Girls Gone Bible - The Lies You Believe, Become You | Girls Gone Bible

Episode Date: July 3, 2026

  hiii GGB :)   This episode is all about how the lies we believe, eventually shape our reality.   The enemy rarely starts with your behavior—he starts with your identity.   He whispers lies like, "You're just an anxious person." "You're insecure." "You'll always struggle." And if you believe those lies long enough, they begin to shape the way you live.   What started as a season becomes an identity.What became an identity becomes a lifestyle.   But God doesn't call you by your struggle. He calls you by who He created you to be. Because when identity changes, behavior follows.   We loveeeeee you    Jesus loves you more. -Ang & Ari    ORDER OUR BOOK! You can order our new book "Out of the Wilderness- 31 Devotions to Walk with God Through Your Hardest Seasons" at https://www.girlsgonebible.com/book    JOIN US ON GGB+ 🥹❤ https://ggb.supportingcast.fm    COME SEE US ON TOUR: Tickets for our tour are now on sale. Go to https://www.GirlsGoneBible.com/tour    Thanks to our sponsors!   BRODO https://www.Brodo.com/GGB SHOPIFY Start your free trial at https://www.Shopify. COM/GGB BOLL & BRANCH https://www.Bollandbranch.com/GGB BETTERHELP  https://www.Betterhelp.com/girlsgonebible GRAND CANYON UNIVERSITY https://www.GCU.edu Find your purpose at GCU.  

What's up, pun? What's up, pun? Angela gets a kicker when I do impressions of, like, a 50-year-old smoker from the... Like a knucklehead from Massachusetts. Every time I'll go home, and I, like, bump into someone at the store or something. Ariel? What's up, hon? What's up?

How are you doing? You're, wow, you look good, huh? Like a fox. Do an older woman with a smoker's voice getting a scratchy? No, I always say, I don't even know if, like, this is appropriate to say this, but, like, Angela is able to wear, like, really low-ride jeans, and she looks so cute, you know? And I just could never wear, like, a low-rise gene. I always say, you know, like, the, like, the women. that drink like the Budweiser

when I grew up they would have like the low-rise shorts on with the belly sound I'm like that's what I would look like I'll tell you every time Ari sees like a girl wearing low-rise jeans she goes every time without fail like this and we're going to talk about this today self-deprecation and the identities

that we put on ourselves but Ari will go oh my gosh you look so good in those low-rise jeans I could never I would look like a drunk and then the person goes what are you talking about and then I have chime in and go, you know, a woman with the beer belly. And then the person's just like, what are you talking about? You look like a drunk. But Ari just means that because they're low-rise and be like a big belly.

She doesn't have a big belly. I just like remember growing up and like watching the low-rise jeans with the beers. That used to, that was great description of where I grew up. That's how I. Good old way in Massachusetts. Top Pan. What a top. Han, um, you guys aren't going to believe this, but...

Oh, you will believe it. No, and I just want you to know, like, it's not my fault. I'm sick again. I'm sick again. It's, it's, I used to never get sick until literally two years. When we first met, I never got sick. I was never sick. Why are you laughing?

Well, no, I'm trying to remember. I'm just, yeah, I'm listening. I never used to get sick. So today I'm wearing literally sweatpants and a sweat. And you said that you were going casual too, but why do you look like a princess even still? Are you serious? Are you serious? Are you serious?

Are you serious? Yeah, well, Ari and I had like the craziest experience ever. We spoke at Forward Conference, which is Jensen Franklin's youth conference. It was our first time speaking in front of that many people. It was beautiful. It was glorious. It was powerful. The Lord was there.

He moved. It was genuinely amazing. And it was so scary. I just, I wish we could have like goopros on our heads so you guys could see us because it, I was laughing so hard thinking about all of the emotions. So many, walk them through. So Ari's like, you're nervous for weeks. Oh, for weeks. So you're not going outside.

The thing is, is like when my nervous, like the last episode we filmed, I was trying to explain this to you guys, but I didn't want to fully say it. But like my nervous system was in such a state. of shock. And I was holding so much anxiety in my body because of this conference. I didn't say that last episode, but that's what was happening. Yeah. And I'm like fine until the day before. Like I just can block things out. I just block it out. I'm like, no, it's great. I like, I just like put it compartmentalized, put it over there. It's fine. So the night before we're at our hotel. And then I call you and I'm like, what's up? What are you doing? And you're like, you're like in your room. And I was like, why don't you want to hang out with me? I don't.

I can't talk to anyone. I don't leave the house. I'm like, come to my room. Like, why are you alone? Why am I alone? That was the first night, the night before where I really got nervous. Mine is rooted in like this fear that something can happen. Like I'm going to go out in front of 13,000 people and I'm just going to pass out.

Oh, that's what I thought of. Like, what? It's almost like once you go out there, you can't leave. You're committed for the next. So it's just the thought of it. Like now GGB gatherings, do. it's the easiest thing in the world. We go out there and I could literally be like, hey, can you guys actually talk to me right now?

