From the Kitchen Table: The Duffys - Q & A With The Duffys: Our Top Five Songs From The 80's

Episode Date: October 7, 2023

Sean and Rachel sit down to discuss their feelings on homework, and why they believe that when kids are at home, it should be family time and not an extension of school. Later, they reveal their top songs from the 1980s, and share the memories that each song brings back to them from being raised in the decade. Follow Sean & Rachel on Twitter: @SeanDuffyWI & @RachelCamposDuffy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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So you can look and feel good about gifting and wearing them. Shop your wishlist 25% off at Mijeri.com today. Hey everyone, welcome to From the Kitchen Table. I'm Sean Duffy along with my co-host for the podcast, my partner in life and my wife, Rachel Campos Duffy. Sean, it's great to be back. You know we love Q&A, but today we're going to look at some tweets. You and I are constantly sending each other screenshots of tweets and headlines and things that we like. And there's a couple that have come up that we've, you know, sparked conversation. And I've said, don't talk about it. Let's talk about it on the podcast.

So before we get to that, we're going to do the tweets that we want to talk about. But after that, we are going to podcast about Date Like It's the 80s. And so someone said, well, Date Like the 80s, what was your favorite music from the 80s?

So Rachel and I have each picked our five top songs from the 80s. Rachel has five. I have five. And we'll tell you what those are, playing a little snippet after we go through a couple of tweets that have come out. We'll see whose playlists our viewers like best. We'll have to put an online poll for that. It's probably going to be very masculine and very feminine.

We'll see. We'll see. Let's see what happens on that. Okay. So that's going to be fun. We're actually going to be very masculine and very feminine. We'll see. We'll see. Let's see. Let's see what happens on that. Okay. So that's going to be a fun. We're actually going to play a little bit of each song, kind of get, take everyone down memory lane from the eighties.

Maybe on another podcast, we'll do the nineties. So that's another good era for music, but the eighties really, really special. Okay. So Matt Walsh had this tweet this week. He said,

this is him talking to, to teachers and schools saying, you have the kids for six to seven hours a day. If they still have work to do at the end of the day, that's the school's fault. Be more efficient. Use your time better. When kids are out of school, it should be family time. Sean, I'm holding back because you know I have a lot of opinions on this, but you go first. What's your thought? This is one of my pet peeves. I'm like, we sent them to school all day. How can they come home with hours of work? So if you have a high schooler, the high schooler can oftentimes do the work by themselves. They can go to their room or sit at the kitchen table and do their homework. But if you have a second grader and a fourth grader, you do the homework with them. So when

you come home to have family time, instead of like talking about your day and doing dinner and sitting down to dinner and then doing a break, these kids don't get any downtime. And you don't get downtime because you have to sit down and do second grade math or then you know second grade stupid spelling works or reading worksheets get it done but get it done in school i agree with that stop sending me if you got like 15 minutes for a second grader okay but if you have 45 minutes of work to do with a second grader i agree with matt walsh you are not doing your job there's way too much homework out there and parents can't handle it and it's a disservice to the family unit themselves. How many people work eight hours a day and then come home and have to work another three hours on top of it,

doing homework for their, for their job. It just, it doesn't happen that way. These kids are exhausted. Yeah. I think the kids are tired. I think they want a break from, from, from homework when they come home. Also, you know, it gets multiplied. So if you have like a lot of kids like we do, I remember when, when I had, you know, four little ones that all needed help and it was so hard to manage it. And that's, of course, this is like, especially when you were in Congress and you weren't home as much, you know, after school during the week. And so that was really, really stressful for me, especially, and, and really hard. And I do think the kids kind of suffered a little bit from it because I couldn't give them as much attention to each one as they each wanted from school.

You didn't have the time. You don't. You just literally went out of time. But also, you lose something. I think that, you know, they're gone for eight hours. As he said, you have them for that long. Now they're mine. And I want them, I want to enjoy them. I want to have time with them. I also want them to be able to help me clean up after dinner, which they do, even though they have homework, but I can tell that they're stressing about helping me out, you know, after dinner, trying to, you know, clean up the kitchen and clean up after dinner. And then they had to go do their work. It's just a lot on families. And I think that I totally agree.

