach and you try to look nice when you go to the beach even. So yeah, I think that's important, right? It's about presentation. Also, when I was young, I mean, mean when we dated rachel if i would i wouldn't let him touch any of my clothes if i would rub rachel's shoulder i would rip the fabric because i had so many calluses on my hands um i think don't ruin my so close i'll be holding and i held an axe

you know and was yeah because he was for those who don't know sean Sean was a lumberjack. That was his job. I did lumberjack sports. I was firm and I had a lot of calluses. I think that's attractive. It shows hard work. It was. It wasn't good for your clothes, but it was good for us. Don't touch me. Don't wear my sweater.

Literally, the calluses were so rough and sometimes cracking that if he rubbed anything that was... Yeah, they weren't soft. So hold on a second. I like that. So I did too. So dress nice. Be fit. Don't relieve yourself with your phone.

Try to find a woman. These are all really good, simple lessons. Let's do this. Let's take a quick break. We'll come back after and we'll do more. I think we have five more pieces of advice or four more left. Yeah. Yeah. break we'll come back after and we'll do more well i think we have five more pieces of advice or four more left yeah yeah we'll be right back after this break the epic return of yellowstone is now streaming exclusively on paramount plus

you destroy me you destroy yourself unlike you i keep my promises the wait is over yellowstone new episodes now streaming exclusively on Paramount+. All right, welcome back to the kitchen table. Rachel, what is the next piece of advice that Benjamin Black has for us? It's Benjamin Black, right? Yeah, his name is Benjamin Black. Okay, so he says that you have to have earning capacity, that you should instill to your son that, you know, you mentioned the, the, the ugly old guys with the hot women in Beverly Hills. We talked about that, that women, but that's not most of us. Yeah. A lot of women, um, you know, I know there's a lot about, you know, women and men and

sharing and all that guys, women like for a guy to, you know, have a good earning capacity. I think that's a natural thing for women to want. It's important to support your family. And he says, while it's important that the wife is with the man for better or for worse, it is a lot easier if there's more of the better than the worse. And that's fair. It is fair. And so, by the way,achel married me when i didn't have

any money um and but that's it no no no no let me let me okay so yes we were both broke we're both poor um you didn't have a career per se you were a poor law student but you were doing these lumber jack shows and you had more money than i did and i remember that i was not very good at managing my money and still is somehow i had good shoes but i had no money for rent and so i remember when we were dating i said hey sean i'm i'm screwed i can't i don't have the money for the rent and you covered the money for the rent and that was a very important you probably i don't know if. And that was a very important, you probably, I don't know if you realize that. I don't remember this.

I don't remember I gave you money for rent. I do remember. And it signaled a lot to me. Or when I would go see you, one time I went to go see you at a lumberjack show and it was like a five or 10 day show. I forget how long it was. It was at the Calgary Stampede. And you flew me out there.

By the way, you always covered my flights. I did. When I would go see you stampede and you flew me out there by the way you always covered my flights i did when i would go see you or and you would also come and see me because we were living we had a long distance relationship the whole relationship that we were dating and um you would pay my tickets whenever i went somewhere and you always you know i didn't have any cash i was like i said i was like this i was broke i was i was a disaster and i had a job i was a substitute teacher and i taught adult adult spanish classes at beverly hills high when we dated her money was her money and my money was gone that's true some things but you always gave me money when i got went to see you you always paid for the meals when we were together we never went dutch i mean that was unheard of. And you signaled to me that you were going to take care of me.

And you have. I love that. Thank you. So I do think working hard is an ingredient for success and being able to take care of your family. And you can tell if you're, as adults, we can see what kids work hard and which ones don't, right? And girls can see which young men work hard and which ones don't. Right. And girls can see which young men work hard and which ones don't, whether it's in school or in a job or a combination of both. But girls are looking at that. And so they want someone who is a little bit of a go getter. And so if you're a dad, you might as well impart that wisdom that, you know, you eventually, if you want to have a woman you're gonna you're

gonna have to be the provider and you're gonna have to show um that you have that earning capacity so i think that was a good one but it's also important then to incentivize you got to get a job you actually you have to do well in school right as parents that's our job too and sometimes you do it better and sometimes worse but yeah sometimes you do better than i do you mentioned that you know that there are other ways that men can compensate for things that they don't have. So maybe you're not the tallest or the buffest. Maybe you aren't the richest. But if you have a sense of humor, women love to have fun. And they love somebody who has a sense of humor

that doesn't take themselves too seriously, that can make any moment enjoyable. And I think that that is like, you know, they say food is the way women get to a man's, you know, through the stomach, they get to the heart, right? Like men, like a woman who can cook a good meal. I think for a lot of women, a sense of humor is how you get to her heart. Well, so I think, again, some men just aren't funny.