Like, you guys are our people, you're our family. So that's, but to go to a youth conference where it's like, it's somebody else's platform and somebody else's ministry, it's just different. And we had never spoken in front of that many people. And it was amazing, but I don't know if it's because from the beginning of our friendship and ministry, you've always been the one that like, no, like you're the strong one. Like you can't get nervous. Like, you know what I mean?

Yeah. So I'm like the kid that looks to her. And if I know she's nervous, like I can't handle it. I'm like, wait a minute, you're nervous. So she will always be strong for me and be like, so I'll be like, are you nervous? Like I'll test her. And she'll be like, no, no. No.

No, of course. No. And so when I hear her say that, I'm like, okay, yeah. Me neither, you know? It was so beautiful, though. It was. It was amazing. It was so fun to be with all those kids and young adults and talk about Jesus. But it teaches you too. It was such a good lesson. I mean, we've learned this so many times, but every time it's like we learn it all over again that it's in those moments. Yeah. A weakness that it's like, it's perfect. Yeah. His strength has made perfect in weakness. Actually. And I can't, I went off stage like looking up being like, wow.

Yep. Yep. Who's the best? It was the best. It was awesome. Can I say sorry for something? Why do you want to say sorry for? So you go through so much with my hyperfixations. Like it's something new every couple months. Oh, yeah. Why? What is? I haven't, I feel like you haven't had one. Really? The early church fathers? Oh, I'm truly. It's like.

No, no, I can't. I literally. So I'm going to explain it. So as most of you guys know, I have history with OCD. And one thing that comes up for me is that I have special interests. Like I start to like something and then I become very interested and then I have to learn everything about it and then it becomes my entire personality. Like for a long time, 9-11 was my entire personality. It still is. Like my icebreaker when I'm talking to people, I'm like, hey, how are you?

How's the weather? What do you think about 9-11? Well, that's what it is. It's like definitely your icebreaker right now. And I don't know how to. And then so recently, though, like I saw a comment on Father Josiah's episode where someone goes, yep, this was definitely Angela's doing. Like Ari and Noah, she had no hand in bringing this. Please, everything said.

People are like, you know how this was Andrew. You're kidding. Yeah. And so I became obsessed with the early church fathers now. Poor Ari. She's like, we're at dinner every time. She doesn't even know what early church fathers do you. I don't know if I talk.

And so I have to sit there. And now I'm just like waiting for you to bring up the early church fathers. You tried to talk to me about it the other night. And I'm just like looking at you like until I'm not the person to talk. about this right now. I know I went to Ari and I was like, hey, can I please talk to you about like the Protestant Reformation? Can I just like, no, I really want you to talk. No, you were like, no, you know what it is out? It's something, it's the early church father. And I'm like, Angela, please. We're with Bryce the other night.

We're a Waffle house. Ari's, you have a hood on. I have a hood on. You're gone. You're by-bye. It's 11 p.m. Ari just wants to enjoy your chocolate chip waffle in my chocolate milk. And when he brings up communion, I go, oh, here we go. We're going in. And I just feel, are you go, oh, for the love of God. Tomorrow, we're going to be with the Kulianos is. We can't wait. We're probably going to be talking about the whole time.

So I just want to say, I'm so sorry for these journeys that I make you go on. And who knows what's next, you know? Who knows what's next? I mean, I'm surprised that there's no, like, there's no new, Like bar. Bar? Like a protein bar. Oh, well, you do know what my new thing is.

I haven't actually told you because I'm afraid of you judging me and saying that I need help. What is that? I'm obsessed with assaibals. Oh, I know. I know. Okay, but I had them. I had three yesterday. I swear.

You had three. Breakfast lunch and dinner. Can I? But I put it. I know it's a lot of sugar. I know you're going to stop because it's all sugar. Okay. Whoa.

Okay. You know that, right? It's not healthy for you. Excuse me? It's not. I put protein powder in it and it's pure assaid. I really do need to get my body scanned because you had me not eating meals but eating those spinach fetteraps from those cancer. It's not.

Fedoraps from Starbucks. What is your Starbucks order? Anything she did. She could say let's jump off this month. mountain and I would have said, okay, it's a right thing to do. Because I was in such a bad place. And I led you to a good place, though, Dean and I, look where you're at. We did good, huh? Okay. We may have had a lot of chicken from the farmer's market. Oh, that's my favorite. Yeah, we may have had a lot of chicken, but you also looked really good because you were going to Pilates three times

today. Can we do that again? Let's get on that hyperfixation. I know. I know. I mean, seriously. So, tired. No, we're good. Anyways, can I say one more thing? Yeah. I have a little bit of a new hyperfixation, but we can't talk about it for some reason. Why? I want to talk about North.

I have a lot of thoughts on North Korea, but I feel like if you say North Korea, you disappear. Is that why you're kind of like whispering right now? A little bit. Like, I feel like it makes you just disappear, and you need me to get through TSA. Yeah. Wait, what? What? What did you just say?

Did you just go from one subject to another? Are my hallucinating? You're hallucinating. What did you just say? I said, I want to talk about Kim Jong-un. I want to talk about North Korea, but I'm afraid if you talk about them, you disappear. You disappear. No, no, not in TSA.