I love like our kids go to a great school. I, when I love seeing what they're doing, by the way, at, when they come home from school, I mean, I can't tell you every time I see a worksheet, uh, you know, uh, you know, here's what they're covering for the week. Um, I sent one to, to Pete Hegseth the other day, just to cut. We sometimes will compare what his kids are learning, what my kids are learning. We're always so amazed and we feel robbed. Sean, you talk about that a lot too. We feel robbed of what we got as kids when your kids go to a classical school. So I love that they're getting all this stuff, but I wish that we would get less of it coming home so that,

so that we could have more, more time together as a family and it could be more relaxed for those few hours before bedtime. It gets hectic. And I wish the schools would appreciate that. And I do think that it's important for schools to be more efficient. Use the time well. Yes.

And make sure they get an instruction. If they need some time to work on their own, whether they're study halls or work time, figure it out. But again, yeah, that's right. Six, seven hours a day they have our kids. Why are we coming home and doing another couple hours of homework with kids? But even with the high schoolers, Sean, like I get like they have to do a lot of, at our school, they have to do a lot of reading, but it's like, I don't want them in

another room reading. I want to enjoy them when they come home as well. So, you know, maybe an hour of reading. I mean, I just think I love that the school is rigorous. I love the stuff that they are reading. And I know that it's challenging what their curriculum is. And I'm happy about that. But I do think there needs to be a balance between family. Because also, Sean, there's so much they learn from being, you know, interacting, being

part of the family and having to do chores with the family, even after school, all that kind of stuff. I love it. And I think that that schools just need to be more aware of that. So that is definitely something. Matt Walsh, spot on. Yeah. Matt Walsh, spot on. I've gone through the schools myself going, this is too much. So there's this guy that wrote on the internet and it sparked a lot of conversations. His name is Mark Manson. He actually has a New York Times bestselling book. Here's what he wrote. And he said, choosing a romantic partner isn't just about the romance. You're also choosing a confidant, a counselor, a career advisor, a therapist, an investor, a teacher, a travel buddy, a roommate, a best friend, and a business partner. So choose wisely. And then he wrote this, Sean.

There was this huge response to what he had to say. Obviously, you know, big response. And then he responded to all the responses and said, there are two types of replies to this post. One, people who get it, and two, people who are single. And then he says, to be clear, I'm not saying you should make one person all these things. I'm simply stating the fact that once you choose to spend your life with a single person, they become all of these things, whether you like it or not. So don't take that choice lightly. I think it's such an excellent point. So you read that to me before we did the podcast and I was, I'm like, that is so true because you are, we are all of those things together. We are friends.

We're parents together. We're travel partners. We're counselors. We're business partners. I don't think there's much in my life that happens that you're not a partner in. And so I don't think you can... By the way, I think that if you think about that... That's a lot of pressure when you're dating to think about it like that.

If you think about that, could this person be all these things to me? I think it can be more simple than that. But the point in life, in marriages, that person will end up being that person for you and with you and you for them. And I think the point that he's trying to make is that, yes, romance matters. Sexual attraction, of course, so important in a relationship. that he's trying to make is that yes romance matters a sexual attraction of course so important in a relationship however understand that once you get married and again not too much but understand is the most important decision you make because once you get marriage married those things while

still important you have to add all these other aspects of living with someone together and that means you know for some people they're sharing a business together they're doing we have to sit down and do finances together we're going to travel how well do you travel with somebody that's super important we like to travel we like to travel we're actually going on a trip next week um and so yeah we like to travel together but these being each other's best friend is probably the most important thing. The counseling part of this is really important because things come up in our lives, whether

it's at work with friends or with family and to have someone who is a good listener that will not send you to the darkest places that you may want to go in that moment but can actually bring you into the light they're going to go you know what listen hold on a second you can't handle it that way there's a better way to deal with this you're you're not in the right space right now talk you off the ledge this is this has always been our problem with the harry and megan thing that megan markle and i know i'm sorry to bring it back to the Royals, but we've talked about this in this context that, you know, Harry clearly has had problems with his family, just like everybody has problems with their families. And Meghan Markle seems to speak to his darkest angels and

pull him apart from his family rather than helping him find peace with his family. And so, yes, this counselor part, and who is that person? Is that person that's your confidant and your counselor in your life? Is it somebody that's going to bring you to your best version of yourself, the light, if you will? Or is it somebody who's going to take you into the worst parts and turn you into somebody who's resentful and negative? And by the way, that is something that when you date, you can see that right away because you will share what's going on in your life. And no doubt you'll have a fight with someone or a disagreement with someone. And if they are negative and they're like, yeah, fight them, screw them, go after them, burn their house down.