There's only a few that are really funny. But you don't that are really funny but you don't have to be like you don't have to be like comedian quality you just have a good be light-hearted be light-hearted be open for fun be willing to laugh at yourself at yourself in situations and be open to to doing things and i think that is what's attractive to a woman so again you don't have to be a comedian or a jokester, but you have to be fun. Be a fun person. Yeah, don't be a poop. Yeah. Yeah, I like that. I like that. Don't be a poop. All right, the next is leadership. But just a quick sec. Yeah. How do you instill that in your child? Which is like, if you got kind of a child that's a little poopy or boring and not, it can be hard that you got to,

how do you, how do you. I think the modeling of it is, you know, Sean, you usually come downstairs, you're in a good mood. You're joking with the kids you're doing. I mean, I think that, that having that kind of nature, if you were really stern and me, I mean, listen, you're going to have a kid that you could be a really stern dad and you could turn out, you know, Chris Farley. I mean, that can happen,

but usually Chris Farley's come from pretty funny, lighthearted dads. Right. And so my, my, by the way, we're kind of showing our age with our Chris Farley comments here. But you know, we do love Chris Farley. And by the way, we know someone who's who's related to him um but but the point is that i think that you know modeling for most of these modeling it for your son but also kind of talking to them if it's something that you have to impart you can't be like damn it son you got to be funny tell some jokes that doesn't work right no where's your humor but but i think you're right to bring that

helping to bring that out of that yeah and and to show some lightheartedness yourself and encouraging them to be a little more lighthearted and not take themselves so seriously yeah um okay leadership women um i know we're in the girl boss era there's's a lot of girl bosses out there, but there's also a lot of unhappy women, I think, because they are trying too hard to be girl bosses. And they're not, either they're not allowing men to lead, or they're not attracting men who are leaders. And I think that you and I talk a lot about the masculine and feminine and finding that balance between that within ourselves, but also within that yin and yang of a relationship. And so most women, they don't want a man to tell them what to do. They don't want a man to, no, they don't want a man to dominate them, but they do want a leader, someone they can rely on, someone who they trust to take responsibility for this enterprise of a family, you know, whether it's providing, helping to make some of the most difficult

decisions. I mean, usually we make decisions together, Sean. We had a moment in our life that was a real sort of crossroads. And I was, I had inertia, I was pregnant, I didn't want change. And it was probably the clearest, most recent example of you going, I'm sorry, I'm gonna have to take the lead here. I know what's best for this family. I'm responsible for this family. I know you don't want to do this. But we're gonna do this. And I had to sort of go, all right, I'm going to follow on this one. And in those moments, you really appreciate a man who can lead. And I have to say, it became very clear. It didn't become clear to me within six months, but within a year, it was very clear that

you had made the right decision. And I had to tell you that. But I do think it's important to know that you people, you're a couple, you make decisions together. You don't have a dictatorship in a husband. But also there's times that, again, I think that leadership is important. space to to to to exhibit leadership skills um or even to envision a to envision a vision for what do i see my life being like where do i like to live do i want to buy a house what kind of job do i want to have um do i want kids like those kind of things think mean that you're you're thinking about the future and i think that's attractive also to a girl that might think oh I would like that future too or by the way if the girl doesn't like your vision for your future you should probably go a different

direction go find someone else. That's a good point but I also think it's really hard for a teenage boy to think that far down the line and I think I think what I think the role of the dad is probably, and you tell me, Sean, just to help create opportunities for him to have leadership opportunities, I guess is what I'm trying to say. So if... It's responsibility, right? You've been taking responsibility and saying, you know what, there's an expectation that we're going to work together doing certain things because this is what the men do in the house. Also, you're going to take out the trash. That's your job.