I'm going to disappear, and you will know how to get through TSA. That's what I said. Who's going to give you your boarding pass? I don't know, but I've got to learn to be on my own two feet again. Do you think we could win Kim Jong-un over? I don't know, but I think we could. But you guys, how I thought that this guy... Chris?

I thought this guy, we went to this, like, party, and I thought our friend was introducing us to Kim Jong-un. I couldn't speak. First of all, if you don't say his name right, we're definitely disappearing. Okay, so me and Ari, you know, when we're in our political era, which is awesome. We went to a party, guys. Okay, okay, okay. You know, Ari and I went to a party.

We were introduced by our friend's husband to this group of men. And Ari, the whole time I see her, we're just like talking to these men in there from They're from South Korea. And I think Ari, maybe you just heard Korea. And so Ari the whole time we're just talking to them. It's very normal. It's just a group of men. And I see Ari get like so tongue-tied and so like, I was frozen.

Like she couldn't believe it. And I'm sitting there like, what does she like one of them? Like what's going on? Why are you feeling a little? And I'm looking at you like you are being so casual right now. How is everyone just talking? It was so casual. This is Kim Jong-un.

Yeah. He invited us to go to like Korea and do. ministry like it was a whole thing this is wild i'm like telling my dad he's like there's no way it's like no dad you i'm serious and then so later arie goes i can't believe that we talked to kim jang un and i was like what did you just say something like that and i was like what did you just say she goes yeah we were with kim jang un and i was like you say his last name really good by the way um well that's how you say okay and i go that wasn't the leader of north korea i'm so I'm like, Angela, are you kidding me?

Yes, it is. Yes, it was. And I was like, Ari, this is the, like, you've said some crazy things. This is the craziest thing you've ever said. So you text Alex and then what? And then I texted him in the group chat with Angela and I'm like, can you just please verify that we all met Kim Jong-un? That night. And he texts back, he goes, what?

That was my friend Chris. Yeah, we met a man named Chris. He was not Kim Jong-un. We are not invited. Nobody's invited us to North Korea yet. And I have a feeling after this, we're going to be on the, I have a feeling they put you on like a band list. I don't know. Not us, though, right?

We could get out of anything. I would love to, I would, I would, I would love to just see how everyone lives there. Well, so that's what I've been like researching, but I can't talk about that. We're so blessed to live where we are. To live where we do. And have freedom. Okay, first of all, hey, I'm Ange. Do we need to do an intro anymore?

I know. They know us. We've been through a lot together, but let's just, I mean. Yeah. Okay. Well, I am, Ange. I'm Ari. And this is Girls Gone Bible.

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Oh my gosh. Yeah. That was really good. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah. I never heard you. Hey, why don't we just do this whole episode speaking in a southern accent?

Well, that ain't no, southern accent. Well, no, we do different southern accents. Your southern accent is like a long drum. You sound like you got hay in your teeth. No. You go like elevated southern like, I'm a southern time princess. I'm a southern belle. Yeah, that's what you do.

I do like a missing three teeth. Yellowstone. Yeah, no, I do like I'm missing three teeth. Not literally. I texted Ari a little while ago, I was having a conversation with someone and I realized this is something we've kind of talked about before, but I think it's so important for people to hear this about identity. Like, what we believe about ourselves is genuinely, like, it does shape our reality and

it is who we become. And I was talking to a friend who is telling me how. She has social anxiety and she's timid and, like, feels insecure and wishes that she had the boldness to, like, go up to people and tell them about Jesus and be encouraging. And this specific friend in my life, I was like, you are literally one of the kindest, sweetest, most encouraging, life-speaking people that I know. I literally was like, every time I talk to you, I feel so lifted. I feel so encouraged. And I just literally said to her like, something happened when you were really young. Something was spoken to you or like you watched your parents or you adopted this personality and this belief where you thought that you were like the shy, timid person who could never have the boldness to just go up to someone.

And I was like, that's not who you are. No. Your boldness might not look like mine or somebody else's, but like you are so much different. than this like personality that you've taken on. And so I texted Ari and I was like, dude, let's have a whole episode talking about these false identities that we take on ourselves. And we like the enemy plants. I want to read you one thing that I wrote down. The enemy doesn't always tempt you with sin first. He tempts you with a new identity. I think like as a Christian, something we hear so much like people just talk about sin all the time, which is like a major part

being a Christian. Like you want to live a pure, good, holy, righteous life and walk in the ways of Jesus. But the bigger battle is like the deep things in our hearts and our minds. Like giving up sex and drinking and smoking is actually so much easier than like addressing, identifying, and like battling these weird false beliefs that we have. Like the greatest work that Jesus does is genuinely in our hearts and our minds and it's it's so much less about the behavior than it is like in here do you know what i mean yeah the enemy doesn't always tempt you with sin first he tempts you with a new identity literally genesis three when satan comes and tempts adam and eve because once you believe the identity your behavior eventually follows satan understands that

belief leads to identity leads to behavior leads to destiny so if satan begins just with a belief, a lie, which then shapes your identity, which then shapes the way you behave in the world, which then leads to your ultimate destiny. But God works the opposite direction. He speaks identity first, and the behavior flows from believing him. And so something we want to talk about a lot today is we want to address people who have submitted to these lies of being like a perpetually anxious person or someone with social anxiety or someone who is stupid or someone who's ugly or like we're all believing a lie but the problem is like when you believe a lie for long enough you submit to it and then it actually does become your personality in a sense you know what