If that's the advice you get from the same partner that you're dating, you do not want to marry them. Because again, you start to take on the traits of that person that's advising you, and then you can become really negative. And maybe the good part you had about yourself that would have eventually brought you to this better position on how to analyze the fight or the argument that you're in, you never get there after, you know, five, 10 years of marriage. All of a sudden you see the world the way your partner sees it. And it is all negative. And we do have to fight and we do have to, you know, go scorched earth. When you date, you can see that and how they handle and advise you maybe in some of the

problems that you share when you're out to dinner as you're dating, going through this process. So I think also people underestimate how much over time, I mean, hopefully you're getting married or you're thinking about getting married or you're dating someone who you hope to marry and you're, hopefully this is going to be a long-term proposition, right? And we're going on 25 years, Sean. And the longer you're married to someone, the more you guys become like each other, which is a beautiful thing. The problem is if your partner has a lot of negative things, you're going to take those on too. And so, you know, the idea is marry someone who brings out the best in you and somebody who wants what's best for you, which brings to the career advisor

part, because that's something people maybe go, I didn't think about that. Like my spouse is my career advisor. Well, it turns out, Sean, that all the data shows that when men and women get married, for men in particular, their careers, the man's career explodes. They make more money and they're more successful than their single counterparts. And there's been some analysis about why is that the case? And part of the analysis, of course, men feel more pressure to, you know, once they get married and have kids to, you know, work harder and make money because they have the pressure to support that family. But there's more to it. It is that two minds working together towards planning and strategizing each other's career or the male's career, in this case, actually is very helpful.

So you want somebody who's smart and strategic minded and thinks and cares about you and your own personal and professional development. So one of the points on that is when you're in the younger part of your life and you're taking risks, advancing your career, it can be scary. And if you don't take risk, you don't grow. And so if you're going to take those big risks in your life and they might be successful, you might fail at them, right? You don't know how they're going to turn out. But to have a partner with you that you can lean on, that you can fall back into, that's going to support you and lift you and strategize with you, you can take those risks and you can keep taking risks and bigger risks if you are a unit and a friendship together, because in the end, what you know is you have each other. And again, it's scary, but it's way less scary if I have someone here who's going to support me

through thick and thin, and we're going to do this and get through this together, where I can think about the upside and the downside and what happens to us if this doesn't pan out. So I just look at my own stuff. I couldn't have taken the risks without having, one, your brain power to help with what we were doing because it was a two-person show, not just a one-person show, but

a campaign that is really nobody but us. But also, it was easier to do it because you're like, you can do it. And if this doesn't work, we're going to figure it out. We're going to be fine. We're going to feed the five kids. And I mean, that is really reassuring. And if someone didn't give you that support, you didn't give me that support, or if you're by yourself, you don't get the same results because you don't take the risk. Yeah. It's very interesting that once you get married, you do take on all of these. And then they say it's your roommate. I mean, you have to think about that too. Now we have different standards. Rachel's a better roommate than I am. I'm kind of a neat freak. I like things to be orderly. I think it's because so many things

are running in my head all the time that if I'm at least seeing order in the house, so I'm kind of a neat freak like that. And if I clean the house and Rachel cleans the house and I come home, I'm like, it just looks better. It just shines a little more when she does it versus when I do it. That's a female touch. I'm sorry it i can get a glass of ice water and she can get a glass of ice water and my ice water always tastes better to rachel when we go to bed and she'll i do love to drink his water after he pours it so yeah um so yeah you have you have i just think that was a really um a really interesting thing the other thing thing, well, he had another, he had another one on there that I thought was one more. He says, these are the three major signs that your relationship will last.