Or I need you to go take this kid to this birthday party on the way, go get this present. And I know that all my kids are going to be safe because he is mature enough to get in the car and know what we expect of him and he's going to do it like so and yeah so i think giving people responsibility sports and clubs and those kinds of things and or maybe you have a kid who's like i don't want to run for student body president because i think i'm gonna lose him like giving him that that nudge and that encouragement to go you can do it You've got what it takes.

I remember our son was, you know, the school that they go to require, it's a really small school, and so it requires when one sibling graduates, the other siblings that are in the school have to give a speech about that sibling. It's really a wonderful tradition that they have at the school and our son is very shy and you know but this was an expectation and you helped you worked with him you practiced with you and he rehearsed and um but you know it's it's those opportunities for leadership you didn't you didn't say hey i'll i'll i'll'll talk to the school so you can get out of it or some crazy stuff like that. You were like, sorry, this is what you got to do.

Well, he was terrified. I know he was, but he did it and he overcame it. And I think it was a very formative moment for him to know that he could do that because he honestly did not think he had the ability to do it. And he did a great job. And so I think those kinds of moments, those opportunities, whether it's in sports, whether it's in clubs, those give kids, young men, the opportunity to show leadership and leadership ultimately is something that they want. The next one is intellect. Obviously, you want a sharp mind, right? I mean, every girl wants to marry somebody who's

not dumb as rocks so to show my age you don't want spicoli right what's the music again where mr bully oh is that fast time yeah fast time hi thank you like you don't want that dude like the like a dumb drunk the dumb the dumb surfer in the back you want someone what is the dumb surfer in the back of the room is really cute. Sorry. Not long term. That's right. By the way, that young hot surfer is going to turn into an old fat surfer. But yeah, you're right.

That's probably true. He's going to be an old boy. When I lived in San Diego, Sean, I lived in La Jolla with all kinds of, you know, surfers. And yeah,

you're right. There is, there are really cute, young fit surfers. And then there's this other generation of hanger-on, old, beer-bellied surfers who never moved on. And you're right. Those are not marriageable people. So just on that point, again, knowing what's happening in the world, being somewhat well-read, being smart.

Being interesting. Being interesting is attractive to not just girls, but also to her friends. And it's going to go to the next one, being attractive to her parents. And again, this is what... Can I just finish what he said on intellect before we move to that one? He says, a man who sharpens his mind will never be dull. His understanding of the world and situations will entertain, will provide a level of subtle comfort

knowing that she can rely on his mind to supply an answer for their problems again this is this is these are things that you would never hear in a women's studies class right no but these are things that are are true to human nature huge and true natural law, true to the way we actually are, not the way, you know, somebody in a women's study wants the relationship between the sexes to be, but how they actually biologically, physiologically, anatomically,

and intellectually are. And this is very good. It's that yin-yang. It's that complementarity of the sexes. And that is a really important one. Now, that doesn't mean that women don't need to sharpen their mind, because, you know, you don't, men want to be want the same thing. You know, and obviously, the quality of the conversation is better when both people are sharpening their minds and having deep, interesting, philosophical, humorous conversations. I think that that's really good. I like Benjamin Black. If you want to follow him on Twitter, I think his stuff is really interesting. The last one, Sean, totally blew me away.

I did not expect this, but I thought this was really good. How to get on with her dad. He says fathers are very protective of their little girls. If he can prove he's a capable young man, he will put himself in good light in her father's eyes. He isn't just marrying her. He's marrying into a family, too. This is one that goes both ways, too, Sean. Go ahead.