I mean you actually do become that person because you've believed it for long enough and I'll just give one example I have so many but we'll talk about a lot of them For example, one of the reasons why I struggled with alcohol so much was because I did develop a little bit of anxiety. The anxiety was real. The panic attacks were real. But a belief that came along with the anxiety that I was battling was like I've been a social person most of my life out of nowhere. I start believing a lie that I have social anxiety. I did have a little bit of social anxiety.

But I started. So that's the thing too. There might be something real that is happening, a symptom like anxiety or depression or OCD or whatever it might be. But then Satan will like even like attach more lies to whatever is taking place. So I was having a little bit of social anxiety. I was having panic attacks. But then it became this belief that I was a socially anxious person that I was so introverted that I didn't want to talk to people that I didn't really like being with people. That's not who God made me to be. When was this? This was when I was like in college. So I was like 18, 19, 20 leading up to like when I started struggling with alcohol really bad. I believe the lie. So it was like these chain of events, like these lies that I began believing that I was so introverted. Socially awkward. socially awkward was a big one that I started believing. That wasn't true about who I was. I could feel that sometimes, but I wasn't a socially awkward person. But because I was believing these lies for so long, I did become socially awkward.

I did become socially anxious. I did become somebody who couldn't look people in the eyes and I was so awkward. Like, I didn't know how to talk to people. Did somebody ever say something to you that would plant the seed or when you were younger or anything like that? Or did it just kind of naturally calm. I think it was, it was probably a few, it was either, and this is so, thank you for asking that. I think for me, this specific one was either, it was a few isolated events that could have been awkward, that I was socially anxious, that I made a bigger thing than it needed to be. Or, and, or I also was going through a season where I was feeling more introverted, more anxious, more awkward, but it was just a season that I was in. But I made it my whole personality. You know what I mean?

And so that's something for people, too. Like, you might have moments where you feel a certain way. You might even go through a season where you feel a certain way. That's not who you are. Yeah, yeah. The biggest battle that I'm fighting in this season right now where I've been battling OCD really hard is not taking on an identity that I am this really OCD anxious, overthinking person. And I have that temptation a lot. But I'm purposely trying to like combat that identity and say, no, this is just a season that I'm going through that that part of my brain is struggling.

And it's at, but it's not who I am. Yeah. And so that belief, that lie that I was believing, that I was anxious, awkward, introverted, didn't want to be with people, didn't know how to. socialize, it became me, like what you believe genuinely does become you. And then on top of that, I started to believe the lie that alcohol was the only thing that could fix that problem. Wow. So then I believed the lie that I was only fun when I was drinking. I was only cute when I was drinking. I was only funny. I only had a personality. And I could simply only socialize

if I was drinking. Isn't that the craziest? So that's how it all started. That's how it all started. That's how it all started. And then it led me into a life of alcoholism for a few years. Isn't that so crazy? This chain of events of the, but the thing is, the lies that we believe become us. It does become a reality. Sometimes I'll talk to it. Like, if you continuously believe that you are ugly, you'll wear it. You'll wear it. If you continuously believe that you are beautiful, and you might not even be the most conventionally good-looking person, you will look beautiful. Like, it truly becomes you, you know?

This is, like, the thing I have been speaking about. I know. Because it's truly something, like, we all have to live by. Yeah. Tell me about yours, because I know this is something that you've been, this is, like, the crux of your Christian walk a lot of it. Oh, my gosh, yeah. And when you were younger.

Yeah, no. Like this started when I was like a kid. I, you know, you guys know, I didn't learn as fast as the other kids. And I grew up with this belief that I just wasn't smart. Yeah. And so I carried that through adulthood. And yeah, I just had, I've always had this sense of just unworthiness. And that's why I would put my identity into other people.

into my looks. I just never believed. And so starting this ministry, God has just, it's crazy what he's done. But it's true, like the scripture, as a man thinks, he is. If you think you're unlovable, you'll start to manifest that and you will. And then you will be feeling unlovable. And people might actually have a hard time loving you. Yeah. If you walk around saying, I'm so depressed. I'm not good enough. I'm not smart enough. Like this has been the biggest challenge. Yeah. Feeling so disqualified, not capable, and then all of a sudden being catapulted in ministry in front of thousands of people. And so this has just been the biggest challenge for me. And you can just see that from the beginning of the episode, the beginning of our podcast when

I, you know, I see so many comments. Wow, she barely spoke and now, look at her. Yeah, because I don't walk in that identity anymore. And that's just the scripture, do not be conformed by the world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. What that means is, is what is the lie that has been told since you were a kid? What did people say about you? What does the world say? I mean, you know, it starts when you're a kid, but don't be conformed by that. That's why once you go into relationship with Jesus, you be renewed in this identity. Let him wash you. Let him wash your mind.