You have good fights. You fight to make, it says fights make relationships stronger, not weaker. I think that's totally true. We've talked about this before, Sean, that people who say they'd never fight always end up seem to end up divorced. Fighting makes your relationship stronger. You learn a lot through that. Two, that you share a similar worldview and vision for the future. And three, that there's a rock solid friendship that undergirds that relationship. I think all three of those were really, really good and things we've talked about before here. Well, the good friendships play into the 20 things that you're going to be in the other person's life, right? Yeah. Good friends. Yeah. Care about you. Yeah. The second one you brought up was what? That you have a similar worldview, a vision for the future. I mean, if one person wants to live in Manhattan, New York, then wants to live in rural Minnesota,

to live in Manhattan, New York, then wants to live in rural Minnesota, that's really hard to see how those two are going to make it fit. If you're really strongly committed to those. One person wants to have five kids, one person doesn't want any kids. Those are very simple things, but really big things in a relationship that are very meaningful. Again, we talked about politics. Politics matter. Values matter. You know, one of the things in the Catholic Church that they do is they have a thing called Pre-Cana. And it's basically, you know, six months of, you know,

going to different meetings and courses. It's basically a course in how to prepare for marriage. And so many of these questions come up. They force the couples to confront questions that they might not confront, you know, like if they hadn't gone through this until well into their marriage, you know, how you feel about children, how many, you know, how open are you to having them, finances, all of these things that people really can get into that mindset and talk about all of these things

beforehand because they will come up. And the more that you share in common, or at least the more prepared you are for how you don't agree on things, on certain things, the more I think likely you are to get through those times when those issues come up. And so I think it's, I love the idea of pre-K and I think it's a really important part. And by the way, if you spend time together because you're friends, that, again, I think there's, especially in the first few years of marriage, it can be really hard. And there's more fights and there's, it's just, and it's easier to stick it out. It's easier to go like, you know what, we actually do like each other. The good times are better than the bad times when you have a really good friendship together.

And I think the most important point, and I think it's so counterintuitive, is the fighting. I mean, when you argue, when you have to present your point of view and you confront what you don't like and you're honest about it, it brings more honesty into the relationship. I think there's a lot of women, especially who think they have to suppress how they feel. And, you know, in order to make the peace, in order to make the peace, you know, I think, I think you just learn, you have to learn how to fight fair. You have to learn how to fight with the intention of, you know, reconciling and coming to an agreement at the end. And I think

what fundamentally changes the nature of a fight is when you are married. And this is the argument I give all the time to women who are living with someone because they go, what's the difference? And obviously there's some religious and sacramental reasons why I think, you know, there's grace and things that happen when you get married that I think are spiritual and from another dimension that sort of bless the union when you actually get married under the eyes of God. But let's put that aside for a second and just look at the very practical things. And one of the most practical things that happens when you are married is the nature of your fights change. married is the nature of your fights change. And that is because if you are married for life and you know that this is you, you mean it and you both want this to be for life, the nature of your fight changes. You have to find a resolution. Nobody can go, that's it. I'm out of here or,

or not deal with the problem or not dig in your chances for digging in and getting to the bottom and finding a resolution that is beneficial for the relationship moving forward changes if you're married. If you're living together, there's always an exit door. And I think that changes everything. You know, I also think what's really important in fighting, so when you're in a marriage or a long-term relationship, you get to know the person very well who you're with. You get to know things that are really wonderful about them, but also maybe some things that aren't so great about them or their families or whatever it may be.

And in a fight, we can go to the place where it's like, you know what? I know how I can throw fuel on this fire. I'm going to use these words. know how I can throw fuel on this fire. I'm going to use these words. I'm going to bring up something that you did or something about, you know, one of your family members and you throw that in and you know, you know, the result, you know exactly what you're doing. It's going to be explosive because you know, that's not about, that's not what the fight's about. All you're doing is going, I'm going to put some gasoline on this fire and see it blow up. If that happens, yeah, actually when you're in the good time, you got to go, hold on a second. Hey, listen,