No, that was it what i mean is that you i'm marrying into your family too i gotta get along with your family too and i think about i think about our son-in-law couldn't be happier so this is my view. If her dad likes you, he will be your best advocate when you're not around. And if her dad doesn't like you, he is going to slash your tires all day long. And so if you like her, the best thing you can do is get on her dad's good side. Be a gentleman. Be nice. Respect her respect her respect him respect their whole family be interested in their family participate in their family and if you do that the dad might go this actually this kid's actually pretty good i actually kind of like him and then you might go how's it you guys doing well you're still dating

how's it going i mean he'll be interested in and help encourage this relationship versus a kid he doesn't like. Oh, you don't want dads that don't like little girls boyfriends. Yeah. Because he will undermine that stuff all day long. But then you could also get a Romeo and Juliet situation. If you're trying to pull them apart. No, we're not. They may want to be together more. No, we're not. But I think you're right. And trying to pull my house no we're not they may want to be

together more but i but i think you're right and i think that's good advice in general i think um uh young men um if you're gonna go and and this is the job of the dad to teach the son you know one of the things we've talked about this before but i'm going to talk about it again um on the podcast you know our now son-in-law came to pick up our daughter on a date when they were dating in high school. And she said, oh, he's outside. And he had texted her. And Sean said, oh, no, that's not going to work. You better tell him.

You better come to the door. And so that's great. He ended up coming to the door. He rang the door and now he always, he rang the door and he was like, hi, Mr. Duffy.

Yeah. But also like, that's something too, that like, he was uncomfortable. Yeah. And they left together. And by the way,

he has a nice dad. I'm sure his dad told him not to do that. And maybe Michael just, you know, comes from a good family. Yeah. Comes from a great family. So I'm not saying that,

but that is something too, like, you know, comes from a good family. Yeah. Comes from a great family. So I'm not saying that, but that is something too, like, you know, because dating is not that common anymore. Kids don't know how to date anymore. They may need the dad to teach them. If I could have just texted, you know, a girl that I was going to prom with and not gone in, I probably would have. That's, that's a default. Yeah. You gotta, you gotta incentivize to go. No, we actually don't do that. We actually go to their door and we actually get them and talk to their dad and go listen i'm gonna take i'll have her when we're coming home this is what we're gonna do this is what time i

have her back i promise you ever back at this time but that is something actually to be fair on both sides that requires the dad of the girl to go set the standard high for what he wants how he wants his daughter to be treated and that requires the dad of the boy to go set the standard high for what he wants, how he wants his daughter to be treated. And that requires the dad of the boy to go, this is how you date a woman and this is how you respect her. True. So can I just break this down to what I think? Sure. You need, first off, a young man who can talk to a girl. And by the way, they can get stressed out of their minds talking to girls. And I think we can help facilitate, encourage, you know, give advice to, to get them to do that. And we did a podcast on this, but you can work on talking to a female waitress who's 20 years older than you. You can talk to your sister's friends, like all really safe things.

Like all these safe things. But being able to talk to someone. Forgoing your urges and driving your energy towards a relationship with a girl is very positive. Yes. Having a good disposition. So if you're funny, but you're lighthearted, and you like to laugh, and not be afraid to laugh at her and laugh at yourself and laugh at her jokes. All of that will make her like you more.

Try to work hard at school and at your job. One, that's a great life skill, but also something that your young women will see as a positive, positive trait in your life. And I think if you do that, you should dress well. Like, and we're all, God, God gave us all certain looks and sizes and whatnot, but he didn't pick your clothes and he didn't groom you.

So you can groom yourself well, and you can put on nice clothes. Make yourself as presentable and as attractive as possible. And that goes for the girls too. And you can do a little workout, make yourself a little stronger. All those things together, you're golden, man. You're going to get a gal. Giddy up. I love this. Again, I want to encourage you to follow Benjamin Black.

I don't know him. I just like his stuff. I think he's got a great feed. I don't know what else, Benjamin, so I'm not seeing all this stuff. I've seen some of his stuff i think he's got a great great feed i don't know i don't know what else benjamin so i'm not saying i have i've i've seen some of the stuff i think and i love the i love just what he says he says he's the founding father of three he's creating content and resources for you to forge a family legacy to outlive your grandkids um and create your own modern dynasty um most of it i i have to say i, I'm kind of digging it. So I like it, but, but ultimately Sean,

we are in charge of our own dynasties, our own destinies. And all of us should be engaged in helping our kids become more marriageable, the girls and the boys, because that's how we're going to end up getting grandkids. Down straight. All right. All right. Good conversation, Rachel. Bye everybody. Hold on a second. All right. Good conversation, Rachel. Bye, everybody. Hold on a second.

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