Let him transform your mind into the identity of Jesus. And so the greatest thing that's ever happened to me in my life was not putting my identity into, I mean, God could be asking you to let go of idols right now. I couldn't, all my identity was into other people and into success. And so that's why, you know, being single and being completely consecrated to Jesus for the past three years, finding my identity in him and not in another person has changed my life. He really does bring beauty from ashes and he replaces it with him, more of him. And I still struggle sometimes. Like, I really do. But I don't, I don't submit to what I was told.

I don't submit to the lies. and I know how to combat them with the truth. A hundred percent. A great exercise is, you know, writing a list of writing a list of what you think about yourself. What are the lies that your mind condemns you with? Is it I'm unlovable, I'm rejected, I'm stupid. I'm not good enough for this. And then you have to replace that with the word of God.

And so you write down on one side the lies and then on the other side you write scriptures. I've noticed many people can read scripture, but they don't let it transform them. And so you have to really come to a place of surrender and humility. You have to say, I know I feel this way about myself, but I have to open my heart to let the word of God transform me. Because for a while, it was hard for me to open up my heart. And it was hard for me to accept to let God, I wrestled with God a lot about I'm like, no, no, no, I can't do this. Like, no, no, I'm not good. How can I go in front of all these people?

But what I realize is that that's really going against God because God has called us. God calls you to do something. And it's almost like you're rejecting what he says about you. There's so many examples we could give. But when I, when I was in high school, I was like such a class clown. Like the most class clown class clown there was. And that's fine until, unless it's rooted. in like a lack of self-worth and self-respect. And I was thinking about it this morning as I was

driving here, like the friends that I had in high school and the guys that I dated and just like how that was such a direct reflection of the way that I felt about myself. I had zero self-worth. I did not think I was smart or capable of anything. I didn't try in school. Like I didn't think that I was a capable person. And so you could just tell by the state of my life, like I had no self-worth. I didn't think I was capable or worthy. And because I felt so, I didn't have Jesus. I didn't know the Lord. I didn't know anything about who he created me to be.

I didn't have the love of God. I didn't have any of that stuff. So of course, like I succumbed and submitted to way too many false identities of myself. And it ended up in me like having no self worth whatsoever. And so again, that's what we're trying to say that like the, lies we become become you. And so if you feel like you're so rejected and you're so unloved and you keep repeating these patterns and everything is the same and you keep dating the same people or friendships keep ending the same way, like that's something to look at to be like, okay,

what lie am I believing that has become me and like in what area of my life have I gone away from God's original design for me? So this moment in Genesis chapter three where the serpent comes to tempt even the garden. I'm just going to read it. The serpent was the shrewdest of all the wild animals the Lord God had made. One day he asked the woman, did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden? Satan comes and makes her doubt what God originally said.

And this happens to us, though, way before we're even aware, way before we're even like cognizant enough to understand what's happening. This begins when you're three years old and your parents speak to you in a way that they shouldn't. Or people at school bully you or like an adult somebody says something to you. And it stays in your subconscious brain and sticks with you forever. And so another exercise that you can do is you can sit with Jesus and say, Lord, like, would you reveal to me any major big lies that I'm believing? Write it down and then show it and be like, show me where this originally came from. I know that there's so much power in letting the Lord meet you at the original hurt, like the

original pain. Sometimes when I pray for people, I'll always be like, and I'm like aware that there's a moment that happened when they were younger that really hurt them. I asked Jesus to meet them in that moment, to heal them now, but to meet them in that moment and heal them as a little child, as like a little girl or a little boy. because we need to get to that original root of the pain of the lie. Of course we may eat fruit from the trees in the garden. The woman replied, it's only the fruit from the tree in the middle of the garden that we must not eat.

God said, you must not eat it or even touch it. If you do, you will die. You won't die. The serpent replied to the woman. God knows that your eyes will be opened as soon as you eat it and you will be like God, knowing both. good and evil. The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and his fruit looked delicious and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband who was with her and he ate it too. At that moment their eyes

were opened and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. So they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves. Just for anybody who is potentially new, we were never meant to live with shame, sin, evil, death, disease, like none of that was ever supposed to be here. This moment in Genesis chapter 3 is where everything broke for us. We were meant to be in perfect union with God. We were not meant to have any separation from him. We were meant to live in like this perfect harmony. And because of this moment where Eve was tempted by Satan, our relationship to God was severed.

And that's why shame came in this moment. The first thing that came was shame. We talked about shame this moment. morning and about how so many of the things we face is they're rooted in shame. Yeah. And a counselor once told me, shame is the feeling of not enoughness. Yeah. You don't feel enough of something.