I get the fight. I get what we did. But when you do that to me, that is going to take us to a whole new place. And our fight's going to go longer and deeper. It's going to be harder. And so that comes to the point of finding rules around how you fight and the things that you share in love are off limits in fights right and having what it's like you have some things that i've said you're like listen i told you that and you can't use that against me in a fight yeah and i've been like okay but then you can't use this against me in a fight right okay right and i think i yeah i think that the way we fought or like, so first of all, it was no secret. We've talked about this before. Our first year of marriage was terrible. Um, it was horrible, not terrible. It was horrible. I wanted to go home. I wanted to

go home. Um, I called my mom and I said, mom, that's it. I'm coming home. And she said, no, you're not, this is not your home anymore. You better work this out with your husband. It was the best advice, the best tough, tough love I ever got. And, and I did. And I came with some really bad habits about, about fighting things that I, you know, took on from, from, from things I'd seen in my past and in my own family. And I think what has been really great going through the years is I have seen an absolute shift in the way we fight. Now, I'm not saying that every fight is, you know, perfect model fight or not.

They sometimes can get, you know, heated and way, way too heated and go in bad directions. have seen through the years that because we've put, we've verbally stated our guidelines and even after a fight have gone back when everything is calm and we've already reconciled to go, listen, I want to talk about what happened in that fight. This was a no-go zone. This, and sort of reassess those rules and how we handle it, the fights have become less explosive and they resolve quicker than they did in the early part of our marriage, without a doubt. Because again, I throw stuff at you that I know is going to make you angry. Yeah. And then when I do the same, she throws it back on me, it's going to make me angry. And then all of a sudden you start to do that. And this was a pretty moderate fight. All of a sudden is like nuclear war. Right. But I think this idea of going back and revisiting

the fight and going, here's what went well and here's what didn't. And again, and understanding that stuffing your feelings down and not talking about it. And by the way, I don't think you should fight for the sake of fighting at all. I mean, if you can have a conversation and say, listen, when this happens, this is how it makes me feel. Or when you did this, when you came home, this is what happened to me. And this is why I was so angry. You know, if you can talk it through a hundred percent, but don't be afraid of conflict. And I think that's hard. There's so many people who are afraid of conflict. Conflict means that you're actually confronting how you feel. The other person gets to see you as you really are, the inside of you, how you feel. And then you can find that resolution. And I think you're a stronger

team coming out of it. 100%. We'll have more of this conversation after this. This episode is brought to you by Mejuri. From November 25th to December 2nd, get 25% off everything on orders over $150 in Mejuri's biggest sale ever. From bold hoops to minimalist stacks, Mejuri has something for everyone. Mejuri makes handcrafted fine jewelry for every day made with responsibly sourced materials. So you can look and feel good about gifting and wearing them. Shop your wishlist 25% off at Mijeri.com today. So I want to get to the more exciting part of this podcast, which is going back to the 80s, right?

And we all, we both picked five songs from the 80s, our favorites. Should we start in, start with like the fifth best to the first? No, you just start. Yeah, sure. Sure. Give your list from, no, yeah. Your bottom from the fifth all the way up to the first. Okay.

I'm going to go with a 1981 classic. It's still a classic today. Early 80s. I like it. You're very young. I was young, but it's still on my playlist today. It's that good this is uh journey don't stop believing that's definitely on the duffy family playlist it gets

played a lot okay okay so my um number five song is borderline it's from 1983 it's madonna obviously i would say that my favorite artist in the 80s was Madonna I literally today is oh no no like if I'm if I'm exercising if I'm on the peloton my favorite ones are Madonna Madonna workouts I love Madonna um there's can I tell you why I love Madonna tell me why um first of all she wrote the most pro-life pop song ever don't tell daddy what's it papa don't preach don't preach was so good um i almost put that but truly borderline i love madonna was um i can i remember the first time i ever saw a madonna video i know exactly where i was when i saw it it got my attention i'm like something in my world has changed and it was starlight and I love how she brought in so much