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They were aware of their nakedness and they felt shame. And then when the cool evening breezes were blowing, the man and his wife heard the Lord God walking about in the garden. So they hid from the Lord God among the trees. Then the Lord God called to the man, where are you? He replied, I heard you walking in the garden, so I hid. I was afraid because I was naked. Who told you that you were naked? The Lord God asked, have you eaten from the tree whose fruit? I commanded you not to eat. So I love that the Lord asked him, who told you that you were naked? God didn't ask, why are you naked? God said, who told you where did this lie come from what happened here and so i just think like this is such a profound moment in scripture where we like this is the beginning of everything that we're facing

right now every believe that every lie that we're believing and like jesus genuinely came to abolish lies to renounce reject destroy every false identity that satan is trying to put over us And you also have to remember, too, that as you go about your life, we accumulate pain and we accumulate trauma. One thing I always pray for for people that you guys should pray for yourselves is I always break lies spoken against people. We hear people out of their pain and their hurt say things to us that we then take on as identities. people tell us like who knows a million different things and we even subconsciously take that on and so something i pray for myself all the time is i break every word spoken against me everything throughout my life that was spoken over me against me even behind my back that i've taken on as an

identity i break it in the name of jesus and i receive the truth that god says about me yeah i love that, Ange, that's beautiful. A scripture that I've read on here before, but it's something that just, it's like reading my own story. And I'm sure so many of you guys can relate to this too is Moses. When God called him to go speak to Pharaoh. And Moses pleads with the Lord. Oh, Lord, but I'm not very good with my words. I have never been. I'm not now, even though you have spoken to me, I get tongue tied and my words get tangled. How many of us, including myself, you have this identity that you're not good enough. You have a weird speech.

You're too timid. You're too afraid. And then what does the Lord say to Moses? He says, who makes a person's mouth? This is the one thing I've learned in my journey. It is not about our strength, our confidence, what we look like, what we're wearing, which I believed my whole life. it's Jesus.

And I've even had a moment, like I just said earlier, before I went out to speak to all those people where I had a moment of inadequacy. And in that moment of my weakness, God is truly, God's strength is truly made perfect. And I realize that weakness is actually a perfect place to be. But this is where we have to be humble and open and real and honest and say, help me. He says, who makes a person's mouth? Who decides whether a person can speak or not speak? And so that's what I realized in my journey.

Yeah. It's not about how long you went to college, how educated, how well you know the Bible. And then he says, who makes a person's mouth? Who decides whether a person can speak or not speak? Hear or not here. See or do not see. Is it I not the Lord? Now go.

I will be with you as you speak. And I will instruct you on what to say. And I will, I, this is a. scripture, I have in my act in my brain that I will repeat before everything. And then Moses keeps pleading with him, but please. And as I read this scripture, I'm like, oh my gosh, Moses, please. You have Jesus telling you, you don't have to worry that he'll be with you. And he literally does that with us today. Yeah. I can't tell you how many times. He's like, no, no, no, Ariel, I'm with you, go. And I'm like, no, no, no, I'm too scared. And you read this and you're like,

Moses, you're literally pleading with the Lord. And the Lord is so kind that he sends Aaron to help him. He's like, fine. You know, that's the love of the father. But I just think about my journey and how I keep going. And I'm, and I've been scared and I still am scared sometimes, but I do it anyways. And I'm so grateful that I just keep going and I keep leaning on God and I keep, I just keep showing up and I keep going through me being nervous and scared. But it's in that place where you have to be honest, where you have to lean on God and you have to rely on His word more than we do with our feelings. I used to think I was, well, I was. I perceived life through like a provocative lens. Like I genuinely thought I was this like hyper sexual person who like needed to have that in relationships.

Incredibly provocative. It was like what I used to to feel loved, to feel good, to feel valued was to be sexy and have a man value me for that. There was never a world in which I ever thought that I could be someone who, and already can testify because she knows me the best, where that is legitimately. not a part of my being whatsoever. So genuinely, like, that was my identity. What? Say it. My identity was being sexual and provocative and whatever. And that was my behavior. It's the way that I live my life. And my biggest fear was like, how could I ever, that is who I am. How could I not have that in a relationship or whatever when that is who I am? But when finally, it's such a stupid, like we believe these stupid lies. And the second I gave up.

that identity. And I said, no, actually, I am pure and innocent and valued for my heart and the way that Jesus sees me. My entire life took on that identity. Yeah. You know what I mean? It is such a sharp contrast. Like you can be, go for like do a full 180 like that. Well, it's because even the provocativeness, we start judging people when really it's all coming from a place of we are, we want to be validated because we want to feel love. Of course. And so that is why your confidence and your authority, it comes from the love of God. Yes. And that is the number one thing you do to find identity. You have to understand the love of Jesus. So it takes time. That is not an overnight thing. That is a process. But it is in spending time, having mentors, having good people that can speak life into you,

remind you who Jesus is. You need to spend time in the Word of God. You need to wash yourself, renew your mind with His Word, because it is in that where you transform. You start to understand the love of God. And then you start to feel safe. It's His love. Everything is rooted in His love. It is when I started to feel loved. When I started to rely on this more than getting validation and identity and other people is when I'm like, oh my gosh, like I feel peace. I feel safe. I feel joyful. I feel accepted. When I started to feel accepted, I wasn't looking for validation and all these other things. Of course, I still struggle. Like, I don't want to say I don't look for validation. Like, I still struggle. I think we all do. I think it's a life process. But it's the love of Jesus.

When I think about where change started, it was, I had to be honest. I had to surrender. I had to get to a place where I had to be like, I don't feel good. I don't feel adequate. Like, I literally will say that before I speak. I don't feel adequate today. I'm believing the lie right now that I'm just not good enough. And when I'm honest like that, and like he is a father, he is our Lord. Bring that to him. It's okay that you feel like that, but let him speak truth into you. And the only way he can partner with truth is when we're honest. And so that's where transformation begins. It's surrender. It's honesty. It's, you have to have a heart of humility. You have to be, that is how relationship and transformation happens when you, you give them your heart, honesty, time, surrender, and you let him wash you with the word.

Period. You read the word. Read the word. We'll walk you guys through even just a couple of things that people say. I've always been anxious. I've always been insecure. I'm just an angry person. I'm the divorced one.

I'm an addict. I'm socially awkward. I'm ugly. I'm never chosen. I'm always overlooked. Anything that's like always or never or like that's all that's not good. You just know anytime you say I'm always this or I never do this, it's impossible to love. I'm the black sheep.

I'm just awkward. The enemy loves when struggles become names. And then in the New Testament, Paul almost never starts his letters by correcting behavior. He starts with identity. He always speaks to the churches through their identity. He always comes in with encouragement before he gives the correction. He says, you are saints, you are chosen, you are holy, you are beloved, you are God's workmanship. You are a new creation because when identity changes, behavior follows.

That's what happens. That's right. And like we always speak about life and death or in the power of the tongue. Every time you say something negative, I want you to catch it right away. Do not even allow yourself to speak death over yourself. When you practice a positive mindset, you start to live that way. You start to act different. He did not call you to live of life, of timidity, of fear.

No. I want you to understand that God wants you to walk like he called you. chosen, called, and set apart. And if you even need to say that in the morning, I am not timid. I am not fearful. I am not depressed. I am not how I grew up. Yes, we are going to have moments where we're anxious, depressed. We have moments of defeat. But don't let that be the thing where you throw the towel in and be like, no, I give up. Partner with him in that minute. Lord, I feel this way. Help me, renew me, love me in this moment. But it's okay to be honest. in those moments of a feeling like that.

Yeah. But don't stay there. Yeah. Because God did not call you to live fearful and live. That's why he died for you. To not to not have a life of defeat, but you have victory. Yes. We have victory over depression, over anxiety, over how we grew up, over all of these things.

So walk like it. Yeah. And so that's what I speak over myself. Just now that I've just been walking with him for a while now. I just, I know what the devil has no new tricks. He really doesn't. He comes to kill, steal, and destroy. And if he can plant a seed in your mind, he's got you. He'll get you stock. And I refused to let the devil have a foothold over my life. He's done it since I was a little girl. I refuse. And so when I'm in moments of having a panic attack, anxiety, I'm feeling inadequate, I'm feeling

small, I don't stay there, which before I would let myself rot in bed. I would sit with my hands over my head. I would dwell for weeks. No, I will call a friend. I'll call a mentor. I need prayer right now. Like, I don't play. I get right in the word of God. I speak scripture. Like, I don't let myself get in that place of defeat anymore. I have moments of that, but I fight through that. That's why we need people. That's why we need counselors. That's why we need the word of God. And that's how we overcome that. I just want to read a scripture. Yeah, please. You were taught with regard to your former way of life to put off your old self,

which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires to be made new in the attitude of your minds and put on the new self created to be like God and true righteous and holiness. Finding your identity in Jesus is that your identity isn't so much on finding value and all these things and others, but living out and loving others and having humility. and having kindness. And I know that when I'm truly walking in authority and truly walking in confidence,

you have more confidence. But like we can get confused. And with our identities, we have to like take accountability on how are we living. Okay. Yeah, this is what I want to say. Yeah.

The reason why we have to have humility and be willing and really hang on to the word of God and let them transform us, because there are things the way we live that can confuse us. Yes. I know that. that when I am living a life, like when I am sitting in gossip, when I am falling into sin, that's how I get confused.

That's how I feel insecure and timid. That's how the enemy can, right? Yes, 100%. Yes, you are. You get confusion. 100%. Being in the wrong relationships. Being in the wrong friendships, being in the wrong places can make you so confused

and question your identity and take on things that are never meant to be yours. And so for me, what I'm learning, what I'm learning in my walk is that when I'm truly walking in authority, in confidence, in identity is when I am grounded in humility, grounded in patience, not letting anger make me sin, not sitting in bitterness, not gossiping, loving others. Like, that is when I'm truly walking in identity. A hundred percent. Well, yes, because our identity is meant to reflect Jesus. Yes. Our character is meant to reflect Jesus. Anytime we're acting out of Jesus' character, anytime that I find myself do it like speaking in a way or speaking to someone or speaking about someone or reacting in a way, like that's probably the way that it, like, my biggest woe was me moments is like, why did I react that way? Why did I respond? Why didn't I wait until I was.

in a better place to have that conversation. You know what I mean? Those are the moments where I feel so whack, like my identity is so out of whack because I'm not in alignment with Jesus' identity, with his character. The right identity is the character of Jesus, the heart of Jesus.