she loved she was Italian American but she loved Hispanic music culture nice la bolita you know she always brought most of her love interests most of her love interest in her video were Hispanic men she she loved everything to do with Latino culture. Remember her first husband, the father. How many husbands has she had? I don't know, several. But her first husband was a Cuban American and the father of her first child. This is a dissertation on Madonna. So you did Madonna. I think she changed so many things for women i really do all right so i'm gonna go to my uh my my fourth best song from the 80s now this artist um wasn't he was he gave us an anthem in the 80s and he's turned into a big old liberal squish in his later years uh this is twisted sister

we're not gonna take it d snyder was like we're not going to take it. Dee Snider was like, we're not going to take it. He was like, everybody take the vaccine. We all got to get the jab. Was he really doing that? Oh, yeah. No, he was a... I don't remember that. I heard that he said something about transgender in the school,

and then he had to take it back because they attacked him. People call it something different, but no, I think Dee Snider was... I don't remember him saying that. Why don't you Google that while I tell you the next one? I'm just going to tell you one of the headlines. Deesnider tells fans against vaccine mandates to go see Ted Nugent and Kid Rock. Oh, he did. So Deesnider, we're not going to take it, was all about on the side of the man telling you to take it.

But in the 80s, that was not the anthem. That was not the song. Yeah, it was a sign of freedom and independence. By the way, he mentioned go see Ted Nugent. I love Ted Nugent. I saw a video of a clip of an interview that he had where he was basically saying, I'm not going to take this untested vaccine. And then the person who was interviewing said, well, what do you have to say to those people who, you know, say that you should take the vaccine? He goes, I actually, I want to, I do, I want to speak to the people who are forcing, who are being, who are forcing others to take the vaccine. I speak their language. And he goes, and he kept doing that. And the guy was just sitting there going, I can't believe it. I love Ted Nugent.

Ted Nugent, to me, who he is, his attitude about life encapsulates America to me. So I love that about him. Now let's go to Rachel's number four song. We're going to get through this list. Number four is Peter Gabriel, In Your Eyes. In Your Eyes. That was 1986. By the way, three of my songs i believe are from 1986 so that

was a great year for why why in your eyes well first of all one of my favorite movies that's from say anything where what's the big what's this all coming out to policy i'm sure what's what's the uh i can't remember i can't remember come on um you even remember his name. You know, sister's an actor, too. Come on. Anyway. Anyway, Say Anything was a great movie. It was. It was sort of like, you know, if you were our age in the 80s, I mean, everyone saw that movie, Say Anything.

It's one of the great, you know, sort of rom-coms, if you will, romantic slash comedy. John Cusack. Yes. Yes. John Cusack. John Cusack. Yes. Yes. Okay. John Cusack. All right. So there was that.

And In Your Eyes was a great, great lyrics, great song. Great movie. But great movie. It has stood the test of time. It still gets used on other soundtracks for other movies. That's true. It's a great movie. Okay.

I mean, a great song. I'm going to go to 1987, a year after Rachel, because she was... I'm older, like, by 19 days than Rachel, but she was a year... Ahead in school. Ahead in school. I graduated in 89. I was not held back.

I graduated in 90. Most of us born in 87 graduated in 90, not Rachel. Okay, 1987, Def Leppard and Hysteria. My buddy, Andy Rife, his dad owned a car dealership, and he would randomly. My buddy Andy Reif, his dad owned a car dealership and he would randomly be able to take these cars

and he had a Suzuki Samurai that we traveled this summer around and listened to Death Leopard nonstop. Hysteria, one of our favorite songs. Great memories. Very good times. It's definitely a guy song. I love it too, but it's definitely... I got your next one up, Rachel. Oh, you do? Okay, no, is that my... Oh, yeah, you're right. Tell us a guy song. I love it too, but it's definitely...

I got your next one up, Rachel. Oh, you do? Okay, no, is that my... Oh, yeah, you're right. Tell us the next song. Okay, the next one is 1986. It's The Glory of Love with Peter Cetera. And our kids all love this.

This is also on the Duffy playlist. Remember this song? Was this from Karate Kid? Yes. It was from Karate Kid. Karate Kid is a big deal in our house. We love the Karate Kid? Yes. It was from Karate Kid. Karate Kid is a big deal in our house. We love the Karate Kid. It's one of the Duffy movie classics.