But then sometimes when you do fall, you get to those moments where shame, because God will convict you, and that's a good thing because we're all learning, but don't let when you have a moment of defeat, again be the thing that shames you and says oh my gosh I'm not good enough look at what I just did do you know what I'm saying 100% literally Genesis 3 what is that we just read about them putting on fig leaves and hiding from Jesus or hiding from the Lord instead of going out there and running to him

that's one thing that I've gotten pretty good at like if I feel like I've sin I will run so fast to him and I will literally be like I need you yes what we repeatedly believe influences how we perceive, choose, and act. That's why lives, when believed, can become self-fulfilling patterns. The power isn't in our thoughts themselves. It's in whether we're agreeing with truth or with deception. The whole Christian walk, the whole life that we live is all rooted in what lives we're believing or if we're believing truth.

Everything stems from anxiety, depression, OCD, blah, blah, blah, literally everything. And then one more thing I want to read is the enemy cannot rewrite what God created, but he will spend your entire life trying to convince you that you're someone that you're not. The Christian life isn't becoming someone new from scratch. It's waking up to who God has already declared you to be in Christ. Stop introducing yourself by the labels that Satan gave you and start agreeing with the name heaven calls you. Satan loves, that's why God is always giving people new names. Satan loves to name and label you're anxious, you're ugly, you're neglected, you're rejected, you're this, you're that.

And then Jesus is like, nope, that's not who you are actually at all. Yeah, and again, all of this is like everything that we're talking about today, you won't receive any of this in your life until you receive Jesus first, until you know Jesus, you know who he is. To know God is to know Jesus. to know Jesus, to know God is to know the cross. To know God is to know the heart that Jesus had when he went up on a hill, died on a cross for the forgiveness of our sins.

He died the most brutal, murderous, bloody death, got whipped on his back. He was literally a pile of flesh, takes up his cross up a mountain on his back. You wouldn't have even been able to see that he was a man. it was the most gruesome picture you could have ever seen they hung him up on a cross naked completely naked like enduring the most shameful thing a jewish man during that time could go through he was completely bare naked up on a cross for everybody to mock and laugh at god in his fullness chose to do that why because he knew there was no other way he knew everything that you would face today he knew everything that you'd go through

all these lies that you're believing, all these identities that are rooted in shame, not feeling enough. Jesus took that shame on the cross for you. And if you've never heard the gospel before, this might sound really funny and really, it might not even make sense, but I pray in the name of Jesus that the Holy Spirit would take the scales off of your eyes, open your heart, open your mind, open your eyes to receive this truth that a God in heaven who created you and formed you in your mother's womb loves you so much, so much that he left his heavenly throne to be born in the dirt on earth, to come live a life in obscurity, to give himself up completely for you. And he looked at that cross as the joy that was set before him because he knew it was the only way.

And so if you've never accepted this truth, that your identity is not in anything that's happened to you. It's not in your mental health. It's not in the relationship that ended or the job that was taken from you or all the traumatic things that have happened that have shaped you into who you are today. Your identity can be rooted in Jesus Christ, a God who loves you so much that he died for you, the way, the truth and the life. Anything else that you're believing is not the truth. It's a lie. It's a falsity. You also can't believe in Jesus and anything else. Stop believing that lie because it's such a, I at least Jesus said like, it's a, it's a, it's a, it's a falseity. It's a, It's better that if you're, it's better that if you're hot or completely cold rather than being

lukewarm, rather than thinking that you're believing the right thing, but also believing something else. So if this is you and you want to finally feel the love that you've never felt, feel the security and take on the identity that you were always meant to have, pray this prayer with me and Ari and give your life to the one who gave up his for you and say, dear Jesus, I give you my life. I believe you died on a cross for the forgiveness of my sins. I believe you are buried, that you rose again on the third day,

and you're seated at the right hand of the Father. I renounce my sin. I renounce the world. I repent of my sin, and I declare that Jesus is Lord. Fill me with your Holy Spirit. Teach me your ways. Teach me your word. Give me a hunger for your word.

love you Jesus in Jesus name amen amen guys read the word read the Bible spend time with Jesus do the things you did in the beginning this is your sign and your reminder to just simply do the things you did at first get into the presence if you are feeling not on fire guess how you get on fire you spend time with Jesus and you let him set you on fire if you feel like you're not hungry for the word you know what you do you read more of the word. The more you read, the more hunger you get. Yeah. Love you guys so much. And get rooted in a local church, please. Yes. And start Bible studies. Yeah. Yeah. Get around other believers. We're just reminding you guys, your sisters who remind you just to do the things that you know you're meant to do. Remember, every single condemning thought is not from him. Replace it with the word of God.

This is where we find true identity. And we love you. We love you so much. May the Lord bless you and keep you. May he make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you. May he turn his face towards you and give you peace. Shalom, shalom. We love you.