And so, yes, this is the glory of love from Karate Kid. Okay. Rachel loves that. Okay, I'm going to go to my third. Am I at my third or my fourth? I've done three so far. So I'm on my second best song. Right?

So I'm going to go to the greatest band of all time really greatest album some of the greatest albums to come out of all time i know what this is this is gonna go to number two though on my playlist poison so good um and yeah love all right love. So you were obsessed with Poison for the big haired bands. I was obsessed with Bon Jovi. I love Jon Bon Jovi. I loved all the music. I was never allowed to go to a concert, but I remember I had friends who went. And I had a friend in high school who went and she was near the front.

school who went and she was near the front and she told me that when john bon jovi was singing he shaked his hair and his sweat fell on her and she rubbed it into her arms that's how crazy and i was like i remember going okay so that's amazing and i would have never known that thing that i was gonna live in jersey i do love that song. All these memories come up. I know. Totally. I was on the high school hockey bus and it was like, that was our anthem on the high school hockey bus. Okay. So I'm going to go with my number one best song of the eighties. I don't think anyone listening or watching would disagree with this because it is just kind of the known anthem of the 80s. This is Twisted. I know I said that. All right.

Go again. So I'm surprised I picked so many slow songs from my top songs. Yeah, I'm kind of shocked too. So am I. I mean, I even thought about do I do, you know, Kiss with Beth. But I'm like, I'm just all too slow. That was a little too early 80s. By the way, I think that was 19.

They first recorded White Snake, recorded that in 1982. And then we recorded it because it didn't hit, but in their 87 album. And they changed, like a hobo, I was born to walk alone. And they changed it to Drifter. The Drifter version crushed it. So anyway, Whitesnake. That was a good choice. Thank you.

I'm not a Madonna fan. She's okay. Beside Madonna, In Your Eyes, Glory of Love, Living on a Prayer. Living on a Prayer is probably my favorite, Free Fallen 2. Again, Mine, Twisted Sister, Every Rose Has Its Thorn, Don't Stop Believing, Hysteria, and Whitesnake. into um again mine twisted sister um every rose has its thorn don't stop believe in hysteria and uh it was listen it's very hard to make it good like top five 80s list because there was so much great great stuff at that time and um so yeah these are these are the soundtracks we still had like long hair, you know, dude bands.

Sean, if I had known you in those, you know, when you brought up that image of you in the hockey locker room, I didn't know you back then. What were you like? Listen, I just a normal, you know, good natured kid. Didn't do a whole lot of dating. Time with Carol, my mom and dad, you know, dad. You know, they were out skiing at that point. I had older brothers and sisters. I was just trying to get through life, right? And I love playing hockey.

I love my teammates. Were you pretty good? I was okay. Yeah. Yeah. I played a little bit in college. Did you actually get to get on the ice in high school? Yeah.

Listen, I got on the ice my freshman year. So in Wisconsin, Hayward, where I was from. So that means you were pretty good. One of the best hockey teams in the state through our four years of high school. One of your buddies actually went to the pros. Went to the pros. That's right. Daniel Platt.

So yeah, but I love this because songs bring up memories of times in our life. I feel bad. Which is so cool. And 80s was a great time for music. You know, if we do 90s, it's going to bring us probably into our real world years and some of the music from the shows.

Yeah, like the Smashing Pumpkins and Nirvana. That's all fun stuff. So, okay, well, this was the 80s edition. Really fun to hear your... It was great. Yours too.

To hear your hockey get psyched playlist. It was fun. Listen, thanks for joining us on the Q&A and the Top 80s Music Podcast for Sean and me. You know what we should do? We should have Kennedy on. I might need to tell you that Kennedy is also one of our favorite people at. She absolutely is. Let's have Kennedy on the show coming up here soon.

And we'll talk music. We could have done this one with Kennedy and she could have given us. Yeah, this is a good reminder. We can talk about all kinds of stuff with Kennedy. Because we were all on MTV at the same time. And we kind of have that fun time with her. Yes. Talk music with her.

No one knows music better than her. We could pick five. We could do the 90s. We each do five songs. And that'll take an hour podcast. She'll give us the history and when she met them. Oh, I'm already loving the show. If our producers are listening, Booker. Book Kennedy.